Why Do We Allow Black Men to be Vocally Anti-Black&Colorist? Saweetie,Too Short & Biracial Privilege

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[@yarsudani]

yess. also people bringing up Saweetie possibly losing money shows that they don’t really care about darkskin Black women. she isn’t being a “smart business woman” she’s showing where she stands when it comes to actually supporting black women.

[@mayowasworld]

exactly! we'd rather center her maintaining her already wealthy money than immediately speaking out about what he was sayin

[@amigosinfronteras5152]

@@mayowasworld black women speaking bad about black men all the times

[@sashad1076]

@@amigosinfronteras5152 telling the truth isn’t badmouthing black men. We are the only community praising them despite the harm they cause us.

[@amigosinfronteras5152]

@@sashad1076 you know the majority of the black women don't like black men and that is the truth , women desire men and select the men too . You know , black women preferring white and non black men

[@stopthelightskinguilt.3775]

No. Anybody in the industry knows this. There are a lot of celebrities who don't say what they feel because of stupid cancel culture.

[@devw1948]

I think a lot of people give black men a pass because calling out anti-black men would mean some of them would have to call out their own fathers, brothers, etc. and they aren’t going to do that.

[@finewine8778]

Shoot, I will call mine out in a heartbeat!

[@sexygirl2735]

No lol they just let them get away I cussed so many out they left me alone too

[@beast9125]

No it’s because black men are protected by their victim-hood card which views them as the ultimate victim to WS (even more/above other ethnic groups).

[@anae.769]

I will call out mines any day. I already always have and do. I will not coddle or tolerate bs. I'm holding everybody accountable. I really do not care.

[@HabitualLover]

I do call out my fam, and wow… it is sad and scary the stuff they’ll do to retaliate, gaslight, deny… …

[@tyemeccaalkebulan4425]

"even the way he is licking his lips...he is licking his lips to go and tell you about his colorism." Your too funny mayowa

[@mayowasworld]

thank u boo!

[@brynnk2518]

"He came on with the confidence of a lion and opened his goat mouth" .. I can't 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Orchid_1026]

LMAOOOO!

[@anonymousanonymous870]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@shaeyager8165]

Kayne has made similar statements.

[@shaeyager8165]

Kayne has made similar statements.

[@MorganMingo70]

😂😂😂I’m stealing that!!!

[@DeezNuts-cw6sc]

The obsession with "pretty mixed/lightskin babies" is soo weird.... very odd.

[@tily5939]

It reminds me of eugenics. In places like Australia white racists have tried to breed out aborigines through mixing. They would say by the third generation of mixing all aborigine traits would be bred out completely.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

They did that in Brazil too!

[@ladonna1902]

Haven't you noticed when an interracial couple first get together, people will tell them "You're going to have pretty babies someday". I never heard anyone tell a black couple that. Why is that?

[@oliviateller9087]

@@ladonna1902 💯

[@AlatOnDemand]

@@tily5939 Sickkkk asf 🤢

[@anony1596]

The Cardi situation still blows my mind bc dis woman said out her mouth on camera she's not black and to this day there are still people saying she's black. The PR clean up after that was swift. like some Men in Black shit

[@mayowasworld]

YUP!!! lolol! exactly they cleaned it up real fast

[@AlatOnDemand]

Cardi is seen as a “feisty Latina” , imagine if Cardi was a black woman (brownskin/darkskin) she’d be canceled in a heartbeat or not even make mainstream attention besides being insulted

[@keracancook]

Exactly, if she considered herself black why would she say her and offset and in a interracial relationship????😵😵😵

[@indigobeauty1]

yeah it's weird people still argue she's black 😑

[@cherish8479]

She’s not black..she’s just not…it’s not a mystery

[@xinthamiddle]

Thank you for bringing up the idea around biracial identification. I constantly get dragged in the comments whenever I bring up how solely identifing bi-racial people as just black contributes to the erasure of blackness. Why can't we identify them as such, their lived experience is going to be different. And adding them into blackness erases the voices of black women who can't escape their blackness. Our society loves racial ambiguity.

[@KassieKane]

Gorl they drag me too..every single time. Oh well ..ima keep stating the truth biology doesn’t lie! Someone with one white and one black parent is BI-RACIAL!🗣🗣🗣

[@SureYoureRight]

I just got dragged for this too. I’m a fair skinned black woman with 2 black parents and it’s very frustrating to be grouped in with biracial women. We aren’t the same and our experiences aren’t either. It’s always been weird to me that people go out of their way to force biracial people to accept their blackness and then turn around and tell light skinned black people we aren’t black enough. Very strange

[@xinthamiddle]

@@SureYoureRight very strange. Then they try to say to me that I am denying the fact that fair skin exist in blackness...like huh? A, I never said that and B. being biracial doesn't mean you are automatically light skinned. (Ie. look at True, Khloe's daughter, she is bi-racial and not as fair as her cousins). And my mother is also light skinned with freckles and comes from two fully black parents, so I know what black can do. People are just strange.

[@LorenCognita]

I’ve never seen biracials as black. My biracial female cousins always made the distinction between them and the black girls in the family. Some of them would even call us ugly. It was outright racism.

[@dranchd6571]

"..black women who can't escape their blackness." Really? Hmm...

[@BigHenFor]

You can't talk someone out their internalised racism unless they are willing to be open to truth and reconciliation.

