Wife Did Something During Trial Separation That Makes Me Want To Make It Permanent r/Relationships

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you so much for your support all, my Christmas toast went out to you all for your love and support towards me and towards each other. Stay awesome! I got a lot of family things going on till the new year but normal double bubble uploads will be back after, much love you awesome, lovely people!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hope your Christmas was well m8 much love 💜💜🤗🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Aww Broken, it's been emotional in all honesty but lovely nonetheless. How has yours been?

[@gypsygem9395]

Thank you Mark! Glad to hear you've been Anna are continuing to be with family for this holiday week. Have an awesome time! Much love to you and Poppy 💟

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations I send all the hugs m8💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations and mine was well I got to see an aunt who I haven't seen in a while

[@superkingoftacos2920]

dude got rid of 84% of the household income and a 7 year relationship because he has a low paying job

[@majesticco.4700]

Yup, hope he's happy to be paying the rest!

[@susankaempfer8427]

It’s like he’d read online about those relationships where some dude dates a poor immigrant chick to have a bangmaid they can treat like garbage under threat of deportation but thoroughly failed to understand that he had no leverage.

[@hestiaa9354]

It’s a miracle!!! Finally a marriage counselor who tells the client that they straight up need to get the hell out.

[@zebnemma]

It happened to my mom 20 years ago when her marriage to my dad was failing. My mom has told me she was so unwell she was on the brink of suicidal thoughts and crying every night. The counselor told my mom she needed to leave for her own mental health. I don't know if my mom ever told the counselor how in a bad shape she actually was but I think he/she could sense it anyway. So I'm glad they said that, it might have saved my moms life as she said she wanted desperately to make the marriage work. My dad isn't a horrible person or anything but he has some flaws admittedly and now 20 years later he has gotten better with some of those things. I'm glad they got divorced because after hearing inside stories from my mom about how the situation was it sounded very dysfunctional and toxic too. I think when a patient is in a bad relationship the counselor must give them "permission" to end it. After all if the patient ends up killing themselves then that's not gonna save the marriage...

[@l.g.2888]

I think it's technically a breach of ethics to do so but in some cases I can't imagine sitting back and not saying it.

[@anonymouslee2083]

@@l.g.2888It’s not a breach of ethics at all if you’re giving advice that benefits the SAFETY of the patient. If staying in the relationship is likely to cause harm to the patient, advising the patient to stay is actually unethical.

[@jsschvz0]

Damn, if OP 2 was my Girlfriend, I'd be eating up the Sugar Mommy jokes and made it into an actual, non malicious, joke and used it to tease OP on how I'm the Trophy Husband lmao. But yeah, fuck that guy. Dumbass lost the best thing that'll ever happen to him.

[@ronhall5395]

This has to be a joke. No grown man would be so stupid. Okay, yeah he was stupid. I earned more than my wife for years, th Dr n about 10 yrs ago she got a new job in sales.She worked her bottom off. Now she makes about v3.5 to 4 times what I make. It does not bother me in the lease. We paid off our mortgage and are on target gone debt free by Jan. I will admit it seems to bug her. If I buy something unexpected she gets angry asking why I thought it was okay to spend her money like that. One day she was yelling at me spending money on useless stuff. I asked her straight up, " some when is buying new undies and socks a problem"? Then I calmly explain that I currently make more money than what our combined income was when we first got married. She just shook her head and walked away. We met with our financial advisor recently and he asked who was handling our financial deals as we were doing extraordinary in the last few years. She looks at me and said, oh my husband does that right now. I gave her a hard time all the way home. All that " playing" on the computer was paying off nicely.

[@vegaskullkid4503]

Man, if someone clowned me about having a Sugar Momma then I’d lean into that and say,”Ya damn skippy I got one and I love her a whole helluva lot!” Guys a moron in more ways than one

[@TheKennethECarper]

I'm shaking my head at the depths of stupidity that the boyfriend in that story has sunken to. I'll never understand the mindset of the insecure little boys who feel as if they have to earn more than their SOs in order to feel like a man. I suppose he's done OP a favor though. If he can end a seven year relationship over a pay discrepancy it's clear he never really loved her in the first place. Now she can move on and find herself an actual man.

[@ginathecookie]

That's true I mean insecurities are normal. It's how you go about it that matters. Like, not taking it out on others. Learned the hardway for both sides before. 😅 edit: added the '

[@tiffanymaeuy5869]

@TheKennethECarper Very well said.

