AITA Told Sister Her Wedding Will NEVER BE THAT IMPORTANT To Me - Reddit Stories

[@kitsterling8665]

"...cursed me out for not honoring my sister's wishes." "Do it or you're out." "Okay, I'm out." Dunno about you, but that sounds like honouring her wishes to me...

[@TsukiKageTora]

Don’t give ultimatums with a choice you don’t like the one you gave the ultimatum to choose

[@pharma37]

Our families had to revoke the wedding initiation of a cousin due to the body modification she did during the 5 years since we've seen her. She used to be part of the culture until she was an adult, so she understood. She knew she wouldn't be coming because of it...before she was called. Affiliation is conditional, because you represent the family. There are expectations.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@pharma37 ah, your family is different than OP’s. So what? It has nothing to do with OP and her bridezilla of a sister. Especially with your BS “expectations”. I’d rather be myself than some drone programmed to be one way or you’re out. Your family sound awful.

[@pharma37]

@@TsukiKageTora We prefer our family's ways. Obviously, you're free to respect your family in any way you see fit.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@pharma37 you have your ways but you literally think OP is disrespecting her sister when she didn’t change who she was because of _your_ family values. Your family values isn’t her family’s values. Kicking someone out for any reason besides good reasons as abusing drugs or murdering someone is awful. It’s worse to kick someone out of things for who they are

[@kagekun1198]

Story 4: Deep warning signs of abuser alert. Isolating the wife from her family with his chronic illness excuse, but then leaves town for two weeks and not cutting it short for the birth of his freaking child. Leaving her with his emotionally neglectful stepmom who basically says don't call me in a time when op is very vulnerable, and jumping down her back on her "promise breaking" when he should be celebrating the birth of his child. Very sinister red flags her. I doubt his "chronic illness" is even real now

[@RuminatingRaptor]

I’m wondering what kind of chronic illness requires a person to be near family and not just near a hospital or doctors. Sounds really suspish. Not sure what his family can do over a medical professional. I think it’s BS.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@RuminatingRaptor especially if he can take days and days off from the chronic illness and leave during the birth

[@Guitarbarella]

Absolutely, like she just gave birth to his baby, went through all the labour without close support, got dropped off at home by herself with bub (good grief, I hope not just at front door the actual b of a step mom held it open I damn well hope) had to do the nightly feedings and diaper changes all by herself and prob still a bit sore and exhausted and frankly scared if something happened to her or the baby ie tripping over etc or both getting sick and having no one there.. seriously if the hospital knew she was just being dropped off without support they possibly would have found a nurse to drop in at least to check on her..in my country they would have been appalled and did that. And then her piece of crap hubby doesn’t thank her for giving birth but attacks and abuses her verbally and emotionally on how she was disrespectful when she only asked her own mother for help!!!!!! And the poor thing then asks reddit if she’s the AH…NO, and the fact she even had fo ask is to me justification for divorcing his totally mean unempathetic self absorbed ass! Geez the abuse is only gunna get worse if he was that Petty and abusive after this amazing thing she did. He has ruined her memory and enjoyment of her weeks of first baby which whilst stressful is a special cherished time…all her life she will remember how lost and alone she felt and how he abused her for asking for help in her hours of need..

[@Guitarbarella]

@@RuminatingRaptor to me he is a classic narcissist-focus is on her so he has to make it about himself. He can’t top her actually giving birth so is trying to gain what he perceives is she’s gained more power and cred by giving birth and he has to dominate the narrative and bring focus and power back into himself because he has a deep rooted fear of being less than her…he can’t actually give birth so has to belittle it and tear it down and make it all about him and his wants not being met, note I don’t say needs being met-coz they aren’t needs-they are just whims. And whims of control. So yeah total red flags and she NEEDs to leave as yes it will get worse-he’s a narc and everything will be drama always as they only use other people as mirrors to reflect themselves back and the amygdala part of the brain is not formed properly which is why even psychs are reluctant to treat them as they just adapt more manipulative skills..totally not worth the bother and they are literally the black hole -you can give them love forever and nice as pie but it just gets sucked into a void and you just get drama back because any attention to them even bad is good, it’s the only thing that makes them feel alive-drama and being the centre of attention.

[@olgalavado]

It smells something sinister like if she has married to a cult member.

[@ruffr4bb1t]

For the first story: the bride complained “I didn’t know my own sister would throw a tantrum over hair and tattoos” well the bridesmaid can say the same shit back to the bridezilla herself.

[@mbyerly9680]

If OP gets married, she needs to ask the sister to dye her hair pink and get some tattoos to have the right "look" for the day.

[@robertx8020]

@@melodyharpole8272 I read it more like "this is how I always look, why should I chance my apearance? And how about her tatoos? I guess you feel that she should cover them up for one day? I feel like calling OP a 'dramaqueen' a bit extreem!

[@minagica]

Exactly

[@minagica]

@@melodyharpole8272 nah, the bridezilla is the drama queen, she's using the bridesmaid thing to try to force her sister to do what she wants because she thinks the world owes her a perfect day. People need to raise better kids than future bridezillas, holy shit

[@robertx8020]

@@minagica I agree

[@lsmmoore1]

Story 1: Why couldn't sister just pick a bridesmaid dress that has a back, if she was so worried about the tattoos while knowing for years that her sister had them?

[@fabulousporcupine3828]

”You can just dye it back after!” No. It’s not that easy. Brown hair dye will make it borderline impossible to dye it back to a light colour.

[@eliability]

Story 4: Age gap with marriage: small yikes but not always a red flag Asking her to move: Not entirely unreasonable Asking OP not to call anyone else: YIKES Request for just stepmom: YIKESSSS Stepmom’s behavior: YIIIIIKES Him getting mad for her disrespecting him: Yeah nah I’d leave his ass what the hell? OP JUST GAVE BIRTH TO A FRICKING HUMAN AND IS PROBABLY TIRED FROM HAVING TO TAKE CARE OF ANOTHER LIFE. The AUDACITY of him to be mad at OP. Nah. NTA. I don’t think that dumping someone is always the answer but imagine being that upset and guilting your wife when all she wanted was *_help?_* My dude is a bunch of red flags in the shape of a person. RUNNNNNN

[@pansprayers]

Yeah, this is all sorts of a controlling and abusive relationship.

