I Cancelled A Family Trip After My Wife Tried To PURPOSELY Exclude My Son r/Relationships

[@Charles-sd7xu]

For story 2: if she “basically stole his car” he “basically kidnapped her”

[@floraposteschild4184]

AND basically vandalized her car and jeopardized her employment, not to mention the stress he put on colleagues and patients.

[@saratronus]

Yeah the moment someone tampers with your car there the asshole's hands down and whatever you do as a response to get to work will never be considered asshole behavior that commenter was off their fucking rocker

[@VesnaVK]

He outright kidnapped her.

[@BenKonosky]

She could have called 911 once she realized he wasn't taking her to work.

[@charminglady2011]

Right? Lol

[@sarahl88]

Story 1: How evil is it to try to tear apart a family and turn a teenager’s father and brother against him, knowing that his mother is dead so he has no other immediate family and when you are supposed to be playing a parental role and actually looking out for him?! It’s horrible how his stepmother has taken against him for being moody and withdrawn like most teenagers. I hope his father has his back now he realises how bad it has gotten.

[@maryguokas400]

what's scary is there is a reason she is trying to isolate the 14 year old.

[@WobblesandBean]

Right?? Plus he's 14, _a child._ She's focusing on him because he's the easiest target. Once she succeeded, I guarantee she'd start doing the same to the oldest son.

[@RobDaCajun]

@@WobblesandBean yep, then replace them with kids she will have with Op. Then it will be a perfect family.

[@brigidtheirish]

I'm wondering why OP married her in the first place. Did she wait until the marriage license was signed to start acting nasty towards Leo?

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

She lied bald-faced to a barely-more-than-a-child to try to triangulate his brother, after she wasn't allowed to leave the latter out of a family holiday. That's fairytale levels of Evil Stepmother. I hope OP had the clarity to realise this behaviour predicts worse abuse, & choose his children over this sneaky, ugly, unhappy woman.

[@pansprayers]

Anytime a private citizen puts you in a vehicle under the pretence of going to destination A and takes you to B, it's kidnapping. Not essentially kidnapping, kidnapping, full stop. Doesn't matter the relationship status. Work comes first, and the ESH is an AH who doesn't understand how nursing works, or how the profession has been hit, and is essentially condoning kidnapping.

[@thebirdchannelforfans623]

Exactly! And she’s probably not being a workaholic in all likelihood since she does try to go to the occasional family event. In all likelihood she’s working because of COVID, healthcare workers are burning out and quitting, and like every workplace, she would get fired for not working her shifts and any that she agrees to work, which she probably has to so people don’t die…

[@pansprayers]

@@thebirdchannelforfans623 yup. My cousin quit the ICU, sold her house in Austin, moved to Montana, and started homesteading as a school nurse. That's how bad it is.

[@tennesseedogpack]

False imprisonment is what it’s called

[@terraguttierez2996]

So if a man doesnt make time for family, in all the movies youve ever watched, hes painted as the asshole. Similarly, shes an asshole. Life is about balance, no one is saying the guy isnt an asshole, just that she isnt spending enough time with family and seems to me like she doesnt take the time because she only goes to "the big events" so new years, thanks giving and christmas? Life is more than work, the husband is clearly at his wits end arguing the same point. Shes an asshole for not spending time with her family and for not listening to his needs and refusing to compromise. I bet hes asked her to attend countless family get togethers and she keeps saying no.

[@Davtwan]

“The rest of the family [...] thought I made a big deal out of it and [shouldn’t have] cancelled the trip that I promised the whole family.” The _whole_ family, huh? Well, OP can’t keep his promise to begin with when one person can no longer go. That would be my response to the naysayers anyway. Edit: and of course it turns out Rose lied to Adam. The family probably got the same story too. Disgusting disgrace of a person.

[@condorboss3339]

Yeah, once OP has clarified with his sons, he needs to let the whole family know the truth.

[@MrJpaynebb]

So she lied about Leo not wanting to attend. Next she lies to Adam to pit the brothers against each other. Of course she lied to family members on both sides. OP needs to consider is his wife worth the cost of losing Leo and having the brothers bond broken or destroyed?

[@condorboss3339]

@@MrJpaynebb I tried to think of a scenario where Rose _didn't_ lie and Leo actually did tell her he didn't want to go and Leo then lied to OP about what he said to Rose. [This would imply Leo is seriously disturbed and is willfuly creating family drama. There are cases of such behavior in children.] HOWEVER, if that were so, why wouldn't Rose speak directly to OP instead of going behind OP's back to cancel Leo's ticket?

[@Barlmoro]

@@condorboss3339 yes there are cases where the stepchild do not like the new partner and try to creat drama, but in this story ,if op do tell us everything, its sound more a new wife problem.

[@carolroberts4614]

Ava was invited by hubby I think! "Just turn up accidentally, nobody will realise!" And he stayed another two hours, and then shouts at op! Definitely something going on there.

[@LunaP1]

Everything he did was nothing but red flags. What a psychopath and hope OP tells his family what he did and how he is always doing crap like this to sabotage her employment.

[@VesnaVK]

Affair!

[@amberaseltine3012]

My qurstion how did it ruin his birthday? She didnt make a seen. She just left. Plus if it was ruin then why did it took 2 hours to get home. Ask family how long they stayed at the restrunt after she left. That way she know he stayed with the other girl thoes 2 hours.

[@Streetwisefirst]

Ava still has feelings for OP husband. As if she was truly not wanting to create issues would have noticed OP was not happy to see her and would have been the one to decline the invite to join. Setup.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

For sure this was a set-up by Ava and the hubby. The OP's problem is she didn't make it into a big issue as she should have in front of their family/friends. If I were OP, I would have explained to everyone there why Ava was banned from the wedding and why they had been supposedly (it doesn't look like hubby was) ghosting and cutting her out of their lives. That embarrassment alone would probably have sent Ava running. But I still think OP should have thrown her drink on hubby and told said, Happy Birthday Cheater, don't come home anymore and walked out of there like a Boss.

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 2: “he called me “manipulative” bold for someone who manipulated the situation and admitted to tricking OP to get her there. She could have lost her job for that. Idk what husband thinks, but in the adult world, responsible adults need to show up to their jobs so they can earn money and continue to have basic needs met. NTA.

[@victorvaldez8869]

Not to mention the fact that she's a nurse not a waitress, if a kitchen is short staffed & mistakes get made orders get messed up & comped, if mistakes get made at a hospital due to being short staffed people die. Pretty sure OP would have that on her conscience as well as her resume.

[@deborahpinkey1264]

And if they can't show up to their jobs, they call it in in a timely manner. They don't just ditch work with no notice!

[@ynmonroe]

And she mentions that he "always forces her hand". Nope. This dude sucks and she needs to really assess whether or not she wants to stay with him.

[@jeannineharamoto6658]

If your in the US, there is still a nursing shortage. Not to mention there are still some COVID restrictions in medical facilities. Some of my nurse friends have been exhausted over the last two years.

