16 Personalities Biggest Insecurities

[@christineherrmann205]

"don't feel limited in your insecurities; you can have more than one" made me start laughing my butt off. 😂

[@christineherrmann205]

Of course then there's me, having INFJ _and_ ENFJ insecurities. 🤣🤣

[@claytonia1586]

Yeah I love his dry humour. Really makes me laugh too.

[@angeloreyes707]

This was the smartest way to phrase a possible insult.

[@mcgil8891]

😂😂

[@jsmith317]

🤣

[@MsMrExe]

“Don’t feel like you're limited to just one [insecurity]. You can have as many as you like.” - Nathan (2021)

[@christineherrmann205]

Exactly. Too funny.

[@airnessquilaneta]

And I took that personally. - An INFP

[@Sharkuterie327]

So encouraging 😆

[@RPGKingdom64]

What if I have more than what I hoped for? 🤣 INFP

[@Sharkuterie327]

@@RPGKingdom64 Be grateful you live a life aplenty. Some people don’t have any! 😲

[@user-ix3nj3nn5p]

0:34 ESTP and ESFP 1:26 ISTP and INTP 2:22 IFNJ and INTJ 3:39 ENFJ and ESFJ 4:40 ENTP and ENFP 5:43 ISFJ and ISTJ 6:33 ENTJ and ESTJ 7:39 ISFP and INFP You're welcome

[@stephen_101]

💜💛💚🧡👍

[@sanjidatasnim7249]

*INFJ.😊😊😊😊

[@user-hf1hb8pd7k]

Ah yes, IFNJ, the rarest type

[@charlotte7672]

Thank you! I hope you have a good day (:

[@Herebutnotreally]

Thank you ✨

[@sadprose651]

“you can have as many insecurities as you like” very true, such a genius opinion.

[@theodorosvakontios1873]

That cup holding is so iconic tho

[@CaveyMoth]

ISTJs regret running out of coffee.

[@sophy2580]

As an INTP, I just clicked to see what my insecurities could be as I don't really know myself

[@kbobdixie1829]

Yes you do..

[@heatherbryant4197]

Really? I think most INTPs, and IxxPs in general, have a pretty strong sense of identity and feel they know themselves well. Though this definitely improves as you get older and everything, including your sense of identity, can seem tumultuous when you're a teenager or young adult, still growing into yourself. But INTPs specifically can struggle with understanding their feelings, likes, preferences and passions well into adulthood, though maybe not as bad as ENTPs. Are you an enneagram type 9 by chance?

[@sophy2580]

@@heatherbryant4197 yeah I have a pretty hard time identifying my preferences and passions, and I'm still pretty young so I guess that's why.... I took the test once and I got Type 5

[@heatherbryant4197]

@@sophy2580 I see. Type 5 & 9 seem to be the most common for INTPs. Nines can struggle with seeing themselves clearly. Theoretically a 5 should not really have this problem, though I imagine the understanding of self would be stronger for a 5w4 than a 5w6. A 5w4 would be more in touch with their own identity and uniqueness, feeling very different from the rest of the world, while a 6-wing may give one the sense of feeling "swallowed" by other people. 5s in general tend to feel like they live in their heads and spend a lot of time up there, contemplating a lot, including their self-concept. I've heard a lot of type 9 INTPs say they mistyped as 5s at first, though that's more common for males. In any event, I'd give it some thought. Maybe just give it time though. If you are a 5, it will be important for you to feel independent & self-reliant, and sometimes knowing yourself well doesn't really happen until you have the opportunity to be on your own and the freedom to do what you want and test your limits, and are forced to make your own choices and live with the consequences (this helps with getting in touch with your Fi and overcoming indecisiveness as well).

[@DragonshotProductions]

69th like champ

[@t4qu1t08]

I appreciate the way that you addressed the misconception that INTP's (and ISTP's) aren't stereotypically "bullying" people with their Ti. As an INTP, that is a stereotype I couldn't really relate to (well, maybe every once in a while with people I trust just to tease them a bit). Having low Fe is exactly as you described. It is the ever present fear of stepping on a social landmine. The burden of having to maintain harmony. It isn't arrogance or bullying. It is social anxiety.

[@madcat6299]

Being an ENTP and have the title of being a debater is also a stereotype to me. I think that Ti, since it's introverted, most of our thinking is not often expressed. I believe that Te are the ones who are often engage in debates or arguments. I commonly ponder on ideas and questions rather than ask them to people. And even if I find something logically incorrect, I would often just cringe at people and forget about it lol. I don't like arguing, it's draining my energy.

[@enlightenedglass7879]

Yes, INTP isn't the typical bully but oppositely the typical bullied kid because INTPs usually can't stand up for themselves because of low confidence and social anxiety.

[@s-spark7558]

@@madcat6299It depends i am also an ENTP, but i debate and argue almost everyone everyday. I have to tryhard not to argue about something. And i often care only about the arguments. It is not personal nor do i care how others feel, but i value different opinions and i often destroy my own arguments too. I dont mind really changing my mind either, if you can make good enough arguments to combat my values and arguments. So i guess it depends on individuals.

[@madcat6299]

@@s-spark7558 I was like that when I was younger. Then I realized that people gets offended easily. Sometimes the best solution is to let them hear what they want to hear and manipulate the situation instead. I want people on my side just in case I need them, so I try my best not to offend them. Unless when I really don't like these people then they'd hear things from me without sensitivity.

