Modern Culture Is Traumatizing and NOT Normal! With Dr. Gabor Maté

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As humans, we need interconnection: We rely on others to survive, especially as children. Yet, we also strive for authenticity. This creates an inherent tension.
In this lesson, Dr. Maté discusses what is true human nature - and how the modern world has warped our understanding of our needs.
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[@mikec6733]

I've never felt that our society is "normal". I've never liked it. It's so hard to get through it. Stupidity on steroids, trampling every good, noble and loving impulse.

[@arielgoldfarb4118]

The only thing i can think of its trying (i repeat trying) to live in your own bubble as must as you can but that its not living .

[@mikec6733]

@Ariel Goldfarb I have tried that, to a certain degree, for years, and it does help, but like you said, it feels like "killing yourself to live", which happens to be the title of a Black Sabbath tune. Now, I'm doubling down on it with increased intensity. For me, personally, it seems the correct route because I've been overly open and vulnerable for many years. Good luck !!!!

[@FRElHEIT]

I finally found my people in this comment section 🙏. I don't want to be successful and have a lot of fame and money. I just want to be a helpful serving part of a community.

[@mountainswillcrumble777]

Agreed Mike...I knew things were wrong from an early age.

[@natesamadhi33]

Yup, it was never "normal." many societies were built on blood and then rewrote history to make themselves seem like the "good" guys. there may have been a select few societies that were spiritually elevated, but most others were (and are) fundamentally flawed, and people just forced themselves to deal with it.

[@scottshepard1215]

We’ve come to a place where mockery is revered, gaslighting are facts, victims are to blame etc. I hope I make it thru this.

[@mauricioramirez9744]

We can all make it through this together in spirit. We are not alone in this "seemingly" mad world.

[@rachelsimbhu3965]

Same here , I am getting really scared

[@rickerlife9113]

@@rachelsimbhu3965 Many of the issues of modern culture are dependent on the internet, social media, etc. If you spent a day disconnected, you'd find that life is pretty lowkey compared to what's happening online. People don't bicker in person like they do online. People don't proclaim their political beliefs from their rooftops with a megaphone, but that's what Twitter is essentially. With a few Karen exceptions, we're pretty civil in a cashier's line or a movie theater or a restaurant. We're still a pretty normal society as long as we base our interactions off of reality and face-to-face accountability.

[@timothygrayson]

You will man. Your awareness is keen and that is the guide to an understanding. We will survive somehow we owe that to its victims.

[@michaeldamato9466]

It's easy buddy, just be yourself, and stick to your values..... this sort of thing is talked about, but rarely does it come into your life.

[@stephaniep1761]

I lived on a primitive island for 5 months, and my anxiety completely disappeared. I have long tried to express my understanding that industrialized society is damaging. It steals from our innate needs. However, no one wants to believe this concept. We will keep going until we are destroyed.

[@stephaniep1761]

@Donovan I came back for my family. My time there was priceless, but staying would have come at a cost. However, my well being is always compromised here. I believe it is for us all, though few are willing to do anything about it. I plan to make my own permanent escape in time. It comes with careful planning. I am not a consumer here. I live on little, and at times have saved 50% of my income through careful money management. The pandemic as well as a natural disaster validated that what we possess is finite. It has little value in our lives. We are surviving on steroids. Taking more than we need is also taking our souls.

[@bb5242]

@@stephaniep1761 What you're really saying is that you have failed to be competitive in this societal construct. We can't all go back to primitivism, it's not feasible nor desirable.

[@stephaniep1761]

@@bb5242 no, society has failed our innate nature and our everlasting souls.

[@tylerk9455]

​@@stephaniep1761You are on the right track. Please don't ever let any of these people make you doubt how you feel. What you experienced was more authentic than most could ever imagine. If you don't mind me asking, where did you do this at, and how did you get into it?

[@LionKimbro]

I don’t think it’s that - people don’t know. I think it’s that people don’t know what to do about it.

[@sutapagoswami116]

in Hindu philosophy, they call what Gabor calls today's society as the predicted time period of 'KalYuga' . in this time, humans lose empathy for each other and fail to recognise they're interconnected, leading to hate, crime, greed, selfishness, etc.

[@Itwasme007]

We definitely living in the age of hate and selfishness thats 💯 facts

[@lynth]

This just proves that things have never been different and "going back" won't change anything for the better. We need to make progress. We need to end capitalism and turn to communism. No religion, no countries, no borders, no racism, no sexism.

[@-.Whiteness-.Witch-.]

​ Do you live in a ivory tower?

[@chaoswitch1974]

​@@Itwasme007since around the late 60's as violent crimes rose as the boomers reached adulthood and continued to rise until 1993, then declined sharply since and regularly until covid, where it only slightly rose again.

[@chaoswitch1974]

​@@lynthsyndicalism is preferable.

[@duewhit310]

"It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - J. Krishnamurti

[@susansmyth16]

Love this 🙏

[@thesilverfox_ok]

A good adaption is knowing the truth and using conciously in your favor.

[@duewhit310]

@stabilobowski thats a term being very casually thrown around these days.

[@CMR308]

Spot on 💯

[@duewhit310]

@stabilobowski ive heard some wild stories about Osho (Bhagwan Rajneesh). That doesn't stop me from getting A WHOLE LOT from his observations & teachings. Its a slippery slope for those rare individuals. I'll look into what who says what about Krishnamurti's comings & goings.

[@laaaliiiluuu]

In a world that profits off your self-hatred, liking yourself is an act of rebellion.

[@artbars7100]

100%

[@deez3063]

strong message. I like that

[@stephen8342]

People in power want you to think that. Fewer people and more people giving up only keeps them in power and makes it easier to control the rest.

[@laaaliiiluuu]

@@stephen8342 What do you mean?

[@stephen8342]

Oh you said liking, looked like killing to me

[@charlesandrews2360]

I had a telecom visit with a neurosurgeon recently. I was about 45 seconds into my background history when he told me, "I don't want to hear your life story." It was humiliating and I've pretty much stopped aggressively trying to find solutions to my medical condition.

