Love and Relationships in China: Concubines, Single-Child Policy and Singles Fairs

With an estimated 180 million singletons in China and people traditionally marrying early, the race to find a soulmate before surpassing the sell by date is frantic. Singles fairs, where CVs are passed around, speed-dating and lessons in the art of seduction are all examples of a booming westernised market. But there is a massive imbalance in the sexes due to the penchant for male offspring since the single-child policy was introduced in 1980. Future brides are in short supply and the men most likely to find a wife are those in a strong financial position.
With the economic liberalization of China and the rise of the wealthy businessman, an ancient tradition has resurged: the concubine. Young women, often students from poorer families, seek positions as mistresses at the beckoning call of wealthy men. Hidden away in lavish apartments and given large sums of pocket money, they enjoy a life of ease and luxury. The wives of these men have gone to drastic measures to unveil their fickle husbands’ crimes. We take a ride with private detectives and meet the one dubbed, ’The Concubine Killer’.
Director: Anne Loussouarn

[@alize5658]

"ur eyelashes re long , it must be fake." that explains that why he is still single

[@melissajadetarot5401]

Gotta be on the spectrum

[@redleeks6253]

No. He's just following PUA (pick up artist) techniques called neggings which is usually backhanded compliments. 'Your eyelashes are so long' (compliment) must be fake (insult)' There are lists of 'negging lines' to use. The goal is to find a victim who had really low self esteem or is going through some bad moments

[@zuckthebetacuck2789]

Is it false though? You never know the real face of a girl unless you see her after her shower. 😁

[@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856]

@@melissajadetarot5401no it’s called negging

[@captainredpill4135]

​@@melissajadetarot5401😂😂😂sht had me rolling

[@godsamazinggrace5331]

The preference for male babies Backfired severely!!

[@user-xd4rs6vr4n]

Not if they have a war maybe

[@SEJ3333]

Not for women who can appreciate those odds!

[@geebee8989]

The preference for female babes would have collapsed China. They choose male babies because of finances. Best would have to have many babies and no one-child policy, the communist government screwing over the people once again.

[@culturalobserver8721]

Being a good prospect to be a future wife or husband in any culture requires four things: those who respect and value the other gender, humility, being realistic about one’s future spouse, and a capacity for deep friendship. Being hard working is also a good trait. Also, being generally attracted to the person’s appearance helps, but keep in mind that some of the most beautiful or handsome people are the most arrogant and selfish, once you are in a relationship with them! Not all of them, but many are difficult to live with. “Good s*x” comes AFTER genuine friendship and making the commitment to marriage. I know, I’ve been married for 20 years and my husband and I have a great relationship!

[@heatherracho]

I think that you can have a great relationship and great sex I have been married for 22 years. The secret is marry somebody you are madly in love with that you think it's so hot all the time and is the best person in the whole wide world. It helps if you marry a man who works and let's you stay home to play video games too😅

[@lickalotlickalot2210]

There are many "relationship" books for women and they tend to advice women to make sure the men loved them more than they do, otherwise, the women would be hurt more! I think that is a big mistake to think and approach relationship that way because when you start calculating who loves more you start holding back your feelings for men! Similar to equality! Being equal does not mean everything has to be the same between both genders! Of course it's not like women can be fair...when husbands take out garbages for some reason you don't count that as housework!@@heatherracho

[@strgazerlilly]

Married 20 years here too, and you are asking for the impossible, and you should know that by year 10. I have to say I seriously doubt your 20-year claim. People change so much even year to year the thing that you have to have for a good marriage is FLEXIBILITY and the ability to accept that the other person is not going to be the person you married for long. As you go through life together, you are going to go through good times and bad times together. So long as there's no abuse, it will come down to how committed you are to your marriage, and are you willing to commit to the bad times too. If you are, then you will have a good marriage, and if not, then you will not. But just remember the qualifier of there not being ANY abuse. If there's abuse, GET OUT AS FAST AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

[@tonydimartini]

Actually they ARE the same person you married, your perception of them has just changed. When you first meet someone you have rose colored glasses and never see the real them because of dopamine firing in the brain. Later the dopamine settles down and you actually see who they are. They were always that person. @@strgazerlilly

[@terry4137]

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[@newworldbro]

The “leftover” attitude problem needs to drop fast. What a terrible way to treat women in a society that already fked up with pop ratios. 10 million men that cannot find a spouse and still have an attitude problem with women???

[@elvishiekios8826]

They can find brides in neighboring countries!