[@s-spark7558]

@@madcat6299 I was like that when i was younger, but then i found out that people tend to like me more, if i am who i really am on the inside. So i am not hiding it and i am myself a lot of the time. I know that my real friends like me the way i am now and others can have their opinion on me, whether it is negative or positive does not matter to me, because i tend to prefer logic and truth over feeling emotions and manipulation(Even tho i am very good at manipulating most people and i can use them in a way a want to) I am just not using it, because it is agains my pride probably.(Not really sure about my stance on this one yet)

[@Sharkuterie327]

INTJ: Had stress dream last night for performance anxiety - was thrown into a situation where I was required to solve a problem immediately without time to figure out what caused it, and so I was upset with a band-aid solution that didn’t make sense and didn’t actually solve anything. The worst, man.

[@Mrs.Silversmith]

Performance anxiety nightmares, yes I've had those too.

[@fl3640]

Just reading this got me anxious 🤦🏻‍♀️ -INFJ.

[@TaylorVero]

Ohhh! This is why I get so stressed at work. If you want me to come up with the good stuff you gotta give me time to understand the problem first! 😩

[@stevedavenport1202]

Yep...I hate band-aid solutions. I strongly prefer a viable, long term solution. Have big time performance anxiety...INFJ

[@janhavishigwan1347]

The way this has happened in my real life 😬💀

[@ramenbirb9885]

Haha Jokes on you I can’t tell whether I like my career or not, wait... -ENTP

[@GoodMorningButch]

I was afraid you’d say INFP insecurities were being a bad person because that’s what I’m terrified of but as you say, there’s room for so many insecurities! I also hate being shunned and misunderstood!

[@sunshineandrain869]

Me too. Others often tell me how kind I am, but I’m always afraid that any mistake I make will make people think I’m a bad person.

[@antonyka-pra-ra]

Yeah, So it's vital to understand something that took me far too long, Approval or not Good aquaintences or Bad won't be permanently fixed in our lives - even good friends have their season. Also Regret for things undone or unsaid is far sharper and more enduring then any regrets for those things we've said and done. So Just do it!

[@heatherbryant4197]

Some people would say that's a sign of inferior Fe and you could be a mistyped INTP, but I don't agree with that interpretation. I think it's most likely part & parcel to Fi. I also think "impostor syndrome" can be common with IPs, as IxTPs hold themselves to a very high logical standard and IxFPs hold themselves to a very high moral standard, and when that's all you think about, it's so engrained into your identity, and you see the (moral/logical) contradictions so readily, it's easy to beat yourself up over the slightest deviation from your own impossible standards.

[@sunshineandrain869]

@@heatherbryant4197 I can see that. Good point.

[@Multitudes_]

@@heatherbryant4197 Agreed. People too often assume that wanting to be a good person or caring about others is an Fe thing, but it can be an Fi thing just as well. It's just that it's driven by our own inner compass and personal values rather than societal values/expectations. There can also be a real push and pull for Fi people between values related to doing our own thing/living authentically and values related to being good to others or doing good for society. A lot of us really like to do our own thing and live an introspective life, but sometimes this can make us worry about being overly self-absorbed or useless to others.

[@risbryn]

Joke's on you, I can't change my plan if I never had one in the first place - ENFP

[@Chigger]

I pretty much stopped having plans at all because there's always something that causes my plans to not work.

[@risbryn]

@@Chigger Hell yeah! I found routines and plans super restrictive. Once I started trusting my spontaneity, things actually got easier to follow

[@mcgil8891]

@@risbryn trusting my spontaneity - well said 🙌

[@sbos3094]

I'm INFP, but I'm sure plenty of others wrestle with this one. I tend to wonder if the people I love are as invested in me as I am them. Most of the time, I would actually prefer that people don't remember or notice me. But with the friends I choose to invest time into, I can't often tell if they know or care that I think highly of them.

[@lovewho]

That is indeed a difficult that certain types face! I think that when you have good intent towards people in relationships it's like it's own reward. That being said, it's always good to be asking yourself that question of whether you're getting enough back from the other party to make sure that the relationship isn't imbalanced! ~ Nathan

[@Mrs.Silversmith]

INTJ and performance anxiety. Yes, feeling a bit called out here. I have a personal motto when I am hesitating to start a project because of my desire for perfection. "Doing something is better than doing nothing." Meaning some level of execution is infinitely better than not even starting. When I remind myself of that, getting started seems much easier.

[@TaylorVero]

This is a great approach. I am coming around to the idea that sometimes you can only truly learn and "know" something by trying it in reality. No matter how many simulations we run, the only one which truly confirms the hypothesis is the one done in reality.

[@salmaa3801]

I am an INFJ and my personal motto is :"Perfect is the enemy of good." Voltaire

[@mariram7593]

And then it comes me INTP (another perfectionist) who's got no problem at starting a new project letting the previous one unfinished lol But I like your motto 🙃

[@anushka5912]

*TIMESTAMPS* [ you're welcome :) ] im an intp btw

[@naturally_roisin]

6:35 ENTJ - Oh my God. Yes. I care about the people close to me on a deep emotional level, but just because I approach most things with a logical perspective, my loved ones often see me as "insensitive" or "heartless". I'm only trying to help! Just because I'm not nuzzling up to you or using pet names every two seconds does NOT mean I care any less!

[@Krakin3]

Amen!

[@wst.3670]

Pretty sure it's the lack of tact or sensitivity in which "help" is given. I think my brother might be an entj but he's an a-hole. His way of offering "help" is cold, controlling & bossy. He says things like "fine. Do it your way and be miserable". Like his way is the only way NOT to be miserable. And tells my family what to do with 'his way or the high way' attitude - about an issue that we have under control & never asked for help to begin with. He's a know it all & completely unaware of it. I DON'T think ENTJs are all a-holes...any type can be one. But I wonder if he's one in the more negative sense of the type. FYI pet names aren't necessary nor is nuzzling (😂) but tact, patience & a smile would help...as well as not bossing.

