MILENA CICIOTTI THINKS WOMEN SHOULD STAY HOME? | vanity is...bondage reaction

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[@elyseparker5333]

This makes me upset. As if women are not under enough pressure in life...let's add that God doesn't want us to get our nails done. Can we please just live our lives?!

[@FeministCatLadySpinster]

My face when Milena suggested we use sunscreen because we don't want to age. 💀Or maybe because we don't want to die of something we can prevent?

[@lyndora33864]

I have a friend who had skin cancer twice. When the sun makes the tiniest peek out of the clouds, he's offering sun block to everyone in sight. Sunblock isn't a vanity thing.

[@wooogie672]

i’ve seen plenty skincare influencers push the “anti-aging” benefits for sunscreen over you know… preventing skin cancer…

[@gwendolyncordero2173]

Also Roscea is a thing.. like hello 😅

[@heyitsme881]

@@lyndora33864not agreeing with milena, BUT there’s lots of evidence to suggest that chemical sunscreens can actually be very harmful and carcinogenic.

[@BHaney]

I’ve definitely seen influencers talk about sunscreen and anti-aging but I find it hard to believe most people use it solely for that purpose. It’s like “it keeps my skin safe and if, in doing that, there are also anti aging benefits, great!” Plus I’d imagine most people who use sunscreen on their kids are doing it purely for safety purposes not for vanity.

[@ericajohnston4524]

It’s a known fact that developing skin cancer brings you closer to the lord

[@AlexisBKenn]

The process of progressively wearing less makeup has just been pregnancy to mom life for me 😂 no divine intervention, just less time/energy

[@sinSARAHty]

My win for the week is I have officially accepted admission into a Medical Sciences PhD program! It doesn't feel real yet, but it'll hit me like a train when it starts in the fall 😅

[@lasagnewolf]

Congratulations!!!!

[@lyndora33864]

My win for the week is that my teenage son won an essay contest. I'm very proud of him.

[@mbs8001]

Isn’t it funny how social groups usually end up being “convicted” of the same things, around the same time….which varies from group to group and culture to culture.

[@janethro7203]

It sounds like the sister is just obsessive. She goes from obsession to obsession.

[@kay-bc3vl]

Seriously like I’m sorry but I highly doubt God is obsessing over you curling your eye lashes. “Do you not trust that I made you beautiful?” Or whatever she said - maybe we should stop showering next, combing our hair!

[@Moon0525_]

Exactly lol and I relate, as someone clearly neurodivergent but what kind idk. Obsession has been my brand in life. Hyperfixation on everything, and especially catastrophising. My OCD lends itself to that. If I don't do this thing, and do it perfectly, something TERRIBLE will happen. But "Christianese" likes to use the word idol because it says anything we think about *more* than God is an idol. The words obsession, addiction, disease, neurodivergence, hyperfixation etc... All in the lexicon of psychology... Are 'not Christian enough.' But a Golden Calf is!

[@godexplorer]

When I encounter these types of videos, I always wonder, can modesty become its own type of idolatry?

[@malanenix4033]

🤔

[@breannacastellanos5650]

i truly believe it has. they talk about all the time how all these other things were idols and bad because it was “consuming” their thoughts and everything, but it seems like modesty has consumed them. not to say you need to be immodest, but putting all this effort and time and thoughts into “is this modest enough” seems like a form of idolatry. it’s all consuming.

[@samanthasiqueira2587]

Absolutely, everything can.

[@marcyanne8910]

It's very clear their problem is with patriarchy and consumerism and not vanity. Why is it always a problem with women wanting to look good a feel good about themselves. Back when Milena was starting KZbin she wore thick lashes and whatnot because IT WAS THE TREND. Now... it's the trendy new think to be minimal and people are realizing less is more with skincare too. She was influenced by the media and noticed how difficult the upkeep was of that life style and said God told me and I know better so I'm telling you. Seems weird to me

[@AlexisBKenn]

On the skincare section, couldn’t agree with you more, B! Skincare is my 10ish minutes a day I am taking for myself. Also, I consider it hygiene!

[@nick._.coleslaw]

Right? I wonder where these ladies would draw the line between taking care of yourself and being vain about your appearance. Because you can definitely make the argument from Scripture that Christians should care for their bodies.

