MINI VLOG: how I am really feeling about being engaged AGAIN (life after divorce)

[@nohana2003]

Girl... you deserve EVERYTHING, stop punishing yourself. It's Jordy's first wedding, just go ahead with him and shower yourself in wedding planning, dresses, wedding bands etc.

[@racheldorsay]

AMEN. You literally took the words right out of my head. 👏🏼 🙌🏼

[@mh960]

Some of us weren't watching the first time around and we are HERE for ALLLLL the wedding content that you want to post!! Congratulations ❤

[@broadwaybound98]

I was not around for the first time and would be very excited to see ALL the wedding content too!!

[@bruce12347]

YES

[@OffGridDreamLife]

Agreed! That’s what I was thinking and I was actually disappointed when she said there’s going to be less wedding content this time around!

[@alicianunez5472]

Yes!!

[@rgoldtob1]

Agree!!!

[@simplemidwestgirl6166]

Michel…girl, you allow yourself to have those celebrations. Those people in your life want to celebrate you and Jordy. But above all, you deserve that happiness!

[@MichelJanse]

🥹🫶🏼Thank you friend!!

[@morganadvantures]

As a bridal stylist, I see lots of brides who feel they don’t deserve to celebrate as hard or go as big for their second wedding. I ALWAYS encourage them to know that they absolutely deserve to celebrate THIS love story. ❤ Having been married before absolutely does not take away from how special this story is. In fact it’s part of your story! It’s part of the growth that led you to be who you are and it couldn’t have happened any other way. So Michel, know that you are so worthy of celebrating this unique, wonderful, love story of yours! ❤️

[@Perpetuallytrying]

You must be a phenomenal stylist because that is so well said!

[@LEHender]

Fellow celiac here - the best thing we did was do a fully gluten-free wedding. It was so nice to not have to worry about contaminating my food and all that (and knowing I could eat everything at the wedding). I also spent $89 on my dress (got it from a department store and then had it slightly altered to work with my body type). I look back at the pictures with no regrets. We were also so happy we left lots of money leftover to do a Maui honeymoon for 2 weeks. So happy for you Michel.

[@MichelJanse]

Wow so fun and what a great idea!! Thank you for the tip friend!!🤍🥰

[@valerielinares2068]

@@MichelJanse A friend of mine who is a celiac girly recently got married. Her and her husband just got a small gluten free cake for the cake cutting, but the rest was just a sheet cake for their guests. It worked out well for them. But, of course, you and Jordy do whatever is best for the two of you 🙂

[@kimreese3530]

Doesn’t matter if this is your 2nd marriage, it’s your forever marriage. When you’ve been married years down the road, you’ll be so glad you had a nice wedding and pictures to remember it by. 💕

[@zairabandy8695]

you can never say is a forever marriage. too many things can happened. you hope for the best but we really don't know what the future holds.

[@kimreese3530]

The first time I was married, I had a similar situation as Michel. I then met someone way sooner then I planned on, but I knew it was right. We’ve been married 27 years now. When you know, you know.

[@edithtierce8209]

@@kimreese3530yes and lots of people rush into a new marriage with someone else who seems completely opposite their ex… And it isn’t perfect like the honeymoon phase. Good for you that it worked out well rushing into things but we are not experts, no matter how much we think our own relationships have been successful… To believe such is pretty ignorant. Most people do not get married believing the person isn’t their perfect forever… That’s the entire issue… People believe it IS their forever. None of that however has anything to do with the fact she of course has every right to have a REAL wedding.

[@rebeccas7366]

You never know if it will be a forever marriage no one knows their future and what may happen, can only wish for forever.

[@katchatbto]

I think a lot of us are even more excited this time to see wedding and home content because it gives us so much hope that good and beautiful things can come out of tragedy. To see someone thriving after heartbreak is the most lovely thing to watch. We need more of this type of content in the world!

