Marriage without parent's approval Ft Nasboi | Honest Bunch Podcast - S3Ep5

[@okonkwotina2172]

Nasboi has an emotional intelligence. I love how he wears his heart on his sleeve. Freely expressing his emotions with honesty. One can see the transparency from his expression of things. On the other hand, I like Eche’s reasoning too but I think she didn’t get enough chance to share her opinion. Here’s my two cents, I think Nedu wazobia should learn to give the guests more chance to share highlight on the topic via their opinion very important as we are all in the field of learning.

[@gifty_couin]

Nedu is the storyline and the salt of the show......his stories buttress the point to the reality and make people graps the concept of the topic.

[@okonkwotina2172]

@@gifty_couin oh I get it now

[@nnanyelugoanekwe218]

My Mother can die at any time. Na you no fit die at any time? This guy has some issues with his mother.

[@chuxochieze]

nedu talks too much, he always think he knows it all. even as part of the hosting team, he doesn't give guests chance to express fully. 😂😂😂😂 afficionado indeed

[@Yabjnr]

@@chuxochieze Na why Okon finish am flawlessly na 🤣

[@_bidemiemmanuel]

PLEASE can you host Omah Lay, I believe it's time to hear his depression story. I feel low when I look at his recent pictures and hear his latest songs. He can be hosted to have a chat on mental health

[@gressentertainment2321]

😂😂😂

[@ucmodulus]

This is not a laughing matter, I thought I was the only one who noticed.

[@FavourAsiegbu]

Omg! Whenever I listen to 'I'm a mess', I get super sad. I really hope he's okay

[@vibeswithsegun]

😂😂😂 aswr that guys songs scares me he’s an epitome of depression God abeg make person no go hang himself

[@princewillemeka842]

You see anybody Dey smoke for there?

[@lucasbrasi4625]

I love how Nasboi is so real and vulnerable with his feelings...I enjoyed this episode

[@lydiiamobi7715]

Nasboi I love how you speak the truth without fear or favour,and that's the reality,not even hiding ur emotions cos of pride.

[@ritaokorie2020]

I like the fact that Nedu is becoming conscious of what he says. That’s change. Kudos

[@bridgetbe-ue1613]

The way nasboi stood his ground and try not to deviate from the main topic is lovely sometimes. Nedu and his crew will use thier story to shift the main topic.

[@walermz]

I actually love this particular episode and would have loved to drop a token or two about this topic. I’m a Muslim married to a practicing Catholic and there aren’t any pressures of conversion from both sides. It was a long battle but we thank God for the eventual success. I remember when my uncle, a father figure, said I couldn’t marry the girl that’s now my wife, I asked “Why?”, he flared up and got so angry, saying “how dare you question me?!” Lol It’s an interesting topic. Big ups guys!

[@x-guy78]

Nas is a national treasure. He should be protected at all cost.

[@magicmayzsignature]

I remember when my mother in law asked her first son not to marry me because of my tribe. (Meanwhile we are from the same state but different local government). she chose a girl of his tribe for him(the girl was a medical doctor). Because she n the girls mother has been friends. Meanwhile I got to discover why she had refused the son to marry me for one year was that there was a man who was supposed to marry her. The man had done her introduction and she was even pregnant for him, left her( not in the sense, but she jumped to conclusion). But back then, there was no phone for means of communication. So the man as at then went abroad to better his life. So back here she thought the man broke her heart. When the man finally came back to marry her, she had gotten married on recommendations. She was fortunate that the new man accepted her with the child. So she said over her dead body will her children marry from my tribe. But because she is not God, all her children ended up with the tribe she hated so much. And this has affected the way she is supposed to relate especially with her daughter in laws. #insidelife #realmatters So most times our parents may want to punish us for their heart breaks. Most times the reasons are deeper than we can imagine.

[@kelechii.4374]

This was a lovely episode and well discussed. I think Nasboi hit the nail on the head, we struggle to have emotionally mature conversations with our parents so it's easy for them to manipulate us and say don't marry from certain tribes or religions. Most people don't realize all these things further divides us as a country which is why Nigeria is sooo divided. We can barely get along as a people which shows in the politics of the country. I think an interesting topic to be discussed is the rise of depression amongst Nigerian men.

