Topping vs Bottoming with ~

[@Makingemi]

can’t wait to collab again mommy 🥰

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

keep calling me mommy and you might be too grounded to collab again

[@sharilupperger9478]

Every cell in my body in attracted to mak

[@mamajin8035]

No doc martens for a week! Lmfao

[@jennaozzy6863]

U making her blush with the mommy talk was the highlight of my day

[@natalysilva]

18:21 Mak 🙊🙊 great episode

[@ihatemickiegee]

"i am a seasonal hey mamas lesbian- better that than seasonal depression, that's what i always say" is mak's golden quote of this video

[@mymelodyssaxophone7724]

6:11 - just saving this for in few years when I scroll through the comments and want to cry-laugh

[@alexe5606]

@@mymelodyssaxophone7724 yeah god thank you that made my day

[@rebeccabonet4359]

@@mymelodyssaxophone7724little reminder if you forgot about it 😂

[@kmcclellan9820]

Never related more to Mak saying, "even when I'm physically on top of her, she has control over me." Yes, true tops are simps. I would literally do anything for the girl bottoming me. I'm a simp. Thank you, Mak, for being so honest about how soft we really are. Cause we really are soft simp tops. Loved the video, Alayna! Beautiful, as always 💚

[@avamason6297]

@@himmelsbisonq7214 it means someone who really likes someone else, like if you have a big crush on them you’re simping for them :) I’m pretty sure it’s slang :)

[@kmcclellan9820]

@@himmelsbisonq7214 I learned English in school too, but I learned the word simp as an adult hearing the kids talk lol. It is, in fact, slang. Essentially meaning that you'd do anything (possibly even compromise your own wants/needs/values) for the person you like. It's like saying that someone was "whipped" back in my day. But now I feel old and like I probably shouldn't use words that people born after the year 2000 use. So yeah.

[@Cespam]

I LITERALLY SAID THIS TODAY ABOUT A WOMAN TO A FRIEND

[@okyeah4sure]

@@himmelsbisonq7214 all of the answers above are correct but it’s also African American Vernacular English/ AAVE :)

[@deadassb6576]

yea !! i actually didn’t think i could ever bottom bc i like to be the one in control, but i’m glad i realized that was a shitty stereotype and u can have any dynamic u want no matter who does what

[@rachaelgardner718]

I absolutely hate the stereotype of masc lesbians being tops and femes being bottoms like I’m probably one of the most feminine lesbians out there but I’m a top and people seem to get so confused when I say that. it honestly just shows how deeply rooted sexism really is

[@cal.w5269]

Thank you 👏

[@angelikaking1560]

Dude I agree so hard. I dress both feminine and kinda androgynous/masc and people think I’m a top all the time bc I manspread, gotta deep voice, and I have that kinda like, tough personality, but I am absolutely a bottom. And very submissive. Like my friends always tell me I have such mommy energy but like ugh I love women (and dudes we bisexual here) and I view my way of putting effort in and looking out for my partner through literally just serving them and letting them do whatever they want. People express love in different ways and I hate that people made it somehow relate to gender stereotypes when it has nothing to do with that

[@angelikaking1560]

Also like I’m a shawty man I’m 5’3 and 115 lbs like yes bitch pick me up and THROW ME 😩 I ain’t picky either I like masc and fem everyone. Like I just think people are hot and I want all of them to love me man how could one not

[@stuff1784]

Yessss thank you

[@Nella_nova]

@@angelikaking1560 My motto is "both is good" Top bottom Idk mas femm idf-ingk especially with humans like I just want my face squished is that too much to ask?

[@catgordon603]

Mak fidgeting with everything they could get their hands on for the entire video is such a mood

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

lol You noticed that too.

[@ViktorErikFade]

Literally me , And how you can tell when I'm genuinely shook about my emotions lol

[@4455-d6w]

“they”

[@em-yx5pl]

she uses she/her

[@lexa3787]

@@em-yx5plshe literally says in the video that she uses both

[@evano486]

Yes! A lot of bottom hate has to do with sexism. I’m so glad y’all brought that up

[@coolsenjoyer]

the whole top and bottom thing is kinda weird with women... like, for gay men top is like who is is wielding the dick whether its oral or anal but with lesbians its always the one who is giving the pleasure

[@radiationshepherd]

Fr

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

when I tell you I cry-laughed editing this video

[@lunavalpassos9324]

I did the same but watching it

[@joegoss30]

Looking forward to the blooper reel.

