How to Cope Emotionally with Hair Loss

If you feel depressed or not quite yourself, I strongly encourage you to seek out support, whether from a close friend, family member or therapist. Hair loss is extremely isolating, please don't go through this alone, it only makes the burden heavier. Feel free to reach out to me over Instagram @lylahkay, I'm not a psychologist, therapist, or anything of the sort, but I am more than happy to offer a kind ear, and support in any way that I can.
VIDEO RECAP
MIND:
- refocus your attention on yourself, not in comparing yourself to others
- everyone has challenges they face, this may just be your hurdle to overcome
- think about all of the other things that make you beautiful
- remember, you're not alone, so many people deal with hair loss, we're just all really good at covering it up!
BODY:
- take care of your body, your hair may actually thank you for it
- healthy/nutritious foods combined with daily exercise do wonders for increasing our metabolism (for weight loss, more energy, etc), and for a better mood/positive mindset
- having a healthy body and mind will equip you with the foundation to overcome and deal with your emotions
SOUL:
- thoughtful reflection on what you DO have
- think about those you love who are still with you
- appreciate being healthy and not having other health issues
- practice gratefulness, consider everything that makes your life special
And remember, tomorrow's a new day, a new chance to refocus, to love yourself a little more, to start fresh. So, if you need today to cry, to be angry, to be resentful, it's okay, we all have our days. But tomorrow, tomorrow is YOURS.
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[@teahgurl]

I’m over here crying. Ppl will say “it’ll grow back” ... They just don’t get the devastation of losing your hair especially at once

[@steffmejia9971]

I started losing my hair at 13-14, I was so hurt. Back then it wasn’t that bad but when a classmate pointed out a bald spot near my crown, I was hurt. Currently 21 and I’ve lost so much hair since then, my hair use to be thick full and beautiful, and now it is thin and sparse. I just bought a topper and I’m trying to find the courage to wear my topper when I’m with those I know at work. I can relate very much and have brought myself down when I see women with such gorgeous hair. My biggest insecurity and I’ve quieted down to not bring attention to myself. I’ve been looking at videos to help me wear it, and I feel inspired to be able to wear it to work. I just need to accept it and I’m glad I’m able to do so. Thank you, you’ve changed my perspective and I will embrace myself ❤️

[@Kaesia]

Ahhhhhh amazing💕💕 Look, you're allowed bad days, but you're also allowed to live your best life, and you're only 21, you have so much living to do, don't let your hair loss define you, limit you, or hurt you anymore, you're so much more than that.

[@naturully]

hi Lylah, thank you SO MUCH for this video I really enjoyed listening to you being so honest. Since I lost a bunch of hair after going on birth control I have had the same feelings - I can’t stop looking at other women’s hair and thinking how everyone else’s is so much thicker than mine. On bad days I can get really bogged down in a negative mindset - how jealous I feel and how unfair it seems. But then I remind myself that everyone has something that they feel like they lack in - other people with thick hair might be looking at me thinking, it’s so unfair that she has xx or xxx and I don’t. Everyone focuses and amplifies their negatives like crazy, making us irrational and completely forgetting about all the positives in our lives and the things we are just born and blessed. On the flip side, if you look for your positives, you will find those too - and I always try to remind myself that we have control over that choice. Thanks so much again for the video xxx

[@Kaesia]

Its so important to reflect on what we DO have, so happy you're looking at things positively and can take comfort in the other blessings you have!🙂💜

[@mirkaignjic7132]

Layla you're beautiful both the inside and outside. You have never been afraid to show us your scalp and the state of your hair. You've introduced us fibers and demostrated how to apply it so no one can guess it's real. Then you tried toppers and wigs for others who can't use fibers. Girl you rock! I hope you understand your mission on the Earth - you're special (hair) agent for all the girls who are afraid to talk about it, to start finding the solution. Thank you and I wish you all the best in your life and future. For me, you are a true celebrity.

[@Kaesia]

Wow, don't know what I did to deserve such a lovely message, but thank you. Its so reassuring and encouraging to read messages like these, videos like this are hard for me, but its so good to know I'm doing some good. Thank you for the love and clearly genuine appreciation for what I do💜, I hope you dont mind but I reposted this on my Instagram stories (blurred your photo and name) as I am just so humbled by this sweet message!!

