My Family Are Catering To My Bridezilla Sister So I'm Not Inviting Them r/Relationships

[@Snowshowslow]

So sister is a DOCTOR who makes fun of her little sis because of her DISABILITY? 😬 Yikes, I wouldn't want to be her patient...

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Same here. I'm willing to bet that she's only a doctor for the money and because she can lord her sense of importance over others. 🙄

[@beebs4283]

any doctor who mocks others disabilities should get their license taken away

[@robinronin]

This is remarkably common, even if you are literally their patient. I have chronic headaches and am in some amount of pain 24/7. The amount of times doctors have mocked me and refused giving me treatment because I “didn’t have a brain tumor” (they never even did any scan btw) is astounding 😂

[@Snowshowslow]

@@robinronin Man, that sucks 😞 I hope you'll meet better doctors in the future!

[@ambercloud]

I came here to say that. I'm disabled and have had some doctors treat me like shit but some won't believe a doctor could ever be ableist! It's disgusting and they get power over our health, treatment and lives. It's chilling. I hope someone protects that woman's patients

[@MisterNightfish]

Not even 4 minutes in and I'd be 100% no contact with this sister. OP "needs to be punished" for wanting to bring her fiancee to the wedding? What in the actual F?

[@hiro4344]

And "She looked pretty in her dress" to be extra spiteful. Really?

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yeah, I can see why the older sister had trouble finding someone to marry her. Yeesh. 😂 I almost feel sorry for the poor sap.

[@carolroberts4614]

Well, he went in with his eyes wide open! Unless he thought it was the stress of the wedding! Which I don't believe in, because if you're nasty for wedding preparation, then that nastiness was there underneath already(probably!)

[@Siinwu]

@@paulagoeringer9466 tbh i dont feel sorry for him, they made the monster pregnant, now they are on the hook for 18 years, he could have called it off when he saw how she treated people.

[@sidhu139]

@Misternightfish Don't use curse words.

[@itbesid1566]

Y’know, I’m starting to think maybe Reddit DOESN'T actually have a problem with throwing around “go NC!” or “divorce!” liberally. I think Reddit just attracts a ton of horror stories about relationships with awful people that need to be ended.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Ding ding ding ding. You are correct. I don’t listen to these for happy perfect life stories. I WANT DRAMA!!!

[@beebs4283]

this is my thought process a lot of people don’t go seeking out the advice of complete strangers unless there’s something seriously wrong in the situation

[@justaperson4656]

Reddit is quick to throw around NC and divorce because if you're doubting your actions enough to post to Reddit, usually there's some form of gaslighting or abuse present. Kinda sucks, but oh well

[@SailorMya]

Yeah, but we only get the truly awful stories because Mark is looking for the worst of the bunch as well. He curates the best of the worst stories so we are still only seeing a sliver of the most popular posts. Usually, if you are on Reddit for relationship advice for a big issue that you can't normally talk about with the people in your life then it really is a big problem. Reddit also doesn't like when communication wins over having a huge blow-up to entertain them. I made a relationship post once, it wasn't that popular, but the few that posted disliked my update of talking to my hubby and working it out by saying he would "still leave me" or that my update was "too perfect" but the fact was most of my post was me misunderstanding things my hubby did after his ex "died" like looking at her photos more and such. Spoiler alert the ex faked her "death" on Facebook with the help of her mom because she was mad MY hubby wouldn't leave me and our, at the time, 2 kids with one on the way for her and her daughter. One of the comments even said my story was "fake" because I was making it up for "karma" (Reddit points) when my post only attracted 7 people by the end and all my updates happened before it got any traction. Reddit lives for the messy blow-up posts not the calm resolution of communication...

[@LadyGoddessSephiroth]

People who are happy in their relationships, know how to communicate and work through problems in a healthy way don't post on reddit.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

By her logic, OP shouldn’t invite the sister or her fiancé since people will talk about their wedding. Don’t treat people who do everything for you like 💩, because then they’ll stop helping you and you’ll realise how difficult things are now.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

She included OP as MOH just so she can be her wedding errand girl I reckon. It's also possible that she did it just to save face.

[@johnbradbury8610]

OP sounds like a spineless people-pleaser. "I just didn't want the drama" is her excuse. She decides to elope, but she's still asking AITA after describing how bad her sister treated her.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

The problem is in the length of the relations. 12 years versus a year. I guess that the family likes op's fiance (whome they know a long time already) more than bridzilla's now hubby (whome they don't know)

[@willow8186]

Okay, so there’s a bunch of stuff wrong with the bridezilla sister but what really stuck with me is how she’s a doctor and yet has the believe that people with epilepsy won’t be able to find romantic partners out in the world. Screams judgmental and unkind to me and oh boy those are traits I’d hate to see in my doctor 🤮

[@deadworld953]

As someone with a (different) disability who genuinely needed doctors more than a lot of other people... I am not in the *least* be surprised. All the female doctors / nurses giggle when my lack of a love life comes up. Like... yeah, hard to meet people in and out of the hospital, with no job and living at my parents house while I try to get to the bottom of what's wrong with me. Also had one tell me that a particular mental health diagnosis would aid my case for government aid, but that she disapproved of that and so she wouldn't be diagnosing me that way. Oh, the same one led me to believe she was a psychiatrist when she was only a nurse practitioner. A different NP forced me to go to PT, further aggravating my condition before she would consent to any tests (not a worker's comp case), she said the reason was that my government insurance didn't pay back quickly which meant the hospital would have to eat the cost of the X-ray (little over $125 out of pocket, but I didn't have it). An altogether different doc (last one suddenly stopped working at that clinic for some reason) made me beg him to take me seriously, even with the MRIs that the last one eventually ordered. When I had a fall at home and went to the ER, I basically unloaded this on the ER doc who was furiously taking notes. When I went back to see my GP again he started reading my digital chart and I could see that it looked like notes from the ER doc... he gave me a nasty look and came back with a scrip for polio crutches. (over a year since my fall and now I can get around sometimes with just a cane... that's the extent that my body can heal.) oh and when I was a teenager, my doctor made fun of my weight, while himself being heavier than me. So... Long story short: Doctor is a job that puts a person into a position of power. People who are awful people are drawn to these jobs. It doesn't help that generally speaking, the GP is the person who *barely* passed med school / was not good enough to become specialized. Very few GPs in America seem to give a damn anymore. The fact that the hospital / clinic almost always sides with them about bad behavior doesn't help. Nor does it help when the ones who commit serious infractions just get shuffled to a new clinic when they get 'fired'. Really easy to have job security when no one is willing to believe you could ever do something bad, for no reason other than your chosen profession. "They're a doctor, surely they wouldn't have said *that"* or "You're the... mental health patient? yeah... sure that's what they said...." When many of the people don't give a damn about you either way and many of the rest refuse to believe you on the basis that your accusing a doctor of being 'not-a-hero', it makes it really hard to ensure that any justice takes place when problems occur.

