Making women feel right is a business: telling people what they want to hear pays well

[@psychacks]

While making men angry might be a business online, it is dwarfed in size and scope by the business of making women feel right. By validating women's emotions and reflecting back to them what they already believe to be true, certain content creators are paid handsomely for helping women feel as though the sources of their relationship problems lie elsewhere. However, if a woman has yet to secure the relationship she would prefer, she must eventually consider the common denominator in all of her past experiences: herself. Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jaO7c62HZ613e7M Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzbin.info/door/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #relationship #women

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@psychacks so many commercials could be pointed out to show this. The dumb husband wants to fix something and can't do it right so the brilliant wife has to call the expert to do it right and prove how superior and independent she is to hubby

[@anonymous6594]

Making men angry online has more impact to society than validating a woman's emotions. We have a generation of angry men. How does that benefit society?

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@anonymous6594 false premise. Anger motivates productive action. How does it benefit? More men working out, generating more wealth for the economy, and fewer men creating children with low quality xxs.

[@JoeDreamzMusic]

You’re such a great writer

[@tigre9271]

​@@anonymous6594It doesn't benefit men. Watching "angry man" content fuels the festering sore already present in these angry men. It will continue to fester and proliferate and hinder any possibility of healing and attaining inner peace and it will certainly exponentially worsen a man's ability to socialize with women he's interested in.

[@etuitivemillionaire]

When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear. Thomas Sowell

[@ahmedbamba9525]

Amazing quote

[@user-es6bo2qn7i]

"it's easier to fool people, than to convince them that they are being fooled." Mark Twain

[@danielj3010]

Absolutely

[@kaiserinyoleba5711]

Ayy a Thomas sowell quote right off the bat, it will be a good day

[@meatandsatoshis]

disregard him he’s a joo lover

[@marcod4538]

Women almost never want your opinion, they want their opinions said back to her in a deeper voice.

[@JeromeJobe-vq7mb]

Component…..meaning pandering

[@LordShockwave9]

Bill Cosby joke from the 1970s. Nothing is funnier than the truth.

[@7184610369]

Most people don't want to hear the truth. They want confirmation for what they believe.

[@msc8382]

Due to my personal health history, I've had to confront reality and truth extensively. Now that I've almost fully recovered after decades, I can guarantee: You are absolutely right. Even when the truth needs only to be accepted without affecting the listener, they often refuse. All they need to do is acknowledge your experience. People won't do this unless they've faced and healed from trauma related to relatability and acknowledgment. Its something we more commonly call 'growing up'. Standing up for such people is challenging. It's fundamentally hard to tell the truth, let alone be part of it. Staying in the truth is difficult when surrounded by negativity, especially in an environment that equates negativity with weakness. Why would anyone want to face the truth under such circumstances? That's why I've stopped searching for truth. Instead, I look for the ability to collaborate. The truth is irrelevant to those who cannot perceive it. If someone can't listen and understand through others, they are, by definition, delusional. I do not want to engage with anyone delusional. They consistently drain resources with little return. They'll always insist their delusions are real, with no ability to detect the evidence why it is delusion. This lack of collaborative power, I'd call it immaturity.

[@jencrews]

My first instinct is to want to tell you you’re wrong, but I’ve spent my entire life learning the hard way that you’re totally right! I really have been committed to self improvement and one of the hardest things for me is to be in relationships with people who are not, whether that’s colleagues, friends or lovers. This is not to be self-aggrandizing. It’s just me facing facts.

[@elinope4745]

I'm one of the purest truth seekers I know. Even I don't like a significant amount of the truth and would definitely prefer a fantasy over most truths, if only fantasies helped you reach your goals. Truth is a bitter necessity.

[@ERoss338]

@@jencrews yep. Ppl avoid mirrors like they are vampires. No one looks at themselves and their flaws

[@seanwatts8342]

Exactly. My mother looks at Oprah and "Dr." Phil as god-like and infallible. I told her about reading "Dr." Phil's legal troubles when he was caught having a sexual relationship with the 16 year old daughter of a clinical patient/client whom he had hired as a part time office employee. _The Texas State Board of Examiners of Psychologists determined that McGraw had hired a former patient for "part-time temporary employment." The board cited a possible failure to provide proper separation between the termination of therapy and the initiation of employment. McGraw stopped renewing his Texas license to practice psychology in 2006._ My mother flat out refused to believe it. We were talking about it at her house and I found the story online. She then abjectly refused to read about when he surrendered his license under a _consent order_ and how it's documented as a 'professional misconduct.' I am not a lawyer and I do not know he escaped prosecution. She also refused to believe he was married previously and divorced after three years. When people are give truth they don't want to learn they very often close it out.

[@LittleMew133]

"The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth they can accept about themself without running away."

[@Maureen-q6w]

You put quotes around your post. Who stated that?

[@alexgyongyosi5774]

​@@Maureen-q6wdoes it make a difference?

[@jtrojan]

Women don't want to hear about their bad behavoir they just want to hear that it's all right.

[@TheAustrianPainter87]

Stop critiquing our female overlords. They're Queens

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

And that’s why you tell them the truth anyways. They may act like they don’t want to hear it, but they will undoubtedly respect you more in the long run. Don’t get fooled by this doctor

[@Remember-Death]

Capitalism 101: The Customer Is ALWAYS right!

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@Remember-Death that policy goes right out the door when they’re attempting to rip you off or compromise your bottom line. Stop letting women do that to your value

[@sandlerfrancois666]

@@TheAustrianPainter87lmao!

