Chat with Marco/Challenges of Dating/Understanding What Filipinas Want!

[@rexlaughlin3897]

Walk into a church. Lots of good beautiful Filipino people.

[@wesgraham2262]

Coming back to the Philippines, I think this time I will stay off the dating sites and just walk around the malls and go into banks, restaurants and other places of business and just see what happens. No hurry. Just let nature take its course and let fate step in. I have plenty of time.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

a bank great place to meet ladies

[@JRINASIA]

Mike, the hottest ladies are located in Japan. Hidden treasure. I lived in the Philippines in mid 70’s till early 80’s. I saw it all. You always produce great content.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks for sharing

[@guydent9046]

Yes they are beautiful, and good. but I fear they would think I (and most American's) are lazy and slobs. I've seen how pristine they live.

[@garyzies3486]

He doesn't like to date single mothers but seems to have plenty of experience with them 🤣😆🤣

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

I married a single mom

[@garyzies3486]

@@mikesphilippineretirement Nothing wrong with that. Single moms tend to be more mature and stable.

[@marcoexplores4175]

And maybe I didn’t go into some of the criteria I am looking for. I definitely do not want to be the father of young children, but if I meet a Filipina single mom with older kids such as teenagers then I am OK with that.

[@danielhackney7806]

@@mikesphilippineretirement Mike, I'm not sure if he should be dating single mom's UNLESS he made it clear at the first meeting he is a player. No good reason to get her hopes up that she found a good foreigner when all he wants to do is bust his nut. But if she's just looking for a fling, I don't see any problem. That way she won't be devastated when he ghost's her.

[@danielhackney7806]

@@mikesphilippineretirement I truly feel sorry for the single mom's that meet this weekend warrior. He's having his single life FUN, but he should be upfront that he has no intention of having a GF or wife. He's a free spirt and the Phil's is a great place to find short time fun with many girls. Tinder is no more than a quicky hook up site. In America this guy wouldn't get any action from young women in their 20's or 30's.

[@Billy_B_Goat]

Be up front about who you are and what you want. Sounds like good advice for every relationship anywhere in the world..... age gap or no. Peace and Love, B Goat

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks Billy

[@dennispetty4405]

Simply put..the Filipina girl..woman just wants what we all want..to be with and have a good person to call their Mate..stability..honest loving person who won't cheat on them..knock em up and leave them. Majority of Filipinas are sweet loyal and very kind loving people..yes there are scammers but they far out weigh the garbage Western entitled women by far! Just my opinion.. They really don't see an age gap as an issue...neither do the locals..

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

I agree with you

[@marcofluff]

Best comment of the day especially the western women part.

[@dennispetty4405]

@@marcofluff thanks..appreciate that..I've been with my amazing little Filipinas girl..now my Fiance for almost 5 years..she's hands down the finest woman I've ever known! Worked hard her entire life from age of 11 thru 2 yrs ago.. I take care of her so she's not working 12 hrs days 7 days a week at an Ave of 180 dollars a month..which will kill most people into an early grave..so yeah..was an easy thing for me to do..we'll be married this year in 2024..

[@SirMikeMiller]

Disagree, the locals do have an issue with the age gap difference. In my wife’s own words “ dili tanan but some Filipinos parehas sa mga older woman naa gd ma storya like Ang gi apas Ana Kay Ang kwarta ra dili na love, which is not true Kay if we love Dili tungod sa kwarta kundi sa genes sa foreigners lol”

[@TumbleweedRocks]

100% correct! Women want what we all want; a good job or source of income, or, failing that, a partner with one or both. Living in a third world country makes one think pragmatically-- they have learned that love-fantasy & butterfly’s in your heart don’t last long & doesn’t put food on the table. It’s always good to be as wise as the women you date.

[@jerrymarshall2728]

I told you, Mike, that I don't have a "traditional" relationship with Christine. She's not 100 pounds, over 5 feet, well educated and articulate. But everyone has their own style. Good luck to Marco

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

So true but your the lucky one. You found one of the best

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat ❤

[@DeeCebu]

I agree, like..I'm 5'5 curvy, love heels I'm always 5'8 outside the home, fair-skinned never shy and expats like that, I can't be thin short w very long hair dark-complexioned sweet which lots of expats like too. To each his own with expats I guess.

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

Yeah, putting on the stepdad cape isn't for me. It's a deal breaker, but there are plenty of expats willing to fill in. No problem being a father again, if it's my own kid.

[@joshuarizalforeman816]

I understand your position. However, I met my step-daughter when she was 11 years old. She and her mother had been deserted by her biological father when she was a baby. She is now 20 years old and studying Architecture at the University of Manila. She has her own en-suite room in our house. She refers to me as her father. My wife and I have a child of our own and my step-daughter is a loving older sister to him.

