The Root of Abandonment and "Shame Attacks"

Have you ever had a shame attack and did not even know it? Today I want to bring insight into the deepest root issue in our healing journey--abandonment. Most of the roads of our brokenness lead to abandonment. When shame and abandonment connect, it can trigger a chain reaction with our hearts that can drive us into a variety of struggles.
I pray that today's insights will encourage you to experience greater insight into your heart healing journey.
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[@wastingtimeonyoutube.]

So many doctors & Psychiatrists want to drug these feelings away and not deal with the root or the traumas a person has.

[@urbansetter1]

Yes

[@joyh.729]

As a psychiatrist and a Christian it is refreshing to hear a pastor explain some of these very charged (and often misunderstood) psychologically based spiritual challenges that trips soo many of us up! Thank you for shedding light and PLEASE keep this up! We need it more than we realize!🙏🏽❤️

[@ladyesther]

Ugh, it's so hard to be human. To be human is to be imperfect and that's hard to accept.

[@こなた-m1o]

abandoning and traumatizing children is more than just “imperfection”. it’s cruel.

[@timanglin89]

Knowing is half the battle. I hope I can break this cycle from within me. I know God is with me through this.

[@katiesanders96]

You can win the battle, brother. Our Father is on your side! He is FOR you and goes before you into the battlefield.

[@xXyasabeXx]

Man, if this isn’t the truth.

[@Angiemusicaldoodles]

“Shame teaches you how to abandon yourself. Shame makes you small.” :O Oh my gosh, I felt speechless when watching this video. It’s no wonder why I had attacks of shame/guilt and perfectionism tendencies. I’m starting to get more clarity.. praise God!

[@pagen5219]

Then I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, “Now salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren, who accused them before our God day and night, has been cast down.

[@matts.6001]

AMEN!!

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

Hallelujah

[@margaretgrosskreuz8687]

AMEN Praise God!

[@JedStevens1234]

Amen Thank you Jesus !

[@servantofchrist5085]

@@pagen5219 amen 🙏🏾

[@paulmerritt2484]

I was born with Autism, ADHD, and Tourette's. I did not grow up in a Christian home and I grew up in the 70's when they were not accepted as anything more than behavioral problems. I did not find out till my late 40s that these were 100 percent neurological and not mental illness at all. I was diagnosed by a neurologist. God led me to this and wanted me to know the truth. Everything changed but my wife was still struggling and the devil was still attacking our marriage of 30 years and family. I was so afraid of failing and getting judged and shamed. I hear you brother. Jesus showed me that there is no shame in those who know him and I have not felt shame in over 3 years. I live in perfect peace. I knew it was god doing it when I got cut off in traffic and I was only concerned about the safety of the other driver. All I can see in others is someone Jesus loves and I love. I was given an new heart after water baptism followed by baptism in fire. I was on the floor on my face humbled before Jesus and given a vision of him sitting on his throne. I reached for his robe and was filled with pure live and anointing. Just like Jesus felt it go out of him when the bleeding woman touched him I felt it physically come into me and change me forever. We can do nothing but go in circles struggling until we receive the Holy Spirit. Jesus told us if we can really love him we ill keep his commandments and it is true. My wife and I were both living with constant panic attacks and those shame attacks and God showed me they are demonic as the devil uses our fear and pain and the lies we were taught and he uses our unforgiveness against us. God cured my OCD and my anxiety and so much more. I was also physically cured. I have seen people getting saved every day since. God uses me to give me word for strangers I meet and they end up listening to the gospel smiling ear to ear and getting saved and becoming disciples who right away are testifying because they are meeting Jesus in me. He manifests in us he told us in John 14 if we keep his commandments. The greatest commandment is all about worshiping God with the power of his Holy Spirit and it is in Matthew 22 34 to 40. When you really know Jesus and how much he loves you then you can never worry about what anyone else thinks of you again as you will know Jesus approves of all you do as it will all be with his lead. We will never be perfect. I am not trying to speak against your teaching here as I see you understand the enemy uses these conditions against us. These conditions are demonic and we need these demons cast out. God delivered me from them all alone at home praying my heart out to forgive and be who he made me to be. HE then gave me multiple prophecies for my family first and then for specific churches I was to attend int e last 3 years and bring the anointing to. I saw revival coming and I called 3 of them so far. Even Asbury and I am in Canada and never even heard of the place until I heard in in my head 3 days before the revival. I told people it would happen and would be triggered by worship. Again this is not my own understanding. God did this and I take no credit. I has extreme PTSD most of my life including new trauma as an older adult. It was cured in an instant. My rotten tooth was also healed even though the dentist said it could not be saved. My kidneys also shut down and my feet then legs then entire body was so swollen the doctors said I would need dialysis for life. The next day after praying I was healed. My wife healed my cut hand almost instantly when laying hands also and it was all new to us but we knew it would happen as God makes you sure when he is talking to you. There is no more people pleasing or worry or struggle. Myself and my wife both. He resorted our marriage to be better than honeymooners and even physically restored our bodies to be able to make love for hours day after day. We live in complete bliss and can not be shaken at all. There is no temptation to feel self pity or shame or these negative thoughts. God took care of them and hides us in t eh shadow of his feathers where the enemy can not see us. My time belongs to him. I no longer want anything but to get closer to him and to please him as what he wants for us is what is best for us and fills us with joy unspeakable full of glory. God wants this for all of us. Do not let your heart be troubled. That is a commandment Jesus gave us.

