Men and Women Seek to Understand Each Other | Middle Ground

[@soniap5695]

I'm a woman and the thing of "men opening doors" makes no sense to me. Who arrives the door first, opens the door

[@jayhova]

I agree. And I would also say - guys, more likely, try to make it to the door first in order to open it for their female partner. That's the case for me atleast.

[@tommuggeridge5659]

its just polite to open a door for a woman but if you say *I dont open my own doors* it’s annoying

[@timothysmith6203]

It's never been a problem of opening a door for a woman, but don't expect it. I'm not opening it for you because you're a woman it's because you're a person.

[@stektirade]

Well thank you for your generosity and being an actual human being.

[@D0NCH33T0]

@@jayhova shaddup

[@HaneefaTheHaneefa]

I’m a female and I’ve held open doors for guys and vice versa , who ever is at the door first should open it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sxm2009]

Honey Minnie my exact sentiment

[@courtneym5523]

I completely agree. Funny story: I open the door for people a lot. In one instance where I opened a door for a man, he flat out refused to walk through it. He held up everyone walking behind us because, for some reason, he just would not walk through the door that I held open for him. He just looked annoyed and tried to force me to go first, as if my holding the door open for him was some kind of inconvenience...

[@HaneefaTheHaneefa]

Jade Marie I’m sorry, is there another gender you want to inform me that I am? There’s only men and women. Men are males, women are females. There’s no difference between female and woman unless you’re talking about age, and I had to grow up fast so I’ve been a woman for a minute now.

[@richardadams7667]

Amen! My thoughts for that statement was yes...and women should hold doors for men. Who ever is there to open the door should open it for the other person.

[@HaneefaTheHaneefa]

Richard Adams exactly, that’s just common courtesy.

[@georgialucas5527]

As a woman, I really don’t understand the holding open doors thing… like it’s a door? If you get to a door first, open it and hold it open! It’s not an act of chivalry, it’s an act of common curtesy for anyone and everyone.

[@andypham6335]

Women getting mad at men opening doors for them is a consequence of feminism and the western sexual revolution.

[@celestes3806]

yes i agree with every other point other feminists make but i dont get the door thing

[@georgialucas5527]

Celesté S Same! I will always be 100% a feminist, but that isn’t feminism… it’s entitlement 😂

[@andypham6335]

Julia marie Attard Independence from what? Men? That’s impossible to achieve. Feminism defined by most contemporary feminists today is the equality of rights for men and women. Ok, equality of rights to what extent? Can a man do everything women can do, and can a man do everything a woman could do? No. The problem with feminism today is that it’s teaching women to become more like men and for men to become more like women. Your whole ideology is based on the fallacy that men and women are equal in an absolute context, therefore their rights should reflect that. Men and women are obviously inherently different, so why give them equal absolute rights? Give men and women EQUITABLE rights. Justice can not always be served under equal rights, but only under equitable rights.

[@justaloadofash]

Well I'm a guy and I'm a nice person. So of course I'm going to open the door for you.

[@brookiie]

I feel like they could have picked WAYYY better people to discuss these gender issues with

[@nadirwoodson9321]

definitely, when they said "my gender has no disadvantages" and the men only said "we can't show emotion" I was like "what about all of the extremely high risks of dying we have and how they are much higher then women's chance of dying from it" and then the women said "no one takes me seriously" yes but women are also oppressed to an extreme amount in some countries. Neither side provided good points

[@ellamcchicken2684]

random man facts If I was going to be in one of these videos I’m researching tf out of the topic beforehand 😂

[@z-rex6068]

Facts

[@caiotorres6156]

@@nadirwoodson9321 i was thinking mostly of sexual choice advantage that women have

[@clunkclink9484]

@@nadirwoodson9321 My mind automatically went to legal situations. Women win legal cases way more and get less jail time for the same crimes

[@whitneyhouston187]

“i won’t touch the door if a man is with me” i think that’s a bit overboard...as a women i open my own doors unless someone does that for me. it doesn’t matter if they are male or female, you should be polite and respectful. i won’t sit and wait for a man to open a door for me but it would be chivalry if they would. i think it shouldn’t be a crazy thing if women open doors for men. that’s what equality is.

[@boifyoodont6151]

Whitney Houston i feel you, but my best friend is the same way. She was essentially taught to never open a door for herself and out of gut reaction others will just open doors for her. She doesn’t do it to be rude, she was just brought up around a different culture where they did that for the women all the time

[@joycewible8816]

I agree completely.

[@angelface101ful]

but thats her

[@llamaliammm]

Ikr

[@SarcasticSyringe]

I’m a dude and I just open the door to whoever is walking by

[@SuwandiKartadinata]

Can u make single mother meet with single father? I think it would be interesting to hear them share their stories.

[@youtubeaddpie1617]

Yesssssssssssssssss

[@willsherman8535]

They’d probably agree on everything

[@tevindoe3889]

@@willsherman8535 Nah I feel as if single moms would kinda dis credit the men

[@xgszblazefade1411]

This is a very underrated comment. Edit: Spelling mistake.

[@clownfromspongebob3979]

My dad raised me as a single father for almost 16 years. As a female, there are hard times where we have communication problems, but he raised us very good

[@PastelTyrant]

You get there first, *_you open the door_*

[@kalanihayden]

Simple

[@dovahkiin8924]

Ha! Beta

[@yasminvillanueva3141]

Agreed

[@calebwildes1524]

If a man is a gentleman he will get the door for you. Instead of letting the woman open and hold the door

[@1am636]

@@calebwildes1524 Nah. if a man is fair, he will open the door for the people behind him or let people hold the door for him, regardless of gender.

[@bryanvicens7769]

I wanna see the gen z doing this cause this generation would takes this conversation to a whole other type of level

[@ndgnatoo6677]

Joe is gen z

[@Luingi]

I got my cooties shot so I’m down

[@glitchedsound206]

@Yashvardhan SINGH lopen minded couldn't be further from woke . Lol

[@ryobaaishi9968]

Yassss

[@ryobaaishi9968]

@@glitchedsound206" lopen" im sorry 😆 🤣

[@ximaxwellix]

I personally wouldn't have sat down at the door question. I think holding doors isn't a "men do that for women" thing. Holding doors should be a social thing. I hold the door for everyone. Old, Young, Men, Women. I don't care about those things when holding a door, because I hold the door because I consider it as an act of kindness.

[@gali519]

Same:)

[@FakeAccents]

I would've sat down to say "and women should open doors for men"

[@anak6748]

Finders Keepers me too 👏

[@jessboo173]

Yea i was immediately like "what? Ofcourse not!!" And i was even more shocked when all of them sit😔

[@nickysulliban3712]

IMaxwellI Was has

[@patbland3808]

Why can’t men just respect women and women just respect men. Respect everyone. Open doors for everyone. Don’t treat anyone differently for things they can’t change

[@ibeflyingi3754]

because people in general are too busy thinking but what about me rather than what about us.

[@virajdadyal5369]

Ye I mean nowadays people are trying to get rid of male and female stereotypes which for me just makes everyone seem too sensitive now like learn how to take a joke or don't be too mean

[@ieatpancreas2005]

I know It seems so easy yet it's so hard for some people in our society

[@leibniz4455]

It's diverse, we can't generalize.. Some don't even think of this, some treat this as a problem.. Just passing by to give some facts

[@tulinealhassan2928]

Yes

[@ghoulishgreens]

I have a proposal. Stop editing the videos so heavily, I feel like you cut people and conversation off to make the conversation go a certain way. Try an unedited version and I’ll respect the series more

[@indighostt]

Can't agree enough

[@Fruity_Cutie]

Agreed! I feel like it's just people expressing their opinion instead of engaging with each other and having a conversation. I do like the concept and the questions, though! But I miss depth.

[@Fanofmusic106]

Jubilee is filled with people on the left they dont have one conservative on their team yet they're all about peoples differences makes no sense

[@scoobysk8r4evr]

@@Fanofmusic106 facts they admitted this themselves

[@Fanofmusic106]

@@scoobysk8r4evr yup. They'll include every race and ethnicity in the book to work for them but when it comes to political views they're all the same?