[@ajb7530]

I agree with the comment.

[@melonman6522]

Ah yes, a teacher, a famously well paid profession. A great choice for the man who is self conscious when his partner makes more than him.

[@MrJpaynebb]

Not sure who is dumber the friends for being upset OP was making $300k and willing to support her ex or the ex for listening to them. Definitely the ex because all my male friends would love, love if their girlfriend, partner or wife was making $300k, and willing to cover the bulk of the expenses while they worked their passion job of teaching or whatever and pulled in $60k (which isn't bad money). His friends were jealous and he was too stupid and prideful to realize it. What a moron.

[@ezra2701]

Story one: it's this simple, she broke established rules set BY HER therefore it's cheating.

[@Barlmoro]

its more easyier, she not cheated ones, she cheatet with 7 other mens. One is more than this can survive but 7 holy 304 of a woman she is.

[@mrs.h2725]

With 7 ppl no less… 🤢🤮. I wouldn’t be able to stomach being intimate with my partner after that. The betrayal part yes, but more so from a germaphobe standpoint.

[@ezra2701]

@@mrs.h2725 trueeee. I mean I ain’t one to slut shame. Sleep with as many people as ya like but the fact she just wanted him to be okay with that

[@scarlettg.5772]

@@mrs.h2725 feel exactly the same, 7 people in such a short time. If they were intimate before he decided to don’t get back with her I hope he got tested for STDs/STIs.

[@amandasunshine2]

I consider myself an "ethical slut" and I was surprised by that number. I mean it was a whole year, but DAMN.. you have to be on a dating app or going out to the bars trying to get picked up at that point and/ or sleeping with sketchy guys

[@RosesCookiesAndMilk]

Story 2: With OP making 300k. The ex could’ve pursued his dream career and still lived a life of luxury. He’s going to regret this forever

[@Orion_Alathorn]

he needs better friends imo. if someone in my friend group had a partner that out earned them we would be praising him for finding a good partner not making fun of them for having a "sugar momma", seriously, such a bad group of friends. I agree, he's going to regret this for the rest of his life I think

[@selbarton]

I'd be cautious too if my partner came up with "So I lost my job and my visa dies. We need to marry now so I don't get deported. Sure, I'm was good with just dating when I didn't need a marriage to keep me in the country, but I can't stand the thought of going back to my family and culture." Why? That conversation alone where it was time because of her visa means illegal arrangement with the time put in to make it look good to avoid deportation and him going to jail. (And yes they put in years of work in those schemes.) She supposedly lost her high paying job, so no he wouldn't have been living in luxury on his salary supporting both of them. Her still having a job was only in her update when he didn't agree to marry her to keep her in the country.

[@kaylabrownell1268]

Especially if his goofy ass gets fired lmao!

[@KyrieChii]

@@selbarton You're about as bright as the boyfriend. 🤦 _"Sure, I'm was good with just dating when I didn't need a marriage to keep me in the country, but I can't stand the thought of going back to my family and culture." Why?"_ - They were together for 7 years, she'd brought up marriage _repeatedly_ & he always said 'later'. She went to university & obtained some sort of high degree that allowed her to get that job in the first place. She may have 'lost' that high paying job she had as a result of her department being outsourced, but that doesn't mean she couldn't obtain another well paying job in the US. She didn't want to be forced to go home to her terrible super religious conservative family because they're toxic idiots who didn't agree with her becoming educated & getting a high paying job (they probably wouldn't have been okay with her having ANY job outside the home), & the man she loved wasn't willing to go back with her. OF COURSE she didn't want to be FORCED to go back there. Now it doesn't matter, as she'll have another high paying job with the same company in Europe instead. _"She supposedly lost her high paying job, so no he wouldn't have been living in luxury on his salary supporting both of them."_ She mentioned having quite a lot in savings. Reading or listening comprehension is helpful, you should improve yours. He told her that the REAL issue was the misogynistic _nonsense_ his friends were whispering in his ear all the time making him feel emasculated over 'not being the provider'. This whole thing was never about a 'visa' or her doing some 'long con' as you seem to think. It was about this dude being gaslit by so-called 'friends' out of feeling okay about their pay differences, since she was the one making more. If this was REALLY about a visa, why would he give her the option of marrying IF she quit her job & got one that payed lower than his? How does that make sense?

