John Gray-3 Magic Phrases (Men LOVE To Hear)!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

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[@mssummerrose1]

4:32 That's a good idea ! Well, that makes sense... ! Wow, you're right !

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

You got it! Thanks for watching!

[@dianer8881]

I disagree! Especially, if it's completely illogical, which it usually is. Most men are just con artists. Just about everything they say is questionable. They rarely tell the truth.

[@nikieberhardt4624]

Stare at a guy for 5 counts, then gently tilt your head down and smile ever so subtly. If he's interested, he'll come to you. Guaranteed. If he doesn't he's not into you don't waste your time

[@laural.6238]

What’s the social media version of this though?

[@nikieberhardt4624]

@laural.6238 oh good question. I don't know. I'm old school 😉

[@ailenefisher8068]

Dr. John Gray; what you said at about the 13 minute part of this video is EXACTLY what happened in my life; I wasn’t initially attracted to the man I am currently CRAZY about (& the same was true for him)! We almost passed this up: I’m so glad I said something (I felt so stupid-until!...); his response was WONDERFUL! His responses are WONDERFUL! This is completely different from EVERY other relationship I had in my past, and I love this! Thank you both SO MUCH!!! 😎 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@crunchybunbun]

I am in the happiest relationship now because I didn't see my partner in a romantic light until 4 or 5 months of him pursuing me. It's so true. Men I am super physically attracted to from the start never worked out for me.

[@blissreframed1681]

As a woman asking for support, please be aware that you still may not get the help that you need. The knight does not always ride in on the white horse to rescue or even support you. I have been there and had the experience. If you don't get the help or support that you need, be prepared to step away and take care of yourself. Genuine self-care and self-love can be that crucial element in our lives so that we are becoming our best healthy self.

[@thearodriguez5251]

Yup these are not life changing pearls that are fool proof!

[@shorelined1]

Not all men (or women) are psychologically sound. I think John Gray is speaking to the average, normal guy who isn't a narcissist, psychotic or neurotic.

[@mgn1621]

If his attachment style is dismissive avoidant, they don’t want you to need anything from them.

[@dianer8881]

The average guy is poisoned by his own testosterone. He just doesn't know it. Don't let yourself be victimized.

[@georgettemcclymonds2048]

Thank you, for presenting What is not the obvious. I am leaning(learning) into appreciation. I have 3, grown sons, & One grown daughter, I am pleased to share your skills/ videos with them. What I can not teach them, You & John deliver, so ellequently. I keeps me in check & on my femine side, not so pressured. Each day of love, we can add to our 38 yrs of marraige in a sweet bonus.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching and for leaving a comment too!

[@phoenixrising8007]

Good idea 😉 That makes sense You’re right

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Another one: that is so helpful! thanks for watching!

[@dianer8881]

Most men don't make sense and don't have any good ideas. They're rare.

[@JoanMartin-q2l]

I appreciate how clear you are!

[@phoenixrising8007]

Over-giving is never a good idea regardless of your gender

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

True!

[@dianer8881]

Men are very demanding and draining. Why bother? So much easier being alone...

[@Martec-o3l]

Thank u both for the insights very great to listen to you both

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thank you for watching and for your kind words too Marina!

[@iknowwhatsup2880]

Make sure you actually are being genuine in your respect & appreciation for men.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Yes, that is important. Thanks for watching!

[@dianer8881]

It needs to be reciprocal. Don't forget about yourself.

[@kimasp7482]

I have to chuckle here....After watching a million of these videos, I've noticed that I use the term "that makes sense" CONSTANTLY. I even cringe now and chuckle ever time I catch myself saying it. It's made me a believer though! Thank you Dr Gray and Michelle!

[@ArtisticNav1]

That’s a good idea! Is my constant line 😆

[@dianer8881]

Is it really a good idea? Does it really make sense? Or are you just reiterating the phrase to keep the peace. Stay true to yourself. Don't lie..

[@kimasp7482]

@@dianer8881 I don't need to lie.

[@TheCelestialhealer]

Yes!! Its soooo hard not to do something. I dont have to earn his love.Again, a huge thank you🙏

[@angelinasamson6996]

I got the feeling when he was passionately expressing himself that no one sees him ❤

[@clairefoxall2313]

I struggle with conversation...I was a really shy child. So I'm a quiet person.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That can be challenging Claire. Thanks for watching and for sharing too!