[@mpmansell]

If she had lost her job, then the answer would be to report the vandalism and kidnapping to the Police. That would probably get her job back, or another given the shortage of nurses, and work well in her favour for the divorce. There is no way this woman should risk relying on that ahole financially.

[@condorboss3339]

Story 1: You left us with a cliffhanger. After the last update it is clear Rose is trying to drive a wedge between the boys. Dump her for your son's sake.

[@brigidtheirish]

And if "the rest of the family" includes extended family, between OP and all his relatives.

[@Azulakayes]

Both his sons' sake. She is breaking his sons' bond. What a horrible disgusting liar and the only solution is divorce...how do you stay with someone that manipulative and psychologically abusive to your family, only 1 year into marriage...1 year of being a new addition to teens who lost their mom at 9 & 11. Why does OP seem unsure?

[@coreymartin6486]

@@Azulakayes I think he's weighing the gravity of divorce.....because often people pull the trigger over any situation. Op might divorce, but rash actions should not be done.

[@nilianstroy]

@@brigidtheirish somehow I bet the rest of the family is probably only her side of the family and/or anyone else she lied about the reasons...

[@brigidtheirish]

@@nilianstroy Here's hoping.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: *NTA* Wife’s a POS. She was singling out OP’s son. Honestly she comes across like she doesn’t like Loe. She probably “adores him“ when his dad is in the room/with an earshot and treats him like trash when Dad is nowhere near to hear her. His mom died a big change in his life he has to cope with, not to mention the grieving process, and his dad got remarried another huge impact on his life he needs to cope with.

[@brigidtheirish]

I know, right? Kid's a *teenager.* They get moody like this sometimes under the best of situations and this is *not* the best of situations. Hell, my brother's avoided family functions and closed himself off most of his *life.* He's an Aspie, we're kinda like that.

[@emasters8619]

She's acting like a child. Completely unacceptable.

[@babydoll8182]

Wife in the first story wouldn’t have to worry about whether my kids like her or not anymore. Because after cancelling the trip. I would be canceling the whole marriage. You don’t get to mistreat my kids!! Period!!!

[@Thatgirl96.]

@@brigidtheirishmy cousins teens don't want to go on trips with their bio mom and dad they're moody and antisocial because they're TEENS 😅

[@brigidtheirish]

@@Thatgirl96. That's *asocial,* but yes, exactly. The teen years are a *weird* time under the best of circumstances, full of hormones and changing expectations. I was difficult to raise at the best of times, ADHD and Asperger's will do that, especially when no one *knows* they're the problems. Dad once brought up the *one thing* I did that made his and Mom's lives a little easier. "Why haven't you rebelled? Most kids your age are all about rebelling against authority and pushing boundaries." So I said, "I'll rebel if you want me to." Dad laughed.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "You're a horrible manipulator!" Says the man who tricked his wife into a missing a _work shift_ so he could take her to a barbecue she specifically stated she didn't want to attend several times, as well as most likely being the one who let the air out of her tires so that she'd literally have no choice but to have him drive her. It's projection your honor. He fucked around and found out.

[@brigidtheirish]

Says the man who tried calling all her friends to make them cover her shift. Says the man who sulked when he didn't get his way. Says the man who *most definitely* sabotaged her car.

[@fishbowl5308]

@@brigidtheirish you both are missing a major factor op picked up the shift it wasn't hers to begin with. It's literally both of them not properly communicating and escalating. You don't kidnap your wife because your brothers are picking on you. He clearly wants to spend more time with her. Unfortunately work can cause you to steal a car. They need to communicate before they do more felonies

[@Tijggie82]

@@fishbowl5308 no means no. There's no excuse for basically kidnapping his wife. Edit: not to mention he jeopardized her job!

[@brigidtheirish]

@@fishbowl5308 Didn't she say she *had* to pick up that shift? We don't know why she had to work then, only that she *had to,* she told her husband that *multiple times,* he *refused to accept that,* and then he *kidnapped her.* Communication isn't the problem. Her husband being a manipulative, selfish child *is.*

[@fishbowl5308]

@@brigidtheirish she's a workaholic and no does mean no. I'm just showing that they both did wrong and should have talked before committing felonies. Also she had options besides grand theft like calling a cab and letting her work know why she was gonna be late. Also for the person who said they had to pick it up they really didn't. They might have felt they had to but they didn't. I'm not saying the husband did anything right again he kidnapped his wife. I'm not gonna be on ops side when they can't just tell him they aren't as family oriented and stole a car. Both are in the wrong should communicate and probably divorce.

[@madgevanness4011]

Story 2: some partners go for nurses thinking they’ll get total nurturing and are jealous of their job. So sabotage the job with ridiculous actions. But a good nurse considers the team she works with and last minute no-shows are unprofessional. H & OP need to communicate and look at their expectations to see if they can be balanced.

[@sagesaria]

Story 2: That one ESH comment is tired of the kneejerk being 'NTA divorce him,' well *I'm* tired of the reaction to that being 'assume that OP made no attempts to communicate before and call an ESH blaming OP for not saying no loud enough'

[@simonO712]

THANK YOU!

[@sfsin3380]

I think the ESH commenter is an abuser too (OP's husband is clearly acting abusive here). They used straight up abuser logic when justifying their ESH Seriously the horrible illegal thing is all or part the victims fault because they didn't do exactly what they were told is Abuser 101. Even if Op was the workaholic that commenter claimed (which there is little evidence she is) it still does not justify vandalism and kidnapping nor put any of the blame for that vandalism and kidnapping on the OP

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: I remember this story. I even commented directly to OP. This is what I said "I'm sorry to jump on the divorce train, but what she did was unexcuseable. Your son's safety and comfort NEEDS to come first. No ifs, ands, or buts. Also, talk to him about what's been going on. Ask him if she's been nasty to him to his face, and if she has, ask him what did she say/do. You're NTA, but you will be Y.T.A if you don't put your son first."

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. I have this sneaking suspicion that he's been pressured to opt out of family trips and get togethers.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I was pretty sure this story had an update where the OP found out the wife had been treating the kid horribly behind his back and this instance was just one the OP happened to find out about. The OP also found out the wife was trying to build a case to push for the OP to have the kid move in with another family member and out of their house. The OP and the wife ended up separating and that was the last thing that was heard about the story.

[@coreymartin6486]

@@thomasjoseph5876 That's so weird. I know some step parents don't have any care for their partner's children....likely because they aren't their kids as well. However, that doesn't seen to be the case in this story since she's ok with Adam. The stepmother is acting like a "Mean Girls" villian and bully. I don't know how OP could trust her to be alone with Leo. It's unnerving how much of an agenda this woman has towards a 14 year old.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@coreymartin6486 It's obvious for some reason she simply doesn't like Leo. Other than he likes to keep to himself and do things by himself, no other hint for a reason is given. The thing is, she is treating him worse than she would treat a stranger or a stranger's kid. Actions like that are deliberate and thought out showing a grudge of some sort. We will probably never know since the last I heard the OP and this wife separated and I haven't seen anything after that so unless someone else has seen something, this appears to be done and over.

