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[@nicholetaimi5331]

The strength of men is not the responsibility of Black women.

[@nolubynature9513]

They want to blame Black women for everything

[@saragirma6577]

He was already to begin with if needed a woman for strength

[@zannahmartell9813]

Please bare in mind, Auntie is unmarried, with an ex that she stabbed.

[@nolubynature9513]

😂😂 yeah and 3 failed marriages

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

These types of women are double agents, they mean the rest of us no good. They want us to live what they did. STRUGGLE

[@cheapassmudda]

WHAT... WHAT???😂

[@StellaM22]

😂😂😂😂

[@jessicadavis3989]

😂😂😂😂 I believe it!

[@officiallykayanna]

Iyanla is one of the OG elder pickmeisha. very rabid, if she bite you will get rabies. we cant follow these women these days

[@timafiggy]

so true. Women that ae in her age range are not even listening to her. if this was sex in the city . she is the Miranda . ms I think I know all about men but has a man child at home with my son and I'm uptight and anal Kind of woman. if this was white women to each other I guaranteed she would have been left behind. She gives me Witch vibes anyways.

[@nicoleharrington9086]

She's doing it on purpose for brand reasons

[@misslola007]

She was actually harsh on Bm when she was working with Oprah. They scared her away. Now she's attaching herself to where the money at. Bw bashing is where ppl make money now.

[@beautifullEternal]

She is queen mammy. I been clocked her since she was on Oprah. I feel like O had her on so ppl could recognize the mammy ways.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

When a pickmeisha is her age, they're just a m@mmy.

[@JJerseyGirl]

How soft was Iyalla when her husband broke her jaw when she was 6 months pregnant.

[@whosthatgirlitstiff1861]

😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@theroadlesstravelled7754]

Chileeeee 🥴

[@TIAOFNEBULA]

whattttttttttt

[@TyroneBackyardiagains]

😨😨😨

[@PinkVibrations89]

Whooaaaa 😱

[@Childfree334]

Iyanla has it backward. Aren't men supposed to be the leaders? So shouldn't we be saying the better and stronger MEN are, the softer and more feminine and submissive WOMEN can be. Lead with honor, lead with love, lead with integrity, and let the woman follow suit. If she doesn't, then on to the next one.

[@bjw1446]

Lmaoooo and nothing about her screams “soft” to me😂

[@YellaBellaReno]

There are two type of people in this world: people who have a hard exterior shell with soft gooey insides, and people who have soft gooey outsides with a spine of steel. We need to live in a world where which of those two types you are is no longer defined by whether you are a woman or a man. Both types of people serve vital roles in society and community. Both are valuable; neither are predetermined by the hole that they pee out of. 🙃

[@unicorn73212]

​@@YellaBellaRenoexactly they think she's tough because she's not in the kitchen backing cookies for free that's not soft that's ghetto as fuck to serve a man. I also noticed when your at work if they see a woman working harder then the men they send that woman to another department because they get embarrassed at how good women are at re stocking and re facing products. My department is right next to diary department were it looks trashed it gets them in trouble and it makes them hustle to finish there half of the store. Take a picture when your done building your shelf so that they know it was two women that finished it.

[@idreadFell365]

Well leadership doesn’t depend on a specific gender. But many do assume that is solely a man’s thing.

[@ashleyen3]

Oh please child men ain't no natural leaders. I don't know who came up with this ridiculous theory.

[@fslayer1290]

I will not be a “soft” quiet, weak, vulnerable, waif damsel with so many random men around that can and will harm me. I must be strong to protect myself. 😊

[@dearbrave4183]

Yes, Even roses have thorns💯❤

[@jennifergilkey]

forgetting that "men" are preditory as fck!!!

[@nolubynature9513]

Exactly!

[@Whatthewhat927]

Id rather, if ever, will want a feminine soft pretty man

[@unecamerresiliente]

She gives me the vibes of those older black women who will cover the abuser in a SA situation and blame and dismiss a victim to protect a ain’t ass bandit

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

That's exactly what I get from her. I smell a "proper pick me" from her.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

Yep, she will do just that.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

That's exactly what happened to her.

[@unecamerresiliente]

@@ecclairmayo4153 really?what’s the tea?

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@unecamerresiliente - Iyanla has been married and divorced 3 times! One of her husband's was physically abusive broke her jaw. She is still being taken for a wild ride with her son and grandson, taking all her money. She is caring for grown men. She has no business giving out advice to women!