[@hopeashbaugh6709]

I married my high school sweetheart at 23 then divorced 2 years later. At 28 I married again and I am so glad we had the wedding. Almost 9 years later and the wedding photos are still on display in our home. You deserve to enjoy this process and make the wedding everything you and Jordy want it to be. You won't look back and regret that. Don't short yourself. Also, yes to all of the wedding and bridal content! We are all so happy for you and so eager to follow along! Sending hugs because I completely understand the mixture of emotions, and more hugs because I adore you! ❤️

[@llnut4775]

Michel from someone who’s been married 25 years… it’s more about the marriage & NOT the wedding. Follow your heart, we kept it small & paid cash for our wedding and never regretted it.

[@MichelJanse]

Ooo great perspective thank you so much for sharing!!🤍🥰

[@llnut4775]

@@MichelJanse absolutely, the foundation of the relationship is so much more important. The wedding day comes & goes so fast.

[@michaelaNkristin]

Wow! The validation and assurance Jordy gave you during your engagement seems like something beyond his years. Feels kismet how life brought you two together✨

[@jeneinstein]

Girl, this is not like celebrating a half birthday and a birthday. This is like being poisoned on your birthday, and having every right to celebrate it the right away, now. Dont rip yourself off MORE because of your ex. He took more than enough. The consequences being married to him dont get to take more from you. Celebrate YOU the right way this time. Celebrate you and Jordy thr right way this time. You deserve that. Jordy deserves that. And timing doesnt matter -- you've been with Jordy long enough to know that you want forever with him. It doesnt matter what ANYONE thinks of that besides you and Jordy. If youre able, try to stop comparing. You're comparing rust with a platinum diamond - theyre not comparable and dont deserve to live in the same part of your mind or heart.

[@hannahnash3989]

My boyfriend has expressed wanting to marry me and I have previously been married. I completely understand that feeling of not deserving a wedding or anything that goes along with that. I was told by my mom to remember that it is his first wedding and he deserves to have what he wants and I deserve to have an amazing wedding too

[@MichelJanse]

Thank you for sharing this friend!!🥰🤍🫶🏼

[@mickeybooth9892]

You do deserve all that comes with been newly engaged and please please please take us along on your wedding journey ❤

[@MichelJanse]

Thank you for the kind words friend!!🥰🤍

[@jezzikiah6809]

Your future is so full of hope and JOY! The Lord truly redeems and restores

[@MichelJanse]

🥰🥹🤍🫶🏼Thank you friend!! It truly has been really sweet!!

[@samanthamontgomery7363]

The people who love you are going to be so excited to celebrate you again (bridal shower, bachelorette, etc.), especially after everything you’ve gone through.

[@tilu3303]

Having been in Jordy's shoes - so to speak - and marrying someone who had been married before while I hadn't- he's going to be dealing with some "hidden" feelings also that he will most likely suppress to protect you. I believe it would be incredibly valuable to both of you to take time to explore the "secret fears" together so they don't linger as a wedge issue that can validate individualistic tendencies in the times that are tough. All the best to you guys!

[@carolinaslv]

Lovely said

[@arriannamartin2317]

so well said!

[@MackenzieSmith623]

I’m usually a silent viewer, but I’ve been here since 2018 and I am SO excited for you! I was in a relationship that was eerily similar to your previous one when you were wedding planning the first time, went through some hard things, and just last month very happily married the true love of my life. It has been such a joy to “grow up” alongside you and to see just how happy you are with Jordy! Wishing you all the best!

[@MichelJanse]

Oh my goodness Mackenzie!! I am so honored to have grown up with you and also IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! 🥹🥰🤍Thank you for commenting friend!! 🤍🤍LOOK AT US GO!! 🥰🥹

[@bruce12347]

Michel, I felt the same as you, so for my second wedding I wanted nothing and now 16 years later I am so sad that I did not make more of it because this time I am married to the person I was always supposed to be with and I have none of the special memories that goes along with it. Please enjoy this as much as you can and do it all over again. 10 years from now you will look back and be happy that you did. You deserve it! You both do. ❤️

[@jlynn458]

Michel - wow I am so happy for you! You truly do deserve it! Hearing how supportive Jordy was after proposing about holding your hand and welcoming any & all emotions that may be brought up in this process...what an incredible man you have! Enjoy this new and well deserved chapter of life❤

[@consolacionsunico8290]

Jordy mentioned your kindness as one of his favorite things about you. I totally agree! You still thought of your ex’s welfare, suggesting a hotel and texting him as you drove to Texas! After the hammer incident! Happy that you have found a new love! THE BEST IS YET TO COME!

