5 Signs You Might Be On The Asexual Spectrum

[@Omneyvdwatering]

I came out as Aro-ace at the age of 48 and the feeling broken had been a big part of my life.

[@trevoranderson9511]

So u don't feel broken? And with that being said is it ok to be a late bloomer in your sexuality?

[@mitaandtrishabhowmik1894]

​@@trevoranderson9511yes. Happens.

[@kattyanimations]

Happy pride to everyone!

[@lynnsaga1397]

Happy Pride☺️

[@owli-wankenobi3727]

Happy Pride, random citizen!

[@Dehlopesp]

As someone (F) who identifies as ace and has a boyfriend, I've heard so many times that I just wanna be part of the LGBT, that it's not actually a sexuality and shouldn't be included on the community, I constantly feel like an impostor. But knowing more and more about aces, I realize how, on many ocasions, I was socially pressured to be with people that I didn't want to. My bf, who only knows about asexuality bc of me, had occasionaly felt self conscious, like it was his fault or something. He's an awesome person, and I know that this comes from insecurity, and he is learning more about this. I'm sharing my story because I know that even when being in a position of privilege (people only know about it if I tell them), is normal to feel out of place. The ace community itself its awesome, and made me feel so welcome. Lynn's videos help me through that journey. Thanks so much, Lynn! ❤

[@TwilightKimvideos]

Thank you for sharing your story 🖤 I see a lot of similarity in my experience with being female ace with a male allo partner 😅

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

Do not let anyone tell you that we are not part of the umbrella community. I understand that accepting that can be kinda a struggle for some others of it without bad intentions but still: We are not heterosexual, we deserve our place.

[@Pixis1]

Thank you for this. I'm on the ace spectrum but I go through periods of impostor syndrome where I doubt myself. I still feel attraction (mostly aesthetic and emotional) and have fetishes/fantasies so I wonder sometimes if I'm not ace, just inexperienced or have a low libido. I related to many of these signs though, especially the general disinterest in sexual activity and feeling broken. I think I'm probably gray-ace.

[@aroacequeen]

It took me a while to figure out that I’m asexual. I remember finding out what intimacy was in a science book, and I thought it was disgusting. I’ve never felt sexual attraction towards a person, except for celebrities and fictional characters. I actually figured out last year that I’m fictosexual and fictoromantic, meaning that I only experience sexual and romantic attraction towards fictional characters. ❤❤❤

[@UntamedSimmer]

Same❤❤❤

[@PeterBornAgain]

That is why this new generation all has anima pics on their profiles they don't know who or what they are and are living in a fantasy hence why you are attracted to fictional characters and this is extremely unpleasing to the Lord. REPENT! Jesus Christ loves you and died for your sins. Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. - 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 A woman must not wear men's clothing, nor a man wear women's clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this. - Deuteronomy 22:5 God bless, I am praying for you. 🙏

[@wisdomrain1239]

It took me years to figure out I was Ace. I tried different things to “fit in” but it made me uncomfortable. Once I saw the term asexual I did research and it took me awhile but I eventually accepted the fact I was Ace. Many of these examples I saw I was like “yeah that’s me”. Happy pride everyone!

[@PeterBornAgain]

"Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall". -- Proverbs 16:18

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

When I was young I wanted to hang out with people of the opposite gender and talk about cartoons, but everyone around me said "girls and boys only hang out if they have crushes" gaslighting me into believing any time I wanted to hang out with someone I had a crush on them. That messed me up so much when I realized I never had a crush. **** heteronormativity.

[@DaSuTro]

4 out of 5 for me. Never felt broken in my life.

[@asobeLive]

I do appreciate the headway made with Asexuality and its vocab. If I had known this was me when I was younger, I may not have had to wrap my labido around what was seen as the norm and. eventually, unwrapping it to find what I was really doing. Being demi, like you said and for me, is about personal connection and ideas but not the rudimentary physicality. Being and unrealized ACE led to a alot and lot of isolation; however, I am glad I had the support to find love in me! That is where I found my beauty. Thank you for your effort, Lynn.

