How Being a Challenge Plays With a Man's Emotions - The Psychology of Men

[@fembot521]

Ladies this is not a tactic, this naturally happens when you have a full life and prioritize yourself.

[@Soouber]

100%

[@takiaw1572]

Agreed 👍🏾

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

Make your life what you want in it. So you’re fine whether they stay or go. View them as a accoutrement to your life;)

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

That statement of ‘Men are problem solving machines’ Hits it thru the target! My husband said men view choosing a wife, as the goal. And then after that’s accomplished. Then it’s on to conquering support of the family unit.

[@preciousmousse]

Yep. Faking not having time comes to light sooner or later and. Chase your dreams, have experiences when you need them, and literally have other priorities than to be on an emotional rollercoaster with some broke ass divo lol.

[@cm88__ny]

This has the exact opposite effect on me. When he withdraws I lose interest and he simply will never hear from me. I’m 35. I’m not playing games with men at this big age. Either we like each other or we don’t.

[@anusha2465]

35 is big age. I am 35 and feel like 18 with 17 years experience 😂

[@876Millz]

Me too.

[@CocoaBananas23]

Well he’s talking about men. It’s not games it’s just not being too available during the dating process. Always be a woman that has something going for herself and not waiting on a man. I think he did a good job of explaining this in the video.

[@ashtonpatrice6137]

It doesn’t work the same on women…

[@beckyanderson1297]

yeah I think men and women are different. Men are hunters by nature so they like challenges and they prefer women who are hard to get but of course this woman has to be his type in the first place meanwhile as women we tend to like men who show clear interests in us and reliable, make us feel safe.

[@Aquariusly_QNatti]

If you really live your life for yourself and not center a man this will be natural. It won’t be manipulation. Value yourself and don’t let men play you.

[@sarasoda7442]

This

[@barborienka]

I would not say “control your emotions”, rather “don’t let emotions control you” Thank you for your content, Dalexis😚

[@AtouchofCHARM]

Not letting your emotions control you IS controlling your emotions

[@mavrik5840]

Women lack accountability. Be accountable, you are in control of your life

[@mamamoonie]

​@@AtouchofCHARMshe was being specific though ma'am! We live in a world we're emotions are ground upon therefore what op said is better fitting. Stop trying to be facetious because ain't nothing funny. Grow up!

[@TracysHaven]

@@mamamoonieright.

[@TracysHaven]

@@AtouchofCHARMlike she said grow up.

[@CC-pu6qn]

Some men think you’re playing, but after a bit you really don’t want them. Some men I liked, but I knew they were wrong so I became a challenge so they can go. Some people like to play games and are mad when they lose. I had one guy say, “Do you ever let anyone win.” No wonder I’ve always had a man, I’m naturally like this. Women just love yourself. Some men get shocked when you don’t chase them.

[@Apxllxn]

You seem confident saying this but I smell insecurity with a fake facade of pride. Especially the last sentence. Seems like you feel joy when you're able to shock a man, when he doesn't chase you. Might apply to some. But the majority notices it when you're playing games.

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

@@ApxllxnShe’s saying she’s done for good but somehow you think she’s playing games. Grown women are built different

[@Apxllxn]

@@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty don't get fooled by KZbin-comment-confidence

[@qosaghcalnan1045]

Exactly its called being picky and having high standards you go girl !

[@shayaeido8405]

LMAO it’s so true! Like lil mama wanna come sit on my lap?? I ain’t chasin’ no pillow princess with facial hair🤣🤣

[@kays3599]

Food is either deep in the ground, high up in a tree, or running away from you. Our instincts say that anything that’s valuable is challenging to attain.

[@meganpittman0615]

So what I hear you saying in this video is, authentic, transparent, open, kind, sincere, respectful people who don’t play mental and psychological games are “easy” and people don’t value that. Thank you for summarizing the downfall of society, specifically dating culture in 2023. I get having a full, happy life and not giving it all up right out of the gate. Some mystery creates attraction.

[@SilentPhilly]

I think we need balance. It's very good to be kind, open and so on, but with borders and love to yourself. Think it's most wanted woman for a man

[@redefinedliving5974]

Such passive-aggressiveness. You dont get it

[@mariakatsalirou4900]

I don’t play no games, no strategy and I don’t care to find nobody who operates that way. Work on yourself and people with healthy mindset and healthy ego will gravitate to each other. No trailer park trash is stressing me out, I smell clowns even before they speak and run for the hills, I focus on my money and my goals and I don’t regret a thing. Best years of my life. I am glowing from the inside out and I am more beautiful at 30 than I ever been in 23 or younger.