[@itsEFY]

girl, if you wanna post every single step of this wedding process, PLEASE DO! do not have any doubts or fears and just follow your gut! if it feels right, it probably is. In the past I know it has not been the case for you, but you had those experiences to learn from! whatever you do or do not want to do, please know that we will all be here cheering you on regardless

[@MichelJanse]

Hahaha!! 👀🤣Thank you for these kind words friend and for being a part of this community!!🥹🥰🤍🫶🏼

[@Challin81]

I love how HEALTHY you and Jordy are! It's so beautiful that you can have the honest and open communication. I'm 42 and have been married two times (I'm still married to my second husband). I had a lot of the same feelings that you're having, especially since it was his first wedding and my second. I feel you about the clarity you feel by having something/someone to compare it to. It was much easier to see what a healthy and good relationship is when the first marriage was so bad and unhealthy. I'm happy for you both, and wish you the best life! You're really starting out in a good place by having such good communication!

[@erin07697]

As a fellow twenty something divorcee, you (and the commenters) give me hope that I too can move on someday and find the love I deserve. So happy for you ❤

[@b.k.701]

Of course you can, girl.

[@Perpetuallytrying]

You can ❤ your life is just beginning

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

You’ll be good, I’ll bet you have a good heart. I wish you luck!

[@Janettalerose]

Like I said on TikTok, this glow on you is just AMAZING! Please take the time to enjoy every moment you have in this new chapter because you deserve it. We all deserve love and peace in our lives. It might be your second wedding, but it's your first with Jordy and you deserve to enjoy every bit.

[@sorinaelenamocanu]

Turfedi

[@eden-caledoniajohn3168]

Having seen your videos about your divorce and many before, can I just say that we can tell the difference between a forced smile and genuine happiness. You look so happy now and Jordy seems like such a sweet man! I’m so happy for you and I hope you can see this wedding as what it is, a man and woman who love and respect each other, two equals who genuinely care for each other - coming together to celebrate and solidify their love before God and family and friends. You were so young last time, in a power imbalance relationship founded on lies! Now is your time to really have the wedding of your dreams for all the right reasons! Don’t you dare feel guilty about it! You deserve this kind and loving man in Jordy, you deserve a beautiful wedding and you deserve a happy future together! And I will be here for all of it!

[@laurasiegal3]

You totally deserve this and you deserve Jordy ❤ So happy for you!!

[@MichelJanse]

🥹🥹Thank you friend!!

[@LibbyParker]

Thanks for sharing! I particularly loved your videos about life after divorce, cause I’m about six months behind you in that process. I am also seeing a wonderful guy and I’m in no rush to get married again, but definitely I’m thinking about what that would be like with him and so I definitely understand all of the feelings you’re having and maybe guilt that you were putting on yourself that is not deserved but you authentically feel it anyway. love you, Michel!

[@Melissa-zr6zw]

So happy for you both!! 🥹 I just got married myself last month, so I love seeing you re-experiencing the engagement and being able to relate! I’m so glad to hear that Jordy is so intent on putting your comfort first and respecting all of your needs💖💖💖

[@karlakramer6490]

I've been married twice. I think it helped both of us to appreciate love so much more and reflect on tough times differently. I can appreciate you sharing that you're thankful to have met the right person still so young in life and I'm very thankful for you to have that too. I met my person not as early and we discuss how we have committed to x years together. Not because it's going to ever fail, but due to age and committing to being alive for a certain number of years. And 40 years is our commitment. We have a min 37 more to go. 😉 We each came with children but don't have our own together. We're in a different stage of life where children are slowly leaving home and we have time to focus on ourselves. So even though we may not get as much time as we would have hoped for and missed some stahes of life together, we see our quality time with each other as greater.