[@marywray6046]

Alot of people with sociopath tendices go into the medical field, good example is Dr. Amy Bishop a full blown psycho killer.

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

I'd hate to see these traits in any person at all and wish for them to doe

[@artistwithawanderingeye908]

So Sister is allowed to treat OP and her fiance like shit but she expects to be invited to OP's wedding like nothing happened? Edit: Update 1: And of course Sis is pregnant. Guarantee that if she was MOH, she would've made her speech and party all about her baby with digs at OP.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Nope. Not how that works sister dear. You have to earn it.

[@LunaMane]

Don't worry. Ten years from now the parents will find out the hard way what a monster they enabled when their golden child treats them worse than stray animals and uses them as free labor to watch her own new species of hell spawn. And as per frickin usual the parents will go to OP with their sob story, say how she was really their favorite, it was just tough love and all the usual suspects of excuses to try and move in with her. But it won't work.

[@WarriorKalia]

​@@LunaManefrom the story, it doesn't seem like the parents like the other kids much either

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

It sounds like the sister did not just expect to invited to the destination wedding but have their tickets and likely hotel paid for by the OP. Bet if the OP was not having a destination wedding the "family" would not have fought so hard for the invites to the wedding lol.

[@pezchef7577]

I have one these in my fam. the oldest seems to assume they have some weird power lvl or responsibility over the other sibs. and well.... he didn't take to kindly to me laughing Everytime he tries to act like an authority figure. my favorite line to tell older bro is, "look dude, please don't project your insecurities and vapidness on me. it's ruining the vibes. nothing ticks off a vapid older sibling like indifference. sorry not sorry we are in our 30s stop acting like your son bro (who is 6) bro.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I forgot the part where the sister is a doctor. There are enough AH doctors in the world with a God complex. They don't need the sister in their midst. 😒 And her actively mocking her own sister with a disability? WTAF. OP can do what she wants, but I sure wouldn't invite any of my siblings or anyone on their side. OP SHOULD make sis the MOH then one up the AHery. But, I'm a petty betty 🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. Same here. Although I'm not a petty betty like you(for the most part). 😅 I'd just go no contact with them all but my parents if I was OP.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I'm an ER Doc and I can attest that the number of AH Doctors is increasing. Part of the problem is patients have gotten more demanding and insisting on things that don't or won't help them because their disease, illness, or injury isn't the same as they think it is after reading WebMD lol. Another big problem is the "God Complex" that many Doctors had back in the 80s-90s seems to be making a comeback among younger Doctors, especially those that "specialize" in different areas. Cardiologists seem to be the worst followed up by OBGYNs. I can see Cardiologists getting big heads and having a "God Complex" but I don't know where OBGYNs would get that from lol. We had to recently fire an OBGYN on our staff because she told a couple that they shouldn't have a baby and instead get an abortion because they weren't, in her opinion, financially and emotionally stable enough to have kids yet. It turned out after a review of her patients that she made a lot of discouraging remarks to several of them but nobody ever complained about her attitude or what she said to them. She had recommended to over 20 pregnant moms-to-be that they have abortions for various reasons. When asked about why she, an OBGYN, was recommending abortions she said she was upset about SCOTUS's decision to kick the abortion decisions back to each state rather than upholding the previous ruling back in the 70s. Racism and Bigotry seem to be another issue that makes some Doctors and other medical professionals act like A-Holes. We never used to have this sort of problem until the mainstream and social media decided to foster racism as you see so much of these days. People are entitled to their opinions but they do NOT belong in ANY Healthcare setting. We had a problem back in 2015-2020, and it is now starting to happen again from some medical "professionals" refusing to deal with patients who supported a certain candidate who ran and then became President and who is now running again. Just like racism, there is NO ROOM for people like this in Healthcare.

[@impishrebel5969]

​@@thomasjoseph5876 Funny you say that. I wouldn't have EVER gotten diagnosed if I hadn't recogized my own symptoms online and chased after it and insisted on getting evaluated. Maybe the disease isn't what *you* think it is because you're not listening, lol. Disparage researching patients all you want but I know I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and an official diagnosis to prove it now thanks to EXACTLY that. And you're damned right we're demanding, we're demanding treatment because nobody wants to treat EDS with the few treatment options there ARE, or do the research or work for it or other chronic illnesses that are misunderstood and underresearched. It's dehibilitating, and I don't mean the disease. Want to know why Cystic Fibrosis is so well medicated now? Because it hits in childhood very hard and the parents are able to bring pressure on the medical industry to force the issue. We're almost always diagnosed as adults with no one to go to bat for us. Doctors these days are just as happy to pass the buck to another specialist who passes you off to someone ELSE to only find out 'they don't treat that disease it's another specialty' or 'we aren't taking patients with your condition' so you end up right back in the first specialist you got bumped from, leaving behind you a line of doctors content in self righteous "I did all I could here someone else needs to take it now" and we end up with zero help. You're on the inside, do something. I would, but I literally can't take the rigors of cleaning my own damn house without feeling like my feet are splitting apart and fainting most days, much less med school. I've heard way too many 'second opinion that saved a patient's life' on reddit to believe a doctor has the right to dismiss what the patient is saying, ever. FTR I wasn't diagnosed until I was 35 and that's how long I had to deal with doctors telling me it was all in my head. And they're right. It's genetic. It's in my head, heart, lungs, connective tissue, muscles, joints, and everything else. Doesn't mean I wasn't suffering or that was a legitimate excuse to brush off what I was saying about my own body, which I'd know more about living in than any doctor. Maybe you ought to humor your patients a little more and rule out what they suspect.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@impishrebel5969 You wrote that whole wall of garbage word salad based on something I DIDN'T SAY. AND WHY ARE YOU B*TCHING TO ME ABOUT WHAT OTHER DOCTORS DID OR DIDN'T DO FOR YOU??? You sound like a nightmare patient who wants to blame everyone else for their issues. I said they wanted the TREATMENTS/MEDICATIONS that they read about on WebMD. They were even telling me what doses I should give them. Sorry, but I don't care how much you read or how smart YOU THINK you are, it is MY MEDICAL LICENSE AND MALPRACTICE INSURANCE ON THE LINE. Not to mention 3 out of every 10 ER patients are simply "drug seekers". As far as their own self-diagnosis, some were correct, and some were not but regardless, a generic broad plan for treatment doesn't work on most patients. WebMD gives out ALL the symptoms and ALL the treatments/meds that Doctors MIGHT use for that illness, disease, or injury. THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU USE THEM ALL. A Doctor diagnoses what exact symptoms the patient has (which may be some or even experiencing none) but rarely if ever is it ALL of the symptoms. FROM THAT, a treatment plan is prescribed for the patient. So, next time before you spout off a wall of meaningless word salad, try COMPREHENDING what others write, first.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