[@hereforit2347]

Too $hort is a self-proclaimed “pimp” whose favorite word is “beeyitch”. Good luck.

[@astrogirl2675]

@@hereforit2347 seems dusty

[@hereforit2347]

@@astrogirl2675: Chillle, I’m coughing and my nose is running. 🧹

[@brib6046]

I can’t believe too short was that comfortable trying to flirt with a woman who is literally half his age on live camera!. I also hate that people are giving Saweetie more heat than the inappropriate man! I’m happy to hear your perspective and I know it can be sickening to always have to touch on these comments

[@Nat0528]

Yup! He’s got some nerve, when he’s totally gross and inappropriate. Ughh!

[@brib6046]

@C. C. it’s still ridiculous and disgusting. It’s obvious that he prefers to have a certain dynamic in his romantic relationships

[@WinterWeFell]

@C. C. Really the case is that men have convinced themselves that it’s normal so they can not have boundaries and sexualize women who could be their own kids - in addition to the delusion of thinking they are attractive to us as well. Majority of women view men literally double our age flirting with us as disgusting and inappropriate no matter how old we are but ESPECIALLY if you’re 20-anything.

[@jc_80]

Did you catch when he said he’s seen her mom yuck

[@Valley__]

He dumb and lame. He therefore is talking about his own daughter who looks like a light skin black girl. Black + non black doesn’t always equal what he thinks. I know reg brown ppl with afro hair that has a full blood Mexican parent. I’ve also seen black + white kids with kinkier hair than most blacks. 🤦🏽‍♀️ he don’t know

[@solsista2]

I resonated with all of this, especially the men ain’t sh*t part. As a light skinned person, to me talking about colorism and defending dark skinned people is the bare minimum…how are we going to sit here and complain and white people’s lack of action with racism WHILE our light skinned behinds sit idly by with colorism, just like our oppressor? We know exactly how we benefit from this mess so it’s literally our role to speak on this and dismantle it. It disappoints me that Saweetie wasn’t more forceful with her defense, but it unfortunately doesn’t surprise me 😔. I know she’s mentioned that Too Short inspired her and she’s probably more concerned about her bag and image than protecting dark skinned non-men.

[@mayowasworld]

yup thank you for saying this, I feel like standing up is the bare minimum. and youre right I agree she prolly more worried about the bag too smh

[@Mymamayama]

Best comment ever!

[@jama3997]

I don't think that was the case. She wasn't trying to be seen as aggressive. They don't care how mixed a woman can be, if shes mixed with black and she loses her temper one time they be quick to call her a angry black bitch too

[@pausedforcyberbullying_]

@@mayowasworld she would also get attacked by wakanda warrior princesses and kweens. its not that easy, if you deal with bm you have to accept their colorism.

[@SureYoureRight]

I completely agree

[@kobysmultiverse.4643]

Fetishization of dark skin black men is rooted in colorism.

[@selwatchesyt]

Yeah. it’s bc dark skin is seen as masculine started by white supremacy ofc. Tho Imma be real with ya. I’ve never seen people humiliate light skinned men to the degree dark skinned women are humiliated on social media everyday. Like try to find an interview like this disparaging light skinned men like this one. Plus I don’t personally know any woman who ONLY dates dark skinned men but most guys I know are colorist. Not that either views are valid bc they are just two different sides of the same coin. It’s important to decolonize beauty standards and our preferences.

[@mrmrsplummer3526]

@@selwatchesyt light and dark skinned women say they prefer dark skinned men all the time but that's seen as preference. As the brother said above the media fetishizes dark skinned men and it has blown their heads up. Black men are desired by women of all races. Dark skinned woman are the ones who are getting the short end of the stick because the men they want have options.. Light skinned men don't give af because they are dark enough for someone across all races.

[@mrmrsplummer3526]

@@dahliar410 Yeah but we're having a discussion about colorism not IR dating. I think you just made my point..

[@Mymamayama]

Yup!

[@jesoustop5252]

@@mrmrsplummer3526 Black men are mainly desired out of Fetishism to other women though

[@SpiritSoPoetic]

I think it’s wild how Saweetie got the heat for this. I heard that Saweetie was trending for this. He should definitely get ALL the heat..

[@miffycarter3876]

But she should to though because SHE PLAYED INTO WHAT HE WAS SAYING WHICH WAS MAD IGNORANT like myoma just said she SAID SOMETHING after the fact NOT AT THE MOMENT he was being mad disrespectful they should BOTH get heat simple

[@SpiritSoPoetic]

I think it’s silly and naive for us to think that other women of any other race is gonna protect our image and stand up for us when our own men don’t. But I actually think she handled it well, she definitely looked uncomfortable and then she slightly changed the subject without being super defensive and disrespectful. If these fools wanna reveal their self hate to the world, let them. Let them speak and dig themselves deeper and deeper, so everyone can see it. Should have let him talk longer 😒

[@whatsonhermind1768]

Unfortunately I’m in the Bay Area

[@thecryptoqueen215]

Simple… He felt comfortable saying that to her because in so many places saying those things to a mixed or light skin girl is literally looked at as a compliment. He was actually complimenting & flirting w/ her n that interview n his pea ass mind!🤦🏽‍♀️🤣😭😭😭

[@mayowasworld]

LMAOOO PEA ASS MIND IM HOLLERING

[@jucyjay8398]

Disgusting

[@mercedesedwards4421]

Yes he was. I kept thinking hes shooting his shot. Sad AF

[@MicheleJenae]

I never thought of how complacent light/mixed people are in these arguments and I definitely agree that we will always look like the aggressor for speaking up and now I see that video differently. I do believe that Saweetie does think black women are beautiful and she doesn’t agree with Too $hort about having to be mixed to be beautiful but you are right, she played fragile.

