Brené Brown: How to “Brave the Wilderness” & Find True Belonging

True belonging is SO much more than “fitting in.” In this episode, Marie joins cultural icon Brené Brown in Texas to talk about her book “Braving the Wilderness.” Brené explains how to balance our need for individuality and standing out with our innate need for social acceptance. Plus, she breaks down the seven elements of trust, why shame never leads to a productive conversation, and why Brené doesn’t wear a suit - or watch her language - when she speaks to organizations. #MarieTVInterviews #BreneBrown #BRAVING
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor, storyteller, and best-selling author. Her TED Talk on vulnerability is one of the top five most viewed TED Talks in the world with over 50 million views. She’s spent decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, and is the author of several #1 New York Times bestsellers, including “The Gifts of Imperfection,” “Daring Greatly,” “Rising Strong,” “Braving the Wilderness,” and “Dare to Lead.” Brené is the founder and CEO of Brave Leaders, Inc., an organization that brings evidence-based courage-building programs to teams, leaders, entrepreneurs, and culture shifters.
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Jump to these great nuggets of wisdom from the brilliant Brené Brown: 2:45 - The 5 words Maya Angelou shared that shaped Brené’s speaking career. 6:49 - Why we must practice “braving” if we want to stay connected to ourselves and others. 11:00 - The concept we *must* understand to heal polarization in our country and our world. 15:55 - How your fear of criticism is holding you back - and what you can do about it. 24:11 - The critical difference between shaming and holding people accountable. What’s next? Watch this playlist to see more inspiring interviews: kzbin.info/aero/PL4D5277E0F92106D2

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[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Marie

[@annammazur9712]

Hi that's was great 👍 I have one question because English it's not my first language. What is the wilderness?

[@prolificprofoundpoetry5381]

Thank you so much. I AM THE WILDERNESS!!

[@prolificprofoundpoetry5381]

@@annammazur9712tanding on your 10 toes Alone, no matter who doubts you or are against you & your beliefs. You remembering that you are brave, courageous and faithful.

[@LeezPgh]

"Don't walk through the world looking for evidence that you don't belong.. because you will always find it. Don't walk through the world looking for evidence that you are not enough.. because you will always find it. Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those inside of our hearts." "I will not negotiate who I am. If I negotiate who I am for you, I may fit in with you, but I no longer belong to myself."

[@pcwhite100]

LeezPgh I found that so powerful as well!

[@DiSaValCrescerTranscender]

That part was FUCKING AMAZING too

[@bobdole564]

#preach

[@Lauraisgreen]

Powerful shit ❤️👌

[@cherriemckinstry131]

Thank you... I hear and feel this...

[@startblogup]

What I keep thinking... can anybody give Brene a Nobel prize for peace?

[@itskenziebrenna]

yesss!! I agree w this!!

[@margolandon1565]

I have said that many times!

[@micheledaniels8803]

Start Blog Up. Блоггинг для творческих предпринимателей I️ totally agree!

[@micheledaniels8803]

I️ totally agree. She is amazing.

[@journeysxtraorthopedist5371]

Stephanie Allred

[@blaisegirl420]

"Don't walk through the world looking for evidence that you don't belong because you'll always find it. Don't walk through the world looking for evidence you are not enough because you will always find it. Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those inside of our hearts" Amen ❤👏

[@kamsiahenching238]

Permission to share. Thank you

[@masyhthompson2901]

Beautiful

[@JannicaSeraypheap-wp5mb]

I’ve noticed that people always seem to be attached to the same quotes during a video so I may add that it’s humanizing to know we sip from the same pool.

[@nelidalewis9034]

I have a KNOT in my throat, after 45 years and being ostracized from the siblings, and thinking there was something wrong with me because I didnt fit in, NOW I know, I will never fit in, I AM OK standing alone and I DO BELONG. I finally know what BRAVING is and I am the FKN wilderness! Thank you BRENE

[@ruthkingng8663]

Totally get your comment Nelda !! It's difficult to see we may be ok when others around us have a similarity we do not share. Love brene brown

[@thejogayogafiles]

👏👏👏🥰👋

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Nelida

[@annammazur9712]

Very true 👍 I have question because English it's not my first language what is wilderness in Brene content

[@canicebarbone8313]

Amen to that

[@sheilamutaramuka5400]

"At the end of the day, At the end of the week, At the end of my life , I want to be able to say that I contributed more than I criticized" It's saying everything. Thank you for sharing a part of you

[@nursynikki]

Lesson for me to go edit some posts

[@Clau1982]

"If the only two tools that you have in your tool bag are shame or coddle, that's a sorry-ass tool bag" that nugget of wisdom just blew me away

[@ramapublishing5]

Me toooooo

[@coconin5941]

oh hell yes!! right?!

