Therapist Reacts To: Right Where You Left Me by Taylor Swift!

[@cmeol2031]

"I feel slightly emotional and I don't know why" absolutely sums up the experience of listening to Taylor Swift lolol she just tugs something deeeep down that feels so personal.

[@nishthagupta1357]

Exactly yes

[@kakeen1977]

I wish she had made this into a music video because I can see it so clearly I can see a girl in the 1940s having this breakup happen, she runs outside, gets hit by a car, and then goes back into the restaurant not realizing she's dead. She's a ghost sitting in the corner for decades, still upset that he broke up with her, feeling like it just happened and the world keeps moving around her & she's totally unaware it's not the 1940's anymore & is just replaying the scene in her head over and over

[@mendwithmere]

I can totally see this

[@kaylenekong1255]

what I see is Taylor was dating someone and they met at a restaurant after awow and then he told her there that he found someone new and then left her then it's as if she's stuck there and can't get out so basically she can't move on and she's sitting at the corner and can't leave

[@kaylenekong1255]

and she's been there for a really really long time

[@Guweixin142]

You mean this? kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3_LaYijocllpNE

[@kosmikpixie]

This song hits me like no other Taylor Swift song. My wife left me in 2013 after 41 years together, divorced me two years ago. Everyone tells me to move on but I can't. She is the most perfect human being I've ever met and has my heart. I'm stuck. To quote Taylor in Hoax, "Don't want no other shade of blue but you, no other sadness in the world would do." As much as it pains me to not see her, even if I'd have known this would happen, I would have married her anyway in 1972, she is that wonderful.

[@mendwithmere]

Oh Ray, I so feel you on this. I’m going through a divorce right now and don’t want to be stuck either but it’s so hard. Sending you ♥️

[@kosmikpixie]

@@mendwithmere Chuck Lorre of The Big Bang Theory fame said it best in one of his Vanity Cards. He said that we don't give our heart away, somebody steals it. For me to get unstuck, it would have taken another woman to steal my heart away from Val. I've met many wonderful women since my separation (Taylor did say "There's a lot of cool chicks out there") but none even came close to being able to wrestle my heart away from the woman who's had it since 1971. I so love your reactions and analyses.

[@gloriagironelli]

@@kosmikpixie I’m so sorry. You didn’t deserve it but if she left you, she wasn’t the right one. So it’s pointless and damaging to you to say that she was the best. Maybe she was, but now she isn’t, so it means there’s another one better for sure. We are the one that decide if we move on with our lives, and we can choose how to treat ourselves. So treat yourself with love and value, she can’t steal it if you say no.

[@mennaamr1299]

I hope you're okay , ray 🤍

[@jamesyeh7106]

I really love this song, I agree with you. Taylor can describe the feeling of trauma so so well. At times you’re mind goes back and you’re in a daze, frozen, remembering everything, sometimes down to the scents, sounds, and every detail. You could see, smell and hear everything. 😢

[@mendwithmere]

Absolutely ♥️

[@asteria3374]

this was my most replayed song of 2023 T-T the restaurant line destroys me every single time

[@marlataylor]

This song reminds me of Cornelia Street and her lyric "that's the kind of heartbreak time could never mend", and this song is how she imagines that type of heartbreak.

[@mendwithmere]

Omg yes

[@themaddiemads]

As someone who became ill and then disabled in their early twenties, I relate so strongly to this song. It often feels like I am stuck in time, while those my age go on to accomplish so much. I feel like I've been frozen, and even though this song isn't about that, it really hits me right in my feelings every time.

[@mendwithmere]

I want to hug you!! I can absolutely see why this song connects to you and thank you for sharing your experience. I don’t think we talk enough about chronic illness and disabilities. You are a warrior and I’m sending you so much love!

[@anastasiamay2752]

this song is my fav song of all time. it just hits me, and I don't even know why. honestly, when I hear this song, something breaks in me but at the same time smth heals.

[@cerseiuwu7031]

This songs hits so hard. I really feel nothing about my ex, I've moved on and I'm married and happy now, but Taylor captured SO WELL the trauma of being left and frozen in time(also my Maladaptive daydreaming disorder went WILD), that I just start crying about how hurt I was. Like, nothing related to the person I lost, but that terrifying feeling of seeing things changing, people growing, doing their lifes, and you are still caught in that moment forever. It took me 5 years, crying everyday because I new the time was passing and I was trapped.