​@@thomasjoseph5876yes. I wish there were more compassionate doctors out there. I understand that there's a LOT of entitled people who think they know everything who try to get what they think they need or want ( like antibiotics) when that's not needed, but there's a lot of people going undiagnosed for serious, painful conditions. Then once they actually get a diagnosis, they get treated badly if they don't get whatever expensive treatment the doctor wants. Like injections or implants for pain, even when those aren't viable. I've had the injections and it went horribly, but they're still being pushed. I don't know why I should be tortured again.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Can’t wait for the update where the sibs throw a bitch fit and dogpile on OP for treating them like second class citizens (how OOP was treated) because to them it’s only okay when they do it to her. It’ll be amusing to watch how they take back all of their reasonings and justifications that they made for the bridezilla sister when OP turns the tables on them.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. Same here. I'd also love to see the parents call them out as well. Basically giving them a "Well, Well, Well. If it isn't the consequences of your actions." I also wouldn't be surprised if in the update, OP cut ties with her siblings but stayed in touch with her parents.

[@the_croissant5055]

It's going to be like the quote "rules for thee not for me"

[@VorenusXIII]

"when OP turns the tables on them" That's a Hollywood fantasy. Unfortunately OP will do exactly what she has always done in the past. Absolutely nothing. She will sit there and take it. OP's parents and siblings will change the seating plan, wear white, cause drama and insult OP to her face and OP will do nothing because she is a weak coward. She spent eighteen minutes making pathetic excuses for being a punching bag her entire life. Sad. My question is, where is her fiancee in all of this? When her brothers were ganging up on her, insulting her to her face, where was he? Was he sitting there next to her with his mouth shut, allowing it to happen? Someone in OP's marriage is going to have to grow a spine, get angry and start fighting back. Since it definitely won't be OP, it has to be her husband.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

@@VorenusXIII Yeah, I'm feeling similarly. If her parents pay for this luncheon, they'll get stuck with whatever the "squeaky wheels" want. I wouldn't give these chumps the time of day.

[@lunaticbz3594]

Granted I'm late to this comment chain, but I think everyone is missing the difference between drama at a wedding and drama at a luncheon. It's not that the drama won't happen as it assuredly will, but the OP won't care. If I could be at an event with my sister whom I'm NC with at an event that I don't care about it, I'd probably enjoy the fireworks it be entertaining, that said with Christmas coming up the logistical planning for us not seeing each other is already underway. It be a shame for drama to happen at an important event.

[@rychipuff]

oh gosh of course shes a doctor. im disabled and have seen. so many doctors and theres so many horrid doctors like this. so many doctors who just think only they know anything about everything. i pray for her patients and anyone who interacts with her in general.

[@deadworld953]

Yup. Had a GP lecture me once about how medicare doesn't pay their bills on time and so I didn't need to have an X-ray done (I did), then she refused to order a follow up MRI even though she admitted that there was a diagnosis based on the X-ray alone. I was trying to get on disability at the time (believe it or not, I knew I had a serious problem) and she expressed to me that she did not want me to get on it. I told this to one of the nurses over the phone later that day and by the afternoon had an MRI scheduled. Pretty sure she was gone before the results came back, as they made me choose a new doc. The new one was no better and I ended up falling and in the ER before he would take me seriously (even though I had 2 MRIs at that point) and threw him under the bus at the ER. I truly despise doctors and all nursing staff. The ones that don't participate in the BS know it happens and never blow the whistle. Besides last time I checked "I was just following orders" has never been an acceptable excuse, regardless of if the order was simply to be quiet. Those nurses on reddit that tell you to tell the ER docs about the "feeling of doom" associated with your medical condition are full of shit. They never cared that I felt it was really serious, they only cared that I was young and "shouldn't have those kinds of issues". Funny how I can go from "You are too young to have arthritis" to "You have arthritis" in less than 6 months.

[@LittleGreenCar514]

Story 2: My SO goes to work at 5:00 am. Our son (4) and I wake up around 9:30 am. To combat this discrepancy, SO and I got rid of our uncomfortable couch and built a comfortable daybed so that he can sleep downstairs. It was his idea, mostly because he needs noise (TV) to sleep and I need quiet. It has done wonders for everyone! OP can also do this and save his marriage and give his wife some breathing room. Having a newborn completely dependent on you is heard for a new mom, especially if she's with the kid 24/7 without a break. For me, as the breastfeeding parent, sometimes my skin would start crawling when anyone touched me unexpectedly. Plus the lack of adult conversations. That's why I listen to Reddit stories read by real people, for my sanity.

[@wildfyah]

I feel this. I've exclusively breastfed our daughter. The exhaustion was disgusting, I also developed a weird anxiety once it started to get dark out knowing I wouldn't be able to sleep between my ex's terrible snoring and her being up every 1-2hrs while recovering from major blood loss post partum. At first he was willing to assist til his mother stepped in saying no. Then it just went downhill after that.