[@simonO712]

@@selbarton What Hakura Chii said. Your concerns may have been valid in a different but superficially similar sutuation but they really don't apply here.

[@SuzzyWow]

# 2. Friends teasing about your relationship dynamics and you don't realize they just jealous you have a girl with a good job.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: AHH yes, this manipulative BS. This is gaslighting STRAIGHT UP. Also "Weasel words" is the best explanation because that's EXACTLY what they were. She left shit vague so she could weasel her way out of her bad behavior. She knew EXACTLY what she was saying. She wanted him sitting at home while she did what did what wanted. Edit: that therapist is a badass. We need more like her. Even now she is still blaming OP for "not being clear" when she knows exactly what was meant. She can't give up her gaslighting even when it means the end of the relationship

[@untitled-gv3qp]

The fact that she just says "get over it" when she knows how badly it's messing him up says it all. He needs to leave her if she can't at least admit to doing wrong here.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: "he said I was only with him for a quick way to get a PR" 7 years is "quick"? Lol, what an insecure child.

[@selbarton]

You do realize those schemes take years right? And how did no job and vanishing visa so had to marry turn into same job, promoted, and visa not at risk the second he didn't fall for marry her to keep her in the country when she didn't care about marriage prior to visa at risk. He's not insecure. She's lying about either the scheme to get him to marry her or about the job in the update.

[@CarlosMZ12268]

@@selbarton what the hell are you even trying to say? Learn to formulate proper sentences.

[@alexvalentine5091]

@@selbarton sounds like you’re a lil insecure yourself, buddy

[@robertx8020]

@@alexvalentine5091 It sounds like you should be a therapist as your remark is spot on :)

[@Riunlarose]

Something she leaves out is if he sponsors her and marries her he is financially responsible for her for 10 years on a marriage visa So she could marry him for 2 years clear the deadline DUMP HIM and he would still have to be financially responsible for her for the next 8 YEARS

[@Russman67]

Story 2: I can't believe the boyfriend's hater ass friends talked him out of a good relationship. But at least OP can find someone who doesn't see her as a burden. Visa mule that makes 20% of what The person he's sponsoring. The fuck?

[@itrasheditgood]

I think OP had dodged a bullet. Instead of being held back by a man child, she gets grow and fly away to other shores, I hope France treats her well and she lucks out with a fresh relationship with someone who has similar goals, good luck out there OP!

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - if the wife is still doing this shit, she has made NO progress in therapy at all. her bait and switch tactics are still in play and she knew exactly what she was doing the entire time; make sure OP did NOT sleep around by castigating him for even mentioning seeing other people while she screwed half the free world with a new guy every 6 to 7 weeks! he needs to get out! now! plus, you know things are beyond repair when the therapist says to get out of the marriage. so glad OP can get rid of the trash and move forward to a better life!

[@rosealicia1782]

"When you're wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags". A humble bit of advice I got awhile back. Sometimes your love and infatuation with someone can cloud your judgment and it makes excuse after excuse to stay when you really need to leave. I don't know who needs to hear it, but I hope that helps someone scrolling down the comments.

[@jeandobkowski8571]

I made more than my husband at one time. He bragged that his wife was a great bread baker and bread winner!

[@GrassJelly101]

I am SO PROUD of the OP's in these stories for recognising unhealthy patterns in their relationships and getting themselves out of there. Best of luck to them in their lives, and hopefully they'll find partners who deserve them and whom they deserve 🥰

[@WolframKKM]

Imagine conning yourself out of a happy relationship and financial stability because you have shitty friends and a fragile ego.

[@WyntheRogue]

Aye, sounds like the ex's friends never grew out of the frat house mentality, ah well his loss and OP gets to travel abroad to France and thrive! The best middle finger to give to the likes of OP's sexist--ermm excuse me...."Conservative" family and idiot ex is to live well!

[@eliability]

Story 1: It’s not worth saving. She knew what she was doing and he’s clearly extremely unhappy with her. He’s not in the wrong, he asked and she heavily implied that he shouldn’t sleep around. OP should go for the divorce, it’s not gonna go well if he despises her. small edit: OP’s comment. She’s just a bad partner in general and he should’ve left way before that. I know someone who’s done things like that. She’s a terrible person and pulls crap like this constantly and was a reason that her boyfriend (my friend/brother figure) stopped talking to me. They’re not together anymore but i see that he didn’t realize how bad it really was, kinda like OP. Edit 2: Love myself some manipulation 🙄 She thought she was gonna get away with what she wanted and when she didn’t she pulled the “you werent clear!” card. Good on OP for divorcing her but also good luck to them

[@AndreNDP]

She very much sounds like she "trial separated" from him expressly to have a run as the town bicycle. And I wouldn't even be sure that she wasn't doing it before that.