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

@@joshuarizalforeman816 That's great and congratulations for your happy family. Some foreigners have told me the limit for them is one child (regarding a single mom), but I've watch 2 guys, where I live take care of 4 kids, one of whom recently passed away, and was always stressed financially, even though his income was bigger than ours. His wife refused to work or contribute financially (why should she?), while he paid for everything, including her parents. Their 3 bdrm townhouse was overcrowded, and sometimes he didn't get enough to eat. Ditto for another friend, who's income was lower, but partner has one child. Recently, his wife's daughter got married and hubby and new baby live with them! Sorry, but too many guys here are just being used as a 'pay piggy.' I think it's very good, you and your partner have a child together (I'm 68 and we have 4 year old daughter of our own, whom I enjoy no end), which fosters a strong family bond. 🙂

[@marcofluff]

My minimum thing would be if her kids are in their late teens for me.

[@ronfesta771]

Me thinketh what an open and honest conversation Mike, Marco appears to be quite an upfront type of guy which is commendable especially when we compare him to some other recent guests who seemed to be leading their much younger and inexperienced girls on in particular when she revealed her future hope was to......have children!@!?😉🤪

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks Ron

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@arcticbraga322]

What they want.....money nothing else, don't fool yourself. If you want love in the Philippines....rent it!

[@marchoman1776]

I think you're watching the wrong channel. There are a few KZbin channels in Angeles down on walking street you would probably injoy more. Good luck 👍

[@arcticbraga322]

@@marchoman1776 What on earth makes you think love has something to do with relationships between young girls an old farts from the west in their late 60's or 70's..... As long as you have money you have love (sex).

[@DeeCebu]

Ouch! Lots of filipinas are very attractive, intelligent, have well-paid jobs, well-off family members, and we want love with foreigners. Judgemental thinking not allowed please its not fair to filipinas

[@thecordilleran837]

New subscriber here. Great video. I wish I would bump into your guest, Marco😊.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Welcome aboard!

[@ZUES13]

I wish you would show clips of beautiful Philippina girls and scenery as you're speaking

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

not my thing

[@burtonknows9201]

I'd ask for the CENOMAR immediately. Messing with a married woman is no joke in the Phillippines, USA, or anywhere else.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

do you ask a date in your home country for proof she is single on the first date?

[@burtonknows9201]

@@mikesphilippineretirement But the laws and customs in the Philippines differ from those in the USA. And yes, I ask them if they've been married, have any kids, etc. No sense in wasting time getting involved in something that can bite you in the butt real quick.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

asking is one thing asking for proof as if every girl carries a cenomar when they go on a date

[@michaelpalosaari9460]

This has been one of your best interviews you’ve done. Marco is a great guest. I love his direct and non apologetic approach to his life. Peace ☮️

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

thank you

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@grandpapeteswordsofwisdom7114]

As a Canadian living with a beauty 30 years younger in the Philippines, I would say the most honest and sensible thing your guest said was he should become a Monk. He will never make a good mate for a Filipina long term. I am not the only one of your followers who noticed his red flags like I did. Mind you, I am very good at reading people and perhaps that is why I have such a successful life here.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

hahaha. ok reading people best way to have long an successful life

[@marcoexplores4175]

Hmmmm… you may be correct. But you might also be missing some things because certainly you’re not going to know me as a full three dimensional person from a short interview like this. I personally always try to reserve any absolute judgments about people and cling to the Ted Lasso philosophy: be curious not judgmental.

[@SirMikeMiller]

@@marcoexplores4175my Filipina wife was really offended by your foreigner power declaration. If you say it, it must mean you exert towards Filipinas.

[@SirMikeMiller]

My Filipina wife said the exact same thing. Terms like “Foreigner Power,” “Hybrids,” “Yellow Fever” really pissed her off. She said that none of her friends would ever be serious about him.

[@marktill8820]

@@SirMikeMiller I say it because I am aware of it. I try not to exert it in any way that is negative. But I think many foreigners who first get over here, don't realize how much deference is given to them because of the cultural situation here. But I do agree that the phrase "foreigner power" has a negative connotation. Thanks for bringing that to my awareness.

[@RetirePhilippines]

You hurt our feelings Mike. But we’ll ignore your judgmental opinion. We’re used to it. I notice that when an expat in their own age gap relationship has an opinion about others’ age gap relationships, their opinion always includes themselves in the acceptable group.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

sorry I hurt your feeling. What are you talking about. you can always not watch. but thank you for watching anyway

[@marktill8820]

I was also confused by your statement. But if I understand correctly I would agree that someone like myself would include my age range in the acceptable bandwidth if I am searching.