[@Youralllate]

They wanna drag on saweetie for no reason she looked very uncomfortable and also reiterated she thought black woman are beautiful

[@th0masemmanuel]

She can’t be frontal with him, in this industry even if she knows what he is saying his wrong she can’t risk having someone like him against her, she had to be complaisant and find a way to speak her mind in a way that will not appear like a direct attack toward him, remember when the preferences speak up they are called bitter angry and are gaslighted.

[@MicheleJenae]

@@th0masemmanuel Yeah, and I agree. It’s hard to blame Saweetie in this particular situation because of her position in the industry, it is business too (but thats an issue). However, as Moawa stated, this kind of thing happens in regular life. I think that where I was getting at is when it comes to being complacent, it could be a casual conversation amongst mutuals and this kind of thing could still play out, without any like a career to consider, just the people it affects, and STILL…non-mixed/darker black woman find themselves having no one to ever defend them.

[@keisha_james]

@@th0masemmanuel This is such a tired late excuse at this point. Light and/or biracial women will be fine. Cuz darkskin women don't get a choice. So, the rest of us will be fine if we start picking up the mess. Hell we have examples of this as recent as last year with that bg actress for Lovecraft -- the minute she spoke up it became a news story and positive spotlight put on her, she got airtime for it.

[@keisha_james]

@@th0masemmanuel this is literally like saying white musicians or actors can't say things in the industry re: racism. That's the excuse they all use and we realize that's bunk. So why not among our own supposed kin? The person with more systemic power in the situation, has the responsibility to use that to benefit the marginalized.

[@Nat0528]

She may not be okay with what he’s saying, but she benefits from what he’s saying and how people like her is viewed socially. Dark skin blk women just need to understand that more times than not, these women aren’t your allies. These women may sympathize with you, like “ahhhh don’t say that” but they cannot empathize or will not because these are issues that will never ever affect them🤷🏽‍♀️ It just is what it is‼️ Ps, what too short said to saweetie, is the sentiment of BM as a collective. I’m not surprised in the least!

[@rediettadesse2828]

I think its about awareness .. I'm light skinned and channels like this hv helped me see colorism , internilized racism n preference others ....

[@BishounenLuvr]

@@rediettadesse2828 Yep. I'm thinking about things. Its different man, cause I consider myself highly intuned with the struggles of black people. But, I am learning different perspectives about how darker people feel, and experiences 😬

[@lx9037]

the pause after sweetie's response. "there is so much to unpack".... I cracked up because her response was weird asf. I would have been mad asf at him because that shit was disgusting to hear. I was uncomfortable the whole time. And he's old asf 55 years old and she's in her 20s.....why is he even mentioning his fetishes to someone 30 years younger? Ew.

[@TaylorBTyler]

because of my hair texture people would ask all the time "what are you mixed with" and I would always say black mixed with black. And they would get so offended cause they thought I was lying. That taught me from middle school, how casual ant-blackness is. And how casually we as a people engage in it. My mother who is light, said my experience opened her eyes to so many things. Sad

[@yikesyikes5974]

I deal with thia with my son. He is black, black, black. There ia no white, asian, Latinos in our lineage that I know of. One woman asked me if my son was Puerto Rican in front of his afro american daddy. I was appalled. Then the heffa kept insisting he wasnt fully black. I had another person insisted my son was Arab. I am like no, he is black nothing else but black. People look at his hair, facial features, and skin color.

[@applecidervinegar1650]

Not that it matters but if a person is light skinned then they are going to be mixed with something else to a degree. Even a lot of dark skinned people can have around 15% non-black ancestry.

[@culturalresponse2447]

If your mom is light it means she is mixed somewhere down the line, which also makes you mixed

[@TaylorBTyler]

@@culturalresponse2447 The African Ancestry test I did on my mother's line begs to differ but thank you

[@Styl849]

Same thing with me. People assume I'm mixed because of my hair texture. They will see both my parents and my siblings all from the same parents and somehow I'm mixed. I've seen the disappointment in a black man's face when he asks what I'm mixed with and the answer is black and more black 😂.

[@Olasumbo888]

Sadly I'm not surprise, I have lost friends due to colorist BS. I personally use this as a teachable movement. Much love to the REAL black woman. Let's see if any black male artist will check old ass too short. Smh

[@ggoodvibes23]

Exactly! No real men will check struggle faced too short. That man is at least 50 yrs old and should be embarrassed. This type of self hating has gone on in the industry for decades.

[@elenawalker517]

Real man fake man and anything in between is…. NO ONE WILL CALL HIM OUT. No one will say why. Know why because anything to down grade a dark woman like me(or darker) and anti black is aye okay

[@mayowasworld]

"old ass too short" im hollering

[@passiturner3239]

Much love to you and the REAL (non-colorist and non-misogynoir ) BLACK MEN understanding this!

[@MakaykayLAMB]

GIRL PLEASE SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK. For some reason whenever black people speak or say something with a lil conviction, people wanna label us as angry. Man oh fucking man. I just had to explain this to my girlfriend cos she’s like one a shade lighter but featurism is a thing too baby. She’s never been asked to smile or calm down.

