I Was Going To Propose To My Girlfriend But Then She Admitted To Cheating On Me r/Relationships

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[@Sian660]

Something about the 1st story seems like a set up. The girls getting her very drunk and Richard taking advantage. I suspect the girlfriend told Richard she planned on getting her drunk and Richard formed a plan to… yeah. I wouldn’t talk to any of those friends anymore and make it clear to them that they assisted in the crime.

[@Chellirsl]

I thought that too. She needs new friends.

[@jimmygarza8896]

I'd go a step further and say that that was the goal of getting her that drunk in the first place. Her "friends" probably don't like OP and gaslit her into thinking she cheated to try to ruin the relationship. Fortunately, OP realized what really happened with Richard.

[@okyep]

I've never been so drunk I forget vital parts of my life and cannot be responsible for my actions. If she was drugged that's diffrent the relationship can be saved but she needs to file a police report. Being drunk isn't a get out of jail free card to be a cheater

[@bryn1063]

@@okyep I completely get this but she was blackout drunk. People don't act themselves in a state like that and she couldn't even walk by herself. I wouldn't blame op for leaving her but she was definitely assualted. I wouldn't call being SA'd cheating but to each their own. I remember a story just like this but it was a man who was assualted by his best friend's girlfriend.

[@BbiBbii]

@@okyepWhile I haven’t been blackout drunk, I’ve been around friends & family who have been. When they tell you they remember nothing, they genuinely mean NOTHING. I once had to drag my, at the time, stepdad away from a 4th of July party cause he started getting really rowdy. His family followed him inside where they kept drinking, I went back inside after some time and my stepfather was barely moving & when he did it was like his bones were jelly. When I asked if he was alright he slurred so much that I couldn’t even tell you what he said. I had to grab my uncles (Mom’s side) so they could drag him to bed. The next day he was still noticeably hazy, still slurring a bit, a little laggy due to the hangover, and when he eventually got up and walked around the house he was unbalanced. He remembered absolutely nothing about the party and when he was shown videos of what happened he was floored & confused. Having seen all that with my stepdad who is 6’5, 300 lbs on a good day, and a alcoholic (meaning his alcoholic tolerance was ridiculously high), I can only imagine what state OP’s gf was in mentally given his description.

[@wyvern723]

Drunk people can't consent. Black out drunks DEFINITELY can't consent. That was assault. Those friends are awful. Richard is a monster.

[@wesindiefilm]

Unless someone is force-feeding you alcohol, getting drink is a choice. You are fully responsible for any action you commit after you willingly incapacitate yourself. Yes, She was taken advantage of but she is 100% at fault for putting herself in a questionable position.

[@nutritionnut3975]

Some people drink in order to hook up. I agree that this was rape, but to say drunk people can never consent is not coherent. Especially when they also say being is not an excuse for cheating

[@markanthony1004]

This is exactly what victim blaming is @@wesindiefilm

[@SomaTDW]

Yet they can commit crimes and be prosecuted for said crimes, cool.

[@gustavedore1073]

​@@SomaTDWYes, because while what you do when you are drunk is your responsibility, what is done to you is not.

[@smerlincuevas3219]

Op’s girlfriend in the first story needs new friends.Her first are beyond stupid and disgusting.

[@dream6562]

She's the one that chose to drink though and if they were both drunk it shouldn't e chargeable if that's the case next time I have a fling when drunk I'll charge the other person to protect my ass

[@aluralovell6829]

​@@dream6562 They were not both drunk though? At no point in the story was it said Richard drank at all just "scolded" the friends for continuing to dare her to drink more then made an excuse to separate her from the friends to take advantage of her. Regardless of whether she chose to drink it didn't give him the right to take advantage of her and it astounds me how people can make bad-faith arguments and false equivalencies like this to try and justify what happened. But let's pretend like you have a semblance of a point here and concede to the fact that the chose to drink regardless of pressure from her friends, I'll walk with you to that pier...still not an excuse for what he did. If I park my expensive car in a bad neighborhood and leave it unlocked and it gets stolen regardless of it being a very stupid move on my end it still doesn't give the robbers the right to steal my car, they are still wrong.

[@dream6562]

@@aluralovell6829 I'd be asking questions like did you know it was a bad area to begin with, also locking your car unless distracted by something should be an Instilled habit All I'm saying I wouldn't want a partner that's easily swayed like that either keep your boundaries firm, or get new friends

[@aluralovell6829]

​@@dream6562 So what I'm getting here is you don't seem to understand making a dumb choice doesn't mean that people have the right to take advantage of you. Regardless of if I lock my door, you don't have the right the right to steal from me. Regardless if rather she was blackout drunk he didn't have the right to take advantage of her. If you don't want to stay with her that's one thing but victim blaming is another.