[@chiefenumclaw7960]

Buy the book, people. This guy has earned a sale.

[@joshualewis4991]

Na

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@joshualewis4991 thanks for your common sense. This doctor is a hypocrite who is telling men to cater to women and tell these women what they want to hear at the expense of the truth. He is tricking men, and they are falling for it just like this guy did

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@joshualewis4991 thanks for having common sense. This doctor is grifting by telling men to enable women to live in delusion while men are forced to constraints of reality. Too bad everyone keeps falling for it

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@joshualewis4991 thanks for having common sense. This doctor is disingenuous when he tells men to enable women to live in delusion. That hurts us much more than it helps

[@gabakusa]

his book is very good

[@dekev7503]

“Most medicine is bitter, that’s why you have to take it with a spoonful of sugar, however if all you take is sugar, don’t be surprised if you end up sick” 🎤 drop

[@DurkaDur-bx4ks]

Medicine is bitter because if it wasnt, people and their adventurous children, would overdose

[@EdEmJuPe]

Never has humanity had greater access to truth. What have we done with it? Indulge in ever-greater self-deceit.

[@user-yup-you-are-human2]

@@EdEmJuPe 💯

[@AtheismF7W]

Human nature. Chimpanzees with machine guns.

[@Savvynomad225]

A lot of people hate truth, especially if they are chubby, female, or addicted to something

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@Savvynomad225 then that means they need it the most. Maybe it will finally lead to their turnaround

[@maggiesamson337]

I was going through a period of a bunch of terrible behaviors from a lot of childhood and close friends. I had always believed in not judging a book by its cover and aligning with similar ambitions etc. so when friends were getting married and getting significant relationships, they all started acting so weird and hostile toward me. My husband just sat me down and told me ,” Stop hanging out with 4s”. It burned so badly I knew there was some truth there. I was the cheerleader for exactly the type of women you describe. The one there to celebrate others’ success. The one to help problem solve career challenges. Truth is, you can’t truly be friends with a woman whose husband is attracted to you. Or, if you go out and they are ignored, the friendship will whither on the vine. What I was seeing as gentlemen behavior (which I appreciate greatly), they never got from that men. Men generally treat them like men. My life has turned around significantly thanks to my amazing husband’s willingness to tell me an inconvenient truth. I hope to continue to be a person he can tell the truth.

[@davidjaylaw1920]

Amen

[@weirdcoincollection]

I recently saw a KZbin short about men and women on dating apps, and the differences in regards to "unrealistic expectations" Women's unrealistic expectations: I want a tall man, who has a 6-figure salary, handsome, and is willing to settle down with me. Men's unrealistic expectations: Please don't be obese and have some kind of self-check on any emotional issues you've suffered. Obviously these things are blatantly unequal. But the social climate today tells women "YAS QUEEN, you deserve only the BEST!" while they tell men "You'll be alone forever if you don't curb your expectations. What if, men were told they only deserve the best, and women were told they should review their expectations? How wonderful would that be?

[@pentrubarbati]

how unrealistic i am as a man to not want a land whale

[@baffinsansterre]

@@pentrubarbati ... nor a lazy single mother, alpha widow with daddy issues.

[@js9273]

What about tall, attractive women who have six figure salaries? I'm sure you can appreciate why they may want tall, handsome men who earn well.

[@pentrubarbati]

@@js9273 man dont care about salary ... and those if exist are very few ...

[@js9273]

@@pentrubarbati my point was that you can't blame tall, attractive and high earning women for wanting the equivalent in men.

[@steveburke7675]

It's always been this way. For instance women will confide in other women about their affairs...this is where they get justification. "It's not your fault" "he didn't deserve you" "your kids will be fine". Men rarely confide in others...even good friends about infidelity. Exceptions of course.

[@TheOutlierToday]

Men brag about cheating. It's normal and doesn't seem to mean anything

[@michaelturley8222]

Idk I think most of my cheating friends have all told me tbh.

[@phalcata572]

@@TheOutlierTodaydude no. Cheating is not worthy of bragging. It’s despicable and if a friend bragged about it I’d tell him off. Male friends will call their friends out, “Oh you lost your job? Quit playing video games and getting high.” Women friends? No. It’s all delusional comfort and validation.

[@TheOutlierToday]

@@phalcata572 I agree. But most men don't think like that where I'm from

[@smartalex22]

@@TheOutlierToday Lies.

[@MrKanrabat]

My ex wife went around shopping for a therapist until she found one that would agree with anything she said...isn't that the last thing you want from an outsider helper? Anyway...she doing worst now.

[@DJ_Mooseknucks]

Ideally you want someone to offer alternatives to your own ideas, as a new perspective. Your ex is a doofus that just wanted an agreeable friend.

[@strategic1710]

Women don’t go to therapists to try to improve themselves, they go to have their emotions validated by a professional and use that as credibility to others that they are right.

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised.

[@RubyW.Cortes-pf7jb]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white

[@RubyW.Cortes-pf7jb]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@KevinA.Deckard-gm2he]

You wont regret it.

[@incorrigiblycuriousD61]

"The truth is like poetry; most people fucking hate poetry." Sorry, IDK who made this brilliant observation.

[@weirdcoincollection]

I love how low-brow yet insightful that is

[@Remember-Death]

Let's just say it was comedian George Carlin (although it probably wasn't).

