Femininity On Dates || The First Date || A Feminine Impression

[@drmichelledaf]

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[@BlissfulBlackBeauty]

I really like what you said about it not being our job to impress the guy but rather his job to impress us as the pursuer. 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you sis, yup, that is the truth!

[@maxasante5206]

then you better have a fresh body and be on an excellent career path sweetheart lol. no hiding your past in order to "saved".

[@blujay3557]

Maximo Asante I doubt someone like you could “save” anyone, broke dusty men shouldn’t be commenting on topics that are above and beyond their tax brackets

[@eventplanner461]

@@blujay3557 Sis! Tax brackets, I'm crying woah chile, a READ!

[@joemtari]

I’ll impress you to get my needs met yeah, but if you want your needs met..

[@tiffanym.4951]

Makeup SNATCHED... feminine energy SNATCHED... Intelligence SNATCHED

[@drmichelledaf]

lol thank you so much!

[@remondragin1429]

Your never too old to learn and try again the right way!

[@drmichelledaf]

That's RIGHT sis!

[@coolcat6341]

Yes yes

[@momseyg.4968]

Remond Ragin I agree, I’m 55 and only finding my femininity now.

[@tokozilengwenya8760]

This comment has encouraged me. I have made so many miatakes on the past, it's sad

[@flutenanyidk1806]

:D I agree. You're is you are. Your is posessive.

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

I've become so masculine after abusive relationships and dating cheap guys. It's so hard to lean back into being feminine when you have to be the one footing the bill or fighting to defend yourself. I'm exhausted. I used to be so cute and feminine and was told by losers I was "high maintenance" for dressing nicely and owning a condo downtown. They actually judged me as high maintenance for my self care! It's not like they paid for the condo and clothes. They were even too cheap to pay for dates!!!

[@bd3966]

Aw *hugs* what they were saying is "you're out of my league, and I want you to lower yourself so I wont have to step up and be the man you deserve. Once your femininity is gone I can use you". I'm glad you realized what type of men those guys were. You deserve better! I highly suggest reading Ms. Typed. It's really helped me in dating.

[@Black_pearl_adrift]

Sending younloving energy in your journey to healing. You're still a woman and deserve to be treated as one and cherished as one Leaning back into that energy. That's such a beautiful phrase being able to sit back a bit from the rush of it all.

[@alexispatterson3616]

I honestly feel this. I’ve been on 5-6 dates and not a single man paid for mine. My ex used to live with me and he never paid a single bill even tho he worked. The guy before him didn’t even have a job and was to lazy to go get his own food. Women are losing their femininity because we have to make up for the men we don’t have. I have came across more men who wanna be taken care of, than men who want to take care of their woman. It’s sad.

[@katrina1694]

I can relate. Lol I don't even know how to be feminine.

[@larandle]

You don't attract bums, you choose them

[@Cornbreadmuffin86]

I'm so glad you brought up not talking too much, let the man impress you, allowing silence during the date. I would often times force myself to talk on dates because I thought I was extremely boring being that I'm quiet and reserved by nature.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes, it's good to be yourself then. As long as you are still sweet, smiling and friendly.

[@jerZchic]

Same here!! 😔 but good to know tho

[@coleycole2641]

Girl!! This is me 100% I'm quiet by nature and am afraid they will view me as boring if I'm quiet but that's just how I am even around family.

[@misselle1430]

Women talk and reveal too dang much n it works against them....notice men hardly reveal anything about them until they are readyand trust the woman ....whereas the woman will say everything and just a heads up ... it only takes one story or action to turn a man against wanting you !!!! . learn to titrate your personal info and to ask the right questions

[@misselle1430]

@@coleycole2641 its ok that's your personality... abit limiting but nothing wrong with it. You'll find someone who likes it just don't pretend to be a talker and you're not that's all. But at the same time I'd encourage you to be engaging ... utter silence will defo not work.

[@SoniaAnastasiaaa]

can you do a whole video on flirting?!!

[@riamsaspirehub485]

Please

[@DP-oi9nd]

Yes. Im socially awkward. It attracts people to me but still

[@joemtari]

Talk to men like they’re 6 year old men, you know like show that you care about treating them like a human that’s talking to you

[@gakiikinoti4514]

@@joemtari elaborate more please 🥺 Plus other tips

[@joemtari]

@@gakiikinoti4514 That should be all you really need just go talk to some kids make conversation with them. Hey buddy those are nice shoes, can you run fast in them? Oh you seem smart and talented blah blah blah think of shit you would say to a little kid to make them feel good and have a good time just it’s going to end up differently at the end because they’re an adult man. For example would you tell a six-year-old kid to elaborate more? How would you figure out another way to say that that’s for children it’s probably more encouraging and caring about me as a person hopefully you know?