[@tiffanybowers3294]

"Mars and Venus in a Date" is one of my most recommended books that I've read 🤓📚🤓📚

[@westonelliott573]

i guess im asking randomly but does someone know a way to log back into an instagram account? I stupidly lost the account password. I appreciate any help you can give me!

[@desmondwade5839]

@Weston Elliott instablaster :)

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

OMG a relationship is like playing chess :) so complicated

[@dianer8881]

Bizarre.

[@documentaryfilms]

Hey Michelle...This interview was a 'great idea', a really good idea, wow you were right on the ball! Ha Ha...

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your kind words too Barbara!

[@aidatumbaga2735]

Thanks Dr. Gray and Michielle🩷

[@lornahaynes7886]

That makes sense John Thank you for sharing this information 😊

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your comments too Lorna!

[@dbsk06]

Say “good idea” to avoid being seen as competition to men

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That's right! Thanks for watching!

[@dianer8881]

Sorry, I speak my mind. I don't play games.

[@stephaniefortney22]

This all makes sense 😍 these are great ideas…. the sun and the moon… a great connection. Brilliant insights, Grateful …

[@legdaytacos62]

Michelle, i love your voice

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thank you for your kind comment and for watching too!

[@letajones8556]

So glad I found your videos!!! 😃

[@jjc2323]

Thank you. I’m looking for more info on bonding with a man

[@nimnlm8372]

Thank Dr. Gray, I find the relationship advise interesting because it is skewed to what women should do mostly. This makes women more relationship ready than men. A focus on women also happening in school and the work place, leaving the men behind. If relationship advise was given in balance to both men and women and now to mostly men, there would be more balance. Men are supposed to lead. The advise is good but without men leading, we are where we are. Thank you

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

This channel is made specifically for women. That is why the advice he is giving is given from this perspective. Thanks for watching and for your comment too. Take care!

[@dianer8881]

As a woman, I prefer to lead my own life, because most men lack logic. They're just a bunch of lunatics controlled by testosterone. Get it?

[@akospurzsa8368]

The magic phrase for me from a woman: I need you!

[@carolkoay906]

What if a woman says, "I don't need you, but I want you."?

[@suzanne4396]

@@carolkoay906 From my 40 years of dating, I'd have to say that Men NEED to be Needed. They need to feel relevant. They need to be necessary to you ... I ended my last ( very toxic) relationship by telling him " I don't need you at all, for Anything. You've never done anything for me that I couldnt do, myself ... including bringing me to orgasm, which you did Maybe 6 times in 7 and a half years. All I've ever needed you for was .... Nothing. You don't matter, to me or my life.

[@dianer8881]

I don't need a man for anything other than the yardwork.

[@aubreygrant7676]

This was so perfect for me to hear!!

[@angelinasamson6996]

Thank you for this video , he’s depressed at the minute and I’m in the process of building back up ❤

[@phoenixrising8007]

Acknowledge versus compete or challenge ~ Pro-ceptivity 😁 Men need appreciation too

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

So true! Thanks for watching!

[@pamelakapke62]

Men thrive on appreciation, they live for it!

[@dianer8881]

Too bad...

[@lonnierashid6812]

Good idea...That makes sense....You’re right!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Lonnie!

[@celiaescalante]

I just found out that someone I liked not so long ago is going to fun trips with his new girlfriend. So, I actually felt happy for him because I feel very happy with my new guy. It's strange because you would think it would make me feel envious, but it isn't triggering anything like that. I have peace and I wonder what now. 🤔 My new guy gives me the sweetness and connection that I wanted from that other guy.

[@dianer8881]

Best to shop around.

[@jw70478]

My situation is that I became pregnant before he had a chance to fall in love with me. He stayed to make it work. Although there are many good things between us now, our foundation was one where I couldn't pull back when I felt I should, and I tried too hard and gave too much, trying to create stability between us for the sake of our child. Some kind of imbalance was created then and has remained nine years later. I never had this problem in any other relationship- feeling unloved and unwanted. Is there something that I can do or not do to help this? Thank you.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

It can be challenging to change the dynamics of a relationship once there are established patterns. I do recommend John's books and if your guy is willing to learn more about all of this too, that would be even better. Good luck and thanks for watching!