[@Tammohawk1]

This is your first Christmas w/o your dad and you and your family are still grieving. We love you and are here for you. Take all the time you need, we'll always be here waiting for you, know that.

[@lancerevell5979]

She is the perfect example of "Do what I say, not as I do!" She knew better. Divorce is the only answer here. OP dodged a huge bullet in not having kids with her.

[@ronhall5395]

She absolutely planned this whole thing out. What she did not expect was the therapist asking that question. She wanted him to not see anyone, while she went clubbing or what ever she was doing. I am surprised she did not lie about that. She seemed rather proud of herself. Not one guy, not two guys, but freaking 7 during a trial separation. Unbelievable.

[@flamin.hot.cheeto]

Story 2 hit so hard lol. I’m an Australian citizen with PR status in the U.S. Unless you are from a “western” country like Australia, it’s so difficult to get a green card. I would be devastated if an significant other accused me of using them for a citizenship. I agree with Mark when he said that OP’s ex will regret sabotaging his happy relationship over his friends’ comments. OP sounds absolutely wonderful.

[@ronhall5395]

He should have dumped the friends not her. Friends can be idiots sometimes. I bet every one of them were wishing they were in his position.

[@catsithx]

Story one when the therapist says get out best to do so. The therapist even saw the marriage as a sinking ship.

[@lilmisskristy5467]

If you're having couples therapy trying to get back together. Sleeping around with others without your partner Knowing is unacceptable.(talking about the wife in the first story)

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Right? The "you weren't clear" excuse was absolute bullshit.

[@pippo17173]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659 She flat out gave a hint when she got mad with op mentioning that. Her going *GROW UP* is phrase I hate with toxic abusive women. If a women does this to you when you need support, please leave. Save yourself the trouble and be free.

[@spockezri]

that first op sounds like he's done so much work to be an amazing person and partner, he deserves someone who also cares enough about themself and their relationships to work to be a good person

[@fcold9402]

My aunt and uncle gave me a waffle maker for Christmas. One with the removable plates for easy cleaning. Just thought i needed to mention it. Very happy.

[@BruinPhD2009]

That. Is. Awesome.

[@Gumbier_Than]

Piblings are the greatest things next to sliced bread. 🤗

[@jc9485]

My ex-husband had the same problem as the man in story 2 and tried to get me to quit law school and quit my job and go on unemployment benefits to stay home and effectively be a maid/baby factory. I declined.

[@alexvalentine5091]

Story 2: NTA. Talk about a fragile man. He essentially let his friends talk him out of a relationship. He still sucks though

[@jackspring7709]

'Fragile' lol.

[@alexvalentine5091]

@@jackspring7709 I mean what else would it be?

[@KyrieChii]

I wonder if perhaps those 'friends' were 'jealous' of the 'standard of living' OP's boyfriend was able to have as a result of her pay, & all participated in the 'teasing', trying to convince him he was somehow being 'emasculated' by not being 'the provider' so he would feel like 'less of a man' & eventually break up with her. Terrible friends, either way.

[@j.j.juggernaut9709]

First he whines about not being the equal one in the relationship and then says he wants to be the "provider". Guess the bitch only wanted to feel superior to OP. What a pathetic guy

[@psyolytesaille]

@@j.j.juggernaut9709 This was a red flag for him being/becoming a financial abuser (at minimum) to me. Especially with her immigrant status. That dynamic has a high chance of DV, and with her status would make her completely vulnerable if she didn't make the amount of money she does.

[@torymann4174]

Finally a therapist whom understands.

[@reginarainer9740]

Anybody who is willing to tear somebody else down to make themselves look better is not somebody worth having in your life.

[@debbymccormack6525]

Story #1 ~ "We were on a break!" LOL, thanks Ross!

[@sopheed9266]

A couple of years into dating I asked my then boyfriend (now fiance) how he would feel if I ever made more money than him. "Uh, fuck yeah more money! Why?" Which is the only acceptable response tbh

[@ineedhoez]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Misspellednumbers]

Story 1: "See, that's where you're wrong. I don't need to do either of those things, I just need to get over you." * Me behind my screen *: YES. YES! SAY THAT AGAIN! If the wife wanted to start sleeping with men, but also attempting to fix the marriage, then she should've been clear. She had OP's number, she saw him various times, and now she's saying there were no clear ground rules? If there wasn't, you call your SO up, talk about it, and go on from there. She was definitely working on a different team.