[@Rappatiligoe0419]

As a young man in medical school who does do pretty well in the dating pool, I can confirm that most of what you’re saying is 100% correct about how men view dating. It’s extremely refreshing to see a woman not parrot the same crap that most women tell each other about what men find attractive in a partner. Most (not all) heterosexual men of quality want to date a feminine woman!

[@drmichelledaf]

Rappatiligoe0419 thank you for your feedback ✨✨

[@427skies]

This is literally not how most women are naturally. This makes me feel like I'm fake.

[@lynne4948]

You better teach us, Professor 🗣🗣🗣🗣🙌🏾🙌🏾✨✨

[@faithyayi]

@@427skies honestly in the beginning of your journey, dating should be the last thing on your mind bc like you said, what she advised in the video doesn't come naturally to most. When you develop a sense of self-confidence and get everything else taken care of (health, hygiene, makeup, wardrobe, etc.) it becomes second nature. Don't start dating until you master who you are as a feminine woman.

[@427skies]

@@faithyayi I'm in a healthy, happy relationship now but thanks. :)

[@teatime4959]

I used to be against women having to be feminine and men having to be providers but I’ve done some research and I honestly like the idea of being taken care of, men being of high caliber, and knowing your worth and being overall classy. I’ve grew up admiring very over sexual type female rappers and women like that, but I have notice that those women usually date trash men. In my opinion if you want to act like that, that’s is not my business nor concern. But I want to start my journey to be more feminine and classy, and having more love for myself and knowing my worth as a woman.

[@drmichelledaf]

teatime I love everything about this comment. The transparency. God speed on your journey love ❤️

[@IaneicaJ]

Yessssss 🙌🏾

[@alexusrichardson318]

I love the idea too if a MAN PROVIDING for ME!! YEEEEES

[@IntegrityMeansAll]

Meanwhile more and more men, especially bm, want other men more than they want women. But women put each other under the most unrealistic standards 🤦🏽‍♀️ insanity

[@true4585]

Thank you so much. I am going to be 25 in February and I have no clue. I am beautiful, but I always wondered why men never took me seriously. I don’t have a mom so I don’t really know what femininity is, except to put on make up and look nice. Your channel is really helping women out there.

[@drmichelledaf]

I AM UCHE. You're so welcome love. And we are going to get A LOT deeper so you can understand all parts to femininity. It's deep.

[@stealthaccount573]

so did you learn what cause this

[@deg3363]

Michelle I am a Black American Male and I have been looking at your channel just for 2 months now. Let me commend you for all your hard work. I'm not in your main demographic because I'm older and single. I tuned in because I'm working on building a cosmetic business in Ghana. I'm looking at Ghanaian Influencers...now I have no idea where you're based nor where your main geographic audience is BUT let me say...I wish your channel was mandatory for ALL American girls in High school thru College! Gender relations in America are at a all time low. You are helping more than you know. I haven't scrolled through your comments yet but I sure you routinely get high praise. Sure there are always the Trolls but just know people feed pigeons...they shoot at Eagles. From what I've seen you soar above them all. Just know that you're are appreciated. You have wisdom beyond your years and you are doing a great service. KEEP GOING👍🏾

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for this kind and thoughtful comment, I appreciate it. I am based out of Los Angeles, CA. I also wish every young girl had the opportunity to learn these things. I hope that eventually they can :)

[@yahushuaschosen4129]

@@drmichelledaf yes! I totally agree with his comments. (The black American man looking to build a cosmetic business in Giannia) I will definitely be sharing this channel and topic with teenage Daughter. We soooooo need more of this, especially this topic on femenity. I appreciate all of do, And yes, keep up the great work and doing what you are doing. It is my hope that your advice is implemented, taken seriously, and expands to as many women as possible. Thank you! Peace and love my beautiful melonated sista! 💝

[@_pitschool]

Love your comment! She's definitely dropping gems! I'm one of those women that appreciate it as I grow in my femininity, to enhance my life, those around me, to enhance my relationship with my future husband.

[@nanaadwoaaa]

Hey I'm Ghanaian

[@Lovelyone1]

adiamondsmile wow. You need to learn how to control all of that masculine energy!!!!! I don’t think your mom did a very good job on you......

[@Amber-db9cz]

The only man that has ever opened my door is my father. The only man that has taken me on a 'date' is my father. Your standards can never be too high for a man that wants you.