[@LittleMsSunnyD]

Nah her advice is DOA… furthermore advising women that being “good” is what makes a man better is manipulation and abusive.

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

Exactly, they went through struggle love and want us to endure the same treatment.

[@freethinkingMILF]

Right

[@ecclairmayo4153]

That's why she was an abused battered woman

[@YellaBellaReno]

“So, if a man wants to be a better man for me, it all depends on me.” You nailed it. What is supposed to make a woman a better woman? Oh? It doesn’t go both ways? Well then, respectfully auntie, just no. No. Leaning into softness might have worked for generations of women whose biggest concern was not being beaten, separated from her children, and put out on the streets… but today? No. Today, we are raising the bar; not just for our men, but for OURSELVES as well.

[@lillybilly9954]

Iyanla’s brand is this down to earth, matronly, spiritual woman. But it’s a brand. She doesn’t even live the things she’s saying. She reads people very well, and she’s a business. She’s always going to say stuff like this.

[@gospeldva]

The fact that these generation of women got played on repeat and still believe this nonsense is baffling

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

This.... I just dont get it!

[@gravityclarity]

She's advocating for women to be doormats.🙄 Men must make *themselves* better and stop expecting women to coddle them.

[@OneTwo-yw4ij]

Once this lady said her uncle could only show her he loved her through g'raping her in the basement. I was done with her! This woman is addicted to trauma. Iyana has been surrounded by nothing but abusive, treacherous BM. She never had a healthy relationship in her life. Not even with her own son. I'm sorry but she seems unhealed.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

She is disgusting and she has failed in so many relationships that I don't know why she keeps giving advice

[@JadeScorpion31]

I will say that I was that girl. I was kind, loving, my usual helpful/resourceful self and this man took me through the wringer, ruined me financially, and I almost lost my mind. Thank God I escaped and turned things around. Ladies, do NOT do what Iyanla is suggesting as you could lose your self and life doing so. That advice she's giving is a burning oil field of a disastrous proportions. Your relationship should NOT be a social services case.

[@MariaDavids]

Well said!

[@cvzdez]

I was too. you can be too niceit means no boundaries. I love Iyanla, but she was in 1 abusive relationship, another broken marriage, and was paying the bills in addi to a broken sun.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

I feel you, I went through the same and I am slowly planning my escape amd its going to talk awhile because he made me leave my job, my mind broke, my spirit broke, and I am trying to build myself back up gradually.

[@LorienzoDeGarcia]

The advice this woman is giving is what we call "romanticizing". PLEASE, ladies, take care of yourself and take no shit. YOU have more to lose in a marriage. Even in this day and age. There is a reason that in nature, animals only choose the strongest, most attractive and the mate they think is the best, and the species continues on with good genetic material as a result. Apply that same principle to yourselves with regard to physical, financial, and mental aptitude, ladies. YOU hold the sexual selection power. You can determine who gets the honor and privilege of continuing their bloodline. Don't let anyone think they can debase you.

[@Confessions089]

Thank you!

[@saragirma6577]

Thank you love

[@advisorywarning]

love this!!💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

We can’t be soft because BM are already soft. Someone has to be the protectors lady

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Y'all need to clock that she is rebranding to extend her relevance.

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

By sending more women to the slaughter house.

[@marianaya5824]

And the real joke is that Iyanla has not proved that theory...PERSONALLY. Let men grow up! Let them grow up and do not deal with them until they do. They can do it if we let them. That's it. Peace and love.

[@gogogetter]

Yep tried that whole better woman for my “man” BS. I am currently going through a very stressful and expensive divorce! Don’t do it! Not worth it! Your sanity is worth more!

[@sistahamina]

i don’t even know where to start…this woman is delusional and it’s talk like this that has caused so many women grief, trauma, heartbreak, and abuse trying to be all of these things for a man - making excuses for them and creating these codependencies - sacrificing our own wellbeing just to say we have a man…go back and listen to “young hearts, run free”…that should be our anthem…

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

We should be breeding these types of men out.

[@AstroBaby91]

When I was soft and sweet, men financially, emotionally and mentally abused me. No more.

[@raesully2615]

Same for me.

[@leighbotts9694]

I can’t with Mammy VanZant 🙄

[@cvzdez]

If you are a good man it is in your character. It is who you are. Your bar does not shift.