[@potatoesfordayz4607]

"Someone on the sports team is probably gay." As a girls wrestler, I can tell you that about 75% of the girls on my team are part of the lgbtq+ community lmfao.

[@elidaborchsenius4375]

Well wrestling is the perfect sport then.

[@strawberryfox8819]

Rip when you don't have sports teams at your school

[@crazysiencetist9249]

Me a gymnast being jelous...

[@sic6sic]

as another girls wrestler i can 100% agree with this 😟 we have only one straight girl on our team lmao

[@amberkal7955]

Hahahah i feel this, I am a softball player and we only have 2 straight girls on my team

[@quietestkitten]

This is my first time seeing Mak, and she’s so funny. It’s interesting to see the dynamic where Alayna is the baby gay, but Mak is the baby adult. It’s a good back and forth.

[@gayandafraid_]

LOL baby adult! I love it!!

[@aryanataherzadeh1894]

“If you are on a sports team, somebody is probably gay” This had me laughing because literally half of my high school soccer team isn’t straight. I’m bisexual and I know 1 pansexual, at least 3 lesbians, and at least 4 other bisexuals

[@Pink-dc4qi]

My friend have a question, do not know what to tell her. Thought to ask your opinion. She asked her crush out to hang, the person says yes to hangout, yahoo, but the vibe is still the same, like awkward tension, and the person still doesn't talk to her a lot at work. Just look at each other and no word. Says good morning to her . Haven't made any flirty comments in awhile tho. Why say yes to hang but barely talk?

[@aryanataherzadeh1894]

It could have a lot to do with that persons personality. Do they often talk a lot with other people or are they shy and introverted? I have a crush on this really extroverted girl who always has something to say, but whenever she is near me she is very quiet but is always watching me and paying close attention to me. Has your friend told her crush that she has a crush on them? Maybe her crush has feelings towards her but doesn’t know if she feels the same

[@Pink-dc4qi]

@@aryanataherzadeh1894 the crush talks to other people,

[@Pink-dc4qi]

@@aryanataherzadeh1894 well I just found out she got a boyfriend engaged

[@mckennaowens3343]

I’m honestly so glad you touched on the clique-ness of the younger queer community. I was so scared to come out without being positive of it. I knew there was that constant judgement of people saying they’re bi because it’s “trendy” and I so badly just didn’t want to be wrong and intrude. Now knowing who I am I still feel that judgement of the baby gay with straight energy coming in.

[@smile-gk7ws]

I can relate to this... In my school there was a girl (I call her Amy;not her real name) She outed herself as a bi woman and everyone is accepting her for that A few weeks later she said "no I only love girls I'm a lesbian" still no judgment here Then she said she's pansexual(loving the character of a person regardless of he gender) She always cuddled with a male classmate(i call him Alex) and he had a girlfriend(I call her Lucy) at that time... Amy, Alex and Lucy were good friends to me so I couldn't say anything to make the situation even worse... Amy hurted Lucy so much that they weren't friends anymore... After her birthday party she drunk alot and said to another classmate that she's straight just faking the whole sexuality thing and did it on purpose... I'm a lesbian myself I had to go through so much pain because of people's judgement... When I'm thinking about it, it helped me out to find out who I am^^ So that's my story ...I know how you feel and if you want you can talk to me^^

[@ST-vt4nu]

I found out I was bi in 2009 when I was 12/13. I was one of the emo kids and among emo kids being bi was kinda the thing. I was way too scared to come out because I didn't want them to think I was just saying it because I wanted to be cool like them, since I was kinda the baby emo of the school. Later I even convinced myself that I was doing that and that I just liked these girls because I wanted to be like them, not with them. So now I'm 25 and have only ever dated men. Hot women scare me so much lmao. It's the unfamiliarity that's scary mainly.

[@mary_chase]

@@ST-vt4nu damn I can relate to every sentence you wrote there, I was the emo kid and everyone knew I was gay before I even realized and accepted it, and now I'm 22 and I'm scared of dating women bc of lacking experience :')

[@mara_q9979]

@@mary_chase I can def relate. 20 and never been in a relationship bc I'm afraid of how ppl around me will react to the news

[@magnificent6668]

Some of the clique vibes does come from trying to avoid intrusion by group that want equal footing, represented even to the point of your erasure. It's irritating to be in a subculture that's pressured to be all-inclusive. No other subset of folks are expected to do this. I mean, imagine you're in a Cuban American group, wanting to celebrate Cuban culture party & some North Koreans crash n demand it be a Communist culture party, not Cuban, so it's inclusive for them, and then three Costa Ricans come in demanding it be a party for Spanish speakers, and then some Icelandic people say it should be about people from islands. And why should you have a problem with any of these? You have something in common with all these groups, but you've been blocked from actually celebrating your own culture & expecting people coming into your space to respect the space is about celebrating Cuban culture... Funk that.