[@cynicalminion]

my thought on "something feeling wrong" is that it's a part of your brain that hears "giving up" and automatically equates it to "bad", even though giving up on an unhealthy marriage is probably the best move you can make in this situation...

[@susanlosey9511]

OP is right to divorce his wife. She would never change and would continue to cheat on him.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

The immigration story. I feel that he was using OP as a convenience. He "dated" OP thinking that OP would be "sent back", and then find a real "American girl" to marry. OP; needs to find a new job, AND a new man.

[@robertx8020]

I would not rule that out

[@owl7072]

Story 2: Boyfriend felt insecure and unequal due to his girlfriend making more money than him and instead of discussing his feelings with her like a mature adult, he chooses to.. **checks notes** risk getting her kicked out of the country which could cause her to lose her job and potentially have to move back in with her controlling family 🤨

[@jayreiter268]

Wow can not understand that last guy. My wife and I made similar salaries to begin with. Then she made more. Did not bother me. In fact I was proud of her.

[@friend1235]

My parents were raised in a Traditional/Conservative and sexist environment, my Mom made 4x what my Dad was making, and my Dad did not give a F*** because he saw the money my Mom made as BOTH of their money

[@clairebear-96]

Omg perfect timing I just got out of the shower and was lamenting not having my usual mark video to watch as i do my after-shower routine lmfao 🧡

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha thanks for being here Claire, hope you've had a lovely Christmas. Schedule is a bit off till the new year :)

[@clairebear-96]

@@MarkNarrations Haha it’s all good, my schedule is off til the new year too lol, merry christmas!!

[@carolroberts4614]

Same here, and I went to bed without getting my daily fix! It's breakfast time now so I am glad to have found this!

[@nikkid7838]

It was a marriage counsellor that made me see what a emotional abusive marriage looked like (mine). When I left and gave my new therapist (left the area) permission to speak with old therapist “I am so happy she left. I was worried about her safety” I never felt so sure about my choice to leave then at that moment.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Last story- Just wait till his friends start giving him grief for letting her go. He needs new friends and to grow a backbone.

[@robertx8020]

last story : I understand why OP's ex doesn't want to get married ... It is always better to live of a low income then a high one, right? She was clearly after his money since she 'only' makes $300.000 and he makes a staggering $50k and anyone with a calculator know that 60 is way better than 300 And I bet the ex has thousends of women lined up? who doesn't want a relation with an insecure, low paid teacher who values hiw friends advice over his partner /s Btw I hope OP told his ex's parents the true story1

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 1.) A break isn’t the same as a break up let alone a divorce! Not a fan of the show but didn’t F.R.I.E.N.D.S. already establish this? Glad to know the therapist told OP to straight up run.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@Melody Ackerman 🤔 I guess it’s different for everyone. From what I was taught, wouldn’t a “soft break up” be a contradiction of itself? Taking a break is for figuring out the relationship, being still undecided. Meaning you’re still involved. So cheating is cheating.

[@clarehidalgo]

@Melody Ackerman A break is time apart to reassess your relationship, unless both party's agreed to seeing other people during the break it is disrespectful to do so.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

@Melody Ackerman It depends on what you agree on. You can have it where both people sleep with someone else but that's not what comes to mind when I hear the word break. I just think of it as taking time apart because you're still with the person. You haven't actually broke up so it wouldn't make sense to start something with someone else even if it was just casual.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@Melody Ackerman Wait what? I don’t think I understand. You think it’s okay to NOT have an understanding agreement of seeing others whilst on break? To disregard your partner in such a critical time? Is that what you’re saying? I’m confused?

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

@Melody Ackerman I figured, that’s why I asked. You said agree to disagree at Melody and I was like wait….am I missing something?

[@jeanneg1628]

idk when it became my daily ritual to listen to this channel but i’m here every day now, god bless u for doing this across the christmas weekend

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks for being here Jeanne, the schedule is a bit all over the place at the moment but it will go back to the 2x daily in Jan :)

[@MariMotherofGoblins]

I'm so happy in the last story she left the boyfriend. I hope she goes on to make all the money, and finds herself a partner that is psyched that they can buy a house/travel/comfortably have a family because of it.

