Do Men ONLY Celebrate Our Features On Other Nationalities? | Ask a Black Woman Ep. 4

[@bellefleur3947]

I don't think I'll ever see it in my lifetime, but I long for the day when black women stop giving a damn what black men think of our hair, features, body -- hell, our very essence. I long for the day when black women stop twisting themselves into pretzals trying to please these males. Please stop. To continue "asking these questions" black women are giving black men permission to dictate our hair, features, body, and essence.

[@cbnboy34]

Bellefleur i agree..but white men in corporate America control your physical image too!...But those blk women will change for the dollar bill

[@Machelle3200]

Thank you..I don't give two shyts what they think or want.I do what the phawk I want. I don't answer to black men. More black women would be happier if they thought like this..

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Senait Ashenafi Me too girl I can give two fucks how they perceive me cause I know who I am.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Bianca Starks I do not like men with limp dicks how about that lol.....

[@Chrissy_Hills]

Bellefleur me too girl, me too

[@dannieldavis8917]

The black community needs therapeutic healing for emotional and mental health!

[@naimalee1046]

danniel davis I agree

[@lovechild2852]

danniel davis realest comment on KZbin!

[@xDTHECHEMISTx]

danniel davis shit is real sad smh. All i ever dated were black women. The mother of my child is black. I could never diss em. I have sisters and homegirls too dope to even down. BUT i can filter the sistas who got bad energy who aint good for me. Aint nothin better than a black sista thats gorgeous. Respects herself. Respects Her people and has dope energy. THIS generation gotta get it together and stop letting social media blind them smh

[@LiterallyTho]

D The Chemist Make sure you share those thoughts with lost black men to. Thanks in advance.

[@xDTHECHEMISTx]

Its out there already. Youre welcome

[@TheNitaapplebaum]

"A white girl, with a BLACK GIRL'S ASS!" Yes, Terry Crews confirmed that black men love and appreciate our features MORE/BETTER on other races. Sad. Some feel we aren't beautiful enough being JUST black. Why do we have to be "mixed with" or "part" another race to be attractive? And no, once you "holla" behind me, you lost the game. Idc if you look AND STRUT like Denzel, I'm a person, respecting others around me. I need the same from you. Great job ladies, and gentleman.

[@cbnboy34]

TheNitaapplebaum Its true! Im glad i dont fit that bill. ..i love what i grew up with..Black women!

[@StrongnBeautiful]

I love that. Agree 100%.

[@TheNitaapplebaum]

StrongnBeautiful thank you

[@blackmasque7289]

Just an observation, but if a dude is saying something like this, I doubt the problem is with the features themselves. Sounds like they want the features of black women along with something else that they perceive white women have that black women don't.

[@DandBchannel-learn]

How can Terry Crews represent all black men. That's ridiculous. Wth?

[@purpleposh1230]

That was deep. Black men appreciate our features when they see it on others. Wow.

[@purpleposh1230]

Godson AFRICANMACK'Nz Please don't misquote me. I was saying that, to me, that hit me deep. Like, is that really true?

[@revivedsoul1099]

No darling

[@winterfall6953]

That's just something that INSECURE people THINK.

[@naimalee1046]

Nicole Thomas This is true

[@MrThekidisback]

BULLSHIT!

[@jamesgibson3716]

I can't speak for anyone else, but as a black man, I love seeing black women features, ON ACTUAL BLACK WOMEN!!! Love my Nubian Queens.

[@donovanwilson4672]

I like all women, but I want a black woman!!

[@thehoneyeffect]

Most Black men prefer african features on non-black women, what do you hink of those sorts of bm? its interesting that the ones who they prefer black women refuse to address that point

[@rascal211]

@MostEnigmatic And most leave black women.

[@pinkbutterflies994]

Galva Tron get tf outta here lol 😂 as soon as a black man uplifts his women he’s a simp. 🖕that’s for you

[@pinkbutterflies994]

Galva Tron all races can have hair extensions, acrylic nails and saggy tits after child birth or something. You sound like dumb asf . If you prefer snowbunnies then good for you, but keep your preferences to yourself if you need to talk down on another group of women to get your point across. Damn

[@karenhorton148]

Frannie👏🏽 I love the way you articulated that the ways in which we style our hair is for many of us an art form... And it's nothing new as a brief glance back into African history will lead you an array of images of our women adorned with some of the most glamorous, bejeweled and elaborate hairstyles...All very beautiful.

[@tinkmitch8292]

But it's a difference between us being creative and wearing our hair sometimes and maybe putting on a wig sometimes and other things but there are alot of our women who won't ever show their own natural hair. I'm thinking that's why some black men may have a problem.

[@baybeedollxo]

tinkle mitchell I agree with you, but we also have to remember that we live in a society where European beauty is standard and celebrated and our natural beauty isn't as celebrated or accepted by our society. Black women in America have always had to assimilate into a white society with European beauty standards for hundreds of years. We have been going natural for years now, but it will take more than the natural hair movement to recondition our thoughts on our natural beauty. That's for Black men and women. We all have been conditioned to believe that we aren't beautiful enough and we as a people, not necessarily individuals look at whites and/or other races more beautiful than our own and it effects every generation again and again and again. Luckily more of us are starting to realize how truly beautiful we are. Luckily we are tired of the chemicals and weaves and are finally returning natural. We are finally embracing our Blackness more and more and telling society we don't care the standard, we are cut from a different cloth.

[@tinkmitch8292]

I totally agree. I think my issue is how some of the women in the video almost became angry when men comment on wanting them to wear their natural hair and not weaves all of the time. I'm just glad that our men are seeing beauty in our own hair. Sociey definitely plays a big part on a global level. My pray is that we continue to rise above it. My husband says he don't like weaves and wigs so guess what...I don't wear them lol.