[@astralwyrm3787]

@@coreymartin6486 She's probably a narcisist. The introvert is a soft target she can lash out at. She casually spreads lies to cover her tracks and make the victim doubt their own grasp on reality. This is a form of venting for her to distract herself from her own self loathing and to distract others from her own perceived shitty self. Maybe she doesn't intend to get rid of the kid but its always something she can dangle over him and use against him. Convince him his father doesn't care about him or that he is a burden on his father to be got rid of. If she does get rid of him she'll seek out another target to attack if not continue to snipe at him from afar. Lieing and turning family members against a target is classic narcisist behaviour. It's called flying monkeys. Picking on a target is also narcisist behaviour she's making him the black sheep. I grew up with this kind of crap from my step mother; some people's capacity for compassion does not extend very far if they have any at all.

[@DerekScottBland]

Story 1 edit 4 "I don't know what to say to be frankly honest." BE FRANKLY HONEST. Adam, Rose lied to you because she doesn't like Leo. She's trying to turn you against your brother, and anything negative she has said to you about him is part of that. I'm divorcing her because it's not right how she's treating either of you - excluding Leo from events and trying to brainwash you to get you on her side. You two are brothers and you need to always have each other's backs just like I'll always have your backs."

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

This!

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

That's a great way to put it

[@margaretlowe5220]

Just like that!

[@sylviajones6745]

Absolutely, I thought the very same thing. Sit him down and explain what this woman is trying to do. Cause trouble between the two brothers. He's young enough to be swayed and believes all the lies. Such a shame.

[@singingwordwright148]

Story 2: "Called me a manipulator"... Ha! Once again, "Every accusation from a narcissist is a confession." Also, there's a word for forcibly taking someone somewhere they don't want to go. It's "kidnapping."

[@tennesseedogpack]

What he did was called false imprisonment

[@lengvue6818]

Story 4: Are we sure that the husband was not the one who confessed and got rejected and then try to do the switcheroo?

[@jp8649]

Ooof. Def a possibility.

[@kp2223]

Good point

[@onurkneezb]

My money is on him being a long term orbiter that Ava didn't want to lose, and yes, It is likely they never stopped talking, hence her showing up at the restaurant.

[@ericle1995]

They probably cheated. He lied about the situation so wife would cut her off without confrontation.

[@robertbishop5158]

She went about it wrong though, she should have quizzed her about all details Relevant then gave him a real birthday gift with divorce papers.

[@Cooper016]

Story 4: Am I the only one who found it really freaking odd that Ava was so damn cool about bumping into them. Like they hadn't stopped talking to her at all. Something tells me the husband is either screwing her or lied about going no contact. Kinda glad Mark and I had the same damn thought.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

Kidnapped Wife: Most jobs depend heavily on enough people showing up to work each day, so there tends to be strict consequences for people who don't show up and don't call in. Either the husband didn't know that or didn't care, not sure which is worse. As for stealing a car, I hope anyone who gets their car stolen knows exactly who did it and where to find that person, as he did. She drove to work, after he tampered with her car and kidnapped her. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@rylashadow18]

S2: Hubby was the one to sabotage the tires. He probably thought that if she had no other means of getting her to work she'd have no other choice but to suck it up as he held her hostage.

[@puppychan2086]

Story 1, as an introvert I understand how his son feels. I have a hard time opening up to people and I'm called rude on a regular basis just because new people make me uncomfortable, a new person in my house that I really don't know definitely would make me close myself off.

[@a.u.t.057]

I swear people would do and say things to somebody and act shook that they closed themselves off

[@truthseeker9249]

My whole family is like this to me. Of course I'm awkward around family members I never see and have no memories of because our family never gets together anymore and everyone lives far apart anyway. I'm not being rude I'm just not comfortable.

[@ginathecookie]

They really act like not being bubbly and super friendly and extroverted is some how rude.. Even if youre polite about needing time alone.

[@geovanibenjamin8940]

Op's wife sounds like a narcissist who thinks anyone who doesn't directly throws flowers at her and tell her how "great" she is is directly against her, like she was probably the kind of girl in highschool who would call every introvert a freak simply because she doesn't accept different ways of living other than hers, i really hope OP doesn't let her back, if she's already this open about hating his son (and yes "hating" is a very appropiate term for what she feels towards him) and also, please, you're a grown ass woman, even if the kid actually didn't like you that would still be NO excuse to bully him back

[@marleybee1946]

I need an update on story 1. OP needs to be more careful in choosing his next wife.

[@diarradunlap9337]

He needs to divorce this one and NOT choose another wife until well after his sons have grown up and gotten out on their own.

[@adelaideemiliem2772]

Story 3, I can just picture the conversation between the wedding planner and the people partaking in other activities. “Look, I got a bridezilla over there, and she wants you all to move. I know that completely unreasonable, so I’m just here to make it look like I’m asking you to move.”

[@juliearmfield2634]

I feel so bad for the husband in the wedding photos story. Can you imagine what he's going to go through dealing with this entitled one the rest of his life. Smh

[@paulagoeringer9466]

He picked it, he can flick it.

[@shadewolfe1231]

Wedding Photos Story: You can just photoshop the “strangers” out of the photo! That wedding photographer must be cheap.

[@pansprayers]

Or the bride's clueless/didn't talk to the photographer (that was likely part of the hotel package). Even the cheapest packages come with editing. If it's some guest with a phone instead of a pro, I have a 5$ app that can edit that crap out in about 2 minutes

[@condorboss3339]

Yeah, " _that's what photoshop is for Karen_ ."

[@Tijggie82]

Yes! I thought that's what they were going to do!

[@Woodie-xq1ew]

@@pansprayers smartphones are comming with it built in now, or at least thats what the advert before almost every youtube video tells me

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA Husband is an idiot. She tried to end his relationship...and he invites her to sit FIVE MONTHS LATER? Even 5 years or 5 decades later, OP would be in the right. Her pre-marriage behavior is one of those "completely unforgiveble" things. I feel like this was planned either by him and her, or her and his family. Is he clueless or does he not care? There's no way she "doesn't have feelings anymore" after 5 months. And then he stayed FOR 2 HOURS... Run

[@allblazing1160]

he's cheating on her with ava he was there for 2 hours after his noticeably upset wife left to go home he's probably been cheating with her this entire time and slipped up for the first time.

[@RobDaCajun]

@@allblazing1160 I’m thinking that too.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

​@@allblazing1160 I don't know if there is any actual physical cheating, quite possibly emotional cheating, but this was for sure a set-up by Ava and the hubby. I also have to wonder if Ava was the one that approached hubby about getting together or was it the other way around and the hubby had approached Ava about getting together after Ava broke up with her boyfriend and Ava rejected him for whatever reasons???

[@elaexplorer]

@@thomasjoseph5876 it could have also been a set up by a well meaning family member who doesn't know what happened, and thought they had just had an argument.

[@videofan1010]

@@elaexplorer If this is true why did he stay?

[@jackspring7709]

Story 1: "Rose adores both my boys but complains about Leo". No, OP - get the wax out of your ears - she despises Leo: and is using him as a scapegoat to cause problems. Glad to see you finally smelled some coffee - and if you ever stop to ask him what it's been like for him, he'll probably tell you that her behaviour has been far worse than anyone knew.

