During A Family Event I Realised I Slept With Girlfriends Cousin Who's Married r/Relationships

[@gabrielaranna5809]

Story 1: It's funny people that "doesn't believe in divorce": it's not a ghost that you can or cannot "believe in"

[@BritInvLvr]

Lol. Those same people don’t say they don’t believe in cheating.

[@Russman67]

When I was younger I told myself that "I am only getting married one time" so in essence I didn't believe in divorce either. Marry the right person you too will believe in divorce.

[@lancerevell5979]

It took my sister three tries to find "Mr. Right". First hubby was a rat bastard, second was simply self-centered and full of himself, though they remained cordial. Rick, the third, dated her and all her animals took to him (dogs, cats, goats and horses). She once said, "All my animals loved him so I had to marry him!" 😄 They were married over twenty years til she passed away last year.

[@HalohbotTech]

@@lancerevell5979 my condolences

[@Undomaranel]

It's the fault of the language really. They know divorce exists, but they don't believe it's right or people should do it. Yet humans are lazy and say, "I don't believe in divorce," instead of, "I don't believe divorce is ever acceptable."

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - Odd that Granny is mad at OP when it is her own flesh and blood grandkid that did the cheating and blew up the marriage. Don't know why folks won't ever blame the person who did wrong but are far too quick to jump on the one telling the truth about something. Hope OP and his GF continue on and find true happiness.

[@Russman67]

No one's happy when the truth comes out to light. Who knows? Maybe Grandma took a couple of those wild trips when she was younger.

[@GMAMEC]

This, it amazes me when people blame the unaware individual(s) and “forgive” the unfaithful partner. It’s even worse when when it becomes violent.

[@Morinhetar]

Catholics in a nutshell (i was raise by a Catholic family) the crimen can be forgiven but not the scandal. You're supose to keep everything a secret.

[@starbird3939]

I think Granny wants someone outside of the family to blame and because Op is an ex-drug user, she feels like she has an easy target to hate and shame

[@ranger3576]

@@Morinhetar Thankfully, not all Catholics are like that

[@H.P._Lovecrafts_Beloved_Cat]

First story: I will never understand the people saying “keep the cheating a secret.” Who’s to say she wasn’t still cheating on her husband. And do people not realize the potential health problems this man could have gotten from his cheating wife. This is why cheating is so disgusting.

[@dream6562]

Nah I'm this situation I'm not gonna risk my relationship like that, she would not be my concern or what she does at the point, not my monkey, not my problem

[@angeloliver7613]

Exactly. I left a discord server because there was a woman who was married for five years and had an ongoing affair for six years! Can you imagine! She already got into her relationship with a freaking lie. And people defended her and called me crazy for pointing out the health risk. Like a cheater care about their partners well-being 🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 2 is basically a lifetime movie. The only thing that’s missing is the Ukrainian ex swooping in at the last second to reconcile with OP

[@robertx8020]

I'm not sure whe would let him He has done some bad things too

[@squirrel670]

@@robertx8020 thats what would happen in the lifetime movie.

[@robertx8020]

@@squirrel670 well in a GOOD movie, someone else would swoop in ..not the person that was also responsable ;)

[@squirrel670]

@@robertx8020 We said it was a lifetime movie, not a good movie lol. Thats the point. Have you seen the insanity of lifetime movies?

[@robertx8020]

@@squirrel670 "We said it was a lifetime movie, not a good movie lol. " True ;) "Thats the point. Have you seen the insanity of lifetime movies?" Only a few and I would like to keep it that way ;)

[@AndyyWithAY]

Don't let him file for divorce, you file first. This is completely ridiculous. They've been broken up for 10 years, she'd blocked him before she even met him. I have a friend from Ukraine and I've been texting her to check on her family. She met her daughter in Europe and I've been checking on her since then. I'd do the same it was a male. This is an extreme reaction. This is not adultery. Admit to nothing!!

[@lilywong9672]

She is filing for divorce in the update. Turns out the husband knew the ex from a previous job and manipulated his way into her life.

[@robertx8020]

@@lilywong9672 What do you expect from such a POS?

[@Oceanmaid91]

Betting soon to be ex is actually cheating

[@ZooTycoon2witchdoc1]

Im so proud of 1st op for telling his gf the whole story, this was really important and he was upfront and honest. Shows that he truly cares about his relationship ❤

[@thedestroyasystem]

Honestly, he did everything right for the situation he was in, props to him

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

I don't believe the relationship would work though. Too much baggage.