[@BruinPhD2009]

I was done with OP’s husband when she mentioned having to move because of his medical condition. Unless his hometown is the Mayo Clinic or some other world renowned medical institution, that made no sense to me. Unless the medical condition is “controlling asshole,” then it makes perfect sense.

[@NCAnon]

If OP doesn't run from this excuse of a human (not even a man), I fear this will only get worse than it already is. Why do I feel like if she did honor his promise and struggled, he would turn around and berate her for not getting someone to help her? This story makes me upset on a lot of levels

[@BruinPhD2009]

@@NCAnon OP is definitely trapped in a no-win scenario. She’s gonna be wrong, no matter what.

[@harmonygibbs7904]

ALLLLL of this!!! that man is a controling asshole who actually expected her do go this alone without asking for help to HONOR HIS REQUEST? she just grew and birthed a whole ass person! she deserves support from whomever the eff she wants! he can go 'pound sand', 'kick rocks' and fuck back off to wherever he was hiding the last few days.

[@Bos187]

Story 4: "now that I've got her baby-trapped, let the gaslighting begin" that's how that whole story reads, one big deliberate setup OP = NTA

[@heatherexum2534]

I had this issue with a neighbor in Germany. It was crazy. I got complaints about my window being open, my cat on my balcony, my shoes (not visible unless at my door), my underwear, my voice. I actually had to get a lawyer with a housing protection group. I thought everything had been settled and then the complaints started up again and I just burst into tears and she followed me up the stairs to my place even as I begged her to leave me alone.

[@kitcat8308]

The Op with the hubby that went away for two weeks... I really think he knew she wouldn't be able to keep that promise... He wanted something to hold over her and cement his control

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Wow that last story had my blood boiling. I hate to be one of those "dump him" commenters, but I really feel OP should get far far away from that AH. I really hope we get an update.

[@jagobanichi]

Dude was probably with a sidepiece anyway: what business sends an expectant father on a two week trip, and then extends it? All kinds of shady.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 4: NTA. I get your husband being sad someone gets to see his child before he does, but that's on him going on a last-minute trip while you're ready to pop. He does not get to demand you let no one else meet baby, and if he wants to split straws and accuse you of breaking your promise, tell him he broke his promise that his step-mom would actually help you. You're sore and healing, alone and overwhelmed. Circumstances changed, and if he can't get on board with that, move back to be closer to your family and let him see the child long-distance. He is controlling, gaslighting, isolating, and abusive. Run OP.

[@dulcilass]

OP's hubby needs a good hard kick out of the house. No one should see his son before he does. But his step-mom was there so were the doctor, nursing staff, etc who all saw his son. They were there to help. And when his wife needed help at home being all alone with a newborn, her mother came to help. Where the hell was he??????

[@tegantalks9612]

Right?! My boyfriend was away working around the birth of our first child together (my second, his first) and knew there was a possibility that he might not be able to get back to town until after I delivered and we made plans for this. My step mom was my backup plan and he didn’t care if she got to meet our daughter first. Thankfully he ended up being home when I went into labour and it worked out. With our last baby he had a job interview the day after I got induced and again we made plans so if he wasn’t there for the birth I still had the support system of my mom and sister with me.

[@dorotheemackenbach4808]

I agree totally. She needs to get away from him with her child ASAP!

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

I found it weird that he needs to stay close to his family because of his medical condition and yet is perfectly ok going away for a work trip.

[@jakemarie828]

@@Loaves_of_Cat how convenient for him! "Oh no! My bullshitis is acting up again, can't help you with your thing."

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: If OP isn't married yet when she dose find someone. She should demand her sister dye her hair and get tattoos to match the rest of the bridal party.

[@NCAnon]

Petty. I like it 🙂

[@saratronus]

No op to classic for that TBH

[@stephanien6237]

Or OP could show her how a self-secure and classy bride behaves…

[@saratronus]

@@stephanien6237 hell yeah 😎

[@Jermbot15]

She should just not invite her sister to be in her bridal party.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: Nta asking someone to change EVERYTHING about themselves to be your bridesmaid is idiot behavior. OP is right. Sister shouldn't have asked OP if she wanted someone else. Askbthe person you want. Don't ask someone and try to make them someone else.

[@user-wh8qx1xi3k]

Yeah personally if it was just the dress and makeup that would have been one thing, since makeup can be washed off. But… re-dyeing hair? Dyeing your hard damages it, you can’t just dye it back and forth willy-nilly. She could have asked her to wear a wig ig, but I feel like that’s also asking too much.

[@Ivy94F]

@@user-wh8qx1xi3k I don’t really get the issue. I know brides with tattoos and dyed hair that temporarily change it for the wedding, just like all us women do anyway for different occasions. You can spray the pink with a temporary colored hair spray with no difficulties. The tattoos sound extensive, so IDK how practical that would be with cover up. May not be worth the trouble, but what sis was asking was what I see other ppl do normally. But if it means more to the OP than just aesthetics, then sis should know that already and respect it.

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

Right?! If it's not a good fit it's just not a good fit... you can't shove a star shaped block through the square hole 😅 that story made me so grateful that I was never asked to cover my tattoos and even got to pick my own dress for both of my siblings nuptials!! I just got to be me! Even for their special days! ❤

[@erinbourne3525]

As someone who has dyed red hair and multiple tattoos I wouldnt talk to that person again. One of my very visible tattoos is a medusa (sexual assault survivor tattoo) and if someone asked me to cover it. Then it would be like asking me to cover my past and myself and my story. Tattoos are personal and not for people to play with for aesthetic purposes

[@robertx8020]

I could make an exception if the bride bought a dress that covered them up! But by ordering a dress with an OPEN back and then ask to cover it up makes it seem like there was something wrong with her!

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Stay strong, many battles won to you in the future sister.

[@mflax4331]

I personally don't like tattoos. But there are other traits that I don't like as well. I might have problems to choose a partner with traits I don't like. But I would never ask some of my friends to change those traits. First, it is not my business. Second, those traits are part of those persons but those traits are not all there is to those persons. They are my friends for other reasons and those reasons have a higher value than the traits I dislike. I wouldn't even tell them that I have a dislike to their traits. I'm stupid and I have traits of my own that other people might dislike, thus I accept almost anything if it has no permanent influence on MY life. And YOUR tattoos don't even scratch MY skin. Why should I worry or mention it - it's literally none of my business.