[@baybeedollxo]

tinkle mitchell Our hair is always a sensitive subject for us because we have always been chastised for it. Weave, permed, natural it's always some issue.

[@MontserratGyal]

karen horton FRANNIE WAS ON POINTTTT ☝🏽

[@texas5009]

Shout out to the host he seems professional and calm.

[@emotee3523]

Yep, married to a Queen, and has 3 Princes.

[@Journeywithmscohen]

When I stopped caring what men say or anyone for that matter and begin walking in my own beauty, I started getting lots of attention. Self confidence is felt from way across the room. Love Thyself!

[@catriniasmith8009]

Black men body shame you too your face, then go and get someone 3x bigger than you!?!. I don't get that?

[@judeokoye9466]

The only black men i know that do that, do it because they feel those women are easier or more desperate and they usually try to hide the deed.

[@josephkondrey4060]

what led you to think that?

[@hereisayana8207]

@@judeokoye9466 Why do some men feel it is okay to body or face shame a woman after she has been good to him ??? Why aren't they aware that this will hurt her feelings or not care about this ?

[@TheKilameri]

I love African features on melanated skin!

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

Yes!😂

[@Jessica.000]

Kwane Jackson Yesss❤❤

[@rachelsoulsings6188]

I just love this discussion I just wish I was there...👏clap for yourselves, especially queen with the braids. huh hum first I would say, alot of black men are afraid of a black woman's power. Most black especially those from a fatherless home always looks for validation of what a 'real man' should look like, so they look at the celebrities-rappers etc and define themselves through that. Hence the celebrities are the ones who are controlled and also brainwashed and forget they do have the right to marry a black woman when they become successful. Most black male celebrities are tryna uphold a status and not look like the ghetto/struggle you came from when they should embrace it. Sadly a black woman seems to be too much of a reminder of that past and we are always seen as Something, angry instead of strong. I live in London and it is soo fashionable​ for the younger black guys to be with a kyle Jenner lookalike and I feel they are confused with their identity. I have no problem with people loving who they wanna love but I think black men need to love themselves first because their is a lot of deep rooted hatred going on. They need to show love and respect to the same cotton hair having mother whose womb you came from first and then give the black Queen what she deserves... a ring and some respect for the true miracle we are still waiting ready to love and support you all now. Just my 2 pence!

[@curlyjoe5020]

*Kwane Jackson* And THAT, Sir, is your right. I prefer non African features on lighter skin (but not TOO light). Isn't it great we all can choose?

[@thehoneyeffect]

Many if not most Black men prefer african features on non-black women

[@timikalittle6630]

"'Hat-fishing' is REAL!!" 😂😂😂

[@jamesgibson3716]

Timika Little it really is. If the fellas want women to be real, then they have to give the same.

[@learning.growing.1017]

😂😂😂

[@Feliciatanktop]

Timika Little “Look at Ne-Yo” LMAOO dead

[@meika79]

Last guy I dated looked so good with his fitted on. When he took it off, his head had sharp corners.

[@chanellebooysen9570]

No it is though😂😂😂😂

[@nandi3052]

Black men really do celebrate black women features on non-black women. Kylie, Kim & the rest are prime examples.

[@jamesgibson3716]

Dumoh Nandi Hey pretty lady. Why not say some black men. I'm a proud black man and I appreciate everything about my Nubian Queens. Not all of us think like that. Blessings

[@lacienagalacey9454]

James Gibson instead of just latching onto that one typo why not address the actual issue.

[@lacienagalacey9454]

Kingdom of Kongo more of an hottentot body is black women features. Don’t play dumb.

[@jamesgibson3716]

@ Lacienaga, are you trolling or are you being serious.....I really can't tell..

[@lacienagalacey9454]

James Gibson about?

[@ashleasmith-garner6677]

Frannie had the most intellectual answers to me. She answered the question with not only examples but explanation and understanding

[@jchidi]

Coming from a black woman, I gave up with black men a long time ago! Out of the 2 non-black men I've dated they've treated me with more respect and care than any black men I've ever dealt with.

[@winterspring3085]

thatkidd jennifer i agree...me too. I say let them have black men.

[@MsAakifa]

Trey that's a lie

[@jamesgibson3716]

and I'm sure black men can will be just fine with you dating other races of Men.

[@sashaedwards3745]

thatkidd jennifer p

[@cvzdez]

Sometimes some women just attract a certain type of guy in their region area culture. I thing the problem is many women get chosen and don't choose. When you choose you strike up a conversation you can vet people out. The other thing is so many women don't vet they get something and they just automatically just accept it. You should talk to a guy know what you are accepting of and not and if you know that that person does not fit who you, know who you are, if you are honest with who you are and what you will and will not accept, then throw the fish back in, stop entertaining or trying to make a bad puzzle piece work because it is not for you. 2 men out of a pool of millions does not count as "I have always had a bad experience with.... type of men" Now if you have date overs 20, in different regions towns countries then I might give you the ok I get it. dating does not mean screwing every dude either. I have talked to guys and knew within 2 days Naw, I am good that is not for me. You have to vet a person, because looks does not mean a perfect fit and just because someone is nice does not mean they are nice for you.

[@Nana-zk9sz]

Black women need to stop......who cares, love ur self first...who cares what people think about u..and I'm a black woman

[@praisekelly2537]

you can say that all you want but its hurtful when your own race tells you you're not good enough when they look just like you

[@jbb8261]

@@praisekelly2537 it’s about weight and attitude not looks

[@toniaholmes2403]

I hate these conversation. I wish BW would just love themselves & stop trying to twist themselves into a pretzel trying to get love from BM or anyone other than self. As big as the natural hair movement is weave is still the main obssesion. Why? Because it gives BM something to complain about. If u are natural u know it's rarely celebrated unless it's long & curly. Even BW obsessed with length & texture. Stop It! Parenting, womb control & creating businesses is a topic worth discussing. Who is for u will love u for u! Remember that!

