My Relationship Started As A Prank That Went Way Too Far r/Relationships

[@britnicox3929]

1: Genuinely surprised Reddit mostly gave Emily the benefit of the doubt and told OP to stay with her. Their MO is usually to run as far away as possible 2: I feel really bad for this poor kid. They lost their mom when they were 12, is losing their dad at 17, AND their siblings are all sacrificing the same opportunities for her that they had bc of it. I wish her the best tbh cuz she’ll need it

[@bbjjbb61]

Why are you surprised? She is a woman. Women get a pass on most things.

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

It's reddit. They're incredibly biased for women

[@WyntheRogue]

​@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets Not really,I've seen a fair ratio of accolades for posters of both sexes, who hurt you dude?

[@britnicox3929]

@@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets regardless of if I disagree with you about the bias, they’re not usually on the side of someone who lies to their partner. I’m surprised they didn’t start accusing her of cheating on him with all of his friends

[@jazzamethyst8225]

@@WyntheRogue There tends to be a double standard for the advice they give for men vs women. The expectations for both genders tends to be different as well. There was one story where the man got shit on because his wife and himself agreed that things would be fifty/fifty and she would go back to work 6 months after the birth of their child. She quit her job and said that he shouldn't be upset about having to do all of the household work and work 70 hrs per week along with doing sole baby care on weekends. He said he wanted to spend more time with his kid and asked her to at least get a part time job or work opposite shifts with him and she refused citing that she didn't want their kid in daycare, so his bother offered to babysit for free and she still refused. Redditors where saying he's an Ah because babies need their mother's more than their father's and he shouldn't have any complaints because she was doing the bulk of childcare. At the update he said that they got divorced and she put the kid in daycare despite his mother offering to care for the child and her friends were attacking him for making her financially unstable.

[@bloxnirogaming5269]

Story 2: learning one of the siblings has multiple properties was like an anchor dropping. If I was the father, I'D BE FUMING PISSED.

[@Hoosierdilf]

Exactly it’s the SIBLING’s property not the dad so why would u be fuming? Because they aren’t using their own money to care for the dad?

[@babybookworm003]

@@Hoosierdilfimagine having one child having multiple properties etc then you saved college tuition for another child. You appoint the better off child poa and then that child pulls the college money out from the other child because it’s not in either a trust or college fund. So the wealthy child isn’t really sacrificing money for your care but your high schooler is being forced to sacrifice their future for your care. I can bet that would anger a lot of parents

[@dorianleakey]

​@@Hoosierdilfthey only have the money as they had everything handed to them on a platter and still aren't satisfied, they want to take money intended for their sister so they can inherit more. They are after his money because they are evil and entitled and useless and would not be where they were without their father, yet they only care about getting more from him.

[@jkman9828]

@@Hoosierdilf You must be just as much as a fucking rat as the oldest brother, lol.

[@rockalleanv]

They should give back the 150k that they got from him then. They are doing his dad dirty for not being more compassionate

[@lightzkindude]

She don't wanna play with people's emotions but decided to date him as a prank🤦🏽‍♂️

[@757Bricksquad]

I know right. This girl is evil.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Mom could come back from the dead to tell those siblings off and they’d still screw over OP just so they can buy a new Lexus.

[@Steampunkkids]

I have a feeling that OP’s Mom was NOT the other siblings’ Mom. The siblings seem treat OP with some resentment.

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

I agree with steampunk. Bet op is from the 2nd wife and that's one of the reasons the siblings are being gutless shits

[@DeathclawJedi]

CRAP ZOMBIES! 😱😱 :*BOOM*☠🤣

[@SherriLyle80s]

S1 "Am I a bet? Am I a stupid bet?" I swear, this sounds like a movie plot.

[@kaykay8855]

I would watch it.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

I love that dumb movie😂

[@Bleg94]

wasn't a plot like that in "Not Another Teen Movie" ? but with genders reversed

[@charlesholland4239]

@@Bleg94love that film!!

[@lessoriginal]

that's because it probably is. It is very likely made up.

[@sdragonfly5549]

S1. Emily is being treated like the good guy here. What kind of a person even considers going along with this kind of prank to manipulate someone's feeling. She had no intention of telling him until his "friends" brought it up. The foundation of this relationship was based on cruelty and a lie. I would not entertain this relationship at all, but it's OPs choice I guess. His ex-friends are AH and they are AH to each other as soon as crap hit the fan they just ate each other alive. This group seriously needs to disperse they just feed on one another.

[@ondank]

Story 1 : why are people being so nice to Emily. What she did is horrifying. She only backed away from the horrifying thing when she gained something. What an awful person.

[@dennisperry8579]

It's one of those double standard things... It's only bad when men do it, lol. There was a post awhile back, where the relationship started as a bet, but ended up being real, and everyone said she needed to leave the guy, lol.

[@natashahenry5044]

Right I don’t know why either. We was in on the prank to. Like you know what type of conversations she use to have with his old friends.

[@mustbetheSUN]

This. I guess, if I'm reaaaaally understanding, I could say she was maybe more stupid than evil. But still, who wants to stay with a stupid person.

[@feetpolice7135]

She let her "boyfriend" be manipulated day after day by their "friends" And he forgave her, so now she'll never learn. She will never stand up for him. She will never communicate if the topic makes her uncomfortable. She may not even be attracted to him, just enjoys how he treats her.

[@lifewithlee6298]

How old are these people? They sound like teens ? Not adults

[@timtompkins8774]

Story 2: they don't want to spend their money and that's the only reason they're using the OPs money.

[@zarahfrancisco3734]

Story 2: OP's brothers are selfish AH. if I were the dad, I'll make an iron clad will and leave every single asset I have to OP, and leave the others a cent, a trash can, and a scathing letter that states they're ungrateful, greedy kids to be read in front of the entire family.