[@jzixjndmxox9]

"They can sometimes feel like they're the only people who care enough to actually take action and solve problems." --'I've never felt so understood. Thanks, Nathan!

[@angels5449]

INFJ here. That surprised me a bit, but I soon understood. Going to be some solid help in understanding ENTJs. Really, many thanks to Nathan.

[@DragonshotProductions]

@@angels5449 yeah I’m an INFJ (or maybe ENFJ not sure) with an ENTJ dad; I hate feeling disrespected or having my ideas invalidated so when he’s brute forcing me to do things I think I can mistake it for him thinking I’m dumb. Sorry u guys are so misunderstood; but like maybe just get to know that other people just aren’t capable of brute forcing life like you guys do. Just saying. Sometimes if someone’s down all they need is a hug so they can figure out their own thing.

[@liadanryan-gerhardt7189]

Exactly what my ENTJ boyfriend says in exactly that wording. They, like most NT/TJ types it seems, really struggle with people being too emotional about problems instead of doing the stereotypical logical thing of trying to find solutions quicker. Among other problems they face of course, lol. As an INFP, I don't relate but understand the frustration none the less😉

[@felipdsccp]

When I saw the ENTP and ENFP "Grass it's greener sydrome" I thought that it was so truth, it happens to me everytime, I always say to myself that I should major on other thing because it would be better, but I know that it was only this idealization speaking... then you said that ENTP might follow on a carrear that they don't like and I started to overthink again haha

[@s-spark7558]

As an ENTP I feel like, we just like to have a lot of options. Even tho we most of the time dont use them at all. Also my worst fear is probably people that are just agreeable, because i can not stand people without opinions or those that just agree with everything even tho i am clearly contradicting myself at times.

[@angeliquesaika]

Being an INFJ, the things that have been said in this video are unfortunately true. I always tend to envision a plan in mind, I love to idealize things which can lead me to feel easily disappointed by reality. Easily anxious, fear of judgment/criticism, struggles to do things due to perfectionistic tendencies, thinking that my outputs/works don't meet the criteria, overly critical, etc. What's even worse is I always miss certain details, which causes me to feel even more paranoid. Now, the worst of all is, I am placed in an environment (or a work setting) where this has now become my everyday life. In fact I am currently dealing with this as of now😀 Seriously, the only thing that keeps me sane is my ambitions: "Today's sufferings will be tomorrow's luxuries."

[@daljeetkaur6284]

You are not alone, what you wrote is exactly what I have been struggling with for past 4 years... I seriously don't know how to stop this.. I hope you find a solution for yourself..

[@Teddybeloved]

Omg I feel ya

[@napoleonbonn9991]

I am an INTP. I am at a split between the stereotype about being a cold logical asshole, and a people pleasing social chameleon. I find with the people I trust most and am closest to, I can be overly cold and I take them for granted and do not always give as much as they give. But with strangers, I find it very difficult to be self expressive and confident, and often I just try and fit the vibe so I won't look like a weirdo.

[@mariram7593]

I'm an INTP too and I act the same way. Being not the healthiest version of this type, I tend to take people I really care about for granted because of my high expectations toward them that get disappointed. Since you usually tend to be a closer version to your real self around people you know better, I don't know if it means that this selfish cold version represents the real INTP essence. I like the word "split" because I often struggle at understanding what I really am: a cold or altruistic person. I don't know if it's relatable

[@cassc3032]

Ennegram 5 going to 8 with those they feel close to

[@heathergrahame9647]

As an INTJ, my greatest insecurity has been how do I make enough money to survive. Employment situations have been fraught with so many problems. And my great inner vision doesn't pay the bills.

[@BL00DYR0S31]

Amen. I’m having the same problem as well but at least you seem to have a vision of what you want to do so you’ve at least got something going for you. Me on the other hand have absolutely no idea despite me being relatively old already.

[@wynstansmom829]

“After a time, you may find that ‘having’ is not so pleasing a thing after all as ‘wanting.’ It is not logical, but it is often true.” said Spock Heather Grahame, it was easier for my generation. I knew I needed a fall back plan because life is what happens when you are busy making other plans, said a imaginative man, once upon a time. I joined the military because I would have a retirement and medical plan for my family. When all failed, my security backup plan kicked in. (We) I speak only for myself because Fair Witness rules apply, but do not underestimate how much Si will tug at your plans. 8th slot Si tells us that the tried and true found safety and a way to reproduce when 'They' followed the rules. Tradition! the fiddler on the roof could not have sung it better. We can lead Freud's horse to water but (Id) hard to make them drink. You may find you are not happy chasing the hamster on the wheel of fortune. The idea is as cliche as a hallmark card but the idea is plan ahead, prepare and be prepared but spend a little time in the here and now and don't wait for your Destiny to arrive. grok

[@heathergrahame9647]

@@BL00DYR0S31 If it's any consolation to you, I'm 52 and my great inner vision has only arisen in the last few years. It really is a great vision - world scale. INTJs are futuristic, and it can take decades for the rest of the world to catch up. Big things take time to develop, too, and INTJs deal with big things. Patience has never been one of my virtues but I'm having to learn it. And as Wynstan'sMom comments above, the wanting is sometimes more enjoyable than having. The wanting gives us a sense of direction and purpose in life. For me, I have hated not having enough money and seeing so many other people not have enough money. So I did my own private study into money, banks, and economics and then ended up in a court case with a bank. Change is acomin' and you can be sure that an INTJ is behind it! Haa. There's an opportunity here to plug my book, so I will unashamedly advertise it :) "Freedom from Tyranny" by Heather Grahame, available on Amazon and Book Depository. INTJs are highly independent, though. Just do your own thing and don't discuss it with friends or family until it's fully developed. That would be my advice.

