Boyfriend Thinks He's Pushed Partner Into Religion After Neglect | r/Relationships

[@Acidfunkish]

Pretending you're not homosexual won't give you longterm happiness. 🤦‍♀️

[@0Jenna7]

Hm. This. Only it's worse than just that. His real issue is his unhappiness, (probably depression but I don't actually know) it's a bit like drug addiction. You find a shiny new drug and everything is bliss until your body adapts. Then it all comes crashing down. Op's bf won't be able to be happy until he has self-realization and gets actual help.

[@TheNormExperience]

Really it will ultimately do the exact opposite.

[@liviwaslost]

As someone who has to pretend to be straight in front of my family, I agree.

[@GeekyBibliophile]

Hostile work environment. And if Ben is bringing her sexuality into it, claiming she isn't actually queer, would that count as sexual harassment? It's definitely sounding like discrimination.

[@jaycehoward2771]

I think he turned to the only friend that reached out and gave him something to make him happy. It sounds like his entire identity was the relationship so when OP pulled back he didnt know what to do and latched on to the first thing that came along to feel included and happy!

[@TiffWaffles]

What the friend did was be extremely toxic and manipulative. It wasn't because he wanted his friend to be happy, it was because he wanted to get somebody into the congregation and took complete advantage of somebody. I come from a family that was literally broken apart by the Jehovah's Witnesses. These people took complete advantage of my great grandmother who was newlywed and feeling as though she was unloved by my great grandfather who spent more time with his buddies. This cult singlehandedly destroyed my family because some shits figured my great grandma was the prime target for their indoctrination. So, you're wrong when you say that this 'friend' did this because he wanted this person to be happy.

[@jaycehoward2771]

@@TiffWaffles can you say R/swoosh because that went so far over your head. Read it again and slowly. How you got that I meant the old friend wanted him to be happy is beyond me not even close to what I said and meant. Again read it again and slowly this time. Jesus Christ.

[@Ravethecat12]

If my partner started randomly pushing religion on me I’d bail so fast. That’s too stressful.

[@AlexandraWatchWorld]

My ex found God and i didn't , there is so much "I love you but if you don't follow this book to the letter you are going to hell" one can take.

[@Fingerscrossedout]

I pushed my ex out of religion 😂. No but really the poor guy was afraid of everything, literally everything. He thought because he's bisexual, wasn't perfect and that he wasn't yet baptized he would go to hell. I literally needed to explain to him that the concept of good and evil does not exist. He even went to a "cure gay" camp. He was clearly abused there... Now he's finishing his master in nature and evolution. I'm so proud of him still for coming out of his comfort zone!

[@f.t.cnation9999]

I firmly belive if someone want to share their religious views with you. It because they want you to share your religious views with them. They are only pushing their views on you because they want you to push yours on them. Remember if they start the conversation its only fair you finish it. I have friends from many faiths and all levels of devotion. It works they only ever talk religion with me if they want an honest opinion.

[@niecydeleon759]

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[@ricardoospina5970]

The word you are looking for is "Hostile work environment."

[@TheNormExperience]

This 👆

[@brandi5126]

Story 1: sounds terrible for op. I don’t see how op is supposed to deal with wanting to be with a partner he can’t be intimate with. There is nothing wrong with the partner wanting to explore or accept a new religion but asking your partner to stay with you without physical intimacy or being able to express yourself genuinely seems pretty impossible long term. I think op is just going to have to break up.

[@Digitalfairy]

That's my point.

[@TheMimiSard]

As a Christian, I agree with you. It's going to make OP uncomfortable to stay with the boyfriend, and that is no basis for true faith. I would not support trying to force the boyfriend out of his new beliefs, but I don't see a happy future for OP either. Faith that is forced is not faith at all.

[@janet6421]

@@TheMimiSard Am I the only one who thinks this sounds a lot like the "I'm sorry husband/wife I'm gay and no longer attracted to you. Can we still be friends?" At least BF will not attack OP online for being homophobic.