[@naimalee1046]

Tonia Holmes Truth

[@neo1053]

Preach

[@sheilaorangd1967]

Michael Ealy do not want you Michael Ealy have a white woman he's married to a white woman so do not think he's going to be out there cat calling you if he can't call anybody he's going to cut call of white woman so don't even mention his name

[@user-of7pj7sx4r]

Weave is nasty

[@juratory8876]

Kind of off topic, but the second sentence of your comment makes me want soft pretzels lol.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

Most men are into stereotypes & I'm sick of it.

[@pablo_fre5hcobar]

Bianca Starks what stereotypes 🤔

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Bianca Starks Yes!! Ugh my ex boyfriend would, for instant if I did not like something, say "but women like that" and its like dude I feel like we've been together for 2 years, by now you should know i'm my own person. And he would do this constantly. Used to drive me up the damn wall.

[@Machelle3200]

Because most of them are DUMB. And the women who listen to them yap about what THEY should do to their own damn hair are even DUMBER.

[@Machelle3200]

They do that because most of them are weak emotionally and can't get over what some bytch did to them in Middle school like the woman in the video said. They're like children that NEVER grow up.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Senait Ashenafi So true man up bitch! Let the past stay in the past....

[@dee_scussions]

No other race have articles pinning then against each other. "Mexican men are asked do you love Mexican women". This would be absurd question to even ask.

[@tylerdavidson2400]

my secret Lol No. Asian women regularly date outside their race. Its only the FOBs who marry their own due to citizenship/ Green card. But you hardly see Asian men crying about it.

[@corymatthews6778]

dee jay EXACTLY!!!! Black woman need deep therapy to fix there wounds!! These topics never come up in the Asian community, Hispanic, White, ETC.

[@alexjames2510]

Tyler Davidson They cry about it on reddit, 4chan and everywhere else

[@itstoriii6080]

Just because women talk about their experiences doesn’t mean they are looking for shallow men or they are wounded. I could tell u countless of situations. U gotta be open minded to conversations and not dismiss ppl. Especially if u aren’t that race and or gender to experience those things. Ppl don’t just collectively pull shit out of their ass.

[@MartellThaCool]

Black women are black man haters and doesn't value us anyways. So black men will continue to date interracially. I don't recalled not hearing no other races of women slandered their own men

[@modestlyniquem4794]

Black women are beautiful

[@miltonhenderson2588]

ModestlyNique M HELL YEAH💓

[@Jryder933]

Black Women are definitely beautiful! 😘😍❤️👌🏽

[@modestlyniquem4794]

@Marilyn Willett I said what I said! Girl Bye! 😏

[@asunset8545]

wow when she said men celebrate black features on non black women,really made me think, she hit the nail on the head😯😑

[@brandnew9834]

Mixed is really pretty.

[@Nash0303]

See how defensive she got when he mentioned weave? Why are we like this?

[@larealleraines8420]

Natasha N I agree some people get up in arms about weave. Yes, you are an adult and can wear whatever hairstyle you want but, let’s talk about why we are so dependent on weave. You can straighten natural hair, braid it or place it in a bun. Our hair is truly unique. Weave is a crutch for a lot of people. Just my opinion.

[@notprouddamn1892]

Natasha N Because its been discussed to death as a insult when other races weave it up.

[@awakenedmelanin5235]

Agrees

[@Jaykan-sk8zm]

Not the same black women are coping other races hair texture that is not there own. Other races your extensions to add volume and length that mimics their hair texture. Don't play dumb. That is a false equivalency. Black women don't like their hair. FACT

[@kavisundar1949]

I have to agree with Jaykan. When she said "it's an artform", I called BS right there. All women, despite their cultures, like to do different things with their hair.

[@herFLYness79]

Also, another thing about hair. Some jobs won't let us wear our natural hair because it's considered unprofessional. So instead of suffering from heat damage to straighten when we don't use chemicals, we use wigs and extensions.

[@gaylewelch4443]

herFLYness79 I thought the exact same thing. Even before we get jobs our hair is an issue. We have an awareness that it can stop us from accessing certain opportunities, so we change it. That's also something that could have been acknowledged. Not everything black women do is dictated by black men.

[@herFLYness79]

Gayle Welch it's also more convenient. When you have a lot of hair, such as myself, it's quicker and easier to change up a style with a wig or extensions.

[@lcq7901]

Start businesses work together then you don't have to worry about someone telling you to perm straighten or weave your hair..you can wear it the way it grows out your scalp. Best answer I thimk.

[@jeanettesdaughter]

Change your job.

[@sheilaorangd1967]

But awesome black women we have to respect ourselves first we have to know how to speak to people we have to know how to speak softly to people and I notice that sometime if a woman does speak softly people get annoyed because they can say oh we can't hear you they are used to black women being loud and boisterous and rough and hard I'm a very feminine woman I don't like to be spoke to in a lot loud fashion loud women and it's so uncomfortable that I stopped going out with some of these women I like to have a nice dinner even if it's pizza and a soda and we all sit down and speak not all at one time

[@KhemistryIBMOR]

The same old tired talking points I've been hearing for decades...

[@mrblackalchemist]

Khemistry IBMOR yep black women don't change

[@claresej.2573]

Neither do black men since we're still talking about it

[@Kevin-qn2kw]

I'll tell you what does change! Grape prices. Green grapes, red grapes, seedless grapes, little baby grapes for jams and jellies. These grapes are going up and up and up! My grape bills are through the roof!