[@Ellahslay_]

Starting this podcast was the best idea 💡 ever. Through this podcast a lot of people will benefit intellectually and otherwise from it, and also a lot of vawulence. Off course there will be lots of gbas gbos that’s why it’s called THE HONEST BUNCH🤷🏼‍♀️. Kudos 👍🏻 to the organizers and brains behind this podcast✊🏻

[@usmanconde6255]

whenever nedu just says "he get one gal/man" in his sentence, i day always pay 100% attention and begin to prepare to laugh 😆😄

[@masculinityorientation790]

Swears

[@Chapelofwisdom]

Nasboi God no go kill your brain... True freedom is seeing that human, whomever they are , is flawed and can be wrong! Family must respect your choice and to transfer that respect to your person.

[@olaidemohammed7384]

never knew nasboi can have good conversation like this .....I'm proud

[@loisgabs]

What a person's mother/father does doesn't always come from a place of love. Let's stop saying this like it's true for everyone. It makes it easy for a lot of toxic parents to treat their children badly.

[@onomeebinum4163]

I agree with you, most times they are just controlling your life.

[@hunchorocky7613]

It's a generalized statement meaning most parents than not do it from a place of love.

[@hadassahcharles]

Some do it from a place of selfishness.

[@jenniferigbinovia6299]

My grandma didn't like the girl one of my uncle's was going to marry but he defied them anyway and married her, today she's the best daughter in law my grandma has we love her and her family very much

[@ogbuscholarstica2965]

Nasboi killed it! He kept hitting the nail on the head.One thing I know our parents are not always right.After influencing their children's decision they end up with d very wrong partner and suffer the rest of their life.I feel when it comes to choosing a life partner your parents should only advice and not have an 💯 say becox no be them go stay with d wife or husband.It has happened to me and I know how painful it is.

[@henriettaboniface164]

This topic on marriage is a very sensitive topic.. speaking from experience. I am igbo and got married to Yoruba the mum hated me from the first day I met her and I wanted out but he promised to protect me. The issue is when we had issues I didnt have anyone to even stand for me from their family. We sha divorced and regretted not listening to my dad when he warned me. 😢

[@Sammyyoryor]

Hmmm

[@Chukboss]

One of the reasons why we kept some barbaric tradition is because we failed to ask question. African parents trained their kids not to ask question so they can manipulate. To me, most of our traditions is are due for a review.

[@tamunoimamadaniel-kalio9450]

I love Echelon Mbadiwe...she's so beautiful and I love her movies. To add on to it, her view on the subject matter is the one that I totally agree with. When she said that if her boyfriend's mother does not like she will have to bounce. That is real talk. She understands marriage goes beyond two individuals living together.

[@your-neighbor]

Immediately I saw the new video, I couldn't hold back even if I wanted to. Somehow you guys have got me always watching every new podcast on your post 😩

[@akinolaakeem4034]

I've never comment on this show before but i most say, this is a master class. really learn alot and big up to nasboi "fools go still become parents" you guys are inspiration mhen can't wait for the next episode

[@official--navida]

Not all parents are right Buh what if you come marry the person and in the future the person misbehaves, who do u turn to?

[@maudlineinno-okoli]

I love how Echelon speaks, especially when she mixes Igbo in her sentences. 😍

[@wanjiruolive]

I think Nasboi knows his mother and there is a reason for him saying that....He is 30 for crying out loud he knows what he wants in his life he is an adult of sound mind....I really like what he has said....we know toxic parents exist but people don't want to agree in this but anyway we are becoming an aware generation...

[@Sugarolivia]

Nasboi is so intelligent!!! Man is complete all round💯

[@thetruthsayer8347]

What do you know about confirmation bais? He is not necessarily right. On this particular issue, It really depends on a lot of factors.

[@ifeanyigideonnandika4446]

Intelligent but very naive

[@nnanyelugoanekwe218]

What has he said that makes him intelligent? He said his mother has lived her life and can die at anytime. Does he know how many days he has left? Does he think he has his life in his hands? Man has money and feels he is loaded with wisdom.