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Claudia

[@quikboarder93]

That was insanely powerful. Brené is the type of person that could completely change your life with just 1 conversation

[@maxwellcooper2]

"Dehumanization is not a social justice tool" -- Yes, brilliantly pointed out. Thank you. This is resonating with me so much right now.

[@AnnaPugacova]

"When I fit you - I don't fit myself anymore!" BEAUTIFUL

[@janicemaguire8551]

So true x

[@mrs.riche3939]

Absolutely beautiful!!!

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello Anna

[@tamarajessup1398]

I have Borderline Personality Disorder. The hardest part of for me it isn't the poor emotional regulation or even unstable relationships; those are painful, of course, and have affected my life and the lives of those I've loved in lasting ways. It's the unstable sense of self. Having been dehumanized, I haven't been able to agree with the expression "Wherever you go, there you are!" Wherever I go, I'm whomever the people I find there need me to be, which may differ from whom they want me to be, which has no relationship with who I am. I'm 56 years old as of this moment, and have almost no idea who I am - a wilderness, indeed, about which I often feel bewildered. I'm grateful to Brené for giving me a compass to help me find my way.

[@carrad123456]

Which of her book helped you most

[@susanharris3952]

So BEAUTIFUL, Tamara. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable with us. It's a high art. And your writing is a pleasure to read.

[@selina6651]

Yes, I'm barely finding out about this woman through videos. Best wishes to you on your journey, there have been times where I've felt very similar to what you are saying. I like the mnumonic device braving, it just simplifies alot of what we are already trying to do.

[@inspiredclarity2014]

Tamara, look at you and all that courage! My daughter is diagnosed with Borderline pd. So did my dad and sister when they were alive. I wish I could've understood my dad and sis better when they were alive. I didn't see the trauma side of it, how they had been hurt only my frustration and anger when I felt they were being difficult. I'm glad to have a better chance with my daughter, who is an adult with a child of her own. I guess I'm not entirely sure what I want to say except people like Brene Brown help with the excellent and courageous work they do and you help by demonstrating that it's okay to talk about. It's important to yourself and others to admit and talk about. Together we can blow shame out of the water and move towards healing. Thank you. Sending love.

[@inspiredclarity2014]

Tamara, another quick comment/question: have you looked into learning about fragmentation and/or shadow work and/or integration? These may help point toward what you might be rejecting about yourself so you can learn to accept and heal those parts and be more authentically who you are. I like Teal Swan's work. She has a ton of content on KZbin. I'd start by listening to her personal story of her childhood and teen years. She's so beautiful and confident you would never guess how far she's come. To me it shows we can heal more than we could imagine. Take care, Margie

[@hgg324]

"In the absence of data, we will always make up stories." So true! Wonderful conversation.

[@bobdole564]

Rehumanise rather than dehumanising. Had to pause for a bit, getting odd looks tearing up in an airport. So hard to do, but you're right, it's so toxic. Urgh... Now I have to think of other things to say about my boss 🤔 hardest homework ever. P.s. Brené Brown, you and you're words are literally a God Send 💙 ♥️

[@NikkiCFO]

"I am the f&cking wilderness!!!" I love the vulnerability and authenticity of this video. Will definitely watch it over and over again.

[@poppyorangeflower]

"I am the fucking wilderness." "Amen." Lol these ladies are terrific.

[@journeysxtraorthopedist5371]

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[@timbawangu3038]

Me too

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Nikki

[@HusseinBarbaar]

Marie and Brene are a breath of fresh air in a stinky world. I'm a guy and I'm not sure if they caught me in a sweet spot in my life (within the first week of the birth of my first son) but I was fighting back this watery stuff in my eyes because they've put my Dreams into words I wouldn't know how to describe. Full of Gratitude for Brene, Marie and Team Forleo! #Classic!

[@adelewalker9651]

Ridwanullah PodasTv x

[@shelpow]

Awwwwwww, congratulations new daddy!

[@MyrnaDeJesus]

Thank you for your thoughtful response. May your journey through fatherhood be enriching and healing. Thank you for existing and for giving a damn!

[@lynnrussell467]

How awesome to see/hear a man be soft n squishy out loud in public! You, sir, must be a REAL MAN! ;-) Thank you 💝

[@MissNatalonga]

I love how she brought up that the dehumanizing concept goes both ways. I'm so worried about what I see happening in our culture today, how each side blames each other and how the supposedly compassionate, loving side has no problem in being hateful and punishing towards those they perceive as enemies. One of my favorite sayings is "Cuando apuntas con el dedo, tres apuntan hacia tí." "When you point a finger, three point back at you. We should always be vigilant of our self righteousness. Loved this talk. Cheers.