[@DudeEM]

Story 2: the one who said ESH questioning why she needed to work so much, etc. SHE’S A NURSE YOU IGNORAMUS!! Hospitals are severely understaffed recently. Schedules are arranged a month prior that’s why OP could still attend big events which I presume where announced months before. One of the biggest stressors of a hospital staff (if the person is a decent one) is becoming the cause of additional stress for fellow staff members the moment they had to go absent last minute, whether the reason is valid or not.

[@karimygirl5826]

YESSIR

[@AWildJirachi]

This + there’s almost no way that the husband didn’t intentionally let the air out of her tires

[@mrFiiSKiiS]

Funny how none of her co-workers/friends had to work all those extra shifts and couldn't even cover one for her. But she does. OP has a classic problem nurses have. They're generally very big hearted and employers often use that against them to abuse them. And once they find one who they can really turn the screws to, they never stop. Husband was entirely wrong in how he tried to "fix" it, but there is clearly issues on both sides.

[@bpmfj5422]

​@@mrFiiSKiiSwhere in the story says that her co-workers don't have to work similar hours? I have a bunch of friends working on hospitals and they have similar hours, just covering different shifts.

[@coreymartin6486]

Here's another concern.....what's to stop her from causing confrontation between the brothers AGAIN in the future? She has already proven to be deceptive, a liar, and a gaslighter.

[@nightcorelucario2218]

I think that ESH commenter on Story 2 is wrong. If you've been told no many times, and most likely by many people because he called up her work colleagues, that should be more than enough communication to get it though your head that she cannot attend his family's party. Also OP is not a workaholic. She states she does make time to make the big events and she in an industry where it's important to work more. I think if you get with someone who's in a medical or emergency line of work, you should expect their work to be priority because it's their job to help people's lives

[@babybookworm003]

They failed to read the part where op is a nurse during a pandemic when all nurses are pulling overtime

[@LadyBern]

They really didn't like being called out by assuming things they admit they need more information on. They jumped to that instead of saying more information was needed. Idk about them but I've had to work when people called out or just didn't show up to work on a crew already spread thin with higher ups who dgaf because they want to make as much money as possible. Struggling to do the job of several people burnt me out. I can't imagine going through that as a nurse.

[@VesnaVK]

What is up with that commenter?! That nurse is 100% NTA.

[@atinyevil1383]

Agreed. Also, I’m not sure if anyone else picked up in this, but this is a common occurrence, meaning husband’s family keep making plans when OP has shifts. This time she was filling in, but I *highly* doubt she’s filling in for someone every time they plan an event.

[@hellhog3252]

As a guy who is extremely family oriented as well I can agree with you. He should prolly leave his wife if he feels family time is being neglected or needs more and she can not give it. Sounds like their incomparable to me. She has her career, he has his family. Their values don’t seem to be the same. Also I don’t think OP is TA for taking his car cause in all reality he DID kidnap her lol I feel like people haven’t brought that up enough and that in an of itself is divorce worthy for OP

[@sardiniegenie]

Story 2: If the husband is always forcing his wifes hand, then it sounds like they probably just shouldn't be married anymore because compromise is not in their vocabularies.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I can't stand people like Ava who wait until the 11th hour to reveal they're feelings. She had nearly a decade to do that. The husband super sucks too, asking her to sit down when she tried to steal OP's man. Then he stayed out for 2 hours. He and Ava might have got a table just the two of them. I put nothing past him.

[@standinthegsp6858]

You need to let his family know that their son/brother put not only your job at risk but also the lives of a hundred or patients. He needs to let you know well ahead of time about his family’s events.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA what the hell did I just read? He didn't "trick" OP...he kidnapped her. Not only that but he also vandalized her car in order to do so. HE is the manipulator and OP needs to run from this controlling asshole. Edit after comments: I swear that one comment was giving him a pass because it was a "cry for help". I'm sorry but no. You don't get to use his lack of communication as an excuse for him to be so disgusting. Then to try and gaslight and call HER a manipulator? No, there are way bigger thingsbher than work vs family and maybe she works so much because of him. It doesn't make it right to kidnap someone just because they don't give you what you need. And OP isn't an asshole for making sure she still has a job after being falsely imprisoned. She doesn't have to go to any family events if she doesn't want to. And I love the response comment to that shitty comment. It absolutely was trying to give him a pass. They tried to say the opposite but the whole comment was blaming OP.

[@floraposteschild4184]

Good thing more people's "cry for help" aren't felonies.

[@loe_chil]

I hate commenters that do what that commenter did (just make the situation worse; as my grandmother says they 'excuse the devil to punish the saint').

[@Davtwan]

“I know it’s reddit and first instinct is to say NTA and call for divorce.” And he’s on Reddit responding to AITA posts. The audacity of this person. 😂

[@saratronus]

I bet you 5 bucks that commenters a male who doesn't understand shit About such a profession as nursing. Like there is a high chance that if she doesn't shop to work Her call worker could be stretched thin and they could Neglect a patient's need and that can lead to problems

[@fytrndm]

@@saratronus I bet you five dollars the commentors is the kind of people that scream at nurses for attention because they've been there _for hours_ when they have a minor sprain a GP could've fixed.

[@fufufuaru]

WAIT. I'm gonna need more updates to that first story freakin hell that stepmom is one of those nightmare movie stepmom

[@travislee3203]

Story 1: Well your new wife thinks that the proper “treatment” for your son’s “Moodiness” and introverted demeanor is to exclude him from Family events, to turn his brother and you against him. All she has to do is lie and gaslight you two. If you keep this wife one more month I think you will lose your son forever. And since you’ve let your wife get this far, you’ll deserve it.

[@pearbear6418]

Story 4: NTA. Yeah, that's super fishy. I'm convinced that the husband (or someone else there) invited Ava to the dinner. It wouldn't be surprising if this was some failed attempt to get OP to reconcile with Ava.

[@sarahjaneheckscher6737]

Story 1: he needs to rethink his marriage because his children MUST come first. This woman is isolating his younger son and telling lies to further twist the narrative. He brought this negative energy into his family. He needs to deal with it.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - Rose is the epitome of evil step mother and OP has many decisions to make, but first must sit both boys down and go over the sequence of events - which all started with Leo's ticket being cancelled by Rose out of the blue. Let the chips fall where they may, but do NOT let Rose bully Leo or lie to Adam ever again!

[@coreymartin6486]

It would be great if Adam really let it sink in that Rose lied to and tried to manipulate him. Hopefully something will trigger in him that would upset him that this woman is trying to run his relationship with his sibling.

[@michaellane4054]

@@coreymartin6486 probably won’t. Sounds like Adam’s an extrovert, and he doesn’t care to understand his brother. It sounds like he only cares about the fact that he’s ruining ‘his’ fun time. Wouldn’t surprise me if he wants to go with Rose when her and OP divorce.

[@coreymartin6486]

@@michaellane4054 sadly, a real possibility. Kids at that age can lack a real appreciation of their siblings.