[@Maike_l]

The ticking sound that starts after the bridge reminds me of a big grandfather clock, hinting again about someone being stuck in time whilst her partners life is ticking on/continuing (wife, kids and Christmas). I have experienced a traumatic breakup at 23 too (he broke up the day after my dad’s funeral after he committed suicide) my ex is now married and expecting a child with his wife. I am happy for him, yet still mourning the relationship we had almost six years later, safe to say this is the most personal and my favorite Taylor Swift song. In The Great War she also sings “your finger on my hair pin triggers” which made me think of RWYLM. Perhaps the trauma of her earlier break up triggered her to react in the way she describes in TGW, almost loosing her current relationship.

[@mendwithmere]

I’m so sorry for all you’ve gone through at such a young age. This song is a safe space for you in so many ways but crazy that you were also 23. There will be healing and change for you, I know it.

[@lorenzastraface9740]

this song helped me understand what I was going through in a time of my life that still goes on cause it's like im stuck there and I can't keep going. I thought at first it was a break up song but listening to this again and again and again made me understand why I actually felt like this song descibed me. It's literally my feelings and the feelings of so many people written in verses, singed with music and I feel so safe knowing that there's actually someone who cares and understands how difficult it is to move on especially at a young age

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you for sharing this and you are not alone with these feelings ♥️

[@TheJazmiGianni]

This is my most favourite song from Taylor next to Wildest Dreams. I can relate to this song 100% every line in the lyrics hits home but I manage to move on but kept the happy and hurtful part of this in me because I feel comfortable living with it but never let it take control of me. 😍

[@mendwithmere]

I’m so glad you have managed to move on and it’s okay that it’s inside you bc it impacted you that much that it can’t be erased. ♥️

[@emmalinejett3620]

Plus, the hair pin line, makes me think of how the trauma makes you consumed in your thoughts, thoughts that eat away at your senses and nerves. You suddenly regain your awareness of what’s happening around you, hyper focused, and the smallest sound startles you. Being startled takes you back to your fear of the trauma, fixated on the moment around you, but the past makes an emotional revolution in your existence as your mind spirals. You feel ridiculous to be scared by a small inanimate object falling, but you know its significance when such small noises meant the difference between life and death.

[@maggieo1683]

Or, the opposite happens- when trauma occurs, you dissociate and you "leave your body" and become numb to the world around you. Sound becomes muffled, you can't see straight, and you think you feel something like upset, fear, or other overwhelm, or something physical like your body shaking, but you can't quite connect to whatever it is your feeling. (At least as someone who has been diagnosed with C-PTSD and depersonalization-derealization disorder, this has been my experience)

[@MidwestGrace]

This is one of my all time favorite songs. I’ve always looked at it strictly as a relationship song, but as I’m learning more about childhood trauma I understand even more why some of these lines hit me so deep. Thank you for reacting to this one!

[@mendwithmere]

Hi Paula! Thank you for sharing. Yes, it’s got all the vibes of trauma

[@ivonnesuncin]

you just say what im beeng trying to figure it for so long! very agreed with you

[@luciihornsby]

this is one of my absolute favorite songs from taylor! the lyrics, the melody... just everything ahhhh

[@mendwithmere]

Sooo gooooood

[@mirandawyatt77]

Such a relatable song. At 8 years old my closest friend in school started playing with other kids instead of me. It changed me forever. I felt lost and lonely and didn’t know how to make friends after that. 😭

[@simplymatt13]

OMG MY FAV SONG OF ALL TIME

[@mendwithmere]

♥️♥️♥️

[@anetfuchidzhieva]

It's literally 3am where I am, I went to play this video so fast, I've been really excited for this one, thanks a lot for another taylor swift reaction video!