[@valeriek5020]

What was Mik's judgemental opinion.

[@ericsolkamans-kj2fd]

A lot of Filipinas think the foreigner is Bill Gates rich. That is far from the truth. There is a BIG difference between a vacation budget and living as a local budget.

[@joshuarizalforeman816]

I am not "Bill Gates rich" but I am fairly wealthy. My wife, of 11 years, and I met in HK and relocated here a few years ago We own residential and commercial property, and have a decent income. We are quite widely-travelled, both in the Philippines, Asia and Europe. I am suspicious of online dating, etc., but if it works, that is just fine.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I agree. I am a retired teacher and I have a very limited budget when compared to many of the other foreigners I meet. I try to get that upfront and clear to anybody I am interested in. But no matter what I say to them, I’m still going to appear Rich. As Einstein would point out to us… It’s all relative.

[@danielhackney7806]

@@marcoexplores4175 Well, you are RICH if you have $1500 to $3,000 income a month. That's a LOT of money to some women making $200 to $300 a month.

[@marktill8820]

@@danielhackney7806 I do realize that but my comparison is to myself for the guys with $5k/mo pensions or more.

[@GeorgeLi-y2g]

thanks again for your helpful video

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Welcome

[@TomR61]

You're right on the timeline, Paul.. Noone wants to tell their faults on the first date. Ex: how many divorces, arrested for minor incidents, body flaws. I don't want to share any shortcomings until she's a probable choice.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks Tom

[@valeriek5020]

With the older foreigner, I would think that she should let him know if the has children and of course if she was married. Maybe he should be blunt enough to let her know that this first meeting was important and that he has questions that are important to both him and her and would direct the date to a possible connection or disconnect.

[@jurissalas-chow1587]

Insightful Honest Thank you again ✌️

[@SirMikeMiller]

The use of “hybrid” implies that race is a clear dividing line between two different people. So, while people may give a wry smile while using the word, the underlying message of the humour is that people of different races are more different than two humans in general. Such words are generally not palatable and needs to be discouraged. It is safer to go use other expressions like she is of mixed heritage. She is biracial. She is multiracial. And using terms like “foreigner power” and “yellow fever” should be discouraged. If your preference somehow comes from stereotypes that you have about women of that ethnicity, then there is something wrong with that because it’s a manifestation of racism.

[@ericsolkamans-kj2fd]

There was a time I had an eight pack stomach. Now it's blended as one. I will say this, I AM still fit like an athlete.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

ok . if you say so. Hahaha

[@paulsmith2552]

Hell Mike. This guy is a bit full of himself 😅😊

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

really why do you say that?

[@danielhackney7806]

@@nancyamaral5620 How many young Filipina have you dated or had a relationship with??? Let me tell you something about them. My childhood friend has lived in the Phil's over 15 years and these so called young venerable poor women are VERY street wise. They know their duty to their family is to land a rich foreigner. My friend told me to WATCH out for these opportunistic young girls when I move to the Phil's next year. He gave me his list of Red Flags which looked a lot like the ones on expat KZbin channels.

[@marcoexplores4175]

Guilty as charged! But hopefully there’s a little more depth than just that observation. Please refer to the Ted Lasso quote above.

[@valeriek5020]

@paulsmith2552. I was very impressed with this man. He is definitely a man not willing, no matter what, to become a simp in any way to any woman, no matter what country. A confident man, who has worked hard all his life and stands strong against anything that might interfere with what he expects in his later years.

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@madikkfriends2012]

Just got a bump on this interview about dating a Filipina. I just like to share a thought..find a Filipina who will directly tell you who she is and her personal life. Surely, she will not tell you a lie.

[@burtonknows9201]

Good point with alone time. Both parties need some alone time.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

yes you need trust from your partner here to get alone time . No Trust your never alone

[@SirMikeMiller]

Good luck with alone time with a Filipina that is serious about you. They will be stuck on you like glue. You will never find any woman more jealous than a Filipina.

[@SirMikeMiller]

Case and point. If my wife wakes up and I’m not there. She will immediately yell “Babe!” If I don’t answer, she’ll get up and start a search and rescue mission lol.