[@AbuMaxime]

Hey Michelle, your advice on being feminine on a date is *gold*. As a man I will choose the very feminine woman every single time, and I'm sure many men will relate. There are a few important additional points I'd like to contribute from personal experience. 1. The man's main role on a date is to *lead* the date to a happy conclusion. Especially masculine men. And the woman's job is to be feminine and let him lead. Most of you women know that intuitively but it's not always obvious for some. 2. Some women *specially* enjoy to see the man spending on them. I subscribe to the idea that men are givers and women receivers... But don't let your value defined by how much he spends on you. It's a turn off. 3. Regarding the chase dynamics. You are absolutely right that the man should initially be the chaser (in a sexy, non-needy way). But very often the chasing dynamics naturally reverses after the first or second date, and it's a normal sign of interest from the woman. If he is a high value man, he is used to see this change in dynamics. If you withhold it, he may interpret it as a lack of interest. I would advise a healthy balance in the chasing. Another remark. I have absolutely no problem if the woman becomes talkative. It's a sign of comfort. In this case I would sit back, let her talk and listen. What you are doing on your channel is great, and I have a vested interest in seeing you succeed at helping your fellow sisters becoming more feminine! Take care.

[@MessiMathematician]

Awesome points. And well written.

[@charmainemathye8662]

Beautiful comment

[@diananyawanda1950]

Thanks for your useful input.

[@yossynensy8662]

Nice, love this

[@hubb5242]

Thanks for sharing this insights.

[@thebeautybenz]

I’m such a leader it’s so hard to sit back and not be in control.

[@kayla435]

The BeautyBenz that’s what I’m saying. I just want a man to take me as me

[@thebeautybenz]

Also tho, I’ve been thinking I this a lot and I realized we can find balance in a relationship and a lot of my independence and almost aggressiveness is actually a defense mechanism

[@kayla435]

@@thebeautybenz same, I just don't want anybody to ever be able to say I need them. But essentially guys love to hear that

[@json9368]

A beta male might be into that

[@sarahsarita4852]

I think your masculine energy is overpowering the feminine. Find a video on how to deprogram your masculinity. I swallowed hard listening to them.

[@itsawandafullife2900]

Hello luv. I’m sure I’m probably 2x your age but I am so enjoying your channel that I blindly stumbled across. I am sharing with everyone I know bc our young ladies today are missing all of this information. You so eloquently serve the etiquette platter for all to partake. I am blown away by your content and not ashamed to say I have learned a thing or two myself even after having been married over 20 years. High honors to you luv and keep your wisdom flowing 💕

[@drmichelledaf]

That is so sweet love. I learn from anyone I can too even if they are five years old. Your comment was too sweet. Thank you for your support and sharing with others.

[@Prettyinpink611]

Girl I went out on a date with this guy years ago. I kid you not the bill was maybe $60 and he had the audacity to ask me how we were going to do this? Do what? Mind you this was our first date. I paid my half and he paid his half and kept it moving. Never again.

[@bd3966]

Exactly once men play that game - BLOCKEDT.

[@astrose305]

Girlll noo I giggled $60 I've never payed at a date periodt men always naturally want to treat me to everything food clothes jewelry and I sit back and enjoy this I told a few girls this and they were shook lol but still get ur own bag and ignore these niggas x

[@zippyblessed839]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kayciperry7283]

you do nothing. Say you appreciate him treating you to a meal. He'll get the hint.

[@ohohnenyeoo2654]

Kayci Perry 😂😂

[@brittneylamar9864]

I love this femininity talk in the community. What I find interesting is ALL the pushback. This is an option and a tool. No one is forcing. Lol at the people who praise men who prefer natural women because clearly all great women CANNOT wear makeup or look like they put in effort without being vain or superficial. 👀 Getting A MAN isn't hard but getting a desirable competent one seems to be the struggle for many.

[@beauphomasterpiece3795]

Amen

[@QueenAmour8888]

Preach

[@KINGTHEYORKIE]

This is why I love being a feminine women . The feminist miss so much they just don’t get how powerful we actually are.

[@drmichelledaf]

KING THE YORKIE Yes that is very true! Feminine energy is so powerful

[@priscafrey9505]

This femininity series is one of my favorite content on KZbin. I love the honest conversations we're having to improve ourselves not only for others but especially for us😊😊😊 Can't wait for the next video❤

[@drmichelledaf]

That is so sweet!!! Thank you, I look forward to making more videos!

[@beauphomasterpiece3795]

The silence .. that awkward silence is what gets me.

[@makingitwithmelvis2644]

Write my God

[@tiffystyle1322]

I am really enjoying this series! I've always been a tomboy and I have been married going on 24 years now and I have four sons. However; I LOVE makeup and girly things. This series is helping me to recover my feminine side. Especially the speaking one. Having hard headed boys makes you lose some of your femininity and I need this refresher. Keep up the great work! 💕

[@kikijean4768]