[@caroleyre9144]

I’ve been conned by a You Tube Influencer…I supported her for 3 years, recommended her, purchased products to try and help her…then she was rude to me…3 times now…also after my step daughter was put into Critical Condition for two months. I had also been looking after other family members who also suffered an Adverse Event to certain things since 2021. I realised she had me listening to her Sob Stories…she lured me in bcs she pretended she was against these certain things…then she runs away when the going gets tough. lol I would not normally have been taken in by A Self Appointed Title of “Spiritual Teacher” she is a Tarot Card Reader …ie: a Grand Illusionist lol…the thing is I would never have been taken in by anybody like that if we hadn’t been going through a Man Made Crises. Same happened in the 60’s bcs of Man Made Crises…Cult Leaders sprung up. So she was rude to me 3 times but it was bcs she was oozing with Empathy for a Rich and famous Man a Spirts Commentator who was nasty to a young Sports Man , family who lost a loved one aged 59…after taking these certain things …not an ounce of Empathy for my 34 step daughter who was a Nurse…or for me who has been looking after loved who were hurt by the same things. 🤷‍♀️ Alarm Bells when she started begging us to recommend her to our young. Well, was our young who warned me of people like her. She uses people as a Stepping Stone to build her own Business…and is then rude to her Supporters and Customers. She made me feel really depressed listening to her tbh. Wow I have learnt a lesson though…I’ve never been Conned through a Machine before …but I won’t be again. Authenticity…seems the Pretentious People prosper 🤷‍♀️😵‍💫…it’s upside down…this Society, Culture yes. Sending Love and Strength Bright Blessings 💖

[@novadomenavedomia]

Trained psychos a antisocios

[@KiwikimNZ]

It is normal now for people to be cruel and dismissive of one another. It breaks my heart each and everyday. I make it my goal everyday to be authentic, to be kind and understanding of others even when they behave like morons. It’s sad to see how unhappy people are, that they think it’s ok to treat others harshly and without respect. I can only try and live by example and continue to treat others the way I would like to be treated. Unfortunately those who have been hurt become bitter and what follows is anger towards others, it’s a vicious circle unfortunately ❤

[@alokyadav-gq3ot]

So true madam same goin on in india.....so much of loneliness

[@Huia87]

Kim that's NZ. It's not the world. NZ is super brutal and I am a Kiwi. Have you lived in other countries? I live in Ecuador atm abd being kind and loving is the rule, not the exception here. NZ is so bad because they got rid of christian values Kiwi's allow bullies and tyrants to hurt others. This is weak and part of the problem. Part of authenticity is fighting back and retaliation for unprovoked attacks. Most Kiwis would rather suppress their negative emotions and take the abuse and "not make a fuss" even if children are being bullied by mum and dad to the point they want to self delete... whuch is happening in my NZ family. I am kind and respectful to everyone. If you insult or mock me I will hit back and teach you a lesson. Your society is a catastrophe: brutal psychopaths on the one hand and kind nice people but with no balls or courage who think being peaceful to not oppose bullying and violence is the right thing to do.

[@Huia87]

m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/aHKmoH6CjsZ8hZI&pp=ygUUTXIgaW5iZXR3ZWVuIGJ1bGxpZXM%3D

[@Huia87]

Not saying you are a naive, kind, enabler btw... speaking generally here. But your comment and this video gave me a realization: bullies and tyrants TRAIN and encourage a culture of pacifism to enable and sustain their violence and abuse. Be kind but take no s%$t. NAP 1st (non aggression principle)... first do no harm... Then, if you are attacked, you are cleared to use the SDP (self defence principle). This is not violence, it actually prevents and reduces violence. Even animals understand these universal laws.

[@ThePurpleCatofChaos]

Yep.

[@jimlambrick4642]

"We lived as hunter/gatherer clans" is exactly the key. Back almost 60 years ago, I worked for almost 3 years straight in remote areas in Tanzania that still more or less lived like that. There would be small village groups, maybe 50-100 people. Their day to day lives were further divided into 3 sub groups. The women all worked together and socialized as they worked, the men the same hunting parties etc and the children hung around/played together in a big group which includes barely walking toddlers to teenagers. Despite abject poverty, they were all always happy and smiling. No wonder they had the group support all day long. Also no mental health issues. Modern society has drifted a long, long way from that.

[@charc8951]

how did you find these villages? do you think they still exist today or have been forced out by now?

[@n.c.kupfermann1023]

There are so many People that like to feel better about themself because they think they are better because they get a bigger paycheck and are more "productive" then others.

[@giftedmisfit105]

“Abject poverty”... by whose standards?

[@jimlambrick4642]

@@giftedmisfit105 Living by subsistence agriculture only.

[@jimlambrick4642]

@@charc8951 I didn't seek them out, I was just working in the vicinity. I expect there are still clans like this in Africa.

[@richsherman3673]

This is a essential video. Our current society is sick, has been sick and is getting sicker. Greed, Adultery, Crime, Shootings, Worship of obsolete laws and the addiction to substances. If we fix this, we fix the planet.

[@arielgoldfarb4118]

The only solution is the world destruction and starting all over again. I see the furete next years and its going to be some shit like its China today or Japan with huge citys neon lights everywhere and people living like fucking robots and goverment controling the way you talk or walk. No freedom at all no nature like a cyberpunk futurustuc nightmare. No thanks.

[@stephen8342]

Don’t forget criminalizing more natural substances that our ancestors used since the beginning of humanity. Pushing evil pills while treating sacred things like mushrooms as criminal

[@matoko123]

People have been using mind altering substances for millennium.

[@xena6894]

Maybe you and him , be more precise which 'society' you're talking about . I bet societies in Mongolia , Benin , Nepal , Serbiia , Guyana , Botswana etc... don't have these same issues you are talking about

[@stephen8342]

@@xena6894 I’m sure those places don’t have widespread access to KZbin either, so it should be pretty self explanatory

[@eroceanos]

Exactly: we are normalising and legitimising profound pathological behaviour. Transgenerational, culturally transmitted insanity.

[@SkandalouzStyle]

You mean, like, the feminist movement...

[@nicolaslatorre810]

Always been that way

[@kueichenglee7583]

yes

[@kueichenglee7583]

​@manny022 yes

[@garneauweld1100]

You might be, but I'm not.

[@louisesumrell6331]

"I'm willing to lose anyone I have to so that I never again lose myself" - Glennon Doyle

[@dougsmith6793]

Problem is, there is no going back. We sink or swim according to how we handle all the chaos that has been unleashed due to epidemic ignorance. Based on our past performance, I'm not at all optimistic that this is going to be resolved without a lot of pain.

[@Abigail-ns2fk]

Aging is inevitable for all of us. I like how I look,and I enjoy being in my 40s. Not enough botox on the planet to delay growing older. Learn to love yourself, and if people don't like you or find you attractive, so what. That's it.

[@MillicentStClaire]

So What! Amen sis.

[@AmberPatoc]

I don't care if people don't like me or if they don't find me attractive.The moon never begs to be loved and will always shine no matter what others think

[@tiagociriaco7380]

Aging is not inevitable. My research contradicts this idea. I am the proof. Find out what makes you old, and repair it. Or ask me.

[@AliPi7]

@@tiagociriaco7380🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 grifter

[@Bronte866]

I think you are trying to convince yourself. How is the physicality of aging to do with this?

[@marycrowley1442]

I came from a family in which authenticity was crushed. When I started standing up for my authentic self when I was a young teenager, I was considered stupid and terrible.

[@mikec6733]

🧡

[@dinahbrown902]

👍

[@Rumination_Vertex]

Sounds like my childhood. I was a scapegoat child and didn't even know what it was until recently. Wish I had this knowledge when I was a kid as it would have helped me circumvent all of the scapegoating overt and covert narcissists in my family. Sorry you went through this too. Good luck to you.

[@sandracaezza7234]

I traveled to Belize 26 yrs ago. Kayaking on the Monkey river. Our journey ended in a small village where people worked together for the well being of all. We spent the night with these people, my memory of the happiest children still brings a smile to me. When a small child needed comfort anyone from the village would pick them up. Where are our children in this day now?

