make better decisions with less regret, the truth about "procedures" + more... September Q+A PART 2

[@joyfulinhope1210]

I love the “boring” content, and I don’t think I’m alone. Just seeing you casually vlog while taking care of kids and animals is entertainment enough.

[@aseeshera5998]

I agree I’m not a mum , in fact I’m not even in a relationship. I see your videos as a safe haven. When I watch some videos they leave me feeling inadequate at times. Like I need to be stylish, productive, healthy. Angie’s videos never make me feel like that. I instead feel positive, inspired to be a mum like that to my own kids in the future.

[@hydrangeababy768]

Hi Angie, for me the Botox thing just strikes a bigger issue. The standards we are portraying to young girls is going to negatively affect them and in turn grow the “need” for getting cosmetic enhancements. My friends are 22 and already talk about getting it. Someone could say “why do you care about how I feel about myself”, well when a good portion of women 25-60 are doing it, it creates a larger narrative than your own personal insecurities. Overall our society continues to not value aging and the beauty of it.

[@heatherm2542]

Brava! 👏

[@chelseajustinready6662]

Well said 👏🏻

[@christinakern6625]

I absolutely agree. This is the bigger issue! What message does this send to our daughters that these procedures are what it takes to be beautiful? Love you, Angela! You always speak so graciously and cover your opinions with wisdom and grace.

[@Alryeght]

Hi :) I just wanted to say something about the feminism and purity culture discussion at the beginning of your video. I think we disagree on some fundamentals, but I'm not here to judge or 'call you out' or anything. I just think that the way you talked about modern feminism is a little bit warped. Feminism as I've known it for the past 15 years is concerned with giving everyone their free will and power over their own choices. This can look like people being intimate with whomever they meet on the street, but it also includes people who just aren't into that kind of intimacy at all or wanna wait for marriage/a deep emotional connection. I've personally never heard someone call for women behaving like men in intimate relations, except maybe in very polemic (bad) takes or representations of feminism from the outside. In the spirit of nuance, I just want to welcome everyone reading this to be weary of sources that claim that modern feminism or sex positivity are solely about succumbing to primal human urges. That is a simplified definition that doesn't do the reality of activism and community building many people have been doing justice.

[@miriaml516]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@IzzyGraceBeauty]

Unfortunately my experience with feminism is women telling men that they are superior and that women should basically control men. It’s sad. Yes women should have equal rights in the workplace, voting and etc but no women aren’t above men. It’s very apparent in our culture now.

[@elladavis3224]

^^ this is how i feel too, and to add: i think that “waiting till marriage” and being a feminist can coexist (although the systemic roots are different). a lot of the things that were said during that particular question’s answer were things that i disagree with, so i just wanted to uplift your comment and also share my input.

[@laceyemery4758]

It’s also really presumptuous to blanket-statement say men overall have no emotional attachments when they have sex

[@tarageldart3241]

Dig deeper into the driving force of the feminist movement, how its funded and then start asking yourself why. It's truly evil. It's much deeper than just having equal rights. That goes without saying... women and men have equal natural rights. However there's so much to this "movement " that originated in a think tank to steer the population in a particular direction.... the one we happen to be in today.

[@devereauxmanuel]

Time stamps: 0:58 - Do you believe you should wait till marriage to be intimate with somebody? 5:18 - What do you despise about back to school time ? 6:26 - Any general advice for a new mom? 11:57 - Do you get Botox or fillers? 18:47 - Favorite worship group? 19:38 - How is your dad doing? 20:19 - Any wisdom on raising boys or good book recommendations? 23:24 - What aspect of your day to to day life would surprise people who watch you on KZbin? * 24:44 - When do you plan on letting your children have phones? 26:25 - Does it all get to be a bit much sometimes and making you crave just a day off from being a mom? 27:48 - If you could only keep one type of animal, which one do you keep? 29:15 - If you had to have 20 kids or 20 dogs, which would you choose? 29:45 - Are you going to get another arrow tattoo to represent Benjamin? 31:07 - What’s the oil you use for hair growth? 31:49 - What are your plans for the kitchen area? 32:38 - How do you feel safe about sending kids to camps? 34:39 - Do you ever wake up and just feel overwhelmed before you’ve gotten out of bed?

[@nikki7263]

God bless you, you’re doing the lords work 😅❤

[@beckyj325]

Thank you! Before I start a Q&A, I always look for this comment. 🙌🏻

[@pjengland286]

Thank you

[@Butterfly_princess160]

Please watch video explanation on this by Sadhguru for a clear picture on this topic.

[@veenstersmom]

We don’t always agree, but I love how well-thought out and well researched your answers are. I really appreciate the nuance you include in your opinions

[@millemole]

Re- Botox/filler: I totally agree that people are not obligated to share what they’ve had done. Where I draw the line is people selling products so you can “look like them” when the reason they look that way isn’t because of some magic beans it’s because they have money for various procedures.