[@musicgirl2000]

Why isn’t anyone talking about how the woman in the wrestling team basically implied she got sexually assaulted at knife point? My heart goes out to her. Everyone’s talking about opening doors when there are much bigger issues that women face that need to be addressed.

[@geraltofrivia7456]

You know men are more abused and killed than women? Right sis? 🤔

[@musicgirl2000]

@@geraltofrivia7456 that maybe true but why do you feel the need to bring that up when i’m specifically discussing a women’s issue? I notice that anytime women’s issues are being discussed, someone always feels the need to bring up men’s issue. While men’s issues are equally as important, they shouldn’t be discussed to invalidate or take away from women’s issues being discussed. They can be discussed separately

[@braydonschick]

@@musicgirl2000 I think they’re just saying it isn’t just women’s problem it can be anyone’s problem. I don’t see a need for them to be discussed differently.

[@NN-cm2mh]

@@musicgirl2000 but the problem is that mens issues are not being discussed at all, especially not by women, while feminism forces men to just agree with Every outrages statement that feminists make about womens issues

[@maximusfogdall6907]

@@musicgirl2000 It's because men have this issue too. When you say we need to take about this "women issue" it invalidates men who have been assaulted. Alot of people can't accept that men face issues with violence which is why it needs to be said.

[@Emiliafs]

i mean if i guy wants to open the door for me I'll not complain but I don't expect this from them and especially don't stand there waiting for it. If i got to the door first I'll just open it 🤷

[@quentinm.williams9]

@Kir By omg ikr

[@elishaharman9891]

What if you get to the door at the same exact time?

[@Emiliafs]

@@elishaharman9891 then i guess whoever wants to open the door will open it

[@elishaharman9891]

Emília França I agree whoever is there first. And I think the nature of the relationship changes things to. Someone Idk might do the half hold thing you know keep it open but when my hand touches the door they let go, that’s normal. But a boyfriend/brother/father (someone who genuinely cares for me) I expect them to hold the door for me.

[@Emiliafs]

@@elishaharman9891 okay if that's how you feel, i never said it was wrong, you're just different from me

[@kevindavis3234]

"Generalization is always a problem." I don't disagree, but the irony of that statement is too amazing to not point out.

[@Adla.i]

@King White Knight I'm sorry what?

[@mackenzieb6497]

Thank you!

[@spano1723]

paradox! :)

[@gemstones2942]

This comment really deserves more likes lmao

[@officialomatu8766]

I don’t get it

[@tybros]

I'm wondering when "chivalry" replaced "courtesy". Because, I remember being taught to open doors for others as a form of courtesy.

[@cxx23]

Same here, man. I just open doors for absolutely anyone because it's respectful. When did this become a foreign concept? I honestly have no idea.

[@tybros]

@Emcstea that is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard of. You're insinuating that all men open doors for women as a way to sexually harass women. That is fundamentally absurd. I'm willing to bet that you don't even know the objective behind a pickup line. I'll give you a hint, it's not to get in a woman's panties. Your narrow-mindedness is only serving to further divide men and women. Not every man is trying to get you into bed with them. I know this sounds harsh, but life is harsh and trying to say that something courteous offends you actually offends me. Here is my question to you... How long are you going to let a bad experience you had dictate what you do in your life?

[@cxx23]

@Emcstea I had a hard time understanding your grammar but I understood the last line. So I'll just respond to that. "It's come to if I show you kindness and be grateful, it's a cue for you to demand something of me. This is how we got here." This shows me that you're equating some of your bad experiences with immature men to being the behavior of men in general. This is absolutely unrealistic. I open the door for everyone, and then I expect nothing back from them, and I generally never see them again. The point is to show kindness to others because we're all here together, and life is hard enough without yet another scowl in the streets. So we smile, and we do what we can for complete strangers. Your view on men as a whole is very skewed, and I genuinely hope that you're proven wrong in person someday. I know that comments on KZbin aren't going to do it for you. Much love and respect to both of you.

[@goodtimes8229]

@@cxx23 & tybros I have to say I am very impressed with your logical, and well spoken responses, considering that in most comment sections you would just find needless bickering and fallacies. Particularly the way you ended the comments was both thought provoking and respectful. This is how we should speak to each other, regardless of opinions and beliefs. Thank you for being an example.

[@trishalennex4630]

99% of the population do open doors... idk

[@raezasan]

as an Australian, I open the door for whoever is holding the beer

[@archieschwartz4204]

Same mate

[@Behemoth5455]

Underrated comment

[@damilolaogunjimi2546]

Ahhh A simple man 👊🏼

[@senluz9840]

this is so unfunny its like a negative joke

[@MN-ys2pe]

@@senluz9840 I found this pretty funny so no idea what you're on mate

[@ilenegoddard9113]

I’m a woman all for equality and the girl with the wavy loose curls who said “I don’t open my own doors when I’m with a man” made me want to SCREAM, like girl u ain’t a princess, open ur own freaking door

[@ESCL2004]

Exactly. Even princesses open their own doors

[@Jac-jy2ru]

Exactly you aren’t allergic to doors.

[@purpleshirtblueskirt9005]

Exactly

[@angelicdust6460]

What's wrong with a man showing chivalry...

[@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw]

lolah minai because some girls don’t appreciate and take it as microagression

[@salmanadam1561]

I don't feel this debate was productive at all. Most of it was based on personal issues.

[@connerwoods6912]

Salman Adam yep and no one challenged anyone on anything until the end where the women was saying no man understood her. A lot of these are good topics that never get deep enough or people don’t challenge the other persons controversial thoughts enough

[@starryhawks]

Salman Adam this talk was kinda disappointing

[@selened6215]

Salman Adam true and both parties never really made a good point.

[@amandapereira4246]

Although it might not have been the most productive debate, I do think that hearing a perspective that's different from yours is helpful in moving towards better comprehending one's world. It's hard to tease out "personal issues" from one's point of view, because like it or not, these personal issues shape our thinking.

[@kaitlyns1929]

The primary purpose of these videos to start a conversation not to debate. It is in the title, "Middle Ground." I would say with the title in mind that this video was fairly successful/productive.

[@jenniferpetersen7087]

"If I'm with a man, I don't open my own door." are you kidding me?

[@jenniferpetersen7087]

yeah, i’m surprised none of them were like “no, people open up the door for people. It’s called being polite assholes, Jesus.” Lol

[@samantharovai7323]

I always feel really awkward cuz idk what to do. Sometimes I open it, but if I'm standing right next to them, I hesitate lol. a lot of times I've opened the door myself, but I'm super inconsistent cuz I have no idea what to do lmfao

[@grandmashelton9228]

What's wrong with that

[@3103-q6z]

innit what a diva i think people should open doors for people

[@Anonymous-ve7pi]

O K It's pretentious and a sexist expectation. She also comes off as high maintenance. She needs to grow tf up and realise she should be polite and open doors for anyone. This isn't 1940.

[@maybe.yellow]

All of the names were so unique and then... "Hi everyone my name's _joe_ "

[@slimeball2.0]

My name joe

[@Drippydesi]

JOE MAMMA

[@maongimchen1598]

G I JOE

[@beemoviejazz317]

Joe nutts

[@user-dj4bu8bq5r]

Joe mama

[@agustinbaletti]

*85% of comments* "it's just a door"

[@daisydavis7270]

Agustín Baletti 100%

[@KUMDONER]

i havent seen the vid yet but it is only doors

[@jimmyp9105]

Yea. And people are thinking way to hard. The internet is the only place you will see complaints on opening a door. I thought everyone open doors for people. I mean if your already at the door, you open it. lol

[@ac5959]

Right that’s not the biggest issue in this video why everyone debating so hard on who opens a door

[@CoolCatzzzz]

Exactly. Why is everyone so fixated on the least significant thing here.

[@kelpy_w_]

The door answers kinda shocked me cuz while I do hold the door open for women, I don't see it as a gender role. It's just being a nice to people (both men and women). I don't see it as "I'm a guy so I HAVE to do this". Edit: Thanks for the Likes 😁

[@pineappleAR]

ADEX as a women, I agree with you. Men don’t have to open doors for women. Everyone should open doors for everyone.