[@clownrat5759]

@@janet6421 see it’s slightly different though? Some LGBT people force themselves into unhappy marriages to appease family, appease society, multiple other reasons. Some of them don’t even realize they’re gay when they marry.

[@f.t.cnation9999]

@@TheMimiSard This religion prayed on the weak. He has self esteem issues and is depressed instead of trying to get him to get help or actually helping. They converted him and convinced him that he will only be happy if he follows their rules and never acts on his sexual orientation. This is some F up bull shit. Sucker people wile they are venerabl.

[@MrMrSockhead]

Day: 58 of telling Mark that he is wonderful and deserves the world

[@chickennuggets12345]

Glad people are reminding him :D

[@user-wb6fm4hu2h]

damn so many days

[@kitcat8308]

Keep it up awesome sauce

[@maggpiprime954]

Ohhhhh...! So yellow is AITA, and dark blue is Relationships! Nice!

[@virtualatheist]

Story 3: The MiL has a huge history of being poisonous to EVERYONE, and husband and FiL blame OP?

[@Mewse1203]

"Her and FIL came over for Christmas" Why? Edit: commented too soon. "Husband is a huge pushover" so he's spineless. Got it. I agree Mark, the husband is the real issue. I'd never hang my wife out to dry like that.

[@pedersonjason5256]

Next time he says "I know its hard being a new mom" counter with "how would I know? I never get to try."

[@ZoZoFluffy]

Why does the title says “girlfriend”? They are both males...

[@amarahitt1446]

I was confused too lol

[@rainorld2493]

Yeah. Very confused.

[@MarkNarrations]

Edited this last night and totally forget they were same-sex. My bad and fixed! :)

[@ZoZoFluffy]

Glad it was fixed :)

[@honeybunny3365]

It's not ok to push a person to be a part of a religion. I'm christian and I believe in free will cause I have no right to force someone to believe in god cause that is their choice alone. God says love thy neighbor, that's why I don't hate anyone who doesn't believe in god.

[@That_Name_is_Taken]

Hi. I’m also a Christian and I just want to say that you are correct! Jesus didn’t force people to be apart of Christianity and we shouldn’t either. May God bless you.

[@charimonfanboy]

I went through church based gay cure therapy as a kid and the best advice I can give OP is to run. I hope he did not let him drag him in to that world, it messes you up and turns you crazy. I empathise with OP's partner a lot but the best thing OP can do for him is to refuse to be a subject of his internalized homophobia.

[@j.graham8068]

Wow. I had to stop for a bit when it came to the part where the new mother with PPD said she had fantasies about taking a knife to her husband and MIL. I don't know how serious she was saying that, but I really hope she is sharing that with her therapist. Several years ago, someone in my wider circle of acquaintances had PPD and ended up taking a knife and killing her husband, her 4-year-old, and herself. She injured the toddler but not badly, and fortunately left the infant alone. That event has haunted me for years. PPD is something that needs to be taken seriously.

[@SCScholar1]

Final story. The husband and MIL are being like helicopter parents. The suggestion about wearing a particular shirt or hat to signify you want to do this on your own is a good idea. You are communicating and they aren't listening.

[@maemae527]

I’m upset for my fellow LGBT+ people in this section- ive felt a lot of this, I’ve experienced it too.

[@That_Name_is_Taken]

I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I hope that you live a wonderful life.

[@mcarthur692]

I really don't think this has anything to do with being gay. The OP in the story had to had really really left the boyfriend alone and miserable for months. OP didn't even realize what his partner was doing and who he was hanging out with. Don't we always tell people to get their minds right and figure themselves out? If this was a man and woman would you be telling OP to find another partner?

[@clownrat5759]

@@mcarthur692 yes, I would be telling them to find another partner. Because it’s awful to force something like that onto your partner with such abruptness, same-sex or not.

[@mcarthur692]

@@clownrat5759 ... Abruptly??? That clown was a bad partner for months. Ask op to update the bs.

