My Sly Wife Admitted Why She Came Home Looking Messy r/Relationships

[@SteviiLove]

I hate when cheaters say it didn't mean anything. That proves how selfish and self-centered they truly are if that is their justification. Maybe to them it doesn't mean anything but who tf are they to say that to the one being cheated on because to them, it _does_ mean something.

[@nadirimyers6643]

All I hear is the relationship was ruined for nothing. Didn’t even ruin it for something better but for nothing at all 🤦🏾‍♀️ yeah it’s a extra level of fuck you when they say “it didn’t mean anything” then why was it worth fing up our happiness? Lol

[@low-keydrama1260]

@@nadirimyers6643 exactly what I was thinking. If it meant nothing why cheat?

[@kazzuo32]

Right!!!! Is even worst.

[@colleens1107]

I KNOW. It makes it WORSE IMO. Like you blew up our relationship for someone who didn’t mean anything. I’d rather be betrayed because you fell for someone not because you wanted to get your rocks off.

[@lucere3674]

The fact that she cheated for a long time and was careful to not get caught and she just came home, admitted to cheating and just passed out for a long time makes me wonder if she was either still drunk as hell coming home or tried some other drug with her partner to be that blatantly honest about it.

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm guessing that's what it was, too. I'd never go out partying anyway, I'm surprised OP was ok with his wife doing that for so long.

[@jakemarie828]

Yeah I think she was on something too. But if this was going on for months, I guess OP was wrong when he said she couldn't keep anything in.

[@cheesedemon88]

@@WobblesandBean Her cover was being out with friends, why shouldn’t he be okay with that?

[@lucere3674]

@@jakemarie828 exactly why I suspect drugs might have been involved. Might not have been taken willingly. But someone that has a pretty good handle on their lie rarely just just drops the act that hard and that out of nowhere.

[@jennyhaslayer1396]

Drug thing is possible but as a former alchy I can all but confirm she was plastered still.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I don’t know if OP’s ex not even bothering to lie about cheating is a good thing or a bad thing. On one hand OP didn’t get lied to, he didn’t have to spend additional time worrying if she really was unfaithful and dragging out a doomed marriage. On the other it just shows how insignificant OP was to his ex that she unashamedly admitted to cheating and was dismissive of the huge bombshell she just dropped. It sucks to hear your spouse saying, “yeah, I cheated, leave me alone.”

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 2: Some people just have this insatiable need to create drama. You cannot reason with them. All you can do is cut them out of your life asap. The sister is like that and she's trying to camouflage this by pretending she's only upset on behalf of her brother. Okay, if the brother is so important, why not listen to him when he says stop? Ah, it's because he's not important and it was just a convenient excuse to create drama.

[@springs9922]

She probably is but that doesnt make it right.

[@groofromtheup5719]

nah. Sounds like it is mainly that she has her firmly categorized as "Bad mother that abandoned her child" and can never see her in any other light. Its like how the media painted some people as racist. Now a large portion of the population is completely incapable of ever seeing them in any other light. No evidence will ever be believed that shows the contrary, etc. The label has been permanently affixed. Look at the Pro-rona-vax crowd. They refuse to even look at the scientific data proving that the "vaccines" did not stop the spread and were not good for young people, and cause far more harm than they prevented. Most people vehemently resist being de-programmed.

[@Davtwan]

And let’s not forget the classic excuse “hE dOeSn’T kNoW bEtTeR.” Being offended for other people rarely ends well for the socially immature.

[@nadirimyers6643]

Lmaoooo to the lady that sent the poor dude a topless pic. Ma’am why would you do that!?

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Shes probably into that and saw an opportunity or something. Cause if the roles were reversed, he'd totally be called a creep.

[@SerenEirian]

Talk about tone deafness. 🤣

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@DragonbornMike-ym2er so no sending D pics to the women that got cheated on over at Reddit?

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

@@groofromtheup5719 unfortunately I've already had my "millimeter defeater" pics license revoked. They'll probably take your "ding dong it's a shlong" license next.