[@paulcolin9071]

@@weirdcoincollection I honestly find poetry annoying though 🤣

[@DesignWonk]

It was in The Big Short. Though I think it's the writer of the film, Adam McKay, not Michael Lewis the writer of the book, nor the unknown source ascribed to in the film

[@ffarinacci]

This is the first time I've ever commented on a KZbin video and I felt the need say thank you for sharing your insight and delivering this message. As a female clinician in private practice who works with families regularly and runs a business, this perspective is empowering and refreshing. My hope is that the public becomes more aware of what content they are consuming and how it may be an influence and/or serve as a reflection of their underlying belief system. Love the Mary Poppin's reference and analogy. Thanks again!

[@babawui]

The problem with avoiding criticism is the greater pain which follows. Women spin in their own imaginings, but are powerless to fool others.

[@michaelturley8222]

Women are also cursed with the fact men and women lie to them to protect the feelings of the woman, or to protect themselves from the attacks that could come for criticizing a woman (as a man). I feel bad for them in that sense. Even though you’re treated much worse as a man in most of society, at least we hear the truth.

[@michaelturley8222]

Women also get their narcissism encouraged by other women that want their approval. Like I had this friend who would share just every minor achievement she had on FB and she would act like she was winning a Nobel peace prize for going to the gym or getting an A on a college paper. To me it was so cringe and self aggrandizing, and any man doing it would probably be mocked by all his friends, but women cheer on this pitiful behavior because they’ve been brainwashed by the left wing of our society into thinking their victims, and once you’re a victim, you’re allowed to be narcissistic in America

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@babawui which is why they do not control intimacy, seeing as they are the weaker ones

[@Masterpeace777]

I want to tell my sister that her only hope to find a husband before it's too late is to lose a ton of weight and get fit but she would cry or bite my head off.

[@jackdeniston6150]

Hence UK ´riots´ right now

[@HalfAsianDerp]

Your impersonation of male content creators was so funny

[@snowbear163]

Haha I was laughing so hard at that. Shows Orion's acting talent coming out.

[@danguidi2]

Just finished your book. I could not put the thing down. The amount of value I received far outweighs the price. Everyone needs to buy the book!!

[@alicebombeeck5384]

As a woman, I can totally agree with you on this! I know most women don't want to hear this.. but it is 100% true

[@NotAffiliated]

OMG when he's speaking with that "empathetic" voice and telling women what they want to hear, I can't help but laugh out loud! SO CLASSIC! Just absolutely classic.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

“A real man”🤣🤣

[@somebloke5565]

Yup, gotta laugh. I swear he became Matthew Hussey for minute.

[@drewhunkins7192]

This 9 minutes is fantastic. I'm typically more of a sociology guy, but this 9 mins of psychology is phenomenal.

[@MajesticChuchito]

I'm so tired of our outrage culture.. it's seems to be everywhere on KZbin and I appreciate you calling it out, rather than being apart of it.

[@sonicboom2905]

The more society drifts away from the truth, the more they hate those who speak it.

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@sonicboom2905 which is why I will never stop speaking it. I will drown out their lies by myself if I have to

[@denon9000cd]

@@marcusmcgraw3519 As said, it doesn´t get you fame, wealth or friends. The world turned upside down

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@denon9000cd neither does lying unless you’re dumb enough to convince them it’s true. Which goes back to the truth being the way to go. If you punish the truth, you’re asking to be lied to

[@denon9000cd]

@@marcusmcgraw3519 That´s the charge for being authentic

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@denon9000cd there is no charge for being authentic. You are just bitter and unable to live in reality. How does it feel that this is why you can’t succeed? I am better than you and I will not shut up about it

[@Candlelight787]

Manospere doesn't make men angry. It attempts to open their eyes. Years and years of disrespect and mistreatment make men angry. Surprisingly, some cretins with letters after their name dare to imply that anger as emotional response to injustice, abuse, and deceit is anything but normal and natural.

[@Katarzyna-h2z]

Women have opened eyes while being kept under patriarchy.

[@TheOutlierToday]

The manosphere tends to go to extremes. Making men angry will make them act. Negatively usually.

[@Candlelight787]

@user-hv3ln3rk8i change "eyes" to "legs" and you are correct.

[@edheldude]

@@Katarzyna-h2z They invented an abstract opponent to go with the s"cialist agenda and to avoid self-reflection.

[@nikeisagreekgoddess4135]

@@Katarzyna-h2z You speak as if women had anything to do with their liberation. As if their fates still weren't dependent on the whims of the male majority of their societies.

[@SirShiv7]

I just interviewed for a director level position in an office that is, I kid you not, 99% women. Of ALL the staff, including support, there's one other guy and he's the janitor. I really need the job but I am crazy nervous about being in an environment as fragile as I know it will be. Edit: to those of you saying 'don' do it!' yeah, no shit. This is obviously not a great situation but I have to live in reality. Anyone who's ever been stuck between a rock and a hard place with being a provider for family that can't work in a society that's crushing everyone's wallets understands sometimes you have to roll the dice for the sake of those relying on you.

[@Candlelight787]

Don't do it. You will thank me later...

[@leoborros]

This company will be broke within the year. Dont do it.

[@SirShiv7]

@@Candlelight787 I'm taking care of an elderly parent as well as helping other family members. I don't have the luxury of picking the ideal situation in a society that has very few left.

[@aquietpatron7281]

Keep in mind that my opinion and $5 will get you a small cup of black coffee at Starbucks. 🙂 Given the composition of the office, it is unlikely that you will get an offer. If you do get an offer, you may end up being the “diversity hire” so that they avoid being sued. Don’t overlook an opportunity if it comes your way. Gather information and fairly evaluate it. If you’re so inclined, single and moderately attractive, you would be in an excellent sexual marketplace position if hired. (Just don’t get involved with anyone in your command chain or with what you do for the company. Also, never discuss anything outside of work at the office.) It’s risk vs reward. If you believe that you can avoid a “me too” situation it might be worth the effort to put up with the likely drama that will occur. If not, well, there are other jobs.