[@lrzbhnsn]

Agreed on both of you!

[@Saint_Medusa]

My win for the week is just surviving to payday.

[@BHaney]

That’s a big win, you made it!!

[@lindseysims2349]

It’s really sad that Milena and Melanie would have the whole conversation about vanity without acknowledging or zooming out to consider and discuss why women or people can be obsessively vain. Vanity can be an issue if it’s consuming, but it’s a side effect.

[@floofmccloud]

I did not realize until I saw their names written out here that they are the same letters just rearranged lol

[@floofmccloud]

But seriously i think this is why I find Milena so boring, everything I’ve seen from her is so shallow

[@drowningindeepblue]

I have dermatillomania and I habitually and compulsively pick at my skin, sometimes for hours if I'm not snapped out of it. It's the reason I still struggle with acne and have scarring on my face, as I can't leave my skin alone. One of the things that keeps me from picking is putting on foundation, even if it's on a weekend and I'm not going anywhere. Serums and moisturizers help to heal my skin from the damage I've caused. You should wear whatever you like and put on your skin whatever you feel comfortable, full stop. I also LIKE to wear a lot of makeup ☺. But I'd be curious to hear Milena and her sister's thoughts on something like a mental health disorder like that, where sometimes it's not "vanity", it's necessity.

[@airypersiflage]

Same problem, I solve it the same way you do!!!! ❤ you're not alone!

[@Kienie]

Ooo, I have this issue, gonna try this. Thank u!

[@drowningindeepblue]

@@Kienie No problem! Happy I could help ^_^

[@drowningindeepblue]

@@airypersiflage 😊😊😊

[@feliciascorner9795]

I literally can not leave a pimple or dead skin patch alone on my face. The tweet about having a pimple and fixing it by creating an open wound is a personal attack. 😂

[@mullimar000]

Wants wisdom from older women…then goes on to reduce the said women to their appearance. The fact that she had to “work through” things in order to find a 70 year old person beautiful tells me everything about her priorities Edit: AND that she’s not listening to anything older people are saying bc she’s only thinking “wow look how their face lines move when they talk”

[@Gumbyloomy]

Im not diagnosing , but a lot of her experiences sound like OCD and I say that as someone with very similar obsessions. I worry about her slipping into religious OCD, if she’s not already there. But again, I don’t know her! It’s just incredibly concerning that she’s willing to forego something related to self maintenance and cleanliness like skincare to avoid “vanity”

[@ER-ge9hr]

Agree 😢 I have OCD that started as religious scrupulosity as a child before developing into contamination OCD. Worries me whenever I see someone leaning more and more and more into religion in order to feel satisfied in every area of their life.

[@racheldrymon2091]

My win for the week is my husband and I finally filled out all the paperwork and made the trek to the US embassy here in Portugal to make our son a US citizen. It’s been 16 months of putting off. 😂 Love your videos by the way. It’s nice ti watch a Christian with similar views! Also congratulations on your pregnancy!!! 😍 🥰

[@BHaney]

That’s an awesome win! Completing paperwork (even when it’s important) is tough to get the motivation to do 😭 And thank you!! 💛

[@rivendells_shona]

Did anyone else start hearing Larry the Cucumber sing “I love my lips” in their head when Milena said she was praying God would let her love her lips?… … just me? Okay. USTA!

[@hopeard3512]

😂😂

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

Your friends all laughed...Usta--how do you spell that?

[@feliciascorner9795]

Oh that made me think of a student I used to work with! He loved that song! I hope he is doing well!

[@floofmccloud]

I immediately said “I love my lips!” in his voice 😂

[@jennconrad6068]

My win for the week is that I finished my first whole year of my doctoral program 😊

[@BHaney]

Way to go, that’s amazing!! 🎉

[@n.v.beeeee2149]

As an Australian with fair skin, I am begging Milena and other American Fundies to start using sunscreen if they aren't already. Preventing skin cancer (especially the deadly type) is not 'vanity', and I'm sure the God they believe in would see this as proper care of their body.

[@melissashiels7838]

Right? Like, the argument could be equally made that sunscreen usage is part and parcel of looking after the "temple of god", ie. the human body that is in-dwelt by the Holy Spirit. I don't believe this nonsense anymore, but you can literally make any verse mean what you want it to mean in the moment.