[@maiqtheliar789]

Story 1: OP made the right call leaving that dumpster fire of a woman. Cheating doesn't destroy relationships with the sex it is the lying about it and the loss of trust that comes with it that destroys relationships. Some people just view sex as sex. I'm personally one of those to an extent but I would never use that as an excuse to cheat on my wife. Sex only means what ever meaning you attach to it. I hope the guys STD check comes back clean at least.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

Right. If she couldn't be happy with just one person then she shouldn't have been in a monogamous relationship. She could've found someone who wanted an open relationship. There are tons of people out there who are more than willing to have that kinda marriage. But she chose to lie and sneak around knowingly hurting her husband. That doesn't make it any better honestly. She's still the type of person who cheats and covers up for her cheating friends so she'd probably manage to scew up an open relationship too because she's just a trash person.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@untitled-gv3qp she didn't want an open relationship. she wanted to get all the strange she could handle while he stays loyal to her like some pathetic door-mat.

[@carlrood4457]

Chance are "the person he married" never existed in the first place. It was a combination of her lies and his illusions.

[@Kzinix]

I hate that the idiots in these stories often say that the cheating didn't mean anything. Of course it means something! It basically screams at your partner that they aren't enough for you. How can you do something that hurtful to someone you "care about"? On top of that, you are saying that you risked your happy relationship for something meaningless. That doesn't make you look better at all and it doesn't excuse anything.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: Damn. OP did the right thing about getting away from her, telling her parents and letting her friends' partners about the cheating group. His STBXW is a piece of work. 😬 Story two: I remember this story. The sister should've just... You know. *STFU?!* Annie did the right thing in regards to her mental health. *You can't take care of others, much less a child, if you're not feeling well yourself!* ರ⁠╭⁠╮⁠ರ

[@sephiroth661]

Whenever the cheater says we can go to counseling or we can fix this when it’s broke beyond repair, fixing the relationship comes before you cheat not after banging a bunch of dudes

[@RJLiams]

The biggest mistake OP in the first story did was not record the confrontation. Men, record yourself during the talk or break up. The last thing you want is a false accusation thrown your way after your heart was ripped out.

[@groofromtheup5719]

His biggest mistake was to every marry someone like that. She sounds like the epitome of "pump and dump", just like what she is for every other man in her life.

[@Mooskym]

The part about the food pictures was so random, it really made me laugh, which is something I did not expect to happen in the context of the rest of the story. Anyway, Story 1: I read about swingers and people in open relationships before; some people are capable of having sex without it having any emotional significance to them, and some do need a lot of variety in sex that a single partner would not be able to deliver. However, as with all matters relating to sex, CONSENT IS ESSENTIAL! If you want to be in an open relationship, your partner(s) HAVE to be aware of your stance from as early into the relationship as possible, and they have to fully agree to it. Anything else is inexcusable. Story 2: There's an argument to be made, albeit a lousy one, that if someone's in a position to become a bad parent, maybe they shouldn't become a parent at all. I know that's part of the reason why I would never father a child. Of course one of the problems with that argument is that no one is ever truly ready for what life might throw on them. A common enough example in these subreddits is with a "completely sane" woman suddenly suffering post-partum depression. And yes, mental illness is a real thing, it could affect anyone, and should be treated the same way as any other illness. The sister in the story is stupid for not realizing that, and a giant a-hole in general.

[@alexandergustafsson9824]

Yes!! Concerning story 2 i thought the exact same thing. Sure the sister was way out of line but as you said maybe you shouldn't get pregnant/keep the child in the first place? If you are in a bad place because your husband just died why do you go out and f a random dude you hardly know and not even use protection against pregnancy? And you have every chance to terminate the pregnancy too. Idk maybe i'm all wrong about it.

[@hothotheat3000]

She wasn’t crying because she loves you. She’s crying because her fantasy was crumbling and she wasn’t in control anymore.

