My Brother Is Accusing Me Of Choosing My Partner Over His Happiness r/Relationships

[@embluvya]

Story 1: The brother isn't a coward, he AGREES with his wife. He is equally as hateful as she is, that's why he's marrying her

[@Callimo]

Well, OP's brother is a coward in another way: he would rather marry a toxic person than actually leave them and truly stand up for his brother. The thing is, bigots don't stop mean chodes to the groups they're bigoted against, they barf that poisionous attitude all over their tribal circle, and it eats at them inside since they themselves are usually self hating. I really doubt a marriage between 2 bigots will be happy and healthy.

[@yamairad1]

Yes, it takes balls to ask to not bring the spouse.

[@Zurround]

And their FATHER got pissed at the OP for "hurting his brother's feelings". If he feels the need to be "pissed" at someone why not the other brother? Maybe he could tell him to stop being a homophobe in 2023?

[@owl7072]

Story 1: They really said "how dare you choose your happiness and mental wellbeing over your beloved brother and his fiancee who has actively degraded and dehumanized you over something that's not even any of her business!" And expected Op to just... side with his brother and agree.

[@sc-bj2fs]

The same goes for OP. His brother doesn't have to agree with his lifestyle. Wth!

[@cynicalminion]

Nope...

[@cynicalminion]

It's either fun or easy.

[@Tammohawk1]

Thank you. You said that far better than I could.

[@freedomlindsay3084]

A

[@brandi5126]

If your brother's happiness is dependent upon you bringing a girl, then he must be a miserable sod. Don't go and enjoy your hubby.

[@colleens1107]

Nah, he’s just a homophobe himself but knows his bro NOT being there would look bad FOR HIM. but oh no the gay bro can’t be GAY at his wedding

[@dulcilass]

OP could call his brother and let him know he'll be coming, then attend the wedding without a girl by his side. If he's asked about what happened to his date, Carol. He can answer that Carol's GIRL friend, Jill, got sick. Since Carol didn't want to leave Jill alone, she stayed home with her. After all that, he could stay for the ceremony, but not attend the reception. His reason for leaving early could be that his partner just called and he's come down with the same "bug" that Jill seems to have. hmmmm hehehehehehee

[@HackiePuffs]

“He accused me of not wanting him to be happy” sounds like that fiancée of yours doesn’t want OP to be happy. But that’s okay with you bud?! What a hypocrite and a bad brother for letting his fiancée be so disrespectful of his brother like that.

[@Davtwan]

Let the brother know that it isn’t going to be “one day.” It’ll extend your holidays, birthdays, outings, and visits to, heaven forbid, future children. No matter what hope OP’s brother has, he is very likely not going to change his fiancée’s mind on liking OP (or tolerating OP in this case). Marriage isn’t going to fix that either. He’s going to have to decide if chemistry without compatibility really is more important than familial relationships. (Of course, they may be more compatible than I think they are since he let his homophobia be known the first time OP came out.)

[@pippo17173]

Hearing op family dynamics in story 1, I can see why op brother is the spineless and awful coward. I wouldn't be surprised if their father was teaching that in his younger years.

[@DrownedInExile]

S1: So the wife to be is a bigot, and the brother is a simp. And shares her views. He's not ashamed of anything OP did, he's ashamed of what OP is! To hell with them both. I'm glad OP's sister is on his side, and he's cutting brother out.

[@rubymeaddle]

He's not a simp, a simp goes along with her to make her happy. He didn't want the husband there either, he's throwing her under the bus.

[@kaitlynhall2112]

If I was the sister, I’d find a way to hide a bunch of Bluetooth speakers around the venue and blast Born This Way during the vows.

[@LunaP1]

😂😂😂😂

[@notevenlistening6072]

I hope their kids are straight, for their own sake

[@sadtitties222]

True petty perfection! 😁👍✨🏳️‍🌈

[@pearbear6418]

Story 1 Update: OP randomly throwing in the part about the fiance's nephew losing the soccer game is so funny and unnecessary 💀. The sister sounds cool, glad OP has someone like her in his life.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Glad for an update to that last story, but yeah… idk if OP is doing as well as he’s trying to convince all of us he is. Lmao.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

I was kind of thinking the same.

[@pippo17173]

This post is a perfect example on why we need to take cheating trauma more seriously. Op legit gave a scitzo post that makes it pretty clear that the betrayal he had destroyed his mind. I don't know hoe the therapy he is taking is doing but I hope he stays for the longest time because good god I don't think he has not gotten over it and I legit worry that his gf now doesn't know this or even know he calls himself as a step father. This is just creepy behavior forming here.