[@newempire158]

China has a serious social dynamics issue, many young people don't know how to converse or socialize with the opposite sex. What makes this problem even more worse is the rise in "materialism", this has affected women more than men. Modern Chinese women are superficial beyond redemption, making them (Asian women) the most pickiest female demographic in the world. Modern Chinese women willingly choose to become "leftover women" because they refuse to settle (get married to an average man), they refuse to accept reality.

[@gailainsley6939]

It’s simply a way to shame women into settling down and settling for scraps. Luckily the woman never mind being called that though 😂😴

[@redleeks6253]

Men are also called leftovers or 'bare branches' (will give no fruit) and it's usually by the age of 30. The very rich men might be called 'golden bachelors' but the common joe is nothing but a bare branch. Women would rather be single or mistresses than settle for a bare branch.

[@papidulzuratravel8715]

Leftover = done onlyfans, has kids, or divorced. If it’s not my fault it must be theres. Ya, it’s a great term!

[@loucadoida3327]

That guy living in the basement has no business looking for a wife, he is 42 and no house living like that 😮

[@susansheldon2033]

"Your bride is under your feet," is an expression that acknowledges the hundreds of thousands of baby girls who were murdered under the one child policy.

[@AZ-rg3rf]

stop exaggerating.

[@susansheldon2033]

@@AZ-rg3rf "Female infanticide, especially as a result of the One-Child Policy, has caused an imbalance of genders and available females of childbearing age resulting in a decline in population and births. In 2017 there were under 13 birth per 1000 people. There were also 33 million more men than women. This ratio imbalance between childbearing females and males, because of female infanticide, has also led to the rise of sex trafficking and bridal kidnapping of females or importing brides from other countries." -- Wikipedia. How do you account for 33 million more men than women of childbearing age?

[@susansheldon2033]

@@AZ-rg3rf I was under-estimating.

[@DanielDeBenoit]

@@AZ-rg3rf Stop being a brainwashed CCP bot.

[@Bald2Crispy]

They just aborted them after they got the sonogram

[@douglasharre7156]

This video is from 2013, so a lot of social chnage in China in the last 10 years! The One Child Policy was ended in 2016, when it became clear about the long term demographic challenges looming.

[@GOTravelhannel]

It was too little too late

[@takudzwamashamba7453]

It was way too late

[@hotbreakers94569]

😅 I mean didn't they think about it how do they think they're going to get a new population man can't have babies out their behinds. I mean this is really slow😂 they are suffering the repercussions of stupid actions , they played stupid game and now they had stupid prizes what do you expect hopefully they have a lot more better sense now

[@s._3560]

Who are you to judge it as being too late? People commenting aren't citizens nor even live in the country! A large population doesn't equal wealth, e.g overpopulated African countries where everyone is trying to leave for other countries. Before encouraging your people to reproduce in large numbers, you need provide jobs to be able to feed and nurture them first.

[@catherinecox6275]

@@s._3560I suggest you look at the studies done by experts. It’s not the one child in and of itself that caused the problem. It’s that, combined with the society’s valuing boys far above girls, and putting a high value on younger women as wives/mothers which has led to this huge imbalance between the numbers of men and women of “marriageable age.” There is a tipping point at which such an imbalance will lead to the dying out of a culture. China’s strength as a military leader relies a great deal on sheer numbers. Those numbers are falling exponentially. There is a very real possibility that China will not only lose it’s position in Asian politics within the next couple of generations, but might also be unable to keep its hold on Vietnam, Hong King, and other territories. The next step after that would be splintering of the population along borders, cultures, religions, etc.

[@DavidVelasquez9]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@MajorCockbern]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@DavidVelasquez9]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@MajorCockbern]

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@DavidVelasquez9]

If you look up Shelly Renee White online, you will find all the information you need. Thank you.

[@anthonytran7566]

@@MajorCockbern You missed her snaat.

[@user-ov9eu4gx3z]

42 year-old single poor peng fei was too good for a divorced mother but lives in a basement.

[@sandravega6645]

😞

[@naturegirl2110]

Standards 😂

[@sunflower3554]

So true

[@kimtaehyungsock]

lmfaooo

[@walkerpublications4418]

He wouldn't be able to afford two children on his salary.

[@kikiram06]

The husband is the cheater but they attack the concubine 😅

[@naturegirl2110]

I don't understand that part

[@9400lilly]

It’s not that she’s an innocent victim. He’s the main culprit, but the sl$t has some fault on going after a married man.

[@biblia843]

Is it all her fault? No. But she shares fault with the husband. Cheating is cheating, whether you are cheating on your own spouse or cheating with someone else’s.

[@zuckthebetacuck2789]

The bedroom has turned cold. Can't blame the husband for wanting some elsewhere.

[@annah995]

@@zuckthebetacuck2789 he can divorce her and go. Why cheat? That is unfair und hurtful.