[@PikaQPika]

It's because women like to feel like the boss Lol but naturally they aren't built to be dominant

[@Pieceofcuscus]

common courtesy!

[@yasirxoxo1209]

Strongly agree

[@Lubnaye]

I get that it could be seen as an act of politeness but in My personal experience, whenever I open the door for men they literally won't walk through until I do. Which is such a minor thing but I honestly feel really offended by it cause if you can open the door for me, let me do the same for you.

[@gevorgantonyan8417]

90% of comments: *DOORS ARE DOORS*

[@AyubuKK]

😂

[@random_channel7376]

haha :) lol

[@zelda7059]

That's a fact tho.

[@giasanders4799]

HAHAHHAHAHAH, yes

[@fukimeekrat]

Ah yes the floor is made of floor

[@JLchevz]

"In this place do you feel understood?" Such a beautiful question.

[@julianakoziol8427]

Men shouldn't open doors for women. People should open doors for people. Y'all need to get this equality thing right, lol

[@blxckecxp6492]

@Kir By they're not different. stop with these expectations, god.

[@MissLadyG99]

Kir By Exactly! We are equal is essence but different in function. It seems to me like there are who people want us to be gender neutral socially. As a woman that is attracted to men I want a man who is acting like a man (and interacting with me like one). I don't want some gender neutral behaving male (What do I need that for I can get that on my own or with friends?)

[@julianakoziol8427]

@Kir By Absolutely, men and woman are different, no doubt about it. And I love it when my boyfriend shows chivalry. But over all, I think people should stop leaving it to men to be respectful. We can all hold doors, we can all be helpful and respectful. But I totally get your point, especially about gender neutrality.

[@doni2322]

Kir By and what exactly are women expected to do to men, accept the flowers?

[@blxckecxp6492]

@@MissLadyG99 "behaving like a man" means that men are taught to behave a certain way because society wants them to do so and that's messed up. There's no gender neutral behavior, it's who people are, don't judge that. It's just an illusion, everyone's how they are, society just wants to label everything and that's just not possible.

[@jordanbradfordd6157]

Please do one with teens!!!!!! Its very important for young people to have a platform to share their voice, this would be perfect Edit: so glad to see all the responses ( good and bad ) Thank you all so much for getting this conversation started :)

[@dominicdannies7482]

youtube is overswarmed with useless teens their voice is everywhere and most of the time not well thought out (i am quite young btw)

[@BlindBloomer]

So they can all identify with 76. Genders and memes

[@alfonsocampos3662]

as a teenager I'd like to come out and say teenagers are mind numbingly retarded and do not deserve a voice lmao that's like saying babies deserve a voice

[@jordanbradfordd6157]

@@dominicdannies7482 I agree on some level to that statement however there are teens who are intelligent and passionate about politics, issues happening in the country, etc. who have a voice that deserves to be heard. Adults tend to write off things teens say when it comes to important issues because of their age and "inexperience" but a video where the teens that have strong opinions have the ability to show a large audience those opinions would be beneficial to all.

[@jordanbradfordd6157]

@@alfonsocampos3662 that's a really generalized statement, there are some teens that could care less about politics and bigger issues happening but there are some who are very educated and have things to say that shouldn't be pushed aside because of their age.

[@livenletlive4639]

I wish they had brought in people of different ages.These ones are in a similar age bracket,it'd be cool to hear out what ages 60 and 16 think.

[@alissonbate842]

I'm lost I'm found GREAT POINT. Would’ve been a lot less bias

[@livenletlive4639]

@@alissonbate842 True true

[@natashadavis2959]

I think that this video should require a larger group of diverse people. Diverse in age, cultural background, and from all over the US. This is a topic that, in certain circles, is in contention, under debate. It would be good to do a big group like they did with the dems vs repub.

[@124madcow]

Different countries and cultures as well

[@rsarin18]

Also would have been cool to see how gender stereotypes have evolved over the years.

[@tomstallard2855]

“Generalization is always problematic” Mans generalized generalization

[@Matt-sc6gg]

he should have said "generalization CAN be problematic"

[@justinnamuco9096]

Often problematic. Sometimes could be perfectly correct.

[@tramarthomas6105]

always problematic if theyre a rule you go by, while not allowing for exceptions. otherwise, generalizations are a human thing, but its also human to step outside of our instincts

[@ivylayne1649]

My mother raised me to open doors for men, women, and children if they are behind me and in close proximity walking into a store, restaurant, building. It’s just polite. But I do appreciate it when men hold doors open for me, it’s a gentleman thing to do. But I wouldn’t be standing around waiting for a man to hold it for me when I can do it myself.

[@interlude776]

preach

[@zehrak1311]

👏🏻

[@maddyt3137]

That’s exactly what I think

[@angiehernandez1564]

Am I the only one who thinks guys choose to hold doors for girls just to look at their butts? I’d honestly much rather open my own door or for others, and that’s just the part of me that would rather help people than be helped. If somebody holds it open for me boy or girl I usually go into a mini fight saying “no you go ahead, no you” lol but honestly you say your mother taught you. Its not just polite, it’s common sense. Like if somebody is right behind you or has a lot of things you might as well hold the door open. I just learned to hold doors open cuz I’m a decent human being but nobody would call me a gentlemen tho cuz that’s a masculine term. Saying that it’s a “gentlemen” thing to do, you almost label it as something a man should do and not women. I know that probably wasn’t your intention but that’s how I perceived it. I appreciate when ANYONE holds the door open for me because that’s just the KIND thing to do. I don’t appreciate it anymore just cuz a guy does it. I’d only appreciate it more if it was an old person cuz out of respect I should be holding the door for them for being older if anything.

[@PotterParry-np6vc]

Totally agree, if people want equality we have to be equal. This is why chivalry is so old fashioned to me, it’s typically a masculine thing to be chivalrous and to pay for the meal on a date, hold open doors, pull the chair out for the lady. When in fact if people want equality between the genders (as I do) women should split the cheque the man, hold open their own doors. Y’know I just find the fact women are “weaker” a load of rubbish.

[@kayutley1097]

Girl, you expect workplace equality but can't open a damn door.

[@MrStarManMario]

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 its true tho

[@crazeexkri]

This is an even even better comment than I was about to make! What a joke!

[@aimebita6410]

My opinion on this is that guys opening doors for women is a harmless cultural norm whereas the wage gap is more detrimental to women.

[@doni2322]

Aime Bita care to explain about the wage gap?

[@angelcrunknlive]

I understand that that was wrong, but those two comparisons don’t add up.

[@sanaatta4296]

Here in the UK, the one who gets to the door first opens it, passes through, and keeps their hand on it until the person behind gets hold of it. And that's beautifully respectful.

[@audreybrooks5217]

that's what usually happens here too, or if you're with someone they might hold the door for you.

[@seardoe]

Sana Atta That’s what we do here too they just petty in the vid lol

[@DirectorHMAN]

Most young women don't tho

[@qb-h792]

H MAN Yes they do.I have literally never seen a women wait for a random man to open the door for her.😂

[@knightsomega1420]

Same in the. U.S. but you can't do it with out being called sexist or pedo

[@alexandrakielim2844]

You can't say you want equality and then expect men to open doors, pay for dates and ask you out solely based on the fact that they're men. Equality is equality.

[@lalalanddddd7584]

this comment, yes

[@lilianswane4834]

You can if that is what youre ATTRACTED to in my opinion . You can choose your partner based on what you find attractive, and that can certainly be a factor. However expecting it from all men etc is obviously not equality.

[@arriannaniv]

Equality is more about how you should be treated in society as humans instead of your sex. So you get the same advantages. You get the same opportunities, and you can choose the type of roll you want instead of being forced into it. This plays into choosing your roll, and what you find attractive. You are not saying all men have to be X or they are bad. You are saying instead for me personally I require X out of a relationship, and am willing to seek out the people who enjoy that. They will probably also bring other more traditional rolls into their own relationship, but not believe that that is a structure that others are obligated to maintain.