[@uh8myzen]

I doubt he can now. If the POA has kicked in with a diagnosis of cognitive impairment, a will written after that point could be challenged by stating he was not of "right mind" when it was written. Of course, I'm no lawyer, but it seems to me that any hope of creating a new iron clad will flew out the window at the moment of the cognitive impairment diagnosis that necessitated the POA.

[@JohnWilliams-wl9px]

@@uh8myzenreminds me of a documentary I watched about this rich guy who had a bunch of kids even a toddler by the time he died. He left them with barely the minimum because he flat out didn’t want them to rely on his money. His kids tried to argue his lawyer manipulated him to change the will, despite most of money from the estate was going to charities.

[@CelluliteYogaPants]

They might not actually be jerks … Medicaid rules say you can’t give away any assets within 5 year of applying… giving this money might make it so he can’t get some types of medical insurance. I think the siblings should agree to help the younger sibling since the dad can’t

[@LadyWolvie82]

@@uh8myzen It also depends on the US state where the PoA is (former Medical Power of Attorney here). Because the sibling is a Springing PoA, the Springing PoA has limitations of what they can do, as opposed to the Durable Power of Attorney. Based on what OP is saying, it sounds like they have a chance against the sibling because it may seem like the dad can't make sound decisions, but the dad is of sound mind when the $150K is brought up; the dad sounds like he doesn't want to prolong the suffering, and the siblings are a piece of work.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: funny how Emily said that she doesn’t like to play with people’s emotions but agreed to play with op’s emotions by complying with the prank. Update: Op’s a bigger person than me, I honestly wouldn’t have taken her back. I’m glad that op still went NC with those friends.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Oh shut up and open has redeemed herself

[@kaykay8855]

@@KadeStringer2.0 she willingly went along with the ‘prank’ and so did most of his friends. She did played with his emotions at the beginning of their relationship.

[@shylavender]

@@kaykay8855Ugh, this “Kade” is a troll. They always comment things like this on so many Reddit story videos, mostly siding with total AHs 🙄 it’s some kid with nothing better to do and no morals.

[@kaykay8855]

@@shylavender ok. 👍🏾

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

The commenters calling Emily a "good person" are flabbergasting me. How fucking low are your standards that someone who would agree to a viciously cruel prank like that is a "good person"? And now OP is going out on a limb for a two month relationship with a girl that fully intended to bite said limb. She fully intended to fuck with OP’s emotions, what else is she capable of? On the bright side, he ditched the shitty friends and that’s a giant leap in the right direction.

[@clarabp2613]

Right! I was like, man, if you like her keep the girl but she agreed in the first place. Why?

[@KadeStringer2.0]

@@clarabp2613she isn’t an awful person

[@cu-8190]

​@@KadeStringer2.0 she isn't a good one either

[@EternaMidnight]

If she was a good person she would have told him about the prank herself

[@purpledragon2442]

Honestly, heading the background and from OPs comments, they all sound like total trash, including OP. He even said that he’d find this whole thing funny if it wasn’t him being suckered. They all seem like garbage human beings.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 1, I'm sorry, but the last time I checked lying by omission is still lying. Not to mention, she agreed in the first place.

[@featherton3381]

Honestly, I don't even think that's the problem. I can see why she avoided talking about it, and I don't think it's an irredeemable breach of trust. The real problem is that she went through with the prank in the first place. It proves that she has a mean streak, and it will come out again once their relationship has passed the honeymoon phase.

[@nanidafaq7626]

let markee out for more than 10 minutes, Conner

[@barbthegreat586]

Start taking vitamin D supplements, Markee.

[@patdpm3807]

😂😂😂😂 Even the worst prisoners are allowed an hour outside a day.

[@darkmask5933]

Connor is a smokescreen! The true warden is Mark from Mark Narrations! He's got Markee locked up in the royal tower in England!

[@TheLastHylianTitan]

Free Him

[@carolroberts4614]

Never! Now he is in the tower, there is no escape!

[@betheguy_posts]

He's not getting closer, they just put him in a smaller cell #freemarkee

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

Connors claiming that he didn’t do it. Someone suspected Mark. But Mark lives in England. We need to find out who did this.

[@5thsister]

🤣😂🤣

[@KayteeTX1]

@@Mew_Mokuba_Akari What Mark Narrations??

[@xdsc96]

​@@KayteeTX1pull up with the waffle gang 🤣

[@xplayfan21]

i think this joke has ran out of gas imo.

[@thotimusprimeofficial273]

2 story: hearing the POA brother is a multi property landlord was so anger inducing yet so unsurprising.

[@LadyWolvie82]

On top of that, OP2 won't be able to get any student aid before they're 24 unless the dad dies before they reach 24 (one of the questions on the FAFSA, last I checked, asks the applicant if they're at least 24 years of age as dad's income will come into play, and I found this out the hard way). The siblings lack this foresight.

[@fufufuaru]

nah: that emily agreed to that cruel prank in the first place. can never trust someone like that.

[@featherton3381]

Exactly! The people excusing her make it about trust. Trust is not the problem here. She's the type of person who agreed to and even went through with that prank. And the only reason she backed down was because she wanted to keep dating OOP, not because she saw any problems with the prank. What is she going to do when their relationship hits a rough spot? Or if OOP one day wants to break up with her?

[@rubyamidala4299]

If Markee stays locked up, he has plenty of time to make more videos #keepmarkeelockedup

[@puppetmasterey]

He only gets his porridge after the videos are uploaded.

[@geckokid8265]

Story 2: op should say to his siblings "You're a pack of vultures, knives out and beaks bloody"

[@EnDB]

Real convenient that they all got university funding and completely removed the possibility for the youngest.

[@axel8282]

Story 2: Individuals like the OP’s siblings may need to face accountability in professional settings (shaming in-front of coworkers, business partners), which could motivate them to contribute their fair share towards shared responsibilities like a parent’s medical expenses.