[@carlrood4457]

OP wasn't taking his child's mother's side. He was taking is CHILD's side. I'm assuming OP's sister never lost someone in an untimely fashion. That grief is completely different. If an elderly parent/grandparent passes, you're usually processing and preparing for it months or years in advance. A lot of of the time they and you are ready for them to go. When it's a younger person, the grief is compounded by what ifs. When it's unexpected, your sense of reality shifts a bit. Focus is hard. How people deal with it is different. I used my wife and other children to help keep me focused when our daughter died. I needed to keep being the dad she loved and deserved. However, I can see how detaching can be what another does, especially in a case like this when it was a child of "grief sex", not the child of the departed.

[@LadyPii]

I'm sorry for your loss!

[@GIChiyo]

The people who say "it was just sex it meant nothing" annoy me not for the emotional part, but for the fact that they are putting their partner in danger of diseases that the cheater could pass on without them knowing...

[@LayfonDragnia]

Cheaters really have a hive mind or something. How do they all manage to have the same excuses? Also, she tried to sleep with him and tried taking his clothes off?!? Ew.

[@memyselfandi7782]

Ikr. Cuz like sexual harassment

[@randomusername3873]

Not only that, but those excuses are always awful😂, and I don't understand why they keep using them. "It was just sex It didn't mean nothing" so you broke your spouse's heart for no reason? That's disturbing

[@memyselfandi7782]

@@randomusername3873 EXACTLY

[@lilfish5124]

First story: only other thing I can think of other than she isn't who she seemed, is that she could have a brain tumor. It can totally change personality

[@addicted2mako]

"I needed to let off some steam..." It's not like gyms are a thing!

[@maheenahmed6653]

Ugh I have absolutely no patiences for people like then cheating person in story 1. She wants to start crying? Pathetic. Especially because she didn’t GAF when she came home. Her tears probably aren’t even real

[@nadirimyers6643]

I think the ex in the first story. It’s more then just being a cheater. Like that girl needs a therapist…

[@crazypyp5871]

Maybe this is a nitpick and nothing to do with the actual story but who the hell decides to dm OP and send an unsolicited topless photo of themselves???

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

The moment he said that those girls nights outside were a normal thing, we all knew that this marriage was over. Classic case of her having OP for the stability and the girls nights out for all of the excitement and dk she could get. This wasn't the first time she cheated. Only the first time she came home at daybreak. OP needs to go get a consultation from every high end divorce lawyer in their area. Leave her only the bare dregs of the barely competent lawyers. Now is the time for scorched earth. Cheaters like these are just a subspecies of the human race. They don't have the capability of higher function and are only driven by their basic desires.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

S1: I don't understand what's the point of getting married if you're just gonna sleep with everyone. Why not just stay single and live a life of hook ups rather then break someone's heart. Cheaters really suck!

[@ivorynk752]

Tax benefits.

[@zashgekido5616]

The rush of experiencing different kinds of physical pleasure but the emotional stability of a partner.

[@groofromtheup5719]

special princess party day.

[@justxull9278]

I was cheated on by my first partner. I gave them a second chance, they broke up with me a few months after, and for some reason i still tried to be freinds. I still hate myself for giving that peice of trash human so many chances. But you know what? I am now depressed, on medications, and a complete mess. But i am so much more happy now, and i am so glad i kicked them out of my life. I cannot stand anyone who cheats, especially not if they try to become the victim. I hope this guy is much more happy now.

[@kazzuo32]

I hate cheaters that said "it meant nothing" that makes it even worst, people with no self worth.

[@AL-pz6rv]

Story 1: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@springs9922]

Story 2: L mom, L aunt, W op, W jack.

[@leadeuschle3614]

Story 2 is a repeat i just yesterday heard it in another video from you.

[@paggybrooklyn4142]

1 STORY kinda made me sad because she could've easily solved this with honestly from the beginning and an open relationship with someone othet than OP who that woulf work with and save OP all the heartbreak she caused by being dishonest

[@groofromtheup5719]

no. she needs the attention of a man dedicated to her alone, in addition to the attention of a new man every night. The parasite would only get half of what she wants from an open relationship.