[@rgw1380rw]

@@claresej.2573 In my 40 years of living, I've seen many men change in order to be what women prefer.

[@claresej.2573]

rgw1380rw that may be so but in this generation it's a whole 'nother ball game. I mean I lucked up to find an all around good guy but most of these dudes ain't changing

[@willemdee]

My best friend loves white women with big butts. That's my boy but he is overly critical of BW so we get into arguments a lot.

[@ayana188]

willemdee he thinks he's ugly deep down..or pretty BLK women pay him no mind

[@karenhorton148]

willemdee 😉thanks for standing up for your sisters, we appreciate it💕

[@stevanadavis7080]

willemdee. thanks for standing up

[@rhey81]

Why are you hating on a guy whose exacting his right to date whoever the fuck he wants too?? Same Lib-tards who don't practice what they preach, everyone should have the right to do what they want.. Oh wait but a brotha wants to date a white chick. OH HELL NO..... STOP IT... I hate Hypocrites...

[@willemdee]

@armst lmao I’m far from liberal, and we get into arguments because he constantly crticizes/attacks black women. It’s unnecessary in most cases and I could care less who he dates, his preference doesn’t bother me and if it did I wouldn’t consider him a friend.

[@niablee]

Can we get a longer show? PLEASE.

[@지호-p2x]

I though you were Yuna for a seconds..

[@lifemanager6865]

No its long enough

[@gideon3007]

Life Manager yeah, no need to extend this, just make more portions with individual topics.

[@rmanney100]

Nia Lee with a different host as well

[@gideon3007]

@@rmanney100 What's wrong with the host?? i mean i did have my problems too but didn't think that yet!.. so what is it??

[@Chelcee-NY]

Again everyone's single? You couldn't find black women that are married or in a relationship? Its like MN only shows single black women.

[@swiitdoll]

Mschelcee TV what's wrong with being single?

[@Chelcee-NY]

forever young nothing wrong with being single however it doesn’t give you diverse opinions. When they did Ask A Black Man some were single, in a relationship or married. It further perpetuates the angry black woman stereotype of all single black women. I would have hoped to see better casting from MN.

[@swiitdoll]

Mschelcee TV oh yeah. I get it now. Yh they should cast single, married and even divorced folks too.

[@Summer_Wonder]

Mschelcee TV so if you're single you're angry?

[@swiitdoll]

slimballa93 that's the stereotype for black girls unfortunately. It's fine for every other race to be single and never even marry.

[@AB-vb4sv]

Men GROW beards! I don’t feel beards and weaves are a good comparison.

[@evanschrisitian2499]

Thank you!!!! I was looking for someone who thinks the same.

[@evanschrisitian2499]

@Sjanae90 That's just a minority of men, for the most part men will grow beards naturally.

[@evanschrisitian2499]

@Sjanae90 Even though there are plenty of videos about fake beards, the majority of men who have a beard have it naturally.

[@alyasa5352]

Men wear toupee's bald ect... …Women have been creative in Africa and other with all that they find creative in this teaching, learning and creative platform (earth) material of body, hair, skin ect... are borrowed in this realm...Huge deal along with other followers of the critical analysis of WHAT should be accepted and what is not. i.e. Car pollution and air we breathe DO NOT GO TOGETHER!!!! Are you worried there at all mmm? .Just because one shade of women decides to do something different in creation does not mean it should be casted out. It is ok not to understand something...However the level of ignorance among people against melanated women is dramatic and seriously karmic amongst those who do! Equal opportunity!!!

[@AB-vb4sv]

@Mira M primarily, it’s the different colors and having to take parts of yourself off when at home. This preference can be extended to obtrusive eye lashes and nails. At a certain age, it’s too much for men to be attracted to. It’s akin to a man wearing a white t everywhere or sneakers.

[@corymatthews6778]

Are any of these woman happily married? Do any of these women love themselves? Why does woman constantly look for validation from men. LOVE YOURSELF!!

[@youngflex229]

Lmao

[@Brianna-nc3og]

Huh?

[@jbb8261]

They’re the 70% that’ll never get married

[@misss7758]

@@jbb8261 Getting married is not everything. Whenever a woman goes missing. Look to the husband to find who killed her. Married men cheat, so many married people wish they were single.

[@jbb8261]

@@misss7758 some of y’all only focus on the negative and it’s truly tragic. I hope you get help. Let’s not ignore the fact that wives also murder their husbands and in some cases their children. Save that manhating for someone who doesn’t do their crime statistics research.

[@monicaDD]

You ladies were great!! Frannie had the best points. Really loved a lot of her thoughts.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Monica M Frannie came with a loaded gun and she fired those shots. She spoke nothing but the truth.

[@nadiabuckmire1422]

"hair is an art form...." well sure..why not create the art form with our own natural African hair? Let's stop making excuses and celebrate what's truly ours. When You wear straight weaves you advertise and promote other women's hair...so why would they not want to go to the woman that's wearing her own real hair.

[@bobdistin9650]

Nadia Buckmire thank you

[@rai2423]

What is african hair tho? I'm more genetically african than the average black american yet my hair couldn't be in an afro no matter how hard I tried.

[@bluebunny4150]

Hair is hair if sis want straight hair she can have it. I go back and forth from different styles because that’s what I like to do. I mostly wear my natural hair but sometimes I’ll straighten it just for a different look. I don’t see the problem with that.

[@nakeyarich9444]

Watch Home Teams video on history of black hair. We have all textures without being mixed. Side note. Most blacks are the aboriginals/native Americans. White history is a lie. All slaves did I not come from Africa.