[@asiarenee6053]

you ateee. the whole look is cutee 🥰 as a 20 y/o ds black girl you literally inspire me and give me sm courage to be myself. Thank you i love your content 💛💕

[@mayowasworld]

awww I love this comment!!! thank you!!! you deserve all the praise in this life

[@LuvsTruth]

I have seen plenty of biracial people who weren’t conventionally attractive in my lifetime. Too Short is showing how little he has learned about biracial people and black women.

[@hardtimeslifelessons5677]

The reason why you can offend black women and not those other groups is because those other groups stand up for themselves. BW don't. They fight for everyone, including bm, but themselves. BW have got to stop all of this "oh poor me" stuff and stand up for themselves, EXCLUSIVELY.

[@kobysmultiverse.4643]

I just love the way you say “Welcome to Mayowa’s world”😌💞

[@mayowasworld]

thank u boo!

[@kilimanjaro5537]

That part about mixed women/light skin black women/non-black women not wanting to fully go against black men is so true. They don’t want to completely go against them because they know they risk losing their privilege and accommodating image.

[@user-hx6it9ie1i]

Exactly

[@TeaWitcher]

Saweetie SWANS 😂😂😂💀💀💀 You're hilarious but I'm pretty sure she calls it "Icy Gang"

[@mayowasworld]

LOL welp I hope they don't come for me

[@netta911]

I love the ways you use white liner in a lot of your looks(I've noticed over these past few months) it gives me the confidence as a dark-skinned women to use color liner in the creative ways I've seen you rock it, thank you and again the full like is beautiful as always ❤

[@mayowasworld]

aww I love hearing things like this!! yes we've been so stigmatized to not use color on our face. this also gives me the courage to keep experimenting thank you for these kind words sis

[@Yolandae662]

I thought Indian and Korean people also value pale skin over darker skin

[@issafula]

They actually do

[@kv4787]

They do. It all has the same root which is white invasion and colonialism

[@akpopgirlgroupstan5196]

@@kv4787 To be fair, certain parts of asia had colorism before colonisation

[@iseeyou2810]

@@akpopgirlgroupstan5196 not true

[@jesoustop5252]

@@iseeyou2810 no, it is true i know for sure that pre-colonial japan and china both valued paler/lighter skin over darker skin.

[@nritti_]

This is the perfect time to make this video with the situation with Meek Mill degrading the dark skin women with sexual graphics on his tour bus… it’s embarrassing seeing our own people doing these things to each other after all our ancestors have been through to try and make a way for us and this is how things turn out.

[@mayowasworld]

right I just saw people talking bout this today smh

[@mimiosu302]

“I’m not gonna have you gaslight my eyes” *blink* *blink* *blink* 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@genevievegreene1595]

When I was 16 my white English penpal came over to Barbados for a visit and she told me all her friends were jealous and asking her if she was going to come back with a 'half-cast baby'. And I was like 'what's that?' Apparently it means biracial and these girls seemed to think that was one of the top reasons for a Caribbean trip.

[@kv4787]

I noticed that people of all races fetishize biracial people. It actually makes me feel bad for biracial people because they’re not even seen as human as this point. They’re just light skin and good hair… I wonder how seen and heard they are in these relationships

[@genevievegreene1595]

@@kv4787 yes it is like you are a collectible, a trophy.

[@TeaWitcher]

@@genevievegreene1595 wow :/ a collectable. I do think any race or race mixture can and is fetishized. But as far as main stream yes that black and white thing is really toxic and goes across all races. It seems to be even worse when they are caught up in being a collectable, they aren't aware of it so they see it as a good thing.

[@laylah150]

Saweetie isn't black, we shouldn't be upset/sad that she doesn't support us. She owes us no loyalty. We should be upset by Too short, since he is black. And he was brave enough to say what he was saying, cos he was complimenting her

[@IdowuEsther]

I completely agree, she owes us nothing, he should be the one we focus on. He is the real problem.

[@pinkforever3844]

Yes, but most Black women are male identified so the blame will go to everyone except the actual aggressor.

[@That254chik]

She benefits from her proximity to blackness, the culture, selling her music etc

[@niamarshall9877]

She looks black tho

[@user-hp5cf5kf8k]

​@@niamarshall9877I disagree. saweetie looks like a blasian woman.

[@Njoofene]