[@j4ck_c0op3r6]

Hi Lynn! I love to see this Ace rep in media and im so glad to be seeing u post like this again (especially during Pride!!!) I absolutely ADORED ur enby makeup ur sibling did and u looked absolutely fab✨ I’d also love to see some more discovery of A representation in media and to see ur reaction to it (one of my favs is Mina from My Hero, who is canonically Cupioromantic) but overall, it’s your channel and you get to choose wut and when to post! Stay safe and enjoy Pride!!!

[@mageboi]

it took me ages for me to figure out that im asexual. pretty much for as long as i can remember i never got the concept of sex and have never looked at someone and said "hey i want to have sex with you". at first i thought people only liked sex so much because they wanted kids, but then watching some more mature shows i got more confused because people were having sex but didn't want to get pregnant and were even only dating someone for sex. i always said to my parents " sex is so gross, like why would you only date someone because they're good at sex when you should date someone for their personality. " and they constantly told me "sex is a good thing you just dont get it because you're not an adult. " whenever they told me i didnt get it and didn't feel like having a sexual relationship because im too young it would make me feel like im doing something wrong since i dont understand the appeal of sex. to make it even worse my older cousin's friends talk about sex all the time and say things like " omg he is so fine i bet sex with him is awesome " and i would get laughed at for saying i dont get why people like sex and that i could live my whole life without having sex and i'd be happy. what made me realize that i'm asexual was when jaiden made that video of her coming out as aroace. jaiden is one of my favorite youtubers so when she talked about asexuality i thought it was worth researching because i related to everything she said. honestly if it wasn't for jaiden i'd still be running around confused today

[@transwomenaremale]

Many, many teenage girls don’t want to have sex.

[@dylanharris3110]

As a recently-realized greysexual person (probably???) I've faced a lot of confusion in the past year or so, especially due to the ambiguity of that label itself - it's a very weird place to be in when you don't feel like you fit neatly into one category or the other, especially when for the longest time I didn't know there WAS any kind of label for that in-between feeling. But your videos have been extremely helpful in that time, and even had a part in that initial realization. Thanks for all the awesome videos Lynn!

[@transwomenaremale]

Here’s an idea - don’t label or categorize yourself. Problem solved!

[@melodyflare5269]

I got a clearer understanding today that I might be on the asexual spectrum, and was able to come out to mom and friends, who love and support me. I've just never had many if any crushes in high school and never had any desire to be sexually active. Thank you for this video!

[@Finntoxication]

knew i would find other alastor fans here lol

[@austinhunter2853]

Ive been thinking I might be ace and. Your videos have super helpful and I just wanted to say thanks. Its amazing to have a resource like your channel to go to

[@danhurl1349]

When you’ve known your ace for ages but you’re here anyway

[@Simplyabandkid]

I *think* im demisexual or graysexual due to the fact that I’ve literally never seen someone and thought “goddamn they’re hot i want to do the deed with them”. I’ve only had one dream(?) like that about a person and it was weird the morning after. There was a moment of realization when i asked my straight, cis, allo friend how often they think about sex and she said “well… it depends ;)”. Then again I’m only a teenager, so things might change.

[@laurabenvenutofrz]

I am in your exact position, but once i saw a guy without hus short on and I was like "WOO" but then stop. I feel bad bc i would like to fall in love but i think i might be demi or grey❤❤

[@MattieCart]

I think I may be on the ace spectrum just because I'm intrigued by sexual stuff and crave it but I genuinely feel like I don't get the same experience as others. It's not as enjoyable as it seems for others. Also think it may have to do with my hypersexuality that makes me think I'm more into it than I am.