[@lukenielsen8397]

RUN, don't walk, SPRINT!

[@patrick05Morgan]

That’s why women hated Kevin Samuels, Patrice O’Neal, and a whole lot of other comedians

[@Dewane1511]

Man I miss patrice oneal....

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@patrick05Morgan we hated Kevin samuels cuz he was a fraud. He lied about having an engineering degree and being established. His truth telling meant much less when he couldn’t even hold himself accountable

[@cic6002]

I was just thinking the same thing about Kevin Samuels

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@cic6002 Kevin Samuels was a fraud who lied about having an engineering degree and being established. That’s why he wasn’t liked. He was inauthentic

[@OthelloBlaq]

For men, the people you mentioned were our "spoon full of sugar." The things they said was with blunt honesty men use to rib each other, but it was also packed with vital truths you probably wouldn't hear any other time. Cheers mates🥂

[@btwthblood]

This is what I've always known and have warned my sons about! I love you, Orion! You are brave and wise!!!

[@ItalNico]

Well said. The unfortunate part is that this fantasy prevents many women from adopting a growth mindset as you shared in a recent video. Having tried and failed for years to get my spouse to wake up from this fantasy world is the main reason I will be ending our marriage. You can't live your best life when someone refuses to take accountability for their own poor life choices and wants to drag you down with them.

[@rayrwyr]

It is man's responsibility to bring order to the chaos. Man is stronger, more rational and the natural leader. Man must do what needs to be done. Man must put woman in her place when she is out of line. Woman wants that. Woman is much happier when man takes charge and lead the way.

[@Cuticatie]

@@rayrwyr Are you even paying attention to what he says above? It's a woman's responsibility to regulate her roller-coaster feelings and respond correctly and promptly. Everyone has her choice. Not the man definitely.

[@rayrwyr]

@@Cuticatie -- I made a statement to refute what @ItalNico said. Women's nature is to create chaos in absence of a strong leadership from her man. When she gets that strong leadership from her man, she feels relaxed, happy, compliant and hence she follows his lead.

[@Stoikpilled]

@@rayrwyr yea but in the modern world she would call the police on you if you try that. Recently a beautiful real state agent married an imprisoned men, I think what attracts this modern women to criminals is that they respect the fact that even if they call the police on them they just would kill them before they arrive. Criminals have the authority than men in the past used to have and command respect, the majority of men today are just castrated. Understandable cos a normal man wouldn't want to ruin his life for the modern woman.

[@drwayne_carter9115]

As women gain more power in society (in politics, military, companies), this could be potentially dangerous.

[@Katarzyna-h2z]

Men start all wars.

[@detroitvcw]

"Is"

[@pyrhoe]

It definitely already is.

[@leoborros]

Repeal the 19th!

[@LisaCulton]

I used to be a military officer and most men, and people in general, just aren't ready for that level of responsibility.

[@reesejohnson2788]

5:55 that was pretty good & spot on. 😂

[@matthewmanning6195]

Reminds me of the strategy chosen by Tom Hardy’s character in Inception- positive emotion goes deeper and is more enticing and effective manipulation than pulling on negative emotional strings.

[@PassionateSpirit88]

This world is too sick for me

[@cosmictreason2242]

Jeremiah 17:9 "the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick/wicked, who can understand it?" Varies by translation

[@detroitvcw]

🎯

[@Remember-Death]

It's always been sick. The goal is for you to "un-sick" yourself and find like-minded people who are also "un-sick." You gain strength, power, wisdom from pushing back against the "sickness." That is why we were placed into a sick world and NOT and easy world. You'd never grow or evolve if you were placed in a world that wasn't "sick."

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@Remember-Death so why do the sick people not have to grow? Why are they enabled to still receive positive treatment? Seems the enablers are the problem

[@Remember-Death]

@@marcusmcgraw3519 Sick people should grow, but why are you even worried about them? Most of humanity has been, and always will be sick (80/20 rule). You need to worry about you, so you can get to where you need to be financially, physically, and spiritually. You have a limited amount of time, energy, and focus. You need to put more of your focus on what the HEALTHY are doing and let the sick be sick... you can't lead them or inspire them if YOU'RE sick too!

[@-steban-]

This is gold! One of the best Orion's videos!

[@louislorenzi-prince3842]

It isn't only men telling women this; it is women who are engaged in businesses pushing occult practices like Tarot who are telling women they were right all along on this is, and that is what the cards are saying.

[@aalok4325]

​@yamafanboyBecause the tarot card - ian never speaks revolting it's always what you wanna hear

[@EE12CSVT]

Yes, but there are plenty of atrractive, athletic men in these spirituality groups who do tarot.

[@voccessbg5396]

You clearly have zero occult knowledge. Tarot does not tell you what you want to hear. On the contrary, this is an instrument to uncover hidden and often uncomfortable truths in the depths of your unconsciousness. The occult is an old, heavy and dangerous knowledge. Do not meddle with it unprepared and without a proper respect. You are welcome.

[@EE12CSVT]

@@voccessbg5396 You mean it's a hallucination or a schizoid episode? Did your crystals tell you to write that, or your astrology? I bet your stars in the morning newspaper didn't predict my reply 😄

[@voccessbg5396]

@@EE12CSVT you tell me. You seem to be well versed into this bullshit you speak about. I have no idea about it. I speak about common truths.