[@etc20292]

Hey, I am an 18-year-old guy actually, but since most of the male - hair loss videos are really negative. I decided to check this one out, and I am glad I found what I am searching for, a way to make myself feel better about my-self whatever happens with my hair. Thank you!

[@Kaesia]

It makes me SO happy that I could help!!

[@najnaj6603]

I've been awfully upset about my sudden hair shedding and my wide parting. I really needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing. You've really enabled me to breathe and embrace it. Love ya!

[@pratiti9810]

How are you doing now

[@ayaadel3808]

Thanks alot Lylah for this video ❤️

[@AAAF2010]

Thank you! Yes - so important to connect with others!

[@traciecooper6905]

Morning lylah...thank you I really needed that I was really struggling yesterday but today hopefully 🙏 is going to be better ❤

[@VictoriaAbernethy]

Thank you so much for taking the time to create this video. I've been suffering with hair loss for 2 years now, no one can tell me why. It's a shock, and no one talks about it so I had no idea how to deal with it. I've just had a mini meltdown after trying to style my hair and found this video while hiding from the world in bed. It has helped a lot. I will definitely be taking your advice. I would just like to add that your hair is beautiful.

[@barrazjazz]

Gratitude over daily blessings is key. Amen.

[@FallingSkywardz]

Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this side of hair loss that no one really shares. I also don't really have a close female friend, and it sucks cuz men sometimes don't understand things that we need to talk and cry about lol. You are clearly a beautiful woman inside and out, and I would have never guessed you have thin hair or hair loss.

[@HelenAvery]

Thank you so much for this! I also am part of the hair loss community and make KZbin videos about women's hair loss on my channel, but I still love watching other women talk and share so publicly about the experience. Lylah, you're doing such a great job helping women. Hugs! (I'm also from Toronto!)

[@dazzelpebbels1207]

This is such a beautiful video. Thank you so much for it. I am going currenlty going through hair loss and these type of vidoes really make it easy.

[@Kaesia]

Happy to have helped even if in a small way, it's hard, but you're definitely not alone.

[@lanastevens2129]

You are so incredibly strong! Thank you for sharing this with us. You are gorgeous and inspiring.

[@Kaesia]

Thank you so much!

[@elizabethzuver9702]

I am so grateful for this. You are a beacon of hope. And very beautiful inside and out!

[@Kaesia]

Aw thank you so much for the love 💜

[@alisonezard9328]

Thank you so much for this video, Lylah! Yours were some of the very first videos I watched immediately following my diagnosis with AGA (within the first few hours!), and watching you grow and become a mom has been more inspiring and important to me than I can put into words. The content you make is literally life saving, and I am so grateful to you for sharing such an intimate part of your life and yourself with us.

[@Kaesia]

Thank you so much for the love, and for sharing this journey with me!! Its honestly so amazing to feel a part of community of people, and be able to share my story in this way. Thank you for listening lol💜🙊

[@shilpie95]

Thank you so much for this 🤍

[@pohchibushu8816]

thank you for making me(and i’m sure so many other women/people) feel less alone. true beauty, grace, and bravery, thank you ❤️ like you said, most important is to just BE GRATEFUL! i cry about it sometimes, but i accept this being my struggle when things really could be worse. Be blessed💟☮️🧿

[@Kaesia]

thank you for the love! its hard to rise above our challenges, but we cant let them define or diminish our worth💜

[@cityof96]

very brave! thank you for sharing

[@sheridanruth4583]

It's easy to see so many people hiding their alopecia and running from the reality of it. It's really refreshing to get to a space like this where many others are just willing to share their process, and stories, and experiences. Thank you for sharing your own, and for providing a space for many others that want to speak about it too. This sense of community is very valuable.

[@drumbun6622]

Thank you for sharing your journey. I am very sad because of my hair loss condition. I am trying to see it differently but my hair was/is the most beautiful feature on me. I have androgenetic alopecia propably. The dermatologists I ve' met are indifferent and they immediately give strong medications like menoxidil and finasteride without explaining anything. I wish you health, happiness and strength.

