Improving Social Skills in Children with Autism

[@jenniferedwards6809]

Thank you so much Mary for all of your insight in the autism world. You have helped me so much!! I’m a Nawni (grandma) of a almost 4 year old that has language difficulties and so much of what your videos are in have just opened my eyes so much.

[@marybarbera]

That is great! You are very welcome, looking forward to hearing about your progress!

[@jolafab]

Hi Mary. Just want to say a big thank you for your recordings. I am a parent of an 11 years old with ASD and I am also a Special needs tutor offering one to one support to not just the children but their families at home. You resources have helped me a lot to better support my clients. Thank you so much.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks so much for being here!

[@angelJ2023]

Can you please add the link for the book?

[@yasmined.9397]

These videos give me more understanding and warmth with my journey

[@marybarbera]

I am so happy to hear that.

[@tiaryan1350]

I love that you make these videos. Currently having issues with insurance to get my son to get evaluated. He has many red flags, it's one of those things that you just know. Can't wait to learn how to help him but for now these videos are handy. I hope your son is doing well. ❤

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for being here! I hope you can get help soon. I also have online courses that may help www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@tiaryan1350]

Absolutely thanks so much!

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

I'm an educator an family member of 2 kids with autism an this is very helpful thanks so much

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching! I'm so happy you found this helpful.

[@rrsrrs04]

Just getting into learning more. My son is 2 1/2 has some functional language and can follow one and two step directions at times. His play skills, eye contact, language for his age, emotional awareness, are low for his age. I will be signing up for your workshop and subscribing to your podcast as well. Just wanted to say thank you for providing valuable information.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks so much for watching and listening! It is wonderful your son has those skills.

[@oliviayu6990]

Thank you for this. I have to consistently remind my mom that it doesn’t work that way with my child. She would end up being left behind if she were to go to the older claa

[@marybarbera]

thanks for watching.

[@kenicolechannel509]

My daughter nicole is not speaking by helself but she can utter words if i ask her (repetitive) so i teach her sign language instead..she'll be 8 this year.

[@marybarbera]

That is great she has some communication! My courses can help you build her functional language . Check out a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@summerday3172]

Where is the link for the book to download?

[@marybarbera]

Here you go ici.umn.edu/products/Play_Time_Social_Time.pdf

[@sentimentalcircusss]

@@marybarbera Many Thanks for sharing

[@JustActNormal]

Unfortunately in Illinois Medicaid does not cover ABA therapy and when you have good insurance like BCBS ABA companies charge very predatory prices like $3-600/hour and the insurance would really only cover 70% leaving you still with insane bills to pay out of pocket

[@noeliachoque6779]

I only talk to a BCBA once a week. He teaches me what to do or what to say to my child. I also get to ask him questions. It works for us. Like you I don't have a lot of money to spend on hours of ABA. It requires a lot of commitment, time and energy from us but you will see progress. I encourage you to find a good BCBA who can guide you.

[@JustActNormal]

@@noeliachoque6779 that's a good idea! If I could find someone to touch base with twice a week and ask questions that would be affordable

[@marybarbera]

I know, it is very challenging! This is one of the reasons i made my online courses! I want to teach parents how to help their children and Noelia tip is a great idea, to get a bcba to help you directly. You can take a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@caralucas9671]

There are some grants that help with the coverage of costs, even for those going through insurance. www.thrivebehavioralservices.com/grants.html outreachautismservicesnetwork.com/charitable-grants-for-individuals-with-autism-and-their-families/ I believe there's some specifically that help with those who are purchasing private insurance plans which run up to $600-800 a month and help with paying those monthly costs at least. Also talk with your ABA company about payment plans; they can accommodate for families and doing it at a reasonable rate, as the cost is definitely a lot and an additional added stressor to so many families. As a provider of ABA, it saddens me that our state medicaid insurance does not cover the cost of ABA, because it's really unfortunate as there are so many kiddos and families who deserve and need intensive services. If you have a young kiddo (younger than 3), definitely look at Early intervention services through IL, as it's a good start and they can help with things like medical diagnostics and of course some early intervention services like speech therapy and occupational therapy, and behavior therapy (but only for behavior reduction - not skill acquisition unfortunately). Happy to share any other resources I come by if I do find some in the future, as this area is definitely on my future endeavors to tackle for providing services to those affected by unfair socioeconomic factors! Hope it helps and best wishes!