[@cindywho134]

As she said, no one has the moral high ground.

[@chriscunningham8807]

This is a major problem today when extreme left and extreme right clash with both claiming that they're simply protecting or promoting their cherished belief systems. Meanwhile people on the left, right and in the centre are blamed, misjudged, falsely accused and attacked with minimal hope of resolution. Walking the line between complicit silence or calling out crime and injustice while preserving respect, fairness and tolerance for the often demonised opponent is like walking the razor's edge. I fail abysmally when trying to navigate the potential landmines set by contemporary political correctness and the championing of minorities who sometimes feel entitled to react with disproportionate vitriol and self-righteous rage when they feel "offended."

[@divinewryte]

Loved this! "I may fit in for you but I'm betraying myself." Yes! Thank you!

[@isiluysal]

I cried when Marie cried and said I love you. This is being human. Thank you for being yourself in front of cameras and millions of people.

[@susangregory680]

I so rarely have the patience to watch videos of this length. This one is different. I kept "rewinding" if I tuned out for a moment, I didn't want to miss anything. This is gold!

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Susan

[@janet6348]

I told my children when they were growing up "your religion should be the way you live your life. If you turn your back on someone who needs your help; shame on you." Brene has a way of addressing the uncomfortable, putting it in perspective and making it simple to deal with. I just love listening to her; The questions and discussion were great and I thank you for posting this video.

[@fionadrake7431]

'Opting out of speaking out is the definition of privilege' This, this is so true.

[@amberts180]

"Contribute more than you criticize" - Love it!! Thanks, Dr. Brown!

[@melaniefox-smith8776]

"I am not going to negotiate who I am for you". How powerful is that? I love that!

[@NathalieLazo]

IT IS SUPER POWERFUL! Thank you for re-sharing this! :)

[@colleencampbell7878]

I love Brené Brown. Every time I listen to her I learn something valuable. The lessons are all at once simple and profound and always life changing when embraced. Today the Break down of trust was huge. Some people close to me have broken my trust and I always struggled with why because it wasn't always huge, horrible, movie worthy events but I wanted nothing to do with them. I always had a sense of unease and defensiveness around them. Now I feel validated in my previously unexplainable feelings and the boundary to keep myself peaceful and safe feels easier to keep. Thank you for always being open, genuine and kind.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so grateful you shared this experience with us, Colleen. Setting boundaries isn't easy work, and we know how hard it can be when our loved ones break our trust. We're so proud of you for keeping yourself safe and at peace. Keep up the amazing work - thank you for watching 💖

[@alyssaslauenwhite451]

The ending had me in tears. I'm sitting in my little shabby office after 10pm working away on projects listening to Marie interviews, as I always do. The ending gave me a jolt and a nudge to the soul and a very VERY heavy reminder of why I do what I do and how I have come so far already and sitting here able to watch the future and all it's possibilities before me. I AM THE FUCKING WILDERNESS

[@JovanaMiljanovic]

This was the best invested 30 minutes of my day today. I am so grateful for this episode.

[@marsinafrica]

Jovana Miljanovic Amazing interview. I just watched another amazing Brene Brown speech that was also powerful on trust here ... kzbin.info/www/bejne/m6jRmHmkjcikl9E that you might enjoy 💓

[@aquababe7]

Jovana Miljanovic

[@miles4rubys]

Jovana Miljanovic ditto!!

[@LeonidSpartanKing]

Slazem see

[@63mirian]

Y k jun

[@nika1404]

MY TWO FAVORITE LADIES TOGETHER. I think I just died and went to self-help heaven.

[@MsLiberianLady]

Nika Ambrožič lolol right!!! This is awesome

[@ccovergirl]

(self-help heaven) You nailed it!!

[@LXSeaV]

Nika Ambrožič Basically!

[@kmcg2us]

The wilderness and wild... getting to a place of confidence and self-assurance has been one of the toughest terrains I have traveled. Standing alone is so painful and yet so rewarding in the end. It took the violent murder of my 26 year young grandson Zack, 18 months ago for me to truly understanding the life affirming practice of "I will not negotiate who I am." Thank you Brene (and Marie) for teaching and leading the way for me.

[@TeamForleo]

Hi Karen! We're so sorry to hear about Zack's passing 💗💗We know that grief never fully goes away. You absolutely do not have to negotiate who you are. You can absolutely be you. That's not always easy sometimes and we see your bravery and strength. - Monauar, Team Forleo

[@goodwayinlife111]

wow we are the wilderness I love this interview what resonates with me the most: choose brave instead of comfort Rehumanize rather than Dehumanize in the Absence of data we tend to create stories

[@NathalieLazo]

You explained this really well! 😄 Thanks for the great points about choosing bravery instead of comfort! :) I'll remember this for next time!