[@dream6562]

@@aluralovell6829 we aren't Garenteed safety either

[@morganray6235]

Man that first story was crazy. I'm glad on how it turned out. Hope to hear that dude is in jail in the next update.

[@catsncrows]

I was wait, she was how drunk? right at the beginning. And the commenters go off...😑

[@nightstarstar1]

You’d rather a woman have been raped than to have cheated? That’s a bit sickening.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

And the friends as well, they were blatantly instigating with the "don't be boring, drink more" pushing her into drinking, At least someone in the friends list was jealous of the relationship and had this planned with the guy.

[@boneymeroney2674]

Yeah. Agreed. That's not cheating.

[@noone-777]

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[@Lolieif]

God, Reddit is just an absolute cesspool sometimes. Before any updates, I had a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that the GF was SAed, and none of those comments even considered it a bit. The only info we had from the initial post was “gf was really really drunk, to the point of not remembering things and tearfully confessed to having sex with someone as soon as she was sober the next morning.” That screams assault to me, and all those comments are “she’s vile and doesn’t love you”.

[@Batmanapplejax]

My thoughts exactly. I instantly felt terrible for her. Reddit is full of miserable people who like to judge in black and white with the intent to hurt. Fortunately there are also great people on there too, but the AHs just scream so loudly sometimes

[@VidWatcher01]

It's all the manosphere weirdos mainly. The type that think it's okay for them to cheat but not women

[@-Infex-]

My first thought was "wait, how drunk was she exactly?" My second was "wait, why is no one asking for clarification on that?" Like 90% of these stories are incredibly obvious with small details the OP misses.

[@rubymeaddle]

Right if she passed out at home she was blasted

[@Chickenfriedpenguin]

that's because most people expect a 26y old to be mature enough not to get so drunk they blackout and forget getting raped, lol. think horses not zebras.

[@IrisAsuras]

The friends are awful in story 1. She needs to press charges.

[@mikilacunningham6259]

Yeah

[@RayvenLunaNite]

Glad cops are being involved. As a survivor, ALWAYS PRESS CHARGES. Never think twice about it. Doubt those who tell you not to. Find your support and thrive!❤

[@barbthegreat586]

At least always involve the police because they have investigative tools. For example, only the police can look into friends' phones to see if they conspired, or their impressions and discussions about what happened.

[@dream6562]

​@@barbthegreat586 I guess every young couple who has drinks and have sex can press charges, nice to know

[@Humanityisshitong]

⁠@@dream6562if both are drunk then there is no case at all. 💀 and technically yes, because drunk is seen as being unable to consent.

[@Amina0406]

@@barbthegreat586Club 😊

[@fleurpouvior2967]

Also a survivor, I dissagree. The focous should be on continuing to survive and heal. If that means police, and court than absolutly, do that and distroy them. But for some people, that can be as bad or worse than the act itself. Being retraumatized, only for the court to side with your abuser/attacker, as happens in a gutwrenchingly high percentage of the time, can be life ending. I'm not saying people shouldn't persue action, I'm saying there is a reason people don't, and their reasons are valid

[@miminana-hd6nf]

I knew someone with DID. It went along with several other mental health disorders, bipolar disorder, schizoaffective disorder, depression. The way OP's brother's girlfriend behaves is not the way someone with true DID would behave.

Also the brother seems a bit off given he has no problem having a relationship which includes sex with a woman who can at any moment become his 3yo niece. All the comments call her dangerous and all I am thinking is "What about the brother?!"

[@milkyeyez34]

honestly wouldnt be surprised if she was actually a pdf file im curious what her tik tok is like

[@lorifiedler13]

Woman needs a psych hold and treatment. I wonder if her parents are aware of her condition?

[@psycojuggalo1642]

Please learn more about this disorder it is serious and not at all as you described they don't pop in and out randomly they are trauma triggered too much stress something triggered a memory from the past and I'm sure brother doesn't touch her when she goes into little space now her thing to me feels more like a combination of undiagnosed and fetishism could be wrong we only hear 1 side

[@cl5470]

​@@psycojuggalo1642 it very likely isn't a real disorder.

[@Blck_Ch3rry]

Ive been an alcoholic for 7 years, give or take (recently quit and working on sobriety again) and have gone through a similar situation as ops girlfriend. 10 drinks in 1 hour is crazy. Those friends are not friends and should be ashamed. Peer pressuring alcohol is such a despicable thing, like you shouldnt be dragging your friend home like theyre dead. And them blaming her after she blacked out in an hour , is also disgusting. Such irresponsible friends, this is just awful.

[@davidnash8208]

My mother was named Mildred and made my sister and I promise never to name our daughters after her.

[@chasefrost1401]

For the first story, that was the worst case scenario with the best case outcome. I'm glad they came to a reasonably calm resolution.