[@lynnw7155]

Yeah; that whole thing about playing the happy expectant dad for the last 3 months, then blindsiding her really got me. As someone pointed out, did he help with all the planning and buying things for the baby (how could he NOT if he was 'pretending' it was his kid?)? The whole story is pretty sick and OP and ex both sound like pretty messed up people.

[@sadtitties222]

​@@lynnw7155 Agreed! I'm glad more people are realizing this and pointing out how OP ain't the sympathetic saint that he made himself out to be. The only one I feel sorry for is the new girlfriend and her daughter. 😞

[@Demonic_Culture_Nut]

It sounds like he's trying to convince himself more þan anyone else. And it ain't working.

[@Daniiix2024]

Story 1: pull a power move and bring a lesbian friend and help her hook up with a member of the brides family

[@b.c.9358]

I'm so happy that the OP in story 2 is doing better. I really recommend he goes to couple's counseling just to make the relationship and communication even smoother. I hope all goes well for him, his girlfriend, and her daughter.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

The problem these days with going to counselors or therapists is that many of them have their own personal opinion of morality and right & wrong and they have no problems with infusing these beliefs into their professional lives. They would rather convert a couple to their beliefs and THEN try to help them progress in their relationship. My friend and his wife had a decent but not awesome marriage. They went through 8 different counselors before they found one that didn't try to make them change their beliefs or try some "alternative lifestyles" to help their marriage. 5 of the counselors actually told them they might be happier exploring Polygamy or an Open Marriage. Then proceeded to try and sell them on those alternative lifestyles. Their marriage had some issues but sex was NOT one of them LOL. But before those counselors wanted to address their issues, they wanted them to investigate and even try out alternative lifestyles. 1 of them they had to actually get a restraining order against her because she would not stop contacting them and harping on them about trying new things. She even suggested they experiment with changing genders in the bedroom and then expand that to their date nights out. LOLOLOL

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 nta what a groomzila. Glad op is cutting him out.

[@Sherwoody]

Minister: “I now pronounce you Bridezilla and Brozilla. You may now kiss your family goodbye.”

[@projectjupiter5523]

​@@Sherwoodythis is incredible 😂

[@Dan_Hazard]

Would love to one day see a markee and mark narrations collab 😊

[@LunaP1]

I would live to see that too. And it would be funny if one of the posts they read has someone named Mark or Markus that is the antagonist.

[@Dan_Hazard]

@@LunaP1 ha, that'd be sweet 😆

[@yourmom2189]

Totally agree! I listen to both of them almost everyday!

[@sydniec4632]

I think about this a lot! Two of my favorite YT narrators for sure

[@skyandthemoon]

I watch both of them they post almost everyday as well

[@livingnightmare969]

First story: I would've told the brother "You don't have to keep pretending to love me" BLOCK Copy paste for any "family" or "friends" on the brother's side

[@avaphynx]

He thinks his honeymoon phase of his new 8 month relationship is the big middle finger to everyone lol oh boy

[@LordMekenshi]

Holy shit. It's bad enough to exclude the husband, but then asking to replace him with a girl? That's beyond disrespect. A please attend alone is a strong consider not going at all. What he asked is a hell to the f no

[@QueentDB]

Story 2 people called OP a Sociopath for how he broke up with his girlfriend. But no one said anything about how she was planning to pretend the baby was his knowing otherwise.

[@MrArielK]

Story is fake as hell

[@Meli22352009]

I dunno why everyone is jumping on OP as if he is the bad guy :/

[@vidhead85]

I've been hearing lots of these and they keep on sounding like incel revenge fantasies

[@feyfantome]

Story one final comment: “we really don’t see discrimination against other groups listed as a difference of opinion like we do LGBTQ” Oh HECK YES we do! Interracial couples and interfaith couples face the same comments and discrimination all the time. So do disabled or obese persons, and don’t get me started on how people treat the mentally ill when they find out you have a disorder, especially family and coworkers.

[@sgm8265]

I think the comment had to do with using difference of opinion as justification to treat people so horribly. Because of the idea of it being a sin for some religious folk so LGBTQ must be choosing to sin. Even though it is no more a choice than race, disability, etc. All of these groups face discrimination and none of it is justified.

[@KarlAndArma4ever]

​​@@sgm8265There are still people who believe in the mark of Cain and that any white person choosing an interracial relationship is choosing to live in sin. There are also people who think disabilities are a divine punishment and that they'd "be cured" if they or their parents would just repent and prove themselves to be better people. These might not be quite so "in your face" in most 1st world countries as they used to, but believe me, those beliefs and attitudes are definitely still around.

[@sgm8265]

@@KarlAndArma4ever Very true. Sadly.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 1: Good on OP for cutting his brother out of his life. And good for his sister, too. I hope they do something really fun on the wedding day and create wonderful memories. May brother and his horrible fiance live miserably ever. after.