[@miloskozarac8557]

Hi Marco. I have same experience since i rent long term in Manila and on Siquijor island. Usually i stay on Siquijor around 4 months and 2-3 months in Manila. So it is litte difficult to have serious relationship. I have had a few girls during this time but not for a long time then. So i undestand the why it won't work for long when travelling around. Eventually i will probably leave Siquijor with my motorbike to Manila since dating in Manila is so much better. Not all people want to live in Manila like i do.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks for sharing

[@jerrystanley6820]

After living in barangy 30 minutes from Cebu city for 3 months seen only couple foriegners couple times girlfriend 40s what I think is getting a relationship in the US is hard but having one here can be hard communication, jealousy, family many disagreements but worked it out so far

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

hope for the best Jerry

[@kathywatt7555]

Surprised you didn’t do well on Tinder. You seem to be such a nice man. Glad you found your Janet.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

thank you

[@charleshaubert3970]

Great interview

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks Charles

[@RetiredArmy2012]

its so funny how we get picky on women in the philipines soon as we get off the plane there makes me laugh hey ive been there many times and stay about 3 to 6 months a year if you cant find a 30 year old beautiful woman in the philipines something is wrong with you

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

hmmm

[@marktill8820]

In the spirit of curiosity rather than judgment, I would definitely agree with you that there is something unique and different about me.

[@madikkfriends2012]

And when a filipina girlfriend asked you a question like ( where are you going and who is with you). Don't think that she is controlling you, she only cares for you

[@valeriek5020]

That can complicate and put stress on the relationship. Communication and respect of how both feel needs to be discussed. He can let her know where he is going and with whom, but this is what he has planned and she needs to accept, respect, and trust him.

[@stan1027]

On some level, I think every Filipina looks at every expat as a 4-M... Matandang Mayaman Madaling Mamalay. Ask Janet what that means!

[@razmos1]

Well done guys!

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thank you Razmos1 you got an early view of this video

[@DingusCirc]

Let me ask this. Do you see large age gap relationship among the locals? No you don't. When locals see a large age gap relationship with a young filipina and an old foreigner, they feel sorry for the girl, but they understand it is only about money. This is a way the girl can escape poverty. To say it is a cultural norm is just not true.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

I see many Filipino men married to younger Filipinas. It is normal here

[@DingusCirc]

@@mikesphilippineretirement Come on. I have been here 18 years and anything over a 10 year age difference is very rare. A 40 year old filipino with a 20 year old filipina is also extremely rare. It is not normal. You never ever see a 60-70 year old filipino with a 30 year old filipina.

[@johnstough3225]

Interesting, whereabouts do you live There are several large age gapped filipino couples in my neighborhood I live in a smaller town in Pampanga I see them around in other neighborhoods also You can tell by the body language Some are with their husband for the money, and some actually are in love with their husband I do occasionally see the sympathetic looks from the older women that you mentioned I’m sure many older Filipinas can see the body language as well I think there are more young Filipinas in relationships with older men that they are not in love with, in the bigger cities, ( again just going by body language )

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

I will say yes. I even interviewed a girl who's stepfather was 40years older that her mother

[@danielhackney7806]

@@DingusCirc Can you read and respond to Johnstough post? He said he does see age gap relationships in his Pampanga neighborhood.

[@Mikeyyyy_L]

Foreigner power? Never heard that term before!

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

always a first time. Same here

[@marcoexplores4175]

And maybe it has a negative connotation. I guess it’s my term I came up with kind of like the force in Star Wars. It is real, and it is visceral to any foreigner who comes to the Philippines. It also exists in many of the other developing countries around the world, but here it is the most pronounced. At least so far in my experience.

[@SirMikeMiller]

Yeah, tell your next Filipina girlfriend that you have foreigner power and see how that goes over.

[@jurissalas-chow1587]

@@SirMikeMillersurprisingly 🫣they might agree❤

[@DeeCebu]

​@@SirMikeMillerahaha I'm actually laughing at 1 in the morning thanks. I know what I'll do with what the gentleman said but I better behave

[@gemmaleandado]

There are advantage of marrying a younger women because she can take good care of you when you get really old if she is true and she has a genuine loves for you, but if not its a waste of time thats why you should know what you really both want and you need to pen about it and take it easy don't get into rush know her better before you commit with her

[@valeriek5020]

I would think that a younger woman might not be the best choice for caregiver as you age. The older woman might provide a more stable environment as you have lived successfully together and she would have no problem caring forn you as you have cared for her.

[@gemmaleandado]

@valeriek5020 I agree somehow because it's obviously money matter for the younger one having too much age gaps

[@johnmartinson6743]

Another good video, Mike. GOD BLESS you and Janet.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks, you too!

[@gemmaleandado]

Dumaguete is last in the list to go for me, maybe I'll visit someday

[@valeriek5020]

Why do you say that.

[@gemmaleandado]

@valeriek5020 I have never been there, and it's crowded with foreigners i seen in KZbin vlogger. Now give me one good reason why I don't say that.