[@trainchomp6184]

"we're not dating-dating, we're just talking and we're lesbians" I really expected her next words to be "so we're moving in together next month" lmaoo

[@Ciaran_Connell]

Yeah, I was thinking “so we’re basically married” 😂😂😂

[@alistairmooncrest5018]

Alayna: *humbly oblivious to her true Mommy potential to fumble the "Hey Mamas"* Mak: *too soft to be impervious* Hey Ma-OmMy? 😳

[@AlexandraVion]

My wife had her first time with a woman with me, and I made sure to make her feel comfortable and less anxious about it. I practically worshipped her body for hours, and probably that was the best way to go at the time, 11 years later, we're still together and happily married and experimented a lot of things during this time together

[@jessicahernandez3090]

this🥺

[@aarnzoo5124]

🥺 this is so sweet

[@worknotinprogress7172]

That's so cute

[@fireruby1882]

AAAWEEEE😭💙

[@slaysweetie21]

"take the first step in topping your mental health" LMAO ALAYNA PLS😭😭

[@janemandley4033]

Rewatching this several months later and realizing that WITHIN A MINUTE of their first video together they're like "Do we love each other?" and now Mak's latest one where she basically tears up when Alayna says "I love you" (obvs platonically), it's just beautiful queer friendship. LOVE!!

[@caylacourt2685]

this video is nothing but facts. the stereotype about bottoms and tops has everything to do with sexism and ingrained misogyny. thankyou for bringing that up

[@Faith_Hunter]

Can we talk about the fact that asking "Who's the top and who's the bottom?" is really similar to asking "Who's the man and who's the woman?"

[@NotAnotherKuromi]

It's not though because plenty of straight men are bottoms & plenty of straight women are tops. However being a bottom is associated with femininity & people get shamed for it, which needs to stop.

[@loonarwater]

Yeah like it's not their bussiness

[@Joyride37]

Also it’s a weird conflation/assumption with being dominant or submissive which is… like they’re just positions. Who’s “dominant” is going to change in a moment/mood unless you’re doing a BDSM scene, which even then is pre-agreed on I think it’s all imbedded from this implication/assumption with dominance being masculine (the man, in control,superior) and submissive being the woman. Therefore the submissive “bottom” is inherently inferior. Which is also gross.

[@kellharris2491]

@@Joyride37 yes. And whose to say what a person likes in the bedroom is the same as outside the bedroom.

[@magnarcreed3801]

Honestly doesn’t bother me. Granted I’m pretty open bout things and don’t mind just telling someone I don’t want to tell them when I don’t. XD

[@andiehernandez1995]

As a non-binary bi person I've always felt confused about cisgender homosexual people's obsession with "sex roles". I do believe bottom-shaming has roots in misogyny, even in the gay male community. PS: I laughed so much watching this video. Mak is so adorable and funny.

[@jarodh-m6099]

Gay men are in denial of their misogyny too often.

[@kellharris2491]

Being penetrated was seen as feminine and therefore demeaning 😔

[@PARADOXsquared]

Yeah the top/bottom thing is feeling like internalized misogyny

[@jagtai]

The whole "top/bottom" correlation with "dominant/submissive" just goes to show that those people have NO idea what either actually means. The "top" and the "dominant" are BOTH about pleasuring the "bottom" / "sub" - it's an illusion of control. They need to shut up and just freaking enjoy their partner - darn it!!!

[@julia.aigner]

I love it that you two literally talk 4 minutes about "hey-mamas-lesbians" and "mommy-lesbians"😅 Couldn't make me laugh more...