[@bb5242]

It doesn't scale.

[@mjolnir_swe]

Children today sit inside with their phone or computer. It is not safe to go out, nor are there any other kids outside to play with.

[@mariosuper3249]

'I sent u to Belize'..... Say his name!

[@sandracaezza7234]

@@mariosuper3249I believe the trip was planned & executed my me. Paid for by me & someone came along that really should not have I remember his name, wish I did not. Big mistake…… lesson learned

[@sandracaezza7234]

@@mariosuper3249why do you need to hide behind this sign in? I have nothing to hide , name,photo I use social media for good. Do you ??

[@indyrishisingh]

I've noticed that people get triggered and even censor/ignore you when one is authentic. Especially if one is charismatic, and passionate about compassion

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@Artsu1993]

it sucks, but i would keep doing that and find the people who appreciate the authenticity. I feel that they are usually people who themselfs are authentic or striving to become that. Especially being passionate about compassion and showing love. In our Finnish culture its not that common to say to people you love them and hug them, but to show love in a indirect ways like mom making a good meal, dad buying you stuff and doing something with you and friends hanging out with you but saying to them that you love them is percieved as weird and gay. At least in many young male friend groups. I will keep hugging my parents and siblings, but i have yet to shown love this way to some friends because i fear they might go away because of it.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

yep!!

[@arielgoldfarb4118]

Todays people are sociopaths playing the game of the real psycopaths in power.

[@jillfryer6699]

@@Artsu1993 It sounds much the like Anglo cultures. Stiff upper lip etc. Multiculturalism can improve things quite a bit. But I'd hate to see Finland lose its essential Finlandishness. But then I don't have to live there!

[@hud86]

I'm devoted to being authentic, I can't get steady employment which covers housing. I've been working homeless for seven years in California. People don't like when I point out the foundation of our culture. Most people in charge or doing well here are fine with controlling others and subjugation, enriching themselves while degrading their fellow humans

[@Lilly-ud6qs]

Working poverty is a very real, yet extremely overlooked situation. I hope things improve for you, you deserve great things!

[@KiwikimNZ]

Don’t you change continue being the awesome human being you are ❤

[@euphoricbliss6699]

That's rough dude. Makes me appreciate what I have for sure

[@bb5242]

You don't have to stay in California.

[@ianstuart5660]

So very true

[@ac9938]

As an empath, living in these modern times definitely feels lonely because of how much society has become a new norm for attacking one another

[@mariettestabel275]

💯.

[@darongardner4294]

We need more good men like him in our society.He is a gift to all humanity.

[@Itwasme007]

Women tells us good men finished last, so good luck with your wishes. Nobody gets more sex than a criminal right out of jail.

[@czarnalawenda5215]

No we don't. We have them. They're enough. We (as humanity) are just not listening.

[@sciencenotsrigma]

@@Itwasme007. I don’t think that’s true. I’ve seen a lot of men just out of prison, in the recovery field. They’re broke and often homeless. Even with a 6-pack, from time lifting weights, being broke doesn’t get you much play. Bring a con is an oppressed status. My dad was a convict. It didn’t work out very well for him.

[@batphink2655]

@@sciencenotsrigma He was implying 'women love a dangerous man' meanwhile if dangerous men are not around they get 'sexy 'with each other'. I've not been able to find a straight woman in my life ,just saying. I want nothing to do with them today!

[@cameoh.1771]

Society and the people who make up society, try to actively destroy and traumatize good people.

[@mikecrow6181]

The love of money is the biggest barrier to overcome ànd keeps us from loving one another.

[@jennihilbrecht2503]

As a german, in a very young age i was taught about the third reich and also the way it started. I never really understood, how so many people - the majority - could be so drastically wrong. I was never interested in the war itself, or the nazi party. I just wanted to learn and understand, how an average human being could be so convinced of doing the right thing, while at the same time helping to destroy half of the world.... Now living in Germany in 2023, looking at the mindset of many german citizens and the way german politicans, the media, even scientists act and argue, for the first i truly deeply understand how the third reich started.

[@meatrealwishes]

I wouldn’t say it was people’s fault in the beginning. They were struggling but their government wasn’t doing anything about it. That’s the exact thing extremists exploit to come to power. Unfortunately, average people cant fight them and hence must go with the flow. That’s how Putin, Trump, Bolsonaro and Taliban came to power. Only exception is modi.

[@winendesertrose]

I was going to say are you kidding me have you been living the last three and a half years? Then I read your last paragraph. 👍ah need more ☕

[@jillfryer6699]

Not just Nazis and bad guys. You can see it with any well-intentioned self righteous group (and I've belonged to a few) which wants to change the world in ways that are seriously needed. They will march and shout the dumbest slogans as if they are the words of gods and throw out their brains in the interests of a kinder, gentler, cleaner, smarter, wiser world because some charismatic loud mouthed dickhead has told them this is as it is. It makes progress difficult when you give ammunition to your enemies for free. There seems a human tendency to mental laziness, when they think they have a solution in 6 words they will twist any reality to fit in it and themselves too.

[@harrylee9289]

From China. I agree that there's sometimes to a point that people got so fed up that the everyday routine is just bullshit. Humans long for real progress, like space exploration, nuclear fusion reactor etc. We produce too many things that we don't really need. And the world is overly complex in order to produce them.

[@janetcorbin2642]

Third Reich, need to look this up sounds interesting. Sadly weird but 'somehow' interestingly redundant.

[@martinhersey512]

At 82, I am isolated and alone. Nobody wants an older person in this society. I have one good friend and two family members.

[@christiandaniell6835]

How's it going?

[@Rumination_Vertex]

I'm so sorry for that. I hope you find like minded friends. Good luck to you sir!

[@AllyMind5Star]

I think the internet is one of the largest (or actually the largest) plight to our sanity and well-being. It was sold on the idea that it would bring us together. All this time later, it turns out that it had divided us more than we have ever been divided. I feel more alone now than ever, despite socializing on line.

[@reflectonthings3008]

Actually it is very clear that the unauthentic life is a life lived in misery.i have always said I’m always ready to pay the price to avoid fake ppl & any thing that would take away my authenticity 👍👍

[@dee5331]

💜☯️💜

[@leolovehouse6565]

i enjoy seeing the world seek kindness more, authenticity aside i think we can thank art and film a lot for societys manners, so many sides of humanity can be seen in those stories and in turn we find ourselves a little

[@richardscathouse]

Yes but I've learned from hard experience people will not accept me without the masks. Not convid masks. Social masks see Japanese culture

[@patricialongo5870]

Socrates said that m. He lost.

[@reflectonthings3008]

@@patricialongo5870 If by lost you mean losing his life ,for him,death wasn’t worse than living a lie .

[@aynua.amazonas]

What a beautiful talk. “Would you study a zebra in a zoo or in the wild nature.” Dr Mate always come up with very powerful analogies. Thank you.