[@user-xk9cr3mu3k]

The fear of the reality...(your inferior Se) That makes sense..

[@stevedavenport1202]

Spot on. I once read that most NI doMs are underemployed. There are few occupations which truly take advantage of our strengths. I am a one man think tank. I literally spend most of my free time devising blue prints and protocols for future space colonies, fighting wars of the future and the past, creating more efficient transportation systems, funding a UBI scheme and on and on...alas, never gonna get paid for this 😀

[@thechemicalmind4563]

I think ENFPs have a big insecurity regarding being taken seriously. Many of them fear people only seeing them as life of the party, or class clown, and having no real depth to their character. They are usually very deep people, but many mistaken them for being surface level, immature, and juvenile

[@letfreedomring7330]

I see ENFPs' depth, and I love them for it.

[@misseva7404]

For me, an ISFJ, my biggest insecurity is the thought that others might being angry with me. I can find it absolutely paralyzing and incredibly distressing when I think I'm picking up on a lack of harmony in a relationship.

[@notforapanpam5602]

I have an ISFJ friend who always thinks I am mad at her and will always tell me so. I don't think I have ever been mad at her. Just say how you are feeling, let the person tell you that they aren't. Maybe after enough times, it might help reassure you.

[@user-xk9cr3mu3k]

That's no good...people will be likely to use you that way especially if they know that's your voulnerbility

[@itsjie962]

INFJ here. Often times, I worry about looking like an incompetent person, not being able to grasp practical situations well etc. Honestly it's a huge bother when you have inferior Se, especially when you live in a society that is mainly inhabited by sensors 😵

[@lishayost44]

As an INTP, you hit the nail on the head for me personally. My worst times in life that I ruminate on over and over is when someone feels I have wronged them horribly, and I don't see how what I did or said was wrong. I really truly feel that others are just being irrational, but it hurts nonetheless. And it is crazy-making. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells with other people and I truly think I'm a very kind person. I think I'm just misunderstood, or people read too much into things or take things the wrong way, or too personally. I am socially awkward in certain situations, so that doesn't help.

[@lo5338]

ENFP - You're right, routine absolutely drains my soul (I'm a receptionist... I know). I also fear appearing stupid to others - whilst playing dumb every single day. Also, the thought of letting my loved ones down is unbearable.

[@nigelharvey640]

As they say in Antarctica, “On God, Now Cap” That last point you were spitting facts on facts

[@natasdabsi1138]

Relatable

[@TheSnugglery]

I got anxiety just when you said "change and chaos" 🤣

[@mallorysandstrom3928]

INTJ. Can confirm the performance anxiety. New scenarios are scary. I like to be able to stride onto the field as a professional. I hate being a newbie. I don't allow the learning curve to apply to me. I need to already be experienced at the important things. And yes, I have no idea if people are impressed with me or think I'm stupid. I can't stand the idea that someone thinks I'm stupid. Of course, if someone did, it wouldn't change my course of action in the least. I don't take criticism from someone I wouldn't take advice from. Odds are I am among the smartest in the room. It just causes stress.

[@piisuke9514]

"They want to move at their own pace but that can sometimes clash with the relentless fast-paced nature of the modern world." Ok i'm an INFP and this is so spot on. Also my main insecurity is being misunderstood. I just hate it when people misunderstood me or the things i do. Being misunderstood is one of the reason why my friendships (after high school) doesn't last because they see me as someone cold or ungrateful but it is the total opposite of what i feel about them. It's just that expressing my emotion is not a strong point of mine, but i really do cherish all people and friendships i have.

[@maintyB]

"Isn't life great?" XD verry nice! If you look at insecurities distantly and kinda zoom out on your struggles looking at them like you would read a book, it can give life a lot of humor. Those situations make the most fun memories if you let them :D

[@BL00DYR0S31]

I don’t think dissociating yourself from your problems is a good thing but then again whatever gets you through the next day is your business.

[@maintyB]

@@BL00DYR0S31 you are 100 % right that its important to work on your problems to make things better. I was not talking of dissociation but to not be so hard on oneself - to take a step back now and again for regaining a sence of serenity allowing a breath of relief and a laugh. Laughter helps wonders for not getting lost in a self-destructive mindset. Why get lost in self doubt or pitty when one can look at the situation from a far, giving oneself a new perspective to help work through the struggles with a laughing heart? I am grateful for your concern because ignoring problems just makes things worse. Please know I guess I just did not explain myself well :)

[@user-xk9cr3mu3k]

@@maintyB I'm not very open to say things like this in this way but I really admire the way you think. You might have just given me the new perspective..Thank you

[@maintyB]

@@user-xk9cr3mu3k you are most welcome:) Thank you for reaching out. It feels amazing to know you can use this point of view and I wish you a bunch of fun with it :D

[@user-xk9cr3mu3k]

@@maintyB :) oh my god sorry for guessing right away n asking but are you an enfp by any chance? Most enfps i know are as open and welcoming as you n have similar views. Sorry if you find this overgeneralising, still learning how to type ppl

[@Kinda_SUS]

You hit me hard on that one,being afraid or wary of people... that's true. I'm a pretty clumsy person and most of the time I don't even notice I'm hurting others until they tell me (bcsI suck at reading social cues). Nowadays people are more sensitive than before about certain topics,and not everyone is patient when you have a different opinion (and,as stared in another comment,trying to maintain the harmony can be tiring). In conclusion, people are scary -istp

[@aprilw2287]

I'd say my biggest insecurity as an INFP is being misunderstood and therefore being supposed stupid. I speak words that make complete sense to me and am almost always misunderstood. I actually work at being clear and concise, I know that everyone doesn't speak the same "language" as me, but I feel like I'm still misunderstood. And again, it's not the misunderstanding itself that bothers me, but the resulting (presumed on my part) assumptions that I'm less intelligent than I am. Of course, this is compounded by my feeling like I am never educated enough on a topic, no matter how much I study, to truly be an expert.