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Story 2: playing devils advocate a little with the drinking problem. I've known a couple of family members to have drinking issues when grieving. They were drinking more as something to do and to distract themselves than because they had an alcohol problem. Before anyone tells me I'm just in denial of their issues, one said person was actually drinking coffee and gave himself caffeine poisoning. I don't know if that's what OP was doing with their alcohol consumption but having someone point it out and talk to them tends to help

[@SherriLyle80s]

S1: How can the brother stand by and let his brother OP be treated that way? Weakling.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2 is either completely fake, or OP is quite unstable. Hoping it's fake tbh

[@pippo17173]

I'm hoping it's fake because what we're looking at here is a scitzo man spiral down after suffering betrayal. I'm legit thinking this guy did not handle well letting himself be vulnerable to a cheater which oh boy those are fun to handle.

[@YuriKaroki19]

@@pippo17173 IDK maybe this is from hearing so many readdit stories but every time I see a guy said they treated their ex great it's more offen then not untrue and the OP is only saying that to not be the bad guy when they are I'm hoping that's not the case but the final update feels like such a red flag to me. that's y i'm more hoping it's fake

[@heatherdickau5335]

First story 1 OP needs to tell brother he will just come to the next wedding if he apologizes.

[@chasefrost1401]

The last story's last update makes it sound like he's trying to pick up as close to where he left off his previous partner's betrayal as he can. He needs more therapy

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I'm glad you mentioned it literally everyone else is only talking about the first story. Yeah that last update comes off as pretty defensive for no reason. I don't know if this is something he will ever fully get over tho. He was told he wasn't able to have children and had to come to terms with that which must have been incredibly difficult because he really did want children. Then just when he seemed to accept it then he thought a miracle had happened. And to be so excited only to find out six months into the pregnancy it wasn't even yours to begin with. It's extremely traumatic. Paternity fraud is literally one of the worst things that could ever happen to you. Luckily he caught it before he got too attached, before the baby was born but I'm sure it hurts him that he will probably never be able to have a child of his own. I think he was completely justified in waiting to dump her for when it would hurt her the most right after she gave birth. I think she totally deserved it. She was planning to do one of the worst things you could ever do to someone. And everyone who is claiming his actions weren't justified is a cheater themselves. She deserve way worse than he gave her. She deserved to spend what should have been the happiest time of her life afraid and alone. She deserved way worse than that. I'm honestly worried for OPs step? kid tho. First off it's strange OPs gf introduced her young daughter to some guy she's only known for 8 months who has a serious drinking problem! THAT is a major red flag. And it really comes off as her being desperate to find a dad and be in a relationship. And he comes off as not over his ex which is why he's suffering from addiction problems to begin with. Very sad story all around

[@pezchef7577]

being grossed out/hate the love two other ppl share is so db and easily creeps into voyeuristic/pervy, imo. just my 34 cent opinion

[@MovableNu]

Story 1: OP needs to be VERY clear to themselves. Brother & FSIL are a inviting you to an event (allegedly) because they want you to celebrate their union. BBBBBUUUUUUUUUTTTTTT - They want to UTTERLY disregard yours? Oh no! Tell EVERYONE they not only want you to come alone, they want you to bring a BEARD to their wedding because they don’t acknowledge your relationship. Then tell anyone not screaming they’re wrong to join them in kicking rocks with open toed shoes and that you hope their houses always smell like burnt popcorn 🍿

[@willow8186]

16:59 As the massive Buffy fan I am I feel the need to shoutout the username RIPSunnydale, lol ⚔️ 🧛‍♀️ 💥 🚌

[@CanonSkyrissian]

story 1: op's brother be like "how dare you choose your own happiness instead of mine???" I'm a lesbian (albeit single) and I wouldn't go to that wedding either, especially if my sibling and their spouse insisted that I'd have to pretend to be straight. screw that.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

story 2: that last update oof. i feel bad for the single mom. this will not end well.

[@YuriKaroki19]

yeah for me that last one is a red flag

[@skyandthemoon]

She shouldn't have introduced her child that quickly to him let's be honest he's probably gonna leave her and the child will be confused to what happened to her "stepdad"

[@chrisester2910]

If I were OP's mom, I might not be going to the wedding.

[@muhname6052]

Story2 Brian is not a cool dide. When he tjought there were no consequences. But as soon as the thought his soul was at risk he went running to OP

[@colleens1107]

Story two: I was all Aww that was actually a decently amicable parting for OP and Sarah, then the final update. Yeaaaah, that guy is in serious denial about his motivations for being with his new girl and CALLING HIS GFs KID HIS STEPCHILD….After dating less than a year. His therapist really dropped the ball for NOT address this obvious emotional transference…or maybe they did and OP ain’t listening. Either way, YIKES

[@LadyJuse]

Yeah, a lot of people would say OP should not have even met the kid by that point.