[@kathydurow6814]

Good for you for finding a solution. Also sleep apnoea testing & any warranted treatment is a must if it's not a finances thing (I live in a decent healthcare country, not the US, but am aware a majority of reddit users/listeners are from there. Sucks to be you when it comes to health). We should normalise sleeping separately if needed so both partners are as rested & unstressed as possible. Even before baby.

[@kathydurow6814]

​@@wildfyahI assume he's now your ex? Problem solved?

[@wmdkitty]

@@wildfyah Bottles exist for a reason. As do CPAP machines. You should have made Hubby do half the feedings, and made him get a CPAP machine, instead of sacrificing yourself like that.

[@DerekScottBland]

Lesson learned from this and so many other stories - don't set yourself on fire to keep people warm when they don't care about you. OP knew how toxic her sister was, yet bent over backwards out of desperation for her love and approval. She should have gone up and made the snarkiest MOH speech ever, noting the abuse she went through, how she had to fight to get her fiance invited, and how she was seated far away because "that's what I deserve for wanting my fiance here" and then mic dropped and left. Who cares if people got mad at her? She was set up to make it look like she was trying to make the whole thing about her anyway so that people would hate her.

[@ArcaneNim]

Sounds like people pleasing tendencies. People with those are conditioned to put the needs of others before themselves. Asking for what we want/need is spun as being selfish, so the idea of not being a doormat can cause distress.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

This happens a lot when it comes to family unfortunately. People knowing how toxic a relative can be yet still desperately want to be loved by them. It's human nature. It's really sad when you think about it. 😢 And as for the setting yourself on fire to keep others warm mentality, I'm pretty sure that was planted in OP's head by her siblings ever since she was born, all because they were mad about her epilepsy that she had no control over. And it wasn't like their parents were deliberately ignoring them. OP was a special needs child so of course she was going to need more attention.

[@HinataElyonToph]

And then flip everyone off over her shoulder (with both hands) as she walked out the door

[@Russman67]

Story 1: OP's sister and siblings made choices when they chose to basically banish OP and her partner to another part of the wedding hall "to be punished". And now they are expecting an invitation to a destination wedding? They should be thrilled if OP still talks to them. Them staying home is the consequences of their actions.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

They're so freaking entitled it's scary.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@SakuraMoonflower I know right? And to think, their hatred for OP is all because she got more attention than them, due to having epilepsy. Which wasn't her fault at all.

[@sylviajones6745]

​@@PrincessQ-fj9ly, I had almost same problem as OP, I'm epileptic have been since I was 7, then the migraines started. Parents really did not know what to do with me. They asked do you want anything, so being a 7 year old, I want ice cream. Older and couple of younger ones got upset. I didn't know any better. I didn't know what happens when you have a seizure. Parents were scared half to death. Well, I'll be 70 soon in a couple weeks. Epilepsy has gotten worse. The siblings got over it soon. No problems now, lol

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@sylviajones6745 I'm so sorry you had to deal with Epilepsy. I can't imagine how painful and scary it must be living with that. 😢 I hope you were able to have a good life despite having Epilepsy. 💕

[@geminigenu]

I would have left the minute the sister disinvited the fiancé. OP should cut contact with her toxic sister and her enabling family. The sister is miserable and projecting.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

So OPs been with SO for 12 yrs and engaged. How has it not occurred to her to be married already? Or was it some weird commandment that the oldest sister had to marry first? If so, why on Earth would OP oblige? I know LC/NC gets thrown around a lot but I'm seeing some justifications here. The brothers' behavior was also puzzling.

[@wmdkitty]

Or maybe OP is the toxic one, and projecting it all onto her sister...

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

​@@wmdkittywtf is that bullshit?

[@carolroberts4614]

Well it sounds like op was at the start of her uni education then, so I would think a degree, followed by masters, and then becoming an architect would have taken up a good deal of that time!

[@staceyandrews1926]

Uhm, epileptic people DO GET MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN!!!!! I have epilepsy and am fully capable of leading a normal life. I have had to put up with discrimination with job hunting though!

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

OP is epileptic and is gonna marry her bf of 12 years, guess people who make fun of disabilities are the ones who get no action

[@brie1162]

11:29 Can we find this sisters name and where she works so we NEVER go to her for treatment? She’s berating a disabled sibling and she’s a DOCTOR!?! What!?! That’s like going to Michael Vick for your dogs veterinarian care!

[@jusminejustice2794]

Story 1: hope sis is excited to be the first to be divorce- I wouldn’t stick around if my partner treated their sibling like sh*t.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

Their *disabled* sister, at that. Despite the sister being a medical doctor, she thinks less of disabled people. I feel like all that adds layers to.the cruelty she is now showing her partner. I agree with you, he'll hopefully leave someone that cruel.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

If he's a decent person, he'll leave.. But the sister sounds like a textbook narcissist to me. She needed to control her honey siblings' love life? Make herself feel superior using her education, job title, AND disparaging her sister's chronic medical condition? She had to love bomb and rush a wedding with a seemingly decent guy? She had to rush to get pregnant by that guy to attempt to baby trap him, since her mask came off by the wedding? I wouldn't be surprised if the kid isn't even his. :/ I could easily see a chick like this using a sperm donor to assure a pregnancy, but "getting the specimen direct from the source" if you catch my drift? Just all around awful people.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan I hope so too. I'm surprised he still married her honestly. I would've ended things if I found out this is how my husband to be treated his supposed love ones. If they can be this cruel to their own family, what's to stop them from being the same way towards me?

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

​@@PrincessQ-fj9lyExactly! I've noticed the Healthcare field attracts 3 specific types of people: The people who passionately wants to help other people. Those who want money and prestige, and lean toward the sciences. And sadists. I feel like the sister is the latter. Like you said, if she's willing to be that cruel to someone she grew up with, what could she do to you? And what's worse, is what she could do to strangers/patients who can't defend themselves, let alone fight back. If he thinks he's immune or "special to her", he's going to have a rough life.

[@wildridegaming]

You shouldve done the speech, from the table she assigned you (awkward when speeches are usually made from the head table) and thank her for opening your eyes on how she treats family who do everything for her.

[@MrSiren52]

You want to see a scene? Just wait for the speech I would have given in her situation.