[@ancabostinariu6550]

But we have to live in a zoo and the space of the zoo will be even mire crowded as we have to preserve the nature which apparently damaged

[@janelliot5643]

@Anca Bostinariu only if we must keep the economic system going. Good thing the economy is not humanity

[@joriankell1983]

Depends on the nature of the study

[@jillfryer6699]

Sounds like a line from William Blake.

[@Samuel88853]

Zebras in the wild are food

[@susiefairfield7218]

Had an encounter today at my grocery store and it left me shook. There was a small child standing in the Candy/chip isle....just standing there and she looked emaciated and she was holding up a plastic grocery bag up to her mouth and she was dry heaving in to the bag. She was only wearing thin pj's and I was alarmed to see her in such a state and no adult around to comfort her. I immediately went to her and knelt down and put my hand on her hot, feverish back. I could feel her bones..she was skeletal. I asked her if she needed help, if I could help her, and offered to get her a drink of water, to which she nodded her head. But then I looked up and a woman appeared to say she's the child's parent. All I could do was walk away in shock and anguish and everyone else who witnessed it just acted like that is normal. I can only guess is that she was sick from cancer or anorexia or something else, really bad. It's so hard to see people in dire straits and can't do anything to help them

[@lisanidog8178]

You could’ve helped more but chose not to. You could’ve confronted the parent over the condition of the child. You didn’t. You acted like it was normal because you walked away. Obviously something was wrong.

[@azizalfa752]

@@lisanidog8178wow blaming him its sad he tried who 99% people not even try so don’t talk bs

[@lisanidog8178]

@@azizalfa752 you seem to forget the “But then I looked up and a woman appeared to say she’s the child’s parent. All I could do was walk away in shock and anguish and everyone else who witnessed it just acted like that was normal” Guess you didn’t read that part! As soon as the parent came this person left! You also forgot to read “and offered to get her a drink of water..” she didn’t GET the water! Offering is different than getting and this person left as soon as the parent came! What happened to the water? Never gotten for the kid! Read everything in the encounter post NOT cherry pick! Offering someone help is different than GIVING IT! She left as soon as the child’s mother appeared! What was she so afraid of! Being told my kid is none of your business?? “All I could do was walk away..” she could’ve stayed and GIVEN that offered water and chastised the parent for the horrible condition her kid was in but she didn’t! I HAVE helped people! ALL the way! I wouldn’t have just offered that child water I would’ve GIVEN IT! I wouldn’t have walked away when the mother appeared! By the way I prevented a break in where a woman and her child were screaming in terror! I didn’t say oh poor them! It didn’t matter that I never saw them or knew them! I stood there with my neighbor’s rake in hand ready to clock him had he continued to try to kick open the door while the people I was with did NOTHING! They had a cell I didn’t! I couldn’t run home and call Police because my landline was not yet connected! I didn’t walk away from that angry man trying to kick the door open! I didn’t think he must be armed! He could’ve taken away the rake I held at my side but didn’t! And the lady who invited me said it was none of my business! I hear screaming from inside a house you bet it’s my business to stop a break in from whom I later learned was the woman’s boyfriend. He didn’t intimidate me one bit. A six footer of mad, with me only four foot nine didn’t stop me from preventing him from getting in! Don’t you lecture ME, azizalfa752! No approaching parent would’ve stopped me GIVING water! I would’ve slammed her verbally for the condition of her child! Wouldn’t have cared what she thought! A friend of mine years ago came to me for help being in a domestic violence situation! I didn’t just offer to talk to him, whom I knew, who knew better to put his hands against me as we dated and he knew I would’ve hit back, I DID talk to him! I didn’t care that he said it was none of my business. A friend came for help and I helped NOT OFFERED, I DID help! He never laid hands against her again and she left him because I helped! You’re right! Most wouldn’t try! But you do more than try, you DO! And I have! So spare me your self righteous phony anger at me! I have helped! Have YOU ever? Or do you change your mind like this person did once the parent shows up! You don’t offer water, you GIVE it! Points go to DOING not offering! I’d help anyone who needed it, not offer and walk away. I’d even help you! But you’d never appreciate it but it wouldn’t matter! I don’t walk away!

[@lisanidog8178]

@@azizalfa752 Bite me!

[@thebaryonacousticoscillati5679]

😁😆🤣

[@matthewcarlson3408]

Ugh,.. I wish I could just hang out with people that are enlightened! I have so much weighing on me just based on my conditioning in our culture. I always struggled academically and with substance dependence and developing a sustainable career path. When I hear this man talk about it being loved for just being you and not having to work for it, it makes me sigh a sigh of validation. I can't help but reflect of how much sustained discomfort and anxiety I have had do to feeling behind and not good enough. Its really terrible what we do as a culture to ourselves by turning the workforce into this thing that we must neglect our personal well being to do in order to survive. I have always observed how harsh this culture is. It really does reward lying to one's self! It's like what shame! What makes it worse is knowing this and trying to deny its truth and keep wearing the mask.

[@sciencenotsrigma]

I do, too! The people I know just think I’m crazy for talking about ideas, like Mate’s! I agree with you about the workplace. I have relatives in Sweden and it isn’t like that, there. Most people work 30 hours, for a livable wage. I’m from the U.S., so I can’t afford to visit. I just know other relatives here, who have. In my Sociology classes, Sweden is held up as a model country, in many areas, but there is still xenophobia and corporate globalization in spreading everywhere.

[@tiagociriaco7380]

Nowadays you canenlighten yourself with information provided by internet. You must know what to search and turn into experience. Just reading not enough. Experiment, experinent, experiment, and that will make you find the truth.

[@lauramatos1181]

I completely agree, it’s so sad. I encourage you to break the cycle and go against the grain even if it means you wont be the star of the show, do it for your own wellbeing. That’s what I’m doing anyway, and I’m finding my community little by little. ☺️ don’t give up, seek inner peace, and what really matters…seek God, look into the Eastern Orthodox Church and that will also help , everything will fall into place ☺️

[@lisataylor7516]

Generational trauma is real. I’m living it now.

[@patricialongo5870]

Yet the conservatives in the same families are at war against all possible change.

[@newportnelson]

Everyone is.

[@BlueHopi144]

@@newportnelson 7 Billion are

[@patsyballantyne9886]

@@BlueHopi144 🎯

[@suedenim6590]

When you're watching this isolated and depressed hearing how your cancer and death rate is sky rocketing hits differently. I just don't feel the same species as these pathologically greedy war mongering psychopaths. Must be nice to live in a lovely commune like that 😔

[@mehmetakif5842]

You know this popular cite: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression, ask yourself if your are only sorrounded by a***oles" Especially depression and anxiety has a high psychosocial factor, so yes I can admit what he is saying, wow :)

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly

[@carllelendt5452]

We don't say "We need to go back!" We need to say "Some things need to be re-popularized!" Putting it into the context of re-popularizing regardless of how much we despise popular culture.