[@riiyaahdior3922]

What an encouragement. Going thru somethings u mentioned n I just know if God healed up he can heal me

[@partlysimpson5154]

Amazing testimony brother!!!! I would like email you, blessings!!

[@indigo_dreamz]

Thank you so much for sharing this!! I too wish to be free and have prayed to the Lord,m and continue to seek His face so I may receive freedom and peace in similar things you have shared as well. I pray to receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit by fire 🔥 as well. God bless you Brother in Christ.

[@turquoisoul]

Watched this in tears. I've been "spinning" for months now. I feel so alone in this healing, but also hopeful that I'm not alone. Your videos give me insights and the words what's happening in me. God bless you 🙏

[@lesliequite1868]

You are not alone.❤️

[@turquoisoul]

@@lesliequite1868 thank you Leslie ❤

[@bjones5791]

I was going to write “you’re not alone “, and I saw other commenters put the same thing! Be loved in the present will all get through this together as children of the most high God!

[@Justjewels8436]

Your not alone, i can barely function around people to the point everyone thinks im weird its horrible.

[@OhOkayChloe]

How are you now? I’m currently suffering myself

[@oliviag9271]

This is what I'm going through & it's been really bad the past 2 years. I don't have support. I search for love. I suffer from CPTSD. I'm alone & a addict. I left the church because I don't want to be judged. Thank you brother you have no idea how bad I need this

[@JoeMama-yl2bt]

God sees you girl. He promises that if you draw near to Him, He will draw near to you, James 4:8. Ask and you will receive, seek and you will find! You will find that love in Him, I promise! He is love after all : ) and He’s the only one who can free you from these burdens, Matthew 11:28-30. Be honest to Him about these things and confess them all. He will help us in our time of need we just need to wait on Him and trust. I know that can be hard but we must remain steadfast and endure with our living hope in mind. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans‬ ‭8:18‬. I’m praying you can overcome these things and maybe go back to church soon. It’s important to get that fellowship and it can be so helpful as you walk with Christ!💕

[@zacklaplant1861]

praying for you and your journey!

[@zacklaplant1861]

this is a great message!

[@zacklaplant1861]

​@@JoeMama-yl2bt this is a good word brother. Thanks!

[@wastingtimeonyoutube.]

I've left the church because I don't want to be judged either😔

[@hiekkaroopi]

I am so ready for this. I was praying today asking God why I can believe that His salvation and love is for them but I can't believe it for me. I felt a hard lump in my chest where love should be. You are speaking to that lump. I can feel it!! No one has ever spoken to me about this. I was let down all my life. I'm sure much of it reflection of past hurts and then reacting to them and living a cycle of rejection. I really need this!! Oh my goodness!! I want that lump in my chest gone and God's love and joy flowing freely.

[@lilafeldman8630]

"Like a pulsating nerve, that when it gets touched it explodes." So true in my life.