As a cancer sign I was born feminine these things came naturally to me. The truth is your partner should be your best friend. I think women should be themselves if you are not necessarily “feminine” and this isn’t how you genuinely are and you are not being true to yourself you will not keep it up. When I was younger, late teens early twenties, I didn’t tell my boyfriend that I didn’t like watching sports, I was dating a football player. Watching a game of football is torture to me, so I didn’t keep it up. I have friends that are not into makeup, clothes, hair, opposite of me and in healthy relationships. If you are forcing feminine traits or forcing anything that isn’t natural to you, you are not being authentic. Once you are in a relationship, you will likely stop the acting. You want a relationship built on substance. I think women should love themselves, respect themselves, and know their worth. Be true to yourself and if he is genuinely for you it will be.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for your comment love, but femininity has nothing to do with a zodiac sign... although the sign may indicate that you may be prone to certain feminine traits. Femininity is much more than hair, make-up and outward beauty. True femininity lies within your behavior. And Western society has reprogrammed women, and it is hurting us a whole. It goes without saying that women are allowed to be whoever they want to be, but the purpose of this series is to equip and empower women to explore their feminine side. To use it to enhance all areas of their lives, because it will and many women do not know this. Many women truly do not know who they are and need to stop being told to be themselves when they truly do not know what that means. The point of this series is to shed light on (their true selves) femininity. And yes I agree, your partner being your best friend is ideal, but many woman cannot even get a date or have a stable relationship because they are uneducated on the ways in which the human psyche work and how femininity can save their relationship. I will dive deeper into the importance of femininity in future videos. Thanks for watching! Much love!

[@christiandivamd]

@Kiki Jean 💯💯💯

[@brittneylamar9864]

I suppose the problem is that a lot of women don't want the men who genuinely want them. Some of the most desirable men desire stereotypical femininity. So if you don't fall in that ballpark just be happy with your level of man.

[@antereaw6178]

Lol Cancer? Seriously? Do people still genuinely believe in astrology? I really hope we get past this 😂

[@ishish8816]

Brittney Lamar *some* of the most desirable men. Watching videos on femininity is more for the females who weren’t taught the tips and tricks by the women in their family or really struggle to attract good men.

[@icygyal2555]

Do you have any tips on how to dress classy or feminine for young adult 18+. I’m currently in college and I don’t want to look like a bum like everybody else I want to stand out.

[@rararara6779]

School affluence You can learn from here

[@Mel-go2pz]

+Icy Gyal - School of Affluence, Highlowluxxe, & 'What To Wear - Fashion Over 40' (i'm only 20 but i still take inspo from her lol) are good channels for some fashion inspiration.

[@janaelovely4010]

Invest in a simple black skirt. It will go with anything and make u look very girly 😊

[@morningsunshine0216]

Icy Gyal I used to wear heels all the time at college and ppl would hate on me so much. Don’t let them dim your light just think of the hallway as your runway

[@kailyn7895]

@@janaelovely4010 you're right. I simple black shirt looks good with any pairs of jeans

[@joyusman1228]

I'm obsessed with your femininity videos!

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww thanks babe!

[@merazhroberts]

Me too! I watch them back to back

[@belagaspar4884]

Love your make up.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks love!!

[@jennifersalinas7305]

I love being feminine, and notice that the men in my area tend to want a more masculine and competitive women. I just want to be myself, traditional, feminine and flow. I love masculine men, and hope to attract one who will allow me to be in my feminine space without trying to impress him

[@truthspeaker1508]

Move

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@27:00-27:18 there you have it! 👏👏👏👏 you just said what i been saying, its Not based on how a female looks, its based on how she acts (lets him act)! 🎯

[@ziintle]

Michelle is teaching us ALL that’s it’s okay to be “boujie” don’t let a men tell you that you are high maintenance. I made a mistake of listening to people that told me I’m high maintenance and started judging other women for being like that but that is unnecessary, but I am relearning my femininity slowly but surely

[@rachelreon6903]

I wish I had found these videos when I was a teenager .

[@ShannonTheDesigner]

Girl I'm about to watch all of these. As a women raised by a woman in the south and have been through some foo foo things with men, I need this!

[@drmichelledaf]

I understand love. Godspeed on your journey

[@sheis1111]

I love your tips, especially on how to handle other women flirting with your date... and my goodness this eye makeup 😍😍😍

[@drmichelledaf]

Lisa Crystalchild thanks love ♥️

[@misselle1430]

It's the men who flirt with me even when they clearly see my msn is there...not the other way around lol ... even his friends have gotten their flirts on with me ... it's crazy

[@crow2swann5]

I love your channel. I'm married and my wife used to be very feminine. However, she's forgotten the value of her femininity. I've shared a few of your videos with her and my daughters with mixed reviews. However, I believe you are a diamond. Some women are too far gone to receive this message. But, the message is golden none the less. 👍

[@misselle1430]

Why has she forgotten or stopped tho ?! Have you asked yourself this?! What was being done then vs now that isn't being done?! Has she had to take on more masculine roles on the marriage ?! Have you forgotten to keep the fire burning from your end ?! Are you still being masculine and allowing her to be feminine in the marriage... it's not just about her .. if she changed it's to do with you too ... change should come from you both ... showing her videos will only make her pissed off .. unless you are sure you kept your end up in the marriage.... 😒 am sure it's a 2 way type of thing. But it can be salvaged if you both do the work not just her. Good luck.