[@Da1nstantClassic]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Amy_The_unbearded]

Story 2: he wants a written acknowledgement that she committed adultery and won't do it again??!!?? For contacting an ex and asking for legitimate resources to donate to?? I hope OP takes this opportunity to get out. Her partner sounds controlling and unhinged! And should really look up the definition of adultery and cheating. Jiminy Christmas!

[@KJ-sp9jq]

Story 2: WTF did I just listen to? That's absolutely insane. Her STBX sounds completely unhinged. I hope she can put some serious distance between him and her. I'm actually a bit worried for her safety after listening to that story.

[@Prettypoisonswitch]

I know me too. That ended up being absolutely horrifying.

[@user-ir1lu1ei4n]

She shouldn’t care about an ex🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@cuculain78]

​@@user-ir1lu1ei4nThat's ridiculous. Asking after him is basic human decency. And she wanted to know about legitimate charities she can donate to. Anyone who has a problem with that really is unhinged.

[@Tiny0626]

I feels so bad for the second op everyone just lied to her and she had her world shattered over a couple texts

[@immortalsofar5314]

Both stories really have the same message - truth will out. I'm not in favor of always telling the truth (No, Mr Nazi, Sir, I don't know where the Jews are hiding) but life is so much better if you don't do anything you're ashamed of.

[@artemisia457]

the second story is a nightmare happening irl... this man is completely unstable. i really hope op will never go back to him. it's probably only the tip of the iceberg and he manipulated her and people round her way more than even op herself realizes. the most horrifying thing is that all 3 men involved thought it was okay for the husband to treat op like a possession instead of a person. no one stood up for her when it mattered.

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

I dunno why but it gripes me hearing in these stories when the cheating spouse starts crying when caught. I'm sure it is emotional when you're caught but soo manipulative too. Don't be a trash human and cheat and you won't get caught so selfish tears

[@agravery223]

I think OP was a trash human for being a degenerate drug abuser.

[@KittenUndercover]

Story 2: wow..I did not see that coming. OP needs to get full custody of her kid and move to the other side of whatever country she lives in. Husband may have BPD and OP could be his Favorite Person. This is not love, it’s obsession.

[@brandi5126]

S1: Op has guts to be up front with everyone.

[@austinbyrnes8091]

No. He has honor

[@brandi5126]

@@austinbyrnes8091 and sometimes honor takes guts. So he has guts.

[@lucasbroome4148]

@Brandi I think he corrected you because “having guts” can be interpreted as something negative

[@295Phoenix]

@@lucasbroome4148 Where and how is "having guts" interpreted negatively? Doormatland?

[@lucasbroome4148]

@295Phoenix There’s a few ways where saying “having guts” can be negative. I’m not saying it was, just that it could have been confusing. One example could be “You’ve got some guts (balls).”

[@shikuthetempest]

So glad the OP in story 2 is getting out of that situation. That man sounds genuinely unhinged. Good on BIL for taking her in and refusing to let her abuser have access to her.

[@DeathclawJedi]

story 2 .... your glad for op... Well Bless yer heart. This was a propaganda virtue signal story disguised as a false accusation of cheating story. I'm all for Ukraine defending their borders from invasion by Russia. But the BS and virtue signaling about look at me aren't I a good person for supporting them while my own country is being invaded and ripped to shreds by a sleepycreepy Crook... yeah screw that.

[@Maestrosendgame]

If I remember correctly, I’m proud op didn’t listen to the comments who told him to not say anything. The gf shouldn’t really be angry since it sounds like this was way before they got together

[@kbf9644]

Could you imagine the mess if OP kept it secret and it came out later on, as it almost always does? 😳

[@Maestrosendgame]

@@kbf9644 Ik it would’ve been even worse

[@ZooTycoon2witchdoc1]

exactly!

[@Zino_Kohiruimaki]

Right

[@Germania72]

Story 1: Who's the father in the end if she was involved with more than 2 guys in those days? That was a crazy story. Story 2: That story won the prize. That story is made for a thriller.