[@travisricherson6406]

Oh my geez the second guy really dropped the bag omg

[@SherlocksLeftNipple]

Story 1: What the ex-wife did was the most literal interpretation of "Fuck around, find out." Glad the counsellor gave it to OP straight and didn't drag this out. That relationship was long dead by the time they tried therapy.

[@Donald43]

Story 2: as Del Boy would say about the bf: what a plonker.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Redhead77]

Re: OP from Indonesia. She truly sounds like EXACTLY the kind of person I'd love to have as a fellow American citizen! And the bf wanting her to take a demotion to save the relationship so he can be the provider?! AYFKM?! Anyone reading this - if you're with someone who requires you to become "less" because they can't handle you being "more" than them, you're with the wrong person, PERIODT! Lastly, I'd like to know where she works and are they hiring?

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

Story is crazy! I started a new job this year and earned more than my SO and we both joked about him being a 'kept man' and he said how he was gonna just quit his job and be looked after and I started calling him the stay at home wifey. Honestly some people and their egos 🙄

[@eliability]

Back again and glad to be here! Hoping everyone’s holidays were going well ☺️

[@MarkNarrations]

Cheers Puff, always a pleasure to see you :)

[@moonbear5929]

I love the term "Weasel Words". 🤣 Though I would say the wife in this situation isn't taking the marriage seriously at all if she fooled around with 7 guys within a year of separation. Now that OP made up his mind he wants a divorce, she's sorry. Tough cookies, what the hell did she expect? Why is she upset now? Is it the drop in money nothing her? Why doesn't she mooch off of one of the other 7 guys? She showed her true colors and OP sees her for who she really is. She made her bed (7 times), she can lie, in one of them.

[@kittychaotic9450]

Bookmarks for those who want them! Story 1: 0:22 Story 1 comments: 4:37 Story 1 update: 7:24 Story 1 update comments: 9:25 Story 2: 11:21 Story 2 comments: 13:40 Story 2 update: 15:38 Story 2 update comments: 20:10

[@femboy__bunny]

The boyfriend in the second one fucked up so badly like, if I was the man in that situation she could stick me in an apron that says “lil b*tch” and I’d be happy as a clam. 300k a year!?! Holy shit!

[@Tammohawk1]

1.NTA Weasel words is very fitting indeed. SEVEN MEN!! I'd divorce her so fast they would be knick naming me Speedy.

[@davidphillips6803]

Absolutly. Seven men! She turned into the town trollop if she wasn't already.

[@sonicwma0105]

Hits home, that first story. Not wife but GF but same thing. Always me having to adjust and understand. Had to do everything to "save" the relationship while she can do what she wants. Even wrote about it on reddit but that was a few months back.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

7 men??? If she had charged they could have paid for a vacation.

[@victorcrizatu5410]

Just wanted to say thank you because I usually get bored when playing games so my solution is to start playing your videos and listening to the stories while playing at the same time so I owe you one ❤️

[@mattharrell6880]

1st story is an actual decent therapist. Not many out there

[@superkingoftacos2920]

"Please don't leave me! It was all your fault! If you do better, I'll stop hurting you!"

[@nypyro]

That last one!!! Whew dude needs a therapist because he can't stand on his own 2, friends teasing him. However, as stupid as his move is I think it's more about control. Control finances and control the situation. This is good because now the OP can build the life she deserves with a partner who supports her and doesn't have insecurities.

[@allenwalkeranime7968]

The first post is a prime example of "Red flags aren't seen with rose colored glasses"

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

S2: in the words of Mark: Holy Moly. They're together 7 years and he's accusing her of being a total stranger - someone who would sink an anchor baby into the sea before that ship leaves port.

[@LISA75_]

Visa story - OP needs to tell all her ex's friends and family exactly why they broke up , and tell them exactly how much she earns and what her ex earns, humiliate him to them , and point out what an idiot he is to throw away their possible future .

[@ksbs2036]

That would be unnecessarily hurtful but damn it would be fun and the idiot would deserve it. So yeah, this is a strategy I can get behind lol

[@AndyyWithAY]

Night shift is absolute 💩. I had to do it a few times a month at my old job and it was horrible. I can't believe I ever thought staying up all night was fun

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - I know this is childish but... she's been with seven men?" Feed her a poisoned apple!