[@crow2swann5]

@@misselle1430 I haven't changed. My role of provider and protector is being fulfilled. However, there is trauma that has been uncovered from her past that she doesn't know how to handle. I suggested therapy and it was met with hostility. I can't help her if she's not willing to be helped.

[@ryanaalkassoum8242]

Make a video on the Art of flirting!!!!!!!!

[@La-Toya0488]

Yes, PLEASE!!! 🙏🏿

[@epiphanyariel7005]

Smiling

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

Oh my goodness. I needed to hear the first point. Not feeling like you have to impress the guy has been a struggle for me. I’m putting dating on hold until I get my own place so I’m not feeling like I’m insecure about it and feel the need to impress him.

[@nande5661]

I am wriiiiiting down notttttes. oh my word! This is gold! Thankyou so much for sharing

[@drmichelledaf]

Lol I'm happy that you feel that way babe! Thank you for watching!

[@kayizilakayizila1565]

Yayyy, this really helped me.I came back after i made the decision to go back in the dating scene , and now that i have started to actually go on dates this has really helped me. The power of the internet

[@theprettycommittee_4750]

Another great video! The habits I need to adjust are becoming clear and I feel empowered that these small changes will be very impactful. I've been watching 2 days straight and I'm so happy with the small changes thus far!

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes love I will be doing a video soon talking about the benefits of femininity because trust me it is worth it, you are worth it!

[@andudontstopyo]

I luv how you package your videos. I honestly agree with everything you said. You brought up some pivotal moments while on a date. I'm single and have dated a while, but will often observe couple out on a date and either one of both of them will be glued to their cell phones...it's crazy how we have given up cultivating relationships to drown ourselves in a technological technocracy. Whenever I get ready to date the phone will be shut off and in the purse it will go. Excellent video Dr. Michelle😊

[@janetbaxley4025]

These videos share a powerful message of a feminine culture that has been downplayed and labeled "high maintenance" by some. As I continue down my path of personal and spiritual transformation, I find content such as this very relevant.

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

Hello I came across your channel and I commend you for it. I am in my 40's and what you are teaching your audience is speaking volumes. I was fortunate to have had my mom and the women in my family to teach me how to be a lady and be a feminine woman, however you're never too old to learn something I have discussed dating with my mom and how times have changed. Great video and continued success.

[@drmichelledaf]

Wow, thank you! I really appreciate your words. What a blessing to have a mother teach you these things. But like you said, it's never too late to learn. Thank you for your love!

[@itsallaboutjesuschrist9500]

Just being. Let him impress me and not vice versa 🔥 so good. Show up in feminine presence

[@drishthesquish]

I had such a successful first date cuz of this video! Thank you! It helped me to relax and receive, and my date loved it

[@supermommy2717]

I’ve always thought of myself being in touch with my feminine side, but this video gave me some pointers to step my game up a notch, thank you for your advice and suggestions, I have a date coming up and I’m going to use a lot if what I learn from this video while still being myself, thank you again.

[@lorinelaloir]

Hey sis I'm really enjoying this series. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or looking to be in one, these are some great tips to have. I'm married and I was still able to pick up some great things from this series. You're never to old to learn. 🥰

[@elisa5812]

1 year relationship and my men still does all that 😍

[@thelillianbanks8368]

Lady I love you 😭 your makeup is always on point and the advice is always fresh instead of the same old stuff.

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww thank you so much for those sweet words! I truly appreciate that

[@MrExtraFINESSEtrial]

Men are Visual 😂😂😂 High Definition I'm really drawn to Personality but all forms of Beauty is a BLESSING!!!

[@adrianpozo6325]

I want to say thank you for all of these videos. You are helping me change my life and focus on the women I aspire to be. Thank you so much ❤️ It is also very nice to see a beautiful, success, elegant & smart young black lady represent in all of the correct ways.

[@beauphomasterpiece3795]

Can you talk more about conversations on the first few dates? Not just in a mannerism perspective

[@riamsaspirehub485]

Yassss

[@joemtari]

Ask questions you’re interested in finding out the answer to. Talk about things you want to talk about

[@gakiikinoti4514]

Check out Asha Christina as well

[@chaffls8786]

This is soooo much work 🤣🤣🤣🤣 That’s why I’m single!

[@drmichelledaf]

It may seem like a lot of work but it's really going to help you take better care of yourself which will in turn can change the way you see yourself and your abilities. Just like anything else, after a while, it just becomes automatic. You got this sis. Much love!

[@evaheve77]

Me too🤣🤣🤣

[@theblvckcreative]

Girl SAME.