[@clarehidalgo]

Child #1 was Rick's and not OP and his friends, but Child #2 was from a different Girl's trip that Sam cheated on Rick at

[@rylashadow18]

S1) When someone cheats they're responsible for the outcome from the cheating. They're the ones responsible for their actions and to blame anyone that is a victim of the cheaters falsehood/ unknowing accomplice who was used and feels yuck about it is laughable. S2) Sounds like hubby saw OP as an item not a person. Divorce should be on the table cause there's no way someone who treats you like this values you. My advice: Stick with getting the divorce, use any and all screen shots that shows your soon to be ex as the controlling manipulative, stalking creep bag and abusive monster that he is. Go for full custody cause he will try to use your child as a bragaining tool to reel you back in. Use the parenting App to discuss supervised visits with former BIL if full custody isn't an option cause it sounds as if former BIL would be up for it. Therapy to get you help as well as for your kiddo to help them adjust. Document everything. Make sure any place your child attends is notified of any court paperwork/order as well as what to do if your ex shows up. So for schools, daycares and anyone that may watch her like babysitter's/family members/ friends. Make sure that when you move you have a place with either security for the door/ a buzzer for the door/ if a home of your own your placing camera's. Ring door bell as well as dash cam's.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "Personally I have morals" I'm sorry but that made me laugh, idk why Edit: "You ruined Sam's marriage!!!1!!" Sam ruined her own marriage the second she made the decision to sleep with the first guy, and really cemented the end of it when she slept with two more after that. Unfortunately for her but fortunately for her husband, however, one of them had morals and told said husband once he realized what happened.

[@thomastatan2439]

I also was killing myself laughing when I read him sanctimoniously stating that he has morals! 🤣 A dirty flea-ridden junkie who'll shag any female who's breathing has morals!!! Firstly, I highly doubt it's a true story. He and his crackhead friends remember a whole lot about something that happened years ago. How the hell would the friend remember that both he and op both ejaculated inside her without wearing condoms? Seriously. Ridiculous. There's an awful lot of photos floating around with evidence of the encounter/s - seems incredibly unlikely to me. But assuming that it is a true story (unlikely as that is), I understand why he would tell his girlfriend about it, but why the hell the overwhelming compulsion to inform the husband - someone he's just met and has absolutely zero connection with, or responsibility to. Just leave the past in the past (only speaking about this specific case), and leave a married couple to live their own lives. Oh yeah, I forgot, his towering code of morals drove him to tell the husband!!! 😆 However I really believe that it's just a fake story.

[@agravery223]

ESH... he has no right to judge. I really get annoyed by people who have 'found the light' and want to crap on everyone else. Like dude who are you to judge... what if your family never forgave you for being a degenerate drug addict?!?! He seemed almost gleeful in wanting to tell Sam's husband. She was wrong but it wasn't his place to share. He kept emphasizing how him and his friend came inside like he disapproved when he was the one engaged in that nasty act as well. It's giving me born again Christian vibes and I HATE those hypocritical asshats.

[@megumi_stone7081]

@@agravery223 wasnt his place to share? pretty sure if you know someones a cheater, you tell their partner.

[@catmaxwell6691]

@@megumi_stone7081agreed:)! absolutely his place to share. and I’m personally ok with op being a lil judgmental about a married woman who raw-dogged it so chronically, that her partner’s been unknowingly raising someone else’s kid.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Is there even a word for the level of gaslighting and manipulation the husband in Story 2 was doing besides freaking deranged?!

[@sylviajones6745]

That's what I thought. Daaaaaamn, scary stuff. I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't try to off OP. Like wtf

[@tinygabriel9760]

S1) I have so much respect for op because there aren't alot of people with that kind of courage .. not surprised at the grandma's reaction pretty sure some others feel the same cuz god forbid we blame the married woman who willingly had a train ran on her smh .

[@maddy8328]

How can the gf be angry when this was way before they got together? Smh. Op didn't know and was truthful and did the right thing. Sam was the one who cheated on her husband.

[@philwill0123]

The timeline is OP met gf 3 years ago, and also met the cousin at the concert 3 years ago. So there could have been an overlap

[@jakeand9020]

It was probably more shock than anger and there's no indication she was angry at OP, just in general. After she had a chance to sort her thoughts and feelings she ultimately agreed with OP to do the right thing, and stuck by him. I see nothing odd in her reaction. Seriously, what are the chances you find out your boyfriend slept with your married cousin who lives in a different state?