[@dillongage]

Id never heard of Medusa being used that way, but it makes sense depending on which story you read. In most of them the Gorgons were always monsters. Ive wondered if the versio. where Poseidon ravaged her was used BY the Athenians, to make Poseidon look bad, or used AGAINST the Athenians, to make Athena look bad. 😂 could go either way. Either way, thats a cool tattoo.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 3 Update: This is what r/AITA is really all about. Sometimes, people are looking for advice and a different perspective from their own to genuinely figure out how to proceed. It's wonderful when someone comes to sincerely ask what they did wrong, so they can understand the other party, and make things right. I'm glad for the 'happy ending' :)

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 4: NTA there is a lot of disgusting behavior here but none of it is OP. OP is being controlled, manipulated, and abused. He expected her to deal with child birth and taking care of a baby totally by herself when the person who he deemed OK to help decided to say "Fuck it". This entire story is filled with control and isolation and I am incredibly scared for OP and her baby. She needs to leave ASAP. Edit: oh and the gaslighting...

[@RuminatingRaptor]

So many red flags 🚩

[@kitcat8308]

Commented on this myself but it's worth saying again.... He purposefully gave her a promise she was bound to break so he would have something to hold over her head

[@carolroberts4614]

I would say he's got another woman.I've come across something like this before.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Isolated too. He made her move to his hometown because he said he had whatever issues and needed to be close to family (like why was he not there to begin with? If it was as bad as he was saying, he wouldn’t have gone out of town and met OP to begin with) and then chose to leave for days around the time she gave birth. Like those days are fine for him to be away from his hometown he said he needed to be in for his issues? Also, he said OP can’t have her family there for her, but his family that didn’t help whatsoever. Isolation is the first sign of abusive behavior

[@carolemoores2480]

There's definitely something else going on, isn't there?

[@anario7415]

1st Story: My sister-in-law has many tattoos. When I asked her to be a bridesmaid, she accepted. A few weeks before the church wedding, she asked me what she should do to cover her tattoos. She was nervous because of the ceremony being in a church with a priest performing the ceremony. My answer: why are you covering them? They are your art. No one is asking you to cover up. She was stunned because she knows I'd never get a tattoo. No one said anything about her tattoos. Not the priest, my family, our friends. No one. She worried for no reason. I know who she is. She is a good person. She is not the tattoo. And she looked beautiful.

[@tsubakiofmelancholy6297]

Exactly. You are a good sister for accepting her. Sadly some "christians" will literally disown family members over tattoos.

[@junelledembroski9183]

They’re for herself, not other people. It’s one day. Get a wig and superhero cape or something. The bride will have the rest of her life to cater to her kids and husband, that’s supposed to be her one day to be selfish.

[@keythealien]

@@junelledembroski9183 "cater to her husband." Yikes. No. But I'm not opening that one up. Instead, I'll just say if Sis was so embarrassed of OP, she should've just not invited them. Being unable to accept her own family. Yeah, I wouldn't go either, screw the bride she can have her fairytale without her sister, who obviously wasn't a part of the story anyway. Bridezillas ruin relationships, case and point. Being selfish is more like demanding a slightly incorrect cake be returned and exchanged. This is ridiculously unreasonable and shows a massive amount of shame and disrespect about Bridezilla's "unclassy" sister. "It's just one day!" Then, she'll be demanding her sister dye her hair a normal color and wear a parka just to come over and visit her future kids so as to not "distract" or "corrupt" them. This behavior is chronic, not a one-time thing.

[@junelledembroski9183]

@@keythealien yeah. And since my wedding my husband and kids take up 90% of my time, worries, money, etc. my friends and I get once in a blue moon together and my husband says “must be nice.” He has all the time in the world with his friends because they live in town and he gets to go much farther away from us to visit them. Once you become married with children all you are is wife and mother for most women. So let them have one day where they get to be all about them. If my sister wanted me to put on tat sleeves and dye my hair for her wedding, I would do it because it would never happen again. If she wanted me to wear leather and combat boots, I’m all in. If she wanted me to be all girly and get my nails and hair done, I would. I’d even do heels. I hate heels. For her, for one day, a few hours, I would. I’m not saying most brides would even ask that of someone else. But covering up for one day, isn’t gonna kill you and it’s not your day. You don’t get tats for other people you get them for yourself. My sister would cover her tattoos for me. I would get some tat sleeves for her and wear whatever she wanted me to.

[@em0via]

@@junelledembroski9183Your relationship has a communication issue, why can't you be out with your friends more than once in a good while but he can whenever he pleases. Weird

[@erinnready8354]

Story 1: I hate people who expect others to change their entire appearance for a party. My brother asked me to get rid of my split pink and blue hair for his wedding and I had no problem dying my hair solid black for it since I was in the bridal party. A peach-colored dress on a very pale lady with faded split hair, not quite fancy looking, I understood the perspective haha. The only reason I agreed was for the fact that it was significantly grown out, roots showing, and very faded from having it for 6 months. Plus my hair needed a break from the damage. Had it been freshly colored I would have told him to pound sand. People need to learn that their weddings are not a reason to treat people like trash.

[@shonehi546tim9]

So if your brother turned into an S&M Guy or maybe he liked dressing as the Doll from Saw. Would he need to tell you to 'pound some sand'? Where would be your line? It's hard to believe that you would have a come as you are attitude. Could he come naked because he is now a nudist? And by the way, these fashions of Kool-aid hair and tattoos are immature Middle Fingers to people who would never do that. A pathetic reason to do them.

[@keythealien]

@@shonehi546tim9 Ok boomer

[@Bonaduece]

Story 1: I always wonder who exactly these wedding photos are supposed to be for. I don't know about you, but I've never searched the internet for wedding photos of strangers. I don't even particularly care about wedding photos of people I know, though I will look at them and exclaim over how lovely everything was, if they offer to show me. My own wedding photos have never been seen by anybody outside our families--and they were all just happy for us, and wouldn't dream about bitching that our friends and loved ones showed up as themselves instead of as faceless dress forms.