[@Vanderwoman]

I've always felt very uncomfortable when people talk about politics, from both sides, and dehumanize each other. I never know how to articulate how I feel or even explain to myself why i feel the way I do and this episode helped me understand why. I know where my values are aligned to and I feel very strongly about it but I also respect others. I know one thing for sure, I will go out and get this book for me sooner than later(and will look for the other books as well.) Thank you for this wonderful episode.So refreshing to watch both of you. Blessings!

[@pandorapada]

Maria Christina Doppler, I agree! I avoid threads and topics that involve too much bullying. It is quite sad how much social media has caused people to become so cruel and hateful. We need to reeducate ourselves and our children and steer them away from hateful crimes and conversations.

[@Vanderwoman]

Thank you!

[@mangalover0149]

She actually talks about that dehumanisation in the most recent podcast she did with Russell Brand.

[@RoseKetring]

I loved this nugget of wisdom from this episode: "Our worth and our belonging are NOT negotiated with other people. We carry those inside of our hearts." I have lived the first thirty years of my life trying to belong by trying to be who they wanted me to be, including the Church I grew up in, my mother, my sisters, my father. I couldn't fit in for any of them. It was hell believing that I was not enough, that the reason I lost both of my girls to "family" people I couldn't fit into because I was unable to fit into the places that were "acceptable." Losing my girls to their fathers because I was an "unfit mother" broke me for many years. Hearing these words about worth and belonging are found within my heart was soothing. Thank you for for that.

[@sharonmedeiros9819]

Three years later this is more relevant than ever.

[@jenniferarnold2494]

A very sweet young friend of mine, told me about Brene yesterday. So, I have decided to to start my day with her from now on. Now, I have Marie tv! I just want to say that I am 54 and have wondered almost all my life, ‘what is wrong with me’? ‘ Why am I not good enough’? ‘Smart enough’? Ect, ect.....I made a decision about 4 years ago to be myself. Because of that, I have lost people. You know why, because I am honest and kind and don’t allow people to tell me WHO I should be to make their world better.....anyway, Brene and Marie, I will buy all your books and live MY truth! I’ve known this in my heart all my life, but have changed to make others comfortable. Thank you. Thank you for saying my truth and helping me to be me! Be kind has always been my motto. You so help me feel that is ok and the the thing WE all should do! Love, love.......💕💕💕

[@marieforleo]

We're so glad that you're here, Jennifer. Keep being the amazing person that you are because the world needs it. - Team Forleo

[@fearlessmakeup9350]

Brene is one of my favourite people and favourite authors. She showed me through her teachings that I too could be braver and put myself out there and share what I have learned with the world through my own struggles by being vulnerable. It was because of people like Gabby, Glennon and Brene that I wrote my own book about shame and choosing to be who I am after my own personal struggles. So thank you Brene for sharing even more of your wisdom with us students of of life who want to continually learn more about this world around us and how to be better people in it.

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. There

[@adrianapamplin5419]

Can’t get enough of this Brene Brown stuff! I’m been applying for jobs and this has been the best preparation

[@cdjokich]

"I am not going to negotiate who I am with you because I may fit in for you, but I no longer belong to myself"... . I always walk away from your conversations wiser. Love your books!! Gave them to my daughters to read. The world would heal if everyone listened (and acted) on your words.

[@lindamarcus49]

"In the absence of data we will always make up stories" "Take responsibility for the energy you bring into a room and online, for the energy you bring into the world" "Shame never drives positive behavior. What shame drives is Rage, Anger, Rationalization and Blame" "Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry these inside of our hearts. Because then, I may fit into you, but I no longer belong to myself". "Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that very special gift that only you have". Thank you so much for this loving interview it made a lot of sense and opened up my mind and created peace and quit for me along with posibilies of all kind.

[@jennifervanegas1]

I AM the "wilderness" too! Thank you! The end made me cry!

[@treenaBe]

"True belonging is a spiritual practice, and it's about the ability to find sacredness in both being a part of something but also the courage to stand alone". The world needs more Brenes, and I'm blessed to be alive in a time that her voice and messages impact me in such a deep healing way, in my own recovery and lifes challenges to show up & be in the arena. Thank you Marie and Brene.

[@letalwandle4553]

I am the wilderness, too. I always come back to this session to remind myself that there is nothing wrong with standing alone at times...

[@chalesefelt1981]

I've done OK at being brave in the wilderness my entire life. Won't bore you with the details, but I've definitely recognized my life as a wilderness and have felt that I was largely braving it alone. I now find myself challenged to stop insisting upon braving it alone and to instead let others in. I am learning about vulnerability - I've *felt* vulnerable, but I haven't *shown* that I'm vulnerable. I don't want to walk the entire trail alone anymore. Brene is teaching me how to create a new little side path that can hopefully someday become the place where I live.