[@Swnsasy]

It is always the messenger that gets shot in the foot.. The person who cheated is at fault, NOBODY ELSE... It's unfortunate that people kick the person who has morals. I really hope he and Jesse can do this and make it through because you cannot get angry with him for something he did years ago before they all knew each other.. This is a sad situation but OP DID NOTHING WRONG!!! I know he feels guilty but he isn't at fault... It's sad that this wasn't the only time she cheated!! It wasn't with him a year ago!! She is just a cheater period! I'm so glad OP did this but man, my heart goes out to Rick so much.. This is why cheating damages so many lives and I just couldn't do that to my husband...

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 2: insecure husband alert. Honestly his condition for OP to fill in order for him to return makes my blood boil. He wants her to admit to something she did not do!! His response when asked if they could check in on people they know in the Ukraine “no need we will hear about it if they die“ WTF? The only time I’ve ever seen people jump to accusations like that is they are guilty of doing the same thing or they are unhappy/trapped in a relationship they don’t want to be in and they’re jumping at the opportunity to use that to get away. ATU: what a two-faced son of a bitch. He went from being all smug on the phone and quickly acting like a super loving husband when he saw his brother and his wife. What a POS How they got together….. wtf…..

[@user-ir1lu1ei4n]

The husband is right he is an ex so why do you still have his number it’s not insecure

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: this is some insecure bullshit. OP needs to let this relationship go. OP did NOTHING wrong. Either that or projecting. Edit: it does seem he js just looking for a divorce and wants the acknowledgement to help in court. Edit 2: oh my god...what a psycho

[@KittenUndercover]

Yeah she needs a restraining order.

[@BruinPhD2009]

Insecure and manipulative. Not to mention, full on, batshit crazy.

[@TheLilyMustang]

The second story sounds like a Lifetime movie. Very scary.

[@zoehicks880]

I haven’t even finished story 1 yet but I’m just astounded that there are people out there letting strangers finish in them without a condom. It doesn’t even sound like she was on birth control if the conception of one of her kids lines up with OPs timeline 😬

[@cyrilmarasigan7108]

Nope the first kid is cousin's hubby but the other one is not yeah! She is a 403 i bet she cheated on her husband multiple before OP

[@NotQuiteUseful]

S1: Jessie's grandma, an old school Catholic, isn't ok with divorce. also Jessie's grandma, an old school Catholic, is apparently fine with adultery.

[@justine8387]

Old school Catholic means its all ok as long as no one knows, the shame comes from OP TELLING PEOPLE not the affair itself

[@rachaelm7084]

Exactly!

[@Shangori]

My mother has been on that old woman's thing of going through family history. Simply said: adultery isn't rare at any point in time, it was always the norm. And yes, many people, men and women, would rather be quiet and accept the cheating, than going through divorce. At one point in time having a failed marriage was seen as a blemish on both.

[@Smash_Nash]

Hey mark, I never comment, but I wanted to thank you for your content. I have watched every single one of your videos over the past 2 years as I have worked as both a personal care worker, and a CNA. I appreciate you helping me through the tough days. You have helped me through my hard days of sobriety as well. I've been attending AA for over 10 years, but I'll hit 4 years sobriety in June!

[@BruinPhD2009]

You have an amazing story. Congratulations on reaching an important milestone and best wishes for continued success.

[@Undomaranel]

Was about to give you a thumbs up, but Teemo... Jk, keep going strong fam!

[@nyx_moonwalk]

absolutely wild stories today, mark! 1) not op's fault that sam is a cheater. grandma needs to realize its 2022, and sam needs to own up to what she did. 2) op needs as many protective orders as possible. husband is terrifying. imagine him thinking all of this was ok for almost a decade

[@AndyyWithAY]

I thought the STBX might have been cheating already, but I never imagined he was this long con chess master. That was a surprise

[@Russman67]

Story 2: The husband was looking for a reason to snap about the ex. Especially if she showed the husband all of the texts all one of them. I reached out to a former partner to find out how her and her family were doing after a natural disaster. You can still care about people as human beings without trying to bed them again. Edit: Holy cow! The manipulation on the husband's part is beyond the pale. Hope she gets FAR AWAY from this loser!