[@pippo17173]

Well we know for a fact that the sister is doing this for attention and probaly want everyone to focus on her day.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Exactly. Never understood wanting to make it some giant shit. It’s suppose to be one of two thing. 1. A day to show the uniozation and love between two people. Or 2. The first and also the love of family. Who the hell cares fleshy they look like it wear?

[@maddy8328]

Story 4, your husband is insane. You needed help! so your called your mother. He said your word is worth shit? Wow. Wow. Wow. What a asshole. he should have made efforts to come home. "Tainted the memory of his son's Birth" LOL says the one WHO WASN'T THERE.

[@TsukiKageTora]

He isn’t insane, he is just every definition of an abusive partner

[@TailsFan]

Frankly, since he assured her that his step-mother would be there, his word is worth shit and so is he for not being there for his baby's birth.

[@maddy8328]

@@TsukiKageTora that's what I mean, abusers are insane.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

The husband who threw a hissy fit because he wasn't the first one to see his baby when his wife needed help can sit and spin. I'd have left with my mother and baby and given him a LOT of time to think about his behavior. I would also have started divorce proceedings. His selfish big baby attitude could live alone without us. I'd also breast feed for years so he couldn't have overnight visits with the baby. Maybe he would treat his next wife better, because for me that would be a wrap. New mother's need a lot of help and support from people who love them, not people who drop them on the doorstep and say don't call me. I AM FURIOUS for OP.

[@pansprayers]

One more time for the entitled people in the back: You don't get to get mad other people exist. If you live in multi-family housing, you accept the pros and cons of the situation, as long as it's within normal hours.

[@desireeloveros1055]

Right? During high school a couple recent graduates moved in below us. They partied. Hard. The only issue was Sunday. My mom had work and I had school. Several neighbors called for noise complaints. My mom’s never did. She would just go downstairs. Knock. Stare at them until they apologized and go back to sleep. I currently live on my own in a pretty bad area. My friend is down on her luck so she’s staying with me for a bit. But she’s pretty so guys follow her home and I finally had to complain about this one guy who constantly knocked on my door for 2 weeks straight. He was evicted but currently lives above with another guy who has followed her home (she ran out the door and cussed him out. He never bothered us again) yay

[@wmdkitty]

If you live in multi-family housing, you learn to walk properly -- toe down first, and roll the rest of the foot until your heel is down. OP clearly has not learned to do this and is stomping around.

[@jedimasters1462]

This reminds me of when one of my sisters lived in an apartment. Her downstairs neighbor started doing noise complaints on my sister and then husband. Then one time she complained and my sister was able to prove that she wasn't even home because she was at the hospital having her first baby. After the apartment manager informed her that my sister and husband weren't even home to make the noise, she stopped making complaints, especially since now they couldn't trust her.

[@ArcticWolfGod]

Story 4. The whole request in the first place was completely unreasonable and really fucking weird. I understand the sentiment of wanting to see your baby first along with your wife, but the way he handled the situation and reacted is fucked up. The way OP is talking sounds like he was already being abusive towards her, you don't expect shitty abusive behavior from your partner if they've never acted like that before. I really think divorce and separation is the only good solution in this situation. If OP lets her child grew up with an abusive father like that then she becomes an asshole for it. Sure it's possible that this relationship could be salvaged, but that requires a lot of work on his side to get help for his problems, and in the first place he has to admit having any problems at all. I just find all of that happening so unlikely with people like that, that OP has to at least have a plan for leaving ready even if she does try to get him fixed.

[@hugglezzable]

Story 4 nta giving birth by yourself is scary it is selfish to ask someone to go through that by yourself because he can't find a way to be there. Seriously if op needed an emergency c section or if they lost alot of blood during the birth it would be an extremely tramatic experience to go through by yourself

[@gypsygem9395]

Yes exactly!

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Natural selection then? Wasn’t smart on his end. Then again men think pregnancy and birth is always super easy.

[@kristinecollier8113]

"I've gone off on stories and have probably lost the point here" LOL I love it when you waffle!!!

[@NCAnon]

SOMEONE SAID WAFFLE! 🧇 I GET WAFFLES FOR DINNER NOW! WHOOOOOOOOO!!!

[@flamin.hot.cheeto]

The last story is absolutely infuriating! Like, seriously! You don’t have decency to show up to your own son’s birth and you get mad your SO for seeking help with the baby? That husband must have other glaring personality issues aside from this.

[@jackiewepps4694]

Story 4: Husband calls OP a "Selfish promise breaker". I call him a selfish promise maker. NTA.

[@D-Dollie]

Story 4 pissed me off. I had a baby (c-section) in the middle of the pandemic/lockdown!! My mom couldn’t come as we lived in two different countries. But my husband took a month off of work and was there day and night! Our baby came 1 week early and he was given time off!! OP’s husband’s excuses are bullsh@t!!! He needs to be close to his family but his wife can’t even have her mom come by after she gave birth! What an absolute assh@£&e. Run OP, run!!

[@tuxedomac5387]

Love avoiding essays to listen to some aita, hope everyone's enjoying their day :D

[@jamestown8398]

I resemble that comment! :)

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

MOOD!

[@loneranger7831]

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[@tuxedomac5387]

@@loneranger7831 I've heard of it, I love games so should really check it out :)

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: YTA why make an excuse? Tell them straight up "Your crappy behavior towards her has rightfully made her not want to be around you. She said it was fine to invite you to our wedding but I didn't feel like you guys deserved to be there based on that same behavior." That said, OP really messed. She doesn't have to forgive anyone, ever. It's not on her to make this situation better. Instead of coming at his wife, he should be telling mom and sister they need to apologize. Even if they do, his wife doesn't have to forgive. The wife didn't cause this problem, his family did. Their total lack of apology shows how crazy they really are especially considering how awesome his wife is to help them in their time of need. Edit: Mark basically said everything I said, lol Edit after OP's comment: it's even worse than we thought! They have doubled and tripled down on their behavior and he expects his wife to just forgive them? Dude is a massive asshole. They are the ones who need to do the work here, not his wife.