[@WowwieZowwie]

I’ve been so confused trying to figure out what I am.. I know I’m on the asexual spectrum. But I have a dirty mind, I sometimes think sexual thoughts… but I don’t feel attraction to people without getting to know them (usually). But at the same time… I sometimes also might want to be sexual with people (this is rarely). Basically. I don’t want to have smex. But I do? I don’t know. I don’t feel attraction to people BARLEY. :( Are you able to pinpoint that to something on the asexual spectrum?💔

[@kariga2263]

As a person who didn't know about the LGBTQ+ community for a long time, it opened my eyes when I first heard about the ace spect. I never had crushes, found sexual stuff disguisting and didn't find people 'hot' in this way. I do want a relationship with a person I like asthetically and emotionally. I want to cuddle and just have a great bound. If they want I would find it okey to kiss, even though it is not a thing I need. I recently came out to a few friends from school (more like people I just hang out with in school, but never after) and their reaction was, that I'm just not ready yet and with time I will feel sexual attraction. It is just a childhood thing and their much younger cousin would feel the same way. It kind of hurt. I am almost an adult, finished with puperty so it is really unlikely that this is just a children thing. And I really did a lot of research and just thinking about my sexuality.

[@joriebelle1]

I feel so seen finding out that I’m on the asexual spectrum. I’ve been struggling for years n hearing and seeing that other people feel that same feels liberating on my mind😊. I’ve always felt broken and left out watching all my friends talking about sex and I’m just not completely into it but I was fine thinking about it but the activity makes me uncomfortable n I felt weird like I didn’t belong. My friends understand me and I felt like that’s all I needed were my friends and that it I didn’t need sex n have always been comfortable with the thought of being me myself n I when it came to relationships(I’m currently in one and haven’t come out yet I’m trying to figure out if I’m aromantic as well). It feels incredible to know I’m not alone😭😭💗

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

Happy Pride 🖤🤍💜

[@Tyler16bit]

Hi Lynn! This my first tine commenting after discovering your channel recently and watching several of your ace videos, because I feel I may be ace as well. I've come to realize I've long been indifferent when it comes to sexual activity, but I could definitely go without it for the rest of my life. I'm 34, and figuring all this out kinda late, but if I am indeed ace, then I have no idea how to come out, especially since I still feel romantic attraction towards females. Enjoyed this video! Happy pride month to everyone!

[@janaa_s]

I was confused wether I was asexual or not for almost 2 years now and after watching this and the other "5 signs u might be asexual" videos I finally came to the conclusion that I am in fact asexual^^ These videos helped so much and I wanna thank u a lot for making them! :))

[@Ms.V_Official]

I clicked on this video and thought: "I show some of these signs" by the way I'm only 15 and never was attracted to anyone. Thank you so much!

[@PaulKapow]

Thank you. I'm a bit confused, but this gave me something to think about.

[@Lumi_poupette]

The funniest thing to look back on now that I know I'm asexual is how I made sense of my experiences without that knowledge. I was genuinely convinced that the reason why seeing people naked never aroused me was because I'm finnish and I've grown up having saunas regularly (with everybody naked) that over time I became desensitized and I never learned any idea that naked bodies are inherently sexual. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ I also never truly understood why public saunas had to be separated by male and female because it should have been as easy as 123 to keep it in ur pants in my mind

[@Clemclamm]

Idk why but I feel some kind of imposter syndrome, wim is that I like, you know, pleasuring myself and I was thinking that this excluded me from being an asexual but I'm starting to understand that it's OK. I really find myself in the signs in this video.

[@Clemclamm]

Well that was hard to write🙃

[@GamingPIPI]

Yes same! I find it still so difficult to determine whether I am asexual or not. Because pleasuring myself is good, and I even like fantasies… but doing it in real life, just doesn’t feel appealing to me🙈. It’s just the idea of is nice. I don’t even know if that’s asexuality. I feel so confused when I’m thinking about it. I don’t remember ever feeling that I would like to be sexual with a specific person. I’ve done it a few times but only because they wanted it and I didn’t want them to leave me. I like the cuddles. I don’t really want to sex…🙈. And I’m 25 so it’s not that I’m just a late bloomer.