[@Arakiel9]

I am not the target demographic for your channel, I'm a cis male, I came out a little over 26 years ago now, which means I don't watch your channel for the same reasons as many of your subscribers do. I watch it because you're entertaining. That's it. Well, I also watch to have my faith in humanity restored a little bit. You tend to express yourself in a kind way, and you give consistently good relationship advice. As a "relationship geek", I appreciate that very much, and that helps me feel a little less despondent about the world in general, knowing that you are putting good stuff out there. The reason I'm commenting here is the way that you & Mak discussed the term "Simp". Loved it. I can't tell you how much I appreciated your take on it. I watch/follow some people on TikTok, but I never post content there. Not my thing, don't want the attention. I watch/follow some people here on KZbin as well. My point is, I do comment, I do share my thoughts (rarely) and feelings (often) about things that people put out there into the electronic world that we inhabit. I am habitually positive, kind, and I try to be very specific when I give compliments. I want the person to know, yes, I watched your content. Yes, I understood at least part of what you were doing. Yes, I know something about what I'm saying in this comment, so, please know that I am not giving this compliment as fluff... I mean it. I have been called a "Simp". I thought it was wonderful. Weird, I know. What generated the attempt at an insult was that I was being supportive, kind, and respectful of another human being with no expectation of anything in return. If that's what being a "Simp" is, then I will wear that mantle with pride. Yes, I know what people are trying to get across, but it's that last statement of my third paragraph that is so crucial, and why so many people (I'm not generalizing here, okay, maybe a little... okay, yes, straight men *cough*) come across so poorly. "... with no expectation of anything in return." That's a big part of the definition of "Creepy". That's what people are trying to say when they call you a "Simp", I think... that you are being "too" nice and/or obsequious in order to garner favor with someone, to get their (positive) attention. The internet is a big place. There are a lot of people online. There are a lot of people who make content, and even more people who comment on that content. If I'm seeking attention, I'm doing a really, really bad job of it by choosing this as a venue. If I wanted attention I would be posting my own content. Anyway, that was too long. I'm wordy. Sorry. Love your content. You are fun, I love your way with words, I love your shirts, and I am grateful that you are putting out solid, constructive, intelligent advice regarding sexuality, gender issues, and relationships in general. Thank you very, very much.

[@FZ-bk9kh]

Agree with absolutely everything you said about "simping" If you've found someone who you love much that you're driven to unsolicited romantic gestures how is that anything but an absolute win I would be so lucky to someday find a significant other I can shower with my affection

[@sofiavelardez2441]

mucho texto

[@Arakiel9]

@@sofiavelardez2441 Sí, hablo demasiado

[@ImNotGraceful_]

I don’t care how long this comment was, it was really insightful and nice to read👏😄

[@Pink-dc4qi]

Other day, I was in the closet to grab something and she walked past me and said " have fun in the closet." And shut the door on me lol closed it. The other day, I was riding a machine down the hallway and she said " I want a ride." But she hates riding the machine I ride she said. Or she puts her leg out in front of me and say " watch out." WHEN I'M DRIVING. TODAY, I was moping the floor and she walked past me and said " You missed a spot." SARCASM. I said " no really?" SARCASM. She turn around and smiled at me and laugh. She's been teasing me a little and playful aka I think of flirt but idk man. One day she sat with me at lunch (alone) before people come in, she never sits in the kitchen, usually at her desk, happened once. I just don't get why she only talks to me a little when no one is around? Like Friday, we barely spoke but the end of the day, I was leaving to go home, she said " YOUR LEAVING?!?!? WHAT? " is she flirting with me

[@AyceMcGee]

"I don't need to be on top to know I'm worth it because I'm strong enough to know the truth" - Lady Gaga

[@neiyuwnserpent7646]

“Take your first step in Topping your mental health” this is the best frase I ever heard. 😂😂😂

[@lunavalpassos9324]

I still can't believe this video is happening after Kristen's dare. Thank you thank you thank you, Alayna

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

RIGHT

[@sunshineflicker6120]

"You need to understand how much power these women have over us, even when they're under us"

[@annaedvalson2793]

“Be curious, open, and excited”. I watched that part on repeat several times. That is a beautiful way to work through nerves and/or anxiety. I will try to use that in so many ways. Thanx

[@smile-gk7ws]

I really love the shirt she's wearing while introducing the sponsor(; It's a funny and interesting episode you two did a great job thank you for this^^ And have a nice day:)

[@ud3mare]

That's why I don't skip the AD

[@smile-gk7ws]

@@ud3mare yeah^^

[@DJBreezae]

As a 30yr old lesbian who fell out of the closet a decade ago, I just recently discovered that there is even such a thing as Top vs Bottom and have never felt like such a baby gay. Now I feel like I need a crash course in harmonious lesbianism lol

[@Pink-dc4qi]

My friend have a question, do not know what to tell her. Thought to ask your opinion. She asked her crush out to hang, the person says yes to hangout, yahoo, but the vibe is still the same, like awkward tension, and the person still doesn't talk to her a lot at work. Just look at each other and no word. Says good morning to her . Haven't made any flirty comments in awhile tho. Why say yes to hang but barely talk?