[@Nitro89]

Op i would have given a speech but in that speech i would have Called her out for the bullying in your childhood, hating you simply because you got a boyfriend/husband first, giving all the praise for the wedding planning to her second maid of honor when you did all the work, ALL OF THE SHIT SHE PUT YOU THROUGH

[@AndyyWithAY]

This sounds like jealousy on the sister's part. She didn't want any attention off her. Then she put them at the children's table? WTF is wrong with the brothers? OP should still give a speech after being mistreated? Go NC with everyone on the sister's side. They are on some very hard drugs. This level of delusion is dangerous How boring must the lives of the people who took the time to comment this was story 1 be 😒 Wish my life was that boring

[@darkmage9252]

You mean Story 1?

[@xydis.06.03]

That's Story 1

[@dimsufferer9951]

Honestly, I feel like it would bring MORE attention to put one of your MOHs at the kids table…

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1 update… so the siblings resent OP for her being close to their parents because they chose to go out with friends instead of spending quality bonding time with their parents? Stop blaming others for your past choices you now regret

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

I think it's a lot deeper than that. And what I mean when I is. Her parents prioritize her because she had Malcolm needs and the parents were somewhat fair to the other kids. But men have unintentionally emotionally neglected them and they have so much anger towards her for getting all the attention that they would rather take it out on her than to take it out on their parents because they know automatically that even though how they treat the original poster is wrong, they would rather have her take it than to. Put the other kids in check because they don't want to lose any future grandchildren going forward.

[@michamocha]

After hearing the update, this is more of a black sheep dynamic. Her being at home all the time is nature due to the circumstances so it doesn't sound like Op got all of the parents' attention to me. It just sounds like the siblings are embarrassed of Op and view her as lesser than. She's better than me because I would've went low contact and uninvited them all lol. Like Mark said, there's bound to be drama because I doubt the siblings won't demand to sit in the important family section of the table.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I actually never even considered the black sheep mentality. I think you're onto something with that one. And you're absolutely right. OP was far more gracious than her sucky siblings deserve.

[@dimsufferer9951]

I wonder if Mark will read the most recent update (2 months old when I’m writing this comment)

[@STB-jh7od]

Story 1: I feel bad for OP'S BIL, his marriage is going to be MISERABLE!!

[@Afterburner]

I hope there is an update 2 to the story to hear how the wedding receptions went - OP is great and I love her devious sense of humor ;>)

[@dorothrawalker1389]

I sure don't ever want that sister in story 1 to be my doctor. How much do you want to bet she not going to end up divorcing yet also with her views of people with disabilities she going to lose her license.

[@MimosaRose]

This first story is heartbreaking. Siblings despite a little teasing should be each other’s cheerleaders, supporters, and good natured critics. My siblings (I’m one of five) are some of the best people I know. We are so different and we do fight, but always forgive and help one another.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Weddings and funerals bring out the worst in people, i don't know why.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. It sure was. The siblings, especially eldest sister suck big time. 😒 Thank God OP's parents agree with her at least. 😊 I'd say cut ties with siblings but stay in touch with parents.

[@kitkakitteh]

Because it’s the two times they insert their heads up their asses and forget the outside world exists. The emotional shock prevents actual logical thought.

[@mbyerly9680]

Followed by vacations and holidays. Families don't live together anymore so whatever toxic crap is bubbling under the surface rises to the top when the whole family gets together.

[@user-blob]

@@mbyerly9680agreed. Holidays are top of the list for family drama 😂

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

True, i can tell from experiencing my grandpa's and uncle's(funerals)

[@theespartanff3188]

The sister is why I'm so afraid of going to the hospital. Last time i went was over a decade again when i needed stitches. The numbing agent they used wasnt working or i needed more. Nurse didn't believe me at first until i was in tears from the pain. Will never go back.

[@JasmynSundayrose]

1st story: You want a speech, oh you'll get a speech! Hold your corset sis, I'll give you a speech

[@tabithadearth7507]

The Sister should not be a Doctor because apart of the Hippocratic Oath is "Do No Harm"! I seriously hope that Karma comes for her like a Hellhound in Supernatural. Speaking of Supernatural there's a quote that OP needs to get tattooed on their body "Family Don't End In Blood". OP deserves the world. I have Epilepsy as well and I wish that I was her/their friend so I can tell them to not put up with those "Siblings" at all.

[@prettyaseyes2268]

This sister is a doctor? OMG, can you imagine how she treats her patients?

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I don't want to quite frankly. 😰

[@somedragonbastard]

Unfortunately, very easily. Most disabled people have had at least 1, usually far more, experiences with ableist doctors. My first was with a rheumatologist who barely even examined me before throwing me in the fibro bucket and prescribing me some random medication that made my life way worse and, when I told her that, she just upped the dose (I outright refused to take it anymore.) She also pushed heavily against me getting a cane to the point that I eventually just had to declare I was getting one whether she liked it or not and ignore her bullshit.

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

​@@somedragonbastardrunaway from that doctor

[@khaleesireyna731]

Personally, I wish OP would give us her sister's name as a doctor so we can all stay tf away from her. I know it won't happen on reddit, but ablist doctors that refuse to listen to their patients need to be weeded the f out.

[@AraAra6367]

Quite odd that her parents back her up but her SIBLINGS are the ones harassing her. That’s a new one.

[@SwirlyPinwheel]

One of the video comments beat me to it. I get the feeling that the parents didn't balance the attention properly between OP and siblings. I could understand the older sisters being close and catty together, but the younger brothers joining in got me wondering. Especially with the parents siding with OP.

[@venusbleu5764]

I will never understand family who enables crap like this and why people stay in contact with family like this. There's no way this is an isolated incident or unprecedented, it seems like her siblings don't even like her the efff

[@MrSiren52]

Abusive relationships have that effect on people.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Hahahahaha “there’s a bunch of bastards here I would t piss on if they were on fire” mark how do I turn you saying that into an alarm tone?