[@BruinPhD2009]

Don't do it! She blame OP for that, too. 🤣

[@markanthony1004]

Dude really played himself and got what he deserved. I’m glad she moved on. I’ve heard the story before but I never get tired of women and men doing what’s best for them and having the strength to walk away from idiots

[@josephbrown9665]

My wife makes high 8 figures a year as a lawyer and I am still just killing it with my 7 figure income. I work twice as much and harder but she has been working at her job since she was in her 20’s and still in law school. I am the one that supports us but she is the one who has our retirement ready for us in our early 50’s so we are all good.

[@KittenUndercover]

Men - the majority of us do not think less of you if you make less than us. Sincerely - Women

[@ashmurahysrahel6053]

I enjoyed both stories, especially the therapist that told the truth!!! And I am so glad that the young lady cut him off! I wish both have a wonderful life!❤❤❤

[@viciousrape]

story 1: OP is a fucking boss. that was an incredible line. "you need to grow up and get over it" "I don't need to do either of those things. I just need to get over you" story 2: one thing I can say about this is that... you can definitely know a person for a decade and not know who the fuck they are. some people are seriously that good at it. that shit does happen. however, having said that, for her to do that for 7 fucking years... she would have to be the worst gold digger of all time finished the update. wish dude cut off those toxic friends. his fault though. he lost what should've been the love of his life because he wanted to feel like he had a big dangalang

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day hope you had a wonderful Christmas

[@MarkNarrations]

Emotional but a good time :) How about you Katie

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations it was good my girls were happy so I'm happy

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Thank you broken I will. Hope you are having a wonderful day

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@MizTameRumors]

'I want to be the provider' dude, why would you WANT a poorer household? some men's ego make them very stupid.

[@sammyk.6457]

I love these videos, I learn new terms and I’m always tempted to write them down

[@jessilyngray1223]

I made more then an ex at one point. His friends said I was his sugar mama and he always said "so you jealous". He ended up moving cross country for work he was in the air force and we went out separate ways.

[@nicknitro86]

Was he seriously wondering if he should LEAVE A CHEATER? God just stay if he really didn't know the answer to that.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I quote OP. "I've made so much progress in therapy, and I know she has too." OP, she has not made progress in therapy, because if she had, she would have made working on your relationship a priority (as she said in the beginning of separation). I mean a outside of abuse, a therapist almost NEVER recommend divorce. As well, just the way she spoke to you at the therapists office makes me thing her attitude actually got worse. She may have never intended on working on your marraige. She may have wanted to get out there and see what other relationship she could find, or she was waiting for you to decide on divorce so she she wasn't seen as "The bad guy" to family and friends. Also, she may have been cheating on you before the separation. Either way you deserve so much more. (Edited for spell)

[@ariagnyug]

Anyone else thinking BF from second story was cheating on her? Yeah, he's cheating and wanted an excuse to leave.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Oh hi, Mark! Hope you're well. I learned yesterday I'm going to be an auntie. I'm already a crazy cat/bird lady, so I'm leaning into it full tilt and picked me up some knitting needles. Much love! 🥰

[@MarkNarrations]

Wow really Gwen? That's awesome news! Get those needles out and make a cardie quick quick :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh and congrats!!!

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Thank you!! It's gonna look like an absolute mess, but I'll give it a shot!

[@clairebear-96]

Congratulations on becoming an auntie!! I’m also a crazy cat aunt who loves to crochet, currently working on a scarf for my niece! Happy holidays and new year!

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

@@clairebear-96 happy holidays to you, too! I love to crochet! I'm an amateur, but the autistic part of my brain says "it's a system, a list of simple, singular steps, just follow it" and I end up working it out. I'm going to attempt to knit a lace pattern blanket. I'm doing white and I may or may not dye it once they pick a nursery theme. Wish me luck!!