[@eprahs1]

one thing i notice about bw, is when they are in that one 'good' relationship with a man.....all of a sudden all men are saints. Iyanla is in a relationship obviously.

[@anonymousone9699]

The days of softness have passed. I’m not even sure if they ever existed. This world is harsh, ugly, and mean. Your softness will not make a man better or stronger. You’ll just be an easy target for clingers and lazy bums. Good luck ladies. Be tough when you need to be tough. Iyanla did not achieve what she’s achieved by being soft. Trust.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly. It will make you a target fir abuse. That's literally what haplend to Iyanla

[@maxine-d5h]

Iyanla feels that way about herself. She feels masculine, and comes off as masculine. That's not the case for every woman.

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

Trying to send more women to the slaughter house

[@nemo7782]

Being a diamond does not turn another piece of trash person into a diamond.

[@latashascott3503]

Iyanla needs to go sit down

[@thatsrealroughbud...2394]

There is very little less attractive than a man so weak he needs his woman to be less so he can feel more. Men and women are complimentary. If a woman needs to dull her shine, it's either because the man is refusing to step up, or she's dating down and needs to move on. I'm not sorry for saying it. My husband was in his feelings about me earning more. I told him to earn more. Shit's that simple. He makes good money, the pay gap doesn't bother me, it bothers him, it's his problem, not mine. The more we earn, the more we bring to the family AS PARTNERS. If he feels my success destabilizes his position as the provider, he needs to get out there and provide. He is because he's not dusty AF which is why he's married and I left other lesser men on the curb. Date your equals ladies. He doesn't need to bring as much money as you, but he does need to provide as a man when you are providing as a woman.

[@anikasmith8361]

I have a few questions about this perspective. 1.If men are the leaders; how is it that their behaviour is supposed to be mirroring us? Shouldn't it be the other way around? 2. As an independant black woman who has put herself through school and thereby has the ability to give herself a decent life on her own; how is shrinking to fit the average BM supposed to give HIM the ability to compensate all that I am expected to sacrifice in order to be in "partnership" with him? If he can't even be what he needs to be for himself, my guess is that he will fail in that endevour before he tries. How will I NOT be wasting my time? 3.If I'm the source of HIS strength; where is the source of mine's? I personally lean on my sense of spirituality and that being the case often question why our men can't lean the same. Even the religous seem to NEED the energy of women to a suspicous degree. 4.The average bm has very little power in the world. How is me being a "soft place" not making me as a BW even more vulnerable in a world where my "protector" can't even protect himself? Shouldn't demolishing white supremacy be the first order of business before I do that? And finally 5; if all this violent acting out that too many BM engage in is a result of BM's struggle to love himself through the devaluation of white supremacy; how can he POSSIBLY have any love to give the women and children in his life? Wouldn't a personal journey of healing be the prerequsite for even attempting to be someone's husband and eventually, father? No woman can be responsible for that and if BM think she should be, then may I please refer you to question 1.😮

[@nolubynature9513]

Perfectly said

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I've been saying it for years. If you need someone else to motivate you to be a leader...then you are not a leader. She doesn't know it but she actually made the case that women are the true leaders.

[@BENZ_ASMR]

Not even in the old generation those women used to get cheated on and abused by their own men 😢💯

[@bitchslapthesun]

Iyanla Vanzant isn’t specialized in any way to handle mental health or trauma, because any therapist would say that this kind of thinking leads to self-sabotage and self-blame for things outside of your control - and that it also opens one up to accepting abuse when they shouldn’t. If you aren’t where you should be as an adult, it’s on YOU to change - not anyone else.

[@YourMajesty143]

That's bc Iyanla isn't qualified to advise on these things. She's an inspirational speaker, lawyer, "New Thought" spiritual teacher, author, life coach, and television personality. This is all code for shiesty grifter and gimmicky snake-oil salesman. She's neither a therapist, a psychiatrist, psychologist, neurologist, anthropologist, or social worker. She's not even a counselor. All of which require specialized degrees. Her only accredited degree is in law, that's it. All her other titles can be gotten through connections and a paid online certificate. Idk why anybody thought she was in any position to be giving advice about people's REAL circumstances. She's a hack.