[@diarradunlap9337]

@@michaellane4054 If he does, then let Adam do so.

[@angierucinski5694]

Story 1: at which point was OP going to discover his 14 year old child was to be shunted off to Auntie? Drop him off on the way to the airport? 😲😲YNTA for now but your boys need you far more than Stepwitch.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Here we go again! Today’s episode of, who am I getting angry at this time. Can’t wait!!!

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

First Story: Ooooooo. Oh no. No. No. She did not. I’m angry! So, she tries to exclude a kid (Mind you, after he’s gone through a lot) and then tries to turn the brothers against each other? Oh hell no. I would be raising hell. Then again, I’m not the calmest person. I may be wrong though.

[@carolroberts4614]

I'm 2 minutes in and I'm furious with Rose... I'd better read on!

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Story 2: I’m sorry. I could be the AH but OPs partner was way out of line. You don’t trick someone, especially if it could risk their job. Yes, there needs to be discussion and that could have waited. Both need to seriously talk. I can see why, my dad is a workaholic and yes, it does affect relationships bad (We don’t get along much). So, both need to be adult and talk but OPs partner shouldn’t have done what he did at all. Also, I don’t think OP is TA for sneaking away. It could have negatively affected their job.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Story 3: I also read this one. Lolz. She defo didn’t pay for the beach for the day. It would be nice if they did move but they do not have to move at all. I was laughing so much. Like… can’t she pay a bit more to get them photoshopped out? Maybe? That’s a suggestion. At least the Hubby knows what he’s getting into.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

@@carolroberts4614 Yup. Tell me what you think of Rose after the story. It’s hard not to get angry.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. Rose is a manipulative bench OP has just discovered. 2. What OP's husband basically did was to kidnap his wife. If she had of just "sat her shift out", she could have lost her job. He tried to gaslight her after he failed to get her to stay at his family's ranch. Oh the earful that man would have gotten from me. But then, I've always been a very sassy girl. Old age has just enhanced that in me. lol 3. Yeah, go to a resort for a destination wedding and you expect everyone around you to just stop doing what they are doing just for you. Nope, YTA. 4. You don't ever concede ground in a situation like this. You stand your ground. I don't believe in coincidences, that woman didn't show up just because, she was there on purpose. So OP leaves instead of staying? Oh hell no. OP should have stayed.

[@carlrood4457]

Technically, it's abduction. Kidnapping is for ransome.

[@cypressk3838]

Story 2 nta: my nurse friend has to request days for several months ahead of time (or atleast that's how it is lately) so not only do I count that as a factor but he kidnapped op by lying and taking her to his family's place and hoping that she'll feel trapped enough to stay. He probably did something to the car. Y'all need to communicate about home vs work life and decide if either there's some kind of compromise or if your lifestyles are just incompatible tho the sorta kidnapping is alarming as fuck and I feel should be a deal breaker in of itself. Story 3, WTF if u don't want strangers in ur photos don't get married in a public space yta

[@saratronus]

Oh my God yes that commenter got me so freaking pissed. She's not being a workaholic she's being a fucking nurse. If she just randomly couldn't show up to work people could legitimately pass away if she's an ER nurse Or anything of that like. It's absolutely absurd to call OP asshole in the situation

[@NeverWokeNotASoiBoy]

@@saratronus And being a nurse is her whole life so why doesn't she do herself and her husband a favour and divorce him, obviously being a nurse is more important than being a wife.

[@saratronus]

@@NeverWokeNotASoiBoy Another person who obviously didn't pay attention she clearly States that she makes time For everything in her life she just had to go to work that day As a nurse you can't just call out all Willie Millie Because patients depend on you being there The health of people are in her hands she can't just one day decide not to go to work because her husband has something that's "so important". Please educate yourself on a work that nurses do

[@NeverWokeNotASoiBoy]

@@saratronus I think you'll find she stated she doesn't go to family events except the big ones, which we can assume in the US is the 4th of July and Christmas, and that would be split between two families so in reality, once a year. He is a family man, him wanting his family to be together seems to be a red line for him, one she is unable to fulfil. She should just leave him as it's obvious he isn't getting what he needs and she isn't willing to give it either.

[@saratronus]

@@NeverWokeNotASoiBoy But O p's not the blame for this the husband needs to understand that he decided to marry a nurse on nurse his work commitments. I agree op should leave because of the way the husband treats her

[@Russman67]

Story 2: So these parties are so important that he abducted his wife and essentially put her job in danger. Not the asshole and the husband is not the strongest strain of weed in the dispensary. Edited to add the everybody sucks here commenter is a bonus asshole. C'mon my dude! You cannot hold OP to somehow be a better person when her husband essentially kidnapped her.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Strongest strain, that's a good one.

[@atinyevil1383]

I’m going to use that Strongest Strain metaphor.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4: I think something is happening on the sidelines between husband and Ava, I would never say “please join us” to anyone who’ve tried to ruin my relationship with someone just because they loved me. If they truly loved me, they wouldn’t do this kind of disrespect. I would not disrespect my partner by having ANYTHING to do with the person who tried to steal me away from them, let alone be mad at my partner for being mad about it. OP deserves better than this toadbrained fool.

[@michaelwest2388]

amen

[@LunaP1]

He's fucking Ava and is mad that he can't use OP as a stepping stool.

[@katarzynajuszczyk7892]

Maybe it is just me but I think he is cheating with Ava. That was no coincidence and his reaction says it all. Blaming wife for not sitting with his side piece at the table.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Story 3: Holy crap. You're in a tourist spot for your wedding, and now you're angry there might be tourists in the background. Classy.

[@coreymartin6486]

As a hotel employee at a popular tourist beach hotel.......I would inwardly groan if a bride asked us to clear the public beach. We have zero authority, neither does any business on 99% of the beaches. As if somebody who has planned their trip for months, or years, flown across the country has to vacate the beach because somebody is getting married? Unless the person getting married is a president or king......yea, not happening.

[@Julienna]

STORY 1 - OP you married a narcissist, and she already decided, which of your sons will be a golden child and who will be the scapegoat. She decided to isolate the scapegoat to control the golden child. As you can see, the golden child already resents his brother. You need to get rid of the woman, or she will ruin your family and damage the relationship between your sons permanently. Another sign of narcissism is that she ran away to her family instead of solving this issue. Another typical sign is spreading bad rumors about you and involve her family in your issues. She does not want peace, neither functional family, she wants to win. GET RID OF HER, if you love your sons. I lost my only sister to a narcissistic mother and her manipulations. I lost her for good. She resents me for all the lies she was told by our mother. Please, save your sons.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: I Love that Mark couldn't stop laughing. Inwas right there with him. I said thus yesterday but it fits here too. Not doing the nice thing isn't the same as doing the mean thing. YTA you don't go to a PUBLIC AREA and expect to be then only one there. It's like those people mad people walk in front of their camera at the gym. Grow uo... up... aren't the main character in other people's lives. Also, just have the people photoshopped out ffs.

[@mbyerly9680]

You are a very special AH if sweet Mark laughs at you.