[@clownrat5759]

@@mcarthur692 Yet he still had religion shoved down his throat. That doesn’t justify it lol

[@SkiesOfYellow]

That last story broke my heart. PPD is so, so hard to begin with, and having know-it-alls swooping in to "help" all the time would make it so much worse. I had some pretty bad PPD after my first pregnancy, which was made worse by problems with breastfeeding and the fact that not one doctor, nurse, or "specialist" ever told me that sometimes it just doesn't work. My husband came home from work every day for 3 months to find me sobbing with one or both of our babies in my arms feeling like an absolute failure because if it weren't for formula, my kids would have starved to death. Of course, neither one of us knew what we were doing and we were pretty much going it alone, so we at least didn't have a ton of people jumping down our throats every time we did something "wrong". I just gave birth to our twins' younger sibling two weeks ago, and my husband has been watching me like a hawk for signs of PPD, but this time is going a bit more smoothly. I still have down moments, but I'm much more knowledgeable and, let's face it, having just one baby to watch out for is a stark difference from what I'm used to (plus, the twins love to help out with their brother). We're still being careful and vigilant, but I know how to give myself more grace this time around. I really hope that the mom in the last story is able to get her husband and MIL to really listen to her and let her figure things out on her own. That comment gave some amazing advice and I hope it helps her.

[@Galworld761]

I am so sorry you felt this way. Not all women can breast feed easily. Back in the day, there were wet nurses. Do I think breast is best? Sure but not at the expense of a healthy mom and fed baby.

[@danger0Robertson]

It's considered a hostile workplace.

[@ajwinberg]

My hubby and I have gone through a huge change over the last year and neither of us have turned to religion for "help". We have just kept moving forward and working on our marriage and our relationship by talking out any problems we were having.

[@commandercox154]

Dang it you posted during breakfast. I had to hear "what's up waffle gang" and look down at my pancakes in shame

[@judaspriestess7947]

You traitor. :(

[@alexsmith319]

I had cream of wheat. No judgement.

[@sebastianjoseph9628]

@@alexsmith319 what is cream of wheat?

[@alexsmith319]

@@sebastianjoseph9628 It's like oatmeal or grits, but with wheat instead of oats or corn. It's finer grain than grits, and I like a little fruit with it

[@GeekyBibliophile]

Carnation Instant Breakfast for me

[@vickyflores8124]

Story 3, watch the marriage fall apart low-key the husband annoys me way too much to stay with him. I never get how ppl never say anything to ppl who are being rude even if it's the in laws like girl I would be speaking my mind and THEN expect my partner to back me up and if not we're having a talk and I wouldnt let it go until it's resolved.

[@81babyruthluv]

I had really bad PPD and I remember feeling the EXACT same way as you do. I was so defensive with everyone around me, and I felt like they were always trying to take over. It's really hard when you are a new mom to learn to accept help from other people; it took months for me to learn to accept that my mother was just trying to help with her first grandchild. LOL I remember my mom bought us our first highchair without talking to me first, and I flipped out LOL. Did you know that men can suffer from PPD too? You husband's overbearing with the baby may be something similar to what you are going through, believe it or not. I think that your experience right now is very common and I hope you don't feel alone; the time after you have a baby is very stressful and so not how you pictured it would be. I am glad you are getting therapy. I would suggest trying to get a new hobby; scraping booking helped pull me out of the PPD. I could sit there and scrapbook while the baby slept. Just know that it will eventually get better. Be patient with your husband and MIL. Their behavior is very common, especially if it's a first grandchild. Just wait till you have more children, then nobody will care as much LOL. Sending good thoughts and love to you and your family.

[@wmdkitty]

CIS men cannot get PPD, they don't give birth. Trans men, however...

[@81babyruthluv]

@@wmdkitty maybe you should read some books on PPD. Fathers HAVE been known to experience it too.

[@81babyruthluv]

@@wmdkitty maybe you should read some books on PPD. Fathers HAVE been known to experience it too.

