Losing your identity to self harm - what should I do? | Selfharmerproblems

*Cette vidéo a des sous-titres en français ! *
- Table of contents -
00:00 intro
00:23 why do we feel this way?
01:48 disclaimer
02:05 option 1
02:40 option 2
03:19 option 3
04:15 option 4
04:42 option 5
05:12 option 6
06:29 outro
- About selfharmerproblems -
Hey everyone ! My name is Malika, I am 22 years old. I have a funny accent because I come from Switzerland (french speaking part). I am studying to become a social worker and I hope to be a voice for people struggling with self harm. I started on Instagram 4 years ago now and now I'm on KZbin ! I post videos on self harm education, awareness and recovery.
My Instagram account (I used another account, then a f*cker hacked it at 24k followers) : / selfharmerproblems_
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[@astridx7485]

I self harmed two days ago after being one year clean. I feel terrible. I know relapses happen tho, I'm working on it in therapy. Thank you for your videos!

[@Ozisl]

Talking about this really helps me not feel so lonely, isolated, and hopelessly broken. Thank you. Self harm makes me feel so... pathetic.

[@bibisnape]

Ugh i feel this...I haven't self harmed in 1 year and 4 months and i have no idea who i am anymore. I started self harming 10 years ago when i was 13 and all these years i only saw myself as "the girl who self harms". And now i feel like an empty shell, but my anxiety keeps me from trying new stuff so i'm just sitting around, doing nothing all day long :/

[@rukaiyajohar218]

Owww i feel you!! Its okay..you will find yourself soon. And your struggle has been so long. But since you are clean for a good time now. I am so proud of you💛💛💛

[@MisterLewa]

Your videos are saving my life

[@cj-ow3fb]

Wowowow I didn’t realize I was also struggling with this. I think about it, talk about it to myself, how I associate things, linking anything with self harm, every day. It’s just such a big part of my life, even if the actual sh is few and far between. As per usual you made me feel accepted and understood ❤️

[@petrajocic8898]

Hey, i just want to say that your videos helped me a lot with self harm. I've been trying to stop self harming since a year ago and i've been clean since june. Thank you!

[@spilledink849]

This video is amazing, especially option 3. Stepping outside myself although difficult, was an enormous stepping stone in my current recovery. Your channel is such a wonderful resource, keep changing the world!💗💞💖💕

[@auryxx_22]

You are so underrated. you talk about very important topics and you don't even have 10,000 subscribers! You barely have comments and this is sad- I am subscribed. Love your videos ✨

[@oneavx]

Hi, self harm used to be a huge part of my life. It probably at one point heavily intertwined with how I identified. I've been coming to terms with my scars and why I self harmed and your videos have really helped. I'm nearly a year clean from it now.

[@Brandon-bh7pj]

I hate that some people think you cut yourself so you must be emo or want attention. That's pisses me off.

[@lilren8825]

Love your channel and content, its really helped

[@Dani-ch1zd]

she became my comfortable person so quickly

[@AnimeFan-xb7yn]

"Omg lol what is that on your arm what do you cutt your self" and proceeded ti laugh in my face

[@lululalalululalala]

Hello I love you so much. You help me go trough this.Ur channel makes me so safe and not alone.thank you for being there for me

[@YouthPotential]

Number 3 and 5 are my fav. 5 really resonates with my recovery philosophy. A lot of people who self harm end up with a BPD diagnosis (or others) and not knowing who you are is a common symptom, as well as self-harm. From my experience; in my younger years I was so obsessed with self harm that I forgot who I was. Then again at 27. Today I’m not sure, but I’m not trying to figure it out. I’m more interested in what I do with my time❤️

[@madmaddy102]

Happy self harm awareness day (1/3/21)

[@soundcode0246]

More lockdown videos plss!!!

[@noelleuwu1776]

I don’t feel like I have any mental health issues but for some reason I still cut- also what if I don’t like the things I use to do? Lately my hobby has been sitting in my room just going on my phone/laptop, crying, and stress eating

[@greyv9107]

i asked my close friends what the associated with me and they said emo 🙃🙃

[@user-fs2zv2lb2i]

Sometimes I feel like I'm not even doing a bad thing. I don't do it to hurt myself it's more of an impulse/addiction. I know it's not a good coping strategy but I don't think I do it in a bad way so it makes it confusing if and why I should stop

[@AnimeFan-xb7yn]

So i lied and said i got it from gardening and he proceeded to tuant me about it and making fun of me

[@fabia7180]

Is it possible that you could make a video about how to “hide” self harm scars or if there’s a way to not het scars? I don’t feel “ready” to show anyone my scars so it would be extremely helpful.

[@Selfharmerproblems]

Hi! No, I would never make a video on tips for hiding scars. I feel there's just too big of a potential for it to promote self harm instead of recovery

[@fabia7180]

Alright then that’s fine I understand. Thanks a lot for doing these videos :)

[@peacemaker6929]

Relapsed from 8 month self harm free this last week

[@scpf4932]

Something with you Are inspiring me Are you okay?

[@AnimeFan-xb7yn]

So i will be honest im a guy and i know statistically girls cutt more but i have some self harm scars on my wrist and i was at a friends house today and his friend was there and we were playing football any way well my friends friend noticed my scars and proceeded to make jokes and comments about them saying "omg what do you cutt yourself " and was moking and laughing at me and my scars

[@youturia2200]

I'm so sorry that happend to you. You deserve so much better

[@georgiahowe9184]

I self harmed yesterday after being clean since September I feel so mad at myself and don't know what to do can u help ?

[@maddysmith6147]

hi, just wanted to say that reacting to r/madeofstyrofoam would be a cool video idea if u were cool w it. its a subreddit were people that sh / people that used to sh make jokes abt their sh / mh problems

[@Jenny-zw6zv]

she has reacted to MoS! you can look it up on her channel its there :)

[@Selfharmerproblems]

@@Jenny-zw6zv I Have indeed!