[@chasefrost1401]

@@RisetoStrength I didn't say I agreed with them. Just said that's the best way for it to work out for all of them. Cuz that guy is an idiot. You can't know that she's never going to drink alcohol ever unless he's around her constantly.

[@chasefrost1401]

@@RisetoStrength he would probably get taken for a fool by someone else.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

@@RisetoStrengthyou sound like a deeply unhappy person

[@asomelord]

A Borat impression while blackout drunk is the furthest thing from consent

[@trillionbones89]

The prosecco story: he is a "feminist" that uses " simping" unironically and can't get his fiance a prosecco to celebrate their engagement. Yikes. She is coping hard.

[@wackyiv219]

Nah those friends definitely set her up. They're probably jealous this woman has a connection with someone since they were babies and wanted to ruin that and almost did. I'm so greatful they're getting through this

[@VidWatcher01]

That's what I was thinking too

Bingo! This was my thought too, I have seen women act like this towards their friends because of jealousy and envy. They can become spiteful, vile people who will facilitate some of the worst crap to happen to a friend and use some lame ass excuse as to why the friend deserved it.

[@kirksnowden8023]

BS! She was not being responsible with her drinking. And double BS to drinking 10 beers in an hour when they normally drink 3-4 beers. She would thrown up and been pissing almost non stop. I drink everyday and I can’t easily do that and that after 40 years of drinking.

[@CloakedMortal]

As someone with DID (diagnosed and in treatment), the girlfriend claiming DID to act as her boyfriend's niece was disturbing. Although introject alters can exist (alters that have beliefs or behaviors of, or even believe they are, another person) they usually are formed in childhood when the abuse was going on. I have younger alters that love people and want to come out at parties. BUT, because the majority of DID cases are covert (meaning they do not present obviously) most people would never know those parts are out. Why? Because they all act like a cohesive person, albeit one with "moods". This is why they are called a system, because they work together to protect the person and keep them safe - even if the way that part attains safety is skewed. For example, one of my alters has internalized and personified the voice of one of my abusers. The way she protects me is by punishing me before I have done something my abuser would have punished me for, and therefore, I don't get externally punished. This alter has the same condescending and demeaning attitude, says and does nearly the same things and in the same way, and holds the same beliefs. Although this alter means well, I am punished for normal things, such as speaking; speaking means sharing things about oneself and therefore is "not safe". I know that was an information dump and may be clear as space rocks. Feel free to ask me questions!

[@jenniferklein1707]

I'm glad you commented cuz I'm not an expert but I know that none of those other people commenting are experts either.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

I am osdd and the only reason that makes my opinion pertinent is because I in my learning have never seen this with d i d o s d d it's generally a symptom of schizophrenia

[@EnDB]

I wouldn't name my kid after a person who hated me and I'd definitely side eye the goofball of a husband who has to listen to an ex to understand it. It wouldn't be a first or middle name. Not RickiBobby😂😂😂😂😂

[@kaitlynwillard8720]

Yea no. That’s SA. She was in no way able to consent to doing the nasty.

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

Uh, if she was really that drunk, then she wasn't able to consent. Being raped isn't cheating.

[@josemadera3138]

She wasn't raped she is lying pay attention she saud she black out drunk but remembered everything lol black out means black out

[@Swamp_Queen]

​@think-eh3fm alcohol can absolutely make you unable to function correctly. If you are unable to function correctly, then you are unable to consent, to deny, to fight, to leave, to walk, to talk, or to participate in the action being done to you. If you think leaving the person you love because they were SA then you are a terrible person. If you think someone being SA is the same as cheating then you are a terrible person.

[@dorianleakey]

​@@RisetoStrengthyou are wrong and childish, she couldn't even walk, it was rape, the story isn't that she chose to have sex because she was drunk, you rapist scum, it's that she was so drunk she was unable to fight back. You are a disgusting pig and no woman is safe from you.

[@josemadera3138]

@@Swamp_Queen I think a grown adult who puts themself in the position to be sexually assaulted by getting shit-faced drunk or high is not a good partner so yeah you should absolutely leave them they have terrible decision making skills, do you want an incompetent person like that raising your kids I don't

[@Swamp_Queen]

@@josemadera3138 ah, yes of course. I forgot, never, in the history of the world, has someone betrayed another person even though they seemed so very trustworthy.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: yikes that story took a complete 180 in the update Richard or Dick is a horrible but the girlfriends friends were shitty for not only pressuring her to get that drunk but for saying she consented when she was incapable of doing so.

[@slendertataGames]

The prosecco story is absurd and she gaslit herself into believing reddit was misrepresenting them. If anything, she is the simp for defending someone who thinks fetching a glass for her when she was going to pour one for him anyway is too much

[@kbb684]

That story always bothered me. Especially the "he's genuinely a feminist😌". What he labels himself won't make a difference if, when she asks for something small from him because he's getting it for himself anyway, he yells at her and accuses her of "princess behavior". Some people make a point to talk about power dynamics and other buzz words early to make it seem like they couldn't possibly abuse those things later...