[@joycebell9292]

Op, she’s the same person you married but her dirty ways only just came to light…it’s a pity you said you didn’t believe she cheated before because she wasn’t the person to bottle up things, WOW!! Op, see you didn’t even know the woman you married…This woman doesn’t have a bit of character or dignity within her, and was the “city bus” all along without your knowledge…Wonder why she confesses her secret to you now lol…You trusted this 304 so much that you were shocked finding out it wasn’t what you think, her first time.

[@ivorynk752]

Sly isn't the word I would use to describe this woman.

[@grecia3146]

Story 1: Drunk mind shows what is in a sober hard.

[@zerobolt9506]

Why is the last OP's sister so overly protective/processive to the OP?

[@kylecabrera142]

To anyone who gets "blank" on someone elses behalf. Keep it to yourself until you talk to that person. If that person is angry then you can get angry with them. If they aren't keep your pie hole shut and your thoughts to yourself.

[@kayzee_bee]

just woke up, so happy to have something to watch thanks so much ! 😊❤

[@angeloliver7613]

Yeah, he was a piece of crap for telling her mom. On the other hand, what she did was worse.

[@ivorynk752]

7:51 WTF would that be awful of you? Why do people think they have to comfort the person who hurt them first when breaking up?

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

The biggies bag from Wendy's 😂😂😂

[@jessiejeanne9717]

"It didn't mean anything"? *THAT MAKES IT WORSE!!!* So, she broke up a good life and betrayed her husband the whole time for NOTHING! Why the actual heck did she even get married to begin with? Is she the village idiot? Did she not go to prom or homecoming, so she wanted a wedding?

[@arirodrig12]

First!! Gotta love a fresh Markee episode, hot off the presses!

[@DisneyChar]

I believe an individual incident can be gotten over, but ongoing or a pattern just speaks to who they are. Her asking for counseling after admitting she needs random sex and there's literally nothing you can do about it was funny though.

[@aindrilaroy4464]

What was with the food pics though?

[@maeberriepie]

The issue is that cheating spouses don't care or think about their partners. They are just bad people.

[@BlastFromThePastTheGoodOldDays]

When people say 'it didn't mean anything' it might not have meant anything TO THEM but to their partner it means everything because the same applies to the relationship- the relationship didn't mean enough to them not to cheat. If the wife felt like she wasn't being sexually satisfied, then she should have spoken to OP and discussed whether an open relationship was something they could BOTH consider and set ground rules for the relationships. not sneak out and cheat behind OP's back and expect him to just be cool with it.

[@wmdkitty]

No, she should have just dumped him. Open relationships are just enabling to cheaters.

[@maiqtheliar789]

Story 2: The OP and mother of the child made all the correct choices as a parent in their situation should. How many children are unintentionally put through hell because one or more parent is not in the right place mentally to correctly care for a child. The mother of the child did not abandon the child. She cared enough about the child that she made what was probably the hardest decision of her life to step out of the child's life long enough to get the help she needed. OPs sister needs to get over herself. Seriously I have never understood this whole thing about being offended on someone else's behalf. That goes for every time that happens. Being offended by something is a personal choice and the parties involved can make up their own mind whether or not they are offended by something. Being offended on someone else's behalf is basically saying that they aren't smart enough to know they should be offended. The amount of entitlement that people have to decide that they can be offended for other people is staggering. OP made the correct call here.

[@hughg.rection1421]

Wait, so one chick reads the story of a man getting his heart ripped out by his cheating wife and her immediate thought was "I'm gonna send him a pic of my tiddies!" Tone Deafness +100

[@dramuckus]