[@saragirma6577]

​@YourMajesty143 you said it better because I could not explain, but I felt the same way. I don't why she get credit. I thought her talk is bs

[@vernoniqueomosanya8931]

I stopped listening to her years ago

[@dearbrave4183]

Nope. Even roses have thorns. It means they have a personality, standards and boundaries. Of course rose pickers would like roses not to have thorns but if they did , they would be called something else, an unnatural appearance of what they once used to be, with all the beauty and all the glory gone. All insects too, will have easy access to their petals because they can climb nonchalantly on their stems. Women are roses🌹

[@YellaBellaReno]

There are two type of people in this world: people who have a hard exterior shell with soft gooey insides, and people who have soft gooey outsides with a spine of steel. We need to live in a world where which of those two types you are is no longer defined by whether you are a woman or a man. Both types of people serve vital roles in society and community. Both are valuable; neither are predetermined by the hole that they pee out of. 🙃

[@fayepatrice1672]

Sounds like typical old school Christian beliefs to me. “Be a good wife and one day your husband will see it and stop being an abusive asshole. “ Uh huh.

[@chitlinjuice]

That's not even a Christian belief. That's a slave plantation, mammy belief.

[@Morenita570]

Iyanla is not a pick me, she’s a mammy, work mule - big difference.

[@gravityclarity]

"It is not my job to contort for a man." Yes!👏🏽

[@ashmoise3175]

The one that spoke about the fact that Big Men are Grooming young girls. 😢 So true it made me cry. We need to stop giving our young girls to these sex hungry animals.

[@andreamai]

Auntie is trying to gaslight us in 2023😂

[@VICTORIOUSONE22]

Blackmen today want submissive providers.

[@TheBarloboat]

Chile...Iyanla aint NEVER been able to keep no man! She is NOT the one to ever listen to about relationships. She definitely needs to hang it up. Aint nobody falling for her foolery any more.

[@stanis6543]

I helped my man in college (paying for car repairs, paying phone bills) and when he got on his feet, HE LEFT!!!

[@Elusive.magick]

“Supposed to be the gap fillers”. Wow that was so insightful. We are not gap fillers. We are the foundation. We are the substance of life itself.

[@Morenita570]

She’s been abused by her ex husband, her son and now her grandson. Men need their fathers and the males in the community to walk them thru manhood.

[@kimberly8695]

Ms. Iyanla has it backward. The good women have usually come home to find some other woman in her home. Also, 😅heterosexual repair industry😂!

[@Todaysreminder918]

No no no, you can do and be EVERYTHING for a man and he will lay down and let you. DO not pour into a black hole of a man anymore.

[@attitudeproblem6462]

The fact that this is what she is saying after she related to the world how her children’s father used to _dog walk her_ on literally a _daily basis._ She can keep that prescription for herself.

[@advisorywarning]

bro…. WHAT👀

[@ibabechanel]

Thunder will fire Iyanla, the mammy supremo. She’s misled so many BW with her nonsensical dusty rhetoric.

[@thegazetteyt]

The more I keep hearing, auntie talk, the more I realize that she is a Betamax living in a digital world. Her antiquated ideas of what she thinks men do to contemporary women is astounding to me. Men don’t need a soft place to fall, they need to find their honor. Men don’t honor themselves, their commitments, their tasks, or anything else like they used to. The follow through with honor is gone in so many ways today. It is all about getting what you can get or doing something to somebody else before they do it to you or making sure that you justify hurting somebody. Because you don’t want them to hurt you first. Women have issues too. Not saying they don’t so don’t come at me, but if we’re talking about men and the fact that women have to hedge off a man’s interest or access to their own worth before it happens, is just an over investment that has no return in today’s society. It is too easy to be left high and dry and hurt with a whole Lotta babies that a man just won’t regard because he wants to go chase some thing else. You can’t rely on people like you used to because the world has gotten bigger for everyone and because the world is gotten bigger. You have to make sure that you protect your little pocket because it’s easy for somebody to come in and dismantle that under the guise of trust “softness”

[@timafiggy]

She always gave me Witch vibes. i am literally wearing en evil eye bracelet watching this . i forgot it was on too.

[@TheMspoodle2]

She want women to alter their true selves..She carzy!!!

[@needisaymoore2138]

What we have to keep in mind is auntie learned all of this before a lot of the protections we gained. She was learning to date when spousal rape was still legal. She probably started dating before women had the right to own their own credit. What she is trying to teach is an old way of using the fawn response to maintenance a toxic or dangerous man in a world that gave her little choice. I try not to judge her for the way she thinks but times have changed. 4B por vida ✊

[@eljeepi]

The wise woman @5:05 was everything 🙌🏽 I feel like her story would have been mine, cause I had the same thought process. Be sweet, he'll be strong. These men don't love like we do. You can't instill anything if its broken. Nothing but gems 💎 ✨️ coming from this lady.