[@kdmalanna]

Oh Michel, these past few years you have become my absolute favourite KZbinr. There is so much fluff and fake online and I just see through it so quickly these days. I love coming to your corner of the internet where your sweetness and smile are always pure and genuine. I seriously just love you. And watching your journey unfold has been a joy to “be apart of”.. thank you so much for sharing your life with us online. Also, Jordy is the real deal. So extremely happy for you two. Can’t wait to see this next season and all it will bring. Wishing you ALL the best💞

[@chrissiedcohen]

As someone who was here during your first wedding/marriage, it is beautiful to witness your growth as a person/partner/woman. Your excitement to be married vs. excitement for a wedding speaks to your maturity, though both are exciting. You are deserving of Jordy’s love & kindness (& he of yours); you seem so well-matched. His appreciation & understanding of your feelings/emotions is heart-warming. The small, intentional, & well-planned things that he does with you in mind are so lovely. I hope that you get to a place where you feel (& know) that it is more than okay to relish this time as a bride-to-be, in whatever form that is for you. P.S. I am curious about what Jordy has imagined his wedding to look like.

[@JackyWacky1]

Jordy reassuring you its ok to talk to him about any trauma with wedding planning is sooo cute! 🥺🥺

[@LawzofNature]

Gosh I’m so happy for you! Jordy, you are such a lovely, genuine person and you’re getting the rarest gem of a woman there is but you know that better than anyone! You two are going to be so happy - yay for you. Congratulations to you both! Sending you love and prayers for a long and blessed life from over here in Melbourne, Australia.

[@mwheels7]

As someone who has been a viewer since the beginning (since you lived in your studio apartment) I am so excited for you to get to experience a happy, healthy, and loving marriage because it is the biggest blessing and you so obviously deserve it! So happy for you and Jordy! So much love to you two 🤍🤍

[@samanthawilson7685]

Please post all of the wedding content you’d like to!! I love how Clancy Burke documented her wedding here on KZbin, it feels like it may be a bit more your style nowadays. She sprinkled in wedding content here and there throughout her normal vlog schedule. Your ring is STUNNING 🤩 congratulations again!!! So excited for you and to follow along with what you feel comfortable sharing 🥳

[@g.imperial8236]

I think I found you through you first wedding content and your dress was part of the inspiration for mine. I'm very appreciative of you sharing all of your feelings with us, it really does highlight for me how we need to make sure we are excited for and ready for the marriage part as much as the wedding. Having said that, please try to have fun and enjoy the wedding process and all that comes along with it, however you feel comfortable doing it. This is still an important part of your life too!

[@msauve5316]

You deserve everything Michel! I am here for all the wedding content. In full support of you, and excited to celebrate along with you!!

[@brittanycaldwell8114]

When the love and excitement of a life together dwarfs the idea of an elaborate wedding, that’s when you know you’re in the right place. You’re not feeling this way merely because you’ve been through it already…don’t feel pressured by others to do the typical stressful planning (unless you feel compelled to), keep it low key and just marry that boy we’re all so happy you have found 🥰

[@Lea2008-k8b]

Michel, You do deserve this, everyone in this world deserves to be happy. This is your and Jordy's wedding, you both do exactly as you wish, no one needs to express their opinion unless it is asked for. I was married for a very long time and when we divorced, I said NEVER AGAIN. And around the 2.5 year mark I was like hum well maybe I would like to date again. God had this incredible man for me, we have now been married 12 years. The wedding was simple on the beach overlooking the water, and lunch at Olive Garden (our favorite place). I still have some trauma and like you, he listens to me, doesn't try to fix it, and normally says "do I have stupid written on my forehead"? God had Jordy for you, and you for him. Enjoy this time, don't get burdened down in the details, do what you both want, and remember all that truly matters is at the end of the day, it's Jordy and Michel, your day, yours lives, you will be his wife and Jordy will be your husband and Max will have his little life with you both too! So very happy for you.

[@cutiez4eva1]

I’m not interested in a lot of wedding content, happy for you to put it in vlogs with time stamps I can skip ❤️

[@KimsaLittleofAlot]

Hi Michel! Yes, OSEA... awesome stuff. I'm so excited for you and the beginning of an exciting chapter in your life. It's great to hear that Jordy supports you all the way.