[@eddieramos7857]

Your comment makes so much sense !! I hope a lot of women outhere read your comment , because it's true !! I'm sure that many men would like to see their girfriend or wife with their natural hair , but are afraid they might hurt their feelings .

[@aGwEENapple]

"Talk to us, don't try to holla at us" Nothing better than genuine conversation. There's a big difference. I often used to be in defense because I felt all guys were trying to do was 'holla' at me. It got tiring at some point.

[@madeinbrooklyn7717]

These conversations are getting so old! Obviously it’s a disconnect between bm and bw. The courting process shouldn’t be this complicated!

[@razorsharplifestyle101hard9]

It's called PTSD.

[@WillieEarlSon]

I'm out here hatfishing ain't no shame, and beardfishing.( well the beard is actually mine) hairline been gone since I was 19

[@learning.growing.1017]

It's all good homie. It is ALL GOOOD. 🙌

[@kaylam835]

BootyWarrior007 well at least you know😂😂😂😂😂

[@sonnid.7122]

Bdynamite 😆

[@chanel123ful]

Why not just get a baldy

[@ButtaFLii89]

I loved this conversation!!! They said a lot of the things most of us black women feel. And I appreciate this bother for shining a light on it.

[@BlackWolfInc277]

"Women are more than twice as likely to say that their conception of beauty is shaped by women in the public domain and social media" So women basically judge each other more than men do?

[@juratory8876]

Sadly, yes. It stems from an unnecessary need for competition and internalized misogyny.

[@itscooldawgdonteventrip]

When man love a woman it’s not only for the physicality. Physical is the foot in the door . What open it fully is the charisma intelligence peace love positivity sincerity and so on

[@lateishaclement]

I lovedddddd this conversation, even watching it the second time around. So refreshing! and, that poignant comment (Frannie) on black men only celebrating black features when it's not on a black women??? Mic drop! Girl. Great interview Devale.

[@RepublicTeaRoom]

Wake up blacknwomen! Date out with men whobdo not fetishise you...but look for marriage! Leave.

[@s25s2m9]

😂😂

[@johnballard6725]

Good point -BW if you are not getting attention and interest from BM plenty of other races such as Caucasian, Asian or Hispanic would be happy to date and marry you !

[@LDNballer]

Yea a hat and beard isn't the same as a weave lool...it makes me happy when i see black women with their natural hair out. Weave makes me sad, because i know what it means. Whether you realise it ir not its an attempt to fit into a more european standard of beauty. My girl wears her natural hair, thats partly why i was attracted to her. I believe it shows a level if confidence and self awareness.

[@IoneEvans]

Here from tiktok. This is a good convo!

[@real_abiola]

Sorry, but a weave is not the same as a beard. I stopped taking this seriously after that comment.

[@naomi1182]

real_abiola right..... I couldn't figure out where the connection between a beard that grows naturally on someone's face and a weave O.o

[@338holly]

Men are getting their beards and hairlines filled in when they won't grow or grow in patchy. There are whole beard lace fronts. And some of those same men who love their own fake hair turn around and criticize black women for weaves. That's how they are alike.

[@user-tn6fg2du6v]

real_abiola right I hate when women say that it’s so delusional ! Black woken be honest about our issues with hair

[@real_abiola]

Aish The theme today is honesty and I’m realizing that a lot of women, notably black women aren’t honest. That beard analogy still baffles my mind.

[@real_abiola]

Aish I just caught something that they said. One of the women said that black women celebrate their hair and like to switch up their hair. But I’m actually they are just covering up their own hair with a weave aka hair hat.

[@lateishaclement2537]

Frannie is on point: "Black men celebrate black women's beauty when it is not on a black woman's body!" Truth. Girl!!! So eloquent.

[@AlMaDines]

That's crazy cause me and my sister was talking about this a couple weeks ago how black men particularly is liking other races with black girls body but not respecting us

[@lacienagalacey9454]

queban11 curvaceous

[@saeon4427]

@Galva Tron lies they shape less

[@saeon4427]

Galva Tron u know u lying stfu

[@saeon4427]

Galva Tron maybe u should go to africs

[@TheOlmonroe1]

@Love Always I'm intrigued about the word swag. Can you explain it to me?

[@palick5617]

Davale is a very good interviewer. I like watching him work his guests to get authentic responses. I'm telling my friends about this network. Thanks for the lively conversations.

[@vishalsorout]

All of their videos have a million contradictory statements all over the place

[@omggiiirl2077]

I have to say, this is true! The self hate is real! Many Black Men, not all, front and say how proud they are of their blackness, but hate themselves, to the point they refuse to be with African Women. I know this because I am a Black Woman of mixed heritage, who to many, for some reason, doesn't look African. So I hear all sorts of scandalous things these self haters say to me, and when they find out that I'm Black, they assume I'm submissive/tamed because I'm mixed, or they won't mess with me. When they find out that I'm nothing like they assumed I get the same hate they throw at other Black Women. And the gag is that ALL Women around the world have our quirks, and unique features and things that make us special, or weird. African Women are no different, and as many hood, mean, angry Black Women there are out there, there are just as many beautiful, loving, nurturing, sweet, kind and strong women out there! The men who hate themselves are just to messed up too perceive those women, too immature, and those Men aren't worth your time. And the USA isn't the only place to find a good Black Man, there are a few places to find a good catch, widen your scope and open your heart and mind.

[@donwal2016]

self hate is just a shaming tactic, the truth is you can't compete on a free dating market so you want to limit black men into only dating you.

[@collinspolynice5583]

Hey Stopthat you lying.

[@DukeSaragono]

I think what it is, a lot of black women bash black men where other race worship us.