[@ohnree4110]

Hmm I like this change in phrase a lot

[@Captain-Electro]

I enjoy listening to Dr. Gabor he is very insightful. I, however, have this moment while he is talking when I realize it doesn't take a university degree and 30 years of study to come to the conclusion that this isn't a natural life. Our souls are screaming to be set free in this society. That is why we are so angry or sad all the time.

[@stephaniegrace609]

It may not take a degree but he’s experienced and specialized and can explain it on a scientific level as well. He puts everything together and prepared it in a manner that makes sense and that everyone has been feeling and thinking for years. It doesn’t matter who felt it or know it or said it first-what matters is what we do now as you may know now that we have a plethora of information and access to it yet we are still struggling and damaged and suffering as a human race.

[@Captain-Electro]

@@stephaniegrace609 agreed 🙏

[@christinecastro7212]

I totally agree. And we keep increasing the unnatural aspects where people have no idea what is natural.

[@Ruylopez778]

I think modern culture and lifestyle definitely exacerbates our fears and anxiety, but it's also true that it's not abnormal to be a little angry and sad quite often. One of the most harmful aspects of modern life is the assumption (or desire) that life shouldn't be chaotic or challenging or unpredictable and that things should just be easy and fun all the time - which is often connected with 'once I have X, I can always feel Y, and never have to feel Z' style mindset.

[@levitation25]

"We have to struggle to be authentic" 💙

[@DS-nv8bi]

i am so tired of struggling i long to just feel safe and loved

[@vanillakiss8701]

Living without passion and heart makes us all machines

[@bridgethunt7836]

That is so true , walking automatons . Expressionless , walking dead

[@coldcrush5921]

"...Soldiers! don’t give yourselves to brutes - men who despise you - enslave you - who regiment your lives - tell you what to do - what to think and what to feel! Who drill you - diet you - treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men - machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate! Only the unloved hate - the unloved and the unnatural! Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the 17th Chapter of St Luke it is written: “the Kingdom of God is within man” - not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people have the power - the power to create machines. The power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure..." - Charlie Chaplin.

[@laurynorder3965]

And this is why I am who I am and why I move how I move. Shout out to the real ones, no matter where you are on this space-time continuum, be yourself ✨

[@sliladim5999]

My life had changed after loosing my business in 2009 which woke me up. I turned to religion for comfort, although I always have been religious but I went deeper into true Sufisim (purification of acts and thoughts). Now I see the world in different light and came to peace with myself and others. I still struggle every once in awhile but I quickly come to terms with life and people.

[@Itwasme007]

I bet your wife divorced you soon after you close you business. The all do that.

[@idontreallyknowagoodname4191]

​@@Itwasme007 you sound bitter

[@user1.8.2.]

Emotion regulates physical health. If people figured that out, the whole medical-pharma-insurance scam woukd collapse. Keeping us traumatized is a financially motivated corporate interest.

[@rochellebroglen4155]

Yes, I agree with you. I think trauma and disconnection are at the root of that too though. Narcissism isn't actually self-love / self-respect. Because if we want to truly flourish, we also need a healthy environment and the people around us to be flourishing too. It's circular. Healthy communities are comprised of healthy individuals and healthy individuals come from healthy communities. The woundedness and sense of separation are what allow people to believe their actions don't actually harm them too. I don't have the answers, except to work on my own healing, which I believe has a ripple effect, model integrity, support others in wellbeing, and to not support organizations that promote unhealthy paradigms / perspectives. I'm also vocal about trauma awareness and emotional intelligence/regulation. But I believe we need a collective paradigm shift, for the masses to wake up. Until that happens, hurt people will hurt people, and the cycles will continue. I do believe whole people heal people. Is there enough individual healing taking place? Will it reach a tipping point? I hope so.

[@katiekane5247]

​@@rochellebroglen4155 it's basically the only sane way to live. Demanding others accept our POV to achieve happiness is a set-up for frustration & disappointment.

[@jeffbray190]

This is so true. Imagine a world free of trauma

[@rochellebroglen4155]

@@katiekane5247 I agree. It's also a form of codependency, victimhood, and disempowerment (I can't be happy unless so-and-so does ____). It takes courage to take responsibility for one's own being. But it's incredibly freeing. That doesn't mean I don't feel or that I ignore issues. I just recognize what's really in my scope and focus on the things I can genuinely affect. (Like being self aware and in integrity and being a healthy and safe person. I can't do anyone else's work. I can do my own).

[@gamer-ff6mh]

This is a big misconception. Gabor is not saying this. He is just trying to help therapeutically which is another legit way. He even specifically mentioned once that he is not discouraging medicines.

[@burnttoast1076]

We have two natures, material and spiritual. We have a body and a soul. We are both animal and spirit. The one that is fed more will become stronger.

[@Bronte866]

I see this in comments almost every day.

[@thienvu8120]

A baseball coach said,"A gut feeling is the wealth of our knowledge and experience telling us what needs to be done even if we don't know why."

[@Zanthorr]

Everything is relative. Do you like having running water or AC in your house? Because, just like the screen you're looking at, that's the natural progression of technology. I'm not trying to argue, but it's a good question to ask. Human's are adaptable, we can overcome and find healthy ways to become happy members our communities. Community is key. Belonging to a group of people with the same goal is so important for mental health. It might sound funny or corny, but I recently joined a Cornhole league and I haven't been this happy in a long time. It gave me: -Something to look forward to every week -A feeling of self improvement (getting better at cornhole) -Many friends and a large community of friendly people -A chance to strength my connection to old friends and bond with my dad Being apart of a community and having that sense of belonging is so so SO important.

[@TheVanillatech]

When I was a teenager, still existing in that ethemeral chaos of mind, I was walking with my Dad one day. He was already 70. He had me late in life in his mid 50's. He knew everything, was a voice of pure reason. No personal ambitions or goals were voiced by him, he existed ONLY for others and to remind them of what was right, or wrong. That day when we were walking home from the town, we stopped - cos HE stopped - to help a group of young guys pushing a car. He was far too old to be pushing a car. So I took over. Helped these kids push the car to jump start it. It was then I realized, they were thieves, had taken off the registration plates and were boosting the car. Too late, I was in the middle of it, and I got the job done. Later I told him what had happened, he'd read the situation wrong. BUT he was always of the mentality, throughout his entire years he was here, of " If people need help, YOU HELP! You are okay! You are fine! Tall, strong, good looking, nothing wrong with you! So don't ever WORRY about yourself! HELP! If you can help! Otherwise you're a burden. ". So there are great people. And even great people make mistakes. But tomorrow, they will still be great. Never lose faith.

[@petarslavoroduzasny]

I dont know why but i would like to drink a beer with your dad. Sonds like a really nice and special person.

[@TheVanillatech]

@@petarslavoroduzasny He rarely drank. Towards the end of his life, I took him out to the pub a few times, just to get him out of the house and moving around. During summer, we'd walk a few streets to the local and sit outside in the beer garden have a drink or two. He'd tell me more stories about when he was in the Merchant Navy, or about growing up duing World War 2. The beer would go straight to his head though, because he was never a drinker. Sadly he passed away aged 96, some 4 years ago now. Thanks for the sentiment though. I'm sure he'd have drank with you.