[@kyla_shae]

Congratulations, Michel! You and Jordy deserve this and all the happiness ahead of y’all 🥰💕

[@MichelJanse]

🥰🥹

[@ViolettaGrosheva3000]

Michel 😘I’ve been with you since before you first went through your marriage. I’ve been with you through your heartbreak and now I’m with you through this blooming state of life, full of blessings and so much love. I’ve cried with you and I’ve smiled with you. Today, I’m crying again, as you’re speaking of Jordy and how caring and understanding and sweet he is with you. God knew you needed this and only He gives peace and true joy. What a glorious day, to see you so happy and full of light ❤️

[@carmenzermeno7707]

Just let yourself enjoy all the wedding rituals because Jordy would love to see you happy making these special memories. Don’t look at it as a second wedding look at it as a beginning with a life with Jordy. So excited for both of you❤️

[@LindaKayHolevas]

Exactly! It seems like she’s making Jordy feel second since she’s “done it all before”.

[@whomadeherqueenie]

I married and divorced young also, then remarried two years ago. I struggled with a lot of the same feelings you did. Even years later the feelings still creep up but know that we are all deserving of love and happiness. Enjoy this season girly 🤍 we are cheering you on! ✨

[@JulesandJax]

Your timeline is just that YOURS! I got out of a long-term relationship and met my husband the very next day, and he proposed after four months. We are due any day with our first child, and about to celebrate four years married. We are so happy for you, and would love to see every step of your wedding journey. Please celebrate every moment! Jordy and you are worth it.

[@julieknight6372]

Michel you absolutely deserve so much happiness. Jordy makes you happy, it is so obvious. You've finally met the right man that deserves you xxx❤

[@LindaKayHolevas]

Like someone else said- this shouldn’t be about this being your second wedding, that seems to put Jordy in second place. Makes this all about you & Jordy & the beginning of your life together. I remember I felt the same way when I got married the 2nd time, so I understand what you’re feeling is legit & real, but if I can go back and give myself any advice, it would be to quit talking about the fact that it was my second wedding & instead talk about the fact that I was marrying a wonderful person $& would be spending the rest of my life with them! ❤

[@isabeltorres8717]

Michel you are entitled to have a wonderful life and to be happy ,especially after what you have been through. Please be happy

[@jenniferscotland2508]

This had me in tears! I am so happy for you that you found Jordy. You guys are absolute soulmates 🤍

[@DanielleDeniseYT]

I’m happy for you! Y’all are PERFECT for eachother

[@mayetcrawley5535]

Hi Michel, I just wanted to come on here and say that you definitely are allowed to be excited, you and Jody are a very special couple. I was married the first time for six years then divorced, I married again six years later and have been with my second husband for 35 years ( yep I’m old haha!!) , I enjoyed my second so much more because we planned everything as we wanted. My parents planned the first and it was their way. Also wanted to say that me, my husband, my ex and his wife all became friends, when ex and my two daughters got married they had both Dads give them away coz they wouldn’t choose one over the other. We’ve also all been to their life events, engagement, graduations, big birthdays and the like. Sorry my message is so long but I just wanted people to know coz I’m proud of the way we’ve been. Love your channel and many many congratulations to you both xx

[@nickiw6748]

So excited for Michel and Jordy wedding content!! Love the idea of redemption marriage! You deserve it!!❤

[@laverneeea]

Hey Michel! Everything you're feeling is so valid. But definitely allow yourself to enjoy this process with your fiance! You are getting a second chance at love and a lot of us joined your journey post divorce. I've never seen a video with your ex. So I personally would love to see all of the bridal things that you'd want to share :)

[@ClodofEarth]

It’s so funny because I’m really not one to develop para-social relationships, but I literally was so so happy for you when I saw the instagram post and genuinely geared up at the blog footage. So excited for you!

[@taheeakhan9196]

This is why people say you should give yourself a chance to heal before embarking on these major life moments. I get it’s been 1.5 years with Jordy, but some more time pre engagement could have let your heart accept this more openly. You clearly love him but the hurt is still preventing you from embracing it fully. But, even if this came earlier than expected, you have like 50-60 years ahead with this man. Just ENJOY YOUR WEDDING. It’s both your first time marrying a real partner that loves you deeply ❤🎉 Your love is beautiful, he’s amazing, and you deserve to be happy. Let that stuff go. Have the dress trial, bachelorette, all of everything you want.