[@LL-muddy1]

INxJ: Nathan you nailed it. I could construct the 'perfect' plan, wait 5 yrs for the perfect moment, only to realize the *best* moment (although imperfect) has already past. I'm also surprised by how quickly people let things or possibilities go. I'll dig in forever & wait for the hard work to yield, only to find others left the building a long time ago...

[@blehhism]

feeling attacked, yet understood, once again 😭😭 -intj

[@Velvet003]

ENTJ here. Everything you said was on point especially personally the "big personality" thing. Sometimes I sense that I am overwhelming the person in front of me as I'm trying to help them and instead it shows me as a bad guy in a weird way. I have one of my friends who's an INFP, we used to be very close friends but then as I grew in my life socially and academically he started to slowly withdraw and disappear from my everyday life. Refusing to talk to me that much and been like that for almost 2 years no matter how much I tried to bring things back to normal. Later on I realized it's the big personality effect that just makes people fear to get closer to me as I grow. I can't help but feeling I've been a bad person to them maybe at some point and makes me insecure a little.

[@Sharkuterie327]

ENTJ do have big personalities... every single one I have met has that going on, and it can be intimidating (but also really awesome!). Yet, if you are aware of the effect you might have, you can head off misunderstandings with more “delicate” folks.

[@frogturko]

8:44 Yeah, Eren Jaeger would like to agree with you

[@Sly-Moose]

There's nothing like listening to Nathan's lovely voice for a solid 9 minutes while eating cereal first thing in the morning.

[@monstershug1359]

I wish I was eating a delicious breakfast... I’m eating jelly bellies ;(

[@randomantguy24]

@@monstershug1359 you have my sympathy

[@sayin234]

Beginning your day with talk about insecurities huh, very nice :)

[@MM-gk1tm]

As usual you have the best ESTJ takes. It's rare to feel understood on the MBTI channels. Thanks again, -Mike

[@sofixiia]

As an INTJ, this hit me hard because I do have performance anxiety.

[@kreole7376]

Excellent description about ESTJs.

[@DragonshotProductions]

6:34 yeah my dads an ENXJ, probably ENTJ, every time I’m feeling really down I go to my mom to cry bc Ik my dads gonna make it into a big thing and see how he can help, but I feel conflicted with it because as an INXJ, still figuring it out, I love figuring out problems on my own and although I know how much my dad is trying to help, I just need like 5 minutes to rant to my mom so I can go in with my day lmao. My advice to ENTJ’s and ESTJ’s: we love y’all. You’re amazing, okay, and we don’t doubt you’re intelligence, but just saying, people can also figure out problems on their own and sometimes people just need a bit of emotional support. That might feel irrational to you, which we get, but just go out of ur comfort zone a bit for a sec to understand this. Still tho y’all are amazing keep up the good work.

[@neetpride5919]

INTJ confirming your assessment was accurate for me. My friend keeps trying to make our conversations into a podcast and I keep refusing because I don't want to seriously commit to live performances. So much easier writing and being able to make my thoughts perfect before I send it into the world

[@ravdl37]

I thought ahead at the beginning of the video to what my insecurities are as an INFP. You are literally spot on. Even the in- depth details about how we struggle to "pounce" and pursue the things we want... lol. It's amazing how accurate this is.

[@styloroc2000]

I feel we might have a different interpretation of what entails an insecurity. While I think dealing with emotions (of your own and others) is a weakness for an INTP, I'm not sure if it's so much an insecurity -- I think INTPs are well aware that they don't function well under those circumstances and often do little to hide it and avoid those situations as much as possible. As an INTP, I feel my greatest insecurity is the reconciling the reality of not knowing enough or not being logical enough. I constantly have to battle between being "an expert" (esp in my job) and knowing that I can't possibly know everything or fearing that I may have made a mistake in my logical reasoning -- a form of imposter syndrome; I fear this much more than having to deal with feelings. That said, having to reconcile those opinions with emotion, of course, can exacerbate insecurity.

[@paulakrumin8]

Agree with your infp insecurities. 2020/2021 are doing a number on me since I don't like to intentionally rock the boat but I WILL NOT be coerced into doing things against my own better judgment.

[@flusel4949]

As an INFJ I feel that so much! Performance anxiety is something I struggle with a lot! And I realised the more time I have before the presentation to worry about it the worse it gets. Funnily enough the one thing I don‘t have that much performance anxiety about (in comparison to everything else) is actual “performing”, so things like singing or dancing in front of people.

[@Moezychan]

ISFJ here, and you're completely spot on! I freakin HATE change. I can adapt to it when there's good reason to and I have time to adjust but having to adapt immediately...that has always been a struggle of mine. I hate dealing with chaos and surprises.

[@misseva7404]

I feel this in my bones. :) I can look back to early childhood and remember the crushing sense of loss over the smallest things changing. Even when I think I have it handled, I still find as an adult that I have to consciously coach myself to look on the bright side instead of the "we're all gonna die" side when accepting even minor changes to my life patterns and routines.