I can detect that beautiful West African accent in your voice. I'm guesing you are of Nigerian or Ghanian heritage. I am an African man and I refused to be classified as "black", not because I hate black, to the contrary, I love everything black and people describe me a pro black love, pro black, a black extremist and pan-Africanist. In my tribe, the blacker the woman, the more noble she is. And it is common to hear my people say "I want to find a wife as black as coal." This is the heritage that I come from and have never ever dated interracially as I'm not interested in that. That said, now (especially in the past few years) I refused to be labled black because I am ashamed of Black American men and the disgusting self hating rhetoric they spew and their behaviour, and therefore do not want to be lumped together with them. They can have the term "black man" and I will settle for "African man" as I do not want to be associated with them. They are disgusting beyond believe. They are the only group of men that I know of who takes pride in going to social media to degrade their women and elevate the daughters of their oppressor. These group of men would have no problem degrading the beauty of their own black mothers and elevating the beauty of their oppressor's daughter. I rather slit my throat than do that. These men are sick and beyond help. Even if other races are into interracial relationships, you will not see them doing this on social media, the press or in their music videos, at least not to the same extent as Black American men do. When I used to see this from Black American men couple of years ago (mainly on forums, as I do not live in the USA), I used to call them out for that BS. With my love for blackness, black pride, black love, pan-Africanist, etc, I first though maybe if I could educate them by giving them an African perspecitive because of our two different histories, may be, just may be, they might stop this foolishness. Therefore, I started with the softly softly approach, then went on to the hard approach, but have now come to the realisation that these Black American men (not all, but a hell of a lot of them for my liking) are beyond help. They are damaged goods. In my opinion, they are the most morally corrupt and degenerate group of men I have ever had the displeasure of coming into contact with. Men protect their women. They do not degrade them in public and elevate other races of women. This might sound mean, but I now feel indifferent compared to before when I see in the news that another Black American man has been killed by the police. These disgusting Black American men cannot even protect themselves from white men, never mind protecting their own women and black babies. They are pathetic and the most disgusting and degenerate group of men in my opinion. I would advise all African immigrants living in the US to do everything they can to retain their African culture and not to copy the worst and most disgusting aspects of Black American men culture. I do not want that part of their culture imported into Africa by returning Africans. In terms of culture, Black American men are very influential. It is unfortunate that they have not used that influence to better their group. Instead, they've used it to degrade their women and elevate other races of women. And the moment they can rub $2 together, they go out therere looking for a non-Black women. They are neither providers nor protectors of their women and black babies. These men have no honour, no shame, no pride, and certainly no dignity. SMH! In their music videos, they use Black American women and depict them as cheap and sexually provacative, not to mention calling them the B word. However, non-Black women (or mixed women as close to whiteness) are portrayed as the beautiful, dignified, love interest. I give the Black American community between 150 to 200 years. In 200 years time (if not less), that community will die out and black skin will be a relic of the past - mostly thanks to their men. These men are disgusting and sick. I will never ever allow my nephews or nieces to listen /watch their crap music. If I ever see it, I turn it off or take it and burn it. I will not partake in the supporting of degenerates. Distant yourself from them and retain your African culture. They have now reached the point of no return. They are beyond help.

[@jucyjay8398]

Do you think black women should date brown skin men that are not African American? Since most of these African American men have lost their way. I just decided to be single. But most African American women are dating outside there race . Or just living a life of celibacy.

[@Njoofene]

​@@jucyjay8398 ​ As evident in my post above, I do not encourage interracial dating for Black men or women. Although I totally understand the plight of Black American women due to their men's behaviour, Black American women can have any man they want. However, to preserve their race even if their men are not doing it, I do not encourage race mixing. The grass isn't always greener, and the fact that Black Americans are not the majority, by race mixing, it would only be a matter of time before the extermination of their ethnic group. Let me be absolutely clear, mixed race people (of Black heritage) in general do not date Black, but prefer to date white, other mixed people, or even other races before dating black. Of course there are exception, but collectively, that statement still holds. Therefore, that in itself would lead to the end of blacks in the new world. You will be creating mixed race children who in turn will go and procreate with your own oppressor. Soon, Black Americans will be replaced by mixed race people (this phenomenon has already started), and Blacks will be a relic of the past just like in Argentina. Although the Black Argentinians where wiped out (hence why you rarely see Afro-Argentinians), and they did not have a choice in the matter as it was state sanctioned by the country's whitening program, Black Americans on the other hand have a choice but are deliberately and actively participating in their own extinction thanks to their men (for the most part). Afro-Argentinians didn't have a choice, Black Americans do. Black Americans men are not the only Black men in the world. Black American women have two options in my opinion: 1) they can say: well, since Black American men (not all, but as a collectively) are deliberately and desperately trying to procreate with others to the expense of their own race, let's just join them and speed up the process of bringing the group to an early extinction in the United States. 2) they can think long term and find mates in other Black groups. There is nothing more valuable than the survival of a race and its culture and traditions. The importance of passing down your ancestors' phenotype, culture, race, traditions, etc, in tact, is not something to be underestimated. It is very important and will form the character of those descendants yet to be born. It is not something to throw away. Those who are on the right side of history will be remembered, and those aren't will be disgraced, ridiculed or forgotten. We do not live for now. We live for our children and our children's children, and descendants to come. Your action today will affect your entire bloodline for generations to come. It is so sad that Black American men have not used their influence and power to advance their group. So sad!

[@iateyursandwiches]

Thats nice and i appreciate you but honestly, African black men are not exempt from this behavior. I have see African men marrying white women. There is a President of an African country that currently has a White woman as his first lady! There was recently a situation of a Nigerian American man who made it his job to shit on black women on the daily onlt to be murdered by his white girlfriend. And while he obvioisly was influenced by American culture, do not blame this Entirely on Black American men. They clearly arent the only ones.

[@Rosequartzlioness]

@@jucyjay8398 I’ve chosen to be celibate but I have also considered relocating as well.