[@jamontoast7467]

@@Pink-dc4qi girl prbly feels awkward, lol. I get rlly quiet and nervous arnd new ppl, even if I rlly like them as a person. Hope this isnt too late!

[@Pink-dc4qi]

@@jamontoast7467 is it normal when a person gets all up in ur face ? Get super close to u ?

[@jamontoast7467]

@@Pink-dc4qi I mean.... i guess? It could mean a lot of things; usually it means they like you (as a friend or romanitcally).

[@Pink-dc4qi]

@@jamontoast7467 I don't think a friend do that to a friend lol. Gets very close to u and ur face lol no personal space lol

[@bionicmagi6388]

I hate the social stigma around being a bottom/sub lesbian. I am no less a lesbian because I want a woman to dominate me. The key part of that sentence is "woman." Some people just have preferred positions and headspaces in bed, and it's stupid to make people feel like EVERYONE has to be vers. Lying about being versatile or a top when you're actually a bottom, or vice versa, is how you end up in incompatible sexual relationships where only one or neither of you are having a good time.

[@squirrel6536]

And then there are people like me. The only place I ever hear top/bottom/vers is online. & like I could prob top but I've also literally never been with anyone outside of my exes (all men) and with them I (recently figured out) wasn't sexually attracted to them so I'd just... y'know... do whatever they enjoyed. So do I know what I'm doing? No. Am I willing to learn / will I enjoy doing whatever with whomever I'm with now that I know who I'm actually attracted to? Yes. Fuck yes.

[@twylight275]

Even though I'm not sure my sexuality I know I want a woman to dominate at least 1

[@ecueto395]

I came out as Bi last year (26yo) and I’ve never had a relationship with a girl before and I am so nervous to try because I don’t know what I’m doing.. also, I think I’m probably a bottom..

[@bionicmagi6388]

@@ecueto395 Gosh, yeah. I'm particularly, like, passionate about this because when I got my first serious girlfriend, I thought I was ace. Turns out I'm demi, but that meant I had no prior experience and didn't really know what I would like. She claimed to be vers, and I was like "great, that's fair, I can do that, I can totally do that!" and then... she never wanted to top, and I quickly learned that I did not enjoy topping. I could probably be physically "on top" but like... with orders and praise, you know? Don't put me in charge, it's not sexy for me. I need that "bottom energy" headspace to have a good time. And like, you live and you learn, right? Now I know what I like and what I don't like, and theoretically can communicate that with a partner and not be lowkey pressured into sexual positions I don't like, but the SHAME around being seen as a "pillow princess" can still make it really hard to admit your own desires to a new partner.

[@ecueto395]

@@bionicmagi6388 I’m a bottom when I’m with men too. I just prefer to be the one pinned down, dominated, or ya know whatever and I have just always preferred that. Now there are times that I take the lead, but I’m still a bottom.. also I think I might be Demi too.

[@bruceleo2607]

Flaming straight guy here(40s, white, mid-western). I have a kid who has just turned teen. They identify as non-binary and are interested in same sex relationships. So i'm not here to be a creep, just edu-taining myself. So far I am truely enjoying your content. Just wanted to empathize with the whole, "simping for your bottom," part of the conversation. Love my wife and would do anything for her. I saw the comedian, Ashley's stand-up(sorry don't remember the last name) and y'all's roasted dating site profiles site profiles. Hilarious! I appreciate all the work and the chemistry you all share. Thanks!

[@Flydodo1]

Oh Alayna, this is everybody's favorite Episode so far. If only because of turning mak's "love the most about her" in to 'love her' while embodying pure innocent question pose: 18:29

[@laellyn3548]

"lesbians are in right now" i need this on a shirt right this instant

[@kiram.3619]

Now I want to see Alayna do the "Hey Mamma".. Trope? Ästhetik? How about a video of Alayna trying out different Lesbian stereotypes (Styles, way of walking & talking, etc). It could be really educational in debunking and acknowledging stereotypes, while it'd also be a ton of fun. Or maybe a series of collabs with different Lesbians who choose an outfit etc. for Alayna and explain why they chose and enjoy their style.