[@antoniettamurphy7126]

The oldest sister told OP what was up and she missed it! She said that OP looked prettier than her - the jealousy is wild with this one - and perhaps OP is prettier than the other sister too. Darling OP you are the beautiful one - and they are the two ugly sisters. Gawd knows what's wrong with your brothers.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 1: NTA. Sister is jealous of OP. Period. OP should not invite Sister, Brothers, or anyone else siding with Sister. After the Update: Dammit!!! I did not realize there was another Sister. Had we had that information initially, I would have known OP was not actually the MOH. I hope this is the wedding OP wants. I'm sad OP nixed the Italian wedding.

[@alissarodea1983]

I cant get past the fact shes a freaking DOCTOR and is so vile to someone with a disability let alone her own sister. Ugh.

[@carlrood4457]

So the sister expected to be married by 30 despite going through medical school, internship, residency, etc.? Sure it's possible to work in a relationship in the midst of all that, but the time and expense of a "dream wedding" as well? Seems unrealistic. Also wanted OP to just put her life on hold as well?

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Especially with a personality like that. My condolences to her husband and I'd tell him good luck next time getting married.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

I didn't even think of that! My only thought was "oh, no wonder it took until 33 to get a boyfriend with her charming personality."

[@nataliereeves3594]

I wonder if the parents she hates paid for that education she's so proud of? She is a horrible person.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@ArcanineEspeon Neither did I honestly. But seriously, regardless of her age, she's lucky she has someone willing to marry her AT ALL!

[@FromMiamiWithLuv]

I was looking for this comment. A doctor that lacks so much logic is a scary thing.

[@kitkakitteh]

Should have made it a child free wedding 😂

[@floraposteschild4184]

Then the bride wouldn't have been there. Win/win.

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

​@@floraposteschild4184neither would be any of OP's siblings nor the groom and his family

[@DevjKaiser]

Story 1: hopefully the husband divorces the sister is she can have the first divorce too 🙃 Since she needs to have the first of everything 😂

[@squidward6187]

Ugh! When she said to her sister no one would want her because of her disability made my blood boil. I was hit by a truck when I was seven and severely disabled for many years. My brother would say to me, "no guy would want you because you're damaged goods." People like that deserve no compassion since they have none themselves. And my mother was supremely jealous of me because she needs to be the biggest victim, to be constantly pitied. "Oh, it's so hard being a mother to a disabled child," boo hoo, wah wah. I put up with their cruelty for way too long. I understand it's part of your conditioning to accept abuse because it becomes normalized. Pretty much anything can be normalized.

[@CaroleHarrison-r9m]

I feel OP's pain... I was born third in line and was very sick for different reasons!

[@misskate3815]

Story 1: this is so interesting, because usually Reddit writers make it a disabled sister who takes attention from the non-disabled sister, and this is an unusual take on the idea. This def fits my take on those ableist “how dare my sibling be disabled” posts that usually go viral. If there’s any truth to those, it’s likely more along the lines of this.

[@AndreNDP]

S2: Honestly, it sounds like this OP might have sleep apnea. Sleep study might be a good idea if it's feasible.

[@lyragwen1895]

story 1: I would certainly like an update after the luncheon.

[@my3sons757]

Narcissist's and their flying monkeys always accuse others of the very things they themselves are guilty of.

[@best1terrie]

I hope OP in story 1 posts an update on the luncheon!

[@dimsufferer9951]

There is an update where they do the destination wedding.

[@alyzu4755]

I don't see this OP's sister's marriage lasting long. Unless the groom enjoys being miserable. I feel badly for that child. Sister is an absolute b*tch, and so is everyone siding with her. Update: Ah. So sister has been abusing OP her entire life and the family enables her. Good for OP and her fiance for eloping with those who actually love them. I hope they go NC with her family afterwards. Story 2: Dude is TA. Absolutely.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: If it were me and the siblings started piling on about not giving a MOH speech, I'd be like, "Oh, you want me to give a speech? Alright then, it's ON!" and my speech would list every single thing sister had done to me. It would be interesting to see if the couple were still married by the end of it (although I suspect it was a shotgun wedding, since sister is pregnant already). NTA OP, but you need to start giving them a little hell. ;) S2: YTA. What if your wife falls asleep while nursing? Babies DIE that way!

[@lostshadows768]

Story 1: Haven't even gotten to the end of the sister's wedding, but wondering why anyone thought it would be a good idea to demand OP give a MoH speech. She's, rightfully, pissed off. You should take the win of her deciding not to give a speech.

[@dimsufferer9951]

Also? It seems like bride didn’t want any attention on OP but if I were at a wedding and one of the MOHs was at the kids table, I’d be wondering why

[@waffleattack3347]

As a fellow epileptic wow! Our disability isn't who we are! What a piece of work!

[@hiro4344]

I hope OP has friends/ Husband's family members run interference. If she does something like wear her wedding dress, for sure someone's going to try to get at it and throw something on it or step on her train. At the same time with how relaxed she is I'm sure she'll find the drama very amusing. I hope we get an update on how that went down.

[@cherilynlarsen8104]

Sister is a selfish brat and the siblings are just toxic. Don't invite them to your wedding and go low contact. I bet her sister is a very unsympathetic doctor.

[@ElManataro]

I did something for my wedding. My wife invited her family/friends, while I mostly invited my friends, parents, sister&bother. My mom and dad asked ( even in-laws) why I wasn't invited cousins, aunts, or uncles. Everyone got the same answer " I don't see them or talk to them during all year, holidays or even my birthday why would I want them to come to my wedding". "Friends are Family that one chooses",

[@krystiharper]

The OP should reach out to a wedding planner to help her make a fair invoice to send to the sister.

[@sushmitamukherjee4025]

A version of this happened to me at my sister’s wedding. I didn’t handle it as maturely as OP. I really think this family doesn’t deserve OP. What I will say is that these times, as humiliating and hurtful as they are, show you who your “family “ really is and gives you the peace you need to prioritize yourself.

[@kateemma22]

As someone who lives with someone with epilepsy, and knows how much they struggle because of this thing that only rarely happens but is socially stigmatised (if I had a dollar for every time someone has seen their seizure and asked me if they're possessed or if they can pray for me... ha ha I hate religious people now and I could pay them to go away), I LOATHE OP's family. Send their home addresses, OP, I just wanna chat.

[@exoticbuttersflavored]

For the last story OP is the AH but I'd also suggest getting a sleep study done if he snores that loud. Could be a sign of sleep apnea, it happened with me.