[@someonespecial581]

Sorry to burst your bubble hun. But the truth is, these games continue, even when you are married.

[@mariakatsalirou4900]

@@someonespecial581 you are not bursting it. I am aware of what you are saying . I am just consciously avoiding it and I’d rather stay alone unless I find that 10% or even less who is like me.

[@mariakatsalirou4900]

@@someonespecial581 I read your comment about how you are getting married thanks to this video(so not because he loves you or because he is decent and kindhearted but because of a KZbin video with manipulation tactics …also pairing that with the “games continue even after marriage “… god no something is really wrong here.

[@thewordsmith5440]

That's not true men gravitate towards all types of women confident, low self esteem, etc and the most manipulative will act to get you.

[@mariakatsalirou4900]

@@thewordsmith5440 so basically men have no standards, If it’s female it slides and the most interested will manipulate because there is no decent way to approach another person from an honest and genuine place …. No that is not how people work. Maybe the low lifes but definitely not people of value

[@angiemason7021]

I’m 49 years old and through my years of experience I will say that you are 💯 on the money about this. And the path goes both ways!

[@incognito3599]

Nah,it works better on men. Men are better with competition. Women and men are not the same🤷

[@Itspaolatina]

You are young girl! 49 is the new 39 these days!

[@mountainkid417]

@@incognito3599 yeah but it definitely works on women too (ofc if they like you/have some attraction for you) I can confirm from personal experiences

[@chiknosis]

@@Itspaolatinasince when?

[@coca1492]

@@incognito3599 it does work on both sexes because both men have masculine and feminine energy and you tap into both energy with both sexes

[@michaelpluck5406]

Ladies be very careful with this. I can tell you as a man I react the exact opposite. If you get a man that is soley driven by his ego this foolishness will work but once he's conquered the mission the thrill will be gone. Real men pursue but they never chase. I lose interest in anyone that doesn't see or respect my value and efforts. Reciprocity is important to any man with self respect and that is the only men worth having.

[@kiradomochi4961]

Same

[@sydjohnson4930]

I’m so confused.. I hate it here

[@catcat9582]

So you say

[@pickle9703]

@@catcat9582definitely true. You just want to keep chasing a woman. Game is fun and all but playing hard to get after a while gets boring

[@karollovely369]

That is what you like to believe, until it actually happens spontaneously

[@malmalgosia6702]

you're 100% right about the online context- it's completely disadvantageous to women!

[@MissSarahGM]

Yes women are the big losers of online dating/ apps..

[@munix9351]

I never put pictures up online. Ever. 😂😂

[@Love2Love927]

@@munix9351So how has that made dating better or more advantageous for you?

[@adrianalewis4215]

@@MissSarahGMwhy is that?

[@MissSarahGM]

@@adrianalewis4215 According to social psychology studies and Eva ilouz "The end of love" : applying the consumer culture to personal and dating relationships does not benefit women compared to men. We have different goals, usually it is not to sleep with as many men as we can. The "paradox of choice" makes it a struggle to pick on partner, invest in it and leave the app. Creating a general FOMO. Plus, by putting yourself on an app, you are saying I am looking for someone, which diminishes the mystery and challenge there used to be when the man had to go talk to a stranger woman and didn't know if she was even available. At that time, the woman had more power initially. Just overall, it benefits men, and especially a little fraction of them who are attractive. Not many men..

[@thedivinelife3470]

I love this .. easier to implement when you aren’t into them.. if you are takes some mental toughness. You got this ladies 😊

[@corey5454]

Gem after gem. This video is spot on. It’s not tactics per say, it’s human nature, it’s the mating game. Men have to work and we have to be that challenge!

[@bbybxnmi]

This challenge-induced attractiveness will die out once the chase is over. You reap what you sow, be balanced… don’t be too difficult or too easy.

[@Rose-xq9sd]

I like how you site studies to back your claims, so it's not just your opinion but your content has been getting alot better and more structured.

[@ayotfreda5536]

True. I genuinely disappeared for a whole year. And he came back straight to my arms. I was surprised

[@pinoniks]

A year? I wouldn't consider that as win🥲

[@RaeBaeLove]

I’ve done this and you get a lot in the beginning however it fizzled out once you give them a chance 😂😂😂 this is a game

[@jerusalem7050]

Why if they don’t come back?!