[@lopezmoreirareincarlosenri4488]

Best comment ever

[@HehoiHehoi]

Women want chivalry. Not all, but the vast majority. It’s evolutionary.

[@karlchristianbognot1842]

This is why Automated Doors were invented.

[@allenawooten6536]

I don't know why but I find this to be so funny ❤️ 😂💀

[@keynss8748]

Damn 🤯😂😂😂

[@lifewitholga_]

😂

[@Charlotte-gx4ll]

Man: Oh lemme hold the door for you. Woman: Oh no let me! Robot: YOU FOOLISH MORTALS, I AM THE ONLY DOOR HOLDER

[@assassindancer914]

@@Charlotte-gx4ll LMAO, SAME THOUGH. Still waiting for the robot invasion...

[@mrfisher33]

Koree- I hate that women are always expected to do administrative work. Also Koree- if there’s a man near me I EXPECT that he will open the door for me. 🤦‍♂️

[@xvenacavax]

Caleb Fisher right? 🙄

[@jelenatomic6543]

Whel yes but women often expect that because women do all of the house work next to having a career

[@wil1741]

True

[@jelenatomic6543]

@Jacqueline Filo nahh

[@elanorbonta4985]

@Jacqueline Filo Lmao my exstepmother refuses to work or do any chores, my dad had to do all the cleaning so I agree. The stereotype works for all people tbh

[@vanessareynolds5428]

I think that everyone should hold open doors for everyone because it's the nice thing to do? Woman or Man, you should have manners...

[@adrianm5382]

True

[@interlude776]

Yeah, especially if someone's holding some heavy bags and needs help or something. It would be rude not to.

[@thevikingcrue952]

Manner!!!. Man.

[@emmab9545]

well said

[@joycewible8816]

I hold doors open for everyone, but my husband always holds doors open for me. Ten years later and he still opens my car door. I don't take it as him saying I'm incapable; I know he knows I am. It's like that one guy said, it's his way of being respectful and honoring me, which I think is beautiful. I think context is always important. Like how women from the west or north might get offended by my saying "ma'am" even though for me it's a sign of respect.

[@tjp0623]

As a male, I feel afraid that a woman will accuse me of being aggressive, rather sexually or physically, to her and everyone chooses to believe her without hearing me out since I’m a 6 foot 4 inch biracial guy.

[@tima8429]

Ikr when a woman accuses a man they take action quick but when it's the opposite they won't believe it. I'm sorry you go through that.

[@WenisincTM]

That rough buddy

[@WenisincTM]

Take this 🥚

[@estherx5859]

@@tima8429 In that situation when a women accuses a men for doing something. it’s really hard to tell who’s telling the truth or not. So we as humans just have to pick a side without knowing if what the women is saying is a 100% true. Which can suck really bad, but that’s just the way life works.

[@shreksboi2790]

@@estherx5859 What are you talking about? That does not make sense at all. You shouldn't just go around and pick the women's side, just "because". That is so sexist. Proof and evidence should always be shown, and at no time, should you just pick a side, just because she's a woman. This is the reason why a lot of men fear false accusations, because of people who just take sides randomly because they feel they're telling the "truth". This is for example what has happened to Johnny Depp, unfortunately.

[@artemisia770]

“If I’m with a male, I will not open the door.” Wtf? I’d just leave you standing there

[@dembonez19]

She probably meant, like, on a date. She was also kind of making a joke out of it. Koree was very reasonable throughout the rest of it, so I let that one pass. xD

[@aliharajli95]

Id str8 up open the door enough for me to go thru and close it behind me. I hate women who act like that. That lack of respect. Dont get me wrong for the general normal population, i always open the door. But the moment i see someone as cocky as that. Nah im good. I dont need to walk with u anymore

[@moshated2485]

dembonez19 no .

[@xafbxmoto269]

I like it when women expect that, it's a breathe of fresh air for me honestly. I'd rather have a girl stand there then look at me all riled up like I GOT IT.

[@princesspinhead4516]

Ali on a date with someone u find attractive okay

[@90sGamingGuy]

Jubilee, you guys should do a middle ground for introverts and extroverts!

[@muhammadaisha6710]

Yesss please!!!!!!!

[@Manesson]

Exactly

[@RosemaryTurner2002]

xxhalogamer22xx I would and I’m an introvert. It’d be fun to have a friendly argument with an extrovert.

[@ramonsilva2205]

Half the chairs would be empty.

[@xafbxmoto269]

What are those?

[@jamesthorogood1479]

Found it interesting that she had a problem with people at work expecting her to do the admin stuff because she was female, but she expected and demanded a male to open the door for her.

[@rosethatgrewfromconcrete3776]

James Thorogood the irony!!!!

[@K9Zangetsu]

Ridiculous

[@im6788]

James Thorogood exactly!

[@madmann1000]

She should consider herself lucky. I hardly consider myself lucky as man because I get to the the more physically demanding jobs. Having back issues and constant leg aches before 30 is not awesome.

[@XxFATfishREBORNxX]

F E M A L E E N T I T L E M E N T

[@odydem5639]

Something simple: U arrive first, you open the door U see someone, you respect them U meet someone, wait to trust them And lastly YOU TREAT EVERYONE EQUALLY NO MATTER THE GENDER IT'S JUST COMMON SENSE

[@antonscorner]

this should have more likes

[@vstro_i]

Underrated comment

[@BananaEnvyPodcast]

The concept of holding doors open for women came from Medieval times where doors were very heavy so the strong men had to open them and the women physically couldn’t. Edit: Y’all this is just what my Brit Lit prof taught us 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@simonk.4338]

Why "strong men"? Are you trying to say men weren't strong back then?

[@eloydthegawd5548]

Simon K. Are you being sarcastic?

[@lave9842]

All i think about when it comes to the whole door situation is like, its a door its something you need to open or close, just do it. Why get into something that is so easy to just go through (literally)

[@jayark1]

😂😂 really?!

[@h3llboyyy407]

@@lave9842 ikr and although I started to like the girl in the video in the beginning she said she wouldn't even go through one if there was a guy next to her 🤣

[@kamikazekoenful]

Its so frustrating when people dont actually answer the question that was asked, but instead reshape the question in such a way that they can talk about a set of beliefs which they already had. People are always so eager to convince others of their own beliefs but rarely think, then actually process a question and thén answer.

[@TheGoldenStardust]

Koen van der Post True I noticed that too. Since I watch these series I try to listen more when I discuss with people.

[@skyz6239]

ya like the woman with the afro

[@KIDSOUL777]

Brett

[@sakimundas208]

True !

[@DrDolan2000]

I find it enraging

[@gordonhenderson9592]

"Generalisations are always problematic" That... sir... is a generalisation. Check mate

[@talaalshafie]

damn

[@filthyankle-crosser9058]

Well played

[@momodoucamara8087]

👏👏👏

[@underratedszn6549]

_ _ mind blown 🤯

[@steel0koala]

"Only a Sith deals in absolutes!"

[@Max-Rtpmp]

At the "disadvantage of having my gender" every one should've stand up Theirs advantages and disadvantages everywhere for every thing

[@Just_a_Lad]

I'm a white men and gosh there are so many disatvantages in my life I don't know where to start, but if I'm listening to leftists, minorities and feminists I'm perfectly fine and privileged.

[@blackpantherepic3104]

except for one thing that one thing is minecarft

[@suzanne2]

"You don't know how scary you men can be. You never have to think that you could get killed." Black guy: "you don't know the women in my family."

[@gachaboywithafinger7840]

As a black man, I find this funny and 100% accurate

[@BenLewXI]

Xx REAPER_KNIGHT xX facts, I’d fight any man before I fight my sister or moms. They’d murk me

[@empirenow6068]

Xx REAPER_KNIGHT xX as a white man, I will agree with the black man

[@goodtimes8229]

lmao yass

[@Lordsetsunia]

The fatality rate of men being killed here in America is far beyond that of any female. People generally have to sympathy for men to begin with.