[@LadyWolvie82]

The fact that OP2 posted the matter on social media, it's a matter of time before it gets to the right people to investigate the sibling (former Medical Power of Attorney here - Springing PoA, along with Medical PoA, have limits, which could be further limits depending on where in the US they live in) for potential misuse of the privileges, as only a Durable PoA can make any decision for the parent at any time. The dad doesn't want to suffer and prolonging a parent's death will become very costly (and selfish of the siblings), as $150K won't be enough due to today's costs for treatment, which doesn't always work as some types of cancer can come back, and at least two other types of cancer lack a cure whatsoever and are also deadly.

[@robinronin]

Story 1: Emily made A LOT of mistakes here. 1) agreeing to the prank in the first place and 2) not telling OP as soon as possible so he could make an informed choice, plus to spare them both this entire situation where the friends use it to hurt him, are her biggest ones. However, there is something to be said about her cutting off the toxic friends, her not denying and/or justifying her actions, and that she likely didn’t tell OP because she didn’t want to hurt him (and lose him, of course, because we are all at least a little selfish). It really takes a lot of work to get past a betrayal like that. The friends should be ditched permanently, and OP can decide whether or not he feels like he can work past this with Emily, and if it’s worth it to him. It seems like he feels it’s worth a try, so I hope for the best for them!

[@bbjjbb61]

No. Just no. This is horrifying. She's an awful person and so are everyone else around him. Everybody's all, "Oh good for her she cut them off" except how tf do we know WHY she cut them off?

[@KadeStringer2.0]

@@bbjjbb61she isn’t an awful person . Sure she made a mistake but she also redeemed herself .

[@Npyne]

​@@KadeStringer2.0She _is_ an awful person. A good person would have never gone along with this in the first place. Woop de do she cut off the the other people. Going out with someone as a "prank" isn't just a mistake, it was an active decision. She only came clean after OP found out the truth from the other morons. Chances are, she never would have said anything if he hadn't found out. She went into this relationship fully intending to hurt OP, all for the sake of having a laugh at his expense. She's just as bad- if not worse- as the "friends".

[@MainStar10]

@@Npyne​​⁠what she did was awful, there is absolutely no denying that. But there is a difference between a person doing an awful thing and someone being awful. Just like the reverse is true in an awful person being able to do object good things. This isn’t to say that Emily is necessarily a good person. Or that OP should stay with her, or that you are not entitled to be of the feeling that she did something unforgivable in your eyes. They are pretty young, and while does nothing to excuse it, it does not. There is also something to be said about group mentality and getting away from a group to see a different perspective. She distanced herself from the group after actually getting to know the OP, and realizing what she was doing was wrong, or at least would be perceived as wrong. Would she have done so if she hadn’t caught feelings? I don’t know, and neither do you. Maybe she left the group because she disliked the reminder of what she did wrong and felt guilty. Guilty because she realized the action itself was wrong or guilty because she now had positive feelings towards the OP. Maybe a bit of both. Maybe she just didn’t like the questions they were asking and she didn’t want to lose her chance to continue to use the OP somehow. Maybe this experience has helped her grow as a person, and maybe it has not. Whatever is the truth, OP would still be completely justified in leaving her. He would also be completely justified in staying. People are complicated, and lines are very rarely so neatly drawn. As much as I am one to also get onto the Reddit bandwagon of bashing, I think it’s important to sometimes step back and remind ourselves life is much more grey than black and white.

[@saffronjay3903]

​@@bbjjbb61i just thinks she's really young.

[@ashh4929]

Yeesh, the first story sounds like a gender flipped 90's rom com. Pity, dude sounds like a good guy. He didn't deserve that.

[@Bleg94]

Not Another Teen Movie it reminds me of the basic plot of that movie, with some genders reversed

[@ashh4929]

@Bleg94 Exactly.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

I'm pretty sure this is based off another reddit post just like this with the genders flipped, in that one it was a woman whose brother's friends bet on who could have sex with her first to "put her in her place" but he ended up liking her.

[@Bleg94]

@@SvarogAristaeusAllen ah that one also possible, they were really similar

[@shylavender]

@@Bleg94Not Another Teen Movie was a parody of She’s All That - that’s the original version of that movie from the 1990s…

[@LisaApril]

Or about the story, the older man who dated the younger sister of his friend because he thought she was arrogant and wanted to put her in her place but now they have kids when she found out. I think that is horrible.

[@Darkfur94]

Thats nice, they let you do a lap around the prison yard

[@darkmask5933]

Story 1: I'll point out something that no one else is, the two males who came up with the prank and cornered OP to say "I can't believe Emily didn't dump you yet, cause it was a prank and she was supposed to hurt you", they were 100% knew Emily had changed her mind. Emily cut them off and obviously was still dating OP, there was no way Thing 1 and Thing 2 didn't realize Emily called off the prank because she genuinely liked OP. At that point, they were just angry OP was happy and wanted to punish Emily for not doing what they said and didn't buckle to social pressure by cutting them off.

[@katie6731]

Great catch! I missed this, too. I wonder how long these "friends" have been bullying OP. No one comes up with a setup like this, unless they've already been doing some serious damage to other people. I didn't recognize the story Markee brought up. It reminds me of the girl whose stepbrother's friends--guys who were a decade older, while she was still in highschool, or something--made a bet about who could sleep with her first, then dump her to humble her. The story came out after she'd already married the guy. It was incredibly toxic. I don't understand how people can be so cruel, especially when the victim hadn't done anything to hurt anyone. 😔

[@Siinwu]

doesnt excuse Emily, she is still rotten, she had weeks to tell OP but choose not to.

[@BeingLolaStar]

I think some of it is less if Emily learned her lesson and won't lie again, and more about if OP will forgive Emily and regain trust. Every time they disagree, any time she does something weird, any time she's late, any time she makes a mistake, etc will he wonder about her motivations and question if she's lying. How do you even go rebuilding trust after a lie this big?