[@teanna4569]

So true the minute I take that step back and i always do because no seduction process can begin without it.. they come on stronger and start opening up more and more it’s part of the game, i real them in with my personality and ALWAYS take a step back, they first thing they wanna know is why i haven’t heard from you… the SILENCE eats them up, especially the PLAYERS who are the most insecure and needs a lot of attention more than any other dude, they love to “PLAY THE GAME”… but they love it more when you know how to play it wit them, they leave wit there Heart broken telling me I have no feelings to yesss PLAYERS CATCH FEELINGS TOO.. as long as your moves are slow and and calculating and study your victim, they usually lonely and needs lots of attention, then when you give them attention then pull it away you the one in control

[@fraumfraum5641]

You have no idea .i am so grateful to you man !❤ i did all that u have mentioned in previous videos .i have got guys being obsessed with me , even the guy who rejected me is totally into me now out of nowhere ! 😇

[@eena5112]

Can you give me the specific videos that helped you the most?

[@LonjeMarie7]

Matthew Hussey calls it the sweet spot as a woman never aggressive, assertive, not passive and not mean, like he said try to be in the middle and give the man hope

[@realtalk675]

You talk so much peaceful then years before and you keep getting better. Bless you brother you are consistent and your channel is a blessing

[@Sxytrble]

It's funny I totally agree and I wonder why it is that when we're "strongly in like" with someone we stop doing those challenging things? Our focus shifts and the person becomes more important than our needs, priorities, boundaries etc

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

We drop our boundaries which in turn makes the ‘challenge’ of us is now too easy. So there’s no challenge for a guy. They only value what doesn’t come easy🤷‍♀️ Its true, its too bad, but it’s what it is🙄🤔😳

[@rollinggstonee]

yup, always put yourself first. don’t act on a scarcity mindset

[@bobbijon]

Omg I juuust went thru this and we were worse off for it!!! If only I had remained selfish and absent… lol humans are so oxymoronic between what we say we want and then really do

[@Absentitia]

It's not healthy behavior to give more to your partner than you give to yourself. You need to remain distant purely to remain an individual with their own needs and desires and continue to uphold your boundaries even when you feel like you can't live without someone.

[@bryanramirez4208]

Be pure and honor God, within the intents of your heart and everything you do. Not easy but the best and most rewarding thing you can do. Never fornicate, have self control, wait for the right one that becomss your spouse.

[@Itspaolatina]

I have been in chastidy for about two yrs boy. It affects My mood.

[@tal9973]

Amen Christ Loves you

[@abiruiz8123]

All the given advise is not coming from God. A Godly man will not play this game and the same is for a woman. We are leaving in selfish time. How sad we have to do all this tricks to get a long life partner 😢

[@bryanramirez4208]

@@abiruiz8123 Also the word says "the wisdom of the world is foolishness to God". But this is true Wisdom "The beginning of wisdom begins at the fear of the Lord" In other words, if any "wisdom" or "advice" doesn't line up with Gods word, then it aint true wisdom brother

[@thewordsmith5440]

A lot of men pretend to be religious to get women those can be the worst ones because they ruin the most innocent women.

[@missmelaniet1]

Is their any point in your relationship you can just be yourself. Without engaging in all these tactics? It's exhausting trying to play the game. I admit that yes I like guys that are challenging. It's not as easy for me to act like I'm so busy I can't reply, text, call, or hang out with the person who I have chosen to date. I mean damn we only have so many years on this earth. I don't want to spend them playing games. Can we ever get to a point in our relationships when we can just be ourselves?

[@bryanramirez4208]

Be yourselfs, the challenge is to do things the right way, not sure what you believe but take it slow and only intend pure intentions in your heart, never lust or anything deceptive or evil. No sex before marriage either, the challenge in that is to control yourself and show you are willing to wait for the right one. That is challenging enough, to do things the way God wants you to do them.

[@luiza1103]

No, be your full needy self with your friends!! that's what I do lol

[@Naomi-bw5qs]

No. Because love is a game, and as soon as you stop playing, you'll lose.

[@nostalgic_xo]

The moment you stop playing is the exact same moment they will play you. So choose, play them or get played.

