10 Things Men Have To STOP Doing To Be More Attractive, Confident & Self-Led

[@greenpoprocket7965]

I genuinely wish I had resources like this channel much, much earlier in life.

[@chrish813]

Never too late my friend

[@Zorro00444]

Totally! Never had a mentor.

[@BoostedPastime]

Same

[@justinjex1]

Pay it forward. Learn from it and then become a mentor.

[@BoostedPastime]

@@justinjex1 Amen to that, lives can be changed

[@0pp4R1t1on]

The thing your mentor said, about " having someone who believes in you more than you believe in yourself" would fix a lot of problems for a lot of people.

[@lavatr8322]

Wat?

[@kimberlybulbulian5374]

I am a woman with 3 sons and a struggling marriage. This video is GREAT. I learned so much and can even apply some of this to myself. I shared it with my men. Thank you!

[@HeartCounty]

For any man searching for a new career, consider fire fighting. I've just started, but it's an inherently masculine job with plenty of risk, adventure and puts in the position of protector and hero. You'll be surrounded by strong masculine men and you'll form a brotherhood, a community where you share meals, knowledge and life experience. You are required to work out and get better everyday, and the schedule is 24 hours on, 48 off, so plenty of time for other pursuits. Sure, it has some big downsides as well, but I am loving this as a new 39 year old recruit, wish I'd found it much earlier. Keep going brother!!

[@camontell]

I’m 41 years old and this is the first time in my life I’ve put my mental health at the top of my priority list. I am a complete mess, my marriage is trash, my career is trash. I will be listening in to you a lot more often, I loved this video, the message couldn’t have been more directed to me. So thank you for this!

[@gandoyp]

Killing the lottery mindset really hit me, I'm going to focus on that. Thanks for the video!

[@NerdyScubaDiver]

Wanted to leave a comment because I found myself relating to several of these points...I'm 38, and a former band musician, played many concerts, toured, etc. I became obsessed with that lifestyle and "achieving" in it over a 20 year period, that I almost lost sight of how wonderful my present moment is: Being married to a beautiful, supportive wife and dad to our lovely daughter. I still have those band dreams and lottery mindset sometimes...But I do my best to ground myself and remember that life is not a linear path. There were many pitfalls and mistakes and lessons learned that led me to where I am today. But as I stare out the window of my property - we live on a couple acres in the woods - I realize how grateful I am. Thank you for this content. Will be watching.

[@GunzyBreed]

I’m recently going through a change in my relationship with my girlfriend, realizing that much our relationship has been affected by the unattended or pushed back trauma and issues that occurred in my life. Through this channel, the past couple days have been full of learning more about myself and I’ve never had a resource like this that I could really understand myself and now my current situation. One of the things I’m already choosing to do from this video is take control of my body, getting back to working out and working on my confidence.

[@djpeachyclean]

I commit to avoiding all thirst traps and instead focusing entirely on leveling up myself and achieving my goals

[@AP_123_]

This is a good one. We need much, MUCH more of this in today’s day and age.

[@chicosalerno1706]

I like this dude. Down to earth and relatable. Subscribed!

[@MJB_1994]

For sure Present Moment Appreciation. I fall into the trap of thinking I’m gonna be happy when, instead of appreciating the happy moments I do experience. Thanks for the reminder brother

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

well constructed video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@edwardclarkson-ph1kl]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@eleanormartin6923]

Hi I understand your pain. I’ve had on/off each year for 6 yrs with a guy I really loved. Then a year later we accidently ran into each other. Back together again but I’m not doing it after 7. Relationships are work by both sides and never taking each other for granted. You will come out of it and be a different person after a year. It’s tough but over time you will see things differently and grow.

[@domebean]

Danke!

[@ManTalks]

Thank you so much

[@KhotiStaan-z3m]

Wow, this channel is underrated. Subscribed today

[@andrewb3920]

Appreciating the present. Invaluable. I've just realized this recently. Forget about the past. Be cognizant, but don't worry about the future. Be thankful and enjoy what you have now, today.