[@MultiDaisy1995]

I also really appreciate what you said about trusting yourself as a mother. When you mentioned PPD, Baby blues, & Postpartum psychosis… I felt very seen. I experienced severe PPD with my daughter. It was debilitating. I felt like I was melting away, failing my baby, myself, & everyone around me. I seriously though my baby didn’t love me & that she was better off with other people caring for her while I watched & cried. It was SO HARD even with an amazingly supportive wife & sister. After ongoing therapy & increasing my depression medication, I realize that I am an amazing, capable, loving, attentive mama, with very strong maternal instincts. It’s CRAZY how PPD can make you into a whole different person. I look at my daughter & cry sometimes when I think about how amazing it is being her mama now & how difficult it was before.

[@jackimanley3056]

Unfortunately, statistically, abuse more often occurs with people you know vs. strangers. It tends to be someone children are comfortable with. For personal reasons, we've chosen not to participate in any overnight activities (sleepovers, camps, etc). We also do not drop off our kids anywhere without one of us (the parent) staying. I know it's an extreme stance, and believe me I've heard all the flack. However, growing up a sibling of mine was abused at our neighbor's house. We "trusted" them at the time. Sadly, the damage to my sibling has been terrible to see. I'd rather my child "miss out" than for them to go through a lifetime of abuse related problems. Sorry I got kinda deep there ...

[@lakliams]

I grew up with parents like you are. I had lots of fun with friends and family, I didn't care my parents were there. On the contrary, I feel that i learned to respect others opinions and to say "no" without feeling peer-pressured. When i was in my 20s i never had the need to go to sleepovers or go just about anywhere without thinking about possible future activities there. Now, that I'm a mom of 2 soon to be 3, I feel that I want to raise my kids in the same way.

[@jackimanley3056]

@@lakliams thank you for sharing:) blessings!

[@SunshineJoleen]

Never went to a sleepover as a child. I'm fine. You are right, the one instance of abuse was at the hands of the nephew of the lady who ran the daycare we went to. Predators need access and part of that access comes in the shape of your trust.

[@nicolevanheerden5814]

We also parent this way after seeing the effect of abuse on my husbands sister. Ive never regretted our decision and we take the flack in our stride. At the end of the day,we are the ones responsible for our kids at the end of the day.

[@alexandriavr6665]

A friend of mine in highschool was assaulted during a sleepover, now that I have kids Idk if I'll ever be okay with them sleeping over at somebody's house

[@jmcast3195]

I think it is important to be honest about cosmetic procedures because the achieved look is creating a new normal. By being vague or simply lying people think that the unnatural is actually natural and they dont know what reality is anymore.

[@dvo1060]

I agree that people have a right to privacy and don’t have to disclose their procedures. Where I have a problem is when influencers lie about it. Claiming they are “all natural”, and tell others “love yourself”, or claim to have lost weight by doing Chloe Tings workouts when in reality just had neo sculpting done….that’s just flat out lying.

[@karenclaudino]

As a feminist myself, and a proud one, I would like to point out that feminism advocates for your right to do what you want to do. That is simply it. Your right to be you. Having kids, not having them, get married, not getting married, having sex after marriage, before marriage or not having sex at all. We fight for a world that woman can be what she wants to be, because unfortunately we don’t have the option to choose it a lot of times, even when we aren’t aware of it.

[@nicolcacola]

Then you are not a modern feminist.

[@pamm2652]

There is a spectrum on being an feminist. Just wanted equal rights to we don't need a man we can do everything a man can, man are toxic. The feminist that I see most online tend to be on the latter side of it.

[@josiedavis934]

@@nicolcacola What? How? Everything she says is precisely what modern feminists stand for.

[@lilyannanewton2712]

What rights do men have that we don't have ?The feminist now day don't want equality ,they only want equality when it benefits them only.

[@scwendy6302]

All of this❤

[@briannachandler8440]

I so appreciate your boundaries with kids and phones recognizing how damaging social media can be, thank you for sharing your wisdom 😊

[@gabrielevelez3430]

I think the only reason I would be curious to hear more is because I think whatever filler or botox you’ve done looks lovely and so natural. I would want to know from the perspective of wanting to get natural looking botox myself someday. I think sharing the amount you have is very helpful to prevent people having unattainable goals for aging, I think you’ve done a great job so far being honest without violating your personal boundaries for privacy. Share what feels right for you! ❤

[@michellemunoz5133]

Love these chats! I love how you brought up the fact that we are not under any obligation to reveal our every decision surrounding every area of our life. I value my privacy, and respect that other people have a full right to their own privacy (including beauty secrets!)

[@theoD-L]

I am a silent follower and always hesitant to comment but I just wanted to say how much I love listening to you and your thoughts and views on things. I have followed a lot of people to get inputs on different topics and must say you have such an interesting, educated and insightful way of seeing things and it is very refreshing!! You have inspired me a lot to actually think and reflect and only then, act and react. Due to many different reasons I do get triggered when youtubers speak loudly and proudly about all their church related decisions regarding their children but with you I feel like you are actually not blindly following all the church principles but second guessing and educating yourself before passing on your faith to your children. Thank you for that and for doing what you do and being who you are and sharing it with the world! Lots of love from Austria :)

[@kristinak.9562]

Hi fellow Austrian! You are so right, it is sometimes a bit weird to watch some Amarican KZbinrs, but she does it quite good. :)

[@mamabenzing5872]

Then the homeschoolers can take over the world again 🤣 We took our first homeschool field trip....we were the only ones there and the tour guide was so excited to give us the whole tour.