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

@@Rosequartzlioness Hello! I have the same mindset. I am too traumatized from dealing with African American men. I am proud to be AA/ADOS/FBA, but the men of my group are sadly lost. I am also hesitant about dating African or Caribbean men because their respective cultures often have a lot of anti-Black American sentiments, and I do not have the time, patience nor energy to deal with that. I understand why Black women are dating non-Black men and I do not resent them nor look down on them. I respect them and completely understand. Can I do the same? Not sure. Do I really want to? No, because ideally I would like to date, marry and procreate with someone who looks like me but the men that looks like me don’t desire me. So what does a woman like me does? The best option is to choose single hood and celibacy. I am a Christian, I understand everyone is not and I have no qualms about that. I am going to leave my future mate, if any, in the hands of my Heavenly Father. There’s no where in the Bible where a woman went out seeking a man, unless she was a harlot. I am not that, so I will sit back and let one choose me. Hopefully by that time, I am free from my anxieties about Black men (globally) and non-Black men.

[@justanotherperson3102]

The whole fit is my favorite look! From the gorgeous headwrap to the skirt. Makeup is on point too!

[@mayowasworld]

THANK YOUUU

[@tylerrich3117]

What it looked like he was trying get his “Mack on” with Saweetie and she looked taken back but she didn’t say anything. And she should have. And as someone who is of mixed race and with darker skin. This is gross. If I were in her position I would have called his butt out! And to fetishize one’s ethnicity… disgusting and it shows how he truly hates himself internally. And that’s deep rooted unfortunately. Thank you for sharing this video. It’s needed!!

[@glasses7714]

Limiting dark skinned ppls ability to live full lives. Yes, this.

[@TeaWitcher]

Also its amazzzing to me that you talk about these things and have a platform to do so! The transparency is never not needed on this side of blackness/womanhood. It is unfortunate that no matter how non disrespectful and open ppl like saweetie try to be. They'll always get caught not understanding and letting their privilege show. We can only hope that the awareness about this increases and people like you speaking about it are more heard. It has always been disparaging to b a black girl in America for this reason. Black ppl, MANY but i have to say esp the older generations are super poisoned in the mind with this shit. It's so embedded in them they think it's cute or a way of life. No black person should be proud of themselves for being anti-black. We already have whyte people to do that for us. But here these colorists are making it easier for non black racists antics.

[@Youralllate]

Child saweetie didn’t do shit she looked very uncomfortable in that video abs caught off guard

[@mayc10]

Plpooppppnlp kol

[@TeaWitcher]

@@Youralllate yep. No one said she did anything. I spoke about the essence how she is able to navigate vs. Women who aren't like her. She absolutely got uncomfortable, that was obvious

[@missshannonsunshine]

Saweetee did check him and said that you don't have to be mixed to be beautiful. She seemed like she wanted to drag him but didn't want to mess up any future bags. Saweetee could have definitely said more but she spoke up in the moment. Tooooo many biracials and ls women take it as a compliment though. That's why he licked his lips. He was trying to compliment her in his own sad way

[@zanehanayneh8808]

U look so summery and cute. I’m not black but I really love your videos and find so much value in the way you use your platform and uplift people and call out harm. I will venmo u when I can for ur labor 💗

[@redsak5311]

Labor. ??

[@Lyagani]

@@redsak5311She is making educational material, i guess that’s labour. But yeah, weird choice of words though not uncommon in activist circles.

[@gothbat676]

Hello Mayowa. I have a video idea on colorism that you could make. Could you please address the colorism that's in the Netflix show "Dear White People"? I think it would be really important to address this show because, despite the fact that they have the roles reversed for the characters, they still denote much of it to colorism. The lead "heroine" is still a light skinned girl (despite her being an activist for black rights) and the antagonist "mean girl" is still a dark skinned girl (despite her surrounding herself with white friends and straightening her hair to fit white conventional beauty standards). I think it would be really great to make a video on this because obviously the directors were very much colorist and couldn't look past the idea of making a light-skinned person the main character (yet again).

[@lisettebrown8317]

I don’t even know if the lead female chat is black. She appeared biracial or Latina to me. They at least could have had the darker skinned actress not be the antagonist. Also a brown skinned woman could have played tbt leading lady.

[@gothbat676]

@@lisettebrown8317 Exactly. But they had to go and make a biracial girl the center of attention, yet again. And demonize the darker skinned characters despite audaciously calling themselves a "black activist show"

[@andromeda3163]

@@lisettebrown8317 but that was the point, the show touches on it more if you’ve only seen the movie. They wanted to show how biracial people have to over compensate just to feel “black” ( even though they are literally 50% of something else) I never see them struggle to be the other half of what they are. But upon all of what Sam did, Coco was the only one who called her out and held her accountable on colorism. Am I the only person who had Coco as their favorite character, I wasn’t even looking at Sam 😂

[@lisettebrown8317]

@@andromeda3163 I didn’t hate coco but I could see she hade some self hate herself. She saw being The white people as a way to get ahead . In this society people don’t accept biracials as white. It’s only black propel who will label all biracials as black. White people don’t accept biracials a s white so many come over to tbt black community where they are welcomed.