[@shybiscket]

Story 1. I would see the situation an an oportubity to always exclude SIL. Would take every oportunity to host every family function and then exclude SIL

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: NTA. If op and his brother aren’t close, and op stated that it got worse when op came out of the closet, why does he want op to come?

[@LunaP1]

For appearances. Bigotted narcissists always want to look perfect while discriminating against anyone who doesn't fit that image, especially with family.

[@pippo17173]

This is just a theory and it makes me laugh but I'm legit believe that thr fiance family is progressive and support LGBT and just having her husband brother there would give the illusion in her perfect family. Wouldn't be surprising since learning homophobia from outside people happens more often.

[@kaykay8855]

@@pippo17173 if they are progressive then why asked op to bring a fake gf?

[@battiekoda]

Now, this isn't a comment on any of the stories, but for as long as I've been watching this channel, I'm always looking/ waiting for something to sloooooooowly creep up in that mirror above the fireplace. (Is it a mirror, even?)

[@photoflo78]

Is the single mother the therapist? Because that is the worst therapist.

[@AprilSunshine]

No such thing as a school record. Also, counselors won't share his information unless he commits a crime necessitating it.

[@m.o.4240]

St1 have a vow renewal and tell your brother he can come but not bring his wife

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Last story. People always seem to think that rebound relationships or fast-moving relationships never work out. But that's not true. When a boyfriend and I ended our 5-year relationship, I was hurt, and drank everyday for almost 2 weeks. Then my best friend literally slapped me in the head. I stopped drinking and started putting my life back together. A month later, I met an amazing man, and we moved in together 2 months after dating. Everyone was warning him that he was just my rebound, and we both were told we were moving too fast, and our relationship would never work. Well, I wish I could see al those negative people now and ask what they think now. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 30th anniversary in Feb 2024, we have 3 amazing kids, and we are still best friends and love each other fiercely

[@pippo17173]

The problem with this post is that op is showing signs that he is not over the beytrayal and is only with the new women for getting what he actully needs. ya rebounds and meeting the one very fast can happen. I don't think op is showing he has move on which is worrying. I hope that therapy he is taking is gonna get him in the right track very soon.

[@RJLiams]

The problem is that the majority of the time, rebounds tend to end extremely badly. They weren't being negative. They were being realistic and worried for you. If you view your families reaction to just being negative, it sounds like you still have some issues to deal with. You were an exception. Not a rule.

[@BbiBbii]

Story 2. Yeahhhh idk how I feel about OP 😅 I’ve been cheated on before so I get the hurt feeling, but isn’t what he did just absolutely fucking crazy? Cool he got revenge, I guess, but now I’m worried for the new gf and her child. It takes a certain type of person to do what OP did, and I think the new gf would see OP in a completely different light if he told her what he did 😟

[@wmdkitty]

Yeah, OP is not the hero of this story at all.

[@yourmom2189]

Is he the hero? No. But did he get revenge? Meh. He just waited to tell her he knew about the affair and that the baby wasn’t his. I wouldn’t categorize that as revenge. I think the gf sort of deserved it. She cheated for months, lied to both men, got pregnant with another man’s baby, and was going to try to pass it off as OP’s so she wouldn’t have to give up her lifestyle. I think OP just leaving her was not the worst he could have done. She shouldn’t have played stupid games. I’ve been cheated on and I think cheaters are scum. Edit: I wrote that before hearing the final update. Never mind. He’s mentally unstable. 🤦

[@ZoeJasper9]

Yeah people are talking about how she deserved it, maybe, but that just doesn't matter. If you're willing to spend months in a bad situation pretending to love someone you hate just to get revenge at the moment they give birth you're a psychopath. Just do what you need to do get out and move on for your own well being.

[@pippo17173]

@@ZoeJasper9 To be honest, that is a petty move I would do to someone who cheated on me. The difference is that I wouldn't be looking at another women and just rebound faster to get what I want and that is starting a family fast with someone. That is what I call unstable behavoir and it would be a whole new problem for op once the gf he currently has is gonna soon realize something is wrong and will be back to sqaure one with the guy.

[@alaaesong164]

@@pippo17173 Thats the thing though, this isn't petty. It's literally batshit fucking insane. Even if we reverse the genders, if a woman did something similar like this, it's still batshit insane.

[@Tatkitten]

If I had been op in the first story I would have countered with “if I do that, than I want any event we are attending, that you come as well but leave your bi-I mean wife at home and come with a man. Sound fine to you? No? Than I want you to think really hard about why that is. Also IF I by the miracle of some mythic deity do this, I’m picking the girl and I will make it one of your exes. Than I would publicly post on for the family to read why I’m not going so they can’t make some bs reason as to why I’m not there. B deserves to be judged for who she really is.