[@user-ir1lu1ei4n]

🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@judithhansford4629]

To the second story. Please run! This is something that he's been waiting on. His actions are nuts and your life will be he'll if you do what he wants. I had met my husband's ex at a park one day and she did not look well. I asked him to call and see if she was ok. That's what humans do that have compassion. Turned out she had cancer.

[@joreyn7656]

S2: the OP did not come anywhere close to committing adultery. Sounds like husband is looking for any excuse to leave and not have it be his fault. He sounds completely unhinged.

[@Liz-eb5de]

Story 2 is going to end in one of those abusive exes killing a partner who is trying to leave if she’s not careful. I hope she is safe and sound

[@Swnsasy]

Story 2, sit him down, open the Bible, let him read the definition of adultery! This dude is an utter and complete idiot. Nobody acts like this at all.. I've never ever heard of someone calling this cheating!! This is insane.. It sounds like he was already looking for divorce... Or he's cheating!! Edit: OH SHIT!! THAT TURNED REAL QUICK!! 👀

[@user-ir1lu1ei4n]

Stop acting like you would be ok if your Partner texted an ex

[@Donald43]

The scariest thing about the second story is that who else would the husband target next? I can see him doing that to someone else, not just OP.

[@SailorMya]

The second story revaluation was crazy. He strait up sounds like stalker behavior and I fear for OP safety in all this. Who knows how hard he kept tabs on her just waiting for the chance. It makes my skin crawl thinking that the entire time that she didn't know him, he knew her. Imagine finding out that they were watching you and your socials for over a year before you met...

[@memeking7273]

2nd story: (Before Update) Wow Husband sounds manipulative. (after Update) HOLY FUCKING SHIT. Divorce and block your Husband. That is mess up. Why are people like this?

[@catsithx]

Second story man the husband or soon to be ex. Was a piece of work so glad the in laws were the true heroes to save op.

[@isiaadiel3468]

"We'll hear if they're dead." Holy sociopathic behavior, Batman!

[@isiaadiel3468]

Edit: That ending is absolutely unhinged. On what planet is that normal??

[@huinismith]

The bleakest part of story 2 is that OP will live 17 more years chained to that psychopath. ETA: just imagine everyone apologizing to you because of their actions (or lack thereof) that led you to the person you've married, the children you've had. Your life was built on lies. I don't know what would I do, beyond questioning everything. *_Everything_*

[@Tammohawk1]

1. Holy Crap!! That man has been manipulating OP for years and she had no clue. That is scary stuff.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

"Personally I kinda have morals" I'm done 🤣🤣🤣🤣☠️☠️

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: tell his girlfriend. Let her know exactly what happened. Let her decide what happens

[@gordybrown3667]

Why comment before the update when you know that there's an update?

[@clairebear-96]

Lol if Grandma is such an old school catholic, why isn’t she upset at her own granddaughter for committing adultery? that’s like, actually a commandment/a mortal sin for catholics (was raised catholic but not anymore haha) How hypocritical of her

[@kanelovec4315]

So people find divorce worse because it's actually public and cant be hidden. Cheating can be hid and "forgiven". If there a child in the mix the man cant leave the child without a father figure bs.

[@clairebear-96]

@@kanelovec4315 Wow that makes sense and i never thought of it like that, thanks!

[@MEGalomaniac6829]

Never caught you within the first moments of an upload! Nice!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Very nice Meg!!

[@tashantimothy6180]

Haha same

[@MEGalomaniac6829]

@@MarkNarrations this is helping me focus on the DND campaign I'm creating for my oldest son/youngest daughter's birthdays. They turned 18/14 today and he wanted a nice DND session for his big day!

[@ThatsViews]

Just rewatched this and I realised that she hadn't stopped cheating on her poor husband, as the youngest child wasn't his.

[@cheskydivision]

Do not admit to an affair hubby will use it against op. If hubby can’t understand that op has empathy for someone they once cared for then he is an ass. Hubby walked out quite easily wonder if he is cheating?

[@rjl897]

The husband in the second story a whole villain💀

[@paden1865able]

Never go to a family event looking for a date or hookup. Ba-dum-tish!

[@StephFish1004]

Story 2: Screw the husband, the BIL and the ex honestly. If even one of them had told her what to husband was like at the beginning and how predatory he was being she wouldn't have just wasted 8 years of her life on a psychopath. Good on her for not accepting any of their apologies.