[@avr7120]

fellow german? Ästhetik lmaoo

[@kiram.3619]

@@avr7120 lmao I didn't even realise because it sounds the same in both languages. Yep, fellow german here. Casually outing myself while talking about gay aesthetics.

[@avr7120]

@@kiram.3619 eyy wusst ichs doch! und ja true, allerdings gibt es keine Umlaute im Englischen :D nur so für die zukunft

[@kiram.3619]

@@avr7120 Klar, und großgeschrieben werden auch nur Namen & Satzanfänge. Das war mehr geschrieben wie ich den Satz in Gedanken gesprochen habe, als eine bewusste Entscheidung.

[@avr7120]

@@kiram.3619 oki doki

[@summer5198]

I have a good feeling about this video.I think this is going to be great😂 wouldn’t be surprised if it’s hysterical.I love Alayna’s content with just her in it but I’ve been really into these collaboration videos❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@griffelweg1993]

Please make a part 2. 😍 You two were absolutely amazing together. 😁

[@evans76]

66 year old straight married man here. This was an engaging and enlightening conversation to watch. Just goes to show that relationships are complex no matter what. Social expectations within any culture drive humans to try and conform while at the same time trying to stand out as unique and individual. Thanks for your honest exploration. Topping/bottoming did bring me in. I’m only human.

[@kellyhernandez5701]

Not my two favorite gay content creators collaborating!! God is good 😭🙏

[@dontknowhyimhere589]

The Collab we didn't know we needed

[@aurorabell4336]

This was hilariously beautiful. The two of you created a really accepting space for queer folks in this video. Thank you for getting into the big stuff... plus the topping and mommy kink had me crack-ing-up, but also seriously considering serious things haha

[@aubreyboone6797]

ok mak is literally the definition of my type and i was having a gay panic that entire video. i also rly needed the reassurance abt being nervous for your first experience w a woman. appreciate it, love you guys❤️

[@Ciaran_Connell]

It’s crazy watching this now, after listening to Alayna and Mak (and Ashley) on the chosen family podcast. They hardly know each other, it’s crazy, and hilarious

[@vywern4754]

I am literally a boy and NOT EVEN A GAY, and I still love you guys! Your energy just makes me so happy:)))

[@michael_the.girl.]

The perspective between an early 20's and almost 30 gay is gold! 😁👌 I loved this, I laughed so much!

[@jennaozzy6863]

LOVE the crushing of "hard top vs hard bottom" bs!!! Just hoping there will be cool women that will include me when I am ready to go to lesbian/sapphic spaces as a trans woman. The talk about cliqueyness in these spaces is super intimidating

[@brendaleelydon]

Girl, I feel the same kind of anxiety, but as An Old Lady who assumed for decades that she was bi/'an ally' who has mostly dated men (though I have had relationships with women) & is a single mom. Lesbian spaces have always intimidated me, and I'm hoping I can finally get up the courage to visit 'known lesbian spaces' & meet other lesbians before I'm too old, haha. (Of course, I don't finally admit I'm a lesbian until I move to a tiny town from a large city with a thriving queer & lesbian community. 🤦🏻‍♀️)

[@smile-gk7ws]

I've never visited places that are "specifically" for lesbian/sapphic... So I couldn't tell^^ But one day I want to explore these clubs etc. ...^^ I'm a lesbian btw(;

[@littlecatfeet9064]

Just don’t pressure them to see you as a sex partner if they’re not into trans women.

[@jennaozzy6863]

@@littlecatfeet9064 I would never do something like that...ew? Not a big fan of the implication there tbh

[@littlecatfeet9064]

@@jennaozzy6863 I’m sorry, it’s just a lot of lesbians I know have had that pressure and are getting some crazy messages. I’ve dated trans people (men and women) myself and had good experiences, but the camaraderie seems to be disappearing.

[@xxthisworldxx]

You should host a talk show! Alayna, I have loved and followed you for many years and honestly you have grown so much it is incredible to watch. I think you navigate conversations about the lgbt community so well and always find the balance between informing people and making room for personal stories. And I am thinking that you would be a great talkshow host. Love from the Netherlands

[@JuMixBoox]

Mak wearing her shirt like that is definitely on purpose and it's working.