[@lovindatJoan]

I appreciate your transparency. I honestly don’t care whether people have fillers or Botox. The only thing that I don’t like is when someone is selling skin care and they are clearly getting Botox. As we age we will look into more skin care videos and it sucks when those people aren’t honest. With that being said, I think if you aren’t selling anything then you shouldn’t be obligated to tell anyone. That is your business. My lips are naturally big because I am from the Caribbean and I have had people ask me where do I get my lips done. I crack up every time because I was made fun of my lips growing up.

[@abbywassermann8189]

Angie ❤ I love listening to you speak so freely! Answering questions that might be controversial and still managing to keep things so open and loving in your answers but still being able to set your point of view .. it’s a true virtue And I love listening

[@Myllamg]

I admire you so much! I was a little apprehensive to hear your answer to the first question, but I’m happy I did. And I don’t say that because I agree with all you said, because I don’t, but the way you said it. It showed the you care and see the nuances of those subjects. Thank you for being honest and talking about those hard subjects, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to talk about it publicly knowing that no matter what you say people will be upset.

[@cassandraroseschmidt3486]

I love my boring life and I do enjoy your boring life videos. Watching your videos has helped give me more confidence when it comes to homeschooling

[@johnstongirl11]

My parents obviously taught me the religious reasons for waiting but my dad was very honest and said men have sex with their bodies and women have sex with their hearts. No reason to complicate life or give your heart away. He was right. I didn’t wait (big regret) but I was very conservative and didn’t freely sleep with anyone. My heart was broken and I felt used. Never wanted that feeling again so I did wait after that. Was so worth it! 13 yrs of marriage later can’t get enough of my sweet hubby! 😊

[@brandi680]

Wow! Such incredibly wise words and honesty from your father! I honesty appreciate his truthfulness!

[@katrinaleebaldwin4660]

Although I believe for ME waiting until marriage is BEST for ME. I also disagree that SOME women cannot detach from sex and emotions. This belief that all women are somehow emotionally tied to who they sleep with and men are not is a bit oversimplified. I have met men who are emotionally tied to who they sleep with and also the opposite. This is not an attack on anything said in this video because for me I agree, but just another perspective. I sometimes think that people who “wait” view the world like they do and miss out on open dialog with people who do not have this same belief or vice versa. I have many female friends who are not always emotional concerning their sex life and it is no different than a part of body maintenance and is not tied to their worth. On the flip side I have many male friends who are the opposite. I love this video and really hope that I didn’t offend anyone with my perspective

[@brib3967]

I LOVE the way you answered the first question 🙌👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥

[@stacieocker]

I love that your answers are well thought out and genuinely put in a caring manner! Thank you for sharing 😊

[@Naedlj]

Ok… thank you for what you said about new mothers. I have an 8 yo special needs child and I’m 4 months pregnant. I really needed to hear some of the things you said about our ability to instinctively know how to raise our children and how to… basically keep them alive and healthy and happy and to make sure each child is getting what they need. I probably interpreted what you said to fit my situation but all the same… thank you. 💕

[@ryanm7249]

I pray that you have a smooth pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby.

[@KyleePicc]

Oh man…. as someone who has a history with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia I think about the ‘procedure disclosure’ topic more than most. When I was in high school at the height of my disorders I remember fully believing that celebrities were naturally like that. Now that I am older and recovered I lean more towards privacy over disclosure, but at the same time my heart aches for those not able to see past the financial and situational privilege that comes with anti-aging anything.

[@dandebwarren]

Thank you for talking about purity culture and that waiting till marriage isn't just about being a Christian. Most people do not want to acknowledge the physicals and emotional damage that CAN occur when our young girls make this decision for the wrong reason.

[@Ipickthisone]

I don’t agree with you all of the time I appreciate your willingness and vulnerability to have the harder conversations in a respectful way.

[@MsMaddy200]

Thank you for sharing your opinion on transparency regarding aesthetic procedures. And I totally agree. While I think it adds social benefit to disclose one had work done, no one needs to know the details. I only think it would be important to not make users of social media (especially young people) think that everyone on the internet just look so amazing all naturally.

[@imsharonl2]

Angie you have such a way with words and explaining 💕

[@siilviia92]

I never comment on videos but on the question on beautifying procedures: it should be disclaimed if the celebrity profits on insecurities they created. If you sell a tea to give you a flat tummy and you had a liposuction done, or if you had a facelift and botox and sell anti ageing creams... no matter how many creams, teas, or squats I do, I’ll never look like kim k (btw rip kim’s old butt, it’s gone for now 😂)

[@evelynporter6349]

I would never ask someone if they have had any treatment/procedure. On the other hand I see an alarming “need” especially on social media to look “perfect.” Airbrushed perfection vs natural beauty. I take care of my skin, I have since I was 14 and desire to age gracefully, which I believe I am even though being on long term steroids for an autoimmune disease. When I am 60 I don’t want to look 40, that’s not real. I think there is a lot of harm and pressures on teens and 20 something’s for the need to always look perfect, as always “on.”