[@janethro7203]

One of my pet peeves is people who have one 1 of experience in something and automatically feel like they are teachers and have authority to show others what is “right” 🙄. I cannot imagine what she will be like in her 40s.. I’m sorry, but I truly find people like this insufferable. It’s so hard for me to be around them in real life. And the crazy thing is, if I were ever to express it in the church . I think I’d be admonished. I honestly do not think I am in the wrong here.

[@rae_gem]

That was my feeling listening to them too. Just young people sharing their current opinions on stuff not realizing all the opinions can and do change over time.

[@Des-Laine]

I agree with you 💯!!!🤯

[@arielscrafting4965]

Derailing the conversation a bit I feel like it may be interesting to talk about fat women as well in this conversation. I have noticed a lot of young, thin, christan women will talk about not being vain (or using sunscreen lol) but yet when it comes to being fat they always talk down about them and how they are not keeping God in their lives.

[@Mimi-hn6iv]

That is absolutely shameful for them to talk that way.

[@sophiasouthern]

Ah B!! Congratulations to you and your husband. I usually deadpan-watch through KZbin videos but my whole face lit up when you said the news. Best of luck to you as a fellow pregnant mama… you are in for the best ride of your life. 🥰

[@BHaney]

Thank you, that is so sweet!! ☺️ and congratulations to you too! 🎉

[@juliweizen1759]

If I'm gonna hear any of them say "iN tHiS sEaSoN" ever again I'm gonna scream😢😂

[@paotomos]

to me it's seems like "in this season" is mostly used as an excuse because MAYBE "in the next season" they'll want to do something for themselves (like mani/pedi, fillers, you name it) and people will call them out

[@georgia3045]

My win for the week is I went on my very first run outside after being too anxious to for years 😃

[@elizabethsnell5316]

My win for the week is that I had my teacher review with my directors this week and they mentioned how much my classroom was always very open and inviting which was one of my goals I had written at the beginning of the school year.

[@PerriDatingCoach]

My win for the week is getting to spend Passover ( the Jewish holiday ) with my family!

[@Elise.93]

Chag sameach!

[@BHaney]

I hope you had a wonderful time with your family! 💛

[@PerriDatingCoach]

@@Elise.93thank you! ❤

[@PerriDatingCoach]

@@BHaneythank you B!! Congrats on your pregnancy!! ❤

[@HunnyBug]

This comes as absolutely no disrespect for Christians, because I know you are one, but some of what she's talking about and attributing to the lord just feels like the natural progression of her life. She said her nails were annoying for her new hobbies so it seems logical she would subconsciously want them off. The confidence growth she mentioned from 20 to 30 is also very normal. I understand that god is an active force in the minds and hearts of those who believe in him but like you can also just grow and change as a person which this sounds like to me.

[@HunnyBug]

Also so, so happy that this community is such a positive space!

[@Courterfly]

As a Christian, I agree, didn’t feel disrespect at all ☺️

[@HunnyBug]

@@Courterfly oh I'm glad!! It was truly just an observation ☺️

[@ER-ge9hr]

You said it so well. I’m about to turn 33 and have gone through so many of the ‘changes’ she mentioned. I wore heavy makeup in my 20’s because I had a lot more free time and energy. I rarely wear makeup now (mostly bc of energy). The way I dressed has changed, the shoes I wear, the things I spend my money on, and yes even my nails - I used to get long acrylics, now they are bare and natural. I’m an atheist, so it has nothing to do with god, it’s just the way my body, time, and interests have slowly changed.

[@lrzbhnsn]

Agreed. I can relate a lot. Some people also believe that everything bad that happens to them is either Satan, a curse, or bad energy. Sometimes, it's just life that hits you I guess..

[@colleen.g]

On the discussion about the importance of feeling worthy whether we make changes to our physical appearance or not (around 20 min): I do feel that your points are very thoughtful, but I would strongly caveat them as mostly applying to people when their appearance is generally accepted and valued by society. When you have traits that aren't accepted or treated with respect, I think it's a really tall ask for you to feel worthy as you are. So just wanted to add that caveat that although we all deserve to feel worthy and ideally would feel worthy, it is painfully understandable why people might struggle a lot to feel that way, and I think we need to be supportive of people coping with current societal standards as best they can, while we try to overturn them. ❤️ Of course, I think we all agree that there are additional caveats around changing your body to better reflect yourself, but I think the underlying conversation here was really about the influence societal beauty standards have on us.