[@arianecarvalho8874]

Love everything about this video and all you talked about. It’s the most raw truth about dealing with hair loss. It’s frustrating, sad and you go through so many phases into the process . However , looking from another perspective , from the grateful side of things and acknowledging all the beautiful things we have in life other that spending so much energy on one unique thing (hair loss) is just a waste of our precious time here on this earth. God made us all beautiful and even in the scriptures we can read that he knows every single strand of hair that we have and we are way more valuable than it. May we find grace and reasons to be thankful. Thank you for all the beautiful information you share with us.

[@Kaesia]

Thank you for watching, and taking this message away, I do hope it helped 🙂💕

[@SherrySayss]

I love this video ❤️

[@preeti-bq7st]

I can totally relate to this

[@jenn23love]

Wow it takes a lot to speak on this, thank you for sharing!

[@Kaesia]

It took me a longggggg time to do this video for that reason!

[@jenn23love]

@@Kaesia have you tried a derma roller/ micro needling? it can take a year before you see results, but there are a lot of videos on yt showing that it works!

[@nidakhan-qr5hr]

Thank you so much Your video make me feel better 🥰

[@Kaesia]

YES!!!! That's all I want from this video, keep your head up 💜💜

[@swethakumar9129]

Your hair is not at all thin...enjoy having this😊❤❤❤

[@mazzlet]

You are glowing, you look so beautiful

[@Kaesia]

Thank youuu🙏😊

[@lahari_1016]

I’ve heard many things about the PRP treatment for people with androgenic alopecia! you should try it and create a vid abt it too!

[@fazilathkhan19]

Thank you so much

[@SarahLuv10]

Hey Lylah - I don’t have an Instagram but I have been dealing with hair loss after a stressful year I have had. I feel like I can’t go to anyone in my family or even my husband because they all don’t see it and are frustrated with me. I never have felt so alone about anything emotionally. I am now losing sleep over this and I feel like I am losing myself.

[@Rodrigjz]

Your hair looks really nice. Are you wearing a topper?

[@Kaesia]

Thank you!! I'm not, what I did here is I did a deeper side part from the opposite side I usually part, resulted in a ton of volume!

[@starsighting7167]

I think not comparing is number one thing, especially as a 21 year old its easy to feel down when people ur age have thick full hair but life is more than that

[@chibba]

you are still very attractive. My hair is very similar to yours. It's thinning, but I can hide the front bald part, but since I used rogaine, I started losing more hair in the front, so I stopped using it. Now my front scalp is shown when I am exercising because of the sweat or heavy wind. The back is pretty bad too, but with proper hair style and a shampoo with thick hair makes it look decent for me. But once you look at my back, you know I am kinda balding. Sigh. I am male 30 years old. Losing since high school (genetics or where I live probably), but I exercise and eat healthy to maintain the hair, but since I started working, I have way too many cheat days, so I guess it's speeding it up. Your hair looks thicker than before though!

[@branium]

I can relate

[@akanksharawat3168]

What kind of alopecia do you have? I have androgenic and never stopped since 10 years..want to shave so badly.should I use rogains?

[@Tattygoldfish35]

I’m 17 year old guy and I started to grow my hair out during August. I never had a haircut that I liked until now. But now that I was finally happy with it. I’m pretty sure my hair is falling out I’m getting emotional just writing this. I don’t know what to do I’ve become very sad maybe even depressed. It’s falling out slowly at the left side of my head. I started noticing during mid March. I’m only 17 man why me I see older dudes and they have normal hair and it makes me feel sad

[@Kaesia]

It sucks, I have no words that can make it easier for you. All I can say is my thinning started at 17 too, but it got really bad at 24, so I totally understand. Try fibers! Maybe it'll help hide the thinning? And try realllllllly hard not to stress, dont be depressed, dont beat yourself up, PLEASE. That negativity will do you, your hair, and your life no good. You now have a sucky obstacle you have to overcome, some days will be easy and some will be tough, but you'll overcome it.

[@sarahjahangir8720]

Hello. I have been reading about prp(platelet rich plasma)have you tried that or if you can help me? I have had alot of hairloss due to pcos and there isn't sign of significant hair growth. Alot of people are saying it does work on androgenic alopecia.