[@kelseydaily3486]

Story 2: I'm a US citizen who moved to Canada in 2019 to be with my then boyfriend of 3 years (now husband). I was here only on a 1 year open work visa. 6 months in we had to make a decision on how to go about getting my citizenship came up. We spoke with a lawyer and while we had a few options, marriage was the 'easiest' way for me to get in. Luckily for me my boyfriend had decided to propose though this escalated the timeline a bit. But we had the marriage discussion before hand and agreed it's what we both wanted when the time was right. The Canadian government decided that the time was right and we were married in less than a month. Still took over a year and a half to get PR status and thousands of dollars. All this to say, I'm sure they had the marriage discussion before, 7 years is a long time not to have it at least brought up. So I can't imagine the shock of him turning around and throwing an accusation of her only wanting a green card. Not surprised to find out he's an ex now especially after he basically told her with his actions that he didn't care if she got sent back to her own country

[@quarterknight3572]

If my girlfriend was so baller she made 5 TIMES my salary I would be so overjoyed ecstatic and proud of her I'd do anything to keep her and make her happy of her accomplishments. It boggles my mind when guys are "insecure about not being the provider"

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Story 2 I’ve heard of insecurities before, but GAH DAMN. “W-Well 🥺 my meanie f-fwiends made fun of me c-cuz my wife makes a lot more than i-i do😢 so instead o-of 😭 making them stop i w-want you to take 😥 a job that pays less s-so i can be big strong provider ☹️🥺” SHE MAKES 300K OR SOMETHING, I’D BE BRAGGING AND PRAISING FOR A THIRD OF THAT, NOT FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF But hey, i’m just a plastic vent rabbit, what do I know

[@squidward6187]

S1. "She was crossing a line by telling me what to do." That just makes me incredibly sad. Shouldn't that be the point of therapists? To go to them for guidance? But they are simply trained to be puppets and tell you what you want to hear. That's called conning people. S2. I find it so sad that people ruin good relationships simply because their friends are jealous. He's never going to have a good relationship with those friends.

[@nickiel577]

The best response I have ever heard from a man being given a hard time because his wife makes more money was “oh yeah it’s so hard to have a hot wife who makes Bank”

[@ksbs2036]

Exactly this. Fuck male fragility. Enjoy having an awesome wife!

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Happy Christmas and New Year Mark and Poppy! I just sat down and checked phone to see if you had uploaded anything. Perfect timing! 😁 Ps... We need some Xmas dog tax from you 😁

[@MarkNarrations]

Oh I'll get that doggo tax out soon, when I've recovered from the Christmas madness hahaha :)

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

@@MarkNarrations Yay, I will hold you to that 😁🖤

[@burntblonde2925]

Addicted to your video’s! Love your voice and comments about the stories

[@ineedhoez]

Story 2: imagine having "I'm a provider" fantasies but having one of the worst paying professions in existence 😂😂😂😂😂😂.

[@idkDude99]

The friends sound jealous of the guy at the end

[@CatsandDragons7]

Mark you are hitting it out of the park with all the updated stories lately. And a great balance between AITA and relationships and other subs? Perfection

[@lauralfreeberg2179]

I love weasel words. I'll have to use that expression

[@CarinaCoffee]

Last story: I'd have loved to be a fly on the wall when that fragile egoed man told his family they've broken up and I really hope the family found out why.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

So, I’m atm playing South Park: The Fractured but Whole. Idk why but I love the game. Edit: I’m also eating a whole chocolate cake at eleven almost twelve o’clock. It’s lovely.

[@moimeself1088]

Hiya Mark! 🙋🏾‍♀️🇿🇦 Thanks for posting even during the hols. Hope you're enjoying them. 🍾

[@kp2223]

Story 2, if he wants to be the provider, he should probably get out of a field that is widely known to be underpaid and undervalued.

[@upperechelon7704]

Story 2: the boyfriend’s friends aren’t really his friends

[@lavenderhoney3208]

I'm sure if I posted some of my challenges I would get this reaction too, hind sight being 20/20, but honestly what are some of these people thinking! ??? The second story is heart breaking. Absolutely tragic, all because of what? It's so sad. Glad OP has bigger and better coming and got out of there before she had ' you just wanted me for a Visa' thrown in her face.

[@srsh12345]

Story 1: Lucky that his counselor has the sense to tell him to leave. Story 2 : He dumped his girlfriend that absolutely loves him because she makes too much? wtf

[@worldissuesmatter1643]

Story2: the guy would rather live in poverty so that he can be ‘the provider’, instead of living comfortably with a loving relationship. Wow.

[@madisonl3401]

Thank you so much for keeping these coming! You're awesome! Happy holidays everyone

[@natnuss98]

The first one makes me mad. So so so so mad. It was gut wrenching to hear that she slept with 7 other men.... I couldn't even think of other men if I was trying to actively to repair a marriage. This is like the Ross & Rachel 'we were on a break'. There is no bigger disrespect to the time spent together than sleeping with someone else just because you can or because you can't control your own actions.