[@Clemclamm]

@@GamingPIPI yes that's exactly how I feel it feels great finding someone like me😁!

[@GamingPIPI]

@@Clemclamm ohh that’s nice! But what are we?? 🤣😋👀 is it on the ace spectrum?

[@Clemclamm]

@@GamingPIPI idk I think it only applies to sex with someone

[@keyboarddancers7751]

I wonder why vids like this get so little traction?

[@kaiser6177]

Thank you so much you helped me out a bunch😊

[@laurabenvenutofrz]

Yeah i think i'm grey too. I'm a teenager that just once saw a guy without his short on and said "WOO" but than never happened something like that again. I always felt wrong bc i didn't want a bf and I still don't, but even if now i feel bad because i would like to fall in love i am accepting than i might be in the ace spectrum. Thank ypu for this video i related tk all the signs, especially the last one❤❤❤

[@misakrasicka]

I fugured i am ace around the end of November 2021. So one month before my 25th birthday. And this information helped me a lot - i always thought that i am weird since i don't m@asturbate and don't watch p0rn. I only watched porn from time to time because i thought i just had to do it so i would not be weird. Plus i came across the term "self-shipping" and "self-shipper" which means shipping yourself with fictional character or your original character. Which was again a thing i did almost all my life (although i had some crushes on real life). And trust me - after these two things i felt so relieved. I felt so relieved that i am actually a normal person. And one of your videos about asexuality was one of those i watched when googling infos about asexuality

[@hannahroedder936]

Doesn't everyone succumb to peer pressure and finally lose their virginity at 28. Came to terms with who I really am at 56; coming out to my wife as trans and ace. Still together; she says: "I love a person, not a gender". She's allo, but we make it work. If she has needs I cannot satisfy I'm OK with her getting that elsewhere. Hasn't come up yet.

[@HeyImRowen]

I love your desktop background

[@liamodonovan6610]

Yiy are a valuable person krhw needs nire open minded people like i felt every feeling you said my lack of understanding of my orientation was a big cause of my depression i wish i went to school with you you're such a lovable intelligent person love you so much

[@natureblues]

i realize now that there are sooo many signs from when i was younger to a couple years ago that make sense now. when my mom gave me 'the talk', i remember saying after "but i dont wanna do that" and sure, that could just be a kid being a kid, but there are many more moments similar to this lol, so i think yeah i am asexual. (not sure, still researching, but its looking like it c:)

[@Cameron_44]

great video yesterday was my birthday and you are a great content creator your videos always make me feel better

[@greatemu6837]

There are 3 A’s that describe my life: Asexual Aromantic Antidisestablishmentarianism

[@AlgernontheWizard]

I often experience attraction as like I'd like to be close to that person. But not I want to do the do.

[@Ariel_Kiki]

Thank you for the video Lynn 😊 I'm demisexual ❤

[@newyorknewyork196]

Happy Pride everyone

[@trevoranderson9511]

Is it offensive if someone is DEMI and uses the ASEXUAL flag etc.?

[@lynnsaga1397]

I personally don't think so I go between telling people I'm asexual or demisexual depending on the situation and demi is under the ace umbrella so I don't really see a problem with it

[@trevoranderson9511]

@@lynnsaga1397 I appreciate the reply I came across your vid and discovered I'm demi I can relate to it. It took 33 years but.. lol. know I don't feel alone and I feel understood. So anything of ACE, DEMISEXUAL, OR ASEXUAL can be interchangeable to represent demi? As far as flags, merchandise etc. If that makes sense? Cause hard to find stuff demisexual.

[@transwomenaremale]

I believe it constitutes treason and the punishment is death

[@Aashbard01]

I am a Gray Aromantic Asexual because experience occasional romantic attraction but have never experienced sexual attraction, I am not averse to talking about it however, I am repulsed at the idea of doing it myself.

[@T0ggle0n]

Can you use the asexual flag even though the gray sexual flag is there, like can you just use Ace as example of who you are in that spec?