[@2mornins]

People rocking %100 switch energy are a blessing to mankind

[@CookieMonster-nt8hh]

18:31 that was the most genuine and cutest thing I've heard ever. my heart

[@sarahdebona4996]

i’m so sorry i literally cannot… Mak is literally one of the most beautiful humans EVER

[@jerrygmarchantmarchant141]

I agree with you but I don't know why

[@jerrygmarchantmarchant141]

I think I want to go down on Mac while I'm getting p e g g e d

[@MsAaannaaa]

Thank you so much for diving deeper into the whole top/bottom topic! It makes me roll my eyes so often when people think someone who's dressing more masc is automatically a top & someone who's dressing more feminine is automatically a bottom. Besides the fact that hardly anyone really ONLY fits into one of the two, I can tell you that all of my masc exes were either bottoms or verse. I'm a low femme representing verse who enjoys giving and receiving equally (and knows how to do it) & I can't take 95% of tiktok le$beans seriously when all they do is reproduce stereotypes that don't help anyone.

[@xSilverxshadowx]

OHMYGOD I have the "really cool shirt" too! It's covered in words that look like English at first but aren't, and my spouse loves to yell the random words on the shirt whenever I wear it haha

[@vickyleinc]

Where is it from??

[@elpoynter9091]

I’d also like to know where it’s from!

[@alishafausett8761]

When Mak said “I’m gonna try and do this unironically without laughing” the ad just said “no!” And I died laughing

[@cove_mallak]

*sees this duo that I’ve been wanting but never asked for* me: YES omg!! *instantly puts down the weight to watch*

[@davidself5235]

Thank you for being a beacon of light and common sense to both gay and straight communities.

[@jonathanpardoe6549]

Frankly as a straight guy I found this video really enjoyable as all the advice should apply to any relationship. Communication is absolutely key, switching roles in the bedroom is also important, nobody should try to control the relationship (unless the partner particularly likes that). I love giving pleasure to my partners, I actually prefer to make sure my partner has a great time before even seeking my own gratification, as giving someone pleasure is a joy and a thrill in itself. So go for it ladies, enjoy yourselves and build loving strong and happy relationships. I’m not saying that asking for something that you want is wrong but in a good relationship you must give as well. Humour is also important (when shared and not being mean) as sex should be fun and enjoyable. I think the terms top and bottom are wrong as switching is definitely more fulfilling. Sorry if my being straight and male offends any of you or your followers, I have many queer, lesbian, gay friends and watching this kind of video helps me understand them better so I can be a better friend.

[@LeightonReacts]

I had tears in my eyes I was laughing so hard at this video, immaculate pairing

[@52Paulis]

That was awesome. It totally made my day! I've been a fan of both of you for a while and it was great to see you together. The two of you could also even talk about climbing. Alayna, you are the mommy for that because you also climb real rocks.

[@shayleeann7481]

Oh man didn’t think I could love a collab with Mak more than the Ashley Gavins but this was gold. You’re starting to grow on me Mak!

[@alitbrill4287]

Hi! I hope you both had a good day so far. Just wanted to say that I'm not out to my family yet, and your channels give me a lot of inspiration and motivation. They make me feel really safe and help me a lot in my journey with my queerness. I think it's so beautiful that you're using your platform to help queer youth. It's not obvious at all and I'm really grateful. love you.💕

[@TaschaMonique]

the top & bottoming convo was the best!

[@camiladolorestorales9215]

this was the best episode of this series everrr. I need part 2 ASAP

[@lovestruck90]

The origin of baby! I hadn’t seen this, and it took me a sec to realize it was pre-podcast lol

[@hubear6607]

It's like we all secretly have that sexist voice in our mind that can get involved in how we see things or people. And i believe that's why femininity is thought of as such a weakness, in every part of society; even in lgbtq community. You guessed it right, i'm a feminist lesbian and i hate it when people put masculinity and power in the same box as if those two always go together. Amazing content... Thank you for bringing that up.👍

[@mahakhamidd]

i love how natural you both are infront of a camera

[@Tay_95]

This was probably my favorite video! 😂 I loved this so much!

[@catherinedelauro6186]

Me blushing for this episode, ya'll are so cute. I love watching how sweet ya'll are even (especially) talking about important stuff

[@keathekiwi3549]

PART 2!! This was so chaotic and amazing

[@someoneelse7629]

I watch the chosen family podcast, and there Mak does not come trough enough, here Mak is so wellspoken, and mature (for her baby age) and doesn't shy away from admitting things...

[@muustyx]

Rewatching this when you know how their friendship developed is so amazing. It's like when I read my old texts with my chosen sibling. Just wild.