[@owl7072]

She liked him but didn't have the decency to tell him what his "friends" were up to? I'm not even gonna focus on how she was in on it from the start, she has a lot of nerve to say she started actually liking him but didn't have the damn backbone to tell him how shitty his friends were being/trying to be.

[@beckyreiche2219]

For those who don't know, a Springing Power of Attorney only takes effect when the person who issued it is deemed mentally incapacitated by a physician or a the courts and really can only be revoked through the courts or if a physician states they're no longer incapacitated. They really are kind of stuck there and it really sucks😢

[@NewYorkJennifer]

Story 2, ask father to leave op more in his will.

[@MysticMae21]

Probably can't change it at this point due to his brain injury and not being considered "mental sound" or whatever it's called. The sibilings would fight the will.

[@greendiamondglow]

Emily cut off the friends, but she didn't warn OP? She would've let them continue playing in his face if they hadn't said something first. Yeah...really sounds like a keeper 🙄 The thing is, she WASN'T honest with OP. She only came clean cause she got caught. Emily AND the friends are too old for this mess. Personally, I would only stay with an Emily if she told me up front what my "friends" were doing, but I am attracted to people who are honest even when it's hard. Not people who will lie to keep from getting in trouble. But I hope OP leaves this relationship with a better idea of what he wants out of his next relationship.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

S2: Another oldest son exercising his power to screw people over. Tale as old as time, tbh.

[@LadyWolvie82]

He's a Springing Power of Attorney, which has limits (unlike Durable Power of Attorney), and the state they're based in could have further limits. Based on the information OP provides, they have an outside chance of having that sibling investigated (or whatever) for misuse of that PoA. As a former Medical PoA, whoever the Durable PoA is, it's the Durable PoA that has more weight than a Springing. The dad doesn't want to suffer from the illness and it's VERY selfish of the oldest sibling to prolong that. The siblings also need to see that 1) prolonging things could reduce their inheritance, 2) $150K won't be enough, 3) some types of cancer can come back, with two types lacking and cure and those two types will kill you, 4) the older siblings will be forced to downsize as the treatments will surpass the $150K & 5) OP won't get any help before they're 24 due to one particular question on the FAFSA form (I found this out the hard way when I first filled it out, despite what my sperm donor told me when I was 21, as income from the parents WILL come into play if one parent is alive; the only way out for OP is to hope that dad dies before they're 24)

[@coreymartin6486]

The big question thats on everybody's mind......has markee been getting any visits from family and friends? And what they think of this inhumane treatment?

[@damien678]

He's got friends?

[@amiehome4687]

Markee, those friends that pushed Emily on their friend are better friends than Connor! Ten minutes outside is not enough! He isnt a true friend!!

[@Germania72]

Story 1: I'd be afraid of being with Emily's capable of manipulating op like that. Hmm, she lied. What's wrong with Reddit that day? I remember there was the case of a guy starting the relationship as a prank and everyone told op to dump the guy. Edit: I like this op. He gave her another chance, but with conditions. She will have to earn his trust.

[@DMobi]

Double standards sadly.

[@j.j.juggernaut9709]

Except the difference in that story from awhile back is that the much older guy preyed upon a barely legal girl to "break her feisty character" or something of this sort so his actions were taken as creepier

[@maryjanedodo]

If the dad's still of sound mind he should be able to change his POA without too many issues, if not he should make video recordings of his wishes so that OP can publicly shame or sue their AH siblings. Being that spoilt & stingy never goes down well with a judge. Neither does dismissing a dying persons reasonable wishes...

[@saffronjay3903]

He's already been declared as not of sound mind that's the point

[@LadyWolvie82]

@@saffronjay3903 If that's the case then why has the dad repeatedly stated that he wanted OP to go to college without paying for it? That sounds like one of a sound mind to me because the treatments have yet to start, or one that doesn't want to suffer from the illness. The dad also tried to remove the sibling from being PoA before, which can allude to misuse of the Springing PoA (which has limits, unlike the Durable PoA; I speak from previous experience as a former Medical PoA - unless you're a Durable PoA, and quite possibly the state too - there are limits to just about every other PoA that's not a Durable, which the individual US state can further limit the privileges). The siblings should be honoring their father's wishes instead of prolonging the inevitable (which can go well above the $150K, and the siblings all will have to sell stuff along with their spare properties; this could also affect their inheritance to where they get little to nothing at all).

[@Bleg94]

1. Story: "She said she doesn't want to play with peoples emotions" ... what a bold lie, she just backpaddled because she felt that OP gives her more than whatever she would've gotten out of that prank, she is an evil person "Emily is a keeper", "You need to surround yourself with good people like Emily" ... sorry but no, Emily is NOT a good person, she is anything BUT a good person, a good person never would've agreed to that prank, a good person would've warned OP about his "friends" Emily is just barely less evil than those "friends" She already did show OP what kind of person she is, she is someone that toys with peoples feelings for shits and giggles She is a manipulator and OP would be better off without her

[@elski5067]

Story 1: weak guy if you dimped your friends you have to dump that girl too. She participated in the act of humiliating you. Treat your friends one way and your fake girlfriend another way because you want to simp for her.

[@comajuice]

S1 I think she could get a second chance, but she's not a good person. She DID go through with it. She just didn't finish the "prank". She's a bad person with the possibility of being a good person. But she isn't a good person.

[@nicknitro86]

If my friend told me this story about how the relationship started as a prank, my first reaction would be 'what the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you still with her?'

[@kirashepard5942]

The story of the sick father, can't he re-write his will and let the older brother out because of how he is behaving?, that way op could get the money via inheritance later on

[@EnDB]

Technically, the older brother could spend every dime before he dies, leaving nothing to go in a will.