[@jordanlong5354]

This is probably the most powerful video I’ve ever watched and it came at such a perfect time. Having difficulty navigating one of the toughest stretches I’ve had to endure and what you said about not knowing how to handle it struck me. Wow, thank you. Just ordered the book

[@JustinPrice86601]

Every one of these are things I have struggled with on and off for years. It is New Year's Eve as I watch this and I am making a decision that 2025 will be the best year for me yet. I'm also turning 39 in about four weeks so I am really looking at setting myself up to be the best 40 year old me that I can be. Subscribed! Thanks for the content. Really good stuff.

[@robertosanchez352]

This is the best channel I’ve come across in a very long time. Thank you.

[@Joeyb33f]

great timing. just getting out of a relationship and using this opportunity to doing what I need to do for myself.

[@JetJuice]

I'm gonna stop telling myself and others that I am broken because of my past

[@darylgholson4481]

Darn it. I use my lottery mindset too often. As you said, it effects what I do in the current. Big one!

[@kodyk124]

This is some of the best advice I have seen any from any men's help experts on KZbin. Every single item resonated as true and helpful, and some of them were profound -- the point about not comparing your pain to other men's was really helpful to me. I really admire your energy and your wisdom. Thank you for what you do!

[@ManTalks]

Beatty. Thanks for tuning in! Hope you subscribe and man it forward to another man

[@infinitybassuk]

Thank you. 🙏 I'm going to commit to more "balance" in my life, and quit the co-dependency on activities and people that I know aren't adding value to me, and are a major distraction. And taking back control and growing the aspects, interests and value add in my life that I've neglected and not valued enough. It's been painful, but lessons have been learned. Never too late to be accountable, admit your failings, and focus on self respect and healing. ⚖️

[@lollybagmike2502]

I'm in a bad spot right now, I know it will get better but I'm just listening to this video before I sleep cause I'm a little scared about my future, thanks for making the video Connor, I don't know what else to say but thanks

[@chalo4792]

Same here, pal.

[@blujack100]

Same

[@dougthomson7099]

Been there. I strongly believe that you have to just take small steps. Is what you are doing today going to make you a better person tomorrow? No one is perfect, and some days are harder than others.

[@NickBingham01]

I am in the process of doing what he's talking about, I don't use Facebook anymore, I don't have social media for the most part, only FB messenger to talk to family and friends who I can't talk to otherwise. It's not easy, but progress hurts sometimes.

[@ManTalks]

Well done 🙌🏽

[@theimaginarium]

"make your pain your purpose". I'm going to be using that from now on. Another outstanding video, thanks.

[@MrcoAu11]

What a good man you are making this kind of content, I really appreciate your effort. I have to say that for someone who English is not his first language your content is so clear and easy to understand and connect with. Thanks a lot 🙏🏽

[@gigglecompass1]

Conner. This is my go-to channel now. And your book is fantastic. Specifically, Chapters 4-6, amazing! Thank you. You have a gift

[@ManTalks]

Appreciate that! Thanks for tuning in and glad this hit home

[@MoistOwlettes]

Working out regularly and PMA really stood out to me.

[@EJN-44-47]

I needed to hear this, thank you for sharing your truth! It’s a deeper truth that all of us men to the core are struggling with.🙏

[@rodrigosuarez1942]

Thank you, man. Always great content.

[@purovenezolano14]

Your content is gold bro - thanks for sharing

[@shawnjunior610]

I quitted smoking for the past 35 days an it was a drastic change for me but I'm definitely taking your inspiration videos serious.

[@SingerOnTheTrail]

You’re right in every point - for 5 years now I try to follow these but I still struggle… I already shared this with my brother.

[@xTooDope99x]

My lady brought me to your page and said here u go figure it out pretty much . Bless up

[@eberalex]

I think what you do is the best you can get on the internet these days. Thank you very much.

[@tudoravram3242]

Great content. Thank you.

[@mattiadallabenetta7233]

I have started to implement a daily self-appreciation journal and breathwork (that you spoke about di anxious attachment video) to effectively work on my pain. 💪🏻

[@colterthompson6846]

I really respect you and your work, Connor. Thanks for what you do! You're a good example.

[@ManTalks]

Thank you, appreciate you tuning in brother

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*When men stop comparing themselves to others, they can actually focus on their own growth. Taking small steps to improve each day, like hitting the gym or picking up a new skill, builds the kind of confidence that’s hard to ignore!*

[@bethany_irl]

ok a) can't believe you're 40 - you look fantastic. honestly thought you were my age (28). and b) your videos always give me faith in other men like you being out there in the world so thank you. your wife and son are very lucky to have you in their life.