[@darwinjonas]

Yesh true sure

[@Sugarolivia]

@@thetruthsayer8347 you that knows enlighten me please

[@damilolaayobolanle4125]

It would be great if we all get married with the approval and support of our parents. If they don’t approve, we must ask and find out why and what the issues are. Those issues must be addressed if possible. Or else they must be persuaded to give their approval by explaining in detail why you want to marry the particular person only. You must have a sound case. If they are not persuaded, then wait. Don’t challenge them right away or rebel. Give them time to come around to your point of view. In nearly all cases they are well- intentioned. If you are absolutely convinced you are right then you must be firm and refuse to consider any other alliances they might try for you. If necessary, wait for one or two years also. Some parents will resort to emotional black mail. They will plead poor health and warn of premature death if you rebel and marry against their wishes. This is quite common. The answer is to say, you will not marry any one else and remain single all your life till they allow you to marry the person of your choice . Most parents will yield after some months when they see that resistance is of no use. Usually, in most families, time solves the problem. How long will parents stay estranged from their own children. Nigerian parents have this weakness. They like to “own” their children even when the children have become adults. They like to dictate career choices, and marriage choices too and can’t get used to treating their grown up children as adults with a life of their own and with a mind of their own.💯

[@ilokandubuisi1088]

I didn’t finish reading your comments but you sounded so foolish

[@beingboogie4602]

@@ilokandubuisi1088 ahswear to God, I didn't even read it

[@thechroniclesai3]

Let's be frank. All the guys are always making reference to girls weh Dem don wipe but no girl can easily do such. That's the difference.

[@barbara57021bae]

You're right.💯

[@vincentemmanuel2762]

Interesting topics. Lovely and intelligent discussions too. Nasboi is so grounded and says it as it is without bias, prejudices or stereotypes. Wish the session was longer, even though it is clear that some of this topics can't be exhausted. Keep up the good work guys and God bless you all. A quick feedback albeit, sometimes everyone is talking at the same time and a lot of interruptions occur, so points aren't completely made. Husband material can be a moderator and this will help with time management a lot.

[@akerenanita8841]

Have always loved Nasboi but my love for him grew bigger after watching this… thumbs up correct dude, love ur mentality 😊

[@ujucecil1945]

The fact that every thing down to language mix is nothing but EPIC🥰

[@EmyIbifik]

I disagree with almost everything Naomi says but to continue watching this podcast without her is close to impossible. Welcome back.

[@alexiusuche3564]

Honestly.... It's really not the same I don't know what might have happened but the show is not the same

[@_blackdexter]

@@alexiusuche3564 she is now in UK for educational purposes

[@your-neighbor]

Na lie. So far nedu is there, we're good.

[@okeibomo6028]

Naomi is not here please. However, we miss her.

[@abimbolashina7590]

Am here for nedu U can keep Your Naomi

[@adeyemiadeleye5428]

Nedu own no pass "wipe". As long as wipe dey the discussion, he go just dey happy anyhow 🤣🤣

[@deborahmichael5472]

😅😅😅

[@ogoro3066]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ndichiecosmas]

I had a lady that I assisted through school and she went to see pastor and the lady told her that our marriage won't last more than 5years and boom everything changes. This was someone I dated almost 4years. The moment we broke up, i started seeing alot of this that could have broken us. But you know love blinds alot when you are in a relationship

[@janeblessing8042]

God bless you for this,it’s answers all the questions and issues going on in my family right now

[@yemilawani200]

Loved this topic. Toun’s opinions really resonated with me the few times she spoke. Clearly an intelligent babe but I think she needs to be given more time to share her opinions. I’d really love to hear her speak more.

[@donjazzy5510]

People forget that parents have spiritual discernment, and they can pick up things that youngsters cannot readily see. When my daughters were going to get married, they brought certain people home which i didn't approve and in time my daughters saw exactly what i discerned. I also told them in what order that they would marry. To the Glory of God ,this is exactly what has happened. When my friends come with intended spouses, i tell them what i discern and so far i have been 100% accurate. Some have found out the hard and painful way.

[@blessingadiakpotor2973]

It has happened to me, when I was dating my ex, mom Said he's not ready to marry, that he was just playing with me, I didn't listen, last last na from church them call me say he dey marry another person.

[@donjazzy5510]

@@blessingadiakpotor2973 Wow!

[@godwindunamis9266]

Thank you so much guys for all you do. Please can you have a part 2 of this podcast where we get to hear what parents also think on this topical issue? I think we have demonized parents for far too long without knowing why they think the way they think. I'M NOT MARRIED BUT I BELIEVE NO PERSON OR GROUP OF PEOPLE HAVE THE MONOPOLY OF EVIL! Many thanks.