[@Fran-vt5xm]

I think you need your POA approval to change the will

[@WolvenDragonZ]

The power of attorney part is what complicates it

[@LadyWolvie82]

@@Fran-vt5xm The Durable Power of Attorney would be the one that can get that done now, which the brother is not, because the brother is the Springing Power of Attorney, which the Springing PoA has limits in place, which some states could further limit what they can do on top of the type they are (I'm a former Medical PoA for my mother, who passed away in 2021). OP mentions that there were attempts made to remove the sibling from the PoA in the past, which can allude to potential misuse of that PoA.

[@Warlady_]

Congrats on that sunlight. 😂 Did u also touch grass? 😉 🎉

[@tracicolvis7382]

Story 1: those trash "friends" were just pissed that Emily cut them off and didn't follow through with hurting and humiliating op, so they took matters into their own hands and tried to break them up. As the saying goes, with friends like these who needs enemies? And as pragmatic as op seems to be, it's surprising to me that he was still giving them the benefit of the doubt. "Maybe they did it to give me a taste of a relationship." No, op. They did it purely because they thought it would be hilarious to hurt and embarrass you. Glad he ditched them, although I think he's being too nice to the three who just "went along with it."

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Excuse me? So, your siblings got their college played for but they have taken your college money so they didn’t have to use any of their money to help you or your dad. So , your siblings don’t care for you at all. Are you a half sibling? The siblings are greedy. Take the best revenge. Live well. No matter what happens with your siblings never ever contact them again. Hopefully they will need you someday so you can disrespect them the way they disrespect you. Good luck OP. This is disappointing at best. They definitely don’t care about you.

[@bernieheartdragon1888]

If 90's movies have taught me anything, OP needs to get mad ...run away. Break up with Emily....then Emily does a grand gesture to win him back and then the movie ends with a bad ass girl band jam.

[@meagancall5005]

Story 2: "waiting for him to die much sooner so they can divvy up that 150k..." I dunno... I'm not sure that's a fair characterization. Assuming they're in the US and Dad's medical costs are almost certainly going to blow through that money and then some. This is a difficult situation and I don't think OP is wrong to feel cheated at all, but also it's not clear that the siblings are necessarily wrong either. Particularly from a legal standpoint. (Not a lawyer but) The sibling is completely correct that by holding power of attorney he is legally obligated to use the father's money in the best interest of the father... and despite what his wishes might be in this specific situation, I'm doubtful that any judge would agree that prioritizing a child's college tuition over immediate medical cost is in the father's "best interests." Like, it's not just a matter of whether the brother has the legal RIGHT to do refuse this, he may have a legal obligation to refuse, he may actually be in trouble legally for using the money to pay for OP's college when projected medical costs are expected to require those funds. Again, not a lawyer, so I may be wrong here, but I don't think it's quite as simple as "why don't they just pay the medical expenses and give him the money." I also really don't get the sense that OP has a realistic understanding of what those costs could look like, and at 17 I would not expect that OP can accurately assess how capable the siblings really are of taking on that medical burden. "The dad thinks OP's future is more important than his future because he's dying." That is definitely NOT how a patient's best interest is perceived in any court of law, and it's a good thing, because it opens up vulnerable people to all sorts of financial abuse and elder abandonment. It's very very easy to use that justification to strip someone of funds in the name of "helping" future generations. "My oldest sibling is just trying to min/max our father's money so it lasts as long as humanly possible." That is exactly what he's supposed to be doing as POA. This is sort of a unique situation though, because OP is actually still a minor and a dependent. I don't really know how care of a dependent factors in in situations like this. Is OP's father still his legal guardian? Because it's got to be pretty unusual for a person with primary financial responsibility of a child to be considered medically incapable of controlling their own finances. "What Dad should have done was put exactly $150k in trust for the youngest, for college, and then done the POA." THIS THIS THIS exactly. This is all really unfortunate, but I don't think it's fair to assume that the siblings are screwing OP over the way OP seems to think they are. Ethically speaking? The 4 older siblings who benefited from a completely free education, and who each apparently drive cars in excess of 100k, should collectively agree to pay, not for dad's health costs, *but for OP's college costs.* College costs are (relatively) fixed, whereas medical costs can run through cash in no time flat. Even if the siblings are doing as well as it sounds like they are, having adult children be responsible for a parent's medical cost is a risky proposition. Legally, it's their money, so there's no restrictions on the siblings paying tuition (and room and board) like there might be with a POA. Personally I think this is what OP should be arguing for. This is what's fair, and it's also a more reasonable ask than saying they should be paying for dad's medical care. And OP is understandably pissed at her siblings right now, but I think there's a decent chance they'd actually go for something like this, because it's much more likely to ACTUALLY be within their means than expecting them to take on Dad's medical costs.

[@LadyWolvie82]