[@dallasflynn5200]

Van Zant has been married and divorced 3 times. Idk how many relationships she’s been in nor do I know if she is currently in a relationship. Are we to surmise that her marriages failed because she wasn’t soft enough? Did she not bow down to her standing strong men? Did she not create a world for her men where they could thrive and rule? How come she can’t mold herself into what her men need in order for them to be satisfied enough to stay with her? Either she lies about how she interacts with her own partners or she lies about she lies about her concept working out.

[@sentb5744]

Coach is wrong on this one. Get a secure man that doesn’t need you to shrink in order for them to feel tall.

[@denisestaude6889]

Facts Ayala got to go 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@gravityclarity]

I like the way you said "rubbish!"

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

I ain’t going and I’m not taking the blame for nothing. She can have it

[@lorettaknoelk3475]

Can we agree that Halle Berry is soft and beautiful? Didn't she get cheated on and is actually paying child support?

[@Honeybunny5555]

Lol I’m whatever my husband needs me to be because damn imagine having to be strong all of the time? That sounds exhausting. Some days I’m strong, some days I’m soft and some days I’m vulnerable. He becomes whatever I need him to be in those moments. She’s a nut.

[@kaybee1025]

😂 dusties can't be "better things" on their own......yasss zazzy! If only Iyanla knew the power of STFU 😐

[@myahill7475]

Who said it all depends on you? Why speak in absolutes. Being a better partner and a better person will help society. A women must love herself first!!! Allowing disrespect and abuse isn’t submission but extreme low self esteem.

[@olilumgbalu5653]

So her sweatshirt says WHACK?? Just a coincidence I suppose given what she's saying?

[@ecclairmayo4153]

🤣🤣her shirt was appropriate

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

"Being good to someone else does not determine whether someone will be good to you." Sis. Idk how old you are (you could be 18 or 48, i honestly don't know), but I feel like you're younger than I am, and I wish I had your wisdom when I was your age; it would likely have saved me so much heartache and wasted time@

[@MynameisNOTthepoint]

Accountability is a thing that each individual must grapple with when it comes to the quality of their life based on their own choices and way of being. I can’t even believe Iyanla said that! She knows damn well it doesn’t matter what YOU do, a person that doesn’t even see an issue with their behavior to begin with, is not going to change on the account of you. The ONLY thing that can change a person is their actual desire to do so! A lot of men don’t have that desire because of this pseudo patriarchal power that automatically says everything wrong in the world is the fault of a woman! Women have been shrinking and conforming for decades thinking that nurturing and loving a man would make him act right. Her generation is the main generation that can speak to the untruth of what she is talking about! The jokes write themselves at this point!

[@mojojojo8213]

Aint iyanla single with a string of dusty relationships involving baby daddies not husbands?

[@maxine-d5h]

You young girls, me being close to Iyanla's age, get your education, exercise, watch your diets, find healthy greens and put your spin on it. Ask God to come in your life and take over. Keep your legs closed until you have a ring. It won't be easy, but worth it.

[@hananeazzouzi4122]

When we become their soft place to land, they use us as punching bags.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

That's exactly what happened to Iyanla

[@brittneysperspective8433]

@0:50 It’s also why women stay with abusers! They think they can live them more. Or act better, and the man will stop. When the abuse has nothing to do with that. It’s all about them controlling you, and not having to answer for their bad behavior or their shortcoming. That’s what abuse is about. It has nothing to do with love.

[@solomoon3083]

Iyanla has needed to take a seat for SEVERAL years now. She ain’t MY auntie!

[@TheBLACKboard65]

Iguana Vanzant has the right sweatshirt - she IS WHACK!!

[@toniiblack7014]

Disrespectfully...iyanla needs ti fix her mouth to stay shut

[@ladyd6375]

Iyanla life is a mess but yet she trying to give out advice Iyanla fix your life

[@oncetwice5942]

In today’s dating world it truly does NOT matter what you do or how you act or even how you look. You are either lucky or not. Dating is literally BASED on LUCK!!