[@maddiejoyner1029]

yikes at the “men should hold the door open for women” question..... all genders should hold the door open for each other, there should not ever be an expectation for only men to hold open a door for someone. That’s crazy people think like that imo.

[@boredmoodlet3611]

Maddie Joyner when I was around the age of 9 to 12 I would literally wait for people to come so I could open the door for them even when I was late I just thought that was polite to do even tho my mom did get mad at me for doing that (I’m a girl btw)

[@abbacadaver]

Bored Moodlet I do that too! I will do it in crowds, for ten minutes if I can help someone out just a bit.

[@straightblackgirl]

I feel like that's the question the question the black woman with curly was answering. She said chivalry is not a good thing and we should respect people in general, I think if they let her continue she may have said that everyone should the door for everyone. That's just my thoughts maybe I'm wrong.

[@hassanmohamud3096]

Straight Black Girl yeah you are wrong. The black girl with the Afro was coming at men strong. Even the other black girl had to ask her about “are you talking about personal or society issues”. The black girl was a feminist cause she was hating on us. Even the men were looking at here weirdly. She’s just a hater. I wonder what here husband goes through each day.

[@maxmikaelson]

@William NO THEY DON'T

[@elusivids8155]

i liked everything the girl in the blue said minus the door thing. sorry but men don’t owe us anything. we can open our own doors. i understand it’s a thing of “respect” for women, but if you’re at the door first, open the damn thing 😩

[@SebastianStephanStan]

Gentleman

[@MissLadyG99]

Fortricity Exactly, that is what a gentleman does and a lady recognizes a gentleman when he shows chivarly, and she isn't itimated by him or his actions.

[@abigailhabtehanes5798]

cassidy’s edits they actually owe us everything

[@SapienSafari]

She’s a queen. I’d open the door and several other things for her.

[@DaveEd2499.]

@@abigailhabtehanes5798 What exactly do we owe you?

[@dgkboarding123]

Woman: "If I'm with a male, I don't open doors. I'll just stand there." People: But you don't like the traditional masculine/feminine rolls? lol

[@shawncasey4331]

Roles

[@dansheshe8039]

They dont care about gender roles when it helps them but when gender roles is a negative that's when they care

[@Good-pq9kf]

I would be like: "are you going or not because I want to get out of here"

[@englishmuffin7]

@@dansheshe8039 No truer words

[@Mercel29]

@@englishmuffin7 what a garbage comment

[@rea8585]

Luckily there are a lot more good men and good women than there are "bad" ones, even if the media tend to talk just about the negative experiences. Then again, I am lucky enough to be surrounded by safe and respectful men in my life.

[@michaelbishop3439]

👍👍👍👍👍

[@miminotbovered2857]

Depends where you live..

[@AmaraOkpechi]

The Hyperbole No, we’d still be equal or @ war... Both sides are armed.

[@thenonstopgamer3942]

@@AmaraOkpechi Men created almost every usefull thing we have to date. If we ended up in war then women would sex dolls for the men.

[@thevillagehiddeninthehood1573]

Quick Fix - Thought Provoking Videos we tend to say “well there are a lot of good people more then bad” but do we really know that?As humans we have the same organs and skin but what’s different is our mindset and thought process we don’t know what each other are thinking.

[@MrMusicdot]

Why is emotion only associated with sadness? Men aren't emotional? Have you ever seen us watch sports or even play video games. Tons of emotions

[@sxm2009]

MrMusicdot oh yeah true true

[@LoreEclectic]

In studies girls are often able to use more words to describe emotions for everything except for anger

[@AlgoGuardianFX]

Cod 4 flashbacks intensifies ;-;

[@orcassio17]

Those are good emotions though.

[@eayuk82]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@girlwiththepurplepen]

*men and women aren't the same but they are equal!*

[@toolshedbootygoon1677]

justtammi if they aren’t the same how are they equal

[@Lenny-ue8hk]

@@toolshedbootygoon1677 they are physically and mentally different but they have equal rights, etc. You treat everyone equally even though they are all different people.

[@toolshedbootygoon1677]

Lenny Lynch I agree, it just sounded different to me how they said it.

[@emperorakai3275]

@@toolshedbootygoon1677 I can give you a quick explanation, heaven creates everyone equal but on different levels, for example a leader and a farmer are equal.. They don't hold the same responsibility but each was given enough "ability" compared to his "responsibility" the same goes for men and women, men are given more physical power, more mental stability meaning they have more responsibility than women as providers and protectors, think of it as numbers.. Men are like 3 and women are like 1, 3 alone is bigger than 1... But 3/3 = 1/1

[@tmurphy9869]

@@emperorakai3275 heaven no is real tho

[@imazanjani2330]

can we just admit that there’s more difference emotionally from person to person then gender to gender.

[@selku3973]

Agreed

[@aintthatcommon]

If that is true, why do XYwomen act so feminine?

[@williamhowardtaft9514]

Wait so every individual is different? Huh. What a concept.

[@slothful2039]

I know right?! I had no idea that humans were individuals. Shocking.

[@CozyBoiChris]

This cannot be true omg

[@zeddy2284]

lol lol lol

[@stanleyyelnats4524]

Groundbreaking!

[@obibraxton2232]

Lmaooo is there any point watching this video lol ? Peepin comments before watching to see any revelations

[@iexist1738]

Just because a man opens a door for a woman doesn't mean he thinks it's because they're unable to. Everyone can open a door. He's just being a gentleman. Don't overanalyze an act of kindness.

[@caitfoster570]

I totally agree. Like what she's saying is the history of it, but to think that a man would be acting from that history and thinking of it is completely absurd! I'm all for acts of kindness from people of whatever gender.

[@thatgirlreacts5465]

Izzy May Be Great well, I dont want an act of kindness that only exists based on my gender. I want an unconditional act of kindness.

[@lanelmichaels1623]

Right, the old Western world expectations are so proper compared to modern day America , because opening a door for women "is oppression"

[@casey7128]

Yeah overreaching hard on that one

[@BethanyBell]

i understand their point ... i think it just depends on the situation and person tbh

[@Carmen-nn1hi]

Whoever gets to the door first opens it for whoever is behind them...

[@tyroneloki5131]

not true, what if the person first to the door is holding the groceries....case to case basis friend :D

[@rabiscott8178]

@@tyroneloki5131 Then if a man is holding the groceries, the woman (in a straigth couple) should open the door for him. And a man (in a gay couple) should do the same. And he should do it by himself if he's alone. I think that cover some cases.

[@tyroneloki5131]

@@rabiscott8178 other cases may be, that an elderly person is at the door fist, or disabled.

[@rabiscott8178]

@@tyroneloki5131 Completly true and the gender of that person is not a thing to take in consideration, and it should be common sense (if you recieved the education needed to be part of a society) that people who needs help should recieved it. A pregnant woman should have a sit in a bus as much as a man that recieved an operation for his legs. (as much as there is any sit taken by people that doesn't need it)

[@ss5187]

@Candyce Miller you're not holding a door open to get a thank you. I mean yes saying thank you is polite but if they dont, Them not saying thank you says more about them and you holding the door says more about you. YOU should just want to be a nice polite person regardless of how anyone else acts. What they say/do shouldn't be a contributing factor for what you do. I don't feel like I NEED someone to hold the door for me, but I do feel the NEED to be a polite person and hold the door open for ppl. If everyone was like that, we'd be Canadian lol

[@spicy_ctrlo7132]

“There are disadvantages to my gender” Me a woman: when camping it’s hard to pee in the woods.. Why is that my first thought lmao

[@nadirwoodson9321]

well either way both genders can piss in a cup and call it lemonade

[@nadirwoodson9321]

@Amara Ezeoke I still don't see a down side

[@Luingi]

Water gun on a budget

[@caiotorres6156]

lol

[@vincentminarelli3217]

@@nadirwoodson9321 warm tea

[@stevenfoster9402]

I hate that women's mentality of "Oh i'm a woman so I don't touch the door. I'll stand there and wait for the man to come open it for me." Like you really think you're this great prize the man should only be so lucky to get. What if a man said "Oh i'm a man so I don't touch the stove. I'll sit there and wait for the woman to come and cook for me." That woman would have lost her mind.