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

Yay..a whole family is broken now. Good times.

[@Silence-1170]

Hi all wishing you a great Friday! Have a great afternoon waffles, Wishing you all Well!

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy Friday Silence, hope you and the fam are well!

[@Silence-1170]

@@MarkNarrations we are just got my ID after years of trying to get it, because me and the fam had no idea what we needed.

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great day.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8 💜💜🤗🤗

[@kevinnaranek6649]

Last story: Wow! Didn't expect that to be what was going on.

[@maryann3820]

Omg that last story is insane! Poor op, I hope she gets away from the crazy guy for good.

[@cpaul9269]

S1 - OMG, my heart absolutely breaks for poor Rick..........I can't even imagine. It was the right thing to do, though, to tell Rick about it.

[@jamestown8398]

STORY #1 OP needs to tell Rick the truth. He deserves to know. UPDATE Well, the truth is out and Rick can make an informed decision about how to live his own life. Honestly, I can’t blame Rick if he chooses not to be in the youngest kid’s life. I will never oblige victims of paternity fraud to raise or love their ex’s affair-child. STORY #2 NTA. This is clearly not cheating, and OP was an open book. Husband is clearly jealous and controlling. Maybe he’s cheating and projecting. UPDATE After hearing the whole story, husband is a fucking monster. I hope he dies. I’m glad OP stood her ground and is getting a divorce. Stay the course. Then, once the divorce is final, only do custody hand-offs through a third party (i.e. a lawyer). I normally advise this in cases of bitter divorces, but in this case I’m advising it as a defense measure because you know husband will never stop being a manipulative bastard.

[@cyrilmarasigan7108]

Well honestly on 1st story the child was still a baby and barely remember the "dad"

[@agravery223]

​@@cyrilmarasigan7108yeah but he still will have a half sibling that will be awkward to have a relationship with if Rick only parents the first child.

[@hvymax]

Junkies wreck the lives around them. OP was continuing his Legacy of wrecked lives.

[@ivy4104]

Omg wtf is wrong with the husband in the second one damn

[@ragnarokxg2113]

I like how the grandma is old school catholic and doesn't believe in divorce but will straight up condone adultery which is one of the Ten Commandments.

[@QuietRage]

I agree with OP 1's decision, but not with how he did it. Telling him the truth in your apartment? Alone? What if he was violent? That could have gone south really quickly and it feels stupid to me. Why not tell him at the bar? Even if it was quiet, there'd at least be a barkeeper or something as a witness.

[@D123-f9k]

Grandma cares more about a divorce than repeated infidelity and paternity fraud. Smh

[@Undomaranel]

Yep, because everyone can see a broken family and that brings dishonor. It's a very old school way of thinking, that business of the family stays in the family, along with the idea that a woman should be "used" by only one man and men should "use" only one woman. It's dehumanizing imho. You can support monogamy and chastity without supporting covering up abuse and teaching kids it's okay to lie/ cheat/ steal from family because family just deals. You'd think grandma would be upset she tainted her bloodline but no, blame the systems instead of the skank.

[@cheskydivision]

When ppl condemn the divorce but not 5he infidelity that caused it.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - I would tell the GF first at least, since if they are to get together then… well…

[@Maestrosendgame]

Nah Rick should be notified so the gf can’t spin so bs story but regardless I’m glad he told Rick first

[@lieferal4984]

Story two. From a psychological standpoint.. Lets say that your significant other contacts an ex out of fear because they could be in danger... What's happening is that your partner is paving their way back to their ex's heart. Through a lesser form of hysterical bonding. There is a moderate success rate through this type of relationship rekindling. This is mostly a subconscious thing as it seems to be for the wife, in this situation.

[@ShakedownDreams]

??? It's called fuckin empathy?? Not hysterical bonding what are you talking about. OP knew a person living in a place going through a war and wanting to know if they were doing well because that's just a normal human response.