[@erikrungemadsen2081]

It's just. That is just not, how beaches work, not even David Hasslehof could save this womans wedding pictures.

[@kateemma22]

This is the finest example of Main Character Syndrome I have ever seen.

[@LadyBern]

Last story: even if she had not confessed who in the hell invites another person to join them on a special date? What more do it without asking the other partner first? Does anyone recall the aita story of the guy leaving his wife at dinner because every time they go out she ends up socializing with friends and old coworkers for long periods of time? Yes she is a social person but she was allowing others to intrude on their time together making the husband feel like the 3rd wheel on his own date.

[@Snowshowslow]

It wasn't a date, it was a dinner with family and friends. Under normal circumstances I would definitely invite friends I happened to run into to join me for such an event, and I don't think that's unusual at all. Of course, in this situation I would definitely not... But without the "my best friend's wedding" moment I don't see the issue.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 1 NTA! Wife is the AH! As an introvert, if he says he wants to go, let him go. Just be understanding.

[@ebagentj]

Story 1: If there had been a way, I would have transferred the wife's ticket to the son and left her behind instead. That said, I really hope OP gets rid of that toxic woman who is trying to alienate his son and turn his other son against him. He needs to know his dad's got his back for anything, and the oldest son needs to realize the same. Story 2: To the person who said "ESH" and asked why OP, a nurse, has been working so much: have they not been paying any attention at all to what has been happening in the last two years?

[@akl2k7]

Heck, with story 2, have they never heard about how crazy the schedules of people in the medical field are? Ridiculously so. It's a high-demand, high-stress job with high turnover.

[@MabruBlack]

In story 2, the comment saying that OP was ‘kind of an AH’ really bothers me because it’s not a part time job sort of ‘just change shifts’, changing shifts in a hospital is a huge mess. I come from a family of health workers (dad a doctor, mom is a phonoaudiologist) and even with how family oriented my dad was, he couldn’t just can’t call to the hospital and tell them ‘I can’t come today, I have a family BBQ sorry’, shifts have to be arranged or changed in advance because almost everyone has to adjust to this change. You know what he did? He talked to us. In OPs case, it sound like she’s tried to make her husband understand, but tbh it sounds like she’s like talking to a brick wall. Some people just don’t understand or refuse to.

[@carolroberts4614]

Yes, I was annoyed at that ! Nursing isn't something you can just not turn up for! You have responsibilities! And it's obvious he let her tyres down. This is extremely concerning.

[@GiordanDiodato]

plus she's a nurse. she has to sacrifice family time all the time due to her job. the commenter is either blind or doesn't understand how working at a hospital works. Edit: the commenter said "I have family who are nurses." ok, and? do they work at OP's hospital?

[@GiordanDiodato]

Story 2: That ESH comment can piss off. Definitely NTA. OP is a nurse and needs to work so much most likely because the hospital she works at is short-staffed.

[@moshigal156]

Story 2: NTA I work in the medical field myself, I don’t work in a hospital like OP but I do work in a pretty busy outpatient clinic. So I can say with utmost certainty that OP’s husband is a massive AH and could’ve cost OP her job. She’s a nurse working in a freaking global pandemic, and on top of that she’s in a field that’s facing a terrible staffing crisis right now. The demand for healthcare is SO high right now and there is literally just not enough of us to meet the public needs. It’s to a point where it’s taking months to get an appointment with a doctor because there’s so many patients coming in and not enough doctors, nurses, and other medical staff to take care of them. We need every person we can get right now, especially in hospitals. I think that more than trumps whatever stupid BBQ the husband wants to go to, and she was far nicer about it then I would’ve been. From one healthcare worker to another, OP is a hero. It takes an especially strong kind of person to work in a place as demanding and chaotic as a hospital, I certainly couldn’t do it, and I hope she knows how important she is.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 GET A DIVORCE IMMEDIATELY! Your job as a nurse is literally life or death and he wants you to miss for a dumbass barbeque. And he absolutely messed with her tires. NTA.

[@photofreak56]

The idea of treating your significant other like that is mind-boggling to me no matter what their job. The fact that OP is a healthcare worker literally helping to save lives of people especially considering we are still in a pandemic for the most part speaks volumes to how their significant other sees them I agree divorce immediately and take him to the cleaners!

[@jaymel4691]

I also have to wonder if OP makes more money as a nurse than he does and he has some weird jealousy thing. That ESH commenter is a fool. That husband sounds controlling and like he wants to sabotage her career to make her dependent on him or something. Otlr maybe his fragile ego is hurt? A mature adult discusses things calmly with their partner if they feel they're working too many hours, and in a healthy relationship you work on your problems together. He hugely overstepped by trying to badger all her friends to cover for her, and by literally kidnapping her to bring her to the BBQ instead of giving her a ride to work, without giving her a way to leave. I'm a nurse too, and we know going in that this job is hard work and often long shifts. I wonder if he's ever had problems accepting her career before, and how much worse he will get in the future. I hate to jump on the reddit "divorce him" train, but if someone pulled these stunts on me I'd be calling an attorney!

[@kennethsjvold9212]

@@jaymel4691 so here carer before everything right?? Long shift dont know where you work but nurses have a regular shift like everyone else who work shift.

[@kennethsjvold9212]

Nurse lliteraly life or death , most stupid answer ever🙄🙄

[@simonO712]

@@kennethsjvold9212 Dude, have you been living under a rock these psst few years? Nurses being overworked is the standard, not the exception. Also yes, working at a hospital often _is_ a matter of life or death.

[@deirdrelewis1454]

Nurse story: unless you are a healthcare professional, you cannot understand what it’s like to have a vocation instead of a job! I know many of my colleagues had problems with their families because of their work hours.

[@HackiePuffs]

The heck does she mean “make the trip miserable” Leo sounds like me and in large gatherings or family trips usually I just go off somewhere by myself whenever I feel like I need a break from people. I don’t even bother people that much (although I do get a bit cranky when I’m tired I’ll admit 😅 but that’s usually only if it’s late at night). Either way Rose sounds like a classic evil stepmom excluding Leo and twisting the narrative to get everyone to side with her. I hope that OP and his sons are doing better and that OP leaves Rose in the dirt. Edit: that ESH comment in the second story is so disgusting imagine blaming the person who’s being abused by “making him feel a certain way” and yeah how DARE OP have a busy work life smh

[@jaymel4691]

Leo (and you!) sounds like me too, I'll be 50 this year and I'm still very much an introvert, lol.

[@CanyonALynn]

Ditto. I've always been an introvert. When I was young my mother would try to 'fix' me by forcing me to go to parties and interact with people. A lot of times, it blew up her in face. The last time she forced me to a party, I sat upstairs in the dark of the host's house and when some parents came to pick up their kid early, I left with them to go back home. Mom didn't do it again after that. You can't force people to do something they don't want to do or change who they are.

[@truthseeker9249]

I'm an ambivert. An extrovert around people I'm comfortable with but typically introverted with people I don't know or are not comfortable around. I am not comfortable around my family and some of them I've never met and a lot of them i haven't seen in years so I barely know them. So needless to say in family gatherings I go off by myself or stick with the kids. I'm the only person my age in my family so babies and elementary/middle school age kids are all i have to interact with.