[@laurence.d.a]

* yelling from Montreal * WEAR YOUR SUNSCREEN!!!!!!!

[@susanzumback7711]

Legalism has entered the chat

[@4_everman]

The instant serotonin boost I got when I saw this was up

[@BHaney]

🥰

[@crystal3850]

My cat was very concerned over Milena's baby's babbling giggles. He kept searching for the source

[@BHaney]

Aw that’s so cute ☺️

[@lindseystein9676]

I’m so happy for you! I have endometriosis, too, and was told from age like 13 or 14 that it’s very very unlikely I’d be able have kids. So I accepted that pretty early on. It was a huge shock for me & my husband when I found out I was pregnant at 28. Maybe it’s kind of rude, but I get extra excited for someone who has endometriosis and is finally able to get pregnant (and wanting to be, of course). I hope you have an easy pregnancy without all of the not fun side effects

[@BHaney]

Thank you ☺️ when I was younger I got “you’re more likely to have trouble having kids” and then as I got older it changed to “you know if you get pregnant it’ll help with your symptoms” 🤦🏻‍♀️ but I definitely feel you on the shock! It took until about week 13 for me to accept that I really was pregnant and I could be excited about it.

[@sadiefalco4673]

About what you said about not making changes out of self hatred. I worked for a plastic surgeon. I’ve also had cosmetic surgery. What really impressed me was how my doctor and the doctor I worked for, really put an emphasis on what is realistic to expect. Basically look; you’re not going to look perfect, no one will, no one can, if you want to improve something that can be done; you need to have a realistic expectation, you are not going to wake up and every part of your life is perfect now. You are improving one thing, everything else is still going to be the same… I know not al doctors do this, but thankful the ones I’ve interacted with have. I also think they do it because they want happy clients, someone hating how they look because of surgery results is not going to be a good recommendation… people only need to see one unhappy client to decide to never see that doctor. Setting clients up for realistic expectations is important for the doctors success long term, and the patients happiness post surgery. Also … things take time to settle! Every girl I know who has a breast reduction panics, hates it, thinks they made a huge mistake, think their breasts are too hard and perky, but having had one myself I remember those feelings and I remember how after a year things really did settle and look natural. Nothing is instant.

[@shainasawyer4649]

My brain came to a screeeeeching halt when she said sunscreen is for anti-aging 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬🤔🤔🤔

[@bryngarrity5548]

this is only the second time i've seen a video from Milena and what stands out to me most is how hard she tries to make EVERYTHING about the lord. and i feel bad for her because the mental gymnastic christians go through to justify every little thought and feeling and good and bad things happening in their lives as "the lord working" is exhausting.

[@stephq472]

Aesthetician here! Sunscreens main purpose: protects you from the harmful UV rays from the sun to prevent SKIN CANCER 🥴 other added benefits from sunscreen: prevents age spots (which also prevents skin cancer) and helps with fine lines/wrinkles.

[@london616]

33:14 Did anyone else's brain just go "And now it's time for Silly Songs with Larry. The part of the show where Larry comes out and sings a silly song" then had to go and listen to I Really Love My Lips?

[@michaiahs]

My win for the week is that my toddler is finally potty training!!

[@CarolineMolyneux4491]

I know Christians have a "personal relationship" with the Lord, but personally, the idea that an all-powerful being cares about your nail care routine is far more vain than said routine

[@feliciascorner9795]

My problem with the whole "God knitted me together perfectly in my mother's womb," saying is that a lot of us suffer from genetic disorders, genetic diseases, chronic illness, congenital anomalies, etc. A lot of us suffer on a daily basis and to say God made it that way, doesn't sit right with me. I also don't believe in perfection. That's not a real thing. It's not attainable. It's not something to strive for. Everything has flaws. It's inherently part of existence.

[@ambitioussoprano]

Exactly.... like I have two autistic parents who passed it on to me... I also got eczema from my mom as well as dyspraxia ADHD and IBS from my dad... am I going to moan about it? No. Bc I know God can help me live a prosperous life and change myself as I wish.