[@Carameldamour]

Mama Iyanla is the original pick me. I like her books on self healing but relationships. She is not the one to take advice from. She herself could not keep 3 men so I am not sure what she was talking about there.

[@leydle]

Iyanla: (in a Tweety the bird spoken voice) you have to be as swoft as a baby, for the man to tweet you like the queen that you are. Men: WHOOPS. (laughs) I DROPPED THE BABY. MY BAD. AHHH SH💩T, I DID IT AGAIN. SOMEONE COME GET THIS BABY. all eyes on Iyanla🙍🏾👀👀👀👀👀😠🤨

[@nikicarrie4071]

Why can't men shine on their own? Why do women have to be something unrealistic and shrink? He can't shine himself? If somebody else can outshine you , you are not the best. Take it and improve

[@nikicarrie4071]

If men are not abusing a woman/ child ,he don't feel like a man. You should be abused so he can feel tall...

[@nikicarrie4071]

Even if women did this, women would still be leading lol.shes leading putting on facade making him feel good. How pathetic. Are men 2 .

[@ecclairmayo4153]

She may not know it, but all she did was make the case that women are the real leaders. I've been saying it for years

[@jaiyabyrd4177]

Iyanla Vanzant is phenomenal...... But she's wrong on blaming women. for the demonic behavior of men

[@MISAO_SAO]

LMAO - Iyanla please stop promoting co-dependency in the black community; enabling is disabling.

[@janschild]

She has really been getting on my nerves lately. She can’t keep a man following her own advice 🙄

[@cvzdez]

So if you never meet your equal does that mean you are not good? Why do people believe they are owed or guaranteed to encounter the person that fits your spirit or sould in this world or bilions of people? Be a good person, contribute to your society and if meeting your mate happens okay if it doesn't that is okay. We are acting like their are millions of people who have never been matches with the love of their life. We women exits as beings autonomously and would notbmind partnership if the right one comes by

[@YellaBellaReno]

@JoulesLowell (the second video) has one of the most intriguing and unique accents I have ever heard. What is that accent? Anyone know? I’m fascinated! Lol

[@beautifullEternal]

She is a Mammy Queen. Her advice is poison.

[@Tiredttttttt]

I despise iyanla

[@juliebella1221]

21:09 until the end. All truth. ❤

[@azureavocado5195]

20:00 Brava!! She said it all.

[@dsmile1116]

If that’s the case Ilyana then why are they the supposed leaders? If what type a person he is depends on me then why should I follow him? Sounds like I’m having to lead.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

She may not know it, but she made the case that women are the real leaders. I've been saying this for years

[@SandraSandra-cm6em]

She is a domestic violence survivor she should not talk such rubbish. She wasn't soft enough for her abusive man?

[@luvphoenix956]

iyanla not my aunt and i hear no words of wisdom from her she is a pick me bye iyanla👋🏽

[@greenytaddict]

Why hasn't Iyanla picked up or been picked by her would be bus driver husband???

[@ramgood2457]

IMMA ABOUT TO BURN ALL HER BOOKS. SHES A PICK ME AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN

[@heyhey439]

People will say this kind of thing and turn around and call men the natural leaders and better protectors and providers smh..... Which is it? Make it makes sense...

[@Lighthouse6104]

14:40 YES! The right man will bring out the soft and submissive Nature in their woman because they have earned it through patience, love, compassion and RESPECT. If your women doesn’t feel safe enough to get that vulnerable with you that’s a YOU problem sir.

[@alexpiper1115]

"they are on this app doing x"--- maybe it's time to take a break from these apps?

[@BENZ_ASMR]

I love @JoulesLowell channel 🥰

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

She's y'all auntie not mine my aunts have smart a$$ loud mouths

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

She isnt always wrong, she just doesnt have good context. For instance, you can incite attraction with being warmer and softer vs colder. But context is - who is the man, is he masculine, is he a protector so you feel safe being soft. She doesnt address that so it sounds completely out of touch

[@beepbopboop7727]

Does that mean Iyanla wasn’t good enough as a wife ad that’s why she ended up divorced.

[@Tampatsmi]

Is she a certified relationship coach? If so, this is a problem. She must have failed the courses in psychology, sociology and behavioral science.

[@ashmoise3175]

Can I get an AWoman for all the women who spoke nothing but facts here?

[@oooreginasaid]

I'm 50 years old and no woman from either my Mom's or my Grandmom's generation ever gave me the kind of advice Ilyana (sp?) was talking about.