[@mssummerrose1]

...the feminine principles can and have to be applied always and they also always work... and being able to pull away is not the main female quality, either... if you think, that is what is the problem in your relationship, I don't think so, maybe look closer... and why not get a coach, if you can't handle the situation alone... ;)

[@stormchylde3999]

Maybe try couples therapy if that's an option for you. If it's not, try researching online on a couples therapy site. Good luck to you.

[@juneelle370]

Adrienne Everheart is really great too (here on KZbin) 💜

[@sundown6748]

Yes you need Adriene’s book How to talk to a man All of her programs changed my life. I have been with my husband 22 years. And man did I learn a lot

[@elopez198725]

Can you do a video about reconnecting with an ex and how to properly start over to turn things around in dating them to get needs met?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That might be a good topic sometime. Thank you for watching Emma!

[@TinaShay]

@@MichelleMarchantJohnson I would really find that topic valuable as well. How to reconnect with a past love, more specifically, my first love. The one who I held in my heart from my teens... We have been close friends for years and we both love each other but have had separate lives. Now we are both single. How would one best go about building a relationship filled with true passion and trust as well as a deep love?

[@eileenwatt8283]

@@MichelleMarchantJohnson yes please I've been searching for that topic.

[@darlal2698]

I've been searching this topic also

[@irenelynette3845]

My guy is a talker and I cannot get him to let me talk

[@lisapickell2276]

I've listened to quite a few of your videos and I appreciate your advice but I get a little confused. You say men need to pursue the woman and have that challenge but does that mean we women shouldn't be our authentic self? I'm interested in a man who's going through a lot right now and the person i am at my core is a "helper" "a cheerleader". I don't want to pretend I don't care and wait for him to call. I want him to know I'm thinking about him and care but don't want to scare him off. It's very new, not even a relationship yet, but i'd like to see if theres the possibility of it turning into something special.

[@8675-__]

I think the point he was trying to make was, when we are too compassionate it can come across as mothering...making them feel like a little boy. So we need to be careful in our approach to a long term relationship.

[@dianer8881]

Don't attract a needy man. Value your own independence. Their problems can quickly become yours.

[@TheSwordandPearl]

THIS CONTENT IS SUPREME

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your comments too!

[@dianer8881]

Not really...

[@elizsanz3972]

are these done on the air?-what site/channel?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching. These recordings are currently only available here.

[@antjetautkus5506]

Thx Mr John 👍 2021 🙂

[@stephaniehand503]

great

[@nandipamophethe2123]

This is awesome

[@michellesantana3443]

How about if you give too much and now you back off. Do you still have a chance ?

[@dianer8881]

Yeah, that's when they begin to resent you, because you have nothing more to give. Don't let yourself be drained. Respect yourself.

[@bettyr7837]

I was wondering, What do you do when he's the one Saying "you're right", "great idea", etc??

[@stormchylde3999]

Maybe he's a man that's more on his feminine side? And if you're a woman who's very independent and more on your masculine side then maybe he'd be a good match for you? Depends on what you're looking for, I guess. I have a sister who is very much on her masculine side and would love a man like that, lol. She's too competitive with masculine type men.

[@dianer8881]

Accept it. You have all the solutions and he doesn't have a clue. Move on to someone more intelligent.

[@blingblingnelida]

Hola Michelle Coach Female " I Find your Videos Chats Invitation s of others coaches females... Helena Hart Coach 🤔 she talks about her her her her her her SHE FORGET ABOUT THE OTHER FEMALES... YOU GOT IT ALL TOGETHER W CLARITY TRANSPARENCY TRUTHFULLY. YOU LOVE WHAT YOU DO...IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for sharing and for watching too Nelida!

[@BBGshop7]

Ms Michelle, you sounded like "Siri" 😆.😄

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That's funny! Thanks for watching!