[@trillionbones89]

A feminist afraid of simping 😂 She is in the Nile

[@meiimacca4054]

Exactly only she'll learn too late when she's knocked up and he's cheating on her

[@GoobermanNumberOne]

I’m really glad the girlfeind was able to press charges against the guy in story one. I was assaulted in a similar way, got taken advantage of by a sober guy while so drunk I couldn’t walk or talk. I had to hear about it second hand from the guys wife who acted like it was just a fun funky night and gaslit me like the friends did in this story. Unfortunately, the police don’t seem to care enough despite all the evidence and a literal confession

[@lorifiedler13]

Too bad she can't charge her "friends" as accomplices.

[@thotimusprimeofficial273]

story 1: those first few comments are disgusting. Not even considering she was blackout and even if she had the ability to say “no I have a boyfriend” how often does that stop a man?

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

The word vomit of basement dwelling Incel trash.

[@cedricpeace4804]

I’m not gonna lie I agree with you 100% except the part about men not accepting no. A man will have no problem with the word no. A disgusting little pervert won’t.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

They didn’t have the update ya knob

[@shaktimishra9710]

1/3 Times

[@megadude967]

Deaf child story Update: Oh, they coulda sued for MAJOR amounts of money if they're getting the interpreter, full scholarship and first choice on teacher.

[@lilithriddle8612]

OP I hope your GF ditches all the disgusting witches... they failed her and refused to protect her. I am so glad that OP didn't blind rage and waited to respond correctly to the situation. I hope for the best for OP and his GF. Get rid of the trash. Pray couples therapy works for you both and you both have many happy years.

Seems like they set it up, it all fits too neatly in place to be pure chance.

[@rubymeaddle]

If I hear my partner had sex with someone while intoxicated, my brain goes to "omg were you SA'd". Because DRUNK PEOPLE CANNOT CONSENT.

[@j_hi]

My mil wanted me to name my daughter after herself. I quickly and immediately vetoed that idea by insisting that I wanted her to be named after exh's great aunt ( a lovely woman. Rest her soul) and the middle names after my mom's middle name and exh's grandma's (a righteous B, but a deservedly strong woman, also rest her soul) maiden name. It will forever be my greatest victory in that crapshow of a marriage.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

I would have named either of my girls after my mother in law. She was an amazing lady. She and her mom just happened to have the same middle name as my aunt aka dad's big sister. But she said no, she wanted her grandbabies to have their own identities. My girls are named Danielle Michelle and Caitlynne Coleen. Danielle because my husband thought that it was the super model Elle Macpherson real name, it's not by the way. Michelle because of the Beatles song. Well that is why he think s I chose it, but in reality it was the closest girl name that I could get to my maiden name of Mitchell. Our youngest daughter Caitie well her name was created to honor my late granny. He wanted to name her Victoria Rose, or Virginia Rose. I wad ok with Rose, since it was my great granny's name. My maternal grandfather's mom. It also happened to be his paternal grandmother's middle name. I didn't like Victoria, sounds stuffy and then there is the nickname of Icky Vicky. I didn't want that for my kid. Virginia was his maternal grandmother's first name. Now I loved both ladies to bits, but I didn't want his grandmother's thinking we loved one more then the other so both names were out. Then when I was 5 months along with our youngest, my only granny thatvI ever knew, aka maternal one passed away. I demanded that we honor her, hell it wad also demanded by both my mother in law and hubby grandmother's that we honor my granny. So we named her Caitlynne Coleen. A mix of the Celtic and Scot spelling of the name. We both have Irish and Sottish roots. But it was my granny who was half Irish so that is were the Coleen came into play. I loved the actress Colleen Dewhurst, but loved the way Coleen bettervthen with 2 L's but hubby didn't. When he was busy helping our oldest 2 almost 3 st the time hold and introduce herself to her beloved and longingly awaited for baby. The hospital staff asked for her name.cI was the only one paying attention, so I gave them the spelling of both Caitlynne and Coleen and by the time hubby noticed it was to late to change it and his mom thought it looked prettier with one L anyway. Hubby being a mama's boy relented.

[@miminana-hd6nf]

been with my husband over 40 years. I guess we both have "princess" complex, along with our kids. None of us have an issue asking someone to get us something and none of us have an issue fetching it for them.

[@NathanielTavington]

I'm disgusted by the idiots who bashed the GF when it was clear even before the update that she was raped.