[@teisharichins]

The only reason I want to know if someone has had Botox or any work done is so that I can have expectations that are in line with reality. I am relatively young but I am starting to see wrinkles and gray hair and am still deciding if Botox is something I want to do. It’s hard to gauge how skin ages in differently based upon all the different variables (skincare, Botox, filler, no skin care, tanning.. etc). So for me I just like to know so I can have a reference frame that aligns with reality. I agree that you have no obligation to explain any further. I do think that people who are beauty influencers or are trying to sale products for certain have skin concerns have a higher obligation for transparency. But I think that is also dependent on what claims they are making.

[@kelseygreene8807]

I agree generally with you on most topics and with this idea of plastic surgery and privacy I agree it comes across as false advertising when someone is a endorser of specific diet shakes, skin care, etc. When in truth they have personal trainers and chefs and plastic surgery and other extreme levels of treatments creating those results. Whereas in non-endorser roles no "disclosures" are necessary in my opinion.

[@laceyrushworth9823]

Your such a wonderful person! Sheesh! I thought I was just getting an amazing sweater dupes video, turns out I got hooked! Lol just a shout out to u for being a great momma! That's a big family u have. I think it's so fun that u all live on a farm. Your place is super cute. Love it all! Cheers :)

[@allisondame5360]

I have no fear of telling someone I get Botox but I dislike when people act like I should be ashamed of it because I don’t have a lot of wrinkles and I should be happy with how I look…..how is it any of there concern how I feel about my myself 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ingridsantos1841]

I think its a concern on a higher level, with women in general. Ofc making ppl feel ashamed is not ok but it is important for us to have this conversation and to try and get to a place where women dont feel the need to erase signs of living from their face.

[@MMyers-mh4jq]

You can use Botox for more Cosmetic reasons. It’s a very large practice for migraine treatments.

[@Nick2227-x3o]

I did botox for two years for migraines, and it worked! Migraine free was great! I had to stop due to the price and now I'm back to migraines.

[@janneketata3761]

Kia Ora Angie😊 Fine line tattoos: I have a son studying towards an art degree this year. Part of his study is tattoo. I just wanted to pass on that his tutor doesn’t recommend fine line tattoos. He says they only look good short term. Just sharing for your long term consideration. Thanks for your great chats and your courage to share your thoughts on a variety of topics. I love listening/considering while I’m cleaning. Enjoying your posts from life down in Aotearoa New Zealand.

[@undernorthernstar5697]

For me, Id never wait cos I wanna make sure the package I am getting is gonna be all around good for me :D

[@Mare00711]

A few minutes in and I'm loving this Ted talk!

[@heatherr8696]

I don't think the average person is OBLIGATED to say anything. I do, however, think there is another standard for people who are benefiting financially from other people based on how their skin looks. While you're still not obligated, per say, you do benefit financially from sharing expensive skin care products with your audience so it's reasonable that they want to know if you get your skin appearance from skin products only, or if you have the other things going on.

[@wherestronglovegrows]

Just want to say that I love all of your content. You're definitely one of my favorite people to watch. I did want to weigh in on something just simply because you asked... This is a couple days after you posted this video so you may not even see it but here it goes... In regards to having plastic surgery and Botox and lip fillers. While yes, I agree you shouldn't have to tell people that you've had those things done every time you do them and I agree that people are entitled to some privacy; I do think, especially for those people who are celebrities and also social media "influencers"/content creators, there should be some transparency. This is largely in support of mental health. There has been a lot of talk recently about how the effects of social media and content consumption affects mental health. I was just talking with one of my friends the other day and she was saying that she feels like a troll if she doesn't use a filter on Instagram. I personally didn't know that you've had Botox or fillers and I've watched every single one of your videos and I guess I just missed the part where you have talked about having that stuff done in the past (probably an "eat the meat spit out the bones" scenario). But, you are about 10 years younger than me but your skin somehow looks younger; I'm not a person who gets upset about that kind of thing. I'm extremely comfortable with myself; however, I could see how someone, who is not me, might have a difficult time with that. On another note, I do have a hard time with the fact that your eyebrows look about 5000 times better than mine because my little tiny blonde eyebrows won't do what yours do and I'm jealous.

[@michaelandkrystaltucker6091]

I think the platform and the reach of influence should create the difference in expectations of transparency. If my neighbor is getting plastic surgery, I don't think they need to walk around with a post it note on their forehead saying they have had work done. But when you have a woman or man being watched by a large and very impressionable audience, I think the transparency is important. We already have media telling us we need to look a specific way. So when we see people who look "perfect" online or on tv and they don't say hey, I've had work done to look this way...or this is a filter....or whatever it is...then it puts this unrealistic possibility onto the audience. Hope that makes sense. Been a long week. lol

[@thisrothtribe3780]

I 100% feel this way about the topic of plastic surgery and Botox.

[@heatherruble3177]

I am of the belief that wrinkles are beautiful. They are a sign of a life well-lived. I do not understand why people want to hide or alter the face that God gave them. I respect other opinions on this subject and everyone has a right to their own opinion.