[@LadyWolvie82]

Indeed. Two of my siblings have sleep apnea, and both use either a C-PAP or BI-PAP machine. OP2 should get this checked.

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@dioncrouch3897]

This shite again 😂 it's all over KZbin like a syphilis rash 😂

[@AndyyWithAY]

Recently I was watching something that said spaghetti was a beginner meal. 🍝 I then realized I'd never actually made spaghetti and that needed to be fixed. After I cooked the ground beef it tasted a bit off.😱😅😭 I know it shouldn't be spoiled bc I'd literally bought it a few hours earlier. But, as it sat in the sauce, the taste fell into place. My dad texted me and told me it was very delicious and I did excellent for my first time making it 🥰😌🥰 I woke up too early today, but I started work early and I'm going to leave early and go to the gym after. 💪🏾

[@goatkiller666]

Story 2: get an air mattress and a CPAP machine for the home office. Problems solved.

[@Arylwren1]

Why the f should op not be allowed to sleep in what's essentially his bed too. Y'all and weird

[@goatkiller666]

@@Arylwren1 - Because he’s a considerate person, and doesn’t want to bother his wife? Just because he has the right to sleep in his own bed doesn’t mean it’s the kindest thing to do.

[@Arylwren1]

@@goatkiller666 or maybe they can put a single bed in the nursery for situations like this.

[@breannamonks3839]

​@@Arylwren1Goes both ways. If the husband as an office and is planning on staying up late to work as a game dev most nights, he could easily set up a more comfortable single bed/day bed in his office space so he's not disturbing the wife and baby if they're already asleep at 2am.

[@v.s7760]

I can’t wait from the update on this

[@theschnauz2138]

If the sister has to be first for everything then she’ll be glad when she’s the first to divorce.

[@LadyBern]

Story 1. A good plan but I wouldn't have put the reception idea out on reddit until after it was done. July of 2024 "update following our enlopement we decided to have something of a reception for our family. We planned it for June, but wouldn't you know it june so happened to be the month of my sister's due date. Whodda thunk it. I told her that she was still welcome to attend if she gave birth before then and she's ok to bring it around people I'd happily accommodate her by sitting her in the back so she can take her baby out if it starts crying. I even offered to sit my siblings back there with her so that they can help her."

[@owl7072]

"You'll make her sad" I'm about to emotionally devastate her then with the things I want to say

[@guywhowatchesvideos-z2e]

Give your evil sister a bag of mcdonalds at your reception

[@politereminder6284]

Story 1 reminds w so much of my family and of my sisters 😥

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 1: Revenge sounds like too much work. Hell is poisoning your soul with cruelty, jealousy and spite. The sister is in hell, though she may not know it at the time, but when she realizes all the damage she's done to her sister, the very ground on which she stands will be fire.

[@Michael.CrazedAlaska]

Ah yes, the crippling disability that keeps you from living a normal life, epilepsy…

[@dianeessex300]

Story 1: Never get married because of her epilepsy? And she's a doctor? I have epilepsy, and I got married, had kids, and I'm now a great grandma. She should lose her license.

[@Ventura574]

Story 1. I wonder if 2-3 days leading up to OP's party, if she'd appreciate it if I eat a bunch of stuff I really shouldn't, then use those bathrooms she's going to seat her siblings next to, an hour before their arrival.

[@nikkihorn3852]

Story 1 I would love for op to update after the lunch. You know the siblings will stir the pot.

[@AvyFerg]

Agreeing to things because you don't want to deal with the drama is a surefire way to being miserable.

[@SnappyJumpykins]

yesssss i always look forward to you posting in the mornings lol

[@cocoidiea8643]

Story 1 update kinda confirms that her siblings are resentful of the time parents spent on OP and they unfairly blame OP.

[@tinywaterdrinker5136]

I feel like a brainlette bc the part that stuck out to me the most was how the sister REALLY wanted a man but never had a boyfriend until she was 33. How's that possible??? She must come across as super nuts to most guys around her

[@MrSiren52]

If she was prioritizing her career, it's believable. Focusing on her schooling with the belief she can always find a partner afterwards.

[@bhart3321]

​@@MrSiren52And while she was so career focused how many randos was she banging to scratch that itch when it came up. That's the rub, if a woman wants a family she's gotta prioritize it sooner rather than later so she's got time to find & thoroughly vet someone before getting married & pregnant. That's the lie they're being sold they can have it all all at once, no they can't no one can. This marriage will fail spectacularly very soon simply cuz she wants it not because it's the right person or right time. She doesn't care about this guy she'd marry any guy that agreed so she could have kids, & god help those kids cuz they're mother is a narcissistic monster.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

With her charming personality, I can believe it. 😂

[@devchekhov7512]

@@bhart3321Bad woman doctor/lawyer/PHD--have man and baby up now! /s

[@wmdkitty]

@@MrSiren52 Nah, dude. Even then, she'd have had plenty of opportunities. I'm betting she has a nasty personality and drives everyone away.

[@jessicapetersen913]

I think the best part of any video is when Mark "goes off on one" and laughs at it 😊

[@dream6562]

Parents are allowed to be closer to a child than the other, even if they aren't being trash to eachother, why deny if one parent and child vibe more with eachother than the other

[@toothless3835]

I mean, I would've done the speech but make it as SCATHING as possible. But I'm petty like that.

[@fcold9402]

I am pretty sure I would not want a speech from someone I just went out of my way to insult. Why was anyone expecting the speech? Heck at that point, if i was the insulted one I would be tempted to mention why I was relegated to the childrens table, say we were not going to announce, but since I we are already being punished for it...yes its true we are getting married... and show off the ring.

[@prettyaseyes2268]

Not only would I not want them at my wedding, but i wouldn’t want them in my life either.

[@bhart3321]

Wow this is her first relationship at 34 & she's a doctor. I can see it now, dude is getting baby trapped to a narcissistic 304 & will really pay for it when he catches her cheating & divorces her but she tries to levy all kinds of charges against him as punishment for thinking he can leave her. STOP GETTING MARRIED SO SOON AFTER MEETING. At the year mark you're just starting to get to know one another it's way too soon to think about marriage. If he/she can't wait that long then they aren't marriage material. VET VET VET, that's why you should date for several years BEFORE getting married. He's getting into a very unhappy marriage cuz he didn't vet her properly & he's gonna regret it. As for OP she needs to tell her siblings to piss off forever & go NC. Why did the parents not say anything when the sister treated her like garbage after doing ALL THE WORK on HER wedding? She's like this cuz mommy & daddy spoiled her rotten.