[@ambitioussoprano]

Also Crohns, Celiac, Huntington's..... all hereditary.. all in the womb

[@nick._.coleslaw]

Their comment about the lack of wise women in church may be true to their experience, but is definitely not true overall. I’ve been blessed by so many older Christian women who have lived through such different experiences. It’s sad that they haven’t had that in their lives, but it’s unfair for them to say that those women are rare. Maybe the churches they attend attract a younger demographic.

[@amanda_of_house_dracarys]

🤣🤣 So she's heading the Lord's voice tell her to take her nails off? I can't.

[@emmawright9660]

When I started my acne treatments and cleared up my face, suddenly, I could focus on other people because I wasn't stressing about the way my face looked. When I started dressing the way I wanted and made me feel beautiful and confident (modesty still being considered), I could focus on other people because I wasn't uncomfortable with how I was being percieved.

[@taylor3342]

Funny how her new look, the result of a supposed conviction from God, fits perfectly with the viral trad wife aesthetic lol

[@BHaney]

Interesting coincidence, eh?

[@corilewis]

I wouldn’t be surprised to hear Milena argue that pretty privilege doesn’t exist 🤣

[@ambitioussoprano]

She has it 100%

[@theabbychronicles-p]

My win for the week was finally feeling my feet after i had to scrub my feet with a pumice stone for a week because of dead skin.

[@sweetmercifulj]

A win is a win!

[@tracyhue23]

Imma admit, I do gel overlays for mental health reasons. Not for me time, or to get out of the house or whatever. I am autistic with ADHD and have the tendency to chew my nails, pick scabs/my eczema, or pull off my cuticles and the skin around the tips of my fingers. Gel and acrylic dips help my not do those things. Just to put a different layer or reason to getting nails done. Editing to say, I sew, crochet, cook, make bunny treats, and plenty of crafty things with my nails…I type for a living.

[@yeet7463]

Perfect time to listen while I work out during my babies naptime :)

[@BHaney]

Enjoy your workout! 💛

[@averylynn34]

Just started watching, but lol I love your thumbnails 😂

[@trixjoyce]

As a violinist who has never had my nails done just because of the fact I play the violin and viola... Yeah, can imagine it gives you the freedom to do more with your hands. But at the same time... Can't people just do whatever they feel like? Women always have pressure from society and whatever we do it's either right or wrong! I rarely wear makeup and I get hate for it. And a woman who wears makeup I would imagine gets hate for that as well! Can we just let people be who they are and who they want to be?!

[@hopeard3512]

My win for the week is feeling my baby move for the first time ❤❤

[@FarkleBeans]

I cannot imagine the stress of thinking that everything I do, that I consider to be "self-care", is actually vanity. A skin care routine isn't necessarily for vanity. (Your skin is your largest organ, and it's not vain to care for it.) Same with many other activities, eg; shaving, makeup, nails, exercising, etc. I think it can be a scary, slippery slope from doing things that make you feel good, to completely neglecting yourself out of fear that doing anything for yourself, including self-care and hobbies could be considered selfish and vain.

[@g.g.6785]

As one of those older Titus 2 women, I have found that young(er) women no longer want to talk with or engage with me. I was asked for advice often when I was 30/40 ish, but no more once I turned 50. (Now that I may actually have good and wise advice.😅)

[@Moon0525_]

My issue with "Christianese" (as Drew GMS says lol I love it) is the need to attribute *every single thing* to God, even if it's something you can attribute just to you. Halfway through and all I've heard so far is the belief she was struggling with beauty standards and the insecurity surrounding it to be perfect / up to standard / influencer beautiful. And instead she developed a sizeable amount of self confidence and is learning to love the body she's in, with her face, and invest time in things that make her happy rather than increase performative pressure. I'm Christian myself, so yes I do turn to God with all of those things in prayer. I pray for self confidence, self love, better body image, contentment in my own skin with my own face etc. But I still do attribute so much of that to my own self work going to therapy and trying to shed toxic societal mindsets I've soaked up. Trying to define myself by the girl in the mirror rather than what a tabloid says I should. I find it immensely saddening with a lot of the evangelical movement seeing oneself as a fully blank canvas. Everything is God. Every work is God. Every good thing is God, every bad thing is Satan, and every act of self growth is God. Is there no agent to say hey, I'm a highly intelligent person who has done a lot of work too? Or is it "vain" to recognise one's own accomplishments and feel proud you've put in some hard legwork?