[@sheree1994sa]

@@DukeSaragono worship and fetish are 2 different things, because a lot of times that's what it is, they want the "Mandingo"

[@sonnid.7122]

The other real truth is that. The black man wants to wake up every morning as a white man and live his life. Not all black men... but

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

Anthone right on my brotha! Cause alot of these black men have a very delusional perception of beauty.....

[@MrThekidisback]

how can someone's perception of beauty be delusional? What are you talking about.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Senait Ashenafi exactly

[@starvinmarvin718]

Bianca Starks Bs, no man is forcing you to do anything with yourself for beauty, if you look good then you look good.

[@sorayas.6515]

All men have a very "unrealistic" perception of beauty. Not just black men.

[@MrThekidisback]

brittany s but black men don't hold women to these standards, you see black men dating all different types of women of different shapes and sizes.

[@Brian-sh2gi]

This was a Lvl. 1 discussion.

[@legalmemories]

I think the attention question is so tied to being young. When I was 24 getting attention from men all the time was so annoying. But at 44 I love the rare times a man other than my husband notices me. Lol

[@reagansimon111]

You are going backwards.

[@biblethumper8088]

Don't worry everybody gets old. It's a part of life. If I had been aware of how BM really feel about us, I would've waited till 50 to get married. That's when being with someone really counts. Men don't appreciate woman until their old.

[@Masterofart412]

The wall is undefeated

[@kaylam835]

legalmemories it’s not annoying to me it’s just the disrespectful ones who grab on you, hiss at you, and say “ayo redbone that dat ass is fat“ like I hate being called redbone, it doesn’t even sound nice.

[@cor3yr3yslimjim93]

These conversations never go anywhere with females u just end up talking in circles

[@Brianna-nc3og]

What conversations?

[@cor3yr3yslimjim93]

@@Brianna-nc3og relationships between man and woman and life in general

[@Brianna-nc3og]

@@cor3yr3yslimjim93 specific conversations? Or in general? Im Just trying to understand.

[@michaelangst6078]

ain't no one want u bucktooth ass nigga

[@meriani777]

Anyone know where I can find Frannie's dress? It is gorgeous on her.

[@marglady8758]

Lami Onifade bohoo

[@trinalogan140]

This was a really great video! Thank you for posting and sharing with us. It's good to see so many topics without being combative. Everyone expected everyone's opinion. This was very well done. Please keep this series coming!

[@olgadivineagahozo8829]

It doesn't matter what men think. By having to sit and give too much energy on topics like these, you are giving out your power as a black woman by even slightly considering someone else's opinion about your beauty. If you think you are enough you won't even consider or care about what others think. Plus, let people love who they want to love because it's not even about race, it's about the person himself and you have no right or power to try and control that. I know a lot of black men that love black women and their features so please this is not even entirely true. People from outside our race also have big butts, boobs, and curves by the way :)... We do not own everything. Do not let someone that don't even know you exist, affect how you feel. Let it Go!!

[@godbearxd]

Yes!

[@freeyourself7510]

@@godbearxd stfu.

[@freeyourself7510]

Olga stfu Hypocrite

[@ilyanemuno5427]

@Miss Le Blanc it absolutely does matter. Mutual respect, validation, connection and attraction are all fundamental in a good community for people to feel included and wanting to invest in a society that invested in them (financially, emotionally etc). Black people not loving the other sex within the same race is the beginning of the end for the community. Of course people love who they want, I'd be a huge hypocrite for saying the opposite, but it doesn't change the fact that logically you can't have black children on the long run if every generation of black people avoid each other. They're gonna mix until the black disappears. If it happens, it happens, but I'm just saying. People will in a way always care about belonging in a community, and romantic attraction is one of the most powerful bonding links and validation one could give to someone else

[@Phronesis7]

Most of these types of panel discussions tend to be SO negative so I am absolutely loving these. Both the male and female panelists are pretty honest and introspective from what I've seen so far. Such a breath of fresh air, so glad I decided to start watching

[@thehoneyeffect]

Michael Ealy doesn't date black women, so you are good

[@chery4]

thehoneyeffect haaaa 😂

[@cbnboy34]

thehoneyeffect Exactly! Ealy and black brotherhood should NOT be in same sentence

[@SpaceCWB0y2u]

Ealy is married with two kid's. None of these women are married and have a low chance of getting down the aisle. The big girl voice deep as fcuk. And period she not attractive whether she's black or you put her body on another race of woman. I'm not in the greatest Shape but I hit the gym 3 day's a week. In the end these women are single and although some. Are physically attractive, some if at their age are about to hit the WALL.

[@thehoneyeffect]

i see black men of every class with fat white women all the time so with respect what you have said is balderdash.

[@jenniferwilliams8863]

@@SpaceCWB0y2u the girl on the end looks closer to our ancestors facially with not enough admixture showing through her features that's your real problem

The lady who said black men love to see black type of bodies on other women is crazy or has not travelled the world.. not all whites, blacks or people from the Hispanic world is the same. Maybe she should lose a few hundreds pounds before she makes judgement.

[@holdupnow2326]

Black men wear faux loc/dreads,360 waves, blonde hair,relaxer,perm......Let us be real look at the history of black men hair. What black women do to their hair, black men follow

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

Can't believe 12 people co-signed this ignorant comment... lol! Outside of Chicago, dreadlocks are rarely seen, and in the Caribbean, those dreads are mostly authentic hair... lol! But I guess if 2% of Black men do something, then those are stats worth mentioning huh? GTFOH!!!

[@arrellehnisrael8229]

So calling it rare is an exaggeration. Yet... you have no evidence other than your word. Sis if I say I KNOW plenty of black women who have a foul odor between their legs you would question,.. what kind women am I hanging around!