[@jessicaarias7697]

Hey Michel! I just bumped into your video, and let me tell you, you are not alone. I am also in a similar position. I got married very young for the first time, and after five years of my divorce, I am engaged. I have also experienced the same feelings, and listening to you makes me realize these feelings are normal. Thank you for sharing your story. One thing that I have learned from this whole process is this time, you get a second chance, and the ultimate priority should be YOU and what makes YOU happy ❤️

[@laneyellis1602]

So beautiful that God put a pause on your home journey and after that you found oceanside as your home.

[@emilycombs83]

You definitely deserve all the happy celebrations that go along with getting married. It is a new season to be celebrated in!! And I would love to see as much wedding content as you want to share!!

[@katieerickson364]

I am so happy for you Michel- it warms my heart to see you so happy and overwhelmed with gratitude! It’s so lovely.

[@amyg8761]

Just want to say, I'm much older than you but I enjoy your vlogs so much. It's nice to watch someone who is real, positive, fun and kind. Congratulations to you both!

[@ДианаФайнштейн-ъ3р]

I am so thankful for you to share your feelings, I also sometimes don't think that can be in love and marry a person I love after a break up, so thank you, I love having a good example

[@deboraswenson9162]

Celebrate! Immerse yourself in the incredible gift you have been given. I felt some of what you describe feeling, but when you have been given something so good you can't find adequate words to even describe it, (after 15 years I still can't find words!) Dive in, be happy, no apologies, you are loved!!! One thing I was surprised and humbled by was the joy and hope our wedding brought to many who witnessed our love story. Beauty for ashes, it's really a thing.

[@Stephizky]

Michel, a wedding is a celebration of your love to each other. CELEBRATE!! You will want to look back at this time with new exciting and full of memories of love, you DESERVE it as well. It's wonderful to see you excited about the marriage (which is ultimately the most important part!) ;) Congratulations to both of you and to many many years of love and happiness together!!

[@jtruss317]

This story is separate and deserves to be celebrated! Small and intimate seems to be more the vibe for your relationship. I’m thinking in Oceanside… also, those are oval diamonds! I have a marquise engagement ring and it comes to a point on top and bottom, which is the distinguishing feature. Your ring is beautiful! ❤

[@nr4505]

Having the chance to experience a different and deeper kind of love is a celebration in itself. Not everyone get to have it. Celebrations allow us to reflect, appreciate and recharge. Most important of all, celebration shows the art of possible too. So celebrate this moment to your heart's content. We're all here rooting for you and Jordy! ❤

[@kitgueretta7230]

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU. trauma fucks it all up and i am so grateful you found someone who understands things! congrats.

[@nancydineen6797]

I appreciate your thoughtfulness on your wedding and all the related events. It’s a very mature perspective you have regarding the finances and obligations to your family.

[@lesliebrown1093]

Why you want to start a new marriage if are not healed from the previous one? I just get divorce and I met someone but I feel like I want to be careful It will be helpful to listen your reasons to do it this way

[@jillbak]

Crying with you! ❤️ You saying that you don’t have any expectations, just the love and joy of just being with Jordy in this marriage - is EVERYTHING. You truly deserve this happiness and love that has surrounded you. And as a so cal girlie, selfishly I have loved seeing you heal your heart to California and find your tribe in Oceanside!!

[@duckymomorocks]

my daughter and I are so excited for whatever wedding content you are willing to share--we're so happy for you!!

[@jeanneewaseck6635]

Yes! This is an entirely new relationship/// marriage , and it sure sounds like your wedding is going to reflect that, dear Michel! Looking 4ward to your sharing as you are comfortable with.

[@mrsjenniferlang]

I love how genuinely happy you look talking about marrying Jordy. ♥️ Last time you wanted the wedding, this time you want the marriage. I’ll be praying for you both during such an amazing time in your lives. 🤍

[@BrookeMorgan-yk6vi]

I’m SOOO excited for you!! As someone who didn’t have a Bachelor Party, who only had 2 bridal showers because others wanted to have them and celebrate (my husband was at one of the showers cause we both wanted to be there and celebrate with people), were much more quiet about being excited and private about the whole thing, do what is your style! The wedding didn’t mean as much as the marriage did to either my husband or I. We had less then 60 people at our wedding (30 on each side of close friends and family) and focused on spending the most on food, the photographer, and having the people we cared about there. It was simple and we followed our hearts and not what other people thought we should have. My dress was a little different then what was “normal” for a cathedral, and the ceremony was in a side chapel that we loved and not the main area that my family wanted. Do what makes you happy and both feel is right. You deserve everything if you want it ,but don’t feel pressured out of wanting something sweet and simple. I had always dreamt of a big wedding but as I got older and lived through the good and bad it wasn’t my style when it came down to it. I wouldn’t change a thing! Do what you feel is you now and not the you back then. Follow your heart and trust yourself. You got this girl!