Former Medical Power of Attorney here! The story mentions the sibling is a Springing PoA, which has limits (even a Medical PoA has limits, which could also be affected by the state they live in), unlike a Durable PoA which is the strongest of the bunch. There could be further limits in the state they live in based on the type of PoA. Because OP posted the matter on social media, and I base this on the varying comments I've seen, OP may have an outside chance to get the sibling investigated for potential misuse of the privileges, as one item that caught my attention was that the dad TRIED to remove the sibling as PoA before, which can allude to potential misuse of PoA by the sibling. With the age gap being that huge, and the siblings likely having resentment for OP. Why if that's the case? We probably won't know. OP will be NC with the siblings after the dad dies (they replied to a comment with that, which is supported by the noted age gap). Regarding other aspects, the dad sounds like he doesn't want to prolong things any longer than necessary who appears to be of sound mind when expressing that, and with the costs of treatment going well beyond $150K nowadays, the siblings all need to downsize a good deal as well after it's all said and done, and if they're also unwilling to do that, then it opens up at least a can of worms, and maybe more than one can of worms too. Their inheritance will ALL be affected in a bad way. OP most likely won't be able to get any student aid before they're 24 (one question on the FAFSA that I can remember - and I found this out the hard way - asks the applicant their age; if they're under 24 and also answered no to the remaining questions they're considered a dependent even if one parent is still alive unless the parent dies before OP turns 24; siblings lack this exact foresight. I say this because I was 21-22 when I first tried to apply, and my sperm donor was all about that I can get but didn't bother to look at that question, and because he is still alive, I was considered a dependent until I was 24), and they will have to VERY HEAVILY rely on scholarships and grants, which the former isn't guaranteed and OP will have to work to save up a great deal more for their Bachelor's Degree than their older siblings. Since it appears that there might be resentment for OP from the older siblings, OP will have to fend for themselves. In turn, OP will have even more resentment for their siblings. Some types of cancer can come back and kill you (Shannen Doherty is a very recent example of one who lost her battle to cancer, and she fought it multiple times despite the cancer coming back more than once). Some types of cancers lack a cure and can also kill you. Something can go horrifically wrong with the treatments for (insert type of cancer here) and that can kill you. If people don't want to prolong the inevitable, then honor their wish. The siblings should be honoring their dad's wish to ensure that OP can graduate from university and land a good job, not prolong his suffering and they all end up being broke by prolonging the inevitable.

[@alyncook7315]

"I spent ten minutes in the sun" is the type of thing i say when people ask me why i look like a roast tomato

[@Steampunkkids]

Story 2: I wonder if contacting Adult Protective Services and claiming possible fiduciary abuse would help the OP’s situation?

[@Mirtis66]

There is no abuse for using his funds for his own care.

[@NinjaNanya]

Marki-Senpai is so close today, he must have noticed us!

[@radish6740]

Emily deserves no fckng chances. She went into this whole thing with bad intentions.

[@stellamccoy5259]

I guess you've never made a mistake. Wow, I thought Jesus was the only one. I want to meet you.

[@j.j.juggernaut9709]

@@stellamccoy5259 You made a mistake of dating some poor guy as a prank and then breaking his heart by breaking up? Daaaang what a tiny small very forgivable mistake. Truly does not show anything about Emily's character and willingness to play with other people 💀

[@pippo17173]

@@stellamccoy5259 Dude you can't prank someone by pretending to be interested for someone and not expect them to feel betayed and having his mental health sprial out of control. THIS IS NOT FUNNY no matter who your pulling on.

[@lightzkindude]

​@@stellamccoy5259,,a mIsTaKe" 💀💀 Nah u can't be fr, this person KNOWINGLY played with another one's feelings, that ain't no mistake, it jus shows her true character 👎🏽

[@brandyanderson3522]

I'm not saying what Emily did was right, but it feels like when are those times where the consequences and the suffering feel like an abstract. I honestly hope that it's a situation where when she met the person, and therefore, this all became an actual real thing that's going to hurt someone. I hope that regardless of who the victim was that Emily would not have gone through with it. The fact that she liked OP is the reason she stayed and started the relationship and dropped the friends. I think the fact she did not go through with it is good for her building the character to not be involved in something like this again. The fact that she distanced herself from the friends is better. And the fact she honest with herself and OP and not knowing what she would have done if she didn't like OP is the best. Because that showed true reflection and not just a quick no, to get OP to take her back.

[@catwomanva]

Just because you give somebody else power of attorney doesn't mean you can't do things for yourself. The father can still put the money in trust or move it to some other account. As long as he was of sound mind at the time in which he did it, it can't be challenged.

[@rhiannonmackenzie2527]

Exactly! I was waiting for this. Someone can be competent to make some decisions and not others, it doesn't prevent them from making any decisions at all. From the story the cognitive impairment sounds very minor, which is confusing how this has become such a mess. OP is young, so maybe she doesn't realise how unwell her father is

[@DianaRozza]

Story 2 A way to be less unfair to OP: Each got 150k, each gives back 37,5k. Dad still has the 150k and OP will have 112,5k to study. Not perfect, but better than nothing.

[@nyaatama8529]

I hate pointing this out, but if Emily were a guy that started dating a girl this way, how would reddit react? Not the same. Emily is not a good person, if she only changed her mind because she liked him. She is still the type to prank a guy into believing she likes him🤮

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

The dad should change his will so that whatever left goes to op. That way they can focus on his care, then even it out when all is said and done. Nothing for the siblings. They're already set up. But with the offset cost of inflation and op not getting the college money, she should just get everything else. Unfortunately, if he already had power of attorney going, he probably can't change it anymore.

[@LadyWolvie82]

I agree. The type of Power of Attorney mentioned is the Springing PoA, which has limits in place (unlike a Durable PoA, which is the strongest type of the bunch). As OP has mentioned varying things about the matter on social media, it can be a matter of time before the right people catch wind of the story and possibly look into the sibling further.

[@Floratic]

1st story: The commentor is right at 12:22. OP admitted in his first post that if this prank happened to someone else he would have thought it was funny.

[@MagipieMM]

Was wondering if anyone else caught this. They are all awful people, including the OP!

[@Floratic]

@@MagipieMM Exactly!

[@battiekoda]

Why does it seem like everyone is glossing over OP saying they would have gone along with it too? Doesn't seem like he's much better than the rest of them.

[@luckydragon5157]

Vampire Markee... SOMEONE GET A MIRROR

[@mindimerritt490]

I've been through something similar...my ex decided to enlighten me 3 years into a toxic relationship he admitted that when we first got together we just using me have screw around with until he had to move them ended up falling for me.