[@pamlew338]

Story 1 OP your brother and sister in law willwant you to be there secret ATM and free babysitter he'll say it was a misunderstanding or stop holding on to the pass or something like that

[@maurer3d]

Story 1 (before update): Of course NTA at all. Heck if I had an SO that had a problem with anyone I was related to for no legitimate reason (AKA that person they hate being an AH), they would be my ex the second I found out. Heck just finding out my SO/GF is racist, sexist, homophobic or antisemitic would be an instant deal breaker, even if I didn't have a relative that was part of one or more of those groups. Story 1 (update): Ouch sad to here your brother is homophobic, but at least now him continuing to date her makes sense. Keep your sister and go LC/NC with all the homophobic elements of your family, as they are not worth screwing with your mental health.

[@dianecheney4141]

No one is responsible for their own happiness

[@DeeL-u1c]

All forms of discrimination are denied by people who say, they didn't mean it in a racist, homophobic, classist, misogynistic way.

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

--- Fiancee doesn't want you at the wedding at all. She can't not invite OP, but knows you won't attend without your husband. Don't worry about your brother, hope you, husband and sister have a good time. --- OMG, another soap opera. Only thing missing is that Bryan isn't the father either. Hooking up with a single woman at work, I hope you used precaution. Unless they're married, she's not his step-daughter. I'm thinking new gf is looking for someone to support her and her child.

[@usagi18]

Both brothers are putting thier spouses first and there is nothing wrong with that. After marriage, your closest family is your spouse. The difference is one brother is putting his spouse first out of love, and the other one is doing it out of hate. Good riddance. Wish luck to your brother, just pinky promise you will attend his next wedding.

[@Lqtech00]

2nd Story: Mother is braver than I to get involved with a man who was just betrayed by his ex and then had a drinking problem all within 8 months. I've been divocred for 6 yrs and I still afraid to bring my baggage in the next relationship.

[@Sherwoody]

@bradley100 Some people can move on faster than others. Some may move on quickly but will sabotage a relationship to keep from being hurt again. There’s no right formula, but it is important to eventually let go and if you meet the right person you’ll feel an enormous weight lifted off your shoulders.

[@robertx8020]

How did he betray his ex? Wasn't it the other way around? Or are we now forgiving lying cheaters as soon as they get pregnant?

[@uh8myzen]

@@robertx8020 Unless I'm missing some context here, the comment says "who was just betrayed by his ex," and nothing at all about him betraying her.

[@clydedonovan6153]

Story 1: how dare you choose your spouse and self over your brother who is choosing his spouse and self over you!!!!! how DARE you

[@Sevness]

That last OP is huffin the copium something fierce. It very much sounds like a rebound and crutch, like he isn't dealing with his issues and using someone else to keep him stable even as he falls apart at the seems.

[@beccaf262]

Comments on the last story are wild. Damaged people are deserving of love. He’s in therapy and he’s working on it. People are mean. A lot of the comments he made could have been from a place of self improvement and self reflection.

[@Rorschachqp]

Story 1: I wonder if OPs husband is any good at crossdressing. That would be a hoot.

[@kentario1610]

If I were OP, I'd say to that girl, "you like guys, I like guys, what's the issue?" because seriously, what a weird thing to get bent out of shape for.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Story 2: Has to be fiction. What kind of wonderful father would want to miss his child’s birth to let another man have revenge? If a guy told me this, I would honestly wonder if he was lying about being the father. You can’t want to be an involved dad and also okay with not being involved. The first moments of life are incredibly important for babies to form an attachment to their parents. Moms are flush with bonding hormones and babies are placed skin to skin. So at important, pivotal moment in attachment, this dude stressed a woman out. HE PREVENTED A BABY FROM IMPORTANT DEVELOPMENT. Exactly who was this revenge against?!? And again? What loving father would allow someone to fuck with their child like that? If your revenge is designed to harm a mom at the most vulnerable moment of her life, it is designed to deeply harm a child who did nothing to you. If this guy is real, I hope his sisters and mothers tell any future partners about this. No woman should ever be this vulnerable with him again. If he lacks the emotional intelligence to not see why this would be a terrible form of emotional abuse to level on a baby, he has no business ever having children.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Yeah that development bs means after the baby is born when it is aware of their surroundings not at the moment of birth. Alao the baby went to the ico. They wasnt getting shit from either parent

[@pippo17173]

I mean...people can be that cruel and selfish. Still hoping it's flat out fake.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

@@pippo17173Idk, the straight hopping to the single mom thing reads true for a dude that’s kind of spiraling but in denial of it. Lol

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

@@Kris-wo4pj my mom was a teacher. This was her field. A number of EIs are developed because of attachment issues. “Awareness” is not a part of it for the child. It’s the sense of safety and connection. That’s why good birthing centers immediately place babies on the mama for skin-to-skin contact.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

@@pippo17173 I mean, I can’t picture this man pulling this and not ending up in a confrontation with the mother’s extended family in the waiting room or later.