[@niaavalon8828]

As someone with DID, I can honestly say that the girlfriend is VERY SUSPICIOUS! My inner tribe all developed the days the worst sort of abuse happened, starting when I was two. NONE of them have names associated with anyone else, especially people in my adult life. Alters are there to protect me from the horrific memories, and there are protectors who ensured that no one came forward in social situations! This girl is crazy, but NOT with DID! I have since fully integrated, but that isn't for everyone. She needs help! As for the girl assaulted when she was drunk, ALWAYS PRESS CHARGES or the Richard will do it again to someone else!!!

Also the brother comes off as creepy, he has no issue with his GF becoming his 3yo niece? Like yeah everyone is concerned about crazy girl and all I am thinking is maybe they need to be very watchful of brother with any kids around.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 Black out drunk? Nope. That is not consensual. That is rape.

[@teenalot1235]

Mark will never let the couch parents rest 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅... We love to see it...

[@RedCeltay]

I do believe DID is real, knew someone, well 2 folk over the years that had it. One of them very well, the other more like a friend of a friend. The one I knew well, she had no memories of the seperate personalities. But 1 of her pers did. They knew everything that went on. It was like the "guardian " of the rest. She suffered extreme abuse & SA abuse as a child. That pers (guard)was the one that triggered out to take all the horrors that her little child mind couldn't understand/deal with. Then she had other pers to. She would use a tape player (this was back in the 80's) she'd record everything on. So when her main/real personality came out she could hear & learn what the others did. I remember when something "triggered" her guardian to come out when we were together. Her main actually felt horrible, blamed herself, wrote me a letter of apology on behalf of the guard. Because the guard would never apologize. She had no control at all when the others came out of their behaviors, often cried, felt guilty over what guard did/said(worse Karen &could be physical bully ever in modern terms.) and haveing illness. Hers were created when she shattered from to much for a chils to handel, never "grew a new one that was a copy of another person". This lady in the story needs to see a Dr., or a few to find out what she does have. I think she has some form of illness but not necessarily DID.

Also they might wanna keep kids away from the brother, the fact he sees no problem with this woman "becoming" his 3yo niece is rather disturbing, he has sex with this woman and he is not repulsed by this? If someone I dated began acting like my daughter any sex life we had would be gone instantly and the relationship shortly after.

[@kuehnerthanyou3409]

I will say that while i also wondered about OP's gf in post 1 being SA'd (before the update) i can see why people thought she cheated, plenty of people will actively cheat but claim to have been drunk and not meant it, I could even see someone with ill intent claiming they were so out of it that they forgot their partner existed. That being said, I'm really glad OP kept a healthy amount of skepticism while hearing her out and investigating on his own. Not every situation is black and white, there's a lot of grey in this world. I hope that doucherocket gets jailtime and that OP and his gf heal and have a wonderful life together

[@archangelspythons]

whoa whoa. I don't think the Mildred thing is him believing the ex over his wife. I'm pretty sure it's just an "oh crap. more than one person has experienced this? must be true"

That poor girl was setup in story 1, it is clear as day, there is no way they didn't get her blasted and have a BF just show up. Also the friends claim they saw them having sex, the vibe I get was that it was pure setup and Richard and the other girls knew he would get "busted" in time to prevent him leaving evidence because I noticed how there is no mention of concern about pregnancy. Another sign of it being a setup, too perfect, busted before finishing, girl black out drunk by her friends egging her on, a picture perfect couple many would be jealous of and thanks to seeing crap like this with my own eyes and hearing shit like this, I know women can be vile and evil towards someone they decide is worth putting into the worst situations for some perceived slight or pathetic reason. Makes me glad to be a man, our crap tends to end with a few punches, women though will play nice and set their friend up to be SA'd, and yes this has happened to women I have known and I have overheard the women who claimed to be friends saying the most terrible shit about the victim and making remarks that clearly indicate they had a part in it happening.

[@KE-hr4sb]

"I don't want to be a simp by getting you a drink when your nails are wet." Eh, OP was angry at his language, rightfully so, because the mindset it suggests behind it is concerning. But the minute she got a "dump him," she started defending him and laughing at people...She was almost there.

[@mag3nta_m4sk]

I couldnt imagine the horror of thinking i cheated, then the added horror of realizing it was SA. Terrifying.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- There is no way in hell she was able to consent if those AH friends had to hold her up and walk her to the door!

[@theresaschuebel5151]

I'm 54 and my paternal grandmother's name was Mildred, and she hated it her whole life even though her family called her Milly and she hated that too. My grandfather called her Sally, she liked that better.

[@Griffin050A1t]

The falling in love with his wife was the cutest story ever. Like the happiness literally drips out of every word

[@susanlosey9511]

The parents flashing themselves in front of minor child is against the law. Even if it’s in the privacy of their house.! OP look into the law about that . What the are doing in front in front of a minor child is every way wrong!