[@sairysv8625]

The last woman made me so sad. She invested her whole life into her family- a husband and child for him to follow his private into another woman. She seems a very smart and strong lady. Good for her ❤

[@stankssmile5865]

And men will say she wasn’t fun enough that’s why he looked around, like do your basic duty and get this garbage

[@yaoxiden219]

Beware women and sob stories

[@YTT718]

So what he's paying all the bills

[@lickalotlickalot2210]

Exactly...women would never talked about how they treated their husbands to make them look elsewhere... like how they stop giving husbands attention but only complained when men finally cheated! It's well documented that after marriages women stopped giving men sex and attention!@@YTT718

[@claudiaclaudia8011]

😂😂😂😂​@@YTT718

[@carlanova1427]

why arent they mad at their husbands i dont get it lol they're the ones who deceived them not the concubines

[@newempire158]

Men cheat with their 🍆, women cheat with their ❤️

[@hotbreakers94569]

That's their meal ticket. 😅 You didn't know that some people only love money 🤔😒💯

[@harrynac6017]

So millions of girls miraculously disappeared, casually talked over.

[@lunasloanbailey]

Interesting.

[@OLEGEK23]

Просто не родились. Аборт

[@lyssa4613]

A whole documentary on it

[@erosr1]

Haven't you heard of China's one child policy? Traditionally boys are preferred, so they were simply aborted.

[@belindaferreira7445]

They are all in heaven.

[@ninjanana8730]

The parents want their kids married so they can be supported in their old age.

[@gabriellafox7948]

If it is needed, then it should be so

[@shalom352]

​@@gabriellafox7948how selfish

[@VisitorOfDreamlands]

Yes.. Selfishness... Controlling kids relationship status for your own benefit...

[@GameFuMaster]

how wit should be, instead of the ponzi scheme known as welfare/pension

[@husainb5045]

Unlike americans parents won’t end up in old age home

[@MaryPinkHair]

it's nice to see people actively trying to make a connection with somebody special.... and that they don't seem desperate is cool too. It is ok to be shy but, also honest about looking.

[@deasvail99]

Jiang is my spirit animal.😂 keep up the good work girl!

[@benjaminburkert5636]

It causes an outcry that a man who bought an apartment BEFORE marriage no longer has to share it with the partner who did NOTHING for it in the event of divorce? What the hell? Of course he doesn't have to share it

[@alexaez2946]

Nowadays they don't called concubines, they are called mistress

[@Kresanikelfe]

Either that or just simply sugarbabies 😂

[@Leahmoonbeamflower]

Or just garden tools that’s not a shovel but a … Hoe. 😂

[@theunknown2733]

What's the name of this narrator? He makes any documentary inyeresting.

[@LORDCYNTHIAGUNDAN]

Amazing. Thank you for sharing the Documentation Video.

[@amatterofconscience4219]

Enjoyed this video. Bougainville is indeed such an incredible place to visit.

[@wingolden]

It’s sad that marriages are built mainly on financial preference

[@1Skorpia]

Women are seen as leftovers is far worse. Women being seen as old in her 20s is very disturbing.

[@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856]

Love isn’t gonna pay the bills

[@Jahmall841]

Marriage is built on money and resources in most places in the world. It's sold to most people as a Disney Fantasy in the USA. It’s probably why the divorce rate is 70% plus

[@a1tung]

It happens everywhere and love only isn't gonna pay the bills

[@benjaminburkert5636]

@@1Skorpia From a biological point of view, it makes sense. Maybe not at 25, but at 30 it slowly becomes critical. Especially from the point of view of men who want to start a family and can afford it. Of course it doesn't make you feel good in your stomach, but these are facts that women don't want to see and prefer to react emotively

[@asmodiusjones9563]

3:33 unfortunately, he probably does not recognize these as blunders, he is “negging” or making slight put-downs to assert dominance. The eyelash one comes straight out of the book “The Game” by pick-up artist Mystery. I never needed to insult women to get them to talk to me, but then again, I got married at 25 and have been married for 15 years, so what do I know.

[@lickalotlickalot2210]

He just didn't know how to talk to women! It's not about dominance or insulting because women do that to men all the time... he's obsesed, he's too short! He's only a waiter, etc, etc!

[@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856]

Facts it’s very clear thing insecure men do

[@mohamedahmedyassinhussein6856]

@@lickalotlickalot2210learn what negging is it’s literally what he was saying to them and it’s clear sign of insecurity

[@openendedtoys]

Interesting documentary for sure.