[@CanyonALynn]

@@truthseeker9249 I know what you mean about the age thing. When I was in my teens, I was either hanging out with kids younger than me or older adults. Couldn't really connect with other teens my age.

[@truthseeker9249]

@@CanyonALynn Yeah. And I'm 19, I'm an adult but still not a real adult according to most people. And according to myself. I think I will truly stop feeling like a kid when I turn 20.

[@MortalOrder]

That one commenter for Story 2: yeah OP’s husband deceived OP, deflated her tires so she couldn’t go to work, and basically kidnapped her, but OP works a high stress full time job so clearly they’re both the AH

[@Russman67]

Story 1: So The wife canceled OP's son's ticket because of "His Moody personality"? Oh Hell no! Evil stepmom better learn her some place before she ends up evil ex-wife.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 4 - I'm probably overly suspicious, but I can't shake the feeling that Hubs deliberately contacted Ava and invited her behind OP's back.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 3 of course YTA! You need to get out there super early to have deserted photos. It's very easy to remove things from the background. You can do that with FREE apps 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@alg94]

story 3: reminds me of when i was in university. our school was on the property of an old historical manor that has a famous rose garden, and every year without fail, couples will bring photographers to the garden and do their wedding photos on the same day as move in day. which is totally fine since its technically public property and its a beautiful place, except that there is a dorm building right behind the gazebos in the garden where everyone wants to take pictures, and every year brides complain that there are random students "ruining" their shots. and whenever they complain the answer to them is always "ma'am, you're not paying to be here, but these kids are paying $20,000 to be here"

[@victorvaldez8869]

Story One: OP's wife: "Your son who just lost his Mom isn't warming up to me, best to alienate him from the rest of the family too. Honey where are you going?" Story Two: Commenter: Why is Op working so much? Answer: Because she's a nurse & the current public health crisis isn't actually over, so most likely the only way to get a day off for a family BBQ would be to trade for something major like Thanksgiving or Christmas. Currently there are many front line workers dropping out of the field due to the abuse they've been on the receiving end of at the hands of patients who believe that the current public health crisis is a hoax thanx to conspiracies they've picked up from Talk Radio & Politicians in the USA so not showing up at the last minute is a great way to lose your job or have some other kind of disciplinary action. Also being short handed at a restaurant can mess up an order, being shorthanded at a hospital can cost lives.

[@floraposteschild4184]

You wonder where some of these commenters have been the last couple years. COVID isn't over, and the backlog of other cases aren't over just because we want them to be.

[@vulpixle9659]

Yeah that ESH really rubbed me the wrong way especially the kidnapping OP was a cry for help from husband like bruh he literally lied just so OP would go to some barbecue

[@Me-wk3ix]

So Leo is quiet and likes doing his own thing. Doesn't sound like he's hurting anyone. Just leave him alone, but always give him an option to join when he wants to. Sounds like Rose is trying to create a scapegoat.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 2: NTA - You "stole his car?" Um, he legitimately KIDNAPPED you! That's called escape, not theft.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: what is this!? Dad, listen to the warning signs and divorce the parasite. She is toxic. She hates Leo to the point of him catching on to it and asking why… and canceling his ticket to a family trip YOU paid for. She told your oldest that Leo didn’t want to go last minute and that’s the reason you’ve canceled making him mad at his brother for a lie she told. She is a toxic parasite that’s goal is to make Leo go NC with his family once he turns 17. If you don’t want this to happen: leave her and choose your boys over her. They deserve better. Poor Leo deserves better. Be a father and protect your children. They don’t need this especially after they lost their mother

[@AndyyWithAY]

Strongly disagree with the ESH in story 2. The husband and his family are giant AHs. Just hearing about nursing during the pandemic is exhausting. I'm not even a nurse and it's been months since I've done anything social. These are exhausting times.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

She was sort of in the wrong for being such a workaholic but he just blew a gasket in the worst way possible. He knocked it out of the park and eclipsed any wrongdoings on OPs part.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

The husband basically kidnapped her and MESSED WITH HER CAR. He’s a lunatic.

[@atinyevil1383]

Agreed. The comment said “a conversation is needed between you two”, but there already was a conversation. He asked, she said no. He directly went against what she said she wanted to do.

[@Songbirdstress]

Same. Kidnapping is never OK. Divorce, but mainly because they have nothing in common.

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

@@atinyevil1383 that was not the point, the conversation needed was him expressing his heartfelt pain for not having her by his side and/or telling her that he couldn't go on like this. Op is not without fault but he just did stuff that is so crazy he honestly doesn't deserve consideration at this point.

[@ynmonroe]

Last story: if the OP's husband was being honest about inviting the ex-friend to join them out of politeness, he wouldn't be trying to blame OP for leaving. Instead, he would have owned up to the bad decision. It seems clear to me that he never wanted to end the friendship long term. That doesn't necessarily mean he cheated or is cheating. It DOES mean that he didn't take the original offense as seriously as OP did.

[@robertx8020]

for me the 'breaking' point would be that he was only blaming OP THAT would make him a huge AH in my book And maybe a (potential ) cheater! He clearly sees more vallue in his friends 'feelings' than those of his wife!

[@deborahpinkey1264]

They've only been married for five months. He says he was just being nice, that it had been a long time since he had seen her (but has he been talking to her that whole time, or did she just so happen to turn up at that particular restaurant at that particular time straight out of the blue), and that she probably doesn't have feelings for him anymore. Oh yeah. She ditched her long-term boyfriend, tried to get OP's fiancé' to leave her on the eve of their wedding, got disinvited from the wedding, but shows up to his birthday dinner five months later. Yeah, she's over him alright! NOT!

[@ynmonroe]

@@deborahpinkey1264 My sentiments exactly.

[@kp2223]

Of course he doesn't take the offence seriously because it wasn't an offence to him. To him it was a compliment and a boost. He hasn't gotten the hang of being a husband yet because he doesn't understand that an offence to his wife ahould be an offence to him.

[@JSainte17]

I was thinking I'd find it a light ESH thinking OP would complain about people walking behind on the beach during the photos/wedding. Sure, they're not obliged to stop, but I wouldn't cross a wedding, I'd go around the other way, right? But holy sh*t. The wedding planner deserves a raise for not responding to OP's insane request with, "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize you rented the entire beach and ocean. I'll get right on that."

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 - NTA The ESH is extremely out of line and is using op to air their grievances about nurses. The husband purposefully took out OP’s tires, lied to her, and kidnapped her. That is… extremely abusive and controlling behavior to use against a woman instead of just talking to her. The fact that this husband has a history of “forcing her hand” makes me very worried for Op.

[@carlrood4457]

Lying to set Adam against Leo has to be a deal breaker. OP can't stay married to this woman

[@clairebear-96]

God imagine being the husband in story 3, it’s your wedding day and your wife is running off trying to tell people to stop USING the SEA….. jesus I’d be questioning my life choices 😂😭

[@meezerluvr]

Story 4 - I'm thinking they've been in contact behind OP's back all along.