[@orchidoxs126]

Story 2, the details the comments point out in the end do sound odd. And does make me question... 8 months after officially breaking up he moved in with his fwb and has adopted a fatherly role to her daughter? It's not a bad thing by far but I'm worried this is a rebound and things may fall apart.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 2 nta I heard this one before. That's how you take revenge.

[@YuriKaroki19]

yeah the two updates has me in a different boat and I'm getting a bad feeling from OP after the final update

[@NewYorkJennifer]

Story 2. OP is pathetic.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

PSA- just to put this out there to hopefully help someone or at the very least cure some small ignorance. Someone putting your name on a birth certificate DOES NOT make you responsible for the child. YOU have to sign it and accept the parentage or it's not legal. The only way your name can go on it against your will is if paternity is proven and a judge forces you to sign it. If you could just put someone on the BC and they were automatically financially responsible for the kid then you could just throw rich guys on there and have your kid set for life

[@EnDB]

The brother is marrying the female equivalent of his father.

[@rubyshka309]

No one talked about why he is cool with the bio dad when he literally conspired to stick op with the child until HE decided he wanted the kid… least obvious fake post

[@robertx8020]

But you call almost every post 'fake' so excuse me if I don't take your words at face value

[@rubyshka309]

@@robertx8020 ????

[@rubyshka309]

@@robertx8020 what does that even mean💀

[@ravenfox926]

S1: I'd have just brought my hubby in drag.

[@sapphicgeek24]

Always get the DNA test. US Courts don't give a crap is someone just says they aren't the biological father. They will slap whomever on the certificate to lessen the risk of the child being on social services. To the courts paternity isn't a biological issue. It's a legal one. But, you can dispute the claim if you have evidence. Again: always get the DNA test. Even if you KNOW the baby isn't yours. The courts will not care and will ignore it if you don't have documentation. Sometimes they'll order one, but there's often a time limit to get a father off the birth certificate.

[@fufufuaru]

so predictable, "birds of the same feather..." Yup, better for OP to cut the AHs off. He has a good sister though, so that's great.

[@carolcarol9982]

"My brother is accusing me of choosing my partner over his happiness". Well, guess what? OP's brother is choosing His partner over OP's happiness.

[@Zurround]

Story 2: Unless you KNOW that you are STERILE or unless you were not sleeping with her anywhere near 9.5 months before the birth GET A DNA TEST. Its still POSSIBLE that you are the father. Even if its MOST LIKELY the other guy, even if its 90/10 or even 95/5 against you when its something THIS IMPORTANT YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE. You can STILL shun HER for cheating on you but you should NOT shun the baby at least until you have the DNA test.

[@clarissagafoor5222]

So, here's the thing - story no1 - the fact that the wife to be plus brother suggested bringing a woman along instead of his husband is one of those 'things that make me go humm'. I can see really religious people asking him not to bring his same sex spouse, but lie and bring a girl??!! Story no2, whilst I understand the whole situation with the ex and baby, getting hooked up with a single mother! WTF, lost a whole lot of sympathy from me. I'm a single mum and know how many hoops we can jump through just to have something - anything!

[@hugoumero9723]

I could see this marriage will not last long and they will ended up get divorced

[@TheAngierolfedownes]

Story 1: OP should find a really masculine lesbian that will were a suit to the wedding and go together...What she's a girl!😂😂😂

[@samssams666]

Did anyone else get a depressing add about the dangers of owning a gun and how it can go from safe to unsafe in an instant?

[@bluexwings]

Story 2: This dude is totally unhinged... He pretended to be in love with his ex for months, just so he could "hurt her at her most vulnerable moment". That's scary.

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1 NTA: I'd show up in a rainbow suit and top hat, with Groom's Gay brother in rhinestones across the back while carrying the pride flags and blasting "its raining men", but I'm petty like that 😂

[@hvymax]

At least she figured out how to get pregnant. She was doing OP a favor.

[@robertx8020]

Hi, 'OP's ex /s

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

First story and update: I worry for any children OP's brother and his wife have. If they are in that so much belief that being gay is a sickness, I fear they would send their kids to some reform camp if any of them were to come out as such. Or just as bad, become the next generation of homophobes...