[@JustActNormal]

@@caralucas9671 those grants aren't real I don't know anyone who have obtained them

[@lizarenin713]

My daughter never responds to phone calls and door bell.what to do? She is 13 years old and totally conversational.

[@lizarenin713]

My daughter is 13 years old .Total conversational. Never attends a birthday party or any party with balloon as she's afraid of balloons. She never enters class party or birthday party room with balloons. But she feels very excited about party, prepares herself for the party. But on the day of party she never enters the room. Wanders and cries out side the room.

[@gauravchaudhary9854]

Madam , as u told in this video that only social exposure is not enough for autistic child , then what activities should I do to make my child more social and interactive.

[@marybarbera]

We have to teach language and play skills. Play skills are often taught through imitation and we can help by creating very positive environments. Learn more in my online courses www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Good Question

[@fornikhil0909]

I can’t find link for that free pdf book in description.can you please share the link

[@marybarbera]

TurnAutismAround.com for all the free book resources.

[@fitbyife]

I can’t see the link to the book in the description ?

[@marybarbera]

Here it is: www.amazon.com/Turn-Autism-Around-Parents-Children/dp/1401961479

[@devivinod]

Thank you very good I dint see the link for the book

[@marybarbera]

www.marybarbera.com/play-and-social-skills/

[@vinayakshinde9059]

Upto what age autism can be treated?like upto 3 years ,4 years upto 7 years ,and what will happen if not treated upto these years in future for this children

[@marybarbera]

Children with autism can make progress through their whole lives, but yes, the earlier intervention starts the better and kids who start intervention earlier tend to do better in the future.

[@kessa4803]

Valuable info; Thanks a lot. How can I access the link you talked about for the book Play time/Social Time?

[@kessa4803]

NVM I got it.

[@marybarbera]

You're welcome! Thank you for watching. I'm glad you found the document you needed.

[@ksdbs6324]

Can you please share where you found it? Thanks in advance

[@kessa4803]

@@ksdbs6324 ici.umn.edu/products/Play_Time_Social_Time.pdf

[@priyamanoharan2092]

Is your son doing normal now at the age of 20.. is there a video you have spoke about it? Can you please share it...

[@yeohanninrodpark5595]

same q

[@aguilomaylin1923]

could you elaborate more on Hand leading please

[@marybarbera]

hand leading is when the child takes your hand and puts it on something they want as a way of requesting. Sometimes the child may take your hand and put it on something they need help with. Essentially they use your hand as a tool.

[@traditionalhomecooking8284]

I watch your video all the time I Babysits a two years boy who have speech delay he does not talk he cry too much, he does not respond to his name and he does not like sitting down and he does not like books been read to him.pls what do you think I can do to help him?

[@marybarbera]

Getting the parents out of denial and helping him is likely first. If you and them watch a free workshop here , it will help www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@elizabethelias-theis1955]

Greetings and blessings to you Mary and to you reader! My question is this: would the Show Box Program be usable in a bi-lingual setting too? In our Pre-school group we have mostly German speakers and I am the only English speaker. However, our bigger children now know enough English plus growing. But we do have two Late-talkers who I would love to start using the Box with. What is your experience/knowledge of this? I can imagine that as a teacher of foreign language, I could use this too to increase the vocabulary of all children? I can already imagine the curiosity the children will encounter with this box! I am excited too! Thank you a million!!