[@Bojanarules]

I would agree haha... I think that many people find ISTJ ruthless. As I am one of them, that may be the true. But we don't do it with ill intentions. We are just too direct for other peoples taste. Sometimes it is hard to accept the truth, so when you serve it to people directly they find it offensive. I encountered few times such situations at work. I work in medical field. Being structured, organized and knowing what you are doing is essential. After all other peoples live is in your hands. So when other workers make a mistake not once but many times you can't simply be gentle towards them and say "ohh dear it is fine, you just gave a patient wrong dose of medicine (or gave totally wrong medicine) but it will be ok (and you pet them on their shoulder)". In ISTJ's mind it doesn't work like that. You can be nice once or twice and consider their emotions and how they will feel after that. Especially if they are new we might consider their inexperience and be more kind and gentle towards them as long as they show willingness to learn. But if someone make mistakes over and over again simply because that person doesn't want to take the job seriously or whatever the reason is, then this person have to hear the truth. This is maybe partly because ISTJ's take their job seriously and don't like lazy people or irresponsible people. Usually we spare them no words and that is the problem haha.

[@theadultsaretalking2582]

ISTP- ON THE SPOT. The reason I struggle so much maintaining new friendships is because i get over concerned about crossing lines. It’s very hard to personally offend me and my boundaries are almost nonexistent, so I’m often clueless about what others consider inconvenient. On top of that, I’m not used to being cautious with my words. People I’m close to know that even if what i say appears rude, offending them is rarely my intention. But strangers don’t know that and I don’t want to go around being an insensitive jackass, specially with the people I’m trying to befriends. This whole situation of having to guess and read emotions makes me overwhelmed and i eventually get annoyed of worrying so much, isolating myself.

[@ursomrano542]

I gotta say by biggest insecurity is having to rely on others for something. I know that may make me seem like an awful person but too many times have I had to rely on someone only for them to not be helpful and/or to make me even more confused than before. Too many times have I been put in a group project that isn’t due for a long while and they just ignore the project until 10 minutes before it’s due and then be mad at me because I did the whole project a few days prior out of stress and fear. And maybe that ties to me being an ISFJ and that fear of chaos factor that you mentioned because when people procrastinate something I become fearful of the chaos that will happen on the day it’s due so take matters into my own hands to avoid that chaos.

[@pastelpink1234]

Watching these and feeling surprised. Its not an insecurity its just who you are and its amazing (i havent yet reached the part where u talk abt my type)

[@Lea-ov8vq]

As an INTP, I feel guilty all the time when I'm around others

[@absolutfx]

I constantly feel impostor syndrome.

[@angels5449]

why guilty though?

[@chrisb9143]

I feel guilty when people worry for me, but I don't care when I disregard their emotions

[@caioramos8454]

@@angels5449 im not him, but it is the feeling that you shouldnt be there, that your presence is making people unconfortable, that you being there is making people avoid really talking about what they want etc. I wouldnt call it guilt tho, more like anxiety or the feeling that everybody hates you or think you're arrogant etc then i hate myself for not making any sense

[@chilomotor]

@@caioramos8454 Yeah I think you explained it pretty well. this is how I feel too

[@anastas_aleksandrov]

as an INFP I can only add that we can be really afraid of being misunderstood, yes, but only for specific, 'special' people, our closest one, not even family members, but very good friends. when my best friends act like they have never understood why I can be so harsh & stubborn in some questions, it upsets me very much. and, speaking about me, I'm not against of being called an outcast, but not a weak person. that can insult me really hard. I don't know whether it's our common trait.

[@duonghan4782]

it's true - ISTJ. Yeah sometimes i meet myself in the situation unintentionally offend people with their social smoothness :)

[@eliseesbjornsson4981]

As an INTJ I definitely have a lot of performance anxiety. I am a perfectionist and I hate when something doesn’t go as I’ve already planned.

[@megha8130]

The war INFPs go through is the war inside them and not outside. I honestly can write and bleed all my pain but when it comes to speaking, I feel even if I try, people will just never understand it as deeply as I feel them.

[@andyszlamp2212]

Every time you describe ENTP you describe me so well 😭

[@matthew3774]

ISTP - one of my big ones is people plotting or conspiring against me. Every day coincidences and random unexplainable things trigger my tertiary Ni which is ridiculously underdeveloped. As a result if my logical mind cannot figure something out my underdeveloped Ni will start connecting events subconsciously and will then send its faulty conclusions over to my Ti function to sift through and analyse. This results in many hours of my waking life being spent overthinking erroneous conclusions that my Ni has dreamed up, about friends not liking me, people being out to trip me up or catch me making a mistake, people cracking my email or social media accounts, or just out on a mission to shut me down. If im busy working my Ni will suddenly come up with this weird FOMO on these imagined things that people might have done. This makes me compulsively check all my social media many times a day. Its very tiring and I wish I could have an actually useful tertiary function instead of this

[@HaotoAnimeOnPiano]

Oh, so this has to do with our 3rd, 4th & 7th function. Extremely anxious performance INFJs & INTJs : We're not perfectionists, we're just struggling to even do things properly.

[@NathanLorenzana]

ENTJ going through the worst depression in recent years after a very close person said about me casually "Some friends you make think you're kind, honest and a good person because they haven't spent enough time with you". More than 2 days have passed and can't get over this.

[@monstershug1359]

What a shitty thing to say WTF. Don’t let it bother you. If they actually thought you were a horrible person they wouldn’t be close to you. Keep doing your ENTJ thing that us IXXP types are so jealous of.

[@SimoneEppler]

That's so harsh! So sorry that happened to you. What kind of person would say such a thing? 😩

[@andrewmarman9655]

Hang in there boah.

[@gadnihasj]

The closest person can be the most blind to your true nature. Some people never manage to feel the warmth they think they need from a close ENTJ. But this is not because the ENTJ lacks love. It's failed communication, which both parts may have only partial responsibility for. I hope that person isn't someone you have close blood ties to. That would hurt so much.