[@robertedwards1240]

Dr. Taraban, I think you are one of our deepest, most insightful thinkers of our time.

[@Passport2Pleasure]

Regardless of gender/sex, we must each consider the common denominator of ourselves if we are to progress in any area of our lives.

[@mystykalmn4434]

In this era telling the truth doesn't make you money, it doesn't get you laid but it makes you honest, but people's doesn't want the truth

[@paulcolin9071]

You can still get laid

[@EE12CSVT]

Basically, if you want a string of women, you need to abandon your integrity and just peddle to them whichever lie you think they're going to swallow so they can swallow you up 😄

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

It gets you laid much more effectively than lying. Why would lying get you laid? That means you’re weak for having to lie to begin with

[@EE12CSVT]

@@marcusmcgraw3519 Lying and insincerity is what women respond to. You have to create a fantasy about yourself and lie to her that you're swallowing her BS as gospel. The moment you call her out on it, you're toast.

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@EE12CSVT it’s one thing to embrace your positive qualities to pretend you’re better than you are. That type of lying is ok and part of the fun. That’s not what I’m getting at. Blatant lies should be vetted by women, as it should happen the other way around. We want to be attracted to a what a person really is, not a perceived image. Perception is not reality

[@jehriasean6379]

This guy! Finally! Someone is finally saying this!

[@mickadatwist1620]

I concur: women claim to wanting honesty but when you give it to them they can't handle it.

[@Marcelube]

Well, basically, it looks just exactly like... narcissistic entitlement. Congratulations on articulating it so incredibly well, Dr Taraban.

[@eddieduplessis1145]

The way you create perspective and communicate these topics are next level. Thank you kindly!

[@corntownhero7596]

Just finished the audiobook this morning. Fantastic listen, and one that I think will feel insightful on repeat play throughs. No matter where you’re at in life or in your current relationships, The Value of Others is true in it’s advertising when Orion says you’ll never look at relationships the same again.

[@countslawfirm]

insightful and on point

[@music-jj2pl]

I'm still listening to the video you did with the attorney and now you drop this! banger after banger after banger after burger after burger after burger...

[@bruce_dasilva]

@@music-jj2pl which video is this

[@eljaa2000]

why it says the attorny video is private?

[@RShaun]

Love the Sheamus reference

[@Doberman_6773]

MMM, Burgers...

[@abbeylance29]

Love the deep thought and work that goes into these. Anybody who is in the business of just making women feel right can be likened to businesses that prefer to dump their chemical waste into the water source of a community.

[@morrisj68]

I've watched about 100 of your posts; this is the strongest of the lot. Excellent points.

[@cic6002]

That medicine analogy at the end was awesome

[@markaurelius61]

Going from the idea that the system makes men angry and women self-satisfied, anger is a call to change things, and it not meant to be a permanent state, while satisfaction makes people want to maintain the status quo. Thus the way that we appeal to women will be much more dysfunctional long term.

[@malachi405]

The 'anger' is based on real anecdotes and data. The content creators are not creating things from thin air. They're just reporting the weather. Whereas the 'satisfaction' industry spins fantasies of validation, based on nothing at all. A modern version of romance novels. That's a profound difference, that Orion doesn't address.

[@jerrychubb6168]

I completely agree with you. The big difference between how men and women are motivated with online resources.

[@pillotonelli2849]

Telling people what they want to hear is a strategy you could (sometimes) apply with children, not with adults...

[@Susan-fg3nv]

Why would you do that with children? As a parent that is wrong

[@detroitvcw]

Drawing correlation?

[@NilsMacQ]

but people do apply it to "adults" and many if not most eat it up

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@NilsMacQ and that is why society is garbage. Stop enabling one side to live in delusion while forcing the other to reality. That is the problem nobody wants to talk about. Men treating women far better than they treat men

[@denon9000cd]

Because a lot of people pretend to be adults but their actions tell a different story, time to make a business out of that i guess.

[@ivelllino]

The bitterness of reality. Sir, your videos are always highly valued and deeply appreciated!

[@zingking0132]

This I why men should be honest, and not tell a woman what she wants to hear but rather what she "Needs" to hear.

[@GreatRetro]

women are seccondary, TRUTH should be said to men first and foremost!

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@zingking0132 thank you. Everyone else is advocating for doing what this doctor says and lie to women. They are embracing his grift and it’s pathetic to see how many men cannot think for themselves and want to be taken advantage of

[@EE12CSVT]

Yes, and doing that keeps the vast majority of women out of your life and you alone for a long, long time

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@EE12CSVTthat’s their own fault. Why enable delusion?

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@EE12CSVT I don’t have to lie to get laid. I’m not worthless like you

[@TheCursedBoy1]

Bro is cooking in every video 🔱👑

[@hafizade]

The finger guns at the intro let me know this was going to be a banger

[@dopo8333]

The society as a whole, through literature, movies, law, etc. builds the image of women as better persons than men and then acts upon it. Most men internalize this image and then are surprised real women are different and don't know how to handle bad female behavior. Much like your channel, exposing bad female behavior has a therapeutic value, allowing men to update their internal models and then better function in society.

[@berger1968]

What about the solution to this problem? Seeing men getting angry and women being entitled is a big problem for relationships. How do we get out of that?

[@main_stream_media_is_a_joke]

In a SM saturated world... that's next to impossible. SM has taken wings and has almost addicted the entire world(males and females alike). The train has already fallen off the cliff....it's just not hit the bottom yet. It's possible only if the couple in question "consciously" decide to pull the plug....or at best use SM for information and not for gossip, click bait stuff or breaking news type of bs.