[@jsully4064]

Nice interview. Good luck to Marco in his travels and finding his Filipina. On to the next video, Mike...Jim

[@blockaderunner]

My wife always must go with me anywhere to EXCEPT to say go downstairs to meet the grab guy because security will not let them in

[@KaliBahayKubo]

He dates younger men aswell?

[@teresacartel3687]

Try to come in Iloilo...it's a nice place, lots if nice hotels and Condominium ..to rent and also want to buy Condominium

[@FilCanGil]

Do you find that the girl will ask for the password for your phone but won’t want to give theirs?

[@valeriek5020]

Mike, you brought something to the table that has not been talked about much and this foreigner presents well. He holds true to what is important to him and the woman he is looking for has much to consider and must also be true and honest to herself before she journeys with him. He needs alone time, time to unwind, refocus, meet with friends, travel without her (if that is important to him), not wanting children and the possibility of not wanting to marry. Marriage is not necessarily something he is considering, but definitely looking for a relationship that promises a commitment for life. The need for the filipina to respect those boundaries are very important to him and possibly very foreign to the filipina. This man is true to himself and although he recognizes that his life format might not suit all filipinas, his quest for the right woman remains an important factor.

[@ExtraGuac007]

Come on yellow fever boys, don't you want to date the 2024 Miss Alabama or Miss Maryland?

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

does she want to date me...come on now

[@marktill8820]

I agree with Mike on this one. Miss AnyState would not give me the time of day. I guess that is the point of the whole discussion is that moving here into this culture we are given the opportunity to date younger more attractive women. If someone does not like my motivation, then so be it, but when it comes time for elder care for myself, I do not want to burden my sons or anyone else...except my soulmate. That is part of what she signed up for. I do take exception to the phrase "yellow fever". The mere mentioning of color in the description like this certainly borders on an insensitive comment at best. No one likes to be referred to by color. Of course the exception is us white folk… right? The "ones" in power rarely get offended.

[@ExtraGuac007]

@@marktill8820 Mike used the phrase, "Yellow Fever" in the video. I would think twice about the elder care option. Watch the channel, "The Campbell Vlog" and see how an evil Filipina would rather ship you back to the States than take care of you in the PH.

[@Medic-lx1ne]

Something off about this guy

[@ericjames7819]

Bro, the fact that she's reading all your text messages isn't an indicator of trust.

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks for sharing

[@eduardoquiban947]

THERE ARE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN IN SOME OTHER LAND, BUT ONLY GOOD ABOUT FACES BUT BODY THEY ARE LIKE ELEPHANT BUT PILIPINA ARE DIFFERENT,, BECAUSE FACES ARE BEAUTIFUL AND THEIR BODIES ARE PERFECT NOT VERY FAT.. THEY SPEAK PERFECT ENGLISH AND THEY ARE VERY EDUCATED FROM UNIVERSITY..

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks for sharing

[@stan1027]

I don't know if you heard yet, but the US Supreme Court just ruled that Americans do not have the right to bring foreign spouses back to the US, Fact!

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

try to stop me

[@jsully4064]

@stan1027 There is no problem bringing spouses back to the states as long as you have their visas approved. It is not a right, but there is a process.

[@stan1027]

@@jsully4064 I could be wrong, but my understanding is that visas are no longer being approved based solely on the fact of being married to an American. But were they ever? I really don't know. I'm sure any foreigner can go through the "normal process", whatever that entails.

[@jsully4064]

@@stan1027 No, they were never approved based solely on being married (talking about marriage visas). The K1 Fiancée is the easier route but you must still prove that you can afford to support or sponsor your Fiancée or wife and she has to swear that she will never file for government benefits. Tourist visas are extremely hard to get for single Filipina women from what I understand.

[@SirMikeMiller]

The easiest route is to start off with a tourist visa but there are still things she should do before applying for a US visa.

[@offhamsterwheel2789]

makes sure the shirts match, lol , good one Mike

[@davidless57]

Don’t these 30 year old’s want children if they don’t have them? Most guys in our age don’t want more kids

[@ReadySetGo113]

I have seen him on another channel, but I just dont like him. I just dont like him. Do not feel he is genuine. But each to their own

[@valeriek5020]

He has been very honest and true to himself. He is a foreigner in the Philippines and his culture and way of life is important to him. The filipina would be smart to understand that he will respect her culture as he will respect hers.

[@TumbleweedRocks]

Come with an open wallet 🤑

[@mikesphilippineretirement]

Thanks for sharing

[@JohnTaylor-yk9hl]

Many Phil men have younger girls especially richer ones and married bones have girlfriends