[@cayleycausey8512]

My win for the week is that I married my best friend on Sunday, and we are currently on our honeymoon!

[@deannanewman7965]

Oh my gosh your win for the week! Congratulations on your pregnancy!! Sending you and your husband so much love and positivity on this new journey ❤

[@Saint_Medusa]

Also and this is a stretch but does anyone else get uncomfortable about the emphasis on " be pure " i fwel like its lowkey edging on " be innocent and naieve " but like in a way that if youre ever hurt or assault you wont know what fo do. They didnt say thay but the way they enphasis purity gave me that vibe

[@ColoradoLJ]

I do my own dip nails at home on my natural nails and it’s something I learned to do with my hands 😂 I’m chuckling over here cause I also love to sew and make things with my hands.

[@CarolineMolyneux4491]

As a mother who always tries her best but, as many, finds parenthood a struggle, I'm pretty sure you'll be amazing. Your baby is already blessed. Congratulations ❤❤

[@daneesledge1626]

33:53 not diagnosing her at all, but as someone with adhd it sounds like she’s describing pretty typical adhd traits but making it about morality. This is a message that can be very damaging to neurodiverse people. My guess is she heard this because it’s very common in conservative Christian spaces

[@lrzbhnsn]

Nice thought. For someone having for example like you said adhd, or anxiety (which I have) or other diagnosis within the spectrum or mental health. I think if you haven't figured out yet how your illness works, sometimes you indeed tend to see thoughts and/or actions as something right and truthfull, but actually it's your illness acting/speaking up. . And you tend to link it to another thing. Cause you haven't quite figured out yet it's possibly linked to your illness. I recognize that a lot within myself

[@daneesledge1626]

@@lrzbhnsn and these spaces often discourage people from getting mental health help. Instead it teaches to spiritually bypass and try harder. The further removed I am from the spaces the more nefarious it seems. I think there’s a lot of well meaning people heaping shame on the neurodivergent.

[@dramonmaster222]

Yeah, I feel like I understand what she is TRYING to say but the way it's coming across just seems convoluted. My Win for the Week" Enjoying Quiet Time while My Sister and Kids are at the Beach

[@BHaney]

Same, I get the idea behind a lot of it but there are also some contradictions going on. And that’s awesome, it’s so nice to be able to get quiet time!!

[@MsKatze]

I'm not a believer or anything, but dude, if there actually is a god he/she whatever doesn't give two craps about whether or not this girl gets her nails done! I'm sorry, but with all of the things going on in this world, to think that your deity would be concerned about that is so bizarre to me.

[@strawberrystains3190]

Abusive guys tend to want their girls to not care for themselves to look and feel pretty…. I feel like her change in attitude is from him… it’s weird

[@MsLizzieGurl]

The thing about Milena is she is SO CLOSE to getting the point... but then she says something like "sunscreen is vanity." TANNING, something that actively damages your skin, is something she hasn't been convicted on but SUNSCREEN is. Ok girl..

[@saintamerican6105]

Yes women who want to please the LORD *should* stay home and have their income be home based not office based outside of the home. But if you’re secular, worldly and fleshy you will not agree and thats okay. You have the choice to deny God’s will for your life.

[@Lja77613]

What a bullshit 😂

[@lizcollinson2692]

The bit I struggle with is that all the motivations for stripping back are shaming, not Look at yourself and accept it, look for the beauty in yourself before adding.

[@jessicagerlach6147]

Win for the week: Spending more intentional time with my kiddos doing crafts! I'm also still pregnant with my rainbow baby which I'm always grateful for everyday :) P.S. I think I totally understand what Milena was talking about when she said sunscreen can be vain for some people. It really depends on the girls you hang out with but I never hear girls being concerned about skin cancer lol; they're usually only obsessing over how the sun will effect their facial countenance over time. Nothing wrong with that but it can honestly get out of hand sometimes haha

[@callit2166]

Her saying that sunscreen is vanity because it's for anti-aging purposes is one of the reasons I left the skincare social media/KZbin community. I enjoy skincare, I like learning about the science behind it and experimenting, but there is an extremely toxic and harmful obsession with "anti-aging" in that community. (I put anti-aging in quotes because it's really not a thing. We all age, regardless of how many products we put on our faces). I grew up in the desert and sunscreen was necessary so your skin doesn't get burned, peeling, painful, permanently damaged, or develop cancer.