[@ettinakitten5047]

​@@wmdkitty Yes, they can. And adoptive parents can, too. It's not just postnatal hormones, it's also a reaction to stress and adjusting to drastic life changes, and to the hormones responsible for parental bonding that your brain releases in response to caring for a baby.

[@JasperCatProductions]

That first story is sad. You deserve to be loved fully, you need to do what is best for you. Move on, it will be hard but you can find someone who loves you and makes you feel good emotionally and physically. Don’t let him shame you into accepting anything less.

[@JSainte17]

“Hostile” workplace? It is also unfriendly, though. lmao

[@maemae527]

Story three- 16:49 we did this exact thing with my grandmother, she now only has my uncle and his kids. She is alone, because he hates her and only wants her money.

[@J_e_s_s]

Honestly, the shirt idea as a visual reminder to give the new dad his space with the little squish is a good idea. I am going to keep that in mind for if I ever have a baby with my partner as I was parentified and am also a parent now so I've got way more experience with kids and infants. I would definitely be the type to be a bit overbearing because I am just obsessed with the baby and want to look at them and their perfection. 😂

[@Mewse1203]

The words you were looking for are "Hostile work environment"

[@rebajoe]

Lots of people said hostile, my first thought was 'toxic' cos it comes up quite a bit in these stories

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 40 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated 🖤 Woah, has it really been 40 days? I just realized I started on January 1st, so I'll make this a full year. I won't stop until you accept it once and for all :)

[@whiskey_phillips]

I am so thankful I fit in with my boyfriend's family and am close with them. My parents hate my sister's husband and the stuff they say about him when he's not around is ROUGH. Don't want to end up in that situation for sure.

[@dergluckliche4973]

I can imagine what my in-laws say about me. Luckily I've only met them once. I understood why my spouse left home at 16 and hitch-hiked across the country.

[@whiskey_phillips]

@@dergluckliche4973 Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you and your spouse are taking good care of one another despite the inlaws.

[@Mewse1203]

OP needs to take the baby somewhere else for a while if she can't be HEARD. She needs to get away for a couple days to do what she needs to do.. MIL needs to leave and husband needs to LISTEN.

[@Y4ZYAZ]

Please chant waffles waffles like you're in a cult please i need this

[@vickyflores8124]

I read it and now I need it

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

Waffle! Waffle! Waffle! Waffle!

[@catandrobbyflores]

Waffles, waffles, waffles!

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Waffles.... waffles... waffles... waffles... waffles...waffles... waffles...

[@phunkyzilla]

Story 1: it seems that the boyfriend has really low self esteem issues and has joined a collective group in order to appease his low self esteem. Personally I believe people with low self esteem that think they are valueless on their own, need others to validate themselves sometimes, even though self esteem and self validation can only come from within.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@honeybunny3365]

Thank you I needed this today 💗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@honeybunny3365 i hope your day gets better soon 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@honeybunny3365]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you I hope your day goes amazing

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@honeybunny3365 thanks so much 🤗🤗💜💜

[@user-wb6fm4hu2h]

i wish the same for you

[@britnicox3929]

The second one: the husband is SPINELESS wtf? He didn’t even attempt to defend his partner. Smh

[@notanarsonist7574]

Story 1 I am surprised that no one had mentioned how this guy's "friend" basically jumped on him when he was at his lowest point and by himself to convert him to christianity. I thought that was something you see happening in MLMs like herba life. this is why I can't stand religious people like this who prey on extremely vulnerable people like this I can't even think clearly My head is spinning and my heart is burning for both OP and his partner because this is a really crappy situation to be in

[@jonar.8650]

Perfect timing bc I just finished a chemistry test! Great start to a day

[@threeducks157]

First one sounds like some weird conversion camp/cult.

[@Digitalfairy]

Yeah, I've met plenty religious and secular people in college and NOT one of the Christians mentioned "following the seven deadly sins" literally or figuratively. As a Catholic I can tell you the bf's new line of thinking isn't going to do his mental health any favors.