[@vanillaoreo251]

I swear ive heard a gender swapped story of this, but the guy was trashed in the comments for it

[@Oggystein]

Story 1 just baffles the mind. I mean, imagine if this relationship works out and they end up married. "Mom, dad. Who did you two meet?" Additionally I can't help but think the OP is not going to have that nibbling mistrust in the back of his mind for the entirety of the relationship. "Why is she with me? Is she lying? Is the joke just going on longer than I thought" I really think couples counseling is the only way to go.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Story 1: I have to wonder if by “bet” it was a push for her to ask op out cus she already liked him but was nervous

[@stuffedninja1337]

Glad to see Connor is properly feeding and watering his Markee

[@raptoress6131]

Story 1: Either break up, or take some distance in the relationship and talk it out. It's worrying that she would go along with a prank like that, so if OP decides to stay he should be careful and prepare to build the relationship over.

[@adjwindu70]

Story 1. 3:38 this is why op is an AH along with his friends. He thinks this would be funny if it was happening to someone else (such as one of his ex friends)

[@concrete-d5v]

Idk what people are saying Emily is not a good person, she intentionally sought out a situation where she was going to hurt someone It wasn't a "mistake" a mistake is a fender bender, that was a decision that she tried to walk back If emily was a real good person she would've immediately told OP about the "prank" and let him know that his so called friends are snakes and AHs. Maybe after that they could've started a friendship/relationship on something real.

[@ruddiko]

Hell yeah road to 100k!

[@thesamuraiman]

@Story 1: I remember the story that Markee is referencing. 6:28 The one where the relationship started when the husband just wanted to impress her dad or whatever. But it also reminds me of the story where the husband made a bet with his friends to see who could get with their friend's younger sister first. Why is it more acceptable here in this new story than the other 2? All 3 of those relationships were all built on deceit.

[@lycansniper2295]

Women don't stay in relationships with men they don't like? What alternate reality is this person from? Without touching on abusive relationships I can think of a few reason women stay with men they don't like. 'But I want a baby', 'but I want to be in a relationship', 'but I want to be married'. Those three 'I want's lead women to desperately pick the first warm body that gets too close and death grip onto it no matter how obvious it might be she should leave. Happens to men too. Seriously though, relationships built on lies don't work. Emily lied out of the gate and never intended to come clean. Can't have open communication about hard topics? Great start. If he really wants to give that a try, go back to square one and start learning each other again.

[@sgtjarhead99]

S1 - The fact that Emily would even agree to this cruel "prank" in the first place is a reflection of her character and poor judgement regardless of how remorseful she is. OP should be wary of her if he is going to stay with her.

[@LadyWolvie82]

I read S2 on Reddit, and to this day I am very suspicious of the oldest sibling's intentions of being the Springing PoA, as OP should notify the siblings that OP can't get any aid until they're 24 (I was going through the FAFSA {aid for US universities}, and one HAS to be at least 24 if they reply no to the other questions), and if the oldest sibling would need to be the Durable Power of Attorney to go through every last aspect, and the fact that OP brought this up on social media would raise questions on what the sibling is doing (going outside the limitations of what the Springing Power of Attorney can legally do), which would open the door for an investigation on the sibling who is the Springing PoA. The siblings need to realize that 1) $150K for cancer treatments WON'T be enough nowadays, 2) they most likely will need to sell stuff for some of the future costs due to the number likely surpassing the initial $150K, 3) some types of cancer CAN return and kill people (Shannen Doherty & Wendy Richard are two examples from this century thus far - the latter actress from a British 70s show "Are You Being Served?" - both have passed from multiple bouts of breast cancer each; in both cases, their cancer came back) & 4) the older siblings may not get anywhere near as much inheritance, and OP gets just about everything. Granted, health is important, but do people REALLY want their parents to suffer from whatever illness they have for so many years, to where they go broke when they die? Is that really worth it? I'm guessing the father doesn't want to suffer from whatever cancer (although the type isn't revealed, I suspect it's either one that is capable of coming back to kill despite the complete removal of the type, or one where you will die from due to a lack of a cure {pancreatic or kidney}), and the dad would rather see OP go to university and thrive than OP suffering because the siblings want the dad alive for a longer time. I mention some aspects of the above as a former Medical Power of Attorney - there are rules for each PoA which will also depend on the US state that any type of PoA takes place. The fact that OP mentions stuff on social media, if the right person sees it, would be an instance of it being a matter of time before the sibling who is the PoA is investigated somehow.

[@MelonMoth-hz6yw]

I wouldn't want to try with Emily lol why would I want to keep seeing someone that was willing to partake in the prank in the first place.

[@5thsister]

Far away Markee, really close Markee...we love you just the same! Lol

[@stephjovi]

The real a hole is the US health care system

[@helianabanes4875]

The POA is not wrong about the money. Too bad it wasn't in a college savings account. :( This is a shitty situation, but medical care racks up, fast. 150k is NOTHING, when it comes to long term care. However, if I were the siblings, I would put together money for OP to go to school. It really isn't fair.

[@bbbddvvndg9476]

So why doesn't the dad just get a student loan and then just give it to you. You'll get your school paid for and the power of attorney will have to send funds to pay it off with the medical bills. Not like the power of attorney can force your dad not to do it

[@carolrondou6161]

Emily is NOT a nice person. Don't trust her. Tell her you can start over, date a few weeks and tell her, "It's just a prank." When I was in high-school I had this pulled on me. It's been years and it messed me up for a long time. Even today I second guess myself on whether the people who are my friends really like me or is it all a game.

[@thanos8077]

Story 1:Op is better than me i would've dumped her as well Emily is an awful person it doesn't matter if she cut the other friends off she still went along with it. She's untrustworthy and deserves forgiveness.

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

Story 1: ppl need to stop being nice to Emily, she's a terrible human being... " I don't like messing with people's emotions" But she did... " she choose not to do it" Uhhh she did choose to do it.. She literally did

[@NathanielTavington]

I don't understand how everyone is condemning the friends who didn't stand up for him but blessing Emily who did the exact same thing. She agreed to the prank, she didn't warn him, and she was happy to enjoy the fruits of someone else's cruel plan when it went in her favor. She is just as bad, just because she was "nicer" doesn't put her on any levels above the assholes who planned it.