[@leroyandjunior]

No you cannot it’s so rare lol. That’s why there are 50% marriages that don’t last because as soon as you are yourself fully, “let go”, or when your partner sees you at your worst they’re like that’s not who I fell in love with…so you always got to keep up.

[@Kinteresting]

I check back in on you every few months and I'm liking the flourish

[@queenmistress4683]

You're fire! The words flow so freely and precisely because you speak from truth! Thank you.

[@sadiesueee]

Your videos are phenomenal now holy shit٫ they were always great i mean damn but the quality has really gone up I've been watching you for years and your videos have always helped me get men to chase while embracing my shadow side. love the ending too. you could not be more right!

[@sadiesueee]

You truly are an artist.

[@alicia2931]

This video was suggested to me. But this is why I fully give up on dating and just focusing on myself. Also I’m a divorcee. I’m no longer interested in dating and want to spend the rest of my life single and traveling

[@caroljane8378]

Thank you Father Alex for all your gems.. my dad passed when I was 16 so I had no one to show me the ropes. And emotional intelligence focus instead of the norm projected feminism from my mom has really helped!

[@goldiejohnson6197]

But how will this work long tern

[@nancyvargas8258]

Loving the Robert Green inserts 🔥🔥🔥

[@TonyellevilleTemple]

I don’t wanna play games with nobody just leave me alone

[@bluefairy8564]

The Art of Seduction. Loved that book❤ Great video. Thank you!! 🥰🤗

[@paniwiosna2560]

Nowadays men dont fight...you are difficult they quit..

[@TiffanyLewis1987]

Options up the whoha… 🤣😂😬😝

[@us5freaak]

Let them

[@Cal_me_lady1]

They will only persue if they really want u

[@mimimi5140]

Not all true

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Everybody quits

[@EddaAlma]

I agree on almost every point you have dealt with... but I think it's important to make a distinction .. I'd say there are two main groups of people.. the first one is well described by your analysis , usually it's about people who have more complex mental processes, people with higher self-consciousness and more refined approach to relationships.. the second group is about people that are more simple naive and unpretentious, with more basic mental processes, people who seem not to follow these "strategies", even at an unconscious level

[@HannaIanni]

No 2 men are the same. Some behave from beginning to the end. Some are dogs from beginning to the end it’s not about you. You have to know a person’s character

[@danilaroche1156]

Precisely.

[@annaisis7510]

THAT 👏👏👏👏

[@AnggariaDewi]

I never see a super good youtuber like you❤❤❤thank you

[@mstra2341]

This is true only if the guy likes you. As much I agree with you, we also need to remain a little open that with some guys they would get turn off when there is too much challenges to the point he thinks you are not interested. As you want someone to show interest with less busy schedule. You mentioned be busy not pretend then, he would begin liking you. The likeness, has to be there no matter what.

[@Teexytee777]

Being difficult only works if he actually Likes u. Lol. If he’s not attracted to u, and the girl is difficult, he’s gone. Chasing his dream girl

[@someonespecial581]

Why will you want do this with a man who isn't attracted to you

[@Teexytee777]

@@someonespecial581 men entertain women they're not attracted to all the time.

[@someonespecial581]

@@Teexytee777 That's because they are after s*×. Those aren't men. They are grown boys.

[@minceyfamily5567]

That's even more reason to do it, weed em out. 🗣️

[@jerusalem7050]

Right?

[@LonjeMarie7]

Thank you for what you do. The prices of your courses are very reasonable very affordable I have learned so much from you. I appreciate your videos. I admire your sincerity and your consistency and your dedication to helping women.

[@gloriagbala6514]

This is a facts 10000 percent true I learned this from my nonchalant attitude.

[@taylorwalter5225]

I appreciate your effort put into making this video. It is great information, and very much needed to hear right now so thank you for sharing! I look forward to more.

[@kayhogan3875]

I love the music in the background.

[@Monicamoni912]

He's the best he explain in a very simple and effective way ❤❤❤thank you

[@peachsweet_minddeep]

Alex your facial expressions while listening to the audio recording...tickles me 😂 too funny. 💜 it.

[@HannaIanni]

The problem is when you make it a challenge for a guy that turns out to be a loser or emotionally incompetent. I feel you left that part out Alex.

[@Soouber]

Facts: use ur women's intuition and weed out losers and boys by knowing urself and ask the right qtns.

[@Juggz2busy587]

It's not a problem this was addressed when they are emotionally incompetent they won't wait none of the above works. They won't stick around which does you a massive favour.