[@Alfred-Neuman]

Yep, I learned so many things! For example, did you already knew that when you try to pick up a girl in the street "you must be certain the girl isn't with a boyfriend?" (That's crucial) 1:39

[@k.sharma2135]

I’m glad that happy ending came, I was holding my breath throughout the whole documentary 😓

[@ncs9753]

Wait until the newly wedded couple enters the midlife crisis that's where the problem usually starts... people don't start cheating until after years of wedding usually.

[@wumao6797]

I know of Chinese expats in my current company that married local brides where they are stationed. I attended a regional company dinner n dance once and it reminded me of a UN gathering with all the different wives races. One of them told me the ration of men to women in China is 7 men to 1 women.

[@asmodiusjones9563]

In the whole country it is 1.2 men to 1 woman, but in many places where men concentrate like work assignments, it might be at that ratio.

[@muggedinmadrid]

If you are actively involved in a society built around money, purely secular with no spuritual notion, and against a man-made urban background with no significant interaction with nature , you will always struggle to be happy, content and at peace.

[@s._3560]

Actually people have religions in China. Their state just isn't religious nor dedicated to one single religion (as many in the world are). However most of the major world organized religions are represented in China besides their own local folk religions which is like Shitoism. If they don't want the other foreign centres of religious powers interfering in their organisations, it is no different behaviour from the reformation of churches that happened in the European countries who broke from the Roman based Vatican to establish their own branch of Christianity because they wanted to be in control of their own heads of churches. Many societies in the West are even more in pursuit of money than China. Most people are just nominal christians in the West, they don't go to churches now, they go for sports matches!

[@s._3560]

China has many interactions with nature. You are only seeing one negative portrayal of a big city capital Beijing and shot with a full 1970's filter. Though the people have settled in the lands for thousands of years and have a huge population densely packed in cities, they still have elephants, pandas, snow leopards, tigers, bears, wolves and other large herbivores like wild yaks and antelopes. This compared to the distinct lack of large wild predators that now exists in Europe.

[@muggedinmadrid]

You make some really good points. I thought Shintoism was a purely Japanese thing. In any case, my descriptions were general things that concoct human misery. They don't all apply to China but a lot of them do. In China I know they have certain faiths like Daoism and Confusciasm but, as you make the distinction, they seem nominal; they are afterthoughts and don't appear to inform their actions. You say about the West. But they are the worst example of how not to live. All my descriptions do seem to apply to them. You are right about there being lots of indigenous wild animals, but the general view of their relationship with the animals is almost always predatory and commercial and they have a reputation for being cruel and brutal. My opinions are not based on this 1 documentary. Its based on many news stories, documentaries and other media about China as well my personal interactions with the Chinese and other peoples experiences of having lived in China.

[@s._3560]

@@muggedinmadrid Well, I beg to differ and feel sad for you that you seem to chose to interpret China as negative - labeling them ''cruel and brutal"'. Supposedly having lived in China, looks like your prejudices never left you to view an entire nation of 1.4 billion as ''cruel and brutal''. Yet there are many stories of Chinese people having a good relationship with animals and nature. They just don't get featured at all by Western media who have chosen to view/interpret China in a most biased negative light since the days of Qing dynasty when they came into most frequent contact. Especially so these past few years because they are afraid of its size and rapid development matching their own. In Daoism and just folk religions in general, there is a philosophy of living in harmony with nature and ''live and let live''. Of course during the period when China was besieged by the colonial powers, WW2, subsequent civil war and sanctions, their society went a great upheaval, conflict and turmoil. When ordinary people are living a hand-to-mouth existence in abject poverty, they have little time to consider most things other than survival. ''Commercial and predatory'' you should qualify your statements.

[@muggedinmadrid]

@s._3560 on reflection, maybe I'm being a little prejudicial and judgemental of the Chinese because I had a few bad experiences of them. I'm going to try and keep an open mind and be more tolerant and try hard not to do what humans often do - hold equivocal opinions based on too few facts and a few isolated, personal, subjective experiences.

[@luciboras]

Find a man with ambition, love you, and willing to create a future together. It takes two to tangle, both men and women.

[@pec324399]

It takes two to tango for sure

[@newempire158]

It takes 2 to tango, yet you conveniently left out what a man should look for in a woman or do they come ready made smdh Women can longer wait at the finish line for well accomplished men, they also have to put in the work.

[@saeefa]

@newempire158 They said it takes two yet you conveniently focused on what do women bring

[@user-ik1sd4qk6e]

Best documentary 👏 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@Dee-pv8lb]

I lived in Shanghai for 5 years and open for a GF and maybe marriage/kids. Being a foreigner at 40 yrs old, the "approach" style worked great . It worked much better than being setup with many girls by my employees.

[@tonydimartini]

So you met someone and got married?