[@christophdenner8878]

You were incredibly blessed having had such a wonderful father. Perhaps you don't even know how lucky you are.

[@TheVanillatech]

@@christophdenner8878 Oh Im aware of it. It was written all over everyones faces, throughout my life. Even my own friends growing up, who didn't have a father or had one that wasn't interested in them, would all come over my house and sit with my Dad as he told them how silly they were acting, why they should stop smoking, to stop worrying about themselves, that they were all splendid fellas, etc. They'd take their problems to *him* over their own Dads, many times. And they knew 100% that the advice and help they'd get would be the right advice and the right help. I'm doing my best to emulate him. But I can never match him. He was made of different stuff, growing up in the second world war seeing his friends and neighbours bombed and killed when he was just a young lad. That's probably what made him fearless, and helped him to realize - early on - that 90% of things that happen that seem bad at the time, don't even matter. And life is simple. Just focus on doing the right thing.

[@christophdenner8878]

@@TheVanillatech This sounds wonderful! I do have a massive father trauma, but I had an amazing grandma that seems very similar to your dad, also living through WW2 as a young woman when she once was the only person in the house she worked in to survive a bomb attack. I was lucky to be raised by her during my first years of life. Sometimes it's just one amazing person in your family that can save your life and forge you forever in a very positive way.

[@warrensmith3865]

It's true...but unless you can get corporations to give up on greed and addiction...aswell as most individuals...nothing will change.

[@stephanietaylor3979]

Yes. It's my belief that capitalism is responsible for our poor mental health and the toxic behaviour of people towards others.

[@warrensmith3865]

@@stephanietaylor3979 definitely,.... alongside unaddressed intergenerational trauma that is.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@warrensmith3865]

@@VeganSemihCyprus33 I don't completely agree and veganism is a harmful eating disorder.

[@WyldeRatttz]

If you're American, check out Robert F Kennedy, Jr and his presidential campaign. He's specifically talking about megacorporations being in bed with gov't, and addressing the many health crises of the US. He comes across as completely sincere and capable.

[@sbnnatan]

We are needy creatures that need some kind of craft where we can have an honest connection with others and human intimacy. If we don't have that, we have nothing. People who claim to be independent and don't need others are delusional and only lying to themselves. This aloneness and a lack of connection is killing people and making everyone depressed with all kinds of mental problems, and I'm one of them I must admit. Being a loner has destroyed my life and my brain, but I just don't know where to reach out if I'm being honest. I like being by myself sometimes, but not all the time. It's just having someone to talk to that I can trust. Finding loyal people is the hardest thing to find these days.

[@novadomenavedomia]

Boy go out and mate with conartists, psychopaths, sociopaths, secondary as primery ones, narccissists, you will like it😢😅

[@TomTom-xp2jb]

I appreciate Gabor Mate so much for his humanity. It's such a shame more people aren't like him. Thx for all your words of love and compassion. ❤

[@paulewog857]

He nails it! I wish all with ears to hear could listen to this man

[@sunnygirl9691]

Yes but sadly most people don’t care. When I look around I see a world focused on greed and self-serving hedonism. Child abuse is the #1 problem in the world. And we can’t even agree to end it.

[@Andre-hm5vo]

The many are to mentally ill to understand sadly.

[@r3b3lvegan89]

On their own yes but that’s when you help guide and with kindness. We all need each other not just to listen

[@cherylward6442]

😊

[@paulewog857]

@@Andre-hm5vo I hear ya. I try to just understand that they are where they are supposed to be. I also understand that this society teaches and enforces ignorance. I also try to put away the medias propaganda that people are stupid and dangerous. When I meet people, I meet me, and come with the respect and love/understanding. Mental illness is our countries calling card- we manufacture that! Big pharma, big ag and fluoride do not help our peoples straighten out…….. love does!!!

[@farinshore8900]

Between authenticity and parents, i chose authenticity. Not an easy path.

[@crissieroserose]

I hear you

[@barathvenkatachalam7068]

Same 💥

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@Kamitube]

same here

[@jillfryer6699]

An older man told me when I left family in a bit of a storm that they would come around, they always do. I didn't think it likely but he was right though it took a lot longer, like decades, than he was thinking, but he would've had nicer families in mind, assumed mine were sentimental about their kids like that. Stick to your guns anyway.

[@missshroom5512]

Having just gone thru ..the change of life… there is a profound realization of life. It is like a reverse puberty where you become the real you again with just more knowledge and wisdom. Maybe that is why Grandparents and grandchildren get along so well. They are kinda on the same plane

[@mrcat926]

My mother went through a knee replacement due to rheumatoid arthritis because of the decades of abuse she faced due to my abuseive father and brother and her family as well but she's strong 💪 may God bless her

[@50ShadesOfTrayf]

May G-d bless her heavily! May he wipe her tears and heal her mind, body, and spirit. Your mother is a warrior. ❤

[@caroleyre9144]

Sending Love and Strength it’s so lovely to see your beautiful Mother has a Loving You …Bright Blessings 💖💖

[@kja9881]

I believe social media and way too much dependence on drugs and alcohol are what we need to leave behind and getting back to family life. Love and forgiveness is what we need. 😊

[@keylanoslokj1806]

It also goes the other way around. Without those drugs, urbanized life is unbearable

[@cecilyerker]

@@cameroncarter6789 hahaha nice joke buddy

[@manpreet9766]

@@keylanoslokj1806 that is not correct. If you know how drugs work then you would not have said that. Drugs are fun only when you start. Once you are addicted your life is not anymore bearable than a sober person. The brains neurochemicals adapt to go back to pre addiction levels and you are now stuck with the substance to make you feel just normal. Normal like a person who had never touched that chemical.

[@stephen8342]

@@cameroncarter6789half of that is cringe, nothing about the transgender “movement” is positive on society

[@red---paulvanravenswaay2247]

Excellent start!!

[@coldcrush5921]

"There is no reality except the one contained within us. That is why so many people live such an unreal life. They take the images outside of them for reality and never allow the world within to assert itself." - Hermann Hess

[@DS-nv8bi]

or it is forced on humans by religion government doctors

[@giakolou2876]

“ We think we live in the scientific age, but actually it’s a very selective relation to the science that we have. We relate only to the the science that justifies or supports this particular way of life this particular socioeconomic system this particular way of practicing medicine. While we completely ignore the science the interconnected correlating of phenomena.” Dr Gabour Mate. Could be the most defining words for our age.