[@paulmerritt2484]

You need to humble yourself and get delivered by the elders or by the Lord in prayer at home. Get water baptized also it makes a huge difference. I was 50 when God cured my anxiety and panic attacks and so much more and I mean cured. I struggled hard all my life until 3 years ago. I was looking for the answers in prayer and in my Bible. My wife suffered just the same and our situation was very bad. It was affecting our health. We were skin and bones and dying like we had cancer or were addicted to drugs. It was pure fear and terror we lived in. We held so much pain inside and it caused manifestations of anger and panic. It cause us to be confused and so forgetful and constantly stressed to the point we were shaking all the time. God already helped us quit smoking and I had alcoholism taken from me never wanting a drink again until I let one resentment darken my heart. It was for my boss who was also my wife's boss and this boss was playing us off each other and then tried to ruin us and set us up even criminally at work to take a fall for no reason other than hatred for Christians and the devil was using them. I had to have love and empathy for this person. It is not optional but I could not do it. God coudl and did take that resentment and all upset from me for what others have done to me. No one can put me to shame or make me fearful. I only have fear of the Lord today and he did this. I just had to seek him in it and he was already calling me trying to help me. He was tryin to help me all my life but I did not see most of it until he make my life flash before my eyes that day on the floor humbled. I saw it all as it really was. As God sees it. I suddenly knew things I never knew including scripture. God draws me closer and closer still. I can not get enough of his word or fellowship with him all day long. I wake up excited to meet the Lord today and I used to wake up with dread and anxiety. I have not even had a single ad dream. I sleep in seconds after laying down and solid. God is doing this ad I found out he is doing it to others as well. This is God pouring out his spirit on all flesh. Oh how he loves us. He wants us all to make it and the end is near.

[@333god_is_true]

Lord you are describing everything i felt and feel ☹️ as i am fasting to hear what the Lord has to say, through you he is speaking to many 🙏

[@ovidiudrobota2182]

For the past five years, I've bravely exposed myself to social interactions, yet every encounter leaves me feeling defeated. The difficulty is that I seem to make people feel awful around me. They can sense my toxic shame - it radiates from me, making them so uncomfortable because I'm painfully self-conscious and extremely awkward. I can't control this feeling. I never feel at ease with myself when I have to talk to people. I don't understand what's happening to me. I don't want to avoid people, and I certainly don't want to hide from them. But this overwhelming sense of toxic shame persists, even though I've been working in public for about six years in a restaurant. I'm 31 years old and have never been in a relationship with a woman; they all avoid me. I try my best to look charming; I take care of myself and dress well, but this toxic feeling of shame makes people suspicious of me. They keep me at a distance. Every morning when I arrive at work, my co-workers notice me. Their eyes blink, and they look in the other direction. This silent rejection is crushing. I don't know how to overcome this awful feeling of toxic shame. It's a relentless shadow over my life, keeping me isolated and longing for a genuine connection. Please, if anyone understands or can offer some guidance, I desperately need it. This is a cry for help from someone who just wants to feel normal and accepted.

[@bonekanj1920]

@@ovidiudrobota2182 remember that you are wonderful and that you are enough. Instead of criticizing yourself highlight the things you’ve accomplished. Every little thing counts. Don’t pressure yourself. You are deserving of all good things. Tell yourself and believe it. The tension will drop. I really hope you realize how special you are and that you overcome this

[@ovidiudrobota2182]

@@bonekanj1920 - thank you! You're a wonderful woman.

[@annetipa9257]

Try Marshall Burchers work.

[@josephinemuhasuwa8423]

@@ovidiudrobota2182 can we be friends?

[@cynthiamarston2208]

This happens to a lot more people than you can imagine. Stay true to yourself and find humor in many situations that are trying to make you incomfortable in your own skin. Only myself can allow someone to make me feel a certain way. Be brave and understanding! Many broken people out there and what they make you feel like is really just you allowing that….even though a momentary feeling is real…..do not own the ones that you instinctively know are not healthy for you. Ya know? And always always stay the course and keep at it….your vision with or without these kinds of encounters.

[@Ari-Artform]

This is Fantastic. Truely. I always thought it was some kind of possession.....it felt so BAD! Shame attacks my whole life. Thank you for saving my life ! Literally! GOD BLESS. And to everyone here listening. You are loved.

[@ethanplacella]

Mark you said something about abandonment that I've tried to articulate before but couldn't find the words. For far too long I have felt like I can vent and pray and tell God what's in my heart but more often than not it would feel like God is just sitting there, stoic just blankly staring at me which has left me feeling like, "are you even listening? Are you there? I know you're here but why do you just sit there and not engage." You also mentioned (today but also many times before) which clicked for me today how its a battle regarding being disconnected from love. I then realized why I'm pursuing some things in my life both good and bad, and it's because those things have made me feel loved. Without God's love filling me first I have been trying to fill it with other things because I have struggled to connect to his love. This video was packed full of good stuff that I couldn't see until now. I'm gonna have to go back and re-listen a few times to let it all sink in. As always thank you Mark. P.S. How do we send in questions and emails that you tend to pick out and answer regarding OCD and stuff? I'd love to send an email and get your thoughts.