[@jacklandismusic]

Wild to think that it went from “please tell her to stop calling me mommy” to “Hi I’m Alayna Joy, and I’m your mommy”

[@Crissy_the_wonder]

Not watched it yet, but looking forward to two of my favorite KZbinrs. Best wishes to you both

[@peachypineapples502]

People hating on the bottoms in gay relationships actually goes all the way back to Ancient Rome! In Ancient Rome being gay was acceptable but only if you were the top. They thought that being a top meant you were more masculine which made it more okay. That view still affects gay culture to this day.

[@ilTHfeaa]

The collab I’ve BEN WAITING FOR

[@ilTHfeaa]

BEEN*

[@erinifty]

I do like the idea of some babe named Ben waiting in wistful anticipation for this collab. 🌈

[@garnet1223]

you're both just like blushing and lust giggling the whole time i can't OMG I CANT

[@mizzemilybrown]

Switches all the way! I think is switches definitely have more fun.

[@lazyscorpio8562]

and now look where we're at, 10 months later and Alayna is now maks mother and fiancèe

[@absgolden1824]

this is something i never realized i needed

[@Zweigenhaft9]

It’s so funny going back and watching all these now that I’ve been watching chosen fam pod

[@daneckabargas6690]

"A whole saturn return" okay as if I couldn't fall for ya more you go and astrology our asses?! Love it

[@markusdupreez8599]

you better be bringing them back, that was amazing

[@bryanguillen2937]

Bro this video has so honest for real, I love that they could relate so much and just share their thoughts, I just feel so relieved seeing people being super honest

[@sutapanandy4077]

WE WANT PART 2,3,4,5,6.... & MORE 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪 it was hilarious!!!😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@julivtte]

the duo we never knew we needed...

[@mirrorball_12]

My two most favorite people on earth, this video has made my century ❤

[@terryrindal5244]

Great episode. As a straight guy, I love it, because I have told folks so many times that giving pleasure to your partner is always the best part of being in a relationship. Thanks (even though I know this is an older video).

[@SenElric]

The chaos at begging was a perfect balance for the ending 👌✨

[@MB-ub5ns]

Being a bottom and feminine is not inferior to top-masculinity. People need to realize that.

[@dracoargentum9783]

I was literally thinking the essence of being a Top is caring about your Bottom, right when you were saying that. Honestly, 90% works just as general good relationship advice for any orientation.

[@the_Goddess_of_all]

And everybody this is what I've always been waiting for!!!!!!

[@lorenalourido5338]

Awwww when she realize she loved her... that sooooo cuteee...

[@RunAwayFromTheHumans]

So I’m an old gay…I enjoyed this conversation so much. The patriarchy hold on what women should be, made masculinity/dominance in women something to be disgusted with and as a top it was like one in 50 women. Even now the numbers remain with there being a plethora of bottoms vs tops. TikTok is horrible in this area as well. Go into a live with a masc vs a femme and watch the difference. :P Anyway, it is getting better. People are finding themselves more freely and I hope things remain safe for discovery so people know their worth and can be their authentic selves and have the realization that no one is worth more than another unless we are deciding who gets the last piece of cheesecake.

[@jast.1613]

This was SO MUCH fun to watch!!!! Loved this episode.❤

[@faithbradley4224]

Before watching this, I was in a really really bad mood, so thank you very much for making me laugh and smile a little, and for inspiring me to be a better person. ❤ I feel like I am learning about the LGBTQ+ community and how to support my (potential) future-children, if they ever Identify in the community.

[@dragade101]

@21:04, it took me awhile to get to this state. That Mak understands this already, all the power to you to for having this realisation about being with someone.

[@trinac891]

You two together is such a chaotic, fun energy. Love your content and the topics you touch on! Also...anyone else just peeping Alayna's tongue piercing for the first time?🔥

[@MD-ey8mn]

I want you to react to the same thirst trap at the same time

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Omg

[@MD-ey8mn]

@@AlaynaJoyOfficial Why did you see THIS one?! 😅

[@chrishemphill3215]

I think this young lady should move to Toronto these two are magic

[@monizalmeida]

The point that caught my attention the most is that here in Brazil lesbians don't discuss this much, it's not an issue, we don't have much of a question of who is going to be on top or on the bottom, the two of them do whatever they want. It is a question much more of gay men than of lesbians.

[@joanagarcia6243]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS!! didn't know mak outside of tiktok, this just made me love her more