[@itsnotrounditsapyramid]

I was annoyed at the background noise the whole time 😂 thank you for bringing it up B ❤

[@ilikebread757]

My Win For The Week is that I just got my ACT results back and I got a 31! (I'm still retaking it in a couple months bc I want to see if I can get a higher score tho...I still suck at math tbh)

[@elisa-beary]

In some ways, perhaps from a different perspective, it sounds like being in bondage from thinking about vanity- even in trying not to be. It sounds sad and especially with so many other things to consider idk. Everyone’s faith journey is different so it could just sound that way to me but I also get what she’s saying to an extent. It’s just also the obsession in not being vain.

[@Spugglebug]

Sunscreen is vanity? Has she never heard of skin cancer!!!?

[@annawallace3383]

Our body is a temple and we should care for it and love the skin we're in. And God gave us tools and science to do that. But don't you DARE PUT VITAMIN C SERUM ON THAT SKIN BECAUSE GOD DOESN'T LIKE IT. I'm sorry. That is just so unhealthy. These women obsess about every little detail.

[@juliafaye8764]

I truly don’t see the issue with doing thorough research on skincare and wanting to implement it within your life. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of the body God gave you.

[@RobAGabor]

My win for the week was I got to see a performance of Hair with the my mother and sister.

[@lolo_was_here]

I would add that the economy is making many people stop their expensive treatments like lashes and nails. They aren’t having a unique revelation, it is very much in line with what is going on in the over culture.

[@BHaney]

That sounds awesome!! I hope you all had a great time 🎉

[@n.r.m.15]

Its so strange how they speak for God all the time. Like he just hit them up.on the phone and was like "heeyy giirrlll....do you really need those gel tip nails?? Mmmm????" 😂😂😂 Also, this video feels directed very pointendly to brittany dawn and the brittany dawns of the world. Which is funnier that she eventually went on her podcast 😂😂 These women...how do they have time to worry about all this stuff...and this is coming from someone with OCD.that overthinks everything....but these gals are obsessive.

[@spacecat7864]

Wow congrats on the pregnancy! It’s always good to see kind empathetic people start families :3

[@BHaney]

Thank you so much ☺️💛

[@wurdnurd1]

My WftW is that I finally took my therapist's advice to leave my apartment and be social, and joined a bowling league! Our first night was Friday and, while I'm a TERRIBLE bowler, my team is really nice. And now my entire body hurts 😂

[@BHaney]

A bowling league sounds so fun!! Way to go on getting out there, that can be really intimidating so I’m glad you had a good time and your team is nice!

[@Thatcaramelchic]

How is there a lack of older women 😅 there will always be older women we have no choice but to age.

[@cambowsher0613]

You’re so pretty !!😍

[@Thatcaramelchic]

@@cambowsher0613 thank you ☺️

[@NoNameNumberTwo]

I’m late, but…Congratulations on your pregnancy! 🎉 Motherhood is like the Marines-The toughest job you’ll ever love. 🥰

[@thetrailwalkers]

I get so happy when I see a new YT video uploaded. Win of the week: spend some time in Zion NPark with my husbands cousin that we havent seen since March 2022. That sunscreen comment 😮!!

[@annamariefella8315]

OMG! I’m late to this video, but congrats! So happy for you.

[@VinceOConnor]

Just followed you on TikTok. Also I am so happy for you and your husband!!

[@stingerbee9921]

What if I'm convicted to go GET botox, or nails, or do my makeup? She says it's fine not to follow her convictions but she wants God to give you your own, then proceeds to imply that it can only be things to give up... so much passive aggressive christian judgyness it hurts.

[@ChelseaJ242]

Why can’t a skin care routine be self care vs vanity? 😵‍💫 isn’t our body a temple, so shouldn’t we treat it that way?!

[@Janessarose96]

to be fair this is an older video of hers, so she has changed a bit of her views and "harshness" of these views, like in the last video you did of her and Brittany's podcast and how she mentioned not judging others so i feel like she is going down a good path for these things, especially looking at her older videos (like this one) vs the newer ones.