[@F3rret_p4ws]

Nedu, husband material yay!! Lovely podcast. I always enjoy it from the UK

[@santus1350]

Am coming

[@mosesegboh]

Nasboy makes lots of sense, He is a very reasonable human being...big ups guys, where is BIg Nao ooooo!!!

[@collinsekwueme9565]

Watched from Nigeria but now Watching from UK and still anticipate every monday to your new videos. My count down dey start from 112mins

[@orjionyinye5988]

Thank You Nasboi❤❤ I'm Not Going To Say More Than Thank You, Na Me Know Watin My Eyes See... God Bless You

[@uchennaudemadu9868]

Nasboi is so on point....he's just speaking the truth as it is

[@williamoluwaseyi]

Nasboi is really intelligent and I have learnt a lot from him... As for topics suggestions, you can discuss about sex education in the family, how our parents shy from it.... Good job you all are doing guys

[@anyanwuvalentine1631]

Love you guys. For me my parents believe in my decisions and it's same with my siblings. Do what you think it's right for you and they will support you. Whenever they spot something odd, they would call your attention to it but the bulk of the decision still lies on you. I've enjoyed this over the years and it's working fine.

[@dakhiid_]

Topic:Should a partner's past be considered before going into a relationship????

[@bitrusmakwa9704]

I dey feel Nasboi anyday, anytime... Good-looking out bro❤

[@dammieedaniel1966]

Anyways.... listening to your parents for marriage counseling would help you to reduce critical problems to manageable levels.

[@done5060]

This issue is not restricted to Nigerians o o o… I met an Ethiopian lady in USA years back, intelligent, beautiful and so wonderful, it got to a point - we finish each others sentences, we truly love each other BUT when she notified her father I will be coming to ask him for her hand, her father said CAPITAL NO… he said and I quote.. *no daughter of mine will marry a Yoruba man from Nigeria* We had to end the relationship. 5months later .. my class mate, an Indian, we became close, she knew what will eventually happen and she told me point blank (even though she is a devout Christian) *I can’t tell my parents I will be having a spouse outside my tribe* I learnt a lot from her and up till date, she still express her feelings that nobody will ever touch her heart the way I did. The lesson I learnt is as feelings go deeper; ASK QUESTIONS

[@lydiiamobi7715]

Most times it's place of selfishness oh, because most parents especially mothers wouldn't want u to marry from another tribe so they wouldn't take u away from them,and also someone that will answer to them without saying her opinion.

[@ogumarvelous8619]

A very interesting episode,everybody brought their A game to this one. Husband always capping legit. The whole crew did well. Love and light

[@nonowendy5399]

Person wey no de watch this podcast na ei know becuz i learn alot when am watching this podcast Thank you guys

[@winnyglobal7106]

Omo forget it Nas is so intelligent oo.he stood his ground spoke so eloquently and gave really serious reason and observations. Urhobo mother's can convince u.

[@joyonyebuchi948]

This has to be my favorite episode of the honest bunch podcast. Nasboi was really honest and straight to the point, emotionally intelligent and saying with confidence, a lot of things that people usually don’t admit. The major highlight was when he said some people would have stupid parents. I agree with some things Echelon said as well. Husband material continues to be the reason I keep coming back, I love his analogy of Okafor’s law, say na Ronaldo comot for Man U, he still come back o😂😂. I think that Nedu should give room for the guests to speak, he tries to overshadow them sometimes, he did that with Echelon today and then again, he’s always deviating. Kudos to the honest bunch. I absolutely loved watching this episode!!!!

[@najjee2]

Because of Nasboi I leave all youtube adverts play till tire....thnx Nasboi I know I made a good choice to be the greatest fan

[@loladeodufuwa9271]

Our parents hardly ever have solid reasons for their rejections. They just expect us to take their words for it forgetting that we are smarter and way more exposed than they were at it age or even now in some cases.

[@joshdiction]

Podcast minutes 1 hour Nedu talks for 45’ minutes others manage the remaining 15’ minutes Big shoutout to NEDU ❤

[@toluofgod_]

😂😂😂

[@martinsibe9168]

Nasboi resonates me. Very smart dude

[@lifeofflourish]

Topic suggestion- Honest Bunch please can you talk about a relationship where the lady is older than the guy, like does age really matter when it comes to a relationship and how does it affect the relationship?