[@lieferal4984]

@@ShakedownDreams Yes that is also correct, however in relationship psychology it is a lesser form of hysterical bonding. Especially with ex's. Hypothetically should communication between a spouse and their ex have initiated under the pretext of war, then there would be a higher chance of the two reconnecting and tension s will escalate from their. They may up forgiving the flaws of the past. Then as the tension increases, it will push forward the repair of their relationship. Even through email or phone exchanges. As for this particular situation it is unlikely that the wife in this story will want anything to do with either ex, mostly her recent one though. I hope that I made my point clear to you. For further information consider enrolling in a psychology course, as I did. Have a fantastic day.

[@ShakedownDreams]

@@lieferal4984 yeah but that's the thing. She DIDNT keep contacting. Just seeing that the ex was posting was plenty fine to calm her worries. That's just empathy plain and simple. There was no worry of emotional cheating or hysterical bonding, she's quite literally just a human worried about the safety of another human she knows. She's not in a relationship with the ex. There was no WANT to be in contact long enough to form a new relationship.

[@lieferal4984]

@@ShakedownDreams I've edited the last posts to make better sense. There is no emotional cheating, there is a lesser form of hysterical bonding at play here. Generally this would lead to emotional cheating in other situation but not in this stories scenario. Please refer to my first post. The "WANT" builds as a result from each positive interaction

[@kp2223]

Perfect time for a work break, thanks Mark

[@elsemiekeanna]

Listening whilst gardening and catching up after a weekend away

[@dillongage]

Story 1: honestly, im mostly just surprised someone would sleep with a 6'2 150lb man. Im 6' and about 170lbs and IM stick and bones. That guy had to look like slenderman.

[@davidsantiagotate7380]

Hey y’all, let’s get mark to 100k subs!!!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks so much David, one day maybe....one daaaaayyyy! :)

[@SheenaReine]

Wow that husband saying cheating is cheating is ridiculous. Last year I found my ex’s highschool ring. I’ve been w my husband for 11 years 🤣 so before then. I msgd him and sent it back. Told my husband about it, he was onboard too. Send it intl and that was the end. Your partner shouldn’t become unhinged at the mention of an ex. Is he sleeping w his ex? Lol sketchy Edit: Omg the ending is so much worse. How can she trust anybody?!

[@Forced2DoThis1]

1st OP: Let sleeping dogs be. WHY would you bring this up!?! What's it matter? This sounds like a you thing. Especially if she's NOT done it since?!? Why BLOW any of this up unless this is ongoing!?! 2nd OP: Don't STAY in this relationship! Hubby is insane! You did NOT cheat. He's using this as an excuse to control you and keep you down! If you do something like he wants you'll be placing yourself and your child under his thumb for all time!

[@pambarab5506]

Wow! I was not expecting that curveball on the update! A long-term secret kept from OP finally revealed a lot of manipulation by her husband. She had no other choice, but divorce.

[@SilentDecepticon]

2: The husband is incredibly gross and manipulative. That would be an instant divorce for me too. I don’t know why the brother knew about the husband’s machinations but didn’t say anything to the OP before. And why is he helping her now? Guilt?

[@darknessbobulus]

BA.exe has stopped working. I just... had to stop drinking my water at some inocuous point during the story 2 update. It was so wtf I can't even pinpoint when I stopped, mouth agape until I stopped the video to type this out. What... the... fuck... There's spicy and then there is chilling. This is the latter. Well time to finish it

[@kazzuo32]

About the Ukraine, the husband is a major Ah. And I agree is using this as an excuse to leave.

[@jennywhite2462]

I have a very good friend who found out his youngest son wasn't biologically his when the kid was 10 he stayed in his life as his Dad. Him and the mother had been separated for about 7 years when he found out so his feelings towards her weren't as fresh as when they split up. He figured at that point the person it would hurt most was the kid and he had raised and loved him. He said he couldn't see picking up his older boy and leaving the youngest one so him and his parents acted like nothing had happened. He continued to pay child support for him too.

[@JootjeJ]

Last story: how on earth is the OP ever going to get back into any relationship (romantic or otherwise) without severe trust issues?

[@lacewinglml]

God, that second story was an out and out horror show.. just.. wow.. I hope she escapes and gets to live her life, but damn this going to give her trust issues.. poor baby.

[@Ayimii]

I don't see the need to explain where he finished. Just say something about how he may know the father etc. Way too many graphic words.

[@edgetransit7383]

I mean, considering how that's babies are made, that's pertinent information-

[@streamerssaymyname]

It sounded like an obsessive thought, a realization that he may have fathered a kid.