[@Summer_Wonder]

Arrell Ehn locs are popular all over the south. You need to get out more.

[@BlackSuperman2099]

+Arrell Ehn You already know it's futile pointing out the sheer stupidity in some of these comments in defense of "ghetto sistas". WE already know that for the most part, we black men rock our "natural look". Every culture has its fades, but with many black women, weave has been around for decades & there's actually females on the news who robbed/stole weave from stores. I've seen females jealous of guys with long hair and/or dreads because their hair won't grow like that.

[@BlackSuperman2099]

+Arrell Ehn Actually it's not too far off from being factual. Most guys don't have dreads in their hair. I'm a male & I nor my male family members have any type of braided hair. The most I've ever had was cornrows back in the early 2000's. You can watch tv shows or even the news to see how many black men have their hair braided in any type of way. The thing a lot of younger black males are doing is the whole Odell Beckham Jr hairstyle.

[@5764567467]

I enjoy this show but I was wondering if the topic is solely going to be men and relationships. I enjoy these topics too but there are tons of other things going on with the black community. I'd love to see a variety of topics! Keep this show going.

[@loulousworld92]

Lyric Poet Yes, I believe this is solely based on relationships. Not sure if you are new to the channel but ask a black men was centred around the similar topics.

[@cbnboy34]

Alot of black people NEED to hear this topic!

[@carolines6195]

As a non American Black women, with lots of diversity . Looking at the circumstances of an African Americans women I see a set up. The lies that have been feed come from a western view point. Non of it , is to give Black women or men for that matter any advantage . The African American man is extinct in America and we all know why, I will not visit there. So my wisdom I would like to share to AA women is to think globally. The world is small. There are plenary of fine Black men on the African continent. Many African women have been importing them. I don’t think they lack. In fact all other ethnicity’s have no problem importing. You do not have to confine yourself to what is around you. If you are successful, then take time to travel and open your eyes. Anyway that is my thoughts on the issue, I hope it helps someone.

[@drtash21]

I lowkey laughed when the first girls age came up as "30ish" Girl why you lying?? 😂

[@alyasa5352]

2020 Men wear hair extensions, toupees, texturize, dye their hair, men that are bald, men large in size, slim in size, men tall and short, dark and fair skin tone.....Who's making a huge deal out of that? Should we really be making a deal out of it anyway? What happened to equal opportunity? Non discrimination?

[@zizwehunt1872]

Black wonen do not hold themselves accountable!

[@ksolomon98]

The "issue" is that there is a "issue" in the first place. Family is important PERIOD.

[@iamyourfuture2033]

Some men really be going too far trying to get a female attention. There was some random dude who just grap my sister butt out of no where in the street but he had no idea my mom was right behind her so my mom had to check ✅ him real quick. In NY there only a very few men who know how to properly get a lady attention.

[@WatchYourMouth97]

WHY DIDN'T YOU SMACK THE SHIT OUTTA HIM WTF ..... I'M SO SORRY THAT HAPPENED TO YOU

[@brianhines1452]

I like ALL races of women, but as a Black Man, Black Women to me are the most appealing, sexy, and beautiful. I just like hearing Women talking as a group, whether they are Black, White, Hispanic, or other. Once we all see each other as people, dating and courting will be fun again and not too complicated.

[@night2102]

I been called exotic almost all my life. But we shouldn't play down other women to make another feel good.

[@ratherbenapping10]

Omg that hat fishing is too true!!! I definitely think that men and boys need to be encouraged emotionally the same way women are

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

Alot of men are afraid of a woman that's not scared to unleash her flaws it intimidates them. So they sway away if he's a weak & superficial man, real women & men face there demons not sweep it underneath a rug.....

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Jessica Dickson Excuse me I don't have to late anything go cause this is KZbin I'm allowed to voice my opinion aunty. And as for getting laid speak for your damn self.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Jessica Dickson Why does a woman have to be angry when she's voicing her opinion in a aggressive way? You really need to check yourself.

[@BiancaStarksMusic]

+Bianca Starks It's not anger sweetie it's passion!

[@handled99]

or maybe those "flaws" are just unattractive?

[@reagansimon111]

Women- "If you don't like the fucked up things I say/ do, you are intimidated by me."

[@TheLilly]

Like the ladies said, we do love our black men. We really do. We just want reciprocity. Put us first like we do y'all!❤👑👑

[@louiswoodardjr2038]

Lilly N. + I LUV YOU TOO BOO❤️🖤💚✊🏽✊🏽👸🏽🤴🏾

[@johnballard6725]

Don't wait around for BM instead try other races like Asian, Caucasian, Hispanic ?

[@BlackSuperman2099]

Wow. Is she that unintelligent that the only retort she had about wearing weave was men dye their beards? I'm guessing the simple fact that women do far more dye jobs than men proves she really didn't think before she spoke? There's a stark different between changing the color of your facial hair back to its original color after going gray & plopping a yard of store-bought blonde/pink/blue/red/green yaki on your head & leaving it in for weeks all while patting it when it itches. If anything a man would simply shave his facial hair & call it a day, but there's exceptionally few women who'd shave their heads. Black men don't lead the nation in dye jobs (if anything whites would), yet the overwhelming majority of women in the world who wear weave are black women. In fact I think they got rid of the women with "natural hair" & replaced them with this new cast. Everyone of them seemed to be wearing weave, meanwhile none of the men there looked like they dyed their beards.