[@mkuti-childress3625]

Wow! That MIL sounds _exactly_ like an in-law of mine. When you have an in-law like that, you will never, ever win. She will always be looking for anything you do that she can twist around to make you look like a bad person, and she will be so convincing that people will believe her-even when they saw what really happened for themselves. I would be _thrilled_ to have someone like that say that they won’t be coming around anymore. It’s a giant load of stress off your back.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: go to HR and go to a lawyer for malicious slander.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3 hits close to home. My brother’s wife comes from an extremely abusive past and she flat out told me and my mom that we remind her of her parents, like how we fight all the time. Tells us we got into a huge fight on my mom’s birthday and our mutual friend (mom and my friend) was all like “what the hell? You didn’t fight” and my friends were there and they said “what fighting?” We relayed this information to my brother, but he all but believes his wife without a shred of evidence to back her side up and tells us we are abusive towards each other. He grew up with us to know this isn’t even true. Believing a person he only knew for 6 years, who is a broken person and very jealous of my brother, my, and my mom’s relationship with each other, over the people he knew for more than 35 years.

[@jellyriq]

I know the bf in the situation is an adult and can make any choices he wants.... But denying your sexuality based on some fucking book is ALWAYS a wrong choice. He needs help. Anyone who does that needs help.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Just wanted to point out that’s a misconception. That they fallow the Bible by the letter like a rule book. No they don’t. It’s just to know God. It’s hard to fully explain. Just sharing.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Internalized homophobia is the worst kind. But there really is nothing OP can do, BF has to learn for himself. This is really such an all around unfortunate situation, OP doesn't deserve this on top of all they're going through. Bc not only are they losing someone they thought they'd marry, but being told their relationship as it was is somehow wrong or sinful. It sounds like something like this was bound to happen eventually, this isn't just a mindset you develop overnight. I hope BF can find some sort of happiness, but OP even more so.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

First Story: Yikes, OP needs to leave this relationship.

[@TheTacosAreHere]

Here's to the several thousand of us who will yell or yelled HOSTILE! into the ether when he forgot the word.

[@laurensharkey7328]

Love your content Mark!

[@maleandrolemale9467]

Well as a gay guy myself I would not be able to continue a relationship where there was no physical contact as I love kissing and hugging my partner, my advice would be to wish him well and lick your wounds for a while and then slowly try to start dating in a safe surrounding where you feel safe!

[@rabble700]

I know I'm a day late, but God I want you to know your videos and personality provide such a relaxing atmosphere for me. I really appreciate your videos and the bg noise they provide for me

[@shizanketsuga8696]

Story 1: Religious extremists regularly prey on people in vulnerable mental states, and the sad part is that having someone to talk to (even if they are just doing so to reel you in) and meeting a seemingly loving community (again, it's a disingenuous tactic called "lovebombing") can make you feel better short-term and make you very receptive to extremely bad arguments that can get you into long-term harmful relationships based on unfalsifiable fantasies, especially if you are dealing with depression and/or feeling lonely. OP should not blame himself but that "friend". If there is anything he can do to save his partner and their relationship depends on how far gone he is already. Once his original personality is replaced with his cult personality it can be extremely difficult to get him out of that mindset again. In that case it would be best to let him go and look out for yourself.

[@l.d.cfilms4363]

Way to make my day better mark, thanks! ❤️❤️

[@rylashadow18]

Hostile work place is what you're looking for Mark.

[@nathan8219]

Thanks Mark, you always give me something to do while i wait for class to start. Story 1: Uhhmmmm. I am a VERY religious Christian, Homosexuality is considered bad by some, but most Christians don't care. Story 2: HAHA! For someone over a decade older than OP he is acting a lot like a child. lol.

[@thedestroyasystem]

1: Fr. I'm atheist but relatively well versed in the "no gay" bits of the bible, which iirc have been proven to be mistranslated. If your religion is making you believe that a group of innocent people deserves punishing, you got some 'splaining to do lol.