[@carolroberts4614]

I am one of four sisters and I can guarantee that any of them wouldn't care if the others turned up with purple, green or sky blue pink hair at their wedding! Or tattoos !Just being there with your family is what counts! We're no oil paintings anyway, and we're not going to make the society pages!

[@zhan146]

the hell u talking about them doubling down on their behavior

[@Mewse1203]

@@zhan146 there was a comment where OP talks about other get-togethers with the wife and his family. They act really bad towards the wife, get called put and say " we have nothing to apologize for" essentially. So this goes beyond acting badly one or two times and just never receiving an apology, they've actively been ruse to her and think it's fine.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 4: RUN. Just Run take new baby and run. He knew you where days away from giving birth and made a ridiculous demand that you be alone till he got back if being the first to see his son was so important, why did he leave and risk that not being posable.

[@o0BlackSand0o]

I was a bridesmaid for a mate. She has no tattoos, almost all her bridesmaids including me have them. We offered to cover them and she told us not to bother since she knew we had them before she asked us. I held off getting a back tattoo before her wedding but that was because thanks to lockdown I wouldn't have been able to get it until a few weeks before and didn't want a still healing tattoo being displayed in her pics. She couldn't ask for those things, the covering or holding off on tattoos but we can offer.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Op is right. The sister doesn't want her as a bridesmaid but is frightened of being judged. She is going out of her way to push op out so she can tell everybody op didn't want to be a bridesmaid and save face.

[@eliability]

Story 3: YTA. Unless they apologize to SO and SO *wants* to be there, OP has no place to call her stubborn. OP’s sister and mom literally said they prefer OP’s ex (subtly so) to her face. And with the extra info, they even ignored her and then acting like they didn’t do anything wrong? YTA all the way OP. Do better. She says she isn’t bothered but I really doubt that’s true. Edit here: Even if OP demanded an apology I doubt they would’ve meant it. Good on OP for seeing the problems and accepting his wife’s choices

[@carolroberts4614]

He "raised his voice" to her! After all that's gone on, op doesn't deserve such a nice wife!

[@chanson8508]

​@carolroberts4614 Sure, but OP kinda showed why she might like him when he changed his mind 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

I love bridezillas who cry about people's tattoos and hair. I literally dyed my hair blue *for* my brother's wedding because my dress was black and I wanted a pop of colour. I promise you no one cared about me and my blue hair. They were focused on the bride and groom. Almost like it was their wedding and they were the focus or something.

[@causegryffindor2450]

Agreed. The sister ridiculous to demand all these alterations. If she really wanted Op to cover her tattoos for the ceremony, she should have allowed OP to have a cover up. And pictures can always be altered and filtered if she really has a problem with the hair color. But don't put on the bridesmaid to alter her appearance.

[@ladyv5655]

I went to a wedding where the father of the groom and most of the groomsmen were "biker formal". It was awesome and the bride loved it.

[@tsubakiofmelancholy6297]

The only time a bride has the right to demand a change, is if the guest/bridesmaid showed up in something white, and or way to sexualized for a wedding. You know, like a tube top with shorts so short it looks like underwear.

[@shonehi546tim9]

Your brother didn't care but what if he did? I wouldn't like my sisters looking like that and I would have said something to you before hand. We all have standards, I highly doubt that on your day you would be cool with everyone coming as they are or in a ridiculous costume. On your special day you want every one to look their best, Kool-aid color hair is trashy.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

@@shonehi546tim9 If you're so hyperfocused on how your guests are dressed then just have a court house wedding and don't bother other people with your insecurities about not being the center of attention. Also, trashy in *your* opinion. Naturally black hair with a black dress would have looked a lot worse, in my personal opinion.

[@panicatthebts7434]

Wow that last story was crazy. I assumed by the title that she had a small get together or something. But normally people agree that the person giving birth gets to decide who is in the delivery room since it will be so stressful for them... and the husband vetoed the idea! And then she was drowning in the recovery and duties of a new mother and asked for help from her Mom... ONE PERSON!! He was upset it wasn't his stepmom who he knew refused to help. Seriously why is HIS stepmom ok, but HER MOM is not? Serious red flags there. The nerve of some people!!

[@karenrae9969]

Story 1 - My Maid of honour has dreadlocks and she put in a few extentions that matched the dresses the girls wore and we both showed off our tattoos. If you cannot let people be who they are, then don't have anyone by your side

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Bridezilla story: one of my friends wore white pants at my wedding and it wasn’t a big deal because I knew she was short on money (I was, too, so I couldn’t buy her something nice- we paid for the wedding ourselves). Guys, the most important thing about a wedding is to celebrate and have a good time!

[@Resilient_Sage88]

I lived in a downstairs apartment for several years. The upstairs neighbors weren't overly noisy. Even if they were, I would just accept it as a part of apartment living and just do my thing. It's dumb to complain about things like that.

[@tgbedini]

I almost agree, and have generally been OK with neighbors, but! I lived on the 2nd floor of a 3 story apt, and one day the guy above me came down pounding on my door shouting at me to turn down my stereo. I yelled at him to get the F inside my apartment. My stereo and TV were off, but the guy on the first floor was playing Ozzie Osborne so loud that the guy above me thought it was me. That, I think you would agree, goes a bit too far.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

@@tgbedini That sucks. I think that might be part of the reason I never complained personally because I could occasionally hear the neighbors in the next apartment building over. I would hate to be the type of person who yells unnecessarily at someone who isn't even at fault.

[@tgbedini]

@@Resilient_Sage88 I try to not be an idiot, and most days I succeed. But we all screw up once in a while. Then, it's time to apologize, and hopefully forgive yourself, and learn to avoid being that person again.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Yep. Neighbors got kids and loud dogs. Only time I called anyone for it is when I thought the noises sounded… pained. Was a wellness call more than anything.

[@fytrndm]

Last lady, my cousin had her mum with her for *both* times after she gave birth. Her husband even made sure to setup for a helper to come around on days where he had to work after he took his paternity leave and she was left with the baby and her mum. This was for *three* months, his paternity leave was for two weeks. The husband is a raging arse who's trying to isolate her. His hometown, won't arrangements with his company for a leave, she can't call her mum for help with the baby, said his stepmother would help but she didn't and then got mad her? Walk lady, my mother would've cooked up a storm if we treat our spouse like that.