[@caroleleigh7179]

Chalese Felt efu90df

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Chalese

[@annammazur9712]

What's mean wilderness in Brene content? English it's not my first language and I'm struggling to understand this meaning

[@erinbarkel7996]

OMG!!!!!!!! These two together are like a powerhouse!!!!! 💕💕💕💕

[@itskenziebrenna]

"At the end of the day I want to say I contributed more than I criticize." She's amazing.

[@flyingcrew2640]

So beautiful.. Brene for president.. So many jems here.. Brene us such a wise wisdom teacher with soul and class I love her morals, values and her bravery to stand on her own two feet.. Your my inspiration.. I love your quote which I will try to remember. I might fit in for you but then I won't belong to myself anymore.. And I have heard her say it before and it's so true.. If you look for love and belonging outside of yourself you will always suffer.. Love this quote from brene which is amazing.. My worth and belonging us non negotiable with others, it's something I carry in my heart.. Rock on

[@Sabah_Ismail]

I’m not even halfway in and I’m crying and absolutely speechless. ‘Rehumanisation and dehumanisation’ - just, wow.

[@Judymontel]

well THIS is a keeper. Thanks Marie, Brene and everyone responsible for getting this to me (I know there's a lot of you I don't see - blessings from me!)

[@cynthiagifford7828]

Love this! You are speaking my language! I Love the wilderness, and I Love to dance! 💜💜💜

[@cynthiagifford7828]

Thank you for doing what you do! Both of you! 💖

[@jodikirkwood666]

I want to be their friends!!!

[@gracemckenzie8138]

Yes! I love the part about the dangers of dehumanization and how it corrodes moral obligation and goes against who we are as people. Might I humbly stand alone and suggest that the dehumanization of unborn children is chipping away at our society's soul? There is so much pain, regret, and loss for the dehumanized and the ones who practice it.

[@sparksolutionssupport7198]

Love this video! Chock full of insight and great advice from two awesome women! Thank you Brent and Maria!!

[@ChrissyScavezze]

I'm braving the wilderness of finding my self worth. Thank you for your words of inspiration reminding me that I'm on the right path.

[@patspears2226]

You may consider reading Marianne Williamson's A Woman of Worth.

[@mangalover0149]

I’m on the same path right now..

[@coachjohnodea490]

Paraphrasing, "I know who I am and I sure didn't the first thirty years of my life." "have a discussion about Black Lives Matter." I am a sixty year old guy who until about five years ago didn't know who he was and who he wants to be--and I sure as hell wouldn't waste time considering Black Lives Matter. In fact Marie and Brene I'd just consider as "babble." Getting sober and becoming honest and coachable many years ago was a great start but not enough. Somehow I started listening more to folks like you, new ideas, and you really pushed me beyond. Thank you both sincerely. Your affection for each other is inspiring. John

[@terrA0091]

The most impactful thing for me was discussion you had around not talking about religion and not cussing and what you are permitted to wear at the speaking engagement and the concept that " I am not going to negotiate who I am with you because then, I may fit in for you but I no longer belong to myself." I LOVED this. I have struggled with this my whole career. Recently, I was berated and ostracized at work for saying the F-word. To be clear, I wasn't running up and down the hallways screaming the F-word, I was having a conversation with someone wherein I reiterated at statement that had just been said to me (by a man) which included the F-word. I was hauled into an office and given a talking to, the man was not! I lost friends over this. I walk the halls at work alone now over this. And it's not okay.

[@1632mermaid]

The last nugget of wisdom: we carry it inside of our hearts. BRILLIANT! Thank you Marie and Brené ❤️❤️

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Mackenzie

[@charlieh.9193]

Brene always opens my mind. Every. Time.

[@rionboyd]

The thing I most appreciate about this conversation is that it asks us to think reflectively and process our sentiments and values. I tend to look inwardly first and I find myself asking: Am I betraying myself? Before this conversation, I wasn’t even sure what it looks like. Forget about trying to fit other’s demands of who I should be (not to say this isn’t an important exercise- it’s not where I am at this moment), who and I demanding myself to be? What does betraying me look and feel like? What triggered that betrayal? How can I not betray myself again? These are just a few questions I am asking… Thanks for shifting my thoughts toward loyalty- self-loyalty: I belong to me. I give myself permission to be authentically me! Thank you for this episode. I give your flowers- 🌸 🌺

[@TeamForleo]

Hi Ma Rion! Those are some incredible questions to guide you to honor yourself and who you want to be. We know they're going to serve you well! Thank you so much for sharing them with us. Giving you a heart in exchange for your flowers💖- Monauar, Team Forleo