[@AngiDas]

I consider myself a feminist and as a parent of a gay daughter, I have a lot of issues with purity culture but there are also the idea that you can do whatever want , with whoever you want and it isn’t going to leave a mark. I absolutely believe in bodily autonomy but I do think social media and especially the porn industry have harm how we as humans treat ourselves and our spirits and our relationships with others. If I could turn the clock back I would not have given my daughter a phone so soon. I think it doesn’t give her space for herself because her friends and bullies never give her space and make her feel like her interests like reading is dumb. Parenting in this day and age I feel is so much hard. Honestly, her being gay doesn’t even bother me because the way that young men and adult men treat women anymore and I will put that on the amount of pornography that they consume on a daily basis. I don’t honestly blame her for wanting to stay as far away from them as possible. Sorry if that sounds harsh but that’s where I’m at right now and I appreciate the honest conversation.

[@pe0nyr0w]

I really love that you are accepting of your daughter and her sexuality, she sounds lucky to have you as a mum who cares for her happiness and well-being! However, it might be worth bearing in mind that her sexuality isn’t simply an “anti-reaction” to men and their ways, but more of a positive, sexual, enjoyable response TO women. Xxx

[@sharks2571]

Lovely to see accepting parents!

[@annjames1837]

You will exist forever. You and God are both in the universe to stay, either as friends on His terms, or enemies on yours, which it will be is proven in this life. And this life is a vapor. Two seconds, and we will be gone.

[@ashleysmith8367]

This makes me happy! I'm WAY older than you but I could have benefited from this advice when I was post parrtum!

[@susanelmblad2844]

I really enjoy listening to your videos as I'm working!! Keep on coming!

[@Gohappygirl]

I love that you talk about what you want and say what you want. I was damaged by purity culture unfortunately and it caused me allllll sorts of issues and I didn’t even wait until marriage and I know for a fact it would have been worse if I did wait. I don’t sleep with just everyone but I truly believe that you need to know sexual compatibility prior to marriage

[@queentatoune]

The Botox question is so interesting and like you I am in two minds about it. It does seem like an intrusive question and I would probably not dare to ask someone that question. However I do like to know because as I get to a point in my life where signs of age are starting to show on my face it doesn't feel good to be surrounded by people my age or older who seem have much smoother skin than mine ! I don't blame anyone for having procedures done, I just whish that we could get to a place where wrinkles are not seen as something undesirable, that we should strive to prevent or erase. Especially for women, because for men on the other hand, deep lines on the forehead for exemple don't seem to be a threat for their attractiveness. Lots of people would qualify men with a fair amount of wrinkles as attractive, sexy. If only we could see womens faces in the same way, many of us would feel so luch better about themselves ! But I don't think that will happen in my lifetime 😅

[@Hannnaho]

Angie, could you consider doing a video of how you do your most common hair styles?? That would be helpful for someone who is hair incompetent like myself lol

[@stephybartholomae6207]

I think its wonderful that you are honest about the cosmetic procedures you have done, or that you have had them done, but i dont think you have to share. I do think it would be really interesting though. love that you are willing to share that!

[@mandysteffan2958]

I've been talking to my husband a lot about how I want to talk about sex with my children and also the damage done to me personally by purity culture. It's amazing how much my thoughts on the subject have evolved over the years while still maintaining beliefs about sex within the marriage relationship. It is definitely not as black and white as people perceive it to be.

[@jessicarodman3569]

Love your realness its so refreshing

[@shinystarsimmy]

I terms of cosmetic procedures I think if you advertise or promote products etc I believe there should be disclosure because if you don't you are promoting things that work to create this outcome when actually much of what helps this is as a result of the procedures you've had not the products used. The same for me applied to filters and touching up of pictures. The media is a dangerous place for young women in particular and often they believe what they see because they know no better.

[@shinystarsimmy]

For the average joe at work, in the streets, go about your business and live your best life. ☺

[@rebeccafalkner2876]

This! I agree 100%! I would NEVER ask the “average Joe” about injections or their pricey treatments unless they are doing “skincare favorites” etc. where they get any kind of kickback / monetary gain.

[@rebeccafalkner2876]

People want to know if someone’s skin / youthful looking face is the product of their “skincare favorites” or is also due to other things…

[@loveLJ91]

Regarding the question about revealing Botox, fillers or other work, where I come from is a general curiosity. You look amazing, I want to know how I can look good like you.

[@laurissa1790]

With plastic surgery, I don't think you are obligated to tell anyone anything, UNLESS you are a celebrity/influencer that is going to sell/promote a company or product related to what you've had done. (Lip plumpers/lip makeup when you've had fillers, booty workouts when you've had a BBL, Skincare for wrinkles when you've had Botox, flat tummy tea when you've had a tummy tuck, etc.) In those instances, they need to be 100% upfront. I think it's really dangerous to people, especially young impressionable people that get discouraged when they aren't getting the same results. It can lead to body dysmorphia, eating disorders, depression, Orthorexia, poor self esteem, etc. In that instance it is deceitful, manipulative, and complete gaslighting. I want to say that I have no problem with plastic surgery, and people are not at all obligated to tell anyone anything. It's your body and your private medical business. But if you're going to use it as a money making opportunity by gaslighting people, then you absolutely should have to be transparent about it. And I'm not saying at all that Angie is one of those people, she absolutely is NOT.