[@kekrekadbekre9405]

Chaff LS 🤣🤣🤣 me too

[@sarahsarita4852]

@@drmichelledaf I admired and envied ladies who were treated softly by men. Didn't know their secret. Now I do. I am crossing over to their side. Baby steps. Thanks Dr M

[@maggiemaggie1842]

Im Ghanaian living in china and yesterday was the first time i discovered your channel, i immediately subscribed after watching the first video. love your videos

[@chantalabraham6701]

Why am I looking at all these videos and there is no one on my radar or nobody even breathes in my direction? But I am here for it though, great content!

[@thembelanyamakazi8516]

Enjoying these feminine vids! 😍 Please make a date night (GRWM) make-up tutorial. I love how blended your face is 😍

[@lexij5034]

I love how in depth you are with your videos 👌🏽

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks sweetie, thank you for watching!

[@TheMusingsofMeira]

Lovely. Also, let him know what you would like that way when the server comes he could order for you both.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes!

[@just1desi]

I did this always with my ex. He loved it. Told him what I wanted, or asked his opinion. Then let him “hunt” and acquire the meal by ordering. Seemed to make him feel more manly. I let him deal with travel logistics like trip planning and hotel booking etc. too. If I was with him basically all I did was wait to picked up and taken from point a to b. We should def avoid being in the lead in all these small ways too. It also means the subject of contributing financially never comes up because as the person in charge obviously he provides.

[@TheMusingsofMeira]

Exactly!

[@xsheri_]

Dr. Michelle, you are truly doing God's work by making these kinds of videos. I really appreciate the knowledge you're spreading to women like myself. When I start dating again, I'll definitely utilize your videos for reference points so thank you!!!💛🙏🏾

[@sylviamukasa8222]

Watching this at 3am...❤️❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

Wow that's late (early) lol I hope you enjoyed it

[@disnooga6926]

Oh Michelle, I thoroughly enjoyed watching this! Thank you so much, sis for keeping it real! You really inspire me to embrace my womanhood even more!🌹🌹🌹

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome sis, I am really happy to hear that. Keep shining!!

[@leekeene5889]

I'm proud to say just about all of these standards, I've always lived by. The one that stood out the most and that was natural to me was showing them I was considerate of the bill. Even though they've always made it clear money wasn't an object, I asked what they were going to order, what they recommend and I stayed within that budget. Showing them that you are considerate and thoughtful even when money isn't an object, it opens the door for their generosity. Never fails! Being newly single after 11 years, things are very different and I must adapt. Like when you mentioned being mysterious and not telling your whole life story. I don't overtalk or try to impress, but I try to run down all my rules and regulations and what I'm not going to do! My whole family dynamic...Blah blah blah. Never aggressive or loud but just too unnecessary. It was fine 11 plus years ago, but me being older and wiser, It's just not feminine always talking about what I won't put up with and he hasn't displayed any of the negative behaviors. I've fully accepted that I'll be single forever, but I'm cultivating me just in case God has other plans.

[@joemtari]

No run downs!!! Please no run downs of anything you aren’t the rock

[@ue2267]

What you said about money is spot on. I saw some comments from other ladies saying they would leave the guy straightaway if they refused to pay the bill. It's just common decency to split the bill or pay on the next date especially if it's your first date. Has nothing to do with being male/female thing.

[@danielletasch4295]

you look beyond lovely in this video. your jewelry, makeup, the green tank shirt all complement you beautifully!

[@Sluxlife]

Wooow i loved this video one of the most clear step by step beginner video for dating and being feminine ❤️ I love this series so far keep it love

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks honey, I appreciate you watching!

[@Shesmissdiddy]

This good for me as l prepare for a first date...thankyou🌹

[@drmichelledaf]

You're so welcome love. I hope it goes well!

[@427skies]

Dating is so hard. Why are there so many rules???? I feel like I want to be single. 🙄🙄🙄 And I feel I won't be able to be myself. Myself is nothing like this. Then all of a sudden we are in a relationship and now he's wondering why my voice is different, why I laugh loudly, why I'm not miss prim and proper.

[@oyindal.6304]

I think by slowly showing other sidrs of you, he'll get more comfortable with your more informal side. We all have different facets.

[@Fatiinextdoor]

Girl I relate. But starting to understand this basically it’s saying a man has to actually be worthy of your true self before you show it to him. You normally laugh loudly. Don’t do it in the beginning, tone it down a little when he starts to get to know you and you laugh loudly at a joke he will feel happy that he was the man that got that side of you. Instead of him feeling like it’s something normal that he could even disregard. Hope this helps

[@misselle1430]

This means you are acting while dating. He will not like it if you suddenly have a bald head and you laughing loudly when for a 6 months you had long hair and laughed so lightly .... be honest you wouldn't like it if a man played you like that too. So BE YOURSELF GF .. laugh loud and snort n say sorry after ... the right one will like it xx

[@427skies]

@@misselle1430 LMAOOOOOOOO.