[@justinjex1]

There are men out there like this. Are you the type of woman that he would want? I hope so. If that’s the case, you would have incredible children and an awesome legacy. If you are not, then become that woman. You have the potential.

[@bethany_irl]

@@justinjex1 well i don’t go for the type of men that offer unsolicited advice to women they don’t know on the internet.. so all i can do is ignore your advice unfortunately to avoid men like you. but thank you nonetheless

[@bethany_irl]

@@justinjex1 i go for the type of men that have a life and don’t offer unsolicited advice to women they don’t know on the internet…

[@larsegholmfischmann6594]

I'm gonna go to the mirror every day now and say to my face "you WERE a victim, but not anymore"

[@yibaebielliot1043]

Thank you for this timely advice. Been really caught in some pretty dark moments recently and I must confess that watching your videos have been really inspiring. You just got yourself a new follower. 💯

[@lsmlsm2115]

Really appreciated this mate. Brilliant advice for men in the modern world.

[@alexannaev7062]

I appreciate your videos. They’ve helped me so much!

[@stephenschneider9209]

You are good. I love how you explain this stuff, related to most of it but and now i have some answers and tools! Present moment appreciation. Wow. And of course i was a victim but not anymore. You are changing my life. Thank you...❤

[@josepozo5601]

Good shit 🙌

[@matthewmcclymont895]

Very reassuring thank you. In another video you described briefly a breathing exercise for calming and presence, maybe you could do a vid covering some of the basics since this is important

[@ianwynne764]

Good one Connor. Thank you.

[@RyanBooker79]

Another great video mate! Appreciate you.

[@TommyLomeo_movement_33]

I really needed to hear this... Just getting home after some ot and listening to this while getting ready for the gym is so needed. I'm 43, this is the ONLY social media I use and I'm in the best shape of my life. Broken heart and learning how to process it and become better is the growth I'm trying everyday to earn. Your channel is awesome 🤙🫶💪

[@ChrisWeezay]

Man, step 3 made me stop the video to think 🤔 great stuff!

[@ManTalks]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@jake_with_the_BIG_snake]

29:20 was very helpful for me to realize. it wasn't until i fully embraced this that i really could feel the full extent of my feelings regarding some aspects of my victimization. one of my primary defense mechanisms have been to deny my weakness or vulnerabilities

[@BoostedPastime]

Thank you I really needed to hear this.

[@joebagadonuts-j4y]

Thanks for this. They are all true. #7 is #1 for me. Well, it was anyway. Once I understood that this could be repaired, I became and I'm becoming the man that I wanted to be.

[@MrPePeLePuo]

So much truth here

[@richmckeemusic]

I really appreciate you and your content. Thank you 🙏

[@ManTalks]

Thanks, I appreciate you tuning in

[@Bruhne]

Very good! Liked and subscribed.

[@ManTalks]

Appreciate it!

[@user-ee1fn4vt8b]

First tip was overrated because everyone works out nowadays, but man the rest of the video was just straight insights. The one thing I would focus on is “make your pain your purpose”. That really would solve a lot of simultaneous problems at once in my life.

[@eli7527]

Really needed this one today thank you!

[@edwardn8165]

thx man i appreciate you

[@medosasasasa]

Thank you

[@iancorybutler]

When the dream comes true, you must grasp it

[@jasonfanclub4267]

The title caught my attention

[@thomaswalters8023]

I am going to go yrs in number 10, and be in the present and cherish that

[@darylgholson4481]

“Stop making excuses”. Roll credits 😂. No seriously, I couldn’t receive any other messages after that one. If I can stop making excuses, I could turn this ship.

[@jeremyjjbrown]

Connor, hearing I need to accept that I was a victim is a huge thing I needed to hear.

[@perikoowl]

the last advice hit me hard

[@alwayzbacon]

I feel stopping the pursuit of short term gratification and learning impulse control will help me the most. This ties into a few of the other things you mentioned for me. Yes the others are important but this one is something I can start today. Do you have any tools for this? Should I try to track those moments as I overcome them? Or would that just feed back into it in some way?