[@taylor82x]

Brene Brown you are a gift to this world

[@mariamilavazquez]

Yes to all of it. Yes to living and acting from love and not playing into the religious or political propaganda that operates from fear or shame. Yes to not minimizing my greatness for another's comfort. And hell yes to me dancing in the wilderness. There is something beautiful in knowing that I'm not alone, although I'll stand alone whenever I need to. Thank you for this. Thank you Marie. Thank you Brene. With love and gratitude, Maria Milagros

[@christianharbin21]

Oh my GOD! I was so waiting for the day that you'd feature Dr. Brené Brown on your show!! All ears ALL EARS!!! Thank you so much for this! #Grateful

[@itsmulanali]

The most impactful thing about this conversation was feeling seen, heard, and understood. I feel more connected to humanity as well. This has given me more courage to just be me and be vulnerable. Thank you ladies for your courage to brave the wilderness and share your experiences and insight with us.

[@TeamForleo]

What a kind and uplifting message. Thank you so much for being here, watching, and for sharing your beautiful heart and spirit. We feel connected to you, too. 🫂

[@megansmith1999]

We need more conversations like this. This world needs to change for the better and women like these 2 are how it happens.

[@Missy-Leigh]

Every time Brene has used a “bad word” it relaxed me and made me giggle and I was more receptive to her information... because somehow.. it makes a person appear to be more down to earth. “Don’t cuss and don’t talk about faith.” Well... Mark Twain had something to say about the two: “Under certain circumstances, urgent circumstances, desperate circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer.”

[@Hippie_Chick_11]

I understand what you are saying, but when she swore, it had the opposite effect on me. It made me tense up and I felt the focus of my attention being diverted. However, I do love the Mark Twain quote, and I agree with it. If I swear, I mean it. It is a small, but necessary release valve. I don't like it when people incorporate curse words as a normal part of everyday language.

[@Missy-Leigh]

@@Hippie_Chick_11 I can certainly respect that. I love how you equate it to a release valve. 👌🏻 That’s highly accurate.

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Sterling

[@karlapadilla9395]

Wow! This episode was recorded in 2017, but is so relevant to all that is happening in our world today in 2020. So many incredible takeaways and action items. It is time for some deep soul searching. Thank you Marie and Brene!

[@lulabusso]

¨(...) I´ve spent the first 30 y of my life doing that- I´m not willing to betray myself anymore to fit in with you anymore. I just can´t do it.¨ - I lear so much with you Brené. Thank you Marie for so much sentivity! a big hug from Buenos Aires, Argentina.

[@angelapellegrin9550]

If I am the company I keep, I am a rock star! Brene Brown, Oprah, Tony, Elizabeth Gilbert, Joel Osteen, just to name a few are the people I listen to, read, etc. daily. Such a privilege to be in such great company:)

[@mamawhys3773]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR THIS! My husband and I both have been struggling heavily with this issue. I feel so detached from everyone because we all seem so triggered for like the last year and a half...

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. There

[@michaelshozi1491]

The whole conversation for me has been amazing to watch and listen to. Loved the 7 elements of Trust!!! Why did i not bump into this interview sooner!!!

[@NathalieLazo]

Thank you for sharing your input! It is great! :)

[@georgianaprzybylek7300]

I’m 68 and am working on being authentic. Brene is so awesome. She helps me find my courage.

[@livelythings]

Very thought provoking. My take-away is the "tool" of courage combined with self-check. Many speakers talk about just courage and "go for it" attitude, but that's not very realistic for most people. But when it's combined with "i see my vulnerability" "this is what makes me angry, i need to look into this" or "this is how i feel", it makes the decision making and process of approaching people more conscious and less stressful.

[@RossQuintana]

On point, it is about critical thinking, and contributing to humankind in a way we are all responsible for.

[@KirstinWolf]

Wow! First of all, I truly value both of you, the way you teach in such a relatable language. Then there's content... Brene, I am consistently moved by your words. This conversation had so many hot points. From dehumanizing people to shutting down the “Shamer's”, contribute more than criticize... it opened another level of awareness and perspective. The most impactful part of this video (tears flowing) was when you read the last paragraph of your book. As a 49 year old, still struggling artist who fights daily the stories in my head, scared and exhausted...I know now that I am the wilderness 🌿 THANK YOU beyond measure. Can't wait to read the book

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Kirestim

[@joandebruin3847]

From a medical social worker in South Africa-thank you Brene for your moral leadership.