[@shamim1587]

I never felt at Home in this world ; if you are kind , trusting and caring you are certainly not considered to be worldly

[@SuperQdaddy]

I grew up with authentic upbeat parents..organic creative and improvising lifestyle ...today folks are overtaken by hype and glamor and buloney

[@KawakebAstra]

@ SuperQdaddy .. ha ha .. 😹yes .. socially engineered hype .. fake-azz glamour ..& lots of toxic Bologna Bull’oney ,) 🙏♥️🕊

[@katiekane5247]

A serious trauma is great for an emotional reset. I don't recommend it, forced adaptation is rarely the easiest way to bring about positive change. My body would shut down with illness prior to getting crushed under a low boy trailer if I over- extended myself. I've had to learn to feel better about myself even as my physical abilities decreased. I'm convinced I healed so well because my emotional state improved. Over 7 years since coming very close to dying, despite chronic pain & permanent disability, I'm more content than ever in my life. I've learned to find value in my being instead of my doing. If I was very sensitive about how my body looks, this would doubtless be harder to accept. The extensive scars are a badge of survival & resilience, not flaws!

[@retiredby3570]

😂😂😂

[@DirtyStringz]

Very inspiring, thanks for sharing!

[@tomekjaglinski2123]

I've vert same experience with my asthma...❣

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@user-xg9ow1sl7b]

This is so beautiful and inspiring. Yes, it's a badge of survival and resilience for sure!

[@garneauweld1100]

When really working hard, everything seems to magically fall into place. When losing one's direction, I sincerely believe in just grabbing a shovel and moving dirt. This is a great way of revisiting a substrate from which we came and to which we shall return. A bit sobering, but wholly fundamental, as well as being a truly grounding experience!

[@rickwyant]

Desmond Morris wrote a book called "The Human Zoo" describing humans as living in a 'zoo" of our own making.

[@bumblebeme]

Be your true self and dont let the haters stop you from being you

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@DS-nv8bi]

it is not the haters, it is the parents and the parents before them and so on this issue with Western culture coming from Europe and Bethelham to a child that is defenseless to function not understanding . Gabor was traumatized by Hitler and the ww2 family fun day he still has issues the big question is who the hell are we?

[@louisesumrell6331]

So true. I was diagnosed over 20 years ago with fibromyalgia. Since being clean and sober for almost 5 years, and taking up the practice of Zen Buddhism, facing and healing much trauma, I no longer have enough muscle pain to bother with. I take ivuprophen occasionally, but I am really okay, and happy. I chose to be happy, and do the self-training to sustain it as a natural part of who I am. You human? You can do it too. I promise. -weezi-🙏💖🙏

[@mavrosyvannah]

Now you can stop eating plants and get strong to the core.

[@LocalLialec]

Epic comment

[@DS-nv8bi]

o you have a loving family to have meals with and talk and laugh with? i did like it when a person who has a home and family and money say you can do it i did. suicide it soon to be the leading cause of death in america go save a homeless person in your town they are human

[@saturationstation1446]

how'd you get enough money to stay alive so long? our system forces us to take from others in order to gain for ourselves. so you had to kill at least one other person to sustain your life

[@red---paulvanravenswaay2247]

Check for parasites/toxins too

[@MarleneTrujillo-uc8bj]

I was telling my son the other day that I feel like I’ve been in a coma and all the sudden the worlds gone crazy when I all the sudden woke up

[@gregorylumpkin2128]

Agree with this gentleman. It's all about belief in lies and spending your money on useless junk.

[@roos.binnenwereldreiziger]

You bring so much compassion, love and light into this world. Thank you Gabor!❤

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@Baba-fy1jc]

I Talk About this Topic a long Time in Germany ,but that Topic is for to many People not Really so Important. I write Thousands Messages with that ad Topic ,then that is really a big Problem, but the People can or will that not Understand ,what the Human in this Time, to so a Bad Creature makes. I have make the Word Tipping Point as First Person to a Big Topic in Germany ,but the most People know that not.😉👍😊😂😂 This man makes with a good Job then he works Visible better with the Logic as the most People. It is not Visible how many Power his Word Really has ,the die my Person is his Backround not so good Visible. Many People can Talk and many People can good Talk ,but that what the People makes ,that is then often not Compatible with the Words, or with the Message from the People. The People say I like That but ,many People makes more a Show or many People can we then Later see as a very Paradox Person. The People makes not all the Same good work with the good Information and that makes the Situation on many Places not better. The Human is a Learning disabled Life form and the Human has to much Problems with his Bad Cognitive Abilitis and that makes the Damage in the Nature Visible. It is a good Question if the Human can make that better ,then a Learning disabled Person can not make his self in a Second to a genius.

[@Daneiladams555]

The governments are standing in the way of actual real health

[@jane1044]

Indeed , not in their interest.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@samreh6156]

Big Business wants you to be addicted to spending your energy and money on garbage.

[@r.o2938]

They get rich off of misery and it is easier to control distressed people.

[@user-gn8eb4ii9p]

IF MODERN CULTURE IS TRAUMATIZING AND NOT NORMAL, SHOULDN'T COPS BE INVOLVED?

[@madisonbell5481]

Thank you. I've been slipping down a doom-scrolling spiral tonight, and this video helped to give me hope. We have the potential to be so much more.

[@bluestrife28]

I feel like I really need this , I just spent my entire day walling off my inner self and feelings, being completely disconnected just to preserve my sense of myself or my senses at all. I work at a restaurant. People have changed. And I can’t say I like the change. :( not a good environment for introverts. 😢 And I just had to say what I’m sure has been said: I’m in total awe of this laid-back, brilliant man.

[@Joe-li2nk]

His points are made even more valid by the loud, intrusive ads that keep interrupting this video

[@deborahpappas7334]

Doesn’t he have the means to turn them off 🤔

[@Joe-li2nk]

@Deborah Pappas My guess is that KZbin controls everything, and their ads are by far the most important thing to them.

[@p-acormier5215]

Don't watch on the app, watch through your favourite browser with addblock (i recomend opera). The only thing that sucks commenting or anything else than watching, is kinda bad.

[@splotbang8296]

KZbin premium is cheap. No ads. I've had it for several months and will never go back.

[@vindiesel5466]

@@splotbang8296 yeah ive only went premium recently $20/month here in Australia as ive no phone reception half the time as an interstate driver. Those crazy adds were so annoying

[@oliverbrady7]

When was society not sick?? Look at history and what communities did…..!

[@Dzanarika1]

Bingo! Nothing new under the sun, nothing!

[@devinfraserashpole4753]

@@Dzanarika1 Correct. Empires rise and fall.

[@NM-zu3kj]

Dr. Maté is one of the most brilliant minds of our time.

[@aaronanderson4894]

This society makes me want to naturally escape it because it's destructive and meant to make us devolve so a few can rob us blind of living life and traumatic experiences have put me in a very bad place lately within myself and questions have come up. How will we survive through this if we can at all without working together to survive?How did we become so lost?Why won't we fight for our future as a whole?Why won't we fight the forces that devolve us?Is this it?Are these the final days?

[@mpetrison3799]

Competitive society, where the point is genuinely to put a boot in the faces of the plebs forever - especially by those running the lying, violent surveillance state.

[@arielgoldfarb4118]

We are living in an extremely materialist society that put the bar to measure too fucking high. I dont need or want to be fucking Zuckerberg or Steve Jobs or Musk to feel that im realized as a person i just want to want to live a really simple normal life somewhere.