[@Dee-pv8lb]

My Shanghai employees kept setting me up with model friends they know. All were as tall as me but lacked individualism. They all had same stories and likes. Pretty they were but not attractive to western standards. After 3 different dates, I had them stop setting me up. Did much better and nore fun meeting girls off the street.

[@franciscaconceicao5716]

Boa tarde parabéns pelo seu documentário.

[@billykotsos4642]

Cold approach in China!!!! NICE

[@Jeffreya348]

Love is what we need. If you have difficulty approaching someone you love, then I'm sorry for you!

[@mariaeuv7694]

That is nicely said.

[@lancesay]

well said!

[@benjaminburkert5636]

No love detected just greed and status thinking

[@melissajadetarot5401]

That lady is a crazy stalker and should be in jail

[@brianmaitai7685]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@suecampbell4811]

"...I'm very busy...they must be fake (eyelashes)...your hands are very flappy, they're like noodles". Dude, if Ms. Noodle Hands still talked to you in your "normal conversation", MARRY HER! So 10 million men will go single but they don't want women over 27 years old? How is that?

[@charcoalanderson8010]

LMAO, now that's "boy math"

[@ed5308]

How many Western men that are short, have average salaries, and average looks are going to be shut out of having a wife?

[@manueldavidson1398]

What a great video showing such a very loving and tender moment between two people expressing their love for each other.

[@balsafarmers10]

And sometimes it s about how attractive and confident men are to approach women.

[@blakberi]

"Business is booming for the man in the mink coat". I don't know why but that made me laugh like a drain. It was like saying "Business is booming for the man wearing solid gold shoes"

[@Huan-ls1eg]

This video doesn't look recent，It looks like it was ten years ago.

[@romulogan1182]

Me agrada que ahí en China las mujeres no se vuelven locas si alguien intenta hablarles, como las radicales que EEUU nos trata de imponer. El cortejo es una cualidad masculina, no se debe perder jamás. Aunque siempre se debe respetar la delgada línea entre cortejo y acoso.

[@user-dx7gm7no3l]

Agree with you 100%

[@Obimacwen]

No las culpes por que no tenes game boy1!!...

[@frankmccann29]

Same everywhere. Can't be forced. It just has to happen.

[@Masterchip223001]

In Chinese's culture it is always Money Money Money

[@drexultimate6533]

51:34 casually crossing the road. Driver casually attempting a "narrow miss"

[@myyearmouanoutoua6908]

Wow it us a interesting story

[@scottgoodson5132]

My wife is Chinese, I have spent some time in China, and I’m pretty familiar with the issues of finding a mate and marrying among Chinese. The problem as i see it is overestimation of their value in society. It happens with both men and women but is especially so in women, due to the imbalance in the number of men to women. Men are expected to have a career, a high income, own an apartment, home, or property, and to buy cars for the women. Women’s families also put pressure on the man to provide everything for the woman, even if she already has a good career and income. Women have sold themselves on the belief that they are deserving of this because they have high opinions of themselves. Men in China can be unrealistically picky with certain criteria, especially age. But due to women’s high expectations, even some successful men have no chance, and many are going to poorer neighboring countries to find wives.

[@pantherman8719]

So it's no different 😂.

[@benjaminburkert5636]

Thanks for your insights bro

[@hamburger5555]

Well said.

[@sjay7209]

I am a Caucasian American woman who married Chinese man and we did these photos! They were exhausting omg I almost passed out after 8 hours a day being done up with makeup artists, hair and many outfit changes and styles being played with like a doll because being tall, blonde and white is very fun to work with they said. It’s quite an experience but fun and beautiful. Worth it but also extremely expensive. $10,000 is about right and you get a giant framed portrait to prominently display in your home forever as well a phone book thick heavy albums of all your photos. We had many locations. Luckily I fit in their dresses because they are tiny in size so if you’re not similar in size to them you will be hard pressed to have many good outfits. They offer this same experience in the USA as well if you know where to go.

[@hotbreakers94569]

This looks relatively old but I wouldn't be surprised if this is still going on. Look at what the world's come to today. So love definitely comes at a cost, who wants this? They judge each other based on centimeters and stupid stuff like how the person is and what not like they're judging their Jade and picking fish at a fish market. I was cringing every minute of watching this. They've got a huge problem in Asia but you might as well say this is the rest of the world as well. This is sad. And then you have some women who turned a blind eye to cheating husbands off of the money I mean that sounds about right here. I guess money really is a common denominator for all of this. I mean a lot of people will say duh but it's sad that we got to this point. I don't want this at all , men will have no natural affection be boastful, lovers of themselves and love is of money rather than natural affection. This is disgusting

[@ShahWirana-bq9hv]

Talk about disgusting? How about Singapore govt taking away your child, then making all sorts of wild allegations such that as if you don't deserve to be a family, like saying you're crazy bcos U believe in UFOs, that yr 9 year old daughter has suicidal thoughts this better be given to the Catholic Archdiocese, that you are a terrorist though no violence ever existed, and even that just bcos you are poor hence you shld not have children bcos you can't afford to support a family ...all of which aren't true but bcos U r targeted...and there's nothing U can do to fight this cos it's all RIGGED. It happened to my family n we suffered till now for three long years! They became spiteful as soon as I reported this to OHCHR and UNICEF. Complete violations of basic rights and national Constitution, what do they care? We are minorities.