[@AlatOnDemand]

I tried to like that show but it just wasn’t for me could barely get past episode 2 💀 , maybe my subconscious mind was tryna tell me it’s a colorist show and not to process further

[@user-pb1cc3bo8v]

That Headwrap is everything. Your intuitive way of bringing to live with love these issues allows my heart's mind to wrap around what's been so wrong for so long. Deprogramming and move to heal.. Thank you for your insight and you are beautiful sight indeed. Namaste. ❤

[@Jewel296]

**Nigerian accent**AUNTY MAYY😍😍😍! We love everything we can’t choose one thing in particular come on now! But only on a serious note and not to sound hating or nothing I’m just saying it cuz I know it’s gonna eventually happen. But I can’t wait until all the “preferences” start seeing the actual mentality behind all of these colorist black men and start moving accordingly. Tbh I’m already starting to notice a shift in how black men are leaving their nonblack baby mamas because liking someone’s color is not chemistry or in nonblack women leaving them because they know that black men don’t actually like them for them

[@kv4787]

I really believe the reckoning will be that these preferences start to abandon black men and choose better… But by then most black women won’t be checking for them either. Black men will never know peace until they hold themselves accountable and change

[@anony1596]

Eloho has mentioned it in her last two videos lol

[@voodochilemakeup4068]

Sis. OMG. I’ve been watching your colorism videos since last night and literally every single point you’ve made I’ve been thinking and didn’t know how to articulate without coming from a hurt or angry place. Thank you so much and please don’t stop bringing these issues to the forefront!

[@cesarmalon7829]

That scarf 🤩👏 I love how that is such a contrast with your hair! It really accentuates your locks 😍

[@angelicalaw4554]

Love this message everything you speak on is exactly that.I’m holding everyone accountable especially when they play the fence or be complicit in colorist views.Your while look is my fave tbh 😍I think you really like ya brows cuz they popping

[@mayowasworld]

thank u love!

[@Columbiana777]

Saweetie looked uncomfortable; she looked like please don’t try and “talk” to me. This is all on him. Listen to the way she says, “Really..really…” trying to slow and possibly stop the ensuing crap storm. I’m not mad at her. It’s all on his colorist ass. These type of men hate themselves. 😑

[@thefoxlady9523]

Really, really solid question to be asking. I'm glad you put it out there & hope more & more ppl think about it and actively shift their behavior and thinking for the better with respect to your question.

[@JazzellDope]

Girl PERFECT TIMING . I’m rolling up I will leave another comment

[@JupiterSky54]

Beautifully relayed message! Also that white brow looks phenomenal on you! Your white liner be hitting, and now the brows *chefs kiss*

[@mayowasworld]

thank u!!!

[@priestlaaris8208]

Hey Mayowa, Thank you again for creating this video. The way some ds blk men are loud about their anti-blkness has been on my mind, tbh I'm not surprised by this situation. If anything I don't know why anyone would be proud of being their own self-hatred( its 2021), and the fact that its is normalized speaks volumes. I don't when some people are gonna learn but I know their time is coming, I know it. On a lighter note, my favorite part of your outfit is your top and that silk scarf, both are really cute and you look really beautiful.

[@Camp68]

Love the scarf! And I always appreciate hearing your thoughts and ideas 💗

[@brib6046]

I love the color combo of your outfit! The top and scarf in particular! Lol I might have to steal the scarf look

[@namasteshae]

i was actually loving how you have your hair wrapped up, i kept looking at it you're so beautiful !

[@Brownmahfun]

A MANS REJECTION IS GODS PROTECTION.

[@AlatOnDemand]

Ya damn right !!!

[@Brownmahfun]

@@AlatOnDemand HEHE.

[@getstraight7403]

You are GORGEOUS!! Love your entire look and love the message.

[@littlebear5659]

My favorite part of your outfit is your confidence. And also just everything about it!

[@mayowasworld]

AWWW YAYYYY!!! thank u!!! yes I was feeling really cute LOL

[@jerri-aleasejones9531]

I love this channel. It’s so validating to hear someone else talk about this.

[@mayowasworld]

aww thats what I do it for

[@leilaholivia]

Loved this video, all this needed to be said. And yes it makes me soooo uncomfortable when lightskinned women talk about how they love dark skinned and "chocolate" men , it feels just so icky and fetish sounding, i never really considered it as the the other side of the coin of believing all dark skinned women are masculine or ugly and all lightskinned women are pretty or feminine. Now it makes sense

[@OwolabiEsther]

I just love listening to aunty mayowa. The aunty with the sage wisdom

[@assianeu197]

waait how old is you to call her aunty? they're a big cousin

[@teeade]

The outfit and makeup everytime 🔥🌟 I don't think I've seen you do your eyebrows like that, I love it

[@user-om8og4qy9t]

Your eye makeup is just oaoaoa so beautiful

[@zyahdunnahfitness]

First time hearing this perspective on light skin women dating dark skin men. Deep. I’m definitely more attracted to darker skin men even though my ex was mixed Korean and Black. I honestly feel like my attraction had to do with me wanting to have more brown children as I remember how Malcom X said his mother choose the darkest man she could find for that same reason.😞 also, I had a family member SA me growing up. It unfortunately went on for years and Iam confident it influenced my preferences as I was groomed very early by being treated quite favorably. I literally remember being jealous of his first girlfriend🙁. Thankfully, I found counseling and a survivors group to help process that trauma. I was in my 30’s before I even realized how much that affected my life.. Btw, super cute eyebrows😉 love a positive ass switch up🥰

[@Ben-kv7wr]

I love your hair scarf in this vid! The colour is beautiful and the texture looks really cool contrasted with your hair!

[@smilesallround]

Excellent points made all the way through 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 12:50 FACTS!

[@TeaWitcher]

I love your scarf wrap, outfit andd makeup today!!

[@2Qes]

Girl your head wrap and white eyebrows 🙌🏾 loving it.