[@johnuyakonwu2871]

HM the moderator🐐, i always enjoy watching you guys have these intellectual conversations. I know someone who's in a similar situation where the mum has advised her son to marry this lady he impregnated out of wedlock cos she firmly believes that any other lady he desires to marry would make his life miserable due to past experiences with other relations.

[@F3rret_p4ws]

I love your podcast. Please where is other lady Naomi aka Aba women’s leader

[@christusigboekwe9545]

I literally gave you guys 2 rounds of applause at the end of the podcast... even though you guys over-kept me waiting for today's episode. I mean, twas really good to have everyone participate fully in the conversation 👏. Nice one guys 👍. I miss Ney_Ney by the way 🙂

[@odogwumayor9311]

Love this topic, but for me, it is high time our parents stop selecting and rejecting who we bring to them to marry, except it has to do with spiritual instincts if not the world is civilised now this is technology age.i love u Nedu,Hm,Toun and our guest 💙

[@opaajesingwa4475]

Thanks for another beautiful topic. God bless you guys, wish to be in your studio someday. amen The DJ you talking about was DJ KAYWISE. Cheers!

[@ebamusoffor5377]

I love Nasboy's opinions. The show was great, but I miss Naomi.

[@funnnydogss]

I really do. Her counters were interesting. 📌❤️

[@o.g_mekus5213]

Lol that one that would have found a way to still make this conversation about gender war. Make she go sitdown please

[@GmigmTV]

The way I love this program I don’t mind to buy tickets from the US and be a guest

[@keechiO]

Nedu never talk if he no add "e get one person wey I know..." and "wiping" lol o chimo! Gee nti ooo 👂🏾! Your gist/story is never safe with Nedu! Lol

[@yomibunny]

I have a topic suggestion.. “Gender roles within a marriage.. yay or nay, considering both work”

[@olalekanafogunla8631]

you better start world war 3 instead

[@yomibunny]

@@olalekanafogunla8631 I know right..!! 😂.. but table shaking topics like that dey sweet.

[@olalekanafogunla8631]

@@yomibunny lol you like trouble

[@EmFityt]

You all have very valid points but let me make something clear, our parents should have been more sensitive. They know how much influence they have in the life of their children, yet they say somethings so casually

[@pobiefuna]

If the parent gives a good reason, it's now the fact of that good reason that drives the consideration. The nature of the debate, though, should not require the parent to give a reason or that the reason be good. For instance, if my mother tells me that the girl is my father's secret love child, the prevailing force is that revelation, not the power of parental consent. The debate ought to specifically probe the power of parental approval by virtue of who it is coming from (including and especially when that approval is unreasonably withheld). So, the bottomline is that EZINNE and NASBOI stayed on topic, and marshalled clear arguments to support their position. The 'likely suspects' did great as well but special mention for these two because they are guests.

[@ifesinachic5772]

Eche is very intelligent and well cultured, she made a lot of sense for people who understands.

[@ohemdee]

The camaraderie between the hosts and the guests is always an interesting dynamic to witness. Love this podcast and esp my queen Deity Cole

[@oparalucky5740]

I too lov dat babe.. she listens n give an understandable takes.

[@oluwatobijulianaoluwatunmi8975]

My mum is a pretty chill person so if she has reservations about my partner I would give it a serious consideration and if it my partners family, we would have to put marriage plans on hold cause marriage would be making me a part of that family. In a couple of years we would have kids and I won't have my kids grow up in a family without obvious love shown to every member of the family.

[@politicalanimal-kenya739]

New listener from Kenya. Still struggling with Pidgin but am here to stay. Damn! 'The podcast na be hot'

[@dakhiid_]

Watching from Togo 🇹🇬 Husband Material intro >>>

[@adamuyaugunna6792]

Wow nice program, honestly I’m in love with this program

[@silveresther3542]

Omo Nas boy you’re big on this topic, I love you already…😊

[@latifharuna3217]

I am Ghanaian but I next skipped your show. The honest and the funny aspect of this show is what gives me contentment. My fav part is the Sydney part ❤😂😂

[@vincent.o.enunwah4714]

EVERYTHING IN ME IS WANTING TO COME AND SIT AMONGST THESE WONDERFUL PEOPL HOSTING THIS REALITY. IMLEARN EVERYDAY WHEN I WATCH THE EPISODES CREATED.