[@mendwithmere]

You are welcome! Thanks for the love

[@Myatheroses]

every Taylor song is so relatable. 28 still waiting for things to happen that should have happened 28 years ago. people just leave you behind

[@ellieandthetorts]

Its definitely a song that brings out emotions we thought were buried! It would be aweome of you could react to Nothing new ft Pheobe Bridgers Its not only a brilliant song but could really do with a therapist casting her eye over it🙃

[@mendwithmere]

Yes! I’ll be doing it very soon 🤍

[@Soulill0quy]

Thanks for all your content! I recently started listening to TS during the latter half of 2022 (primarily Folklore and Evermore) and your analysis has helped me process a lot of what I went through and move forward. Also didn’t realize until now just how incredible that bridge/pre-chorus is from a songwriting standpoint; you’d think it goes back to the chorus, but it rambles on saying she’s causing no harm, driving the point that she’s really stuck at that restaurant. Thanks again!

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you for watching and sharing! ♥️♥️ it’s incredible

[@MrLuisRamirezC]

For me, this song hits way too close to home, cause my ex had a restaurant where I used to spend all my days and nights, just standing there watching him being himself and enjoying his work and growing and just admiring him so much. And I, sometimes, still feel at his restaurant, still sitting in the corner (I haunt). When I was still the one he wanted. It is so painful to feel frozen in time like this. You see and know that everybody moves on, but you. So you're just right there, where they left you.

[@amandah7280]

I was in a relationship for 8 years with a narcissist. It was an emotionally abusive relationship. I also experienced childhood trauma. This song has more vibes about abandonment and repeating old patterns. Fortunately, I've had therapy and reconnecting with a therapist soon. It takes time to work through that trauma and break away from the same patterns that you normalized growing up and even in adulthood. I feel more confident that I'm healing but that past trauma comes in waves. Thank you for this video. It puts things into perspective.

[@heidiclement4923]

I think Right Where You Left Me and Time to Go are the two options taken from that spot in time. You get out, not unscathed but safer, and the other you are stuck.

[@mendwithmere]

Yes, I totally agree!

[@bobbyrw1398]

As you've discovered already by analyzing some of folklore, evermore, and Midnights, Taylor often writes metaphorically. I agree with your suspicion that this obvious break-up song is far more than just that. I think she's singing about her old label's owner and the trauma she felt with his betrayal.

[@mendwithmere]

Yes, I can totally see that ♥️

[@saraha7006]

This song breaks me into a million pieces 😢I shatter when I listen to this song 🎶 It brings me right back to the end of my 28 year marriage 2 years ago. But my flashbacks start from when I see myself at 17 the beginning of when I met him wishing that I’d walked away from that restaurant, when I had that intuition in the beginning. I can’t listen to it because it’s that painful!!!

[@mendwithmere]

Oh Sarah. I feel you sooo much. Sending you so much love for getting through that. I’m currently going through a divorce and I can never describe to people how painful it is, especially when that intuition feeling was there. Sending you ♥️

[@saraha7006]

@@mendwithmere it’s like a death only you don’t get to have a funeral or adequate time to mourn the loss. Everyone expects you to be ok & over it a week later. The pain for me almost made me want to die. My kids got through it thankfully & I’ve moved on but I still cry intermittently. Im so sorry your going through such a painful & truly difficult time. I hope you have family support. Be kind to yourself & know that crying & allowing yourself to cry & feel the pain is ok.

[@gjh9299]

I love this song, I wish it had more exposure. Taylor was wearing her hair pinned up a lot. I love her voice in this too

[@Faeriehye]

I will forever love this song, because it’s literally how I’ve been feeling for the past two years. I’ve always struggled with self love, and I’m still struggling with it. I’m 17 and it feels like everyone in my life is moving on and thinking about what they’re gonna do after high school, and I’m just stuck there in time wishing I could be a child again. I also struggle with binging and a soda addiction. I keep telling myself that I’ll change, that I’ll workout but I never can stick to it. My grandma also passed away a year ago, and she was basically my mom bc my mom passed when I was 2. So yeah, I just feel like I’m just stuck and I’ll never move on.

[@AbigailGrayse]

I absolutely adore this song! I can’t wait to hear what you have to say!

[@mendwithmere]

♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@kellye.5678]

I love right where you left me. She paints such a vivid story and it’s such a beautiful but sad song. I also think you should react to nothing new like someone suggested. But if we want to stick to the album evermore then maybe Ivy and no body no crime

[@mendwithmere]

Ooo I love all those songs!! Yes, I’ll do them :)

[@maheenkhan6944]

For me this song makes me think about losing my father at 23. I'm 28 now and it does feel like I'm stunted by it. Stuck at the hospital when I got the news... my brain keeps me there. I live my life and from the outside it looks like I coped well.