[@CheeseLoversUnited]

I am not religious, nor am I straight, so I doubt my perspective has any value to someone with an americanized Christian sexual ethic who presumably would see the ways I live my own life as flagrantly and unapologetically sinful or not godly or whatever. So I am coming into this comment assuming that to someone like you and some of your audience, my point of view doesn't hold much water simply because of who i am and the choices I make. That being said, I will say this: I think it's creating a false binary to say that the options are saving yourself for marriage or 'acting like a man' and attempting to detach emotionally and have a lot of casual sex in an uncaring and callous way. I think there are a lot of things wrong with this framing. the gender essentialism on display with saying "having sex like men do", as if some men don't also assign a lot of emotional and spiritual significance to sex and could find the practice of doing it in a detached way hurtful. I think it's disingenuous to paint all third wave feminism or sexual liberation ethic with "It means women should have sex like men!" I think that's a very uncharitable, biased framing but, honestly, those aren't my biggest issues with your false dichotomy. To me, casual sex does not have to be inherently detached emotionally or cold or uncaring. To me I think arbitrary rules like "wait before marriage" are less useful than developing a strong sexual ethic and applying it for example, my sexual ethics dictate sex is an act between two or more people, where everyone cares about each other, respects each other, is committed to kindness, mutual pleasure and taking care of themselves and their partners emotionally and physically. It's about crating a safe place where connection can be nurtured and explored Now, for some people, living that sexual ethic means waiting for a monogamous, americanized Christian marriage before having sex with one person for the rest of your life ideally. For them, that would be the only place sex would feel safe, fulfilling and spiritually resonant. That's fine. I rejectthe idea that's the only healthy approach towards sex. Just because it worksfor some people doesn't mean it is for all or most. (as you can see with the rising tides of complaints and geart wrenching stories about the damage of purity culture) I think some women ARE capable of having casual sex that is sexually ethical, safe and fulfilling for everyone involved. I dont think its any more or less INHERENTLY damaging than waiting before marriage. i think both models are just one of infinite possibilities, and can be toxic and harmful in the wrong hands I don't think sex before marriage is always casual sex, anyways. To be clear I'm not mad, this isn't an attack, I'm not trying to "cancel" you. I am subscribed to you because I enjoy your videos. I hope that even if you don't think my perspective is worth much, that you recognize I am coming at this from a place of curiosity and criticizing the ideas, not you as a person. How do yall yall pur it again...hate the sin not the sinner,? ;)

[@faithgrace2919]

I agree that your opinion doesn't hold much water.

[@TheALfever]

ALL of this 💙

[@eightthirtyeight]

Yes! Very thoughtful comment and discussion opener.

[@wendymtzc]

You are not religious and she is a Christian, of course your views are going to be completely different…

[@pjengland286]

#3 I appreciate hearing when someone “had work” because it’s easy to compare aging with someone of similar ages to me and wonder why I don’t have no wrinkles 😉

[@littol_hampuff]

not sure if anyone's commented about this yet but! Fine line tattoos are very susceptible to distorting. After a few years they don't look the same as they did when they were first done because the pigment travels via the bloodstream and with tiny designs a lot of the detail is lost! Definitely something to discuss with an artist when picking a design if longevity is important to you, and I'd recommend looking up examples of fine line tattoos 5 or so year healed

[@TheKosloskeShow]

So refreshing to hear another Christian women have the same view on purity culture! 🙌🏻 I’m not letting my kids do any church camps because I know how they handle the purity conversation and it’s dangerous.

[@paulofell9939]

It is dangerous to teach your child to follow God's Word? Did you ever think it wasn't the purity culture that was dangerous. But the going against God's Word. Maybe those kids felt bad when they sinned because they are created to feel bad when they sin and go out of God's will?.. maybe it wasn't God's Word that made them feel bad... But their taking their self out of God's design. 🤦

[@susie7336]

@@paulofell9939 🙌🏽

[@ingridsantos1841]

@@paulofell9939 Did you ever stop to think why the ones who feel bad are the ones raised in the church while the ones raised normally dont feel that? Could it be because kids raised in the church are raised to be ashamed of natural things and supress their emotions? Why use the easy way out and blame it on god when theres a very simple psychological explanation

[@LadyTressa]

Raising my daughter I found the book Teaching Your Children Values bye Richard and Linda Eyre really helpful as it was along my thoughts and feelings of how to raise her.

[@christinebeaudin4551]

Just out of curiosity, why do you home school? What is the advantage? Absolutely no disrespect.

[@libbysjournal]

We would all be so much better if we could all learn simply learn from each other disagree without turning it into a huge right fight

[@lisliveslife7090]

Feminism is the belief that all sexes and genders have equality (of pay, rights, etc). If you believe that, you believe in feminism. A lot of ideas can get tagged “feminism” (like being sexually free) when that’s not necessarily the case. I like your content and we don’t have to agree, of course, But, I’d be shocked if you truly didn’t l believe l your daughters deserve the same rights as your sons.

[@lisliveslife7090]

The belief that all sexes *have a right to* equality

[@nmm913]

There are several different waves of feminism, all of which are very different. The movement for equal pay rights is a seperate wave from the sexual revolution. Earlier feminism was more women positive while the later waves that focus on the sexual revolution have been very damaging to women and society in my opinion

[@shinystarsimmy]

A suggestion is a community post on here for Q for videos like these. ☺☺

[@brookebloss3332]

Is there a link for the hair growth product? Did I miss it?