[@walkerpublications4418]

Here is the current status: A cheating husband is actually no husband but simply an income. Amazingly, the cheating male murder rate or "accidental" deaths in China is not off the charts. This is a clear reinforcement indicator the man has moved from "husband bed partner" status to "income" status when the cheating begins as sexually transmitted diseases are common in China. This is not the same for educated women who are financially independent and have no need to play the marriage/concubine game in China. Key to note that China is referred to as the "Mistress Culture" and that adultery is illegal. Wives need visual proof to sue the husband as part of the divorce. Many educated women, simply move abroad for career opportunities or university graduate studies. An adulterer whose escapades are captured on film/print will lose 100% of the community property, he and the mistress will pay a large fine, both will have to pay the wife alimony, and both will do some amount of jail time. In some parts of China, although the law when caught is costly, they have outlawed the use of "professional private detectives" so there is an entire set of "amateur friends" who conduct the adultery investigations. There are currently 45 million single men in China however, it is unclear what percentage of these men are gay versus straight as this is culturally gay is not a viable visual option socially. Estimates are that as many as 30 million of these single men are gay. Adultery has been a cornerstone of Chinese culture since the Dynasty eras with some wealthy men having as many as 10,000 concubines in haremlike setups. Ironically, China has built an entire movie drama industry touting the "excitement" of men cheating on their wives. Second wives in China....although allegedly illegal... are a common practice like the concubines but are referred to as Erani women. Why would any woman want to marry, what the Chinese women who have exited for marriage refer to as a "CCM" (Cheating Chinese Man). NOTE: Ironically this issue will end in another generation as the birth rate in China is the second lowest on the planet with so many women refusing to be involved with CCMs and not having children in China. Currently, the birthrate is not large enough to replace the current workforce. The lowest birthrate on planet Earth is and has been for many years in South Korea as their women have also revolted and stopped dating/marrying South Korean men and have followed their Chinese professional sisters to live abroad with husbands from other countries.

[@Blumenkind1989]

I guess it is from 2017. They say after 20 years she is still bitter and then they say she divorced him in 2007, after he already had the affair for 10 years.

[@tomhohl4373]

I met my wife in Bei Jing 25 years ago. She's the sister of a friend of a friend of my good friend. She's an accountant. I was a lab tech. I'm retired now. She's fully committed, cooperative, easy to be with. Everything I ever wanted in a wife.

[@verenamaharajah6082]

I take it Chinese women don’t wear wedding rings? Usually that is first thing to look for to see if someone is married.

[@gailainsley6939]

She was clearly lying 😂 I do the same lol

[@redleeks6253]

Not really. I've lived in china and the wedding ring is usually reserved for the wedding day.

[@Kira-kv1mz]

Am I the only one who noticed how gray the sky is throughout this documentary? How do people breathe without being affected by the pollution around them? It's so polluted.

[@panglilla868]

This documentary, when did it make? It seems like years ago, you see from the building in Shenzhen, and the clothing these mistresses wearing. Hopefully this is the past tense.

[@lunaticc6016]

The fashion trends in china is different from the rest of the world, so it's no surprise that they look very old-fashioned, but people are still wearing them to this day

[@elindsey1983]

What is the point in hiring a investigator to see if your husband is cheating, if your are not going to leave him. Stop wasting money and let him have his affair in peace!

[@walkerpublications4418]

Leverage. If she decides to divorce at some future date, a man caught committing adultery on video or in pictures will loose 100% of his community property, he and the mistress will have to pay the wife alimony, he and the mistress will have to pay her a large fine, and both will do jail time.

[@JamesSmith-ix5jd]

​@@walkerpublications4418 does it also work the other way around - against women?

[@fnieng1056]

Cara hidup yang mengerihkan sekali..

[@trulyrich707]

It's amazing how there is such an air of respect reporting on those unrespectable men and women in China. I wonder what the mood would be if it were say in Africa 🌍 or Caribbean?