[@cosmictreason2242]

You need to screen it. Both sides. A man who doesn't respond with wrath when provoked, a woman who can change her mind when confronted with the truth and doesn't have to be right. In other words, she must be in his frame, not trying to be the one deciding how things will be

[@msc8382]

The answer should be rather straighforward; if the truth will make people angry and dissapointment, then not sharing the truth is the only way. I personally believe being unable to deal with reality is a strong marker of immaturity, and thus I'd never see a woman who cannot deal with reality as anyone worth dating. I'd move on. I don't date kids, I'm sure many can relate. But.. we cannot dismiss the willing! Plenty of women out there who never had the opportunity, and just is scared of being abused again. For those women, we use white lies. We trick them into accepting the truth, then by exposure teach them our tricks to protect them against the negative influences of reality, which includes your own. The alternative way would be to become their father. The father protects his children against the harmful truth, and ideally teaches them to deal with it in their own time. For an adult women to have never learned to deal with truths, means she has daddy issues. You'll have no choice but to take that role if you want any of your powers that live in reality/truth acknowledged by her. This essentially means that a man's true worth is invisible to a woman who got her own set of values that are not aligned with reality. For some reason, people come to believe that a woman should date a bunch of men to get this exposure. But it doesn't work that way, nor are all men equipped to deal with reality. Many of them feel inferior to do so. So now we got a bunch of people getting together not understanding any of these dynamics. And that's why I'd never date a girl who doesn't understand the dynamics of collaboration. That's the key. Even children as young as 5 can collaborate. There's never a reason to be unable to do it, except having the wrong idea. So we lie to these women, so that they do not get the wrong idea before understanding the truth. That's in my opinion, the only ways to get out of it. Cheers, I hope my vision on this helped.

[@sebastianfranz682]

You fundamentally missunderstand. Men getting angry at the disgusting degeneracy of society (and women) is the necessary first step to change! In psychology, anger is the fuel in which you reform yourself! It will come... for us all... and it will create a brave new world!

[@tomyoung8563]

Who cares?

[@ozdemirsalik]

It’s actually more than that. Women spend money like it’s nothing. Working and empowered women created giant companies, with never seen before profit margins. The luxury industries, the tourism industry, the entertainment industry… They rely on women’s empowerment.

[@dwightbrown]

Darrick Jaxn being onr. The women is Queen 👑 ideal is so pervasive and a lie. Imagine if a man went around saying he is king! 😂

[@LisaCulton]

A man who doesn't believe that he is king, at least in his own home, is lost.

[@BhupeshPandhare-n3e]

​@@LisaCulton😂😂

[@PolishBehemoth]

​@@LisaCulton i agree with you. But you didnt answer the problem/situation of why dont women treat men like king

[@LisaCulton]

@@PolishBehemoth I treat my man like a King, but I can't control the women who you are getting involved with. I do notice however that in relationships where a man is being treated like a King, he is also giving his woman queenly treatment. So, I can't speak for you, but there are multiple people in this comment section who are actively against the idea that anyone including themselves *deserves* royal treatment, so they are at a stalemate.

[@AfriqueNY]

The whole King/Queen dynamic is silly in my book. Society tells you what your status is. Period.

[@valleytiller42]

You nailed it. I’m constantly amazed at how some will gaslight themselves.

[@ThusiTV]

You really did something on that book man. Purchased the audible and im already on chapter 4

[@MH-jp8en]

it’s a banger. on sale too, on Audible anyway

[@ThusiTV]

​@@MH-jp8en😢bro!

[@alquimistika8213]

Wow I really had a smile on my face in this one, when Orion started making the statements that fascinate women from you tubers 😂😂😂

[@cokedupnormies2651]

This is also why right wing politics appeals more to men (makes you angry) and left wing content appeals to women (makes you feel right).

[@acek.7094]

This is actually an interesting point. I hadn't thought of it that way, but it makes total sense.

[@encounteringjack5699]

I guess one good thing could come out of all of this. Which is that people can stop worrying about disappointing others and just start being open and honest. With a world full of misinformation, worrying about what the “right thing” to do is, is stupid. Simply because, it becomes clear that no one knows. The only way to make it right is cut the crap and stop worrying about whether you are following the rules. Instead, being concerned with being honest and good, not with following the rules or fitting in. Which, if successful, helps realize we have more power in shaping the world around us than we may think.

[@elinope4745]

Thanks! I suddenly remember that I previously met a crew of single, wealthy, tall Chads that were desperately single and wanted to clean up my messes.

[@SallyChanArt]

😂😂😂

[@johannesdolch]

Don't forget that they are mature enough to not care about you Bodycount and that they will just love you more when you push them away because you are traumatized by your previous situation ships.

[@rufusblasfemus3018]

Buy the man's book. He has earned that buck.

[@edfanjoy8646]

Thanks!

[@Alexxx492]

A culture is strong when people work with each other, for each other. A culture is weak when people work against each other, for themselves.

[@cliffthecoolcat]

You are right. I used to fill women full of crap and get laid. I'm going to start that crap back up instead of working on a relationship.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

"Keep talking and take my Money!"

[@nadersefidabi5586]

He's talking about Mathew Hussey.

[@jononioo2857]

Yup

[@paulkeiper1381]

Or Speech Prof

[@Nickelodeon81]

Brilliant, this is why I watch your videos. It really makes me think.