[@nikieberhardt4624]

Ladies, look at all the animals in nature and how the males are the ones pursuing the females. Take note. You can give the guy subtle hints that he can approach and that you won't hit him on the head with your purse (proceptivity) but you can't be the one chasing him. That's such a turn off for a man and makes you seem desperate and cheap

[@dianer8881]

I'm sick and tired of being stalked by a wild bunch of uncontrolled animals.

[@nikieberhardt4624]

@dianer8881 🤣🤣🤣 Good point, but if you show them that you don't belong to their species, they won't chase you. You never see a lion trying to mate with a gazelle. Likewise, you never see the male hyenas trying to mate with the lioness. So my suggestion is show yourself like the civilized proper lady that you are and no borish wild jakass will dare to chase you. If you're being approached by the wrong guys, it's because you're (and most likely unintentionally) presenting yourself as their equal and peer. If you're clearly out of their league, they won't even dream of it. Good luck out there, remember act like a lady and a gentleman will come. I promise

[@dianer8881]

@@nikieberhardt4624 Class and age doesn't really seem to matter. Their eyes race all over me like I'm a mouth-watering juicy piece of meat. Then, they try to grab and grope me. I'm 68 years old, trim, sexy and fashionably dressed. Maybe I should wear a camouflaged army uniform with the boots to kick their shins when they get too close. Pure disrespect!

[@cocoleluz]

I don’t like going out with a guy that I don’t feel attracted to because what if he falls in love with me and I don’t? I don’t want to play with no one’s heart. I do agree that a woman should way to sleep with a guy at least a month after going out plenty of times , unless she knows that all she wants is a sex partner.

[@khrisi9410]

Your emotions will catch up. Once you experience a man effortlessly give to you in comparison to unavailable men, resistant men, stingy men you will recognize the better option. Men don't fall in love unless he's GIVING to you thus the men women are typically attracted to end up being unavailable, distant and/or ghosting in some way or another once he realize the woman is equally or more attracted to him, he stops chasing. Give men that desire you a chance.

[@dianer8881]

Why bother? Why do you even NEED someone else in your life? They're just going to make a complete mess of your life. It's so much easier to grow into your own strength and independence without anyone else interfering in your life. Stand up on your own 2 feet.

[@NextLevelMeNow]

Sigh. Looks like I just picked the wrong guy. He says he loves me, but he is the guy that talks, and doesn’t ask questions. If I try and offer something of myself into the conversation, he just moves on to the next thought in his head without acknowledging what I said.

[@nourhanebn69]

You deserve better hun

[@dianer8881]

Mistreats you, then tells you he loves you. Yeah, right!

[@dianer8881]

What a big fat ego!

[@jazzgal51]

Try reiterating what you said to get his attention once you have it explain that conversation is two way not a lecture.

[@theresaarambula]

Heart to the mind then to sex this last part was very interesting for me since we are all visual creatures 😊im going to try it

[@thearodriguez5251]

Oh dear he is spot on in regards hormones however his male perspective wears thin as he doesn't quite get woman's think... this man is far too confident in his assumptions about the opposite gender from his personal experience.

[@dianer8881]

Yes, I agree. He's completely biased! I can't stand anyone that thinks they know everything about everything, because they actually know nothing. They just like to talk to feel important, because of their own lack of self-esteem.

[@edinabudai5586]

The more he talks, the more chance to reveal red flags.

[@ef6689]

Is there a need for a closure talk when man pulls away for the purpose of moving on?

[@dianer8881]

Why bother? Protect yourself and move on gracefully.

[@karenholtzclaw3135]

🥰

[@antoniams4510]

What if what’s more convenient for him , is not convenient you?

[@dianer8881]

Reciprocal independence or nothing at all. Don't settle for someone that is needy and demanding. They'll quickly drain you of EVERYTHING - your time, money, respect...

[@angelinasamson6996]

Pen and paper

[@jglhendricks]

👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Jennifer!

[@shirleyrobinson5552]

1 thats a good idea & tell her you love 💕 her Men validate each other 2 men knowing that someone needs them is Women feel depressed cos there’s no one there for them They empower others 3 Men live in a world of competition Acknowledging men in a non competitive way Proceptivity relates to the game Date men who don’t turn you on in the beginning

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Shirley and for your comments too!

[@dianer8881]

Women are depressed, because they allow others to mistreat them. Stand up for yourself. Speak up. Respect yourself.