[@SerenEirian]

@@thedestroyasystem If I recall, the original passage was against pedophilia?

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@SerenEirian Yes, at least the one that I'm aware of

[@insertedgynamehere]

Be very skeptical of anything in the bible. Some books that answer a lot of questions were removed, and others were likely altered

[@nathan8219]

@@thedestroyasystemHonestly, someone can dislike gays and i don't care, as long as they keep it to themselves, cause if they got that out of the bible, it is a VERY subjective book. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, physically or mentally, than i don't care.

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

I'm sitting here waiting for something to interest me for the past 2 hours, and Marks appears. This does please my brain.

[@StefanCatargiu]

I am in a similar situation. MIL became a religious nutter after FIL passing away and in the lockdown she brain-washed my wife....she changed her religion and lets that religion to dictate her social life and our intimate life. We are on the brink of divorce....separated for now....

[@joannawiater26]

Hi Mark! I love your videos, I watch them every day while I’m doing my homework. You really make one of the most hiring things in the world somewhat enjoyable LOL!

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 2) Your co-worker is creating a hostile work environment. Definitely go to HR.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 3) Just consider it's the trash taking itself out!

[@melissaclark1051]

hostile, is the word you are looking for

[@trophydevice7624]

I love listening to these videos while cleaning, cooking or painting :D

[@teetimedolls807]

"un-nice workspace" lmaaoo we love you Mark 😆💗

[@melaniefenrir8740]

Good morning Mark, wish I didn’t have to clean today! >~

[@madamdm1769]

I'm so goddamn sick of SO's having no freaking backbone when it comes to FAAAMIILLY! Guess what Captain wishy washy, your Wife/Husband IS YOUR FAMILY! Grow a spine or lose them. Sorry for the rant, im just so sick of seeing OP's being bent over by the In laws whilst the Husband/wife is standing there like a lemon, watching it happen.

[@DarkCrystalSage]

Agreed

[@kristy6703]

I think its both peoples fault. The person who is dealing with the spineless SO needs to be more direct and stop letting their SO get away with it. "Your mom was blatantly disrespectful/hurtful/overbearing etc and I will not tolerate that behavior from anyone, especially in my own home. As my husband, I expect that you have my back and not allow anyone to treat me so poorly. There is no excuse for it, period. I know its hard for you to stand up to your mom but you and I as a family come before extended family. I need you to help me define and enforce my boundaries with your family. If she/they cannot behave civilly, I will not be visiting them and they are not welcome in our home."

[@carolinepena5633]

Me watching Mark's videos be like: 14:07 Also this is gonna sound really stupid but the first time I read this channel's name, for a split second I thought that "Narrations" was Mark's surname xD

[@novabrilliant4510]

Waffles are the best thing to start my day. Thanks Mark 😊

[@Degamer422]

I don’t know about you guys but with that first story I kept remembering Kreacher A self hating House elf Who loved his abusers

[@youngbloodbanana3376]

Contest?

[@Degamer422]

@@youngbloodbanana3376 What are you asking

[@youngbloodbanana3376]

@@Degamer422 elaborate on this

[@bluejaywoman3421]

I know lots of Christians will find this insulting, but yes the boyfriend is in a cult.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

He totally is in a cult

[@mcarthur692]

LMFAO

[@Digitalfairy]

I'm Catholic and I'm not insulted, some of the stuff the bf claims his so-called friends said is way too fishy. It must be a cult.

[@mcarthur692]

@@Digitalfairy the whole story has so many holes in it. Agreed

[@tabathaalshalhoub1653]

Was there a video about scary Reddit stories that just disappeared??!!?! I wanted to watch it lol

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

if your boyfriend suddenly thinks intimacy is a sin it's probably best to walk away. I'm here if you need a hug at least sweetie.

[@breekennedy3945]

Honestly who cares about opening presents that much to be that upset about it.