[@maureenthurz9754]

Some of the comments on here really make me sad. I am not a conservative "Christian ", but I believe in being nice to people and allowing everyone to have their own thoughts and opinions as long as it does discriminate, hurt or affect someone elses happiness or autonomy. I may not have the same opinion or beliefs as Angie or some of you on here...but I can still enjoy her vlogs and listen to her thoughts.

[@maureenthurz9754]

Sorry ..i meant to say does NOT...not does

[@sherryhudson9075]

Questions a person might ask about having “work” done is like asking someone how much they weigh or what their income is. It’s too personal and no one’s business

[@MsMaddy200]

have to admit it: I am just a horsey girl, would you be willing to update us on them? I remember you had one mare go into training with you planning on starting to ride again :) would love to know how it’s going for all of them

[@maritje4225]

Please look up the long term look of those fine line tattoos. Like 5 years healed or something. They look incredible when they’re fresh but they don’t heal very nicely.

[@radioabi88]

I would love to see your Spotify playlists!

[@roseowsley6232]

If a person is willing to deal with what could go wrong to each there own. But please don't make the young believe something that isn't true. Young women only want to be beautiful . 🌹

[@ellymariaphotography2081]

About the botox thing. I personally would love a disclaimer from celebrities/ influencers when recommending skincare because it's not usually obvious to me when someone has had work done (I don't think yours was obvious at all!). I guess I am naive to that and that's why I am always weary of celebrity products.

[@debbiemize2269]

Unoffended viewer here! I came of age in the 60s, and now at 70 years old, I have lived through so many changes! I attended segregated schools (so thankful that has ended!), remember the “Whites Only” and “No Coloreds Allowed” signs all over the place! I also recall the shame brought upon girls who had the audacity to have a baby when they weren’t married! How dare they! (Sarcasm here) So grateful for that change in society. Thank you for your eloquent words on this subject! I had my first child in 1973, age 21, and had no clue what to do with this child! She was a much wanted, and planned for, child, but I had not been around babies that much. Through the grace of God and the patience of my mother and mother-in-law, I did learn how to care for my baby. My third daughter was born in 1983, and I had severe PPD. I did seek counseling for it. It was to the point that all I could think about was leaving my husband and abandoning my three kids. Again, God’s Grace a loving and understanding husband, and an excellent counselor got me through it. This is a real thing, folks! Yes, I think most moms do need an occasional break from motherhood. Do not feel guilty for taking a day for yourself! Thank you, Angela, for your honesty with us ♥️

[@MultiDaisy1995]

“I just wanna have bayyybiesss!” 😂 As a now atheist that was raised in strict puritan like christian church/ church school… I appreciate how you addressed sex & puritan like notions. I believe that sex is up to each individual & isn’t strictly for marriage or reproduction. However, I also believe that taking a far extreme one way or the other can be extremely damaging mentally & physically for everyone. Shame based teachings of any kind are never effective. I believe that religious people can believe in waiting until marriage without shaming or demeaning people’s worth if they do choose to partake. plenty of no religious people believe that waiting until marriage is best or even preferable. I personally did not wait. I explored quite a bit actually. If I could go back, I would focus more on discovering what I liked & understanding myself first, then exploring further with a long term partner. I like hearing people’s varying opinions on the topic

[@amberebersole2637]

I definitely agree with you on the plastic surgery question. I believe that it is morally a good route to be honest, and not to mislead....but at the end of the day it's nobody's business.

[@OlgaThe1]

Girl you look great that is easy to see Hope you know that desire to be loved and spiritual voids don't get filled by fillers or botox... Make sure your needs and hidden desires are met. Knowing when to stop rarely comes after first plastic surgery. Be sure you find your Happiness and get whatever traumas worked on not your body. Love your school videos I believe you are so much more that your looks. Good luck to you Girl

[@TheAndy3249]

Angie, did you like lip filler? Would you recommend it? I want to, but I'm nervous. I'm 39, and feel like my lips have too many lines for my age. 😕

[@estheradriana1992]

Loved this video! I think I had my first phone at 12 or 13, but there was no internet on them yet back then haha. All you did back then was text your friends and play snake haha! Definitely not offended, although I have a different experience and I'm also not religious, so I probably look at things different from that point of view as well. For me personally I waited a 'long' time to be intimate with anyone, and when I did, it was a very conscious decision to do it while I was single, I was 27 at the time. Then I had a bit of a wild year, but never caught feelings for any of those people. But I consciously wanted to try different things and explore different avenues before committing to one person. About 18 months later I met my partner, we have now lived together for over a year, talking about starting a family and things are going really well. I think at the end of the day if really depends on the person and their personality, because there a plenty of people who do get easily attached, both men and women, and it's definitely something to be more careful about.

[@paradigmshift7541]

1:45 I see everyone watching what they say now, KZbin really cracking down

[@iNalaKoala]

Look up the aftermath of fine line tattoos like a few years down the road. Fine lines in tattoos bleed a lot over time and become really messy looking. Also tattoo removal HURTS.