[@Treebeard9]

Dude you have no idea how much I needed this today man. You’re literally speaking DIRECTLY TO ME! God is moving today

[@beans06]

I am finally figuring out my "people pleasing" only pushes people away. He nailed it exactly how I feel. I suffer a lot of brokenness and you only get it when your world crumbles down. Thank you for this insight

[@zacklaplant1861]

While listening to this, I had a realization that I'm safe, Jesus isn't going to leave me nor forsake me. I'm justified and being saved, but it's God working in me and through me to do that! (There's a passage in Phillipians that talks about that) I'm loved right now. I've listened to this message before but didn't "get it" a little bit until now. I see a lot of my life through fear of abandonment. God's got me, He's with me, and He's for me. He is good.

[@rolandsalas]

Hey now! Are you talking to me? LOL 😅 thanks for this teaching. It's helping me and my family.

[@Sweet2kiss1]

That's me!!! That right there!!! Shame attacks and the whole 9. Praise the Lord for this message!!!! I won't be alone!!!

[@BenevolantBusinessBeauty]

Had to come back to this, it’s so helpful!! I heard years ago “re-parent yourself” and I was a little taken aback by it because I was thinking, “well God, You are my parent.” But now looking back I see that God was showing me a different way to relate to myself and planning to use this to bring healing to my identity as His daughter - a redeeming experience with our Heavenly Father. God bless you and your family Mark. This is pivotal!🙏🏽

[@leeleewaters1451]

Just when I thought we couldn't get any deeper into this subject you really opened my eyes Mark! I have these shame attacks but I thought there was something wrong with me and that I was sinning. Thank you for showing me that it's just part of the process.

[@fitprotunes]

This speaks to my soul Mark. Thank you, I'm really resonating with and loving your content. In my experience, the end point of shame feels something more like 'I'm going to be condemned to eternal damnation' than 'I'm going to die'. It sounds crazy to say it but dying feels more like a relief compared to the sense of eternal damnation.

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

Yes, I have come to the conclusion that I'm still growing in the milk of the Word. I think I was chewing on a lot of meat this year. To be clear going though and reading the Bible is actually a milk and meat process. Really appreciate these videos Mark.

[@paulmerritt2484]

This is 100 percent true about his word. It is only second to his presence and Holy Spirit anointing that gives us the truth about his word and our discernment. God cured my PTSD and life long anxiety after 50 years. It has been 3 years now and not a single attack or even a worry. I know I am safe in his arms always. He makes sure I know he is there. I see signs and wonders constantly in my life and marriage. It is like heaven on earth. I can not even get upset when another driver cuts me off because all I can see is a person who Jesus loves and it is Jesus in me doing this. Jesus told us the greatest commandment is worship in Matthew 22 34 to 40. This must come first in our lives as when we love Jesus he said we will obey him and he will manifest into us. I did not know that being given the Holy Spirit is not the same as being anointed in the Holy Spirit and having Jesus manifest in us. May he touch you in this way today and may you never be the same.

[@barbarasparks3419]

You described me. I live in condemnation and shame

[@margaretmarchese8238]

For over thirty years I have spent countless hours and dollars on mental health care. No one ever explained it as well at this! Thank you & God bless you🙏🏻❤️

[@EasyPools-p4d]

Bless you, depression, severely anxiety 20 yrs and watching my sons overdose is personally having to revive him this last year I have undergone electroconvulsive therapy for my depression and my son just had another overdose February 28 and is now living with me at the house again, we are both wounded your videos are giving me breath to breathe, Jesus let us all allow you to love us praise your name,

[@partlysimpson5154]

Seek Lord, fasting humbles us, u are free indeed, son has set us free, in Jesus name Amen

[@lotusrising108]

This. Is. On. Point. Like jaw dropping. I prayed for guidance. And this video opened. Grateful. 🙏🏼

[@RebeccaHughes-g3l]

I went a empathetic reader today , she called me in victim consciousness. I feel so bad about myself afterwards

[@Crowned.Regal.Beauty]

This helped me so much! The striving, perfectionism, self pity and burdens hit me so hard. I liked how he said "there's no shame in being vulnerable". It's healing power in that. That's something I really struggle with. Which probably goes into perfectionism. I felt like the Holy Spirit wants me to share my story with my pastor. I believe it will help me a lot

[@ThomasVancil39]

Thank you Mark, a lot of your work has been essential puzzle pieces in the end of a long long battle. I love you Bro.