[@phoenixsky6124]

‘Ruined the memory of the birth of his son’ 🤨 dude, you weren’t there!!!!

[@AndyyWithAY]

The husband is the selfish one in the last story. It is very unlikely that a company would force a husband to leave for a work trip this close to the birth of his child. He gave her completely useless help and got mad when someone who could actually help her came. Divorce!

[@jennya9838]

Hey Mark! I wanted to share what I've been doing while listening to your videos. I'm currently crocheting an afghan for a Christmas present for my sister in law. Thank you so much for being a wonderful part of my day!

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

*ALL VOTES* STORY 1: *NTA* The only one throwing a tantrum over tattoos and pink hair is sister. She knew her sister/OP had the pink highlights and all these tattoos before having her be a bridesmaid. If they were such an issue she would’ve either never asked her sister to be a bridesmaid or talked about it before having her sister pay $150 for a dress. STORY 2: *NTA* I guess the downstairs neighbors didn’t get the memo that people cannot levitate to avoid using their floors. It would be nice though, to just air glide while you’re moving from room to room going about your daily shit. STORY 3: *YTA* Ask for permission not for forgiveness. Spouse seems to be doing pretty good with not making a fuss about OP visiting their family and she’s being nice by helping with Christmas shopping and stuff. She’s handling this pretty well, but that doesn’t mean she forgives them or she should have a relationship with them especially since they made it pretty clear they don’t want her around.

[@little_lion_heart9850]

I'm cleaning my home! Listening to you helps me feel like I have someone around to spend time with while I clean. I moved recently and haven't really established any friends. So thanks for keeping me company, Mark.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA as we've said, apartment living comes with some noise. She has a problem, not OP.

[@mbyerly9680]

The only true silence you can find is death. The neighbor needs to deal with the noise of the living.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: NTA - Absolutely not! It's unreasonable and selfish for him to demand this of you. Slice him open from gut to junk, then leave him alone to care for a newborn. He has zero consideration for you in this situation, and that's extremely disturbing, not to mention selfish AF. I would be done the second he tried to make me promise that, then went on a 'business trip' when I was due to risk my life to bring his progeny into the world. He'd never lay eyes on my kid, and never know their name.

[@brandonchuong917]

Story 1: Your body, your choice, don’t let anyone every tell you how to use it. Besides, I think tattoos and dyed hair is cool and unique as long as it’s appropriate.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Agreed. Though not sure how anything could be”inappropriate”. That’s different for everyone’s standards and along the lines of a moral issue.

[@shonehi546tim9]

What are you 15, it is trashy especially on a woman. Inappropriate

[@junelledembroski9183]

Garbage and selfish. She got the tats for herself. It’s one day. Wear a wig and cover tats. That’s family. And no, your family never ever accepts you for who you are. I don’t care what your income looks like. That’s why it’s funny when holiday movies go awry. It’s funny because it’s true. Besides, the bride is supposed to get everything she wants that day, doesn’t always happen, but she should. The rest of her life will be about the husband and kids so let her have one damned day.

[@keythealien]

@@shonehi546tim9 what are you? 65? Women are people and have a right to their autonomy. Inappropriate.

[@shonehi546tim9]

@@keythealien first your debating skills are terrible. The instructor would fail you for conflation. Second, what you are talking about is, she can kill all of the babies that she wants. What I am talking about is that her look is trashy and I wouldn't ACCEPT that at MY wedding. When it is the sister's wedding she can say you are not invited if you don't have a Face Tattoo, Booty Shorts and a Flavor Flav Clock, that would be HER right. You respect whose event it is. In my opinion, we don't have to placate or coddle to this 'look at me' immature individuality just because someone doesn't know how to grow the F*** up, as is the opinion of the bride. And whose wedding was it? Again, at your wedding have the freak show that you want; at mine I will have traditionalism. Learn how to debate.

[@ladyvice2174]

"The Cheeky so-and-so" 🤗 always my favorite

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/evening/night! Peace, hugs and love to you all!

[@gypsygem9395]

You too Jenni much love 💟

[@Val_Benko]

I will watch this later as my treat for getting more parts of my finals done!

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 3: YTA. My original thought was ESH because your original post made your mom and sister's treatment seem like a one time thing. After reading your reply to a comment that clarified that the treatment continued, OP is 100% TA for trying to make his wife forgive those who continually disrespect her.

[@dillongage]

They never apologized either. It would be a little different if they had sincerely tried to apologize, but they never did. Even then she doesnt have to forgive them. Shes already being waaaay nicer than she needs to be.

[@babaXIII]

Story four, holy isolitionist batman! What a marinara flag.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 NTA. OP has a neighbor issue and needs a lawyer and a talk with landlord

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Forgiveness is never required. Especially if the person wanting forgiveness doesn’t believe they did anything wrong.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

Can you grab my dogs when you come to kidnap me? Does the cottage have wi-fi? Netflix? 😂💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@DarkbutNotsinister ye it will have those lol 🤗🤗💜💜

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 This is no longer a kidnapping. I’ve put saddlebags on Stabby, my unicorn 🦄. Gotta run to the store for a palette of Red Bull, then I’ll be ready! 😂💜

[@sam_humanvariant]

STILL DRIVING lol thanks for the well wishes and upload

[@pansprayers]

When did it become a thing to make bridesmaids pay for the dress the bride dictates and they'll only wear once? I paid for all SIX of my bridesmaid's dresses. If you're unwilling to fit that into your budget, then you don't get to set expectations like this.

[@gypsygem9395]

Came here to say this. I know some bridesmaids do pay for their dresses, but that's usually when they get a bit of a choice. When all the bridesmaids have to match, or the bride has rigid ideas of what she wants, that's definitely when the bride should pay

[@julieeverett7442]

*I've been to several weddings as brides maid and I did pay for my dress. One was bright pink, and I hate pink, I cut it to calf length dyed it purple, added some ruffles and ameythist (sp?) beads and wore it again as my graduation gown, so its not THAT impossible. but yes she can sell or return her gown if she wishes

[@gypsygem9395]

@@julieeverett7442 sounds awesome!