[@BHaney]

Yeah I appreciated how she made a point of saying that when she was on Brittany’s podcast!

[@sandralantau7395]

Thanks for the thoughtful reaction, B! If it's not too much work for you, can you share your TikToks as shorts on YT? I don't have TikTok but I'd be interested in the topics

[@Harvestxdeath69]

No disrespect at all but lip fillers, face fillers, all that stuff really isn't good for your skin and ages you quite drastically (saying this because clearly she cares about her appearance). A simple skincare routine is all you need!

[@annaluisaj]

for years i have been using sunscreen on my face because people on my family has had skin cancer. and that is not vanity, is taking care of your self.

[@marleneflanagan7137]

Spending the last 5 months recovering from Bell's Palsy, I know that I would HATE Botox. Not being able to move parts of my face is maddening!

[@PGOuma]

I almost don't look at mirrors at all. I only take quick peeks in it whenever I'm getting ready for anything like work, shopping, etc etc etc. I have curls so I gotta make sure that they aren't going crazy up on my head 🤣

[@emilysolimando4054]

Everything for her is so OVERLY spiritualized! It’s seems really and truly exhausting to live this way 🥴 Like what happened to her?! 🥴

[@Meganec3810]

Yayyyyy I love your videos!!!

[@rosetop12891]

It’s so frustrating to see these Christian influencers do this thing. This thing where they wane on and off about whether they’re speaking for their own health, just to get their own personal convictions from the lord off their chests and to wax poetic about how, when, & why they make the life decisions and choices they do. Or, if they are actually acting in a guidance, modeling, and/or pastoral role and preaching for their audience to change their own ways and follow the lead. It’s actually so transparent that these influencers are really doing the latter. And my hope would be for them to just freakin’ own it! Say from the top that that’s what you’re doing and that’s what your goal is. Literally, to influence. There’s less wrong in being honest about it than there is for being contradictory and hypocritical in your videos. I’m talking to Milena, who committed this chief offense by the book in the video; GirlDefined, B.Dawn, and Paul & Morgan are all also really noteworthy perpetrators of this offense, repeatedly. It’s so aggravating. It’s deceptive, confusing for the most earnest of the followers, and unnecessary. It chips at the influencer’s credibility right out of the gate when I hear or see this dance of motives happening. I don’t know if the influencer transgressors are truly oblivious and ignorant of this tendency of theirs; or if they are doing it on purpose.

[@mullimar000]

I don’t think you misunderstood what they said, I was utterly perplexed

[@taylorlenise1497]

How miserable do you have to be to make an entire video about another woman. Whether she’s in the right or not, this is weird. It seems as if you’re obsessed.

[@sadiefalco4673]

Ugh the idea that you would be sad because your child wanted to change something about themselves…. This is why these people are so dangerous to the trans community. They put more importance on what their god believes, and not on what the living breathing human in front of them believes. I would be heart broken if my child felt they could not be the version of themselves they want to be, because I would be disappointed. I was born with a congentical issue, small things like Botox, veneers, etc all helped me to look more “normal” and you can say you should love yourself the way you are …. Ok but even if I love myself the way I am, I WILL be treated differently, I WILL be stared at, I WILL be up against peoples biases about people who look like I do. I think god wants us to be happy, if we are not harming others then I think he’s probably got bigger fish to fry. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@MsLizzieGurl]

43:57 Not to sound like a Catholic but I think that's the reason why the church has saints. Idk what church they go to but mostly everyone at my protestant church is old. The female saints are examples of people who lived and dedicated their lives to God. I think they would really benefit from meeting other groups of Christian women

[@PeachReverie]

I feel like this is reaching, like I get it if this is a certain issue for some people, but it’s not the general idea of how people view beauty, skin care etc. I have a very strong feeling that they had some kind of maternal figure in their lives when they were young, who was obsessed with looks and aging And since they’re getting older, maybe their style is just changing, but it’s been instilled in them to reject aging? I’m making this up also, there’s nothing I’ve seen to totally confirm this, it’s just a feeling. Another thing is, why do we need to pick ourse and other women apart in this way? We also enjoy having nice bodies so we work out and will choose clothes with out favorite colors and glitters etc. Does that all need to stop too? I’m tired, lol 💤