[@FaithOverTime]

The Spirit certainly has a way of serving what's needed when it is most needed. My abandonment issues were triggered yesterday and it looked to a big shame spiral when I couldn't repent my way out of my feelings that I knew were irrational. I thank God for you and your ministry. I've benefited from your teachings. It's amazing, I was diagnosed bipolar type 2 and you even touched on that. It all still seems so very overwhelming to change the working of my mind and heart. I would honestly rather go be with the Lord than to have this daunting task of trying to properly navigate my mind, but I guess that's me wanting to separate from myself! Anyway...thank you brother.

[@servantofchrist5085]

God’s got you my dear be strong and courageous and do not loose hope everything will be alright 🙏🏾 he will help navigate through your mind and life if you let him take full control of your thought and soul life as well 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@angelablain3846]

The thing is I can see where I’m disobeying God. Where I don’t know how to be free. To set things down. So I feel constantly condemned because He did speak to me about something and I don’t know how to comply. I keep failing. I’ve made some changes where He spoke to me. But I still struggle. So it makes it seem like it’s ALL on me. When I get this in obedience then I’ll experience more healing. So once again it’s all ON ME. it’s all too much.

[@YeshuaKingofkings]

Praise God 🙏♥️ He's leading me to all these videos for my complete wholeness.

[@fransinclair3356]

Why do no therapists know about this. This is exactly what I have been dealing with and I knew it wasn’t anxiety. There is fear of the shame attack. I used to have panic attacks but overcome that but this is next level

[@joanni9351]

Perfect explanation of what its like . I'm finally coming out of the spirals and realize I won't recognize myself in a year's time.

[@jesusiscallingtimeisshort]

I can't thank you enough for this message 100% Me

[@ErikFindlingMusic]

I just wish I could feel the love that God has for me. Continuing to seek him in my brokenness that he might restore me and bind up my wounds

[@julienelson4874]

Great stuff! Thanks so much for your shared insights. Reading all your books as well. My head understands but my heart struggles to believe I am loved. Praying for God to make it real!

[@Ross_Embossed]

Combustion Engineer here: *Abandonment + Shame* = 🔥🥵🔥 I also have chronic stress from autoimmune Psoriasis (very mild thankfully, but still)

[@pinkmoonjuice5158]

Needed this so much at this stage in life. Hearing "You're safe." triggered a wellspring of tears because I've needed to hear that all my life and I know that in God, it's true. God bless you richly for your service, brother in Christ. This is life-saving stuff.

[@amy-cu8wc]

Thank you Mark ❤ You’ve made a lot of things so clear to me instead of the scrabbled mess it all can seem to be.

[@partheniafayne9426]

The nail on the head!! Spot on!! This was wonderful and deep. An interesting aspect about this lesson is that board. It's full, and it still only expresses a tip of the iceberg as far as our coping mechanisms. Thank you for your teaching and sharing!

[@Necrophon]

This video teaching is very helpful, but to be honest I've cried at so many parts,(Good tears). I have struggled with all of these things, my mother died when I was 14 and I was left with my physically and emotionally abusive father. I have been diagnosed with O.C.D., CPTSD, GAD, and Treatment resistant depression. There hasn't been a day in the last two years of my life that I haven't contemplated committing suicide. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and therapists for the last 20 years with little to no improvement. Your video is the first time I've ever felt like somebody actually gets what I'm experiencing every day.

[@chaz3101]

Thank you Mark. This happened last week and it’s helped me see what’s going on. Bless you.

[@brandiharrison3145]

Mark, you described my fear perfectly. Thank you.

[@eileenmcdonnell1821]

This is excellent thank you so much i carry huge amount of shame.😊

[@riaray3668]

It has landed. God bless!