[@yulflip]

One criticism I have here is about your first point, where you seem to argue that sleep hygiene is not as important as exercise. They are both incredibly important, and it could be detrimental to some people to believe that their sleep quality can be compromised in favour of exercising. The truth is that there is space for both, and that depending on one's life situation, one of them might need to be prioritized about the other. And if one's mental state is deeply affected by fatigue, proper sleep and rest will be just as important, if not more important, than a strict exercising regime. That being said, everybody has time for, at the very least, mild exercise (say, a walk) every day!

[@olehfishchuk5680]

Popcorn is a low calorie snack, perfect if you’re hungry but want to maintain your calorie goal. As long as it’s not having tons of butter or sugar. Minimum oil, some low calorie seasoning is good too go.

[@JarrettC70]

Lottery mindset and PMA

[@vladsciencedrums]

Can you talk about to get thru a break up ? And the no contact rule etc ?

[@andersnielsen6044]

This video talks about it from the start to the very end.. ;)

[@muscheenvisuals2825]

Thank you for sharing knowledge.

[@Rubenzportillo]

Im feeling rough, I’m feeling raw, I’m in the prime of my life

[@awsambdaman]

W song

[@dougthomson7099]

Me too, and I am 57! Ha. Well, in many ways I am way past my prime, but in other ways I am in my prime. Life is long, with many changes. Need to keep working on making tomorrow better.

[@john34557]

Could you make a video on why someone would have anxiety before a presentation?

[@andersnielsen6044]

This video is a very good one on that subject.

[@DylanXTwo]

Man cutting out games is impossible for me, I enjoy playing with friends and relaxing, it's part of my detox after a long day, getting on and enjoying a game for the rest of the night.

[@andersnielsen6044]

You are just another drug addict....

[@chrisd1405]

Great video Conor. It might be very helpful to acknowledge that to stop believing you are broken (which is undoing shame) is not a simple decision. It takes time, dedication, and hard work. Its definitely doable. But to just say “stop doing it” implies it is simpler than it really is.

[@user-ee1fn4vt8b]

Why is there always, always, always someone in the comment going “yeah, well, doing X is not that easy”. Always. No one said it was? Why are you attacking the few people who are fighting for you? What is the end goal of this comment, really?

[@billydeanmonroe8520]

There’s not much therapy like this anywhere I have found that are tallies this. It’s more stuff that create more brokenness that we are addicted and should go to groups. So I never know that my preference are ok.

[@Armando09Z]

If you're taking the first step to self care, and if you did that by watching this video. Just know, you should be incredibly proud of yourself. Take care you beautiful man.

[@raginald7mars408]

... as a German Biochemist Ph D - it is Genetics the conditioning of the PAIN - Reward Pattern in the Auto Pilot to which we have NO access - no matter how hard we try to get there ever. It takes intense Inner Strength Training - a sort of „Navy Seals“ Training to de Condition from that pattern and establish a new Genetics of PAIN Reward - that restructures the Auto Pilot In a wider sense it is „De Domestication“ from the social cultural forces that program our Minds - to do things that are BAD for us - and ultimately destroy the Bio Sphere. The Auto Pilot is never addressable via rational and “verbal” means! Best Business for the Mind Opiate Drug Pushers$$$$$

[@matthewnorris203]

Men’s personal well being matters, not just our performance. I wish the message of “find other men to encourage and speak into you” was more popular. Men are consistently told to ‘do better’ - what about how WE’RE doing? Men have to experience that we matter before we’re gonna care about others expectations authentically.

[@shawnmendrek3544]

You know, I realized, all the times I went to the hospital, no one in my family ever came to see me or friends(lol). I gotta say, once you know no one cares around you, it makes you wake up to how people 'can' be. I want to become an animal and seek revenge but I will not. Not even a call to check up on me, well complaining about bills. All good though, thanks for nothing. No love lost, when it was never found.

[@falsehope4421]

What does it mean to to turn towards your pain? Does that look like anger? Sadness? Carelessness? What does it mean to make your pain your purpose?

[@tess7798]

I think he means… the things you avoid because they make you uncomfortable, are the exact things you have to lean into, and force yourself to do

[@RicardoPerez-hh3zy]

How do I get your book?