[@clarebebbington9984]

I’ve paid for the dress for every wedding I was a bridesmaid in….turned one dress into a costume, fairy godmother, and the second I donated to a charity

[@pansprayers]

@@clarebebbington9984 see, that's just absurd to me. I would never DREAM of expecting my wedding party to foot the bill for a dress I was making them wear - and honestly, my bridesmaids dresses were bought on clearance for a steal (17$ each), and were one of the best things to come out of late '00's fashion. My sisters who are 10 years younger than me used them for formals, prom and homecoming, and my SIL still uses hers for formal events. I'm sure they could have sprung for 20$ each, but I wasn't going to make them.

[@mnomadvfx]

I'm still stuck on the part where she was expected to pay $150 for a dress she didn't like, that she will never wear again. If you can't be economical for yourself, then at least be economical for the things you expect other people to buy and wear.

[@Davtwan]

“It’s my wedding so yes I want it to be perfect.” Can we just finally throw away this toxic mindset for events and milestones _please?_

[@moonlightwolf]

Story 4 peeves me so badly. My da was on the other side of the country when my mother had to have an emergency C-section with my younger siblings. My father got on the next goddamn flight back home to be with my mother and although he missed the birth, he was there as soon as he could physically get there

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

Anyone else find it weird that OP says she doesn't like pink but has pink highlights?

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

As someone who is covered in tattoos, I cover them without being asked because let’s not be naïve having a lot of tattoos, particularly as a woman, gets attention. If your tattoos and hair color are “you” that’s pathetic. Story 3: why was she not in contact with her triplets?….

[@FlamesofJagger]

Mark... you always seem to be posting these as I'm heading into work. Are you trying to make sure I have a good day? Thank you. Stay chill 😎 and waffle 🧇 on always. Much love 💘 ❤️ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘

[@olli8389]

Story 4: This man is a red flag himself.

[@michamocha]

S1: NTA and Op hit the nail on the head. "You knew I had dyed hair before you asked me to be your bridesmaid" Exactly this. It annoys me how too many entitled brides demands people to dye their hair to fit their aesthetic. If aesthetic is more important than your friends and family, then they should only ask people who fit their requirements. S3: YTA. What right do you have to demand your wife to forgive your mother and sister when, by the sound of things, their behavior never changed. I'm just glad Op saw the flaws in his ways and understood why he was the YTA. S4: NTA and it was a red flag from the very start that he told his wife to have HIS step mother and not her own mother. All of this was all about him when the whole point of someone being in the delivery room is to help the one giving birth. His actions is extremely worrying and needs to change, if not Op needs to get out.

[@chunksofplum]

I live in a house but it has a flat underneath it which is council owned, one of the previous tenants was a woman with a toddler and a baby, every day I could hear her shouting at her kid to shut up, I could hear the baby crying, it happens, but one day she messaged my Business Facebook page saying i was always so noisy and she could hear my dogs all the time, so I visited her and I found out her problem was that a few times a day she could hear us walking down the stairs to take the dogs out for a walk, i almost felt bad until the other neighbour came out and started arguing over the fact she had shouted at her daughter for leaving for school that morning, she legit hated just hearing people walking, even if it was a reasonable time so i just blocked her from my business FB page and ignored her, she moved out and I've not had a single complaint again in over 3 years. I think some people should just not live in flats/apartments

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@MountainPearls]

Again, keep fighting! Like stained glass Windows, Asian Cultures mend their broken things with gold…because that makes them even more precious!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MountainPearls much love m8 thanks so much 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@FlamesofJagger]

Take care Broken. Stay positive and awesome. Much love 💘 ❤️ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗

[@lienemeid]

❤️❤️❤️

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: YTA. Wife has set a boundary and has no obligation to forgive just because eight years have passed. OP wants wife to make him comfortable by forgiving his mother and sister. Unacceptable. OP needs to simmer down before he loses his wife.

[@dracawyn]

I'm baking a dragon cake for a friend's birthday while listening 😁

[@serpentinewolf7085]

You’re a good friend.

[@charliedelfino2102]

Mark could literally never come across as big headed. I don't know him but he sounds pretty humble as far as people go.

[@lienemeid]

I wanted to comment for the second time this week this is excellent timing as my McDonald's order is almost here, then realised I'm exposing myself as the gluttonous little piggy I am 😂 oh well. Oink 🐷

[@jennifersilves4195]

Story 4 LEAVE HIM. NOW.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

The wedding story reminded me of the conversation I had with my sister and her bf. It was said jokingly(mostly) but, I would probably be maid of honor, best (wo)man and walk my sister down the isle too. I'm super down for it and would do anything for my sister. But I would draw a line at hiding my tattoos, change my hair and behave in a way that would make me uncomfortable.

[@rebeccanavarro7997]

I super want a positive update about the last story. My jaw dropped at her husband's behavior and I'm glad commenters were able to talk to her about his abusive behavior. If I was her I'd probably feel so hurt and stuck but I hope she is able to get her and her baby out of that abusive environment

[@MsBELLE7]

Can't lie, I absolutely love these videos each day. Mark always seems to have the best take on stories (rslash and lost genre are good, but not as good as Mark) and he always seems to want to see the positive. Plus that laugh! Just twiterpated over here haha

[@ShelleyJolly]

Weddings getting ridiculous.Now,on the invitation some are saying the colour's guests must wear.

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 OP is NTA her sister is being ridiculous. Getting your hair professionally coloured is very expensive. I decided to get highlights and the hairdresser it cost me £300 and took several hours. OP's sister knew thatvOP had tattoos and pink highlights when she asked her to be the bridesmaid, if it was a problem she shouldn't have asked OP to be a bridesmaid in the first place. Story 2 NTA the downstairs neighbour is being ridiculous. You can't live in flats and expect complete silence all the time. I have someone living in the flat above me. I can hearthe person walking around but I wouldn't dream of complaining about that. If the neighbour wants to live in complete silence she should take herself off to the woods somewhere and become a hermit.

[@jac2631]

I listen while doing house chores, getting ready for work or even while at work! Right now I'm getting ready to go skate at the skatepark with friends! Thanks for always keeping me entertained Mark!