[@yvonaj3493]

I never saw a video like this where I related so much. I feel ashamed even more when I realise that I sabotaged the relationship with the one I loved so much because of all of this.. and I don't think he understands. I was fearing abandonment to the point where I was really abandoned again and this is so hard to accept. Although I know that God doesn't abandon me

[@victoriakawesa3558]

Thank you. I understood what happens when I get criticism and I feel as if the person is trying to shame attack me. Afterwards I feel extremely hurt. I become paralysed and unable to move forward. I get stuck in that moment, angry and resentful towards that person. I punish myself with over eating, sleeping, and neglect myself because I feel so much pain. You helped me realise that I abandon myself in that moment. So, next time some critiques me, I will have the adult in me deal with the situation and help protect the sensitive child in me. I will let the adult in me take the wheel. Thanks

[@CharlieBass5]

I have discovered that I'm probably better off by myself, I have a hard time with emotions. I've gone through 2 marriages under the influence and this last marriage I'm in, the third one, I'm in clean. This third wife is the most emotional woman I've ever met. Most of her sentences start off with "I Feel". I see women as more emotional than men. This lady is the queen.

[@JoeMama-yl2bt]

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” ‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭13:4-7‬ ‭💕

[@InThaRoomWithAhNieya]

This was great! I honestly felt uncomfortable watching this video because I felt exposed and called out but it is definitely needed.

[@shannonl9633]

Mark, in ALL your videos, you're telling - describing in great detail and with such depth of understanding - my life story; what has been my day in & day out experience for well over 3 decades. Thank you for bringing light to all this; speaking up and out about this stuff that is So relevant to so many.

[@futureitshere]

God bless, this was very insightful to me thank you for this and the Shame series!

[@bonniehafeman9757]

The real Church is the ❤ of compassion.. It is not about sitting in a building listing to a hireling talk and then afflct the beautiful believers. Thanks Beautiful.

[@erikhogeboom]

I'm not religious, but you touch a core thing about OCD here, in my case Real Event OCD. The shame leading to abandonment fears is 100% real and weighs heavy. In my case not because of God, but for close friends, relatives and also society. Being an outcast, being canceled, being put to shame and thus being abandoned by everyone you know. That fear is real in an OCD-head. Good insight, thanx !

[@rondawallis957]

You could not be more right! 😔

[@jesuslovesme2023]

Yes, I was just going thru something like I used to and haven't in a long time. Crying on the bedroom floor. I even thought to myself " who thought at 50 I'd be doing the same thing I did as a teenager"... Then I found this video. It is me in MANY MANY ways. I realized, when my dad would say"why are you crying ill give you something to cry about and spank me for crying". (Not in an abusive Way) Is at the root of my shame, and rejection, and abandoning myself, and the baseball bat, all of it! . And then earlier I read ch 1 of your healing journey book and said I need to stop wanting my husband to be there constantly or fear of never having him with me sets, is dysfunctional, needing of attention. So Yes it was VERY Helpful and affirmative, right now in the moment. And your prayer fell softly on my heart and soul thankyou. I am going to do some studying in my Bible about how God the Father handles our crying and tears and let him Heal my heart gently. And then im going to love my self gently. And stay! 😊

[@bala1000mina]

God bless you and all your dear ones Mark! ❤🙏🙏🙏

[@suuzq02]

try coming from 2 parents who are ocd trauma survivors----anger shame sadness-emotionally neglected cuz mothers narcissistic jealousy and favoritism with her baby version of herself---the golden child----my eight issues stem from my mother---now I know why she is infatuated with my weight---

[@zathenhcambidestem-iliv2464]

You know this is sooo true. I didn't realise how much I abandoned me to please others. To make others less upset, so i WOULD BE SAFE. Childhood programs us to attract the same old limits, self defeating behaviours . Those voices in my head, the mean, cruel, punishing, belittling ones, were unconsciously sabotaging my progress to fulfilment. They are the words of others, stuck in my head, running the show, repeating my abandonment feelings. I dreamt of my deceased father last night, then Spirit brought me to your video. I was trying to please my Father, trying to make him proud of me, value my existence, show I am worthy of his acceptance. Yet I was just people pleasing, I was not being myself! I could never get his attention, his support, his acceptance, I don't believe he even liked me. he left the home, remarried within a year, and adopted his second wife's daughters child as his "grandchild" and gave her all his attention. She became a Doctor, me well I have not achieved my potential. There's more, I was left with a narcissistic Mother and a brutal psycho brother who beat me most days and stole and beat mUM. I was left unprotected too! I found me when I went back to Source consciousness, I went back into the arms of God. Now my self talk is changing, loving, unconditional, supportive, kind. I can not abandon me. I am glad I still can change and grow, a new era is dawning for us all.