[@cathybrokeit12]

Hi Michelle! I am not part of your target demographic , but I love and appreciate how you're giving such a positive message. It really is about self respect! I have been really resistant to this type of message in the past, and it took me a long time to realize that the resistance came from 1) internalized mysoginy that western society teaches us 2) fear of attracting unwanted/dangerous male attention 3) not wanting to appear arrogant/threatening to men and 4) deep rooted fear of being a burden. Thank you for your content!

[@EdeYOlorDSZs]

This is such a wholesome but important message!

[@michaeladodsworth2749]

Still even in your marriage even in a long-term relationship never let yourself go always try to be your most fit be the best version of you always make that effort to put your health and fitness as a priority

[@Teeliciousstyle]

When you go through many dating advice videos from different gurus and youtube influencers, you understand there are steps and certain standards. However, not all men are raised in the same way or have the same education. As the dating pool is quite dry lately especially in SF where the majority of men are boys with money and less in manners. Opening car doors, pulling the chair, etc. I believe I have to request before they even do it. Especially, to Asian men (my preference) even Asian American, some even said I am too demanding. Then, when you meet the man with great educations plus manners, he is a playboy (not all however most of them) who does not want to settle. No wonder many of my girlfriends who are great at their works (lawyers, doctors, restaurant owners, and some bloggers), beautiful, alluring, yet either were cheated or single by choice.

[@bearsagainstevil]

Great to see channels like yours about traditional femininity, we need more traditional femininity and masculinity ..The way society has gone is down the wrong path and we need more people like you . best wishes very good advice for women

[@nikaj111]

I've been watching your videos for a few hours now, going through this Femininity Series... and this... was just wonderful Michelle!!! So much imagery.. so much information and advice. I realize I haven't been on many dates. Maybe a handful over the last few years. And the thought makes me a bit nervous to be honest. But your video and taking us step by step is so encouraging! I feel like I have a big sister

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@19:31 i heard some males say that makes him scared when females do that, it feels crazy like shes falling in love already! Plus there is something called mind over matter, aka females can pschye themselves into falling in love! 😱

[@Restyoursoul287]

You really hit all of the scenarios that can happen during a first date. I am excited to watch the rest of this series! Thank you for sharing your insight, Dr. Michelle ❤️.

[@carolmoritz4423]

Can we talk femininity after you're in the relationship? What does it look at when you're at the wake up together and throw your sweats on? I love my dreses and heels but that isn't the chores around the house or lazy Sunday morning look.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes, in the future I will do a video on femininity in relationships because things do need to be tweaked. I would suggest trying to look your best as much as possible, you are human so you will never be perfect. Just put forth the effort. Much love to you!

[@halimahcc8259]

I am watching this celebrating 3 year anniversary with my hubby and still brushing up always ❤ tysm

[@annikaminina7670]

Hi Michelle Could you make a video on how to not get discouraged when you did your hair, make-up, lashes, outfit and heels and dont get approched by a man? I have started my level up journey 1 month ago Sometimes I just want to give UP because I wonder if these efforts really worth it... How to not get back to your old(lazy)self. Thank you so much your videos are very inspiring😘

[@OneSyteria]

Annika Miniña keep going! Your vibe attracts your tribe. The more you do it, the more effortless it becomes for you. In turn it will be normal for you and you will attract the right people or person at that point. The better you feel the better you look! Keep going! Keep going!

[@rachellerockel]

Annika Miniña change your motivation. You have to do it for yourself, not for a man. Valuing yourself will effect every area of your life in a positive way. Your whole vibe will lift. It’s also not just about appearance but how you interact with the world - your smile, mannerisms, etc. keep learning, growing and glowing sis. We got this!

[@pamelaisaac4072]

Also make sure you’re going to different places alone and not always in groups. Men are intimidated when they see a group of women and tend to not approach. Go to different places smiling and enjoying your self (fancy restaurant, play, museum, social functions, etc) if you are their type and they are interested, they will approach. If you are not their type they will not approach. It’s okay you only need one man, just try again.

[@kwameopoku3576]

This is happening to me as a guy

[@tunisiathompson7677]

Annika check out videos on the laws of attraction. From what I’m learning from it, in addition to all the wonderful things you’ve done you also have to speak out with affirmations on what it is you really want in a man/relationship. Oh and be specific! 🙏🏽🌸🌸💃🏽

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@6:23 oh that's sooo funny we females accept them no matter how they look! Hint: I've seen many of us beautiful faced females dressed so nice with less than males all the time!

[@bobthebob6241]

You can put a small amount of effort in ur looks you don’t have to do a lot of extra things for him just be you!

[@misselle1430]

Exactly. So long as you are clean and neat .. no biggie. No.makeup at all needed if that's her style. If he doesn't like it he can move on and find his dipped in everything else kinda girl. No love lost.