[@knowledgebecausebooks7012]

^^^I had this exact thought as soon as she said it. The hypocrisy is cringe inducing

[@mela3889]

Perfect analogy lol

[@purgatoryknight4751]

I'm not agreeing with that she said but she is only saying that she does that if she is with a man meaning if she is on a date with him or if she's just hanging out with a male friend, she says like 2 seconds after that she'll hold the door for anyone if she's by herself or with a female but if she's WITH a male she knows she won't open the door

[@marcellacorrales3916]

Woman here!! I couldn’t stand that comment that lady made. That was pathetic.

[@alaskayoung1988]

The last one actually happens a lot, way more than the first one in fact but since It doesn't affect you, you ignore it.

[@nevinbutler3790]

I wish they would have talked about double standards more.

[@Mocha265]

True

[@yanndylan2239]

I would have liked them to talk about the double standards when it comes to domestic violence or issues like bias towards women in the justice system despite the fact that the system should be impartial

[@puppy9326]

@@yanndylan2239 I was waiting for that this whole time and it was never brought up

[@xgullafter9590]

Meninists be like

[@yanndylan2239]

@@xgullafter9590 a true feminist who aspires for gender equality doesn't focus on just female issues, that's what gender EQUALITY means.

[@Ash-qu7ve]

Men and women are different, yet equal (in value). It’s really not rocket science.

[@DominiqueKooper666]

I agree. there are different social norms, our bodies are different, we have different hormones.. there are a lot of differences, but I do think we all are equally important regardless of gender or sex.

[@Ash-qu7ve]

Dominique Kooper Hit the nail on the head.

[@DTreatz]

That's debatable.

[@karlhier6640]

@@DTreatz thank youuuu

[@Ash-qu7ve]

Dtreatz Not the fundamental science. Maybe gender roles and societal norms, but the biological concept that they are different is fact. Take the XY and XX chromosomes for example.

[@xijinping3317]

I'm shocked the men didn't bring up the unfair divorce laws

[@ctg5679]

Same here or even mention seen as a threat for literally being a man

[@xijinping3317]

@@roisincrowe1489 okay what's the misconception then

[@joshuagraham9770]

@@roisincrowe1489 there's no misconception

[@vidzpk5144]

@@roisincrowe1489 They get away with huge alimonies

[@xijinping3317]

@@roisincrowe1489 lol i was talking about alimony and at points child support

[@14jc47]

No man is gonna be thinking the woman they are with isn't capable of opening a door, it's just a person being kind to another person, regardless of gender.

[@whatzittooyah]

Right. I never thought men thought that way. It’s a nice gesture. I’m not complaining. I love masculinity. When they say harassment, rape, and others are toxic masculinity. It’s not masculinity at all lol. Cause some women participate as well in that. It’s toxic behavior

[@gaj30]

@@whatzittooyah Exactly. They're just doing a nice thing. No guy is thinking I'm going to open this door for this woman because she's inferior to me and cannot open the door on her own lmao

[@hollowkid97]

@Kir By kirby, men aren't your personal assistants. You can open the door

[@honeyispure]

They're not saying that modern men think that way {tho some men do in this day and age) they're saying it stems from that concept.

[@everettfanor1989]

The problem is women are NOT kind and want men to do everything like were slaves and servants

[@NYC1E1]

I literally didn't learn anything from this.

[@Liam-fs5fe]

NYC1E1 they had very shallow insight and not a lot of scientific points so I agree

[@suzystone244]

Ditto ( Rolling eyes in slow motion ) By the way. Chivalry IS NOT DEAD.

[@AP-Design]

I agree. They said things most reasonable people would either already know or suspect from casual observation. And yes, most of the young people on these Middle Grounds speak in fillers, platitudes and buzzwords. Not sure why. But I don't mind as long as the overall conversations get to some depth and substance. Sometimes I wonder if these panels are less about who they pick and more about if they need to be longer and with more "statements" given to the participants.

[@orestis9575]

Me neither!!!XD

[@brentherman7393]

@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw noo just people from cal

[@ayantubedaso3041]

CAN YOU GUYS DO ONE WITH JUST TEENS I would love to hear my age groups thoughts

[@elijahelam8658]

Agreed that would be so cool

[@shahhedabuhamdeh5849]

Ayantu Bedaso I AGREE I personally would LOVE to share my voice and opinions on something like this, and even learn things from it too!

[@PuckishAngeI]

+

[@Ghostie03]

teens VS adults or students VS teachers could be cool

[@erinpamela377]

Ayantu Bedaso I think it would be great but I think it should be teens vs. parents

[@navyal7237]

Brett : *hates men* Derrick : Our battle will be legendary

[@dr.peanutsheesh6176]

Noice

[@dr.peanutsheesh6176]

Now i choose pokemon! Derrick-mon!

[@RatsAreCubes]

@@dr.peanutsheesh6176 I CHOOSE POKEMON BRETT

[@imjustjohn2223]

Disadvantages for men: -longer sentences for the same crime -most likely to lose custody of child -being drafted into war -more likely to commit suicide or go homeless

[@ryanconnor9461]

wit the whole men commit suicide more thing its not that men try more (atleast not by a huge amount) its just that when men do it theyre more likely to hang themselves or jump of building where as women are more likely to try overdose which has a much lower fatality rates.

[@starr7093]

Some of those disadvantages men have are due to sexism towards women like that women are weaker and not as smart and reliable or are better suited at home. Most of the problems men face in society are due to sexist ideas society has about women. Men and women have different and similar struggles but they stem from the same idea. 😣

[@hawleyolsen170]

Higher risk of autism, schizophrenia, and heart disease. Higher risk of substance abuse and antisocial disorders. Have fewer close relationships than women, on average, so are more likely to lack social support. Fewer resources available in case of domestic abuse or sexual abuse.

[@swarnima8555]

A lot of disadvantages for men result from the system of patriarchy, we fail to realise that patriarchy as a system negatively affects not just women but also negatively affects men in certain ways -losing custody of child cause childcare is considered to be a 'feminine' quality/responsibility -drafted into war cause women are considered to be too weak to fight in a war and men are supposed to be the protectors and providers in a patriarchy etc.

[@starr7093]

@@swarnima8555 exactly.. THANK YOUU

[@jailaalexis8535]

Do 2 genders believers v.s more than 2 genders believers please

[@5xmasterx548]

That could get toxic but it would be awesome

[@devinsibley1684]

*Ben Shapiro has entered the chat*

[@jahcash]

Devin Sibley 😂😂 it would go south if he came he’d hurt a lot of feelings

[@devinsibley1684]

@@jahcash he be spittin fax tho

[@bitchniggaswag2089]

i dont get why people say gender instead of sex

[@cowoljarwoff]

Koree: **implies that men are privileged** Also Koree: **won't open doors for herself because she considers it something she's owed as a woman**

[@ChiChi-ns2ik]

Best way to put it👌

[@DarrickVino]

They think their are supposed to be treated as superior to all men

[@3103-q6z]

Darrick Vino no they don’t, they’re feminists. feminists strive for equality. it’s literally on the definition

[@pepps779]

@@3103-q6z Beyond feminists, I have yet to meet anyone that perceives current feminism as a movement seeking equality.

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

Not the same, intel

[@joemama425]

The first line said in the video "I don't think men realize how scary they are." As a man, more specifically, a large, muscular, straight, white man, I ALWAYS try to watch what I say or do to make sure to not get called out as something else. Even as a young guy, just turned 15, I've always felt terrible and been really self-conscious about what I say or do in order to not be able to offend or hurt anyone.

[@tamtamr9081]

exactly and thats an unfair way for you to live .. her statement was horrible

[@rilexlyes8758]

ty for doing that sorry

[@rilexlyes8758]

@@tamtamr9081 HER STATEMENT WAS NOT HORRIBLE?? It’s a fact. Women have every right to be scared of men as long as they don’t go up to random men and say your a rapist go jump off a bridge cuz u scare me like tf? You cannot trust anyone and she was 100% right

[@rilexlyes8758]

@@tamtamr9081 her statement was not horrible she has the right to be honest and be scared

[@agni8777]

@@rilexlyes8758 saying that men are scary is different from saying that she is scared of men, her statement was horrible.