[@angels5449]

wtf there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with that close person

[@gingerlove7739]

My insecurities and fear will start when Nathan stops making videos 😵😊

[@jsmith317]

The more I'm listening to your insightful videos, the more I'm understanding what my type is as well as those around me. I relate to ISTP in so many of your videos, but this nailed it. I was once asked what drew me to my INTJ hubby. My answer: He doesn't hold back from telling the truth. Their response: "His opinion anyway." My response: "Yes, and that's what I want. No guessing games over what he thinks." Theirs: "Well, you sure got what you wanted." (smirk) My INFJ side got all their added communication between the lines. My ISTP/INTP/INTJ side secretly said: "That's why I am happy living with him, and why you would not be."

[@Wesley_Peter_Redmond]

I have two types, ISTP & ISFP. They are both very accurate. So if you encounter someone that is one of these types please be cautious around them. It is easy, for me at least, and based on what he said, for us to feel betrayed, to feel unwanted, and for our opinions to be viewed as unimportant. It can possibly cause problems of depression, a dislike for people, and even a hate for ourselves and the way we are. So again please be careful around both ISFP's and ISTP's.

[@K3N0PS1A92]

Thank you.

[@Wesley_Peter_Redmond]

@@K3N0PS1A92 👍

[@elisa4620]

Struggling with execution. Oh yeah. There are some creative projects dear to my heart that I have a hard time truly starting to do because I fear not being prepared enough or not capable enough to do them as well as I want. And real life necessities too, like paperwork, remembering the laundry in the washing machine, etc.

[@vm44844]

Excellent Nathan, this would make a great counselling video for most of the people I know. I recall once a person said that the dominant function usually seeks to master the inferior, in a kind of quest like way. It's often a driving force in the background urging them and weighing them in a sense. Though I wonder why people should feel insecure in the first place, aren't we just trying to measure up to a construct created by society, that you need "this and that" to be a complete person.

[@FartherReach]

I got interested in astrology when I was 7 years old, not so I could predict the future, but because I loved the archetypes, the system of archetypes, and the idea of a system of archetypes. Being brought up in a strictly atheistic, maniacally empirical household, this was new to me. I can sort of also mark this as about the time when I disappeared into my head (or up my own ass, as the case may be) and completely lost touch with the real world. Performance anxiety, yes, it's a thing.

[@meganpoff5555]

😱 as an INFJ I feel called out! 👀

[@noel_is_notwell]

0:34 I don't know. . .if I should thank you for that, but I suppose if I have insecurities I can actively work on them? Optimism is great. :D

[@catherinelavarre7050]

He goes ESTP and ESFP: directionless and loss of freedom and I’m like excuse me that’s us ENFPs and then I’m like NEVERMIND he sums up why I fear those things which is my fear of being stuck in the old and in a rut. He’s too on point 😂

[@RosheenQuynh]

Hit it right on the nail with the INFP insecurity... It's part of why I am hesitant to change my pfp, even though it'd get me less hate.

[@SimoneEppler]

"You can have as many as you like" - Why, thanks Nathan! 🥰🤣🤣

[@letfreedomring7330]

I've always been afraid of the unknown. As I've matured, it's manifested as a fear of failing to anticipate some possibility which will be detrimental. My fear of offending people has also grown with my maturity as I've become increasingly aware of this "blind spot." - ISTJ

[@minifred2815]

I'm an intj/istj I'm the sort of if it ain't broken dont fix it, however in turn I'm super in my head, and a complete perfectionist

[@rickwrites2612]

"Ideas for them are dopamine hits, especially compared to the drudgery of carrying them out." Damn you got my #. (enfp)

[@saritasarit]

Oh my... ENFP here and grass is greener syndrome is where im always are but in a inspirational way. I don’t want “perfection” but i love the road to it... I don’t want to just stay stagnant.

[@dominoot2652]

ENFP and can relate a lot to both ours and the INFP one. Compromising values does feel like betrayal to ourselves, thats exactly how it is.

[@user-hf1hb8pd7k]

Damn that’s accurate as fuck. - INTJ

[@relisa96]

If you see an ENTP that says they don't have a sleeping problem or it doesn't take them at least an hour to fall asleep when tired... They are a lier.

[@sushigooo8061]

Or not entp...

[@Jasmin-sm7ce]

INTPs and INFJs do this too but xNTxs do it more than other types .

[@spring7643]

@@Jasmin-sm7ce especially INFJs in a lööp

[@Jasmin-sm7ce]

@@spring7643 INFJs and INTPs both do that because they over think a lot and xNTx types are the most likely to be extremely deep thinkers . For example me (An INTP ), I'm always thinking about everything and live inside my head , it doesn't mean that I don't talk with my family.....but I just think about anything by myself without sharing my ideas. Plus, my friend is an INFJ , so I understand you .

[@MIKA55219]

Literally

[@alextrifko5277]

ENTP here, frickin true, you do your research XD

[@CaveyMoth]

7:15 That's funny, because an ENTJ I work with often asks, "Life in the fast lane?" When starting conversations.

[@victoriabugado6272]

For female intuitive types (or maybe just me?), there is an insecurity of feeling like you don't quite fit into the role society has for you. The ideal woman in our society has high Si, so when your laundry sits in the dryer for a week, or you run out of milk you feel like you have failed as a woman.

[@liadanryan-gerhardt7189]

Daamn girl, you really had to hit me like that😅 Haha jk. No but really, you seriously said a truth many of us subconsciously felt but couldn't quite materialise into coherent thoughts like this.