[@jenndowden8131]

The crazy MIL story made me think of my own mother, who made crazy MIL seem like a benevolent fairy godmother by comparison, but I did learn a new term I feel is important: Extinction Burst. That's some good information, & VERY IMPORTANT for victims of various forms of abuse including domestic violence to understand. (When abusers start feeling their control over you threatened, their tactics may very, but they tend to escalate- especially if you try to escape, which is the most dangerous point in any abusive associations, entanglements, &/or situations. Prepare for potential attacks- whether physical, &/or the weaponization of corrupt courts, legal institutions, & regulatory agencies.)

[@TheNormExperience]

Story 1 - OP, you are NOT responsible for your bf’s happiness. Yes, he has severe depression, but depression isn’t a whoever had it first wins kind of thing...and it sounds like this year when you went through your own depression and needed him to lean on instead of your usual other way around, he felt so neglected he found anything else he could to pick up the slack. As much as you love him, you cannot love him into loving himself or being happy, and the fact that you think you can is worrisome because as you’ve seen this past year, it means when you need his support, or to focus on your own happiness it’s somehow less important. One partner’s happiness is not supposed to be secondary in a relationship...that’s just not fair. And what he’s offering you is a lifetime of that; his “happiness” coming first, whatever that happens to mean at the time. Today it just happens to be religion is all. I know you love this man, but until he can love and be responsible for himself and his own happiness, not just trying to find a short term bandaids, you are always going to be putting more into the relationship than you are getting out of it.

[@Tsitak420]

Mark at 7:38 I think you meant hostile work place lol

[@MrRyukage]

I think First Story,That Boyfriend is looking for excuse to leave because things gotten dull for him. There was post last year were a guy who is an atheist was dating another atheist and broke up with them because that person had met a friend and became "born again" Christian. I just see at They're looking for an excuse to leave. Rather then have an honest talk about their feelings and needs,But avoid the issue by making drastic life change.

[@ComaLies225]

Story 3: I see divorce happening in the near future, hopefully sooner.

[@skippiefritz]

What is with MILs and being jerks??? Like what breeds these evil mother in laws

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

to the mom who is being alienated from her own child, seek a good SINGLE therapist, they can help you cope and get the strength you need to take back your life and stop them from pushing you away. Also make sure this therapist will not share info with them ie are friends of theirs. not only is that a HIPPA breach. they clearly have control issues and probably would do that.

[@fanendey]

WAA!! I LOVE THE NEW LITTLE ANIMATION!! 💖💖💖

[@lucasjiang7574]

step 1: practice a religion (totally fine) step 2: refuse intimacy (not ok but as long as both parties are happy ok) step 3: enforce your views (not okie dokie) step 4: accuse the other of being selfish and not respecing his pathway (while not respecting theirs) conclusion: *strong logic is strong*

[@KCCAT5]

The word you're looking for is hostile workplace

[@sierralovat5498]

Just enjoying the fish in the background

[@kisavalkyrie]

3rd story is scary relatable. My grandfather on my father's side would do the same thing to my dad. Long story short, my aunt was nasty to her siblings (all brothers) and their wives and grandfather would stand by her. My aunt and mom had some blows and my grandfather told my dad he could not see my grandmother (my dad was close with his mom). My mom had to bite her tongue and take abuse from my aunt and grandfather because she didn't want my dad not be allowed to see my grandmother. Unfortunately grandmother would do whatever grandfather said. When she died, we slowly move away from him and my aunt. After my grandfather verbal attacked my brother (the only male heir at the time with the family name), my dad cut ties. Our family was much happier. Sad part is this happen to me (im female) with my now ex husband and his crazy mom. During that time, my dad saw what my mother when through, through me and needless to say, he would constantly be apologizing to my mom because of it. Needless to say, until they died- you will have to deal with it. Unless a) a backbone is grown from your spouse or b) you two separate.

[@carg0_b00m]

wait is it that easy to give someone a eating disorder? (cue television laugh theme)

[@carg0_b00m]

@drosera seems to me like some people have low self esteem.