[@jamsy111]

As a divorced and remarried woman, I felt so validated by this video! I totally had that same feeling of "I don't care about any of this wedding stuff, why should I do this again" and made it all about my future husband and what he wanted. We ended up eloping, which was a great decision for us (and I highly recommend for anyone thinking about doing it). Dresses gave me a weird feeling especially ... hard to explain. But I wore a custom purple dress I got on Etsy and it was perfect! Thank you for sharing your emotions with us, it is so valuable, and best wishes to you both

[@Emilyak85]

First off, congratulations!! How amazing that you found your person who truly makes you feel safe and loved. I was in the same camp as you as well. I got engaged 1.5 years after my divorce from my first husband. The idea of planning a wedding and acting like it was my first one just didn’t sit well with me. Especially after my parents paid for my first wedding, which was not cheap, so we did it on our own with a little help from his parents (his first wedding). All in all 30 people and a beautiful backyard wedding at his parents home. And it really is more about the marriage, not the wedding.

[@rachelmcdanielsmith7847]

God is so kind. You are so loved by him and he is so willing to redeem and make things beautiful again.

[@il2054]

I started watching your videos when you were already married so I never saw your wedding prep stuff etc. So I definitely think you should enjoy doing all the wedding things bc you truly deserve it. It will be a totally different experience for you and I don't think you should feel bad about having those experiences. So many of us are so excited for you and to see you so genuinely happy! So go for it and don't hold back!!

[@4LiFETERNiA]

Hi Michel! So happy and excited for you! You deserve this! :) Still in my 20s and I went through something kind of similar with my ex too. We were together for 6 years and engaged for about a year. I did not feel confident in who I was with.. it did not feel like he was the right person and I can now admit and see that he did not treat me well. After breaking things off with him, I literally married my now husband just ONE MONTH after my last relationship and I felt SO confident and excited to marry this person. A long time ago an elderly lady once told me "You just know when you know. You will feel it's right" and she got married within 3 months of dating her husband too. At the time, I didn't understand it and judged her decision (very ignorant younger me). Now, I completely get it - the right person will come to you and you will feel it in your heart and soul.

[@elizabethprzybylski9486]

I would love to see all the wedding plans or not wedding plans you wish to share on KZbin. Simply as a bigger wedding vs. smaller wedding plans and low key vs. more "big" deal wedding plans/journey could be so helpful for other people at their 1st or other # wedding. It is also nice to see you in such a happy healthy place for this journey and you are worth to have as much or little wedding stuff or events as you want. I am in the 17th year of my 1st marriage (to my college sweetheart) and still love to see all the wedding and engagement events of others. This is a new beginning and that deserves celebrating in whatever form and fashion you and Jordy want it to be.

[@TaylorMarie91]

I wasn’t here for the first one so honestly I would love all the wedding content! So what if it’s a second wedding, this time it’s your person, you’re allowed to celebrate 🎉 congrats 😊

[@Lindyskatesagain]

Going through it too! Got divorced and re engaged in my twenties on a very similar timeline as yours. It also feels different this time around, and I think your content is very helpful. I feel the exact same! Excited for a marriage with a partner who really wants to work on things, and I’m less excited about the engagement traditions and bridal stuff. I think second time around, you care more about the marriage part because you’ve experienced it before and know what’s it is like to end it. Also marrying a guy who it’s his first time and it’s my second. It’s also a huge thing to navigate too, but he’s also super supportive that my feelings may be a little different than his! We’re in this phase together, and it’s nice to have someone online I can relate with 100%!