[@Russman67]

Story 3: if this story is real then the wife is a saint. To suffer the insults and indignation from the family and not try to make a larger issue out of it, to step in and help the family in need again without trying to make an extra issue out of the fact that she's helping when they don't like her is an otherworldly level of Grace. But it sounds to me by this post that the wife has decided that aside from helping from afar she wants nothing to do with them. OP needs to recognize that.

[@SushiOwl87]

I know this video is from a year ago, but since Mark asked about what we do while listening to his videos: I've been knitting. On a loom, specifically. I was in an accident a couple months ago that took away a lot of my fine motor skills, especially in my left hand, and I've been recuperating by making things. It was slow going at first, and tedious. These videos help take me right out of my head and let me loom without agonizing over how far into my recovery I am. I've been listening to them pretty steadily for two weeks or so now. So, thanks, Mark. I appreciate you.

[@queenofthebathhousesluts7750]

in the first story op says she's not a fan of pink but has it in her hair like🤨 make it make sense

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

I thought that was odd too.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

There’s a difference between liking something and looking good in something. Also some people dislike the color on furniture but maybe not clothes or hair. Or any combination of that. I hate pink but some looks good on me… I still don’t wear it but even I can acknowledge it’s be okay.

[@queenofthebathhousesluts7750]

@@serpentinewolf7085 still doesn't make sense if you like pink for other things you like pink

[@CatacombD]

Story 3 was refreshing. It's nice to see someone realize their mistake and start to recognize toxic behavior that they are making excuses for.

[@maddy8328]

Story 3, wtf with the all caps update. It's a good update but honestly, using all caps seems like it's a lie...

[@TheFlowerchild712]

Story 3: OP's wife is a GD saint, for helping his toxic family after the way they disrespected her. Story 4: NTA. HE was the one who wasn't there for the birth. Who decides to go on a work trip within the the due date and then stays away?! Girl, dump this man-child. She needed help and HIS family decided to ditch her after HE denied her the chance to have her mom with her.

[@Mewse1203]

May the heat of the Waffle Maker warm you when you're cold. It's colder than a witch's tit here. Be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great.

[@gypsygem9395]

😂

[@artkitty4829]

For what I’m doing while listening? Drawing my comic! Always love to listen to these while drawing and I’m sure there are other artists here who can agree. Love the content! Spicy drama always helps time fly! Keep up the amazing work!! Xx

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and currently scarfing down sushi like a goblin

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Lol

[@antoniettamurphy7126]

i've heard of a goblin teas made (you know the joke!), but not a gooblin sushi!

[@destinyweb1311]

the last one made my skin crawl. Throw Out The Husband

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 2: When I was a teenager, we lived above a cranky old lady who would pound on the ceiling whenever I would just walk across the floor. One day, I had enough and jumped as high as I could and slammed my heels on the floor as hard as I could. It hurt, but she stopping with the nonsense.

[@wmdkitty]

Wow. You're an ashbowl, too. All you had to do is learn to walk quietly.

[@treehouse2902]

Her husband is an abuser and separated her from her family then disregarded her needs for help post baby and then gaslighted her. She needs a divorce.

[@albertgongora6944]

As somebody that has lived in an apartment before and especially when I lived on the top floor above my neighbor's I will tell you this the neighbor is 100% wrong and Opie is 100% in the right because you know it's like most of the top comment for even saying she can't be tiptoeing around you know this lady's issues all her life while she's living in that apartment and then the number one thing that the landlord needs to get is it doesn't matter how many how many people he rents to and then he gets the complete from her and tells them to leave it's going to be the same complaints over and over even if it's somebody just as old as she is and then on top of that the landlord could get in a lot of trouble even sued because Opie is the only one getting harassed here while nothing is being done about her neighbor understand yes she's an elderly woman but it doesn't give her an excuse to you know get Opie neither moved out of her apartment or her getting constantly harass

[@jeannebuttons5301]

Guy is mad that he didn't meet baby first: NTA. The dude went out of town when his wife was near due, that automatically makes him an a*hole in my book. THEN he yells at his wife for asking for help because she was left all alone by the person hubby had thought would stay with his wife. As soon as OP was well enough I hope they left with their mother and took the baby with them.

[@CarlottaHall]

Story 4. In addition to everything the comments are saying against the husband- a csection is major abdominal surgery and he abandoned OP. He knew she needed care for herself as well as the baby, he knew his stepmom would refuse to deliver that help. He stayed away even longer than he told her he would be gone. And he has the nerve to accuse OP of wrongdoing by going against his orders when she got her mom come to help her? Narcissism, misogyny, abuse- OH MY! OP's hubby needs to cool off by taking a long walk off a short pier. OP needs to leave this abusive relationship because it is only going to get worse. Tell your lawyer about and physical emotional or financial mistreatment, about his abandoning her at delivery time; isolating her, not getting her proper care for home, all of his threats and demands. Document everything!

[@Acidfunkish]

If it takes more than a day to change and then change back, you're asking too much of your wedding party.

[@micahmussman-watts1478]

Story 4 needs an update I'm genuinely concerned for her well being.

[@Tammohawk1]

I just can't understand property managers who are afraid to confront these crazy complainers. I used to be a property manager and when people came to me with unreasonable request, I didn't play. I didn't tell them they were crazy, just would point out how I couldn't do what they asked. But if people were continuously complaining, I'd tell them to consider moving if they didn't like it.

[@shaydead9357]

I’m exercising while listening to your narrations, I often have a hard time focusing on my breathing when I exercise but when I listen to you narrating redit stories your chill lay back vibes help me to focus and calm down enough to breathe properly. So thanks for the daily vids and your awesome

[@lillydee5978]

I can't move past that the OP says she hates pink, yet has pink hair. I agree that she should be out of the bridal party since they couldn't make an agreement, but do it amicably, it's not worth ruining a relationship over.

[@TheIronwil]

Story 3: Wow… YTA. OP’s wife responds to mistreatment with silent and thankless help for his family, the same family who were awful to her, and OP thinks she’s the problem? Doesn’t sound like any of his family has tried to mend fences or apologize at all.

[@builtontherockhomestead9390]

First story...if that was so important to the bride for sister to cover up, should have said something BEFORE the dress was bought. Sister should have stated conditions when asked OP to be a bridesmaid. It's to late to make demands after the dress was bought.