[@lkayh]

I can see her realizing he’s a keeper and then not knowing how to tell him. Her cutting off the friends is a good sign, but the fact that she was willing to play this “prank” in the first place means he should proceed with caution. The POA story: Unfortunately it’s true that a lot of people who are wealthy are sociopaths who got their by climbing over the backs of others. If they can indeed afford to pay for the father’s care, OP’s brothers are selfish, disgusting human beings.

[@SaturnSenshi3105]

*steps back*

[@emo7636]

Story 1, I thought it was refreshing for the girlfriend to immediately ditch the crappy friends and for OP to give her another chance. I don't know why, but I was rooting for those two so hard.

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Well, I'm glad that OP and Emily are starting from the ground up, especially on Emily's part. She should start realizing that "pranks" like this are anything BUT good natured fun! It's nothing but cruelty and bullying at best, at worst it's Psychopathic behavior! Plus, pranks should be beneath adults and looked down upon! So here's hoping she gets professional help in learning how to be a better person, woman AND girlfriend.

[@mbyerly9680]

Sun-touched Markee is good news. Emily is a mean girl. Good luck to OP. He'll need it. And OP never did say WHY Emily did this. Was she dating someone in the group? Did she do it because it appealed to her mean girl nature? That would make it much easier to know if OP could trust or not trust her.

[@roelthas]

🤦‍♂️His "conditions" are like the bare minimum of any relationship.

[@pippo17173]

Look I can get people who started bad intention can change their way's, but when you do something like this, don't expect a good outcome with the people who support you just dropping you like a rock. Emily should head straight to therapy because the friends to me saw a venerable girl to use and it might lead to personal problem.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Enjoy the rest of your weekend 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@angierucinski5694]

OP knows his new amour has the capacity to engage in this kind of cruelty and still decides to keep her in his life? That's the saddest thing of all.

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 1: First and foremost, those friends are trash and need to be cut out of OP's life. But finding out your partner originally only dated you for this prank. Yikes. She did cut out all those friends which would indicate she's certainly changed. But I'd have a hard time forgiving that. And a relationship is only as strong as it's foundation. I also can't help but wonder what would've happened if she didn't catch feelings for OP.

[@Neyfufu00]

Even if she dumped his friends she was still in on it from the start which doesn't give her a free pass. As you said when will be the last time she lies to you about something like your friends did even if everyone's saying she's a keeper she still went along with it at the start. you can't ignore that

[@Broeckchen]

The friend group thing is really wild. I have legitimately cultivated very wonderful friends for a long time by now. The frequency with which new people entered this small group even just temporarily and then... were hit with some realizations about how miserable their old friends made them, it's stunning. Moat frequently the people entering have been The Designated Open Ear in their former groups and suddenly get listened to for the first time. It's such a shock to their system. The result is that this is just this little web of deeply empathetic people who passionately do their best for each other and it's incredibly cute

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I wonder if Emily was sold the "prank" as a way to boost OPs confidence by going on some fake dates and then she could call it off. And she cut the friends cold turkey when she learned the "prank" angle.

[@meagancall5005]

Story 1: I think he should probably break up with her, unfortunately. They've been dating for two months, which is long enough that she should have come clean by now. It's a short enough time that there's a chance she would have confessed at some point soon, but there's no way to know that now. And that's important. Relationships need honesty to survive. This one started on a big cruel lie. Emily may well be a great girl and it seems like she genuinely likes him. The fact that she cut off the friends points to her being sincere. But at this point it's not really a question of character (or not primarily), it's a question of trust, and she broke that. I know it would be very very difficult for me to trust someone after this, if not impossible. I do think OP is going in with the right attitude/approach, that they're essentially starting from square one and she needs to earn his trust. I hope it works out for them.

[@utatanepiko7087]

I think Markee is being forced by Connor to make videos. Connor is in charge now. #freemarkee

[@ventusxzephyr13]

Story 1: Reddit is so weird. The relationship began on a lie. The one thing that would alleveate the weight of the lie was Her telling him the truth of her own accord. Instead Op had to be the one to confront her. Sure they may love each other but she didn't respect or trust him enough to tell him the real reason they started dating. Hope this girl really reflects on her own dishonestly of omission and can learn to trust her partner

[@susanplatt5331]

Everyone should have learned a lesson here. Don't allow people to manipulate your emotions or your actions. Emily, how could he trust you after that. To the guy, now you know you are attractive to women, don't let this damage you moving forward and if you want to be with Emily, so be it. Glad you got rid of these toxic people.

[@mht4908]

OP was right to dump those loser friends, and though I commend Emily for cutting off the friends before OP even came close to finding out, she's not innocent here. She came in with the intention to hurt OP, and only changed her mind when she developed real feelings, and yes it was so wrong of her to agree on the prank. OP would have to do a lot of work to get over what Emily intended to do, but I also don't think that giving her a second chance would be a bad idea, her ditching the friends immediately does say something about her. If OP likes her enough, Emily can be on a "probatory time" for a bit until OP is able to trust her again

[@yellit1975]

I hope that Markee is able to escape from Conner soon and get the sunlight he so desperately needs.

[@annamarczuk2030]

It's wild how power of attorney is so common in USA. I never heard of it in any other country outside of very rare and extreme cases when someone was deemed insane or intellectually disabled since birth. Who would give away their free will?

[@joycec8]

Babe! New Hostage Markee video just dropped!

[@robpiskulic1443]

Story 1 Op needs to leave her. No relationship works off a lie. If she would of cut the friends and then told you the truth then maybe you would be worth it but she is a lier and only told you the truth after being confronted.