[@shellymessina6733]

i so needed this today...so so so much. thank you. very timely for me.

[@rebekahferreri1522]

Thank you and may God bless you with overflowing. Your videos & God are not only changing my life but also my husband’s family and even his ex wife and her family. It’s a chain reaction. I’ll high five you in heaven when we are surrounded by the ones we love and learn to love. Truly from the bottom of my heart thank you! 🙏🏼

[@Ada_Isabella]

I have no words that adequately describes how much this video means to me! This is SAVING MY LIFE… literally! Thank you from the bottom of my soul and heart! 🙏🙏🙏

[@karahhuntsinger2593]

This is so good Mark! I was scrolling through your videos looking for abandonment content yesterday and here we are today!

[@marty4723]

This really opened up my eyes, my parents divorced when I was 14. Thank you

[@blumythefool777]

Kinda cool you made a video on this topic cuz just this past few weeks i started to get scared of being abandoned and not being enough for the people around me

[@marissamachelle6367]

This is me. My internal battle that I've never really shared or even understood how to articulate it even if I wanted to get help.

[@catherinerohsner7804]

God is with me.

[@Mado9961]

Bless your Ministry, dear brother. Bless your Ministry in Jesus Name. Love from Hamburg, Madina ❤️

[@KevinMoran-en7gu]

Thank you for helping us damaged

[@katherinelydon7306]

Honestly, you have explained everything that I have experienced wow! I’m sorry that you went through it. Sorry that I went through it and everybody else has gone through it but I do appreciate this and I’m trying to get out of it because I don’t wanna live my life in the shame state. I want to move forward, but the shame state is holding me back. I think God is revealing it to me through these relationships that I have experienced now it’s time to heal the shame state so I can move forward with my life

[@sdw1103]

I think that abandonment can also cause us to not trying or giving up.

[@emb4415]

This message deeply resonates within me i love how clearly you explain things too. Its like all my masks have been peeled away and you have exposed the core reasons for why i struggle with self hatred and condemnation. Thank you for your videos they are very helpful 😊

[@카샤카샤붕붕-h6i]

Thank you, it pentrate my heart and triggered my grief. Am so grateful for sharing your story with this trauma

[@timchristmas7278]

Man you always hit the nail Right on the head.

[@wendygraham7787]

Thank you so much, I found myself nodding in agreement all through this. Have been healing from Childhood Emotionally Neglect in the past few years. This was very helpful for me.

[@nancyescobaroronoz9876]

Thank you for your prayers, there are beautiful and comforting

[@messenger8854]

Wow...Thank God I found this teaching. I have listened to many Christian teachings on the Fear of Man or codependency or people pleasing...and yes they have helped in making me more of aware of my emotional triggers but this if the first time I have been given instruction on precisely on to treat to certain psychological issues. I know exactly what he means by shame attacks...I never called them that but the technique of not dissociating but openly going to God about it the moment it happens, and talking my down by asking myself it what I am feeling is true, etc. is working. When I see it for the lie it is, I can dismiss it. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!

[@MD-on8vr]

Wowwww SO helpful! Thank you! Thanking God!

[@alex789012]

Thanks for the wonderful teaching and prayer. Amen!

[@johngalt6875]

It’s like you read my coding manual and broke down every lever that moves me in my life. This video is absolutely amazing, first of yours I’ve ever seen. Thanks for your work

[@Faith-d2g]

Thank you! This video is right on! I find where I tend to get stuck the most is carrying what’s not mine. This happens through my own fear, self blame like a coping mechanism type of response and of course then self abandonment. In this process I can tend to take it all on in relation to others when this wound it triggered for me (currently it’s pretty constant) like shame, the shame is mine yet I know they have shame too, projections of being wrong, guilt etc and I end up sitting with confusion about it, is it mine is it theirs and where is the line…leaving me taking on more than is really true for me. Though a muscle is growing and my ability to discern and lift it off is occurring, it’s just been very very very slow…. I’m curious if you talk about this sort of dynamic more in any of your videos, I’d love support with this! :) thank you so much I really appreciate!

