Mastering Social Perceptiveness: Reading People and Enhancing Communication

In this video, we dive deep into the art of reading a room, decoding hidden intentions, and honing your communication skills. 🕵️‍♂️💬 Join me as I share valuable tips on identifying positive and negative cues, recognizing universal microexpressions, and detecting signs of nervousness in people. Whether you're navigating social situations or professional interactions, mastering these skills can be a game-changer. Subscribe now and empower yourself with the knowledge to enhance your interpersonal communication! 👁️🔍
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In this video:
0:06 - Trending Skill: Social Perceptiveness
0:11 - Importance of Social Perceptiveness
0:45 - How to Improve Social Perceptiveness
0:48 - Positive versus Negative Cues
0:58 - Understanding Positive Cues
1:24 - Understanding Negative Cues
1:55 - Clusters of Negative Cues
2:00 - Universal Microexpressions
2:05 - Teaching Facial Expressions
2:17 - Disgust Microexpression
2:49 - Contempt Microexpression
3:27 - Cues of Nervousness
3:34 - Self Soothing Behaviors
3:57 - Rapid Blink Rate
4:12 - Hidden Leaks in Tone
4:55 - Accidental Misuse of Question Inflection
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[@ScienceOfPeople]

Read more about social perceptiveness! www.scienceofpeople.com/social-perceptiveness/

[@bakekay21]

As someone who has a "lopsided smile" genetically & because I had a mini/mild stroke in my 30s. I appreciate the intention, though some of us cannot help the droop at times, especially under stress. 😏 By definition, self-soothing gestures have a purpose, to soothe oneself. People need to be more understanding and inclusive of those with sensory processing differences. We make great team players, independent workers, friends, employees, when given a chance an Not expected to fit "norms". "Masking" is exhausting & leads to burn-out (which looks like depression & anxiety).

[@Shreadington]

Good ones! I've been in sales for 20+ years and have had multiple training segments on this coupled with personality types. It's highly beneficial in face to face meetings for catering a presentation and countering objections.

[@backyardrailroader]

This is something I need, not only on reading people, but to catch myself doing this inadvertently when I am chatting with people. Interesting. Vocal range of one's voice. My issue is talking too fast. I know. Talking fast shows nervousness. If I can control it... what a wonderful world it would be.

[@bakekay21]

As someone who has a "lopsided smile" genetically & because I had a mini/mild stroke in my 30s. I appreciate the intention, though some of us cannot helpt the droop at times, especially under stress.

[@nandinidash3195]

Thanks for making people familiar with the trending skill of 'Social Perceptiveness' .

[@michaelduran1035]

Vanessa, your insights are truly enlightening! I've come to realize that in unraveling the intricacies of communication, one must not only grasp the words spoken but also delve into the context and nuances of both the situation and the speaker's personality. It's fascinating how these subtle cues serve as invaluable keys to unlocking a deeper understanding of the message being conveyed. But how can we ensure absolute certainty in understanding someone's message, rather than falling prey to misinterpretation?"

[@rushilsunder6e259]

This is golden advice

[@unknownstranger6875]

Great topic. I sometimes read books on profiling and it comes in handy to be able to read people’s body language, and social cues.

[@kiser0002]

Can you please make the "No more Phubbing" video public again. I understand that you might feel that there was a lot of backlash from the autistic community but there was a lot of information both in that video and in the perspective of the autistic viewers. can you make it public again please?

[@BaraSchmidt]

The skills I have learned from you and your phenomenal Team at People School has completely changed my business and personal life. I interact with greater depth and perception of others! Thank you, Vanessa, for shining your abundant light on the world! Continued and Greater Blessings!

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Bara! You are so sweet; we are incredibly lucky to have you in our community! =)

[@azppmd]

Good to hear improved audio from you, Vanessa!

[@anc6023]

Thanks for the new information Vanessa. It’s always refreshing to see new content! 5:22

[@CharlesHartman]

Brilliant.

[@michaelduran1035]

Charles, I saw your profile picture and thought how high quality and professional it was. Come to find out you own a photography business! Go figure!

[@mama-cita]

I'd like to know how you read people in real time. Maybe have a recorded conversation with someone and then talk about the clues you used to decode what they were thinking and feeling. That would be great!

[@cerbpasc]

hiiiiii i'm a huge fan of your channel!! i am an autistic adult who has so much difficulty with socializing, i do psychotherapy and one of the main focus of my sessions is how to pick up better my peers social cues and also how to ACTUALLY make a conversation go through!! thank you so much for your work, it is making a huge difference in my life!! If i may, i'd like to suggest a video series on how to help autistic people deal with daily challenges in conversations and interactions step by step (how to break the ice, doing groceries, going to a party, speaking up for themselves when mistreated etc), since it is a skill most of us with ASD have missing/need to train. Thanks again!!!!!!

[@michaelduran1035]

I heard meditation also helps to develop awareness. How did you get into psychotherapy?

[@duece-rv3fp]

1st here love you vannessa for changing my life

[@KeithSunnyKing]

Thank you!

[@tar_setar_Naseri]

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[@TheShellymay]

I feel the upward inflection of the voice at the end of a statement is also trending. The Kardashians do it a lot and so I think it is something I see a lot in the younger generation where they are always raising their tone at the end of the statement.

[@eugenetswong]

I like raising my voice at the end, when I am wanting feedback and confirmation that they understand me, or when I am right or wrong.

[@alphabeta8403]

2:00 7 universal micro-expressions 3:20 Cues of nervousness 4:10 Hidden leaks in tone

[@arithmechick]

Excellent advice, I love this!! Side note- Something sounds "off" with your mic and it's really distracting when listening through headphones.

[@eugenetswong]

Vanessa, hi! Thanks for looking out for us in our career journeys. I appreciated that you gave us tips on dealing with bad body language.

[@CPRforyourSocialLife]

I love how Vanessa dives into these things, both demonstrating and showing with video exactly what she's tlking about!

[@eugenetswong]

@@CPRforyourSocialLifeYes! She has earned a good reputation for doing exactly that!

[@michaelduran1035]

I agree that these tips are definitely life-changing and super helpful. How do you think this would help your career?

[@eugenetswong]

@@michaelduran1035 It will help in negotiations. Every day will require us to convince somebody to say yes.

[@WHALEx3]

Love this

[@johannesmp3]

Great video Vanessa. Now how do people add social persceptiveness to linkedin profile

[@juliacheng9273]

What should we do when we notice the negative cues ? You said “all good?”, but what’s next? How to follow up? Thx!!!

[@michaelduran1035]

It seems like the best way to handle that situation is to "mirror" them or turn down the "positive" energy. That way you meet them where they are at and "match their energy." What do you think?

[@Turbulent-Heart]

What if my smile is uneven like it naturally looks like a smirk. And if I smile with teeth I look a little crazy. Is neutral just the best option for me?

[@janicepatty]

What is a good way to express this skill in our resume?

[@eugenetswong]

Either list it as a skill, or express how you used it on the job. You can list it in the summary or cover letter, but that isn't as good, in my opinion.

[@travisbartholomay]

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[@maxmartin2995]

Rip people with anxiety lol