[@nabilaoukhiat7247]

You should see red flags before doing This job 😂

[@amberhenson19]

Hell yeah after almost 11 yrs of marriage my husband and I separated and he got it bad! I need to heal but he is steadfast trying and I see how this is working in my favor 😅

[@Leslieclaire1]

This should not be a tactic to have more allure. I have this theory that men know pretty quickly if you’re the type of girl they want to date, play, or potentially take serious. And if they just want to use the girl, this is waiting time. It takes more than just being “challenging” to grow a relationship.

[@gracefeeley183]

This is so helpful. THANK YOU

[@xxmelymelzxx]

this video was soo good. the little clips in between, the explanations. on point!!! thank you 🫶🏽

[@Champagne4theSoul]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love this man’s direct advice. And it’s accurate!

[@monamiller764]

Your so right ▶️ My guy chase me for years I gave In it was the best I ever treated.

[@BoiseHomeAdvisor]

At 28:38…. The man literally said ✨Sprinkle Sprinkle✨😂 lmao.

[@Onwednesdaywewearpinkk]

You missed the 2023 year part. In this day and age many men want you to chase them now. As they look at themselves as the prize and having many options.

[@dzelumichello4968]

Great Content. Reminds me of the IKEA effect where we attach more value to things that pause a challenge to assemble.

[@kv2723]

Omg I ❤ you! "F*** that sh*t!" 😂😂😂 Thank you for the way you explain things. Your content helps me mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. God Bless ✝️

[@revi761]

"please , have a busy life" 😂😂😂

[@mf7394]

This was gold 😁👍🏽

[@juliestarks1279]

Psychologically, what type of person are you attracting if you have to "be a challenge/play hard to get" in order for them to be attracted to you. The mind games..smdh..Just be yourself (truly, love yourself) , follow your purpose here on earth and you will attract the correct person. (a healthy person that's doing the same)

[@anamarierae]

Your content is getting better and better

[@shylapollard5165]

Hell chase you, finally get you, and still will treat you like shit or jeopardize his relationship by cheating. I truly believe women should just stay UNATTAINABLE. People change over time and lie. It's hard to vet these men. So now I prioritize myself. I have no kids and I don't plan to marry.

[@simplyjackieb]

Yes but men need to learn the difference between a challenge and a woman who does not want you.

[@marycadiz4104]

Psychology of Men Series 👍🏽

[@inesajroud7891]

I enjoy all of your videos .. and I like the way you encouraging girls to act and feel hight value .. keep on I support you 🥰🥰

[@Ash-wl8up]

Love the facial expressions and your content, it’s good to be able to laugh and learn, you rock! 🎉

[@daathdorothiel]

Thank you. I'm hesitant as being rather avoidant (former chaotic) in my attachment style, and having a case with a chaotically attached man, lol. Mostly we're just running from each other, which is ridiculous in our age.

[@Mermaid03_03]

This is so good! Saving.

[@jayluhv1389]

What I realised is that the women who are God fearing, selfless and loving also make and keep a home, and the husband adopts with time. All these tactics remove the possibility of God turning things around for the good. Manipulative tactics are like poison.

[@LonjeMarie7]

Your videos are excellent. I’m surprised you don’t have millions of subscribers. Thank you for what you do.

[@vonetteholmes9263]

A challenge will leave you lonely!

[@vonetteholmes9263]

High value rich and wealthy p❤men will not play this game of challenges! Lower scale dudes will

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

This works in friendships too. 💖

[@cheesewithxbread]

Nope. I get pissed. 😂

[@RaeBaeLove]

Depends on the guy. A lot of men gravitate to what’s easier. Easier means not difficult or hard to reach. This would probably work on a man who plays games.

[@ActivistGirl]

This video is insane so much knowledge. I need a notebook just for ur videos🤣

[@Glamyougirl17]

Thank you for this video Alex.

[@heytheredeliilaaa]

I just love you, I can always depend on you when my emotions start getting the best of me 🤞🏽❤

[@qosaghcalnan1045]

Great video informative , very well done & love your vibe

[@user-yq4cd2ux8k]

lol every time the robert greene book says “punch them in the face!”

[@nyarie9403]

What if we're both playing the hard to get game and we're just sitting there waiting for the other to text but neither wants to be "easy" to the point where the other becomes less attracted 😭😭😭😭😭

[@NurseOlivia-PostOpRecoveryCare]

Right!!!!😂

[@bryanramirez4208]

Make up a good excuse to text them, for example "hey do you have an extra pickleball racket I can borrow?"