[@MarisaAndChew]

Don't have the tattoos removed! My ex is like 90 percent tattoo and even owned a few tattoo places, anyway, his friend got a tattoo removed from his chest and then a different one in the place, and the skin in person looks like he was burnt and is thickened and almost scaly. He is a model and it doesn't show in his photoshoots but it's def noticable in real life. He said he's had people ask him what happened and assume that the tattoo he has was to cover this skin damage. Plus, when he was getting it removed he said it was the most painful thing he ever experienced. Obviously, your choice and I'm sure not everyone heals the way he did, but money was no object with hiring someone to do it and he definitely didn't get the best results. I would hate for you to try to get something more delicate and end up needing to go bigger or having an obvious skin issue you're always aware of! 💞

[@heatherconger8090]

You don’t owe an explanation to anyone about what you do medically. And, After reading “Irreversible Damage” I am very much desiring to promote loving the body I am in, with low filters and makeup and intervention. We have created a virtual reality that is creating impossible standards for young girls to live up to and their real life cannot resemble intervention made beauty and filtered beauty, it is not realistic and it creates many harmful views of womanhood, or satisfied life.

[@nicolehannah2170]

Tbh I don’t think celebrities or influencers should feel like they have to tell the whole world that they had work done UNLESS they are trying to market a product/lifestyle by saying if you buy this product or keep up with this lifestyle you’ll look like them

[@mrsleavelle1]

Bindi Marc on KZbin did a series of videos as she went through and reviewed the book “The Great Sex Rescue”. I have not read the book but her reviews were very thorough and I enjoyed watching them. Highly recommend for anyone on the fence of reading the book.

[@elizabethwootan9425]

I feel like every time I listen to this woman I like her more😂

[@naeemahussain4363]

Very well spoken 👏 things do need to be discussed

[@Tiffany-bd1eb]

Can you please link your Spotify playlists? :)

[@kathyforgues6994]

Thank you for sharing your ideas about feminism and how it’s damaging to our young people. Your thoughts are very close to how I feel and think.

[@AnatomyOfEverything]

I think there’s a lot of misunderstandings here about feminism. It’s about women having equal rights and the freedom to make their own choices, that’s all. Do you not want that for yourself and for other women?

[@kathyforgues6994]

@@AnatomyOfEverything of course I do, I am not that dumb! At 53 years old, I have some idea of it’s helped or damaged some younger women’s perspective. But that is just my opinion.

[@ekaterinamalysheva8127]

I LOVE hanging out with you, Angie! ❤

[@deedickerson6528]

I't up the person and not just your beliefs it's how you treat yourself own esteems about your body and looks . Trust in your partner has the same value. It's hard when your young and even old because it's life long experience.

[@homeschoolteenswithjenny]

We do Gabb phones too for our teens.

[@cherilynclements3188]

I enjoy when you answer questions

[@ElizabethWest90]

Love the music at the end🥰

[@Olgaleigh]

Oh man I guess it’s a personal choice to answer or not. Celebrities is a diff thing bc they put themselves in the public eye. Also bigger tip was the best thing you said? 😂 Also I wish we were neighbors!! Been fallowing for awhile and we would most definitely be good friends.

[@AbbiDreamsBig]

I think the botox/cosmetic surgery thing is for me knowing what is natural aging and what isn't. It is becoming harder and harder to tell am I normal for having wrinkles here or grey hairs at my age when you look at others on social media. Not that anyone should feel they have to disclose the procedures they have had done but knowing people have had x or y done sets your expectations which I think is important as there is nothing to be ashamed of for aging 'naturally' much like there is nothing to be ashamed of for getting work done. But I think transparency in this is somewhat important so we are not projecting an unrealistic (without getting work done) image of what getting older looks like. I mean this comment with no malice and anyone is allowed to get whatever they want done without judgement from me or anyone else as long as it makes you happy but I do think for the most part the questions are asked so people can gauge what is and isn't natural aging. I do also feel like you have done that when directly asked if they have had work done they should say they have and not flat out deny it as I think this is an extremely damaging thing to do. Thank you for your well thought out and articulated answers Angela as always!

[@MrsClintA]

You could add the arrow, and the at some point have the fine liner tattoo done on your other wrist?

[@delightfullyfeasting8351]

You’d enjoy Talking Back to Purity Culture as a follow up. It’s an excellent book!

[@CundySA]

On Botox and fillers… it’s different for every influencer, but I think when it comes to someone that speaks on many aspects of life, someone who we as women listen to you as somewhat of an authority or who gives input into a lot of areas of their lives it’s more like we’re looking for advice, how to, what works and what doesn’t in the world of Botox and fillers just like we would a recipe, homeschooling or homesteading. People are curious because they want to know for themselves and at least in my opinion hold you in high regard. If however we knew it was a boundary for you to not talk about it of course we’d then know and hopefully, all ways round, honor that.

[@shannonclaire7800]

How do you feel about getting work done and also tattoos? From a Christian standpoint? ❤

[@mammy5081]

I just don't do anything I am ashamed of. If I were to get Botox or fillers I would own it. This also comes from a woman that never wears makeup. You do you and let them worry about themselves. 😁