[@war.neverchanges]

“I do not open the door for myself” ... ok so u can stay outside withe the flies

[@shumob4901]

😂

[@divine5027]

U are a total badass

[@kvaldez46]

@@divine5027 how are the flies?

[@director6799]

@@kvaldez46 badass is a good thing

[@anonymouslyme8193]

That's what I was thinking who thinks that 😂

[@fay10999]

I was disappointed with these conversations, it felt incomplete.

[@olirayner5129]

FayJ Jama same. Was really lacking compared to other episodes

[@JamalFreeman]

That is every episode.

[@UnusualAI_]

Ya

[@crosses101]

They're trying to compact an almost infinite conversation into 14mins... Need I say more?

[@JamalFreeman]

@@robinwulei9019 I already stopped watching this channel. They have good concepts, but never seem to go in dept. Maybe I will give them another chance one day.

[@ozpin707]

Whoever is there first, opens the door. If someone has their hands full, open the door.

[@boa9557]

Also if there elderly

[@ozpin707]

Kir By no?? And I’m not fifteen, by the way. If your sitting here talking about a “crush” I think you’d be the younger one here.. opening a door does not make you a man, just a normal person

[@ozpin707]

Kir By You’re right, it’s just polite. *For both genders* being polite isn’t just eliminated from women. It’s a two way street. Beta females and beta males exist.

[@ozpin707]

Kir By and? your feelings have nothing to do with a broad subject, you are one in 9 billion people.

[@gustavogonzalez5815]

Whomever

[@kateycelli4618]

farhoud looks like the type of person you could tell anything to in just the way that he was listening and reassuring everyone

[@youtubevoice1050]

Honestly, this episode was disappointing. We heard next to nothing interesting from the male perspective. And nobody dares to disagree much. These people were way too similar overall, so the discussion was not very productive.

[@mdyiya]

KZbinVoice If one guy was 100% real, the woman would’ve gotten mad and called him sexist immediately.

[@brandonford5993]

That's kind of the idea, we're not really allowed to be blunt and forthright without coming off as aggressive, ruining people's "safe space". Nobody really wants our perspective, they just want us to agree or make things easily digestible

[@mdyiya]

Letty Martyr When you say, “our perspective”, do you mean for the guys or women?

[@brandonford5993]

I mean guys in this particular statement.

[@KayleaFleming]

@@brandonford5993 the point of these videos is to try to understand others and find common ground and things we agree on. You've missed the point if you're more concerned about 'not being allowed to be blunt' more than you are being reasonable. Too many people confuse 'omg safe space' with respect.

[@Belx2]

I like the Farhoud guy. He seems very open-minded and mature. He's very careful with his words at the same time doesn't shy away from trying to ask open ended questions.

[@ZTheLastViking]

That's interesting. When I listen to him instead of open minded and mature I get overly soft and submissive. The very careful with his words thing looks like weakness to me and he seems not to be very comfortable with being expected to be masculine. Not trying to oppose you its just interesting comparing these notes from different view points

[@SubaIicious]

@@hwfq34fajw9foiffawdiufhuaiwfhw I'm with anon on this, dafuq was just said? 🙃

[@asherikamichaela8425]

I think his profession as a writer/director might have something to do with that. As a fellow writer, I often find myself carefully considering how things are worded.

[@SkyeLuin]

@@ZTheLastViking Honestly this statement does in a way exemplify part of the point of how many men are too often socially prohibited from many behaviors due to fear of being demeaned as submissive or soft, which I think has resulted in simply not being abrasive considered soft. This to me is an issue that does deserve some thought.

[@ZTheLastViking]

@@markus4698 The thing is people are different. We all grew up with different people and different situations so of course we are not gonna see the same in people. I'm not saying he's not supposed to be that way I just found it interesting how different my first impression was I wasn't trying to be mean either

[@ppabon8854]

Students vs. Teachers

[@catherinedurant7806]

omg yes

[@mister.mediocre]

Guns 😎

[@jlb4470]

Students: I feel- Teacher: Are you talking back? Detention.

[@erikagipson8076]

Pablo Pabon OMG yessss

[@kaylagoldyyy7043]

Yass

[@hbm9144]

I didn't even know opening doors was an act of chivalry in USA. The person closest to the door holds it open for everyone.

[@jacksongreythelatterdaysai916]

yeah lol

[@Bennahr_Fett]

You just won 10 million dollars

[@nakaylawade9653]

It's not really a thing anymore most ppl just hold the door open if they're the fist there that chick is trippin

[@alexa-jd8ws]

we’re just overly obsessed with gender and race

[@b.alexander6200]

Thank you. And I feel that focusing on these aspects of humanity only strengthens the lines between us.

[@___zeke___7581]

Yes, yes we are

[@hosseinostadzadeh1730]

Are you reading my mind brother?!

[@fmadiva]

Maybe if ppl stop getting hurt by society for being born in a certain way we can move on Karen.

[@fightmefatima992]

@@fmadiva Is this a transphobic comment or? I'm curious.

[@caithurlee166]

the door thing is a perfect example of overthinking

[@candlejenner5558]

the women was speaking mad truth tho when she was saying it translates into society thinking women arent capable. Its a prime example of gender roles.

[@MissLadyG99]

I agree that it was definitely overthought. I believe some women have been so hurt by men that they view any sign of chivalry as a man asserting his dominance over them.

[@caithurlee166]

MissLadyG99 I get that in a way, I do, I understand that some girls have been through some terrible sht at the hands of men, but at the same time, it’s opening a door...

[@MissLadyG99]

Cait Hurlee I agree with you.

[@lilianawood9957]

I was wondering if they meant actually/physically opening doors or metaphorically, as in like doors in society and opportunities.

[@ELP1125]

Miss Koree was proud to tell people she doesn’t open her own doors. Like girl you ain’t special, you got arms, you better open that door, TF?! 🙄

[@quentinm.williams9]

she really thought she did something there LOL

[@Jstvcks]

I’m literally cringed when she said that who tf she thinks she is this type of women stay away from them cause you never know what’s up 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️Eric P

[@belleame4671]

And!!

[@lessthan1minutevids851]

She did say she opens doors, It was just if she was with a significant other. Get ur facts straight bucko

[@whatzittooyah]

That’s what they wanted. Now they don’t lol

[@annalenhart751]

I once dated a guy who did all the typical "chivalrous" stuff - opening doors, pulling out seats, offering jacket, etc. But then he was always late to pick me up, got annoyed if I wasn't available to take his calls, and mansplained everything to me. From his perspective, he was very respectful to me because he did all the respectful, chivalrous things. But from my perspective, he didn't respect my time, my needs, or my intelligence. I definitely prefer men who respect me as a person and not as a little woman who needs doors opened for her.

[@wut490]

When we're talking about being "chivalrous", it means being a gentleman. And being annoyed because he didn't get what he want, is not chivalrous.

[@annalenhart751]

Update: The guy just came out as gay. (He was deeply closeted because he's from a very religious culture). He was just going through the act of dating women because he thought that was what he was "supposed" to do, but his heart clearly wasn't in it.

[@oldperson6920]

@@annalenhart751 oh damn

[@danlamprich4874]

"Generalization is ALWAYS problematic" Anyone else see the contradiction?

[@Crick1952]

Only a Sith deals in absolutes

[@stanleyyelnats4524]

Big time.

[@interlude776]

damn ok

[@jonnybgoode7742]

@@Crick1952 lol was hoping someone would comment this

[@Xplreli]

Whats the contridiction?

[@nataliemaria2266]

You guys have to do pro vaccination and anti vaccination. I’d watch the hell out of that.