[@takudzwamashamba7453]

Professor Tao! 😂😂😂

[@sisandasibanda3306]

From which university 😂😂😂

[@selamuyhabena7038]

Congratulations for the newly married 🥰😍. For the concubine I hope they respect them self and stop hurting families or couples, what goes around comes around.

[@AjemanChannel-il3ci]

Waow That's Good Story. I Love it. > Toronto, Canada

[@nphipps9406]

no matter what you do if a man wants to cheat he will cheat especially if he has money

[@ncs9753]

He has money, his value is high in the dating market. Meanwhile his wife is old, no value in the market. So naturally a 10/10 man (aka high in demand rich uncles) wouldn't be content with a 5/10 aging wife it's to be expected.

[@nphipps9406]

@@ncs9753 love has no immoral grounds. it's men vice because of their money they feel running women are happiness for them, but women who are with these men are not truly happy because they don't perform well in the bedroom, women will fake, lie then laugh behind those men backs because for them it's all about recieving the money from their sugar daddy, in addition, women are often slave to them men, again because of vanity

[@sunatarosuna1560]

Most of women they are love a value not value love. Women can be very easily leave you when you broke and down or struggling. This is my own experience after 13y of marriage, she leave us, when i need her the most.😂😅

[@trainer0075]

My wife told me she decided long ago that she would never marry a rich man for the main reason that he would surely cheat.

[@1Skorpia]

Poor men cheat also. In the west its men owing child support that have gfs. They get dumped fast.

[@narniadan]

When I was 12 - 17, I had so many adult Chinese man approaching me for relationship. I know there are paed...lias everywhere but as paed....lias is a norm in China and Korea- even until couple of years ago it wasn't a crime -, the way I have experienced is there are more paed....lia Chinese and Korean men rather than not. You should make a documentary on that as well.

[@krollpeter]

Until today many men in China still believe if they fxck a virgin it will give them longevity.

[@driftingclout]

too young too tall too poor. is this the Goldilocks dating service?

[@silveriver9]

Wow a 10-year old video presented like it is present day. 10 years of change in China is the equivalent to 30 years change in the West. Also, the One Child policy ended in 2016.

[@Witchofthewoods.]

It just says documentary. There is nothing about the date that I see. Documentaries range from back in the day to the present. 😊

[@silveriver9]

@RainbowBrite. Not specificing date, allows the producer to edit and frame the video to fit a narrative and to appear like it is present day. This is how propaganda works.

[@belindaferreira7445]

Nothing change since then because new generation don't want more than 1 child, and the politic of one child generate millions of boys because for the chinese a boy is a must have...so now the problem will persiste.

[@hotbreakers94569]

I couldn't have said it any better. I couldn't help but see the correlation to the west and is even worse here I believe a lot of people who think just because they look good means that they're going to have happy lives it's very much the opposite people are miserable because they don't find the value in true relationships but they're going to find out the hard way here.

[@user-qwertyuiopasdfghj]

Still the sexism is strong ! It’s just in our culture

[@martinakula8421]

Pickup lines are silly. Simply walk up to the woman and talk to her genuinely.

[@JamesSmith-ix5jd]

About what exactly?

[@maam-yj8ph]

​@@JamesSmith-ix5jd life, liberty, the pursuit of "happiness," or something you are genuinely interested in.

[@JamesSmith-ix5jd]

@@maam-yj8ph You don't know maybe she has better things to do at that moment. Plus usually if you don't know someone you also don't care about his/her opinions or views on life, the whole thing feels fake, even if you discuss the deepest secrets it doesn't make you closer to her psychologically.

[@strongerstone9651]

I think this video was recorded around 15 year ago.

[@youngsoo7809]

How old is this video? It looks quite old. Is this early 2000s or 2010s?

[@wenerjy]

Sometime between 2012 and 2019. Closer to 2012 imo.

[@msprettykawaii950]

This is the reason a lot of Chinese men are on dating app in our country. One of my friends married one

[@shurong19]

That is crazy, never see something like this (talk to strangers in the street) in China. And about the women age 27, that is also crazy, I have tons of female friends that around 30 years old are still single.

[@AbdalMalik-ye1df]

over 30 single ? hahaha they are loser

[@nikismith3784]

I am an ESL teacher with students from all over, and I've had both suave and socially awkward Chinese men as students, no different from anywhere else. If any man from any country says things like "Your hands are flappy like noodles" or "Your x is pretty, must be fake" he doesn't deserve women because he hasn't figured out how to socialize, and no woman wants to hear that sh*t. Also no women wants to be next in line for some creeper who is after any woman who responds to his weird statements tolerantly. Gavin needs to be alone until he grows up.

[@zuckthebetacuck2789]

Well, the chick he approached wasn't exactly a looker either. She should be flattered at best.