[@Sluskey]

I'm on the Ace spec Mainly Caedsexual

[@Ariel_Kiki]

Happy pride❤😊

[@Techniciancraft66]

I have a question. I tend to have crushes on boys that I’ve only interacted with from school and/or extracurricular activities and not from anything else. Does that make me Demisexual or something close to that? I’ve been watching vids on Asexuality and I tend to relate to some of the signs. But that could just be me. I’m not 100% sure. I only really found out about this community about a year ago so 🤷‍♀️

[@kerycktotebag8164]

happy pride, im grey ace among other lgbtq+ things

[@RichardGaudry-uz2bt]

The more I look into this spectrum the more it makes sense to me and what I'm living through. For a long time I thought my lack of attraction and low interest was about some abuse I went through from age 12-14.This abuse was called education. Thing is, I was never particularly interested in first place and simply got good at acting like I was in order to fit in. I suppose the so called education may have contributed to a rrpulsion, but that has passed. Now sex is simply something O am completely fine living without. Now 5he occasional sexual attraction I may feel is kind of like a message I get in my ntain which gets filed into a read later folder which I may or may not actually look at, depending on the person pr situation. For now I'm not to worried about where on this spectrum I belong; people can be who they are with or without a specific category.

[@LightblueStar27]

I don't think I'm really asexual, but I do identify as orchidsexual, which basically means I do feel sexual attraction but I don't want to actually have anything to do with sexual activities in real life (maybe I'm aegosexual but I'm not sure). I do experience sexual attraction, it's just I treat it differently to other people.

[@nicoleviper4090]

So I've been trying to figure out my sexuality for the last year and I just want to know If I can still be Ace if I 1. find people physically attractive (mostly face, eyes, hair and clothes do it for me) but Not in a sexual way and for me it's not that I'm not bothered by sex or see its as unnecessary I actually fine it a bit gross and it makes me feel a bit odd (can't rely explain it) if I watch sex scenes in movies, and while I can sit though it I feel a bit icky?, and even kissing for example like why would anyone want to share saliva, however cuddling and holding hands is ok I think that's cute. I get the most annoyed when everyone around me is talking about wanting kids and all that and when I tell them I'm not interested at all people say "oh well that's fine you just need to find the right person or your only young you have your life ahead of you so who knows in the future you may change your mind" like no I don't want them a never will! (sorry if i sound angry) Anyone one who could give me some advice or help as i'm confused, everyone around me thinks I just need time and to find the right person but I've never been in a relationship yet and I don't feel like I need to be as I much prefer doing what I call "Window Shopping", (looking at peoples clothes and hair thinking that outfit is awesome and his face is cute but if he took of his shirt then it would be Huge turn off).So am I Asexual?

[@BookSloth]

I can't answer whether you are or aren't asexual, but I can tell you a type of attraction that sounds similar to the physical attraction you described. Aesthetic attraction is defined as "when someone appreciates the appearance or beauty of another person(s), disconnected from sexual or romantic attraction". I'm not sure if that's the word you'd use for the attraction you described, but I wanted to tell you about aesthetic attraction, just in case it helps you.

[@nicoleviper4090]

@@BookSloth Ah yes Thx it helped a lot actually I'm still trying to figure myself out so any input or knowledge is welcome, I defiantly think I look at people more for their aesthetics and personality than body or what I see a lot of others looking at them for.

[@transwomenaremale]

Why are you so obsessed with labeling yourself?

[@cliffastdieyoung]

I feel like people should understand that Sex doesnt mean penetration

[@fionawilson482]

What about if you used to feel sexual attraction. You hit menopause and anti depressants and you dont find anyone attractive. Men seem revolting. You thought maybe women. Nope to that too. Whole idea of intimacy is horrific. But you want closeness and romance with someone. Companionship. Hard for 50 something men to understand it seems. Bit lost

[@MasterTurner969]

Hmmmmm

[@missnaomi613]

Thanks for another informative video! I'm not ace, but having the information out there is important! 🖤🐘🤍💜