[@petewidin5005]

The wording of how simple it is to say "hey that's not funny if you have to hurt other people" instead of laughing or walking away without really addressing those weird jokes that can be so common and come up at the most random times in interactions

[@gracapaz2070]

Choosing brave over comfort. All I need to hear today*

[@marialamberson7490]

I have watched every Ted Talk that you have done, every interview and bought every single book that you have written "Brene Brown!" Thank you for making these conversations about the issues of shame, vulnerability, courage, boundaries, belonging and healing that were not discussed. For me you have allowed me to heal from being vulnerable and I say this because all my life, I walked around feeling shame for speaking up or not agreeing with the conversation and standing up for what I believed. Only to be silenced by others who thought that their opinions were correct and mine did not matter. Or people being judgmentally harsh, but thanks to you. I am healing and I am putting myself out there. One last thing the sense of belonging and being present is reminder that I matter to me and I am important to me........Thank you...

[@michellehansbrough2554]

So many things that were impactful, but the one Brene explaining Maya Angelou's quote. I instantly understand that I am nothing and I am everything. I can stand alone and be fine. I can stand in a group and be fine. I am fine. I am infinite. I am me.

[@CCTBYOUVSYOU]

I don't write many comments but I had to express how much I enjoyed this conversation. I now have BRAVING written down and will look at it frequently. There is a daily devotional that I don't use every day, but on the days I need help, I go to it and mention being brave, so this is alignment. I am now subscribed to the channel and will get Dr. Brown's books.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so honored you shared and watched. Thank you for being here - we're sending you so much love as you continue to be brave on your journey forward. 💖

[@TeaBrew4]

This is so beautiful, and I cannot express this enough. As a young MSW I am often shaken by the ugliness of the world. I spent most of my life living in very conservative South Texas and many times, this ugliness was the center of holiday get togethers and even nightly dinners. I cannot wait to read this book to get a better understanding of cultivating conversation and inviting others to experience this, along with kindness. This is the content of conversations that need to be had in every home, neighborhood, workplace and news station. Thank you both so much for this. I don't think the goosebumps from the powerful words will ever go away. I can't wait to see a world full of wilderness xoxo

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Tori

[@yabe1496]

Im crying a river, you 2 touched my heart. Thank you for puting in words my feelings.

[@kaarenremley7585]

I appreciate the right to curse. And your conversation is absolutely perfect. It just made me feel empowered. Thank you!

[@shondacannon6218]

I JUST SAW THIS! I got the same book the other day, since I have been following Brene Brown for a few years now. I was searching for a good read on my Spring Break. I was also searching for a life jacket, some words of sanity. I am, like I anticipated, changed forever after reading this book. This new president has made me want to dehumanize him and any one that works with him, for him, near him. This presidency has made me fearful, and angry. But I know the real Shonda, and I know that love prevails for me, so I began to search for my humanity, kindness, genorosity, and non-judgement and ended up here. Thank you Marie and Brene for this talk. I feel like myself again.

[@superjonz9958]

Indeed that part in 34:13 hit me real hard just exactly as Marie's reaction! "We are The Wilderness!" 😌 Thanks Brene!

[@hildabeauxbilda]

I'm going to need to watch a few more times to fully digest all the topics covered but WOW! This was such a meaningful conversion to get to listen in on. Thank you for sharing it ❤

[@adelemoreau9354]

I’ve listened to this talk several times, sometimes with years or months apart and every time I’m blown, but in a different way. I feel on every replay, how ever more deeply this sinks into my skin and how much I’ve moved forward as well as dived into my own depths and awe fully terrifying moments of despair . Every talk of Brené feels deeper and deeper every time I hear it. Cheers and Amen to that

[@TeamForleo]

This filled our cup to the brim today, Adele. We're so honored to have you here. Thank you for sharing and for watching with us, and keep in touch. ❤🙏

[@megrentschler]

I know I am late to the scene but have to say, I have been a huge fan of Brené Brown for years and have just recently discovered Marie (I do not know what rock I have been living under). This interview is POWERFUL! The political climate in this country is toxic, there is a polarization that stifles listening and curiosity, one that promotes hatred and assumption. Marie and Brené's discussion of re-humanization and privilege broke through the fog and despair giving new awareness and purpose-it changes the discussion, thank you!!

[@Sasha-vs6sd]

I could listen to you two chat for hours ❤️

[@happycam1686]

Me too! They are so passionate about their jobs!

[@crystal1530]

Omg.. I’m speechless. This conversation is so needed and life giving that people aren’t talking about especially about dehumanization! They way Brene described it and what it creates, it just clicked. It defiantly made me pause and think about how I interact with everyone, what I say and the energy I bring. There were so many good nuggets. I want more!!

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Crystal

[@daniel51020]

So, deeply, truly, courageously true.... Thank you for sharing.