[@JamesSmith-ix5jd]

What if it's a double game? You say some nonsense and see the reaction, a decent woman would at least show some compassion for the silly guy.. and the bad woman would - "eew, get lost creep", then you know she isn't worth the time to keep talking.

[@nikismith3784]

@@JamesSmith-ix5jd what the f nonsense is this? Women aren't required to show compassion to strange men, or even acknowledge them. Men deserve nothing from women.

[@Nay-fp3gb]

Say hi to the WALL for me.

[@benjaminburkert5636]

Strangely enough, the question of why men look for a concubine is not addressed. All the risk and stress just for the status? I don't think so. I think the love life with the partner no longer exists or never really did when you see the criteria by which women choose their men

[@user-ov9eu4gx3z]

The new generation of Chinese men are much better looking than these guys from 10 years ago. These guys could never get such beautiful Chinese women today.

[@mrwonk]

45:00 Dude clearly traded up!

[@nelsonigot7103]

Love 💘and mariage is respect each other and understand the mariage life because its a hard job to go inside that matter so think 🤔more about that so you can succed if you understand whats a love in mariage life.🎉

[@zxrcanada]

Love the narrator, especially when he raises his voice to indicate when females are speaking, lol

[@willthix3822]

interested to know how the concubines are going now in the economic slump and real-estate crash

[@user-ic9vg6pw4o]

What's single fairs,concubines? Can you tell me the meaning of these two word for me?

[@emi62507]

Disgraceful to beat up a woman who slept with your husband, better to have the quarrel with the husband you had a legal agreement with.

[@zuckthebetacuck2789]

You are afraid it happens to you don't you?

[@emi62507]

Not at all, I’m a happily married woman.

[@TheDavidlloydjones]

Nobody lives in "Bay-zhing." Maybe you're thinking of Beijing? There are said to be twenty million people living there...

[@raghavendramerwade]

Very old Documentry.... somewhere in s200s

[@dskyy2001]

Interesting, this is an old documentary that has been republished.

[@walkerpublications4418]

Because the only thing that has changed is the One Child Policy. It is key to note that there are 45 million single men in China according to the latest census but how many of those men are gay is not reflected in that data. Estimates are that approximately 35 million of these single men are gay.

[@azamarabear]

Oh my god it's like high school again😮

[@julieandree3030]

This is painful.....why can't I stop watch 😂😂

[@Randorf100]

good wife and I understand where going through.

[@olanosergio]

Mae is such a lucky girl. Imagine having someone support and care for such an extent.

[@evangelesong6319]

She's a booty call and she won't have anything when they split.

[@Aeonshield]

I love traditional Chinese names like Gavin.

[@carolinetaveras9375]

People need to start loving themselves and taking care of themselves. Stop looking for it in other people.

[@TLCTLC-cg6cm]

Fascinating

[@SV-lw8jo]

55:36 He has no idea, Yet!

[@CheriDawn]

From one mother to another, the death of our child is the worst pain imaginable. It gives me strength to see you laugh again.

[@HelenEk7]

Men above 27 become uninteresting. Wow... that is really early.

[@scottgoodson5132]

It actually applies more to women in China. Women who are over 27, previously married, have children, etc are referred to as “leftover women”.

[@JORGINHODONASCIMENTO]

Few points... A young, tall, handsome and rich guy is always more attractive. If you lack one or more, your chances dwindle. If you can't find a woman in your own country, go yo other places and find one that is waiting for you. It may cost you a little bit of money but it's cheaper than having a wife and paying the wife bribe. Happiness is not inherently to what other person may have for you but deep inside yourself.

[@gratiawidiasih3113]

When a wife fight with hubby,s concubine, hubby has no effort to intervine

[@Cameronlinz]

Who said they are shy? But there are billions of people. People are started from relationships. It must be ironic to say they are shy for relationship?

[@_FML_]

This was made atleast 10 years ago...The newest docs show gen Z and possibly older alpha's chanting "We are the last generation..." in protest of the current socioeconomic conditions, and as a kind of threat/FU to their government, which they apparently mean literally...

[@museemtarot4121]

That one emperor is blind yah saw that one concubine in the group pic?

[@dank2476]

Why blurr the images? So irritating and so hard to watch.

[@Ddub1083]

because they dont want to be identified...

[@touraneindanke]

I don’t know about China…but communicate with yr hands in the pockets is not how it’s done in my corner of Europe.

[@koalatheworld]

So true!!! 😊

[@VisitorOfDreamlands]

Let them be alone. What you sow is what you reap.

[@elizabethbrown8833]

What if a woman has twins or more ?😊

[@kevinw1090]

How do folks find good concubines?