[@hereforit2347]

What do you mean “allow”? We can’t stop, censor, or change them. They have a right to their opinions and ignorance. What we *can* do is call them out, expose them, not buy their music or patronize their businesses.

[@MegaDiva1999]

THIS.

[@JayBee-dr9bh]

I love love love the orange! It looks so vibrant wrapped around ur hair & reflecting off ur skin. The top n skirt are also super must haves. Compelling discussion as well.

[@datsquisheeboi]

Love those brows. I wanted to comment when the video started but I didn't want to trivialize what you were saying so I'm so glad you asked.

[@CinnaBunnyToast89]

But I love the whole outfit?! That skirt and the shirt and I love the orange wrap you used for your hair. Great video! I’m a dark skinned black woman and I was adopted by two white parents and it’s taken me a long time to learn about who I am and why showing up as myself in this world was so hard throughout my whole childhood as well as now being an adult. I remember saying I was too scared to date black men for fear of them having some blood relation to me in some way. I also felt the sting of not being “black” within that community because of the way I speak, however outside that community I was too black and didn’t fit it either. I find it interesting how you end up having to pave your own way through life at times.

[@jadakelly2297]

its the head wrap for meee. i love that color period and it looks amazing on you!

[@saharanikanjooliaw9585]

i love how the eyebrows and the top are interacting!!! it is giving!!!!

[@mayowasworld]

aye thank u!!!!

[@luna350ml]

Loving the hair scarf, skirt and top yes da whole outfit 🧡🤍💙

[@yarsudani]

and you look so beautiful i love ur brows and whole makeup look!! the orange scarf is so cute too 😍🥰

[@mayowasworld]

thank u boo!! yess I love the color orange these days

[@MamaFreedom333]

Thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️❤️ make more.. love your nigerian accent Mayowa✨

[@luvrbae]

my fav part of your outfit is your hair, the scarf, the top, the brows 😩🥰🥰💗💗 thank you as always for your content and sharing your thoughts n perspective n ur experiences, too 💛💗💛

[@shiradeath1583]

Amazing video as always about such an infuriating topic I must say your makeup, hair just everything is so STUNNING ugh I love your eyebrows

[@BishounenLuvr]

I like you!! My favorite thing about your look is the eyebrows and the head wrap.

[@tschakalili]

Youre doing the lords work !!!

[@kisarunihofmannndosi5327]

And I learned something again. Thank you so much!

[@Raven.and.Eggs999]

“That’s very gay” 😂 lol but on a more serious note thank you for talking about these topics and I like your head wrap too!

[@mayowasworld]

LOL THANK YOU FOR CATCHIN THAT. and also thank u for the kind words!

[@anikelsi6977]

This video! I loved your analysis of the situation. This is so 😩 like I wish people would just stop with the colorism. I'm always trying to explain this to my partner who grew up in the Caribbean. As far as your outfit goes, I loved the white eyebrows and the one-shoulder action you were giving.

[@mayowasworld]

thank u!!! yesss I love a good off the shoulder

[@bendemare5270]

On this note, everyone, check out RASHIDA STROBER, she is the Mother of DARKISM theory activism and is the first one to pin this therm. She is a legend and will go in Herstory for what she is doing right now.

[@TrazzyStar]

My favorite is the color of your scarf! The orange tangerine is soooo beautiful

[@chelseamuusha6949]

i love the brows

[@sheryldean5128]

Your eyebrows are everything✨

[@annierichter8250]

It's hard to pick a favorite thing about your outfit! I've been digging your makeup lately but I am a sucker for a denim skirt

[@mayowasworld]

lol omg I love denim too!!! I just feel like it hits different

[@kobysmultiverse.4643]

I love your outfit 😻, you’re so beautiful 💟. I think it’s the orange scarf, it really brings in a warm color to you🤗. Love you Mayowa💞.

[@mayowasworld]

thank u boo!!! I love the color orange these days

[@gabbysnowden7833]

the white brows with the orange scarf *CHEF'S KISS*

[@zheahra]

Hi, sis! You are stunning. I love your makeup and your ensemble. It is the simplicity and effortless put-togetherness for me. OAN, I paused at your comment about seeing things from both sides. I will stop saying that.

[@nim3408]

I LOVE the way your outfit acsenuates your beautiful radiant skin!

[@AdeolaAsh]

15:53 exactly!!! These people still make their money no matter what *we* say

[@saffronia111]

i love your scarf! orange is my fav color.

[@catherinekelly379]

I love you! You are so beautiful. I like the eyebrows! Thank you for speaking on this. Your authenticity is giving young black girls the confidence to be their true authentic selves to the fullest. Thank you Mayowa

[@mayowasworld]

aw thank you for writing this and these lovely affirmations

[@walkinthewoods981]

The whole look is beautiful

[@bendemare5270]

Thank you for talking about this

[@kah023]

I love the top and your eyebrows!!

[@Theehoneyb]

Your makeup is great! I love your entire outfit🥰

[@mo-futures]

hiiiiii my fav thing is absolutely the way youre wearing this scarf!!!!! but the whole look is amazing :)))))

[@imaniife5437]

Neck up is so editorial to me. Love the orange scarf.

[@mayowasworld]

ayeeee we love a editorial slay

[@lamonthoward3379]

I love your hair!!! I started my loc journey in July.

[@kizzywickham2074]

Omg!! you are so gorgeous and i like your style .