[@Prettymate012]

Big ups to Nasboi, Husband material and co. My love and respect for Nedu is indisputably immeasurable. How e take "wipe" babe wey don goof suppose be a 3 unit course for Mandona😆

[@Sweettilldate]

My Love for Nasboi went up ❤❤❤

[@tobiosmond]

I beg make Husband Material dey anchor the show, so that people can talk one at a time!

[@victoranie5298]

I will love to suggest that frankly speaking do a podcast on life achievement tagged 'Book smart vs Street smart ' who is more successful.

[@onlyrald3742]

Lol, that one said "prayer dey different" 😂😂 Prayer that is scam!

[@glitchafricastudios]

Who's ready???🤩

[@wisdomokon1851]

i dey wait ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

[@Studio-1759]

hi, can you please discuss the long term effect of "Japa" on the Nigeria as a nation and a people. it's more of a social pandemic now, and it doesn't look like it will slow down anytime soon, shall we continue down this path? where does it lead?

[@nonyetv588]

A real man knows what he wants he leads and everyone follows what are we afraid of it’s not life and death

[@MoJo-ng5ot]

Nasboi spoke fact. But I’d also like peace in my family. I’d want my children want to be around their grandparents; I want to happily take them there. So it would sadden me to know that my mother-in-law doesn’t like me. I pray whosoever I fall in love with, their mom accept me.

[@JosephineOgbonna-k7i]

it is well o. Nasboi i love the fact that you are honest. Getting to see as a guest outside comedy.

[@CryptoNurse83]

The intro is always a highlight for me🤣. Husband material good work. The team is just good.

[@MonicaEzue]

Nasboi is very wise. However those of us who are married understand that a persons parents can make life hell for the couple if they are not in support of the marriage. My advice would be to choose peace and kindly walk away if you are not accepted, nothing is worth your peace of mind.

[@omotolanimotunrayo3637]

Well done guys👍 I'm beginning to get addicted to listening to your podcasts

[@chisomijoma6977]

You see that owerri own na truth ,I have dated one b4 n my mum warned me about her n I counted my mum then after one yr I started seeing everything my mother warned about. So it's good we look into it when people say something about people.

[@makindeoye]

I won’t lie it’s all those promotional videos that make me anticipate this podcast lol

[@harwoodmichel]

I love the mind and Opinion of Husband Material

[@YhungAbudhabi]

Nasboi na intelligent guy ❤

[@abdullahimustapha2559]

Please where is Naomi, I really miss that lady.. no one can fill her void

[@adebisihamzat]

I love the points they’re giving and I just feel like marriage without your parents approval or behind their back is pointless because it’s just going to be chaos and most times they usually don’t last. I’m saying this because it’s literally happening in front of my eyes in my family.

[@africahealthinfos-tv]

Oga Nedu na bad guy... All this guy ei examples na ei wiping them from pass

[@famsamoj24]

The reality is that a man is interested in a woman's past as a woman is interested in a man's future. For example, let's say a man and a woman have been dating for a long time and she knows that this man can provide for her and give her the security that every woman wants. Then she finds out from a fortune teller (figuratively) that the man in the next 10 years will be a drunk, a criminal, and will start maltreating her, etc. The woman will never continue in that relationship. This is just fact

[@info-ma-tics]

I disagree alot with Naomi but in this new episode I dey miss am. Make Una bring her back. She doesn't have to be in all the topics but her input esp on this one for make sense ooo

[@kishakimani2576]

First video nasboi God bless your mentality it’s obvious you are a man of experience in higher damnation

[@onyianext]

E get one... E get one... @Nedu na 90 years old o... the kan experience you don get. you get someone everywhere 😁😁😁

[@Footywear24]

I would love for Echelon mbadiwe to be brought back to the show if possible make her a regular suspect.

[@chiomaidezuna4909]

Yes. She is a whole vibe

[@michaelkemas]

I miss Naomi though 😂😂

[@Footywear24]

@@chiomaidezuna4909 I agree

[@Footywear24]

@@michaelkemas I'm also surprised that I miss her too