[@keshatinie4074]

My son has 2 and 5 month and I have difficulties how to make him talk I need help or advice to make him talk

[@artskrafts7614]

Thank you Mary. All your videos really helped me to improve my professional skills.👍💖

[@artskrafts7614]

It's my telegram channel to help children in India. As autism awareness is not much , many facing difficulties with autistic children. I created telegram channel to help parents with special needs and I wish no child lack behind in education.

[@SHALINISINGH-ow3zw]

Kousar Jaan what’s the details of your channel/ program pls

[@marybarbera]

Yes it can be challenging! I have a ton of tips that can help! Sign up for a free workshop here to get started www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@denisesheehan9189]

How do you get to a stage where they can sit and attend? Mostly ABA trials? Or is it quite dependant on development growth?

[@marybarbera]

a bit of both! I talk about this in my courses. You want to pair the table and sitting with all the things they love. Attention naturally comes when things are fun and interesting which depends on their developmental level and interests.

[@chitradominic2965]

Barbara what about social and skills for a 14yr old

[@marybarbera]

Join my free workshop at Marybarbera.com/workshops

[@Alwijd]

You mention kids with autism needs 40 hours of ABA or 25 minimum .. why my son’s developmental Pediatrition and his ABA therapist they think my son only needs 15 hours ? I am so scared they are giving wrong direction sometimes ?! How I can make sure this is the right thing for him ? That being said he is only now on 8 hours and I try doing what I can do with exercises on his free time when he is not doing speech or other therapies .

[@marybarbera]

Ultimately a child with autism needs to be engaged most of their waking hours. Usually, this is best with people who know how to engage them and teach them. If you are getting parent training and are able to play, engage and work with your child then they are likely getting many hours even if only in therapy for 8. My online courses can help you learn www.marybarbera.com/workshops for a free workshop

[@OctoberAtRolla]

My son is 23 month old with autism. We are taking ABA therapy and I'm enrolled in Mary's toddler online course. I'm using all the strategies that I learned from the online course. It's very helpful. I never thought of paring a table since he's young, but table made a big difference!

[@maryalian426]

thank you mam for this video. hope i could have a copy when you will down load. God bless

[@iram7555]

Wish you could help my son he is 2 1/2 years old, but we live in AZ he was diagnosed with autism about a month ago, I've been following your videos for a while now, I really appreciate you sharing your knowledge.

[@marybarbera]

All my courses are online and we have members from all over the world!! check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@denisesheehan9189]

What if the child actually do not like being with other kids? One actually articulated that he threw things because he didn't want the other child to be around.

[@marybarbera]

sometimes pairing up children with positive reinforcement is necessary or teach independent play skills .

[@theharmonyofknowledge1286]

Could someone explain to me why thinking differently, or just being different in general, is interpreted by neurotypicals as a "red flag"? And why eye contact is a " skill" that neurodivergent kids have to learn, when many, many autistic people have been saying over and over that it can sometimes even be *painful*. Yet neurotypicals still *require* the divergent person (regardless of age) to make eye contact anyway.

[@marybarbera]

Attending a free workshop can help: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

[@lisareilly8856]

What is ABA please?

[@marybarbera]

Applied behavior analysis. You can learn more here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@yowmeiheng7165]

May I ask if early intervention is good for autism?

[@marybarbera]

Absolutely! You want to start intervention as early as possible. I talk more about it in this podcast www.marybarbera.com/2

[@AshwiniPatil-n4i]

Hi Mary,thanks for the very useful video.my son becomes 3 yrs old in Oct 2020 n he already have signs of autism I also start therapies for that. Doctor told us that if we are thinking for next baby then there will be possibility of other baby like my 1st baby.is there any possibility of that?

[@marybarbera]

Yes, siblings are 20 percent more likely to receive a diagnosis. That being said, I have one child with ASD and one who is typical.

[@armandohiguera5681]

Could too much tv be a potential cause for autism?

[@marybarbera]

I have not seen research that supports this.