[@noorduha257]

but seriously they should choose the right or fitting people for the debate

[@sociallyineptspider-man2366]

They should get the guys from ASAP science to be in the video they'd prove the anti vaxxers wrong In a second 😂😂😂

[@asideofpickles574]

@@sociallyineptspider-man2366 what do you mean "wrong?" I have never been vaccinated. While it can be helpful, some people can be hurt by it. My friend named Ali suffered an allergic reaction from a vaccination and it damaged both her eyesight and hearing. I will not allow myself or my children to be vaccinated until they do more testing (because there is barely any testing and research on vaccinations) and tests to see if you're allergic or not before they give it to you. It can prevent any suffering. My family has rarely been sick and we are all not vaccinated. I've never had the flu in my life. Wash your hands, keep your hands clean. You don't have to pump your body full of chemicals to force your body to do an action it has already been designed to do.

[@maanikakalra8217]

Hey...what's pro and anti vaccination? I've heard this a lot of times but don't really understand. Could you please explain?

[@asideofpickles574]

@@maanikakalra8217 People who are pro-vaccination support vaccinations and people who are anti-vaccination do not.

[@str3wbs319]

2 things: - Everybody should hold the door for everybody. - joe is a king

[@ros.an.]

Kinda unrelated but why does everyone in this series have sick jobs

[@ih9799]

lol bc they all live in LA

[@hassan12372]

taekookies she works in a hardware store

[@melopsicodelia]

I don't see it that way. anyone can work in the film industry, just film something, or "act" they are just really clever using different words for common jobs.

[@itsyaboi7417]

Labour O’Lanna sick!

[@linaminaya]

ikr they could all get together and make a movie or something

[@evelinakritsotaki1968]

“It’s important to have both - femininity and masculinity - in yourself” - that touched me deep

[@snooki5667]

a disadvantage of being a woman is having ur period did they forget that

[@madamehearse9379]

Right

[@lizmiller2543]

Literally what I was thinking 😂 I would have sat down been like PERIODS

[@peytonp2017]

@@lizmiller2543 me too lol

[@thevelvetdead3357]

Not just that but having those yearly exams to get out Pap smears and breast exams and if our hormones are not working correctly , the risks we have of getting cancer.

[@evada4144]

Cats do not have a cycle because the ovulation is induced by sex. BUT male cats have spikes on their penis that are the inducing factor so....

[@Player-kq6fd]

I'm a kid I open doors for man and woman just to be nice 😌 I don't care about gender I help anyone

[@aubreyclarke4809]

I was shocked on the opening the door question. As a woman, I don't think I would've gone up and I'm watching with my best friend, a man, and he just laughed and was like, "Nope!"

[@julkagujska4986]

Splasher Clarent :) manners depend on the place you live.

[@williameblen3474]

I'm fighting the urge to purposefully close doors behind me when I go through now.

[@fluffynoses]

UGH the "door opening" question pissed me off so much. It probably should not have, but it just angered me

[@catherinedurant7806]

Why, out of curiosity? Do you disagree?

[@777shanae]

and that one girl who was like "if I have a man with me, I'll wait for him to open it" like that's just so conceited and pathetic??? get it together

[@deeplyconfused13]

@@777shanae I agree. It would never occur to me to WAIT for the man to open the door. Seriously, why would I need that? I got places to be. Demanding that comes across as arrogant and weird.

[@wonderwomangamer5196]

It’s a traditional thing some people teach their boys how to treat other women politely universally because it’s not just one thing that occurs just here( in the USA) many ethnicities and cultures practice chivalry

[@deeplyconfused13]

@@wonderwomangamer5196 But that was the lady's point, this tradition came from a time and a mindset that thought women were inherently fragile, delicate, needing protection and help. That is why it started. I know men now thinking they're just being polite, and that's totally understandable, but in some ways it feeds into out dated ideas. It's different if you see a lady struggling with a very heavy suitcase, she might genuinely need help. But women can open doors. I think we should hold the door open for anyone if you want to be polite :)

[@curlyq6137]

Masculine isn’t always male and feminine isn’t always female. There are masculine females and feminine males in the world. Even if a person is primarily one or the other, everyone is a mixture of masculine and feminine traits.

[@DTreatz]

Because of hormone representation and balance/imbalance of it, some genetics too, but just because you have exceptions, doesn't mean it changes the rule. Masculine = male, feminine = female, there is a reason they're aligned.

[@bdale5231]

@@DTreatz PEOPLE. It's people. They are, and fit, wherever they fit (if they must 'fit' somewhere)

[@DTreatz]

@@bdale5231 They do, _naturally_ , and consistently, it's observable and in many cases for many reasons preferable, and when they don't, disastrous.

[@gusl2708]

I don’t care if some is a masculine males or females or a feminine female but most feminine males bug me in some way and feminine male doesn’t mean gay

[@jameshuang2677]

@@gusl2708 well if you suck at your job you may have trouble getting work, same goes for the gender roles.

[@n9583]

I have been paralyzed for 20 years and this video gave me the strength to stand up and jump out of my window

[@ruirodrigues3596]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@austinhawkins8201]

Yo!!!😂

[@angriboi]

omg nice!! xD

[@leeminhyung167]

Canadian: We just hold the doors open cause it’s polite.

[@raicarroceralopez6430]

Same in Ireland

[@cxx23]

Same here. I'm in the U.S. It's just respectful, and I do it regardless of their sex, age, looks, race, etc. I used to think it was normal. I guess not.

[@smallblueangel]

Same in Germany

[@cxx23]

@Doffy Rob Everyone does not do it, that's why we're commenting. We thought everyone did, but we were proven wrong. You weren't paying attention. Nobody thinks they're special here. Nice projection.

[@XBoxwolf]

Pas au Québec. Québec girls would literally go to a different door when I opened it for them and I hold the door open for anyone that is behind me.

[@tindraoz]

Men should not open doors for women, we should do it for each other no matter what the gender. Chivalry is for men and women! Edit: I’m just saying we’re all equal and the whole men and women door thing is such a stereotype

[@damiengermosen5367]

That's just contradictory right there, you say we shouldn't open doors for women then you say we should? It would be better if you said not open doors for *only* women

[@damiengermosen5367]

@@davidd5573 Not really, just showing the contradictory

[@jarenc2048]

Oh gawd. 🙄

[@uthmanhaque734]

I love how Koree says that a disadvantage is that people automatically give her certain job because she is a women, then continues to talk about how she does not open her own doors when a male is present. 🤣🤣😂

[@izzy.s101]

The way that lady was like I wAnT eVeRyOnE tO kNoW that I dont open doors if I'm with a man

[@chaddy9303]

Well she said it was how she was raised

[@Cloroxbleach-bt8jh]

HOLDING👏 THE👏 DOOR👏 IS👏 POLITE👏 HE IS NOT👏👏👏👏 DEGRADING YOU BY BEING POLITE👏👏

[@inkeriananas]

It is polite to hold the door (for everyone) but if you're holding the door for women just because of their gender, it gets complicated.

[@MrZxcvbnm22]

@@inkeriananas For men, women are the why to live. Life without women is worthless. So, they treat women differently than men. Maybe, just maybe, thats because men are attracted to women. They want to have sex .

[@hasnoname630]

Exactly. I live in Québec (Canada) and here holding the door for a person is just being polite, no matter what gender you are.

[@tyroneloki5131]

amen

[@fortzprod.8096]

emmainkeri Women are more respected by men, you should be happy that you are already respected for your gender whereas men have to earn respect

[@simplyleo2736]

I hold the door for a guy, because chances are they do it all the time and never get the favor returned. Also I beat them to the door. *"I am speed."*

[@break1146]

I'm only seeing this now, but this made me smile. Let's make it a race and I'll be speeder lol.

[@papphase860]

" *YOU ARE AWESOME* "

[@maxdeborde6772]

Lol i am speed

[@Morgan-bz7du]

This is so me

[@TaeyxBlack]

thanks!

[@jinx_c]

men and women are not the same. men and men are not the same, women and women are not the same. we are all different.

[@SubscriptionUnboxing]

I enjoyed listening to Farhoud's views. He has a very calming presence and seemed like an enlightened person.

[@jessv.9354]

I like holding the door and having the door held for me. It’s nice to be acknowledged and acknowledge others in a positive way :)