Story 2 controversial opinion YTA, so I went and read the post to see if the op gave any context around why the sister may have been pissed at Annie. And unfortunately no questions about the sister, so here is my theory take it for what it is, i bet that for the 2 years OP didn't do this all on his own I would think that his family rallied around him to help during those 2 years, every one is just assuming that the sister doesn't hold a valid reason for not liking Annie, the only thing people are proposing is that she is being mean or protective of op. What if the sister hates Annie because she stepped up and helped op or was a shoulder to cry on for the past 2 years I would guess that most people would despise some one who noped out of the kids life just to come back when life is a little easier since the first 2 years are the hardest. And to pre-empt the you don't know what it's like, your right I have never had any mental illness but what I do have is chronic pain in the majority of my body a good day is 6-7/10 I have to take handfuls of pain killers just to get out of bed in the morning. But even with all that I could never leave my daughter hell she's the only reason I have not to give up so to hear that a mother just nopes out for 2 years rubs me the wrong way so yea OP is the asshole, hope Annie never leaves again cos I'm going to guess the sister will just say told you so and hang up

[@nadirimyers6643]

The sister in story two is wildin tf out 🤦🏾‍♀️. I get tryin to protect family but he is an adult man!!!! He can make his own decisions for HIM AND HIS CHILDS LIFE. I feel like it’s hella condescending to go behind another adult back like that after you just said you’d give the woman a chance. Y’all don’t gotta be besties but at least show some respect to the woman that birthed your nephew. She could have been neglectful but she had the awareness to say I’m gonna let the dad take over while I heal myself. Why is that so bad? I bet if the brother did it she’d sing a different tune…

[@NecroticMaster]

Story 1: You know when soldiers who have been on the front lines return from war? Even if they have been taken out of the war, the war has not been taken out of them. And every day they live as if they are still on the frontlines because of the trauma they've suffered. The same can be seen in human trafficking victims. Even if they're physically free they're still drawn to people who will use them. And they can only feel gratification through being used. And when they want something they try to get it through s-xual favours, because that's how they've always gotten things. A very interesting thing that can be observed is how promiscuous women start to exhibit the same kind of behaviour as human trafficking victims. They cannot get attracted to a partner that treats them with love and respect. They are drawn to people that use them. They cannot commit to one partner. And when they want something they try to get it through s-xual favours. I really feel for OP. I can't even imagine how much it must have hurt to not only have been betrayed, but to have it confessed in such a dismissive way. And then her trying to force herself on him right after cheating on him. Disgusting.

[@groofromtheup5719]

sex fails more to be a method of bonding for women after every additional partner.

[@BestTimes8812]

I cringed and shouted "ew" when the ex wife attempted to have sex wtf

[@mygodisthemoon]

The second story always kinda hurt my heart a bit. To me, she never "abandoned" her kid, she literally went to find treatment for her mental health. One things parents need to understand is that in order to be a good parent to your kid(s) you need to be good to you too, it's harder to raise a kid when you're on E mentally.

[@terramarini6880]

Abandoned would be left in his crib alone to be found by someone else or dumping the kid on CPS and dropping off the face of the planet. She did none of that, she recognized a need, made sure the baby was left in the care of a loving parent and went and got the help she needed. She did everything right FFS.

[@wmdkitty]

Doesn't matter what her reasoning was, the child will experience it as abandonment, and it will mess them up for life.

[@buoyantvoid1385]

Story 2: You missed the update that op is now dating his son's mom, it's very sweet!

[@meganrenfro1704]

That sounds like it's not going to end well.......

[@buoyantvoid1385]

@@meganrenfro1704 I'm a hopeless romantic

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Hope your night is going well 👍 Have a wonderful day everyone 👋🤗

[@xiimooniixmoon2988]

I've had guys cheat on me and none of them have been this heartless about it 🤨 did she really think it would be OK in the morning?

[@deadaccount7520]

lol great line though

[@dm9078]

Sis sounds savage. But NTA!

[@brandyholmes1094]

At the 10:19 mark. If your the kind of person who needs variety how is your spouse going to counseling going to help you?

[@dorianleakey]

Sly would be if she lied about it, this isn't what that word means.

[@morganleanderblake678]

Story 2 is why people don't get help for mental health challenges. Also, how kids get hurt. Moses on a pogo stick STOP attacking parents who pull themselves out to protect their children.