[@Ayimii]

@@edgetransit7383 Of course, but there are several other more tactful methods of getting that across.

[@browniewin4121]

1) Oy, what a mess. It's sad that the husband had to find out his wife was so sleazy and unsafe, and that the youngest child isn't even his own. It's good for his sake the truth came out. 2) Wow, that husband is an overly jealous, totally unreasonable, and excessively controlling, how to deal with this ... stop apologizing and be glad that POS is wanting to exit. A good attorney is what is called for so she can control the exit. Husband is creepy, disgusting and not someone OP should stay with, cheating is assumed by cheaters so I'm wondering if that is the case. The husband needs to be an X and he is the one who needs therapy. After update: I'm glad OP handled things the way she did. OMG, husband so manipulative and creepy, just horrible. Thank goodness for BIL coming clean and supporting OP now.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

That is some insane sugar honey ice tea fan hitting OMG stuff in story 2! Holy Molly!

[@Lisapizzza]

Thanks for the video 🧇

[@rainthomps694]

Great one!

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

1) Here's the thing however his paternity test doesn't matter unless it was done through the courts, so even if they divorce he has to prove he's not the father through the courts otherwise he's paying child support for a child that isn't his, unless he wants to do that because he loves that child and can't see himself not as the father of the baby, which I think is also understandable. I think I would be using a lot of this proof against her to try and get custody showing she's an unfit mother who doesn't care about the safety and health of her kids knowing she could potentially pass a disease to one of her children through birth and then bringing men around her kids making an unsafe environment for them

[@Faith12996]

The first OP probably did the right thing but I don't see a future with him and his gf. Even though he didn't sleep with the cousin knowing she was married, the family will never be able to see him as anything but the cousin's affair partner especially after the divorce. And the gf seems to be the type of person that would not distance herself from her family for him.

[@JaAvii3456]

Story #2 sounded like a Nightmare... the husband is a Psycho

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey Katie hope all is well!

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations all's good sorry I haven't been around on time just been enjoying destiny 2 and your videos always pop up in the middle of a joint mission lol I have been watching them how have you been?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 you too m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you I will sorry I haven't been around for a while how have you been doing? Hope you are having a wonderful day much love 💙

[@KCCAT5]

Am I the only one in the first story that heard Maury's voice announcing if he was the daddy or not?🤣

[@chanel113]

Great video Mark, two awesome stories with updates in one video

[@JenVicmari]

Story 2: Why did no one warn her???? That's crazy

[@ScooterBond1970]

Wasn't there movie not too long ago where a dude tried to manipulate a married woman to leave her husband for him, apparently just to prove a point about faithfulness in marriage?

[@techyfuzzball]

YES!! Was waiting for you to upload 💖

[@jennb1833]

Mark, I have been around your videos for sometime. I love your input on these videos especially some humor in it. Keep up the great work on your channel. Story 1: My first reaction was he must be cheating to treat the OP that way. Now its crystal clear narcissist behavior. Glad OP has people in her corner.

[@claraj8258]

Story 2: I understand the EX is going through stuff rn but like ten years ago, he didn't feel the need to communicate that OP's husband asked him to block OP!? If I was an EX and someone asked me to block my ex I would tell them "Hey X person wants me to block you, why?" Gosh, if that had happened OP wouldn't have gone through all this.

[@chrisj1475]

Story#2: When you are in a committed relationship you are not allowed to be contacting Exes. The fact that you still think and worry about him is not good. You didn't break up because of issues, so you don't have any negative feelings to reject him. You have broken your husband's trust. You went behind your husband's back to text your Ex, despite your husband telling you he wants nothing to do with Ex, or you with Ex. Genders reversed and everyone would crucify him. OP, you messed up. YTA.

[@klh4194]

Hi Mark! Hi everyone! ❤️🌻

[@KvDenko]

Wtf with that guy who's wife's ex is Ukrainian?!?! I reconnected with everyone I know to make sure they're ok when the war started

[@smoggy6849]

post on reddit for advice, immediately proceeds to take action without reading the advice. . . .

[@coreymartin6486]

2nd story....I did think it was disrespectful to not talk to her husband at first about reaching out to her ex, even in an innocent way. That being said, no it wasnt cheating and the reaction was over the top. In the end, the husband is disturbing, to say the least.