[@zoraster3749]

[@pazzodi3]

Don't forget the current Christian Church which women attend in drones.

[@mgtow6287]

Don’t forget Derrick Jackson! 😆

[@SKBottom]

I think you meant droves, but drones also works. ​@@pazzodi3

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@pazzodi3you'll find no stronger critic of that than the actual Christians, which are about 4% of the whole per Barna research.

[@cosmictreason2242]

@@pazzodi3for what it's worth, a church that's mostly men is 100x more likely to be a true church than one with more single women than men. The PCUSA, Anglicans, Catholics, Mormons, witnesses, adventists, UMC, ABA, ELCA etc are uh paws têt. From there, an SBC or nondenom church is hit or miss, apostolic/Pentecostal/charismatics will have TONS of xxs because the whole system is catered to emotionally unstable individuals. That leaves the confessionally Reformed Presbyterians and Baptists, all who have seen massive growth since 2020 because the true church always thrives under persecution. These are the places to find a woif, but it's a moot point if you have not been converted and convinced of the doctrine yourself. So examine it.

[@AW_7_7_7]

Oh Orion, this is one of your best videos yet!

[@carls9310]

Dr. T is so underrated...it's not even funny! Look at how CLASSY he is for not firing shots at charlatans who make their money off selling lies...he'd become more popular if he initiated YT beefs, but he doesn't. And the way he delivers his message with such verbal verve...you can tell he used to act on the small stage, but MAN--can he WRITE! ❤🤓

[@MarcRougier]

I've never seen any podcasts by the charlatans. I'd like to watch some. Any suggestions?

[@carls9310]

@@MarcRougier Hi Marc. I seriously think he's lowkey throwing shade at a guy named Derrick Jaxson. I think he got in trouble after talking all the "womyn-first" nonsense, and then got cancelled after cheating on his wife. You might be able to find his old stuff. Hope you enjoy it, if that's what you;re looking for.

[@yelena3285]

Got your book in audio, intelligent, honest, valuable for me. Thank you. Going to get it in kinder, to reread.

[@ShivaShaktification]

You'll never go broke catering to the female ego.

[@theodery2712]

Well put, greed will find a way to negatively affect entire groups of people. This generation growing up in this may never recover to regain an actual experience. Go for a walk

[@HABACHI617]

I'll name names, Derrick Jackson, Chris GQ Perry, YADA

[@fredv856]

Thanks I ll look it up. This answers my question

[@Vladimyrful]

You forgot the Final Boss: Matthew Hussey.

[@fredv856]

Would like a comparaison with channels runned by women to test this assumption. Paychacks has more subs than for ex that Chris qg perry whose accent is ununderstandable

[@HABACHI617]

@@fredv856 that dude is so fake

[@dcikaruga]

Scammers, it does show the gullible side of women though. 😁

[@ATRTAP]

What a succulent analysis, don’t let it go to your head.

[@crapmalls]

Men make money, women spend money. And they spend that money on rent a chad,

[@jackzhu7033]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@thedalillama]

Manosphere content doesn't make me angry. I find it compelling because it is entirely consistent with my experience and helps explain my behavior/reaction over decades. Before watching it, I thought "it could just be me".

[@vishalmurali8325]

Are you referring to Matthew Hussey? 😂

[@lidonchauke9459]

I have not heard anyone online break social and relationship dynamics like Dr Orion Taraban. This man is way ahead of his time. Wow.❤

[@n-tertainmentx-tended4760]

Matthew Hussey is in the chat.

[@SallyChanArt]

I think what he said here has a point. I see a lot of bad behaviors of women myself as well. However, him throwing shades on other creators while himself is dedicated in feeding red pill is a bit of a hypocritic here. Most of those channels help people find and build relationships. This channel isn't one of them. In fact this channel is the same thing for men to make them feel good about their righteous and fantasy. For instance, it is fine to comfort men for their fear of losing chance to find partner as they age is good but saying their options are abundant and age don't matter just for men but not women are simply not true. There are researches showing that men who are old and alone are not doing well often. In reality, Matthew himself is in a happy relationship and married and many women are able to find what they need from him. Can you please name one example for success relationships stories here? It is fine for people to preach for their own agenda but comparing this with others who aren't even in the same lane ( getting a relationship) just kind of unnecessary.

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

​@@SallyChanArt I think you're giving him bad intentions. He explains clearly what men and women have to do to get what they want, or want something else, or accept the price of what they want. He's fair to both, and always measured. Never agressive toward women or men. For me, he explains to women that if they want such x guy, they might have to give in to his demands, because if they don't, another woman will. He explains to men that the less she likes you, the more you'll have to pay. So yeah, he doesn't sell lie. But you're entitled to your opinion.

[@SallyChanArt]

@NickM_FirstofHisName I agree with the point you listed. As I mentioned, there are things he said I agree with but like everyone else, I fully believe that no one is ever going to be right about everything. I won't go as far as he lies, but if you ask me, his teaching is definitely biased, and I do think the intention is not as innocent as you perceived at all. Knowing where it is coming from. That is just my opinion of cuz. As for the point he never said bad things about women, I am just straight up disagreed on this as many of his clips are using specific terms and light that describe negatively on women but not men.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@SallyChanArthe IS right tho about men not needing to worry as much as women as they age, because as they age, the more money they’ll get, this is statistically true. And financial stability plays a big role in being viewed as a viable partner. Men with more “financial stability” (money) will always be favored. The curve is not as favorable for women because of the things men look for. That is not bias. It is just truth. What you are pointing out are the exceptions, but exceptions prove the rule. As for the example of success relationship stories here, you can find them in the comments of some videos, the same way you can find unsuccessful relationship stories in Matthew hussey’s comments. The difference is one side can actually be logically and statistically demonstrated, the other plays majorly on emotions.

