Managing pressure from parents when finding a spouse

[@alirabylove]

May Allah reward you for sharing everything that you have. I have benefitted so much and I feel so clear and calm about every area of life - marriage, career, my relationship with myself and now my parents! Thank you :-)

[@fstorms236]

When I see ur videos I feel positive. But alone all the negative thoughts come back

[@alirabylove]

I recommend listening on repeat. Over time her words will become part of your own thinking pattern. Whenever I start thinking negatively and get anxious I put on her videos

[@mouhamed.abdalrahman]

@@alirabylovegoated advice

[@inakhuzaimah7240]

Thank you for the topic in this content, it's making me feel hugged from the all pressure. Barakallah

[@aishamusa-b5k]

I'm 26 and being pressured to marry a guy from back home. The guy back home is a really great guy (good-looking, kind, religious, patient etc.) and has a good family, however, I just don't feel comfortable/happy accepting it. Me being raised here in the west and him back home so there would be a cultural clash, communication barrier, me having to be the provider for a long time once he comes here etc. So those difficulties are preventing me from accepting, but my parents keeps insisting and telling me that they are small issues. I would want a guy from here but I'm also scared of this generation too and worried I won't be able to find someone good here. I'm still thinking of rejecting the proposal but my parents are saying I will regret it. I'm so stuck :((

[@malaymuslimah]

Try do Istikharah, sister. I did istikharah many times before and it always helped me whenever I'm stuck. And remember that the answer to istikharah doesn't have to be a dream. Most of the times, things just don't work out if it's not good for both of us. May ALLAH ease your problems and give the best to you :)

[@aishamusa-b5k]

@@malaymuslimah aww thanks for your kind words! I did pray istikhara couple times but I still have the confused feeling and am stuck. So I'm not sure what my istikhara is saying :(( but I'm leaning more towards rejecting it and don't feel happy/comfortable proceeding with it, could that possibly be a sign?

[@yasamin8331]

SubhanAllah I literally just went through this!!! Absolutely destroyed my mental health. I ended up rejecting and don’t regret it at all. I know people around you can make you feel like ur being irrational by rejecting but consult in Allah and do what’s best.

[@yasamin8331]

I don’t think that no one should ever marry from back home because it works for some people, but you know yourself and the situation best. See if there are any married people who trust and look up to for advice as well inshaaAllah

[@noorbk24]

Thank you Lama for another wonderful video. Your work is incredible, and Im so grateful to Allah that I crossed paths with it.

[@fstorms236]

can you talk specifically about what is taking enough action and doing enough steps . truly what is enough?

[@hairypotter927]

I found a really good guy and I like him so much but I am so scared to tell my parents. My mom is reasonable but my father would explode and think that I’m not ready for it

[@pareeshamehar1764]

Thank you ❤

[@ladyAZforeveryoung]

Thank you ❤