[@mynights85]

He's 15, you call the cops. Plain and simple. Call the cops, then call a lawyer, that child should not be in that house.

[@dorianleakey]

Of course redditors were desperate to judge the woman and assume she was an enthusiastic cheater and of course they were wrong. But the way he buried the lede that she needed to be carried in suggests this was a set up to trigger Reddit.

[@susanlosey9511]

The sort of that 10 year old getting bullying. Get paper trail of your ex being indifferent to your daughter getting being bullied. Kept text messages and take him back to court to get full cut of your daughter. NTA. Keep recording of what he leaves and texts. Keep your daughter safe from that toxic family.

[@kyriacarica5862]

Had no idea doing something nice for your partner without keeping score was “princess behavior” but OK. Man, that OP sure sounds like she’s in for quite the marriage

[@kaylafuller8948]

People are ignoring the fact that she was drunk and therefore couldn’t consent so it was technically grape.

[@mrsunderstood8141]

Not technically. It was. And the courts will likely agree that it is given the video.

[@katrinasamuels-garrison825]

What kind of friends pressure you to get black-out drunk and let you wander off with some guy??!! That dude knew what he was doing. 😐😐😑

[@rainbowunicorn2707]

I haven't made it very far through the first story but the OP got me dead with the "sounds to me like she'd be sleeping with other men if she wasn't with me" like yeah dude that's kind of how that works, if you're in a relationship stay loyal to the relationship, if you're not in a relationship you can sleep with whoever you want.

[@Dan1ell]

The second story reminds of the news I have recently heard about some men insisting on naming their daughters after ex-girlsfirends and affair partners, the mothers only finding out years later where the name really came from.

[@TheFlowerchild712]

Prosecco Story: So its okay for her to get him things but not the reverse? Reminds me of the post where the husband expected his pregnant wife to turn off all the lights he turned on and not for her not to expect help. Run girl!

[@miminana-hd6nf]

holy moly. that was rape. I am wondering if she was drugged, too. I hope "richard" ends up in jail. He is a predator.

[@MySjenna]

My ex, now deceased, named our third child, a little girl, after his high school sweetheart. I was recovering from an emergency C-section, and was very weak and disoriented, but I still felt horribly disrespected. I ignored all the red flags with this man and had the most miserable marriage. we eventually got divorced when I couldn’t take it anymore and I will never ever get married again.

[@dianecheney4141]

Can you imagine what would happen if they started flashing each other at Disney

[@susanlosey9511]

#2 story: once a mommas boy, always a mommas boy. NTA. Amelia is a beautiful name.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

If she was, in fact, blackout drunk, she could NOT consent. That's assault. Wtf?

[@autumnjey4683]

what is wrong with reddit in that first story? as soon as i read it i thought "oh my god OP's girlfriend was SA'd, why can't they see that?" and then the COMMENTS going on about her being a cheater?? what is wrong with people

[@WyntheRogue]

The misogyny is fairly strong in many a reddit post involving relationships. I ascertain sexism can go both ways, but I've always witnessed more misogyny than I've seen misandry,especially with the incel camp being emboldened by the usual suspects of roid raging Andrew Tate [*barf*] clones spewing their garbage in podcasts. It's their victim blaming mentality that leads various women and men alike hesitant to report their ordeal out of fear of being dismissed as a whore or unmanly.

[@HeliosX28]

Can't say I'm surprised because now we have examples and cases of women lying about being SA... I've seen cases get drop because the truth was the woman just being a POS cheater and didn't want lose her bf...

[@cchastant8251]

2:18:55 For the guy who lost his wife in childbirth, and made a platonic second marriage. Dude... when I got married, I don't recall a single vote about having "sexy time" with my partner. To 'love, honor, and cherish,' are the common words used, and it sounds like you have honored the letter and spirit of these far better than many who marry so others will think better of whom they sleep beside. I say... go for it!

[@nathanpond27]

41:54 DID is a hotly contested disorder. And it’s incredibly rare do have a case that’s as severe as this one.

[@arilatesha]

The name thing; my dad ended up naming me (first and middle) after two women he was cheating on my mom with. When my mom found out, they changed the pronunciation of my first name. I go by Ari(think mount airy) but originally it was supposed to be Arri but yk, dad got found out lmao

[@nathanpond27]

48:34 It’s quite likely that the girlfriend has something that has a delusional if she truly believes that she’s your niece. But it sounds more like she has BPD

[@nathanpond27]

30:59 I’ve never heard of a case of PPD that lasted this long and caused this much sustain towards the child, especially when the mother doesn’t bear any parental responsibility.

[@ChocoreetoRin]

People need to STOP going into a relationship with awful PIL’s.

[@Luve2020]

The SA story. Man…I’m so glad her bf is standing by her after that.