[@SallyChanArt]

@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot you are talking about men more money are considered as an asset (literally) for the dating market, which is true. However it is not equivalent with the level of happiness unfortunately. The research I pointed out is not the exception. It is the majority. Also it is actually a fact for everyone as we get older we all have more money. In fact nowadays by average women are probably earning more. Not to mention that men tend to die a lot younger than women and now they are saying global cancer deaths among men projected to increase by 93% by 2050. So I really not sure your point here if you are trying to say men will be just fine being old and alone, or you believe that age is not a problem for the majority of men to still get date or what. Do whatever you want man. Time will tell. As for my relationships success stories point, I never see a comment here saying oh I got this chick/ the man from this channel, we are in love and we are now married and expecting etc. And by this definition of the relationship channels, Mathew Hussey indeed has more much real success stories than this. As I pointed out, these two channels are not the same lane, which is fine.

[@steven_king]

So glad someone is saying this

[@doctordetroit4339]

Women are getting justice.....most are angry, anxious, miserable, on head meds, getting beatdowns in the boxing ring, etc.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

By a man

[@doctordetroit4339]

@@Susan-fg3nv Women vote for men in women sports so.......blame yourself for mostly voting demcrap

[@Kritikanbringer]

Karma. 🙌

[@ep7112]

Absolutely spot on

[@dcikaruga]

The Predatory Female by Lawrence Shannon - It's worth a read.

[@zuhairreza]

I read it all. We should all watch out for such women, from the beginning of the friendship or relationship!

[@dcikaruga]

@@zuhairreza It also gives an insight on how delusional and childish women can be as well, and some of these clever guys have figured out how to exploit it.

[@RayR-q5k]

Dude whoever does the art in your thumbnails is brilliant.... I love how the women are all smiling, but with their eyes closed. Because women tend to be blind to much of their own nature.

[@emilymacafore5782]

I would like to see a video dedicated to the artist. Fantastic art!

[@TJ_Travels1]

This feels like your magnum opus 🤌🏻 Mr Taraban.

[@JamesKirkWilkinson]

I downloaded several dating books written for women. They were all full of really bad advice, but they made women the hero of the dating scene, or they teach how to play games to get over on men to avoid being a victim. I've ended relationships for many of the behaviors that were advised, which, according to these books, reaffirms the nature of men. Guys don't want drama or extra stress. We don't want to increase our expenses while giving up freedom. A woman isn't worth adding trouble simply by being a woman without bringing value to my life.

[@PitbullofWallStreet]

Thank God I’m not in that business. Making Kool Aid for the modern women is filthier than porn. You might do better just selling paper cup ashtrays.

[@EE12CSVT]

If you've no morals, there's a shit ton of money to be made milking women's gullibility and narcissism

[@marse7092]

Orion’s new book is brilliant. Deeper and more original than the videos. It provides a conceptual framework for exploring how to play the game of life. Also great to hear Orion narrating it with his acting trained voice in Audible. 👍

[@donjames3321]

This sounds like the secret to success of some non-denominational mega-churches.

[@onwrdandupwrd5303]

The value of others book should have a sequel and a sequel after that. I'm on my 3rd listen of the Audiobook and ordered the Paperback this week.

[@BryanMuzumi]

❤Dr.Orion always drops bangers,😂 fresh and fit is garbage compared to this

[@gracerules2008]

I'm not sure Dr. Orion would agree with your statement. He has been a guest speaker on Fresh and Fit many times.

[@anonymous6594]

He's been on Fresh and Fit and pretty much co-signed their opinions.

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

@@anonymous6594 that makes him a fraud. As does him telling men to play a game that benefits women and throw away the truth to tell them what they want to hear, undeserved. This guy is tricking men. Don’t fall for it like these men have

[@BryanMuzumi]

@@gracerules2008 Fresh and fit propagate toxic masculinity with the red pill mambo jambo that mostly appeals to insecure men in my opinion, but hey,to each is own

[@BryanMuzumi]

@@anonymous6594 That was mutually beneficial for both channels though i doubt he agrees with all the views they air and the way the go about their discourse,if you've seen a tonne of the stuff on their channel and the stuff Dr.Orion puts out,you can easily see that this channel presents arguments in a more refine manner

[@Goodman849]

Dr, the women cannot run from reality forever!

[@windfactor]

Matthew Hussey and Mark Manson come to mind...

[@dificulttocure]

But neither of those say this kind of things. Mark Manson is not a woman coach at all, he is a general self-improvement author and I would argue his audience is predominantly male. Matthew Hussey could be one posible example, except in the few videos I watched of him he did held women accountable and gave actual good advice to them... I've never seen him telling the women they are perfect and that the problem lies elsewhere.

[@ray076NL]

the problem with matthew hussey is that he suggarcoats his messages so the women dont listen to it at all. he never directly tells the audience they are the issue because his adience doesnt listen to that, they listen to feelings. if you go into his comment section you see the same women every damn video who still dont get it that they are the ones opening their legs for men who arent good men. so hes making good money of stupid women, and thats okay as far as i am concerned, these women cannot be saved anyway, they need a kevin samuels not a smooth talking matthew hussey.

[@jakejonescomedy]

The truth is worth everything the world has to offer. God will give you everything you need and then some if you are unafraid and show joy even in hardship.