[@Kaesia]

I havent tried it personally but saw the results first hand at the clinic I went to, seems to work well, BUT you gotta control the underlying cause for hair loss, otherwise the additional growth may very well thin out all over again

[@sarahjahangir8720]

@@Kaesia ohhh ok. Thank you so much for replying.

[@patriciaposey5510]

Just hard to see your hair fall out a lot in the shower like chunks . I’ve been dealing with it longer than a year. I’m getting treatment but just hard to see my hair go away . But your right stop comparing. It’s killing me because I never did that until my hair loss.

[@user-ss6do8io1d]

Same here

[@user-ss6do8io1d]

I am diagnosed with androgenetic alopecia

[@mayram1276]

Weren’t the Viviscal pills working for you?

[@fidelya7289]

What kind of hair loss do you have

[@91tanishaaggarwal67]

Wat was the reason for ur hair loss bful ??

[@meghasworld4609]

I am crying every second .I use minoxidil whenever I stop it my hair falls..I am not ready to accept I can't survive without minoxidil

[@rupal5348]

I saw your comments on videos of dhwani soni as well. I think we both being Indians are going through the same thing. I would like to connect to you. :)

[@meghasworld4609]

Do you also use minoxidil?

[@rupal5348]

@@meghasworld4609 haven’t used it yet. But now my hairloss is becoming more and more visible so I think i will have to use it. But it has side effects and once you stop using it hair will fall again. I am convincing myself that maybe I will have to wear wigs and I can look as beautiful as I use to look to before

[@meghasworld4609]

@@rupal5348 sorry to know...

[@rupal5348]

@@meghasworld4609 have you tried anything other than minoxidil? And is minoxidil working well for you?

[@emiwood4261]

Hey my mum’s going through chemo and I’ve tried saying she’s still beautiful but she gets so emotional and says she’s not , is there anything I could say to her to help :( x

[@Kaesia]

Oh my, I have no words, chemo is its own horrific form of hair loss that I wholeheartedly empathize with. I think reminding her that her hair doesn't make her beautiful or make her who she is. Her smile, her eyes, her hugs, her voice, her heart - that's who she is, that's where her beauty is. Hair is purely aesthetic and yes its hard, but wigs are glorious and she should definitely consider them. She is being too hard on herself, tell her not to beat herself up about her appearance when she's already being courageous and fighting a much larger battle with her body. Lots of love💜

[@emiwood4261]

Lylah Kay this honestly helps so so much thank you, im trying so hard to help her through this and your advice is going really benefit her, your such an amazing kind person 😊💕

[@Kaesia]

@@emiwood4261 💜💜

[@ramyays1288]

What is your opinion on LLLT Therapy? I'm 22 and considering spending a lot on a laser cap. Would really appreciate your pov.

[@Kaesia]

I have a laser comb, I believe laser really only works if the hair loss is due to DHT, basically it has to be genetic form if hairloss and not caused by stress, diet, birth control, or other reasons like thryoid otherwise it likely wont work. I did laser for years, I'm not really sure if it helped I honestly cant say either way as I was doing a ton of other things which helped to slow down the thinning

[@bm4867]

What about The Ordinary hair serum ?

[@barrazjazz]

Have you used it? If so, what were the results? I'm interested in trying new things besides patience...

[@lukki7ster]

@@barrazjazz i have it, used it for a couple months...cannot say i notice much difference. But honestly its not expensive, worth a try for $16

[@Kaesia]

I havent tried it, but update us on how its worked for you!!

[@bm4867]

@@barrazjazz no i decided to use minoxidil with pumpkin seed oil. wish you all the best . ill update in a few months , but i think you should try with me

[@lukki7ster]

@@bm4867 Heard good things about pumpkin seed oil. it is also good taken internally as well. Definitely update is please. :)

[@savagedonut]

As a bald guy that hates his life and balding i can tell you that you are lying to yourself, other women dont have hair problems, they just have better genetics, you must find something that you are good at so that you can love yourself, thats what i do. You can love yourself if you are extremely good at something, you are worth something in your own eyes. But yea balding sucks i feel sorry for you.

[@FB-bo3sj]

Dang i feel like im u ...