[@FunSizeSpamberguesa]

She didn't even wait for the wedding to be over to start showing her true colors. If they last much longer than a year, I'd be very surprised.

[@wildfyah]

That 2nd story brought back terrible memories with my ex's snoring getting increasingly worse over time. Many nights I had to go sleep on the floor next to the baby's crib with earbuds in so I could get some semblance of sleep while he snored away happily in bed because I needed to learn to deal with it according to him and his mom. I slept practically under the crib so I could feel her movements when she started to stir. It was torture and the thought of sharing a room with him always haunted me... He refused to go see about his snoring and it just got even worse over the years.

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

Story 1 - Hey you know, the nice thing about the additional reception is that it's a great opportunity for OP to get a bit of petty revenge (seating chart) AND more wedding gifts!

[@smorphous8928]

Story 1: so the bride is basically isolated Op, weaponized the guests against Op for not doing a speech, and got mad when Op does the most logical thing and leave. The bride Is a full blown Karen. 😂

[@ninirossau2304]

I was just going, but then I saw this video. just seeing this one.

[@mbyerly9680]

A bridezilla who is also a sisterzilla and a doctorzilla is a scary beast.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Jeez.........All this abuse, anger and jealousy over OP's epilepsy which she has no control over. Poor OP..........😢 Needless to say, the siblings, especially eldest sister who is(a total Bridezilla and likely NOT for the last time, because let's face it, I don't see that marriage lasting long)suck big time. 😒 Thank God OP's parents agree with her at least. 😊 I'd say cut ties with siblings but stay in touch with parents. Out of curiosity, I'd love to see an update where the siblings get a taste of their own medicine at the luncheon. I'd also love to see the parents call them out as well. Basically giving them a "Well, Well, Well. If it isn't the consequences of your actions." I also wouldn't be surprised if in said update, OP cut ties with her siblings but stayed in touch with her parents.

[@TsukiKageTora]

If I was the groom, I would have asked for an annulment because this petty selfish psycho is not what I married. She tricked me by not showing her true black hole of a heart self

[@AutumnFire1414]

Who knows, Groom might be someone who wants to be married to someone who will bring in lots of money as a doctor. In which case, he can just deal with his poor decisions..

[@SirFailsalot91]

"Blood is thicker than water" only holds water if you don't dilute that blood to the point it may as well *_be_* water like how this Bridezilla has - Sister is an absolute cow and the fact the brothers are defending such a petty little brat and berating OP while Older Sister was sucking up to her is utterly pathetic, so OP deserves every right to want nothing to do with anyone beyond her parents after this; you get what you put in, so of course if you put in nothing but disrespect and abuse, you're going to get the most frozen of cold shoulders. The update is the perfect revenge for these utterly trashy siblings, but the opposite to hate is apathy - she's expecting OP to be equally as passive-aggressive as she was first, but not paying them any mind and letting her stew over getting no attention is exactly how to pay her back.

[@beebs4283]

“blood is thicker than water” is a saying that has been (likely deliberately) skewed to be completely opposite from its original meaning. the full saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”

[@christinesinclair6938]

The actual phrase is "The Blood of the Covenant is Thicker than the Waters of the Womb." Which means it actually is more applicable to Op1's chosen family.

[@brendandavis3026]

Holy moly! Going old school by mentioning an arcade. Those were good times right there. :)😂

[@MochiTheAxolotl69]

“Your disabled so you don’t deserve to do things or be treated like a person” “Be my wedding planner” Uhhh, which one is it Bridezilla??

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

A bridezilla story to enjoy with my plate of waffles? Mark you spoil me you cheeky so and so

[@cricket78065]

I truly empathize with the new mom. My baby only just turned 5 months and the struggle is real. Tack on a c-section recovery and you'll know how I feel. My husband also snores loudly. But his is every night. I'm truly blessed that my little has no issue with sleeping through snores that sound like a chainsaw starting and stopping.

[@warjdani]

I wouldn't have the reception that is just full of drama.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Send this post to all the people who treated you badly as well as friends and colleagues. Sister should not be a doctor with her attitude. I dont think she will be married long and her own kids end up hating her.

[@Noromyx]

Story 2: I can't get behind the first comment that blanket called everyone who disagrees with her the AH. The part that stuck out to me was her emphasis on how he made the choice to stay up late developing his project, a project that isn't his main source of income. Like, yeah, and? He wasn't up until the wee hours of the morning screwing around having fun, dude's basically working two full time jobs to provide for his growing family and trying to improve their lot in life. Not saying being a new mom is all sunshine and daisies but dad is sacrificing, too, and that sacrifice should earn him some grace. And like, the mom, he found her asleep on the floor without any pillows or blankets. That move strikes me as her cutting off her nose to spite her face, like the idea she couldn't have gone and gotten a pillow makes me roll my eyes. All in all, I'd say ESH for that story, but the real AH is that person in the comments.

[@Denuhm]

OP is so magnanimous. I would have made sure that there was a very strict seating plan where NONE of the siblings are seated together and security ready to kick them out the moment they aren't at their correct seats.

[@jasminedavis3030]

Story 1: Sounds less like Sis was being a bridezilla and more like there's a bunch of deep-seated jealousy. No doubt sis will try and stir shit up at the luncheon and cry about how OP doesn't love her family enough to cut her and other sibs out from the wedding. Sis is gonna be a shit mom and will find herself the first divorcee of the family. 🙄

[@andreibelittchenko5956]

Imagine your logic being: she might not like your partner so she can treat you how she wants. That's the logic of narcissists, if you think this way you need to check yourself.

[@ashakiwest4244]

Story 1 update: The beautiful simplicity of it all. 😂 Petty Petunia on deck Love the update.

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

s1; Watch a ton of catty conflict-heavy movies so you can fire off quips at the four stooges whenever they act up. Bridezilla picks up a piece of cake at the buffet, you look her up and down; "Do you really need that?"