[@leaflet1686]

Story 1: The boyfriend NEEDS THERAPY! You don't just do this bullcrap if your partner goes through stress liek this. He is extremely weakminded and needs serious mental help. Do you know what type of people do that type of thing? People who lost everything and have nothing left and desperately try to get love and validation, no matter the form. He did not loose anything, he just couldn't handle you having normal all day life stress, that people your age go through. Therapy!

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 1: This frustrates me so much. You're not supposed to push Christianity on people. Invite them in and leave the door open, but NEVER try to force them through. Sorry, op, but you may need to leave him, at least temporarily.

[@That_Name_is_Taken]

As a Christian I completely agree with you. I also completely disagree with what the OP’s boyfriend is saying in story one.

[@jesterbrown90]

@@That_Name_is_Taken Yeah, it sounds like there's Jonestown levels of kool-aid involved.

[@scousemouse9566]

Loved the video, hope you are doing ok

[@lina9535]

Last story. Husband is obviously not listening/hearing what OP is saying.

[@f.t.cnation9999]

If your partner has selective memory you deal with it by making notes recordings signed agreements. If he is not listening make a bigger deal dont tell him you need him to give you time to bond alone with the baby. Tell him to get out wile you bond with the baby. Dont tell him you feel like he is hovering. Say you are hovering go away. Say it at the exact time he is doing it every time he is doing it. Till he gets the message.

[@AceofSnakes77]

Perfect breakfast accompaniment 😙🧇

[@TheArmyOfGoats]

*furiously eats waffles*

[@karendaniel620]

I'm so early! This is off topic, but did you do an AITA about 3 brothers and a $300,000 inheritance? Because I've just heard one that was vaguely familiar. Boy, did it take a turn. Heard it on Kyutie.

[@Candyshopqwe]

I feel like the relationship from story 1 is probably over, but maybe getting him to see there are lgbt christian groups out there, see if there happen to be any near you so he can at least have those convos with them. I can’t imagine how id react if my partner turned to religion, said our relationship was immoral, but still tried to stay with me. Like. I always imagined being an old maid/spinster lol but I can’t imagine having to stay around with someone who use to be an intimate partner like, I can lie all day long but not in our own house 🙌🏻 we are just “roommates” sarcastically.

[@garrethutchington1663]

Story 1. He's gonna freeze in hell

[@dannietea]

Did you mean a hostile workplace?

[@Digitalfairy]

I'm an unconventional catholic with Asperger's and even I say OP's bf in the first story has been talking to the wrong folks. I say that because I met some more open-minded Christians. Repressing one's true self constantly isn't going to do the BF's mental health any favors in the long run I can tell you that.

[@morganrogue5305]

I get op in story 3 is hurt, but I think the problem solved itself, they don't want to talk to you, you don't have to talk to them, simple Husband spine is dull as shit though

[@FlamesofJagger]

Good morning Mark and the Waffle Gang! Hope all is well. Have a good day wherever you are and keep waffling on. Waffle Gang forever!

[@FoxyMomma4ever]

Waffle Gang!!

[@sebastianjoseph9628]

Hello mark! Wonderful day we’re having

[@nyx.8254]

First? Could it be? I've read the legends, studied the myths but I never thought it possible...... Anyways, have a great Wednesday everyone!!!

[@jamiewulfyr4607]

🥇

[@KCCAT5]

That lady with the baby issues she needs to bring husband and mother-in-law into her therapy session with her so she can speak freely and somebody can put it into their heads that this woman needs to learn how to properly bond without them interfering. I get that she's a new mother and she doesn't know a lot and she doesn't have her mother there to teach her or to help her but there are some things you do need to learn on your own which is why they say the first baby in any relationship is always the one that has all the problems lol we were learned on. They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions and that's what this situation sounds like.

[@benc3825]

I’d be really confused if my mother in law did that. Because I don’t have a mother in law. *insert sad single cry*