[@sofiaabate8262]

i adore this song, it makes me so emotional every time i listen to it because it describes how someone can get stuck in a very descriptive and detailed way that is exactly how it feels after something traumatic. you just keep reliving the thing that happened instead of moving on with your life and living in the present.

[@dominykealves]

thanks for another great reaction

[@cleanheartfr]

FINALLY. i’ve waited so long for this reaction video. rwylm remains my all time favorite taylor swift song ! (happy new year by the way) ❤️

[@mendwithmere]

Happy New Year Lamar!! Thank you for watching ♥️

[@shewhowatchesalot]

I'm so glad you reacted to this. One of my favorites of Taylor's ❤️

[@mendwithmere]

♥️♥️♥️

[@brendamiranda8186]

This song to me is about grief too, because you feel like everybod moved on except you.

[@lvrclouds]

this song is one of my favs, every single time i listen to it it just pierces through my heart

[@anneheloisa-]

i identify with this song a lot, but not because of a relationship, sometimes i think i'm stuck in the past, thinking about the things that happened, the friendships i made and lost, the things i did or didn't do. i tend to think a lot about the past, thinking "what if i had done that?" or "what if it had been different?", but either way i feel stuck in time, as if everyone i knew had moved on and i was left thinking about the past

[@Diane_00Hart]

I listen to this song and make me cry cause I can find my self in that same situation with my last relationship😞

[@alishakeen3070]

I have been this frozen person but over my moms passing. I have PTSD and major depressive disorder and she passed away in 2017 and I still to this day can't say I have moved passed it. There are good days still, but there are also days it feels almost as if I am in a coma, the world continues around me but I can't get myself to do anything.

[@berrrry_]

😭The first time I heard this song I fell apart

[@mendwithmere]

It’s so good

[@aidenrushing9841]

I'm neck deep in PTSD even after years of therapy, treatment, inpatient programs, etc. It's such a nightmare to live with. Yes. This is exactly what it's like.

[@hollybeck605]

Have you ever seen the 1990's version of Great Expectations with Gwenyth Paltrow? This song gives me the strongest visual vibes from that movie. Every time I listen to this song I picture Miss Havisham sitting outside at that wedding table that's covered in moss, and dirt, and dirty water in all the cups and bowls. Frozen in time because her would be husband left her there on her wedding day. I love this song sooooo much. One of my top Taylor songs for sure.

[@mendwithmere]

Omg yes! I haven’t watched it in such a long time and it’s all coming back to me

[@gabsiati]

That was my first thought when I heard this song - Great Expectations. And it’s that exact movie, it’s the cinematography of it

[@4u2mv]

OMG ANOTHER EVERMORE SONG YESSS ❤ PLS DO MORE EVERMORE SONGS ☺️☺️☺️

[@mendwithmere]

I definitely will!!♥️

[@chasedaniels8086]

Just discovered this song. It hits from a different perspective. I lost my what I will call my best friend/other half to cancer when I was 22 and its been a emotional rollercoaster ride these past 4 years. I like to think I've come a long way but the day she passed is a day that always replays in my head along with my memories. Thanks for you outtake

[@evergreenforestwitch]

Loved the reaction. To me,this reads just like Miss Havisham from Great Expectations, which is cool on so many levels. Dickensian pop with a country twang? The imagery and the driving rhythm of this song just add to the drama of it. Loved your take as usual.

[@mendwithmere]

Yes!!! I totally see this!

[@davidhampson1958]

How does Taylor write such amazing lyrics to describe situations that we have all been through in such a few words...Song after song...Situation after situation...Close your eyes..Your there no if's no but's your in that moment....I am a rubbish reader...but if Taylor wrote a novel I would read it 100%....People can knock her as much as they want...Whatever you think of Taylor..you just have to admit that she is a genius when it comes to telling a story in a song

[@mendwithmere]

100%!!!!

[@haydenswords]

I love your reactions. I’m sorry you can relate, hope you’re healing ❤

[@saraha7006]

I think you should NOT take them down it’s so spot on & it’s important to be able to hear & see it, just my humble opinion 😊

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you!!