[@bryanramirez4208]

Just think and play it normally , go from there

[@danilaroche1156]

He should be initiating, especially in the beginning. Sounds like junior high school. This man is a punk.

[@nyarie9403]

@@bryanramirez4208 okay 🥺

[@drkmoondrkmoon9244]

These are my favorite videos!

[@tiffanyjoseph9887]

I definitely was too available but even when i had shit going on it was an issue at the end of the day if a person doesnt wnat the relationship it wont work

[@Timefairyjina]

This is so good . Thank you ❤

[@nellynguma]

You look better☺️keep doing what you're doing 💯

[@Leighbruno333]

Stumbled upon this video… “I didn’t make people, I didn’t make men.” 😂😂😂 You’re funny dude…thanks for the tips!

[@YesGodWellness]

Your faces when Robert Gree en book is being read 😂😂😂😂

[@artisticagi]

9:45 when a woman is not respected by a man it means you’re too easy 10:18 15:14 he tried to kiss you and you say not yet 15:30 you end up canceling

[@iRawk1]

If you’re a woman and dating, I highly suggest you read the book “The Rules”

[@JessforR]

I definitely played it all wrong with one guy but at the same time, he's emotionally immature in general and that's not what I'm seeking

[@Kitathegang]

That means you may as well not talk to the person who bouta play games 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 life to short just like who like you

[@LaughingLead]

If you don’t stay a challenge they’ll never keep you and will think they were so lucky to finally keep you and will cheat. Dating is becoming less valuable, I rather stay single. Guys say they want a simple woman yet when they get one they don’t know how to act, they’re addicted to drama, maybe both genders are, it’s hard to feel secure when you don’t think the other person is constantly pursuing you. Relationships are a lot of effort, effort has to last longer than the first week. Guys will keep you home and pay bills and cheat, guys will allow you to support them and still cheat, this should go for both genders, it’s human nature to want people.

[@julianneestrada6239]

Hi father Alex you are so awesome! I've been following you for years

[@raymi9436]

Great video Dalexis ❤ Can’t wait for the new course!

[@kareemadanzaoriental8237]

Good video, i liked subtitles!! I used to active them, but if you put them is great!!!😊

[@billie-ocean8286]

Wait for how damn long then after u give in he’s going to act a damn fool if that’s all he wanted anyways while he’s waiting on u please believe he’s sleeping with other people

[@oziomaannieiwuoha4612]

Thanks mindful. I appreciate you. Dalu!

[@eclecticd9953]

Unpopular opinion…what if he’s not toxic? 😅

[@angiemason7021]

He is.

[@paurodriguez8662]

​@@angiemason7021😂😂

[@vonniesmind2084]

People in general are toxic, just like donuts.😮

[@miabailey2798]

Hhahahahaha

[@audriiiiroberts3030]

Then this is the wrong channel for you 😭

[@lynda65587]

Right from day one, be real and maintain that. If the person doesnt fullfill your desires or expectations, assume they never will. Noone wants anyone that is a head f...k.

[@worldfamous_nique]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@cookiescream6627]

OOOOOO LEO❤OOO ARIES 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the thrill of the chase is more important then actually getting in .

[@spunkymonkeym]

Father Alex, can you make a video about where to meet men naturally in real life? I use dating apps because I don't get approached when I'm out.

[@Dettyskin]

Smile more, wear nice perfume, look good and comfortable in what you’re wearing. Be approachable and friendly but not too much

[@juanbermudez1321]

Lol. Unfortunately even if you do what you can most guys are unfortunately afraid to approach. And when you find one at a venue that you are interested, the moment he shows he isn’t confident as he looks is an immediate turn off. Also make sure your standards are realistic and reasonable and if they are the best thing you can do is make eye contact or some obvious signs of interest. And make sure it’s several because men usually can’t read your interest if you just send one signal.

[@jibarabicha4853]

Yeah, but this challenge behavior doesn’t mean he won’t flip and switch once you commit. Keep them eyes wide open ladies.

[@yatori9511]

Fantastic information.❤

[@bonnie1097]

The world is hard enough. My relationship needs to be the one place that i shouldn't have to deal with games. If I have to keep training a man how to do right by me, I'm out.