[@RachelRoseLynn]

Story 1: Go. But bring a lesbian. 😂

[@maurer3d]

Story 2 (before update): Ummm, giant problem here.. You do not "know" that the child isn't yours, you have reason to suspect the child might not be yours. ESH. You should have gotten a DNA test the second you found out she was cheating, then made your decision from there. You are not an AH for wanting to leave her, just for assuming paternity with not test. Story 2 (update: Good you got the DNA test, Congrats ? on not being the father. Kindof a double edge sword, good to not be saddled with cheating ex in your life, but sad that you lost what you thought was going to be your first child.

[@cindyskullz]

How idiotic do you have to be to call a man an AH for rightfully doubting if his cheating gf is carrying his baby? OP may have lost it in the updates but he’s definitely NTA in the original story.

[@maurer3d]

@@cindyskullz He's an AH (before the update) for assuming the baby wasn't his before the DNA test. As there was a 50/50 chance the baby was his.

[@cindyskullz]

@@maurer3d SO?!! His gf cheated and he was having trouble getting her pregnant already. It’s definitely not out of the question to have doubts.

[@ZombieSazza]

Sorry, story 1 they expect a married man to attend a wedding, about celebrating the bonds between two people who love each other, without his husband? Rather hypocritical to ask someone who’s married to pretend not to be married and not bring their spouse to your wedding. I’m no contact with my mother and brother for many reasons (child abuse survivor) and an constant “issue” was my sexuality, apparently me being not straight was a “problem”. Some of us are just unfortunate to be related to homophobes.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one I would be 100% done with brother and anyone who agreed with bro. He is trash. I don’t get why OP is so shocked? He has a bad relationship with bro and you know his fiancé is a mega bit@h….come on stop allowing yourself to be a second class citizen. Story 2 cheating is awful, but I gotta say ….you were gonna make her the happiest woman on earth, dude if she was happy she wouldn’t have cheated. I know that hurts, but cheaters cheat for reason, awful reasons but reasons. Oh my lord this guy is an absolute tool……I really can’t stand him.

[@felix0-014]

Story 2: he honestly comes off as either a fake story or a very cruel self absorbed love bombing guy that discarded his old source of validation for a new source as soon as she gave him an excuse. 😬 What he did was pretty fucked up and his flippant tone about serious negative traits is concerning. Hopefully therapy helps him

[@bubblegumpeach5662]

What the cheating girl did was horrid, but the guy is a bit sus. He said I did nothing but treat her right, and then I wasn't always the best guy? Well, paternity tests should be mandatory, imagine raising someone for years that is not your child. What the hell.

[@jenniferlacey6974]

Second story is nuts. OP I honestly think he’s codependent. It’s a lot to just instant family. I hope he at least stays in contact with the kid if things go awry. He was likely codependent. Of course it’s the greatest relationship ever you’ve been together 8 months. That said therapy will help sort through it. However sometimes you just know. I was truly traumatized in a previous relationship that had way to many elements of my upbringing. I went on a date with my high school crush. I told him I wanted a distraction. By the time he was driving me home it was so obvious we started falling in love. As scared as I was there was no going back. I was terrified due to all love bombing. He was so patient. He told me knew he’d be paying for the sins of others. He said to take as much time as I needed. I wish I was braver. I had enough time to learn to love and trust again. Unfortunately I was too scared to tell him before he died unexpectedly.

[@draumpje]

Story one. Brother does not accept op is gay “Accepts it to a point” is just that It is not accepting Brother can go pound sand, and op is in no way shape or form an ahole Brother (and the father) are assholes though Big ones And op would be better of without the assholes in his life Sister is a gem

[@velvet.BULLET]

Can someone explain how 8 months is too fast to move on? 8 months is a really long time, especially if he already had 3 months before he left to come to terms with needing to leave her

[@YuriKaroki19]

i think they're more talking about who he's getting togther with and his treating the mother who he hookup with child like his own and they aren't marry

[@robertx8020]

@@YuriKaroki19 True but I always see a lot of ppl complaing when the new partner of single partner doesn't want a relation with the kid(s) of that parent Now it is the other way around?

[@sfsin3380]

@@robertx8020 I've seen enough "step parent insisted on being Mom/Dad immediately, it F'd up our relationship but everyone blames me" stories to know there's a middle ground between "if you didn't want to be a stepparent why get involved with a single parent" and " if you pulled the same coming on too strong clingy controlling S*** on an SO they'd run for the hills so why do you think is it OK to do it to a kid/s who are not able to just leave" Both extremes are bad and people are worried OP is doing the step-parent equivalent of saying I love you on the first date. PS sorry about all the dating metaphors but it really is the best way I've found to explain why step-kids react badly when step-parents come on too strong.