[@savannahduncanboymomof3719]

We need ALLL THE WEDDING CONTENT

[@GP-vf6dv]

I never comment, but girl I am just so excited for you. Obviously, we only see what you show us, but just seeing little bits of how much he loves you makes my heart happy. Have the wedding you want, and just enjoy being in the relationship you deserve.

[@rebeccarichmond2582]

You literally went from a man throwing something at you for expressing your feelings to a man telling you IF feelings come up bring them to me. If that’s not the poster child example of “it’s him not you” I don’t know what is. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to see you so happy. You know my daughter and I have been watching you for years now. And she’s on Instagram and I am not. She literally called me screaming when you posted that you got engaged. You deserve this man so much and he deserves you so much. When you called this your “redemption marriage” it made me think about our relationship with Jesus. We search the world looking for the fake thing to make us feel whole until we meet our redemption Savior who really makes us whole. ❤

[@rjdorsey1981]

I love y'all so much, when you said the part about unexpected feelings i burst into tears. Being safe to share tough feelings is beyond compare. He's a gem❤

[@lose999]

I love all the positive comments expressing joy for you. I concur wholeheartedly. I'm rooting for the Taco Truck! Best idea, ever!!🌮🌮🌮

[@bebabear1966]

Hope you enjoy this wedding way more than your last one. I have a super strong feeling this is the one that counts.

[@mmcphedran]

Looking forward to all the wedding content you are willing to post!

[@BrittneeKay]

Congratulations! You 100% deserve this. Your videos at the beginning of last year really helped me through my own divorce. It's hard to know where to go after experiencing that. Jordy seems like a great guy! i'm excited for you! ❤

[@reesac34]

Michel, it can be your redemption bridal shower and the same for your bachelorette party. You need to have all the fun and joy that comes alone with the wedding because there are different people in your life now who would probably want to celebrate your joyous occasion, so I say have your shower and bachelorette party. Give yourself permission to have more fun this time around and to let go of the what if’s or any of the other thought that may put a little kink in your hose because you can’t let negative people from the past get in your way of enjoying all the perks of this wedding! This wedding is what we are all proud of that enjoy your Vlog.

[@SkySpiral8]

I have a unique ring and never got a wedding band-I feel like it would distract from the beauty of my ring. I also kept my last name (much easier, also in my husband’s culture the woman doesn’t change her last name and I like that). Don’t be afraid to do it your way even if it isn’t “what’s done.”

[@arepurposedlifewithlaura1496]

I got married to my second husband a year and a half after my first divorce. I didn't have a shower or bachlorette party with my second marriage and it was an extremely small ceremony, which is what we both wanted. I honestly don't think my family or friends would have come to a shower since they had already been to one for me. At the end of the day, you have to do what feels right for you and not what's right for anyone else. Congratulations again, can't wait to see how it all unfolds for you.

[@MichelJanse]

Thank you for this friend!!🤍

[@Breanna.HouseOfCorgis]

Michel I hope that you do share the wedding planning! Believe me your long term followers are excited for you and are looking forward to seeing it all! You deserve to be happy and we are happy for you!

[@YR-vz9ew]

BRING ON ALL THE WEDDING CONTENT!!!! WE LOVE THIS FOR YOU YOU DESERVE THIS BEAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE WITH JORDY!! WE LOVE YOU BOTH!!!!!!

[@RavenStorm1031]

Sweetheart as someone who is going through what you went through please just allow yourself to just enjoy everything. Don't worry about it just enjoy the lovely things u and Jordy are doing. Much love hon!

[@SophieEbeid]

No pleaseee I really love wedding planning videos! Like asking whos gonna be your bridesmaids, your maid of honor, your wedding dress, etc...

[@Rose-yd7bn]

Yes, for wedding content! You deserve happiness! Jordy is so awesome, I am so happy for both you!

[@Marie_Garwood]

Michel, the way I found you before your divorce was through your collab with Jamie Wolfer! I would LOVE wedding content from you! I still rewatch your old stuff regarding wedding planning. It’s also, as you said, very niche to experience it twice in your twenties. To whatever extent you feel comfortable sharing, please just know that I’m here for it!

[@yo-31]

Each experience is unique, embrace it fully!!!! No need for guilt or any other negative feelings. Life is full of surprises and you need to enjoy 200%