[@jjr9792]

"Self-diagnosis is valid" Has to be the , most idiotic, ridiculous, and irresponsible statement I've ever heard outside of a Russian Badger Phonk Tiktok (which is satire). It does, however, explain why I'm seeing "Please do not confuse your Google search with my Medical Degree" on so many coffee cups in the hospital's break room these days. [RE: 43:41]

[@GabrielBadwolf]

That girl in the first story sounds more like she got drugged than drunk

[@MySjenna]

For the last story, where the guy married, in order to get promotions at work, not really feeling romantic love for his new wife: She knows. Women have this intuition she could tell when you first married her that your heart wasn’t completely in it. And she can tell by the way that you look at her now that you love her wholeheartedly. Tell her in a way that doesn’t tell her. buy a beautiful bouquet of flowers, give them to her and tell her that when you were younger, you made decisions based on immature reasons. Now that your older one decision has turned out to be the best decision you’ve ever made. Don’t elaborate don’t go into details just give her the flowers and give her a romantic kiss.

[@nathanpond27]

54:14 This nanny is a badass!

[@ebagentj]

With story one, once she said she "cheated" while so drunk she couldn't even remember it, my mind immediately went to assault. I thought maybe she got drugged somewhere along the way, but it sounds like she was just encouraged to drink far more alcohol than she normally would which lead to "Richard" doing the unthinkable. Even if she did get drunk of her own volition, as Reddit told OP, she could not legally consent. I'm glad OP agreed to help her through the horrible process that is trying to get justice, including getting the CCTV footage from the bar of her "consent" not even being a "yes". Also glad he's letting her have time and get counseling as she processes all of this. This story reminded me of another where it was the man who confessed tearfully that he had cheated on his fiancee, and it turned out a couple of his "best friends" set him up to be sexually assaulted in a similar way because they disliked/didn't want him to be with his fiancee.

[@teamaang7915]

Gay sister in law story, op's husband got sa'd by a priest 100%. That's his past trauma and why he's been so upset and needs to see a therapist independent of op.

[@chasefrost1401]

You don't put that evil on me Ricky-bobby!!

[@sedna3228]

So the girlfriend gets punished for being raped?

[@glenpersinger3390]

Proposal... sadly, you can't believe anything she says. Your trust can't be fixed by stalking her.

[@TransparentSteel]

First of all, naming a child is for both parents, the husband should have believed his wife ffs but he needs a 3rd party's perspective because his wife isnt a person to him.

[@BloodSunBlast]

Drunk people, yes including guys in this, can't consent when under the influence. That means anything sexual after a few beers, a little weed, drugs could make either both or one of y'all a "sex offender" I guess whoever reports it first. Idk how the law works, but I'd think if it works for one gender it should be the same for the other. I understand that's not always the case.

[@crisf7125]

Just love your commentary 😂 You crack me up.

[@muhname6052]

First story: "When I told her that I was going to purpose, her feelings were complicated." What? You mean she wasn't jumping for joy when she found out her childhood sweetheart wasn't going to purpose because she got graded? Shocker.

[@RaspberryHugs]

If you are able to remember it the next day then you were at a point to say no.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Story 1: Sounds like a great story are thought of when op was crying. The fact she recalls not remembering op sort of confesses the true story.

[@yahainHotPink]

Story 1. So Angry at her "friends."

[@kirksnowden8023]

So mom is great for caring about her daughter. No mom is a naive, incompetent woman. Why is it that she doesn’t truly explain why they got divorced. I’m to believe she didn’t notice his attitude and/or racist behavior. Also she was debating whether to press charges for the beating and terrorizing my daughter. I personally be debating how I want to dispose of the body ( no not a joke ). They got one chance, that’s it. Then she let her go back to the house. Yeah right, great mother.

[@DocKrazy]

Third story? Dang I really hope a lack of another update means the situation calmed tf down for OPs sake. Who needs enemies with a "mother" like that. Asking for babysitting money ffs. You could tell right away she is not "emotionally" mature for shit just by how she immediately jumped to ad hominem the second OP did not play along with her lie in the first post. She's 17 going on 18 (actually she's 33) Number's still out on the dad though. Him "doing collage things at collage" or "posting things on social media" doesn't say a lot. But it's understandable how it can bother OP. I also really hope they find out what the hell happened with the money the father sent to OP, cause I'm getting the feeling "mother" pocketed it all.

Also if he did have some contact with the mother, she could of lied, which we know she is perfectly capable of, and he thought his kid was okay and doing fine so went on to do those things thinking OP had a caring mom at home.