[@Ela-vw9gv]

Which bars are you going to sis because I’ve never seen them hooks 🤭😂😂 I need to upgrade 🥺

[@oh_nat9340]

I would love to see a video about femenine flirting 💕

[@shesonfire_]

I love what you said about leaning in. Im such a girly girl who loves a good romantic evening that I can see myself doing that without even thinking.❤

[@msflowers9625]

I truly enjoyed this video. I was able to relate to a lot of points you addressed. Including your point on how to respond when a waitress is flirting with you date. I remained kind, curious, and continued to allow my focus and smile to stay on him.

[@pamonroe75]

Wow! Incredible tips. Every woman dating would benefit from watching this invaluable video. Thank you so much Dr. Daf!

[@wayawuffin]

please do a video on flirting! 😭 i would love to hear your insight and advice!

[@explorermike19]

Wow! Michelle, you have class. What a pleasure it would be indeed to enjoy the company of a woman who knows and practices the things you teach in this video. You did an excellent job of presenting these well thought suggestions.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much! ✨✨

[@messywalk]

Everything is important. Yes. This. This is the truth.

[@drmichelledaf]

That's right girl!

[@SincerelyYona]

Your skin is gorgeous!

[@aprilthompson5154]

I'm loving that necklace! So dainty and feminine. Where did you get it?

[@SafariTheories]

Your content is so addictive esp about feminity. I love it. Literally the whole of you too. You are such a vibe hunnie 💙💙💙💙💙

[@chirciusimona4315]

You explained the most accurate and clear from what I ve been watching until now. Appreciate it.

[@thamitayod-ngern26]

Dr.Michelle, you really done my world with every single thing you did. Love ❤️

[@christinagarcia5088]

Loved this video, currently stressing about hanging out with this guy I’ve been talking to and anticipating being asked out on a date so this was super helpful

[@camillecrichlow8138]

This was so helpful!! Everything I need to know and even answers some questions about past experiences

[@shirlsshirls8594]

Can we get into this bomb ass makeup look? Tutorial please?

[@cece2086]

Don't talk about shootings 😂. Don't be an activist or social warrior on a date.

[@joemtari]

I wouldn’t mind

[@misselle1430]

Not on date 1 ... just be happy and look forward to a good time. No serious talks needed yet

[@katelynnlee5158]

😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀

[@Victoria-no3hw]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@funny_content2028]

I don’t like wearing dresses and it’s really tough. Some of us want to really try and look feminine but it’s hard if u don’t enjoy wearing dresses. Thank you for the advice. I will put it into consideration

[@tamikapadgett8989]

Once again... another awesome video. Thank you!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks sweetie, you are so welcome!!!

[@kmydesire12]

Eyebrows are snatched ❤❤❤

[@MRCYU]

I just discovered Your channel..Thank You so much for sharing this is the second video I'm watching and already got some gems..the only thing that throws Me off a bit is the whole competition view..you touched on it in this vid and the first vid I watched. I don't believe We women are in competition. We are all winners..Femininty is essential in the fact that the more women level up and realize their value the more Men will level up..there's no competition. Just want to shed some light on that maybe You can consider. All love Beauty and thanks again for the informations ❤

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you sweetheart. Yes, I agree with that, I was speaking in terms of limited resources (high value quality men) that most are seeking. But you are absolutely right. Much love to you!

[@MRCYU]

@@drmichelledaf Ok I get what You're saying :). Just wrapped up this video..soo good..let Me go ahead and save it like You said to recap before My next date 💅🏾😊❤

[@drmichelledaf]

MRCYU thanks babe! Yes 🥰😘

[@tavi5841]

U schooling my young ass and I like it!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Christine_]

With all this high value, men/women relations going on in the internet, this type of content was relevant before all this high value business exploded. This is basic foundational knowledge that has been lost. I'm watching all these videos to unlearn some if those masculine traits that I have and balance it well. Thank you for this content!! ❤️

[@beauphomasterpiece3795]

What if i wait for him to open my door and he dosen't? Awkward

[@chazmirec.6995]

It should be awkward for him, not you. Do not even TOUCH that door.

[@drmichelledaf]

Do you mean a regular door or a car door? You can hint by saying " wow, that door was very heavy to open". But the car door will take time. During the date at some point when the time is right, you can either tell him how much you respect gentleman (then proceed to tell him what you definition of that is) and outwardly compliment gentlemen-like traits when you see others do it.

[@Sunkissbabe2]

THEwhimsical1 you’re so lucky lol I remember when my ex and I got on that topic he always said chivalry is dead 😂 so he didn’t open car doors ..he would open other doors however but yeah lol

[@MyDianaCosta1]

😂😂😂😂🌚 omg! Imagine

[@alannac.7392]

Growing up, my dad and brothers always opened doors and pull out chairs for my mom and I. If they forget, just keep standing there 😂