[@victoriabugado6272]

@@liadanryan-gerhardt7189 Lol :). We have this thing lurking in our subconscious from, I don't know, the Victorians or something, that men have the ideas and women are the organizers. I was a stay-at-home mom for several years, so I was really feeling it for a while there. But it's something I've been thinking about lately because I recently read The Parable of the Talents by Octavia Butler. If you haven't read it, the main character is a woman who has a big idea that changes the world, and she is basically punished by her family for not giving up on it when the going got tough. I don't think her husband would have received the same treatment if the roles were reversed. It made me a little angry that the author treated the character this way.

[@spring7643]

I have to make myself aware of the sensory, and it's actually working! I do have my slips here and there but overall I'm much more productive, eating healthier meals also improved my energy for mundane tasks. Junk "food" made me a sloth for way more years than I would like to admit lol

[@draug7966]

I think male intuitives or types with low Se and/or Te feel something similar about not being good at fixing or building stuff.

[@Curlylocked]

I think it's not just intuitive types. I have those thoughts too. I'm an ESTP. But maybe it's because of the Society, and not us.

[@michelledoan4447]

“The grass is always greener on the other side.” Man, that hits hard, Nathan! - ENFP

[@RheaBoo1]

You are my favorite mbti channel. I'd love to see you have a discussion/collab with Frank James

[@lebohangmofokeng4480]

yoh I'm an INFJ and you are so right I am working on an online business I was supposed to start last year but I was focusing on quality cause I thought my drawings suck ad needed more time I would be hella embarrassed if some of the people passing by my Instagram thought: "commissions? this artist wannabe thinks I'm throwing my money at this?! WTF" I'm just gonna do it now i think work is good enough now👉👈

[@Sharkuterie327]

Do it! 👍 Don’t let imaginary critics get in your way.

[@lebohangmofokeng4480]

@@Sharkuterie327 ok thank you😆I'm gonna do it

[@louisejoel]

Conceited abstract artists don't even think about whether they are good enough as they sip the champagne resulting from their success in a completely subjective industry. That's it, I'm making some art.....INTP

[@lebohangmofokeng4480]

@@louisejoel thank you

[@johnny_roots]

ENFJ - spot on! And I also share the same ones as INFJ lol

[@christineherrmann205]

Ditto. They must have been having some sort of 2-for-1 sale; "Buy one insecurity, get the second function free!"

[@johnny_roots]

@@christineherrmann205 LOL I guess we did!

[@someareroses]

intj - trying to remember ever being satisfied with the completion of a project or the realisation of a plan... Never!

[@Nina21_]

As an INFJ this was super accurate ! And the whole video was so insightful ! Thank you so much for this great content

[@abbyanderbard]

Hey fellow perfectionistic Intjs and Infjs, the book Too Perfect by Mallinger and DeWyze is ex👏cell👏ent👏 :)

[@Sharkuterie327]

Thank you!

[@angels5449]

Thanks a lot!

[@kristlecasey9506]

I think I've finally settled it. I'm an INFP. when hearing about INTP and being emotionless I was like eww what? But now ik. Hey guys!

[@qmagicam]

Ahhh lovely present for my birthday! And yes grass is greener is very much my problem. It's tricky to be content when you're not sure if "this is all there is". :)

[@hollo0o583]

That’s why I’m afraid of the people close to me like friends, family, coworkers, higher ups and acquaintances (in declining order) while I absolutely wouldn’t mind doing the most embarrassing or rude things in a place with a bunch of random people I’ll never meet again. (Like running naked across the Times Square. I would totally do it for 200 bugs!) -ISTP

[@TheQwuilleran]

no~ Major FOMO pretty much sums up the ENTP experience

[@Sly-Moose]

INFP here, and that was spot on. Did you just understand me?-

[@nedbates]

It is fascinating to think that I don't even need several friends of mine to do the Myers-Briggs to know what types they are based solely on the insecurities you've enumerated and expounded upon here! Bravo and thank you!

[@notforapanpam5602]

That is SO true: "Just letting it go and going into hulk mode." There really is no in between.

[@sharpiesarecool814]

So their insecurities are a mixture of the weakness with their inferior function AND their polr/blindspot

[@lovewho]

I would say that's a good basis for it yes! ~ Nathan

[@nuans9800]

i’m an intj and have been diagnosed with performance anxiety disorder earlier this year. literally spot on.

[@zale8829]

Are you better now?

[@nuans9800]

@@zale8829 I don't have any event to cause me to be panic rn (partially because of my medication) but I still get a sense of anxiety before implementing a project although I definitely have sufficient plans and information in hand.

[@aylinyakhyazade2433]

Intj one is so on spot. I just can’t talk to people whatever I say they take to heart. And I don’t get why.

[@_thomas1031]

Probably THEE most in depth and accurate video you've done (atleast with my type, Isfj) Well done🙌🙌🙌

[@enfieldjohn101]

My insecurities, most of the time, center around physical and emotional pain. I tend to do everything I can to avoid experiencing these kinds of pain and also to avoid inflicting it on others. Sometimes, the stakes of a situation seem so high to me that it is worth risking hurting someone's feelings in order to tell them the truth about the situation. I feel guilty about having done so after the crisis has past. I spend a lot of time apologizing to people for hurting their feelings once the situation is resolved and the damage that I had anticipated has been successfully avoided (in the best case scenarios), or at worst at least mitigated if it occurred anyway. I also have a number of phobias (heights, crowds, loud noises, arguing, fighting, aggressive animals, heavy machinery, heavy traffic, driving fast, all you can eat buffets, dirty restrooms, etc.) that sometimes hamper my life. I'm not quite as limited by them as Adrian Monk was in his excellent detective show, but there are times when I do feel almost paralyzed by them. I used to wonder why I was afraid of so many things, but I've figured out over the years that they all stem from this fear of pain.

[@er-s428]

8:24 That is so accurate and applicable for me