[@staceyhunt6769]

Naming is so funny to me! When I was pregnant with my oldest, we had his full name sorted, and a full name for if he was a girl (Joke's on us because they're gender fluid! 😂 Any pronouns go, very chill with it). We then used our girl names with our daughter, and had boy names sorted for if it was 'wrong', and an additional girl name for if it was twins. Next child we did more spontaneously to honor our loss between him and his sister. We have a boys name and a girls name on standby in case we want to have another child. The biggest challenge we had was how to combine last names (Hyphenated, mine then his). We never understood how people find it so hard. 🤔

[@SilverLady52]

I have a friend named Mildred...she's a model lol

[@robotface42O]

What amazing friends. 10/10 would be friends

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - OP is going to make his wife think he has cheated on her with all the over the top spoiling of her. He needs to slow down and take a more natural way to treat wife or he will be the one telling her the truth to stop her divorcing him.😅

[@SpecSolve]

That is the most Long Island story I’ve heard that place is a fucking disgrace to humanity. As a former resident of 20 years I’ll never live there again

[@susanlosey9511]

Drop those girl friends. They are not friends of hers. I wouldn’t be surprised if Richard told them to do that.

Or they set it up for Richard, I have been around some women (whom I dropped as friends ASAP after figuring out what they did) who made fun of and even said a friend of theirs who got date raped, probably deserved it and liked it. Later talking to the victim I learnt how it went down at first, it was clearly a setup by the other women. Just like this story only my friend got drugged not drunk because she never got wasted on booze because she had been raped in the past that way and was way more cautious, the time I am mentioning involved her drink being spiked while 5 of her gal pals stood around and would of noticed.

[@SpecSolve]

Yeah that’s not how DID works

[@julesr6965]

i feel so awful for that poor girl in the first story… there is NO way that was a consensual interaction. I really hope she can heal EDIT. wow ok yeah! i’m so sorry she had to go through that, and shoutout to op for being so awesome and understanding… i hope they can both heal

[@spects2263]

The moment I heard the first story I immediately knew she was SAed.

[@zine7367]

Why was there no warning for sexual assault I will never watch this channel again

[@kaitlyncramp3100]

The D.I.D one annoys me because I know someone that does the same but with tourettes. their tics seem to only happen when they aren't getting enough attention from their bf during the campaign or are annoyed about a situation. Their tics have their arm flail out while they stutter out "f*ck you" or "f*ggot". These fails typically end up resulting in what looks like them slapping their bf. They never ticked for like the first 6 months of the campaign then it happened every session after a new person joined. Used it as an excuse to ban them from my home though "we don't lay hands on people we love in this apartment"

[@TonksRules]

I was surprised no comments in the first story thought of it being assault. With the drinking, her immediately coming clean and being upset, and their long relationship...no one even questioned it being consensual??? I thought of that right away as a possibility.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

DID story: DID is real but with how it manifests and how rare it is, it doesn’t sound like it. I know folks with diagnosed DID. They’re 100% accountable for their alters and actions. I know someone who has alters that get violent so didn’t have kids. I worked in a facility with folks with the condition. But you cannot program an alter like that. Communicating with alters is a hard process that is about trying to either reunify(if that’s your goal, I’m not a reunificationist) or minimize distress and symptoms. But I know folks with the condition that the courts took rights from and they and their drs agree. It’s a harsh condition that is often deadly to person with it. And yes people fake it. I know someone whose own psych said that. I was there because they were trying to excuse hurting me. I have an abuser with the condition who genuinely remembers nothing but owns it and has made things right. There’s folks in between. But the thing is, everyone is either accountable or so deep in it they’re essentially disabled. It’s not cute. It’s devastating and cosplaying a genuine illness for lols is WHY folks get stigmas and can’t get help.

[@ce731]

You can't pray away the gay ... there is no need!

[@snowdrop6046]

Why do people drink alcohol it's so dangerous in many ways

[@brendaG73]

SC school for the deaf and blind is is Spartanburg, SC. The next county over. (I live in Spartanburg and grew up very near the school)

[@vanguardangel6912]

The DID/Age-Regression story stood out to me. Something is absolutely up with the girlfriend, but I’m not sure if it’s either of those specific disorders(? Is that the right term?). This feels more like a delusion than anything. Regardless, she needs professional help. And to stay away from OP and their children, not just to protect themselves but to stop feeding into the possible delusion. And brother needs to step the fuck up or GTFO. Speaking as someone who’s had a psychotic break before, we need actual help during those times, not coddling or enabling.

[@glenpersinger3390]

Sadly trust can't be revived with rules!😢😅 ❤. Fidelity is what protects trust! Irresponsible drinking is fraught with danger!

[@atty7697]

Story 1 - stuff like this is why we should know our alcohol limit and stick to them. Alot of people cannot control themselves while drunk. She tanked her life albeit, while drunk. His girlfriend needs new friends.

[@Spikex99]

@@RisetoStrength Then you are lucky, cause you know something that can go away while you're drunk? The ability to stop someone from forcing you to do something you otherwise wouldn't have