[@KaylinCandiesfactoRy]

When a man is madly in love he does embrace every part of your body, skin and hair .he accepts you ... For sure a large number of men hates theirs features , hair textures, wear waves. we had been told that black was ugly for years. it's like ...this trauma is written down in our veins , mentality ... how can we solve this problem we blame each other ..instead of seeing the real issue , to fix it ! ps : sorry if my english is not perfect , english is not my first language .. do not hesitate to tell me if something is wrong

[@Nedecha]

Thank you! I was just about to ask why they always only using single women?! What about the married women and the women in relationships. Looking forward to the next episode now!

[@biancalord488]

Chadene Mbouogno single means not married.

[@swiitdoll]

Bianca Lord exactly. If u don't have a ring or a marriage certificate, you are single.

[@lacienagalacey9454]

I mean.. a black married woman is black before anything else so I don’t see how her feelings towards topics like these would really change the game.

[@alexpriceonline]

She's absolutely right, young women are taught and put on game! Young men have to learn through trial by error making us more susceptible to pain and disappointment.

[@jayceez4693]

comparing weaves to beards are ridiculous

[@simba5734]

Yes, SOME black men appreciate curves on different races of women. We also appreciate the kind, nice and friendly attitudes of those other races of women as well.

[@topnotchtn4538]

I wonder if the host still believes that black women like being cat-called? He seemed very convinced of that.

[@justme707]

I know men that have said to me personally that they wish women would approach them.. and taking that to heart .. I tried that and was turned down, asked if I was desperate and the "I like to do the chasing" talking point.. so now I don't do that anymore. I don't know what they want.

[@mdkvisions]

To much value on Looks and exterior and not enough on intellect and values, this is the problem we are having as a culture, a lot of us are shallow and stuck on Dumbe and materialism, then we wonder why relationships are not working out and our women become baby mamas and the poverty cycle continues... come on people lets evolve and become deeper thinkers....

[@MarianDrayton]

Hatfish is REEEEEAL!!!! 😂😂😂😂 This was great!!! Bravo ladies!!!

[@KairoK]

These questions were juvenile though. It didn't tell us how women feel about their own bodies unless it's through the male gaze. I want to know what these women think...not about how they interpret men's actions. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@surayaiffah4967]

Great point!

[@1VictoriasCreations]

I know this is 11 months ago but he's giving them questions and they are answering them. It's a interview of what black women think of black men not what they think about their self

[@paulak.marais642]

Frannie I agree with everything you said! A lot of black men celebrate black features on other races. This is sooooo true!

[@roberttwin888]

black women are beatiful inside and out

[@DukeSaragono]

One girl said us as black men value thier features on other women, she’s right and I think it’s because your not use to seeing a white, Indian, Asian etc with a nice plump shape so it’s rare more like black women you see it on the regular so it doesn’t stand out

[@uniquejrny]

The Neyo comment was unnecessary 👀

[@jazzybelle2619]

uniquejrny I'm glad you said that. That man is out here living his best life and you're going to critique something he has no control over. That attitude is not cute 😐

[@nayvidss]

Facts, I hate having real convos with ppl who feel the need to put others down. I bet she probably was joking but this the wrong comment to make in this type of forum.

[@BrooklynDodger]

Exactly. Why should he get shrapnel. He out there minding his business and making good music and here she come with that BS. She sounds like a bitter woman.

[@wisdomwonder1]

But they say, BW never check other BW on their bs... We do it often, actually. @nayvidss your comment was a perfect example! Sis is gorgeous, and she def didn't need to go there.

[@truebut3243]

Why they hating. It's not like he puts fake stuff to hide his natural features

[@pickmeisha]

If more BW took the same pride in their bodies being fit/non-obese as they did up keeping their hair they may have better outcomes with BM.

[@MGTOWUNIVERSE]

Just a few more reasons to go #MGTOW and stay #MGTOW4LIFE!

[@juratory8876]

Oh, grow up.

[@MGTOWUNIVERSE]

@@juratory8876 Great comeback

[@oladipupodurotimi4754]

@@MGTOWUNIVERSE what does #MGTOW means bro?

[@WORKFROMHOMEHACKER]

@@oladipupodurotimi4754 Men Going Their Own Way

[@oladipupodurotimi4754]

@@WORKFROMHOMEHACKER That was funny 😄 but thanks. 👌🏾

[@tmarcel1594]

OMG, Tiffany said it right, but no one seems to hear what she said, "..they don't know what they want"

[@ai-real2023]

But we know exactly what we want, yall just don't want to listen

[@angelac2228]

BW need to quit complaining. They raise their daughters to have these insecurities. Then try to blame BM.

[@freeyourself7510]

Stfu Mammy Handmaiden Mule.

[@angelac2228]

@@freeyourself7510 It's true though.

[@henryfrancis9533]

That's right...finally some truth up in here.

[@4everseeking361]

I haven't even listened to the video yet....the TITLE SAYS IT ALL!!!

[@anachristina9543]

What men wear fake beards...WHY????

[@MrBdavis99]

I celebrate & appreciate black women's intelligence and beauty daily.

[@rogerlevy2264]

These women don't know how to think for themselves just mindlessly drifting along in life

[@xmarksthespot1372]

How can it be YOUR features on a body that's not yours?

[@MegaDede1212]

Devale is a great host 👏

[@PolySpikeAndWave]

You look good because you feel good. And if you feel good you’ll be more productive and a little happier.

[@biggmixxo]

Sistas keep doing what u doing, we love y'all. We just dont like ratchets.

[@highlyfavored7695]

I love what one of the girls said they celebrate Black woman when it's not on a black woman body

[@airbornechuck6474]

Non black man says he loves black women: Yassss! Black man says he loves non black women: Nooooo! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Onyxoko]

To be real: black women are LOYAL to black men. It’s not reciprocated MOST of the time.

[@johnballard6725]

Don't waste your time with BM if it's not reciprocated try other races who will date and marry you ?