[@justinjex1]

Stop comparing yourself to other men, but create benchmarks for success. Look at men as examples for success AND create the epitype of the man that you want to be from the conglomeration of positive traits. I do have to plug combat sports, especially Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. We talk about that a lot, but it is a game changer for those of you that want, need, and crave improvement.

[@TheMightyMidget]

Book still not available for the UK. Do you hate the English? Joking but I’d enjoy adding it to the arsenal of tools. Loving the content but Everytime you plug it, something agitates me 😂

[@ManTalks]

Damn!! Still not available…. Sorry man, I’ve been working with my publishing house to get it there. Massive pain. Should be available through amazon, no?

[@TheMightyMidget]

@@ManTalks Unfortunately not. No avenues for UK/Eng purchases outside of getting someone over there (stateside) to send it to me which sadly not an option for me. I understand this things often not a creators fault and appreciate the response tho my man. Consistently great and commendable work.

[@TheMightyMidget]

@@ManTalks my bad, recently added to Amazon for preorder Sept 1st. Not an agonising wait given I’ve already waited thus far. Thanks for giving me the reminder/initiative

[@righteousdivine]

@20:29, you can say reefer. 😂

[@GLZEPHEAD69]

I think a lot of us suffer from no free time. Personally im forced to work 6 to 7 days a week and my gf is disabled. When i get home i take care of our animals, cook some dinner for us and pass out. Theres no time for fun. Another shit part is even working 60 hrs a week we're still extremely poor. Ive managed to tighten my belt enough ive managed to save a couple grand and im wanting to try and start my own business and work for myself because nobody is willing to pay a living wage anymore or have a decent work life balance.

[@SuperSaiyanScandinavian]

I don't know how to stop believing that I am broken

[@billydeanmonroe8520]

I think it would be helpful to talk about retired older men relating to women , mostly about sex and money.

[@sales_coach_ai]

PMA and I’m not broken.

[@lars2894]

Good talk, but I'm still mesmerized that you are 40 years old 😲

[@Newgrist]

Disseminate means to spread or to scatter. In a derived sense, it can also mean to publicize. This is the second video in which I have heard you use the word incorrectly.

[@zloungeact]

❤❤❤

[@bubber74]

Sorry to say that number 9 is missing ;-)

[@fatnesstofitnessthereandback]

Button for all who just came here after watching girls pull vaulting lol

[@BloodyHeck]

I understand not giving women the attention they crave through apps and social, but I'm someone who isn't on any of those. That isn't going to help you get into a relationship because most men need to do those things in order to meet the woman in the first place. And when you said not to go after women you don't have a shot with, that's especially hard because anymore, an average guy has trouble even getting a below average woman. A man who is a 6 is lucky to get a woman who is a 4 because she's holding out for a man who is an 8. And while I don't look at much porn, I'm guessing you're referring to masturbation as well. Most men, including me, aren't giving that up because that's the only sex we get. I'm with someone and haven't had sex in almost a year. We had sex once in '23 and once in '22. Before that we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times a year and the first few years we were together, maybe 5-6 times. So like most married men, taking care of it yourself is about the only sex you can get. And I'm not giving up video games. While she doesn't like me doing it, at least I'm on the couch with her. If I'm out doing the things I used to do like long bike rides or in the kayak and I'm away from her for the majority of the day, then she will make life unbearable. I think I'm like most guys my age when it comes to games. When we were young, we'd play video games and D&D because we couldn't get dates. We now play them because we've gotten dates and learned we prefer video games to being in a relationship.

[@doggystyle8457]

All I could read was: 'excuses excuses excuses' . BS my friend, you are where you are because you have put yourself in that position.

[@BansheeKing22]

Pretty much. However I'd add that you should genuinely seek Jesus because no matter what, He is all that matters.

[@andersnielsen6044]

Stop comparing.. Stop your lottery mindset.. You really did not whatch, listen and understand the video at all..

[@BloodyHeck]

@@andersnielsen6044 Then what did I miss? How do I have a lottery mindset?

[@Chess-ks8lk]

Men needs to stop dating modern women in first place. There is nothing to gain. Single life is a privileged life.

[@falsehope4421]

If your childhood is what's fucking up your relationship then how are you meant to deal with that? I don't find that to be very funny personally