[@katelinjenkins3463]

Omg this is so powerful!!! I definitely need to purchase her book and take a hard look at my own biases and angers... as you say... and get On it ... chills ❤️🌟✨

[@linkiarora6481]

People are afraid of the wilderness but once you get out there, you'll find some people like us out there. And it's so free. - Something that really touched me, guess I'm trying to find my way to the wilderness and this sure gave me the courage. Thank you Marie.

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Linkki

[@M2One38]

I love Brene Brown because she did something in the interview, that I have never heard anyone of her magnitude do. And that is say the words, "I don't know." I think that was so brave and transparent. So many times, people are so afraid to simply say there's no one way to answer this because there are too many moving parts. So I simply don't know.

[@slicesoflife691]

“In the absence of data, we will ALWAYS make up stories.” This has brought so much awareness to my thoughts and actions. Thank you

[@martinajacksonforkentucky6244]

I needed this. As I navigate some really hard conversations, I needed to hear that I can stand alone, even when it is tough.

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Martina

[@marcuslouison3998]

Hey, Brene! Your work is EPIC! This interview is absolute GOLD! Thanks for bringing this to us, Marie!

[@lee-annshepherd5722]

This afternoon a friend used a very painful part of my history against me. I drove home thinking two things, one related to Brene's work i.e. being more discerning re who you share your vulnerability with. Then I considered that her saying what she had said far more about her than about me. When a similar quite came up in your show, I smiled. Thanks Brene for your beautiful work. Marie, this is the first I have seen of you. Great show, thank you. I look forward to seeing more. x

[@leslydeschlercanossi6518]

Wonderful women! What a gift they are to the world. What NOT to hear is that being polite and silent because you don't want to dehumanize is NOT the message. Hiding behind " I am not political" or "I just don't know how to talk about politics" is no longer an excuse. What she says about privilege is key here. We cannot be silent. Marie's point of holding people accountable (rather than shaming) is spot on!

[@owenomalley1815]

This is so emotional, healing and wholesome - energetically it is so powerful that a tear came to my eye when i heard the ping of the email arriving - BEFORE I even watched the video - how crazy is that - great work you powerful gracious ladies of the light.

[@melissaonirique]

POWERFUL!!!! Oh my gosh!! Wow. I need this book in my life. Thank you Brené and Marie 💕

[@gabytitchmarsh5189]

Using other people’s stories, as currency to connect with others! I do it, and has aways made me feel bad about myself. Now Brene has shown me the light, on so many things, I can make the changes to myself that I’ve aways wanted to do, but were too afraid of not fitting in. It’s time I am true to myself. Thank you Brene Brown.

[@patricemerritt294]

Thank you for opening my eyes to the fact that I’ve been living small by conforming to what others believe, remaining silent in disagreement, just to skirt the feeling of not belonging.

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Patricia

[@AmaliaGhiban]

Grateful to both for sharing so much wisdom! for speaking up, showing up and letting yourselves be seen. Such a great reminder! Lots of love

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Amalia

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Amalia

[@beam8250]

This entire episode impacted me Marie! Every part of the conversation. Every word spoken. WOW! Brene is truly a game changer, and I am off in search of her book. With all my love to you both!

[@luciencastie8301]

Hello. Bea

[@sagalali24]

Brene Brown is to me what Maya Angelou is to her...love this woman.

[@arielostrowiecki1857]

I just finished reading Braving The Wilderness and I found myself nodding my head after each experience, each anecdote, and each nugget of wisdom. I found myself in Brene Brown as a young girl being an outsider. I found myself in the movie theatre with all of the other Potterheads putting up their invisible wands to honor Dumbledore's death. A lot of what I read was already ingrained deep deep inside of me, some of which was right at the surface with my value system, some of which I had ignored to keep up with the ugly politics of today's culture. I took a step today to open my authentic self up to the churchgoers who I join every Tuesday to get food from the food pantry at our church. It took two months to do this, to venture out into the wilderness and I found the joy and freedom that Dr. Brown discusses in this book. There were people who I could join in pain and joy. Perhaps we are not so different as we think. Dr. Brown brought up about spirituality and the collective consciousness, how there is an extreme disconnect with both of those concepts. I remember four years ago delving into Buddhism and Carl Jung, embracing both of these topics. But then I got hurt, and was abandoned by friends and family. The light almost went out in my soul. I couldn't stop asking myself, "Will I ever belong again?" I looked inward, discovering my passions and met the love of my life who is now my husband. I learned to love myself first and it was because my husband loved me, that I believed that maybe I deserved the love that I had never received growing up. As Maya Angelou would put it from the book, "I belong to Ariel." Now that I belong to Ariel, I can belong to my husband and others, all the while maintaining my authenticity. And it feels damn great. Thank you Marie for this wonderful, awe-inspiring interview and thank you Brene Brown for reminding me what true belonging really is. :)