[@OneInAMillion31]

"It never meant anything" lies you knew it meant hurting your spouses feelings that's why you hid it, you knew it would mean the end of the relationship, to you (the cheater) if it truly meant nothing you wouldn't do it. But in her own words she literally said it meant sexual variety, so it did mean something for her and the relationship. Again cheaters stop saying this, it means a lot of different things but never nothing, if it was nothing you wouldn't be doing it.

[@telinhajp]

Good night, Markee! Sweet dreams. おやすみ！❤️😴

[@Ospyro3em]

I had a feeling that OP's wife was so drunk due didn't even think twice about just admitting it- then when she actually woke it dawned on her what she did. And why is the go-to answer always "it didn't mean anything"? That excuse is so old.

[@peteranon8455]

Story 1. Go topless pic gal! In all reality, it's good for OP to get away from a cheater.

[@marshawargo7238]

Saying "It didn't mean anything" Also pertains to the way cheaters feel about their marriage & spouse! I wonder how sister would have felt if Annie had ignored her ability to care for Jack & he would have been abused &/or neglected? THEN she Might have been justified in her attitude, Maybe! But Not if OP had asked her to stop, Especially in Front of Jack!

[@NinjaNanya]

Anyone else hear "Our next post is titled" as "Anon exposed his title"? I can't hear it properly for some reason.

[@kimanireid6111]

What did your 304 STBXW expect to to happen

[@GlucoseGuy]

I was honestly surprised that the wife still wanted the relationship. Coming home like that and just being like, "You know what I was doing." would have told me that she had already checked out of the relationship herself. I'm glad OP stuck to their principles and left that trash behind.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2: OP's sister is the A-hole. She is indulging her inner mean girl at the expense of his son's mother.

[@georgvonsauer2618]

Hey, it was just sex...if that is suppose to make you feel better?

[@wmdkitty]

What was OP doing to drive Wife away from him?

[@zashgekido5616]

Tf?

[@GoodBrotherGrimm]

What a gross take. If a man is beating his wife, would you say "What is she doing to make him so angry?" Seriously, get better and grow up.

[@alexshaw8167]

We found the cheater in the comments!!!!

[@tigernotwoods914]

Story 2: NAH sister is being mean but she’s on your side and defending you and the kid. Annie’s NTA because it was a mental health issue and not her fault and she got help. OP is NTA and doing the best he can for the kid. As far as Jack. He’s 2. A 2 year old doesn’t know what’s going on and won’t even remember anything.

[@Kyman102]

Nah, the sister was deadass told "Butt out and mind your own business" and was still a bitch about it. At that point she became the asshole.

[@tigernotwoods914]

@@Kyman102 that’s a good point but I think it’s an example of good intentions bad execution

[@groofromtheup5719]

not remembering it doesn't mean it hasn't impacted his development.

[@CreeperOnYourHouse]

Story 1 sounds like sex addiction, especially based on her reaction to being told it's over. She thinks sex is everything and that's all that anyone cares about.

[@wmdkitty]

"Sex addiction" was created by Christians to pathologize normal desires.

[@CreeperOnYourHouse]

@@wmdkitty I'd say what she has qualifies. Constant sex, all the time, it's fine cheating if it's only sex. Your feelings are hurt, you just need sex. It's all sex.

[@groofromtheup5719]

She wants attention and sex is a way to get it.

[@peteranon8455]

Story 2. NTA, but I also happen to agree with the insensitive sister...

[@alexshaw8167]

You would have preferred an unequipped parent continue caring for a child than have that parent get better so they can be the best parent they can be?

[@peteranon8455]

@@alexshaw8167 A transitory mom is worse than an absent mom, so if the mom develops a strong bond for 3 months and leaves again, it'll be worse than if she never came back at all. An unprepared, ill equipped, stressed, frayed, yet caring OP is better than another abandonment.

[@NationandState]

Old stories.

[@zandilesibiya260]

2nd!

[@dinobotsc2017]

❤😂🎉

[@vikthestampede]

Story 2. It's incredible how selfish people are in the US. That person left her baby and went away. She's a terrible mother that never took responsibility. Wow.

[@alexshaw8167]

She was unable to care for her child due to mental health, so she went away to get better.