[@AmandaWspoon]

I was in love with my best friend for years, I knew it wasn't ever going to be recipicaded, so I learned to be fine with just being friends. She then married a monster who ended up ruining her(I won't get too far into it but it landed her in prison for a very long time.) This song brings me back to her arrest and the moment she told me she met him and though the flags were there I supported them until it was too late. I think about it all the time, and the guilt is suffocating at times.

[@super.verse2.0]

This song breaks my heart. I'm crying. 😭

[@avamm13]

sending you so much love for this new year, mere!! i was also wondering if you could react to hits different from the target edition of midnights!!

[@mendwithmere]

Hi! Lots of people have been requesting this. Yes, I’ll totally do it!

[@sam_sa09]

I havent experienced the heartbreak in the song, but I do often feel stuck in time, I'm still stuck in the time of covid, where one of my most important and happiest years was screwed and my plans too. Sometimes, even though I think I'm over it, I still find myself going back to it, feeling worse every birthday after it because it feels like those years were stolen from me.

[@roseelliott2728]

This is one of my favorites from Evermore. I was also a fan of U2 song Stuck in a moment. There’s a pattern here😂 Happy New Year Mere❤

[@mendwithmere]

Happy New Year Rose!! I’ll check out that U2 song

[@chrism91796]

Just found out the guy I was talking to and seeing, lead me on and sent me mixed signals for months, and then ghosted me started seeing someone else and this song really sums up how I feel. This song played on my drive home after finding out and I broke down into tears. Just had never felt that way about someone before and I wish it didn’t affect me as much as it did. And the thing I hate the most is, if he asked for a redo, I know I wouldn’t hesitate to give it to him

[@madlybs]

I find myself liking your videos before I watch them! I think you’re so perspective and wise ☀️

[@mendwithmere]

Oh thank you!

[@madlybs]

@@mendwithmere *perceptive

[@mahnoorh2945]

Okay so Here's the thing with this song. It's very commonly seen as Este's point of view from No body No crime which I'm also very interested to see you do a video on

[@billlo9835]

Thank you for explaining this. This is the reason I've listened to TS. I was being left at age 23 and time seems like frozen since then. I'm 35 unmarried. My ex still ctc me once in awhile since I'm friends to all the his siblings but it was just like that, he was just passing through to keep positive vibes not to collect what he left for. He is married.. I've moved on long time ago. I felt for someone else a person after another. I don't have same feelings for him BUT TS is damn RIGHT about TIME FROZEN. I still feel like that 23yo. Eventho my hair slowly turning greys but I just can't accept the timing continues. Should I get help ? I'm not sad I'm just froze in time

[@JoseDiaz-sr2yn]

I love this series of videos!

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you!!

[@straight_up_geek_]

This song hurts me so much. My parents announced their divorce right before Christmas 2020. I was 20 years old, had just moved out a couple of months ago for the first time, and it was so sudden because they were getting along so well. It was my worst fear as a kid, and it came true. And to make matters worse, other bad things happened with my then-friends in the following months in 2021. I went through severe depression and had to go to an inpatient program. I’m doing much better now. However, I sometimes get stuck there still, and it really keeps me from moving on and being happy at times.

[@barbaramendes4090]

Sometimes I feel like I'm right where she left me when I hear this song. But I only notice this because of this song. The song didn't bring me that feeling, it just made me realize what was already on me, you know?

[@mendwithmere]

Yes!! I know what you mean

[@seewhathadhappenedwas328]

This is always been one of my fav songs, but it's rlly hit close to home lately. My girlfriend recently broke up with me, and the experience has been just like these lyrics. My favorite one is "breakups happen everyday you don't have to lose it", bc frankly I Lowkey feel like a lunatic, and am still embarrassed Abt how much it's affected me. It was all just so surprising, and out of nowhere, and I was so convinced I was going to marry her - we had already made such in-depth life plans, and she made me so many promises. This video was very healing though. Ive never hear of Acute Stress Syndrome, and the little I knew about stress disorders was that they had to be caused by some objectively traumatizing event, like a severe car crash. Ig really tho, it makes sense that something so seemingly small can leave just as big of an impact, bc its just as surprising, unexpected, and life changing Thank you :-)

[@tiff5756]

This song destroyed me when I first heard it. My daughters dad cheated on me, while I was pregnant with her, and we split, when I was 23. He got with the girl he cheated with and I was still hurt and coming to terms with the fact that I wouldn’t be with the person I thought I would have a life with back then. I was single for years and stuck on what could have been. This song really captured all of the feelings I had back then. Still hurts to hear now, even though I’ve moved on from the situation. It still hurts for the me who went through it.