[@rachelpaterson1008]

Hi there Thank you very much You could be referring to an emotional flashback From Thriving to Surviving by Pete Walker ,.. it’s a book on complex PTSD… another great guy on shame is John Bradshaw … Healing the shame that binds you Good luck and God bless ❤

[@personalinfo2404]

Thank you, dear brother in Christ Jesus. I thought about my husband. Reason for watching. We are going through a turmoil. I feel enriched by calling upon that snake so he cannot hide. In Jesus there is healing for my husband. Hallelujah. Please pray with me for my husband’s heart to seek repentance and for my faith and wisdom and ears to hear what to do, every step. The devil still attacks my husband to blind him. I’ve been with the Lord like never before in this suffering. The true victory and lasting love is with Jesus alone. Amen.

[@laylascott6096]

This is honestly amazing. 😭🙏

[@schalkbrand5307]

Wow this was a video that hit me like a ton of bricks. I have been working on anxiety for about 2 years and have it under control mostly. But there is always this feeling in my chest and I figured out that shame is most possibly at the root so I've been going into that more. This video exposed all my feelings like a spotlight. Thank you for the work as I'm on this journey I keep learning more about myself and God and will be victories soon.

[@px0736]

It indeed touched my heart fruitfully... Now aware of much, I feel like I've been trying to quench my thirst with sand, once and again, hoping that sometime it'll happen. I need to accept how is it to be loved, even tho I have experienced from God, is hard to rest upon it because of constant trauma flashbacking. I feel like a puppy scared of what has happened and is hard to trust even tho God has taken care and love me, and many people even for a moment in my life. I feel so confused, tired and lost, but it may be for a moment before I grasp strength and continue my journey with more strength for me and others. Even tho I feel that the same things happen again and again even though I've become stronger. I know I'm loved and someday all of this will make sense. God bless you profoundly Mark, you and your family, and everybody that doesn't even know about God, or even knowing they even though they have experienced His love, they don't accept it

[@commontater]

Wow! Once again you nailed it. Thank you.

[@alyssakark4459]

Wow. Exactly what I needed. The Holy Spirit was right on the money. As usual!! Thank you for delivering this wonderful word!

[@cass324]

I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH. been praying for a miracle thinking god would abandon me. You spoke thoughts and words I didn’t know I had. Thank you. Truly. And god bless.

[@extreme-cm8hb]

This is my first video of yours, and wow, I really want to dive into many more of your videos. You're great! I was amazed when you said that having flashbacks & stronger emotions coming up isn't you taking steps back, but it's you moving forward because it's surfacing. That was huge for me! Thank you, Mark. Also, almost everyone that talks about Christianity/God, really triggers me quite badly. Because normally it's these people are bad because they don't have my beliefs or my bible. Hell fire & brimstone, you're going to Hell because you've done something bad. You should "fear" God (fear, imo, doesn't = respect at all. Fear = terror = uncertainty of the future = I might die.) I always walk away asking myself why does or would a God that's all loving, hate, punish, torture, and judge humans when we're made in God's image? Wouldn't that mean that God hates himself as well? I did want to say, after having said this, that you speaking about God didn't trigger hatred in me. Thank you!!

[@natascia42]

I lived severals abandonements, but I never really relate my perfectionism, pleasing, burdens at this situation. I have just survived thanks of my believe in God.I have worked a lot on myself and I am still doing. Your video gave me more elements to understand the origin of these 3 elements that I have tried to manage and make lighter in someway. God bless all this people abandoned, to give them the strenght to go over this heavy past and to start a new life where we love ourselves as God loves us.

[@sweetie1208]

I remember I used to make a bad comment about a child going through chemo, didn’t mean it at all, it was just to get some attention from someone. I didn’t know it will cause the mother distress and all these things i was a stupid teenager, and I felt so bad about it used to follow them for years and i apologised a lot to the mum, the child thankfully recovered last time I remember; I had totally forgotten about it until today that the devil reminded me today of that and I felt such shame and anxiety as I also suffer from health anxiety that you deserve the worst because of that comment you made. Thank you for this, thank you that you let us know we are not alone, if God leaves me I have nothing, I really want to rest in his love, but even though I know his promises I feel like I dont deserve it

[@sheilahwashington5234]

I am sooooo grateful for this teaching ❤

[@AnnaTahmasbi]

I am very grateful for this message.

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

I'm so glad I have a real heavenly Father. Whose name is LOVE, and he loves meeee

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

Yes, it did bless me very much in an encouraging way.

[@latricemoore2569]

Wow this is the all the issue that I have

[@Kendriaaaaa]

Amazing teaching! God knew I needed this.