[@aga3852]

Story 2: Wowwww the people saying the OP is an AH for doing a verryyyy important job are WILDDDDD.

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Story 1: OP does not need to speak to the wife, he needs a divorce lawyer asap, especially after learning she was poisoning one son against the other.

[@angietyndall7337]

NURSE STORY:Leave him& divorce him.. He is doing what abusers do and what he did screams out loud and clear. Btw the Health Field is a 24/7 job. It? b/c I worked in the Health Field for seven years and another year basically, when I did my internship for SW.

[@karlab95]

I'm so worried about that comment saying "relationships are ugly" like-??? Honey, are you okay??? That kind of behavior is not normal.

[@tinyspiderqueen2355]

Story one sounds like my stepmother. I’ve always been the black sheep to her because I’m shy and socially awkward. She told me I was rude because I have trouble maintaining eye contact. Turns out I’m autistic and not “just rude.”

[@margaretlowe5220]

How could the dad in Story 1 stay with the new wife after she lied to manipulated, and hurt his sons? She is NOT a good person!

[@deettekearns9092]

Story 2 - Who do you think let the air of her tires? Good ole hubby, that is who.

[@sierrastanley3109]

Story 1) I hope OP talks to the boys about Rose's manipulation. Like how she lied about Leo not wanting to go and stuff. He should definitely go with just the boys and kick Rose to turn curve because F that evil stepmother!!!

[@nareegreel]

Story 1: If my husband treated my child like that, we're done.

[@jackspring7709]

Story 2: NTA at all - taken away from an important shift where peoples' safety and even lives are dependent on you - NTA by a long shot.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

You "basically stole his car" _to escape_ after _he_ -basically- kidnapped you. Over a _party_ . That wasn't even _for you_ . There's no coming back from this; he's not dealing a full deck, & he's kind of scary. Run, don't walk.

[@BillAnon]

Story 3: There are many editing tools that can remove unwanted people in a photo.

[@ohno8398]

That wedding story was a delight! Really gave me a chuckle.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

Mark, my favorite part of your channel is that you check for further updates on the stories you cover, and you do it in a way that it won't confuse those who might not have heard the first time you cover it. So thank you for being here and thank you for being you ❤️

[@ElleriaZer]

I really hope we get an update on the first one. I feel so bad for Leo.

[@johnowen9349]

"I won't ever trust you again after you stole my car, that awful stunt you pulled, blah blah blah." LOL, okay legal definition of a kidnapper.

[@kaylawest2088]

As someone whose father would literally remove parts of my mom's engine so she couldn't leave him, the second story pissed me off royally.

[@datmanydocris]

Story 1: "Shouldn't have cancelled the trip that I promised to the whole family" Well maybe OP's absolute witch of a wife shouldn't have cancelled OP's son's ticket if the trip was for "the whole family." You don't get to cry about the trip being for "the whole family" when you explicitly tried to exclude a member of said family.

[@janda1258]

First story: there won’t be a happy ending where everyone makes up and you become a normal family again. I smell a divorce coming

[@ItsCamille735]

Story Two: The man sabotaged her car and kidnapped OP. On top of that, because of his actions she would’ve missed a shift. I have no clue what the American healthcare system is like but I know in the uk that if you don’t show up, you could be leaving only one or two doctors to run a whole ward. His actions could have put countless people in danger.

[@NovaGirl8]

Story 3: If you don't want people in the background of your photos, rent out the whole place and make sure it is a private beach

[@briant7134]

Story 1: OP’s new wife is a creepy manipulator, and he needs to seriously reconsider his relationship with her. By which I mean split to protect his sons. Story 2: OP might well have contributed to her marital problems, but her husband endangered her career, and could have placed overworked nurses and patients at risk by abducting his wife to a family reunion. He’s unhinged, and this is definitely grounds for divorce. Story 3: 😂 🤣 what a clown. Story 4: In what world is OP’s husband not the asshole, since only 5 months had passed. He’s probably been in contact with her the whole time too. Sheesh.

[@jaymel4691]

Wedding story- why would you not expect strangers to appear on a PUBLIC BEACH? OP was too cheap to reserve a beach area for her wedding. Or even go with the cheaper option of editing the extra people out of the wedding pics. Bridezilla alert!

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 1… Rose is deliberately trying to cause a rift between the brothers.. Hopefully OP will give an up date.. he needs to do some serious rethinking on this relationship.. Story 2… OP’s husband is a first class hypocrite as well as a total AH! That would have been grounds for divorce if it were me!!!

[@Buff_Helpy]

Story 2: y'know I could've understood being frustrated at the wife constantly working when his family has functions but with with begging her friends then that last stunt he pulled he can sod off. Although that one ESH had an interesting perspective.

[@TheBigBossJr2000]

I dont think they have an interesting point because if he has a problem with the amount she is working it's his responsibility to relay that to her and figureout what can be done.

[@sfsin3380]

No no the ESH didn't have an interesting perspective Firstly that cementer made up the workaholic thing from no where. OP is a nurse (so she has a hard time getting time off than most people), this was her shift (not overtime, her shift if he wants her at thing he should try and get them arranged on days she's off that honestly like claiming someone one the evening shift is a workaholic because they can't go to events exclusively planed in the evening, no that called having a job you can't take time off your shifts willie nillie when you have a job), no one could cover her (the husband even checked too) and she says she always make it to the big events (probably because they have set dates and she can request not to be scheduled those days in advanced). Secondly even if Op was the workaholic that commenter claimed (which again there is little evidence she is) it still does not justify vandalism and kidnapping nor put any of the blame for that vandalism and kidnapping on the OP. and Thirdly the horrible illegal thing is all or part the victims fault because they didn't do exactly what they were told is Abuser 101. I honestly think the ESH commenter might be an abuser too (OP's husband is clearly acting abusive here) given they used straight up abuser logic when justifying their ESH

[@kanelovec4315]

Story 2. He is a family man. The underline information is op wants to work so much (other than to save lived and money) because he put his family before her every time. Yes overworking is bad but what he did was worse.

[@mrFiiSKiiS]

Story 2: The guy calling ESH is exactly right. OP tacitly acknowledges dismissing the importance of family, both in general and to her husband. She uses common expressions that essentially prove she's got a savior complex. *She* has to work extra shifts, even the one on this date was an extra. Shows how much her co-workers care when her husband reaches out to her "friends" to ask them to cover for her. Calling off a shift or not picking up every extra shift isn't going to tank her career, nor is missing a day for a family event. Husband was entirely in the wrong, but I can at least understand the feeling of needing a drastic measure. He just went the absolute wrong direction with it.

[@Donald43]

Story 3: If you don't want random strangers in your wedding photos, don't hold the event in a public place like a beach. Or like as others have said, photoshop is your friend.

[@janicewilcox8590]

It doesn't matter why she works so much. He had no right to trick her into going somewhere she didn't want to go. And there's zero doubt he let the air out of her tires. And he did two so she couldn't just put the spare on and go to work. She didn't manipulate anything, she just left her own kidnapping.