[@Adriana-vz2md]

Hi, i love your videos a lot, English is not my first language, but i really like watching your videos.

[@richardh776]

Did you react to the other bonus song in Evermore called It's time to go?

[@mendwithmere]

Not yet but I will!

[@alexh5619]

This is one of my faves!

[@queenofgoldenhearts]

clear abandonment trauma lol as someone with bpd i relate a little too much…

[@valeriamarrerodiaz1731]

this is so good

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you!!

[@diannakaplan1189]

61° OMG my mom keeps it on 68° and my legs were cramping when I stayed over to help her after she broke her hip! I'd die. When I see pets or little ferral animals in winter I just want to offer them all homes.😢 BTW Im watching this in summer in Nj so HOT! In winter when outside animals need warmth they can run into parts of cars that keep them warmer. They generally fall asleep so before you start your auto mobile bang on your hood or beep your horn before starting. Thank you now onto the analysis.

[@mendwithmere]

you are so very welcome!!

[@minsungso4698]

I would like to see your react video to Ivy!

[@mendwithmere]

Omg I love that song so much. I will!

[@kayleighkavanagh9853]

it always reminded me of the older woman in great expectations - miss havisham

[@mendwithmere]

Ooo yes!

[@dearbhlahayes1627]

Omg I wonder if I’ll still be talking of him when I’m old :(

[@matthew-wx3im]

girl how did you know that this is my song

[@mendwithmere]

Just a feeling 🥰

[@talitafontes655]

I don't think the song is related to the Scoutter drama because she says "but if you ever think you got it wrong, i'm right where you left me", and Taylor if there's onde thing Taylor isn't, it's where the whole drama left her at.... But that said, I loooooved you're reaction! I've been waiting a lot for this one, so happy that you finally did it!!

[@mendwithmere]

That makes so much sense!! Thank you for the love!

[@largeformatlandscape]

Glass on white cloth is a Jewish wedding. It could be about her friend Karrie Kloss (google hairpin drop)

[@largeformatlandscape]

Glass on white cloth is a Jewish wedding. It could be about her friend Karrie Kloss (google hairpin drop)

[@largeformatlandscape]

Glass on white cloth is a Jewish wedding. It could be about her friend Karrie Kloss (google hairpin drop)

[@rebeccabielow3176]

In my mind this someone who thought they would get a proposal at a nice restaurant and instead their partner broke up with them. Like they made themself pretty and now is stuck in the moment they expected the question and instead the bomb dropped. Also did you already do renegade from Taylor and The Big Machine?

[@mendwithmere]

Yes! It was my first video which led to doing reaction videos which I didnt expect ♥️

[@matei4816]

Ok sorry If this is out nowhere but Mere if you see this comment plase just do a couple things first go to the song no body no crime from Taylor Swift and after you listen to that one re listen to this song and Ask someone to explain the backstory behind these two songs there's a Theory about the first song no body no crime and this song right where you left me is kinda like part 2 (Although that is not confirmed by Taylor Swift) Side note:I really wanna know your opinion on this cause I was really confused about this first I don't wanna spoil stuff

[@charmer129]

This song is what made me a fan again. It also ruined my life for a bit lol

[@mendwithmere]

Not laughing but also laughing. It is a doozy

[@zzz-cb3xe]

'hairpin drop' has a double meaning....I see someone already mentioned it in the comment.

[@siwanclark6058]

Not to get too wildly down a controversial rabbit hole, but there are a lot of theories that this is about a breakup that left the protagonist in the closet because the other person didn’t want to be outed (in particular the like hairpin drop vs how the phrase is usually just pin drop). Regardless of the connection to real life, I find that a very emotional interpretation.

[@siwanclark6058]

I would also LOVE to hear you react to “hits different” on the Walmart cd of midnights which follows a lot of the themes you cover in this video, the lack of moving on etc.