[@astronautviolet153]

Amazing content❤❤❤ story 1 NTA Op is married ...

[@mweathers79]

S1: OP your a boss. This girl tried to commit paternity fraud on you and Brian and you swatted that shit down like the annoying mosquito she was.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

Story 2: Another OOP who proves that bad things like cheating don't only happen to good people. Just apply the "beer" test: Sure, if we walked into a bar to have a beer in fun company, we'd not sit down at the table with a known cheater. But before I sat down with a person like OOP who is this scheming, deceitful, and great at pretending and faking something as complex as love, I'd leave the bar and enjoy a nice cup of tea at home.

[@cindyskullz]

Was the gf not pretending to love OP as well?! What do you call her cheating on him for nearly a year and would knowingly let him raise the affair partners possible child

[@robertx8020]

@@cindyskullz She's a pregnant woman ..ofc she gets a bye ..she is seen as a victim now /s

[@juliamiller2299]

Story 1. HIs brother is homophobic as well as his new wife. OP should cut them out of his life, as well as his homophobic father. He should keep close ties with his sister, and his mother. OP should broadcast to all his family members and their family and friends, exactly who he is and why he isn't attending their wedding. As well as brother's recent homophobic revelations. Story 2. OP does seem to be moving too fast with his new girlfriend, and might be setting himself up for heartache. Single mothers are usually looking for financial support, not love, so he should move slowly and carefully with her. At this point she will tell him anything to snag him if she thinks he is a great provider. OP does have many red flags too, so I hope he sticks with his therapy for now.

[@wheelsndealz]

story 3 after the update, holy fuck does reddit comments just love to make shit up on their own. it's like if they aren't spoon fed every detail they'll take any tiny little thing and make up a story that fits. jesus christ he just said he gave her the teddy he planned to give the kid some day. that could mean when he heard she was pregnant he bought a teddy bear and planned to give it to her in the future. ya know, like tons of dads do. I did the same thing. I was in the army and deployed so I bought a teddy bear and slept with it, put my shirt on it and stuff to have my smell so she could give it to our daughter when she is born. did he have to tell reddit about the baby shower for them to believe it happened? it wasn't relevant to the story.

[@gottathinkupanewone]

Story one: Brother dear, aren't YOU putting your homophobic partner's bigotry and prejudice over your brother's happiness -- and, indeed, his whole life? Why don't you defend your brother from her vile attacks, and why are you supporting her nastiness? As brothers go, you sound as awful as the screech you chase to marry.

[@TacitusKilgore3000]

Ngl i agree with the woman

[@gilles111]

Last story, it is shouting FAKE all over to me. Fantasy by a juvenile troll.

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

I'm happy for this dude, but it's only bee. 8 months and he is talking like it's been 10 years. "I have moved forward." "I love being a step dad" "we're going to get married!!" This sounds like 7th grade.

[@Bala_Niranna]

ive heard story 2 before and im feeling real vindicated in my conclusion that hes a psycho and a walking red flag. the more he writes the less i care that his girlfriend cheated on him

[@YuriKaroki19]

oh good i'm not the only one all I'm thinking is WTF?

[@wmdkitty]

Ohhh yeah, OP is... uh... how to put this in a YT-friendly way? He's a whole forest of red flags. More red flags than a Chinese military parade.

[@ar23431]

Hopefully the brother in the story is left in a divorce, single and without a good job and when he wants to get OP back (if that would happen?)Op can tell him the same, I'm ashamed of you, you just embarrass me, you're a good-for-nothing divorcee who chose a whore over his brother

[@jennieforthesox]

Is this creator no longer making videos. I going to have to find someone else now. 🥺 Way too many nights now I go to put him on before falling asleep but nothing.😭😭

[@radfordra]

Oh he did nothing wrong with leaving her as soon as she gave birth

[@LunaP1]

I've been seeing a lot of comments blasting OP and them getting mad that he didn't want to be a doormat to a cheating whorebag that never loved him.

[@radfordra]

@@LunaP1 I wouldn't have done everything else but I totally would have been that fucking petty

[@LadyJuse]

He should have left as soon as he learned. For his own mental health at the very least.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

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[@DarkdustDragon]

I'm sorry but the first story feels like a template relationship advice story. -OP is LGBTQ+ -OP has family members who don't respect him for that reason -OP's sibling has a SO who is also homophobic and more vocal about it than the sibling -OP thinks the relationship is improving -OP's sibling requests he come to a wedding without his partner -OP refuses and is called an AH by bigoted family members -OP's token supportive family member comes to his rescue -OP's bigoted sibling reveals they were more bigoted than they let on -Relationship is over Go to Relationship advice right now and you can probably find a dozen stories with these exact beats in about 30 minutes.

[@sapphirestar3068]

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