[@mendwithmere]

Hi! Yes, I totally missed that reference for hairpin drop and now it is changing everything for me with this song. I am going to be analyzing the cardigan/august/Betty saga and how this relates to being in the closet in high school. I’ll cover it most in Betty. I may redo this song bc that interpretation rips my heart out.

[@saadiakarmoude6311]

We want exile 😢😢😢

[@RandyHadaway]

Still at the restaurant😢

[@sharonkantone9967]

This gives Mrs. Havisham from Great Expectation idk

[@victoriaj201]

You said a hairpin dropping means that it was silent, but the actual phrase for that is “you could hear a PIN drop,” not a hairpin. The term “hairpin drop” is specifically tied to the Stonewall Riots, known as “the hairpin drop heard around the world.” “Hairpin drop” is a slang term for letting people know you are gay through a subtle hint. Knowing that hairpin drop is a queer flag, it’s interesting she chose to use the lyric “you could hear a hairpin drop” rather than “you could hear a pin drop”

[@mendwithmere]

Victoria!! Thank you for this. You are so right. Hate that I missed this. Did you watch Lavender Haze? I think there is a queer flag there. Lemme know your thoughts.

[@victoriaj201]

@@mendwithmere yes I did!! That’s what brought me back here! I was like ok if she picked up on that I have to point this one out!! I was super glad you pointed it out :)

[@largeformatlandscape]

@@victoriaj201and wear your hair up means put the mask back on, get back in the closet

[@julissaramirez3889]

Slightly off topic but like react to IU (kpop) her song "lilac" it's a very sweet warm spring song but the lyrics are like damn darkers in comparison

[@ShaeferGriffin-it9nx]

Now react to Let Down by Radiohead. Equally beautiful and heartbreaking.

[@valeriamarrerodiaz1731]

my sister keeps the ac at 65 cause she lives in Boston. I cant. I need it at 68

[@mendwithmere]

Same!!

[@valeriamarrerodiaz1731]

awwww

[@valeriamarrerodiaz1731]

6:40

[@itsbixx_]

Such an beautiful reaction, i hope that you can react to Chicago by Louis Tomlinson, love you and hope you are ok

[@mendwithmere]

I will! Yes, I’m doing my best considering that life isn’t fair. Wow, that sounded really intense but I promise I’m good ♥️

[@valeriamarrerodiaz1731]

i hadnt heard it before

[@NaomiMisora1000]

React to exile please by Taylor Swift

[@santztn]

can you react family line by conan please? 😢

[@gabriellewhite5907]

please react to moon song by phoebe bridgers!!

[@mendwithmere]

I def will!

[@madlybs]

And don’t remove the videos about JM. Unless it makes you feel bad.

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you. I’m still unsure.

[@elisafilippi450]

As in most songs on Folklore, she tells a story that's not based on her life or anyways not so related to her. In this one particularly, it's the pov of Este, who's been murdered in No Body, No crime and is now stuck as a ghost in her corner at Olive Garden. Or at least, it's a theory that's basically canon ever since she made the "ladies lunching chapter" where she put every song of folklore that talked about a female protagonist, and nobody got why this was in until we noticed it was right after No Body, No crime

[@mendwithmere]

Ahhhhh you are blowing my mind

[@lexchlo7142]

omg you HAVE to react to nothing new!!!!!

[@mendwithmere]

It’s coming!!

[@driftwud]

Yeah you talk waaaaay too much at the start of this video and when you identified that i just swicthed off lol (well, came back to write the comment)

[@floppy_hands1770]

Are you lesbian, respectfully?

[@dezr9643]

SCREAMING

[@JosephTechnicolor]

A therapist that delivers pseudo medical views on pop culture media NEEDS to have their medical license revoked. I'm disgusted by this person!! This is not how to provide therapy. You are hurting people, not helping them.

[@mendwithmere]

Hi! So Im not providing therapy to anyone on my channel nor do I believe that would be appropriate. Im a therapist and a human being that is allowed to react to music from my viewpoint. Im not providing medical advice, it’s my personal reaction.

[@alisonbowery6856]

Maybe you should check out "emails i can’t send" (the song not the album) by Sabrina Carpenters as well💛 it’s about her father cheating on her mom🥲

[@mendwithmere]

Oh really?! Yes, I’ll do it!

[@alisonbowery6856]

@@mendwithmere Aww thanks🥺💗 Looking forward to it!