[@DS-nv8bi]

have spent my life looking for peace truth love ....there are no final days is there ?just one long ugly day I often wonder why i had to be here, this life of crap. i want out and would be so great if i never was here.

[@diehardernxgt2161]

Yes, these are the final days. Good riddance.

[@Ivanmendez1]

@@DS-nv8bi make it the best while it last we HERE FOR A GOOD TIME NOT ALONG TIME feel me

[@AbbyGail-df4we]

The plain truth that we refuse to see...thank you for the simplicity 🎉

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@aztlanplay]

Wow! Dr. Mate's explanation of being authenitic vs. being attached (at 23 mins.) clearly reveals why so many people from 2020-current have been affraid to speak their minds about all the craziness that originated in 2020.

[@lulufulu4867]

The narcs have got the upper hand collectively, in our society today, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind. It appears to me, that their numbers have been severely underestimated, along with the impact of their behaviour.

[@sabrinaandhusband7791]

Finally someone talks sense!

[@davidcunningham2074]

Thanks to Gabor for helping me to continue along the right road.

[@healthylife4eva]

Dr. Mate deserves a noble peace prize. He is changed my life and millions who been through trauma. I find peace in listening to him everyday. Thank you.

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

Frankly, I'm at the point where I'm too exhausted and empathically drained to care about making the world a better place. I'm terribly lonely but human interaction is precarious, rejection makes me physically ill, and I'm numb to all good things. Add neurodivergence to the mix and I must say that I reject this world in totality... and I'm sick and tired of being told that I'm "not defective, just different." I would much rather just watch it all burn to the ground.

[@Daneiladams555]

I feel your words, and I can empathize w you here

[@alanm6o9]

I agree. Love you bud see u in heaven

[@glowiever]

based and redpilled

[@Tha3rdworldghost]

I'm simply just over life. Wish the whole universe would return to Ex Nihilo. Every particle, every atom, every photon, absolutely everything deleted into absolute oblivion.

[@msgemsgems]

I wish I could disapeer and go off grid somewhere....I totally understand.

[@zackdelich]

Love heals, love pushes fear away.....only compassionate therapist can heal you...it is their state of compassionate presence that [with time] heals. Thank you Gabor, God bless you.

[@r3b3lvegan89]

If you honestly believe therapists will save the world then you didn’t listen

[@alexhidel3732]

Money fixes most people problems

[@BlueHopi144]

anything u push away will bite u later .....because denial or polarity does that again and again . Its an identity that prefers not to deal with fear & fall for the " Light & Love " 4D bubble .

[@johealingtouch6683]

It's your ability to see you , to find yourself to acknowledge you for who you are to confront your fears that set's you free , the willingness to heal from within you that heals you ...not the Therapist, No ! You heal you when you start facing you .

[@alexhidel3732]

@@johealingtouch6683 time does not heal all wounds, only the dead have found peace

[@jimmyshag6624]

Sehr schön, das von einem soooo gesunden Menschen zu hören...

[@laurenraine]

His words are so profound, and ring so deeply true. I don't know what more to say, except, thank you for so eloquently articulating what I have felt for so long.

[@annee5582]

Conforming to a belief is like living in a bird cage; always wondering what it’s like to be free.

[@themysteriousdomain8249]

Us older people know what its like to be free. That's why many of us can see and dread the future especially for the youth. After WW2 our government let the naughtsies in and its been the boiling frog ever since.

[@Nous520]

@@themysteriousdomain8249 omg the “naughtsies” That just fractured my consciousness a little bit. Thank you.

[@tvd7377]

Materialism, internet and certain ideology in the west is the cage.

[@luminouswolf7117]

“The truth is not what you want it to be, you must bend to its power, or live a lie” - Musashi What I am conveying here A “belief” is not necessarily true If one does not question one’s “beliefs” Challenge them How can one know it is in fact … true? Well, without it.. one could live a lie and not ever realize it

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@heartofodds]

The U.S. society would lead you to believe money is worth living for. It's a social-darwinist society. The inner-child is slighted, marginalized, laughed at, harassed, put down, encouraged not to exist. Cruelty is celebrated. Even in churches. What a tiresome little dream.

[@headsails]

Good to see Gabor getting more exposure in media. He is a mentor of mine.

[@lauriefavreau6959]

Thank you doctor, you are helping me out of my Purgatory. Becoming authentic and living in Peace, surrounded by those who Love you, who believe I am good enough. I love deeply and hurt when others hurt. Though know to be truly myself and help lift others out of their pain. I must be true to myself, strong and feel strong. Being alone at times is alright. For gives you time to look within to see Your True self.

[@chyfields]

Such a wise man! You can hear it in his voice, deduce it from his words and feel the truth behind those words as they resonate loudly.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@mavrosyvannah]

It's a sin to be so illogical.

[@feelfreefpv]

Not sure if that is irony. 😳

[@timothygrayson]

Gabor is one of the most compassionate individuals still surviving. His comprehension of natural being and the detrimental effects of modernity and fashion is exceptional. With men like Gabor I can feel fear lift and represents the reincarnation of very ancient principles and requires only to be respected. I visited Vashem in Israel and was in tears until I came out to a vista of a wooded valley outside the mausoleum. Thank-you Sir for your contribution to mankind and my salvation from loneliness until this experience I was subject to a malignancy from others. So much in fact that I did feel traumatised and only through my faith in Christ did I achieve some respite. I live alone with a dog and don't entertain company with others. I don't write anymore other than statements on utube. I'm glad at heart to know I'm not alone and want nothing. I look forward to joining those who lost their lives during tragedy. My sacrifice is myself and my heart belongs to Christ.

[@carolynmscotti827]

Amen

[@issac7787]

Ending of the video, do not wish it to be easy. Thank You Dr.Gabor Mate, your existence is a blessing in this modern world we lived in.

[@jett.a]

i havent been able to explain why ive been leaving so many communities lately, "i feel like if im not an individual, i dont fit in". i love that im not alone in some sense of the word.

[@DS-nv8bi]

i have been running my whole life looking for home. my childhood did not feel safe or loving i was just there.

[@marjoriemartinez9973]

I went thru a period whete i chose to see me for who i was..every single mistake and errors i had done.. unbelievable painful! Strangest thing most of my family tuned away bc they were forced to see the damage they had also done...they deleted me...

[@richardscathouse]

Hardly unexpected. I was deleted in later years myself. No loss really I've known fir year's how toxic they were. But they were family and my early indoctrination catholic didn't permit me to walk away. Fortunately they had the good graces to die.

[@Snappypantsdance]

I had a friend who also did this. She took a brutal look at herself. She also took a brutal look and approach to her family. I wonder if a gentle approach to everyone would have been better…?

[@twinkiecrunch6344]

​@@Snappypantsdance The approach shows if it's toxicity or authentic healing.

[@Snappypantsdance]

@@twinkiecrunch6344 good point and that makes sense!

[@catemccool4100]

Happened to me. I am grateful for it as my life is immeasurably better.

[@yarmar97]

Wonderful lecture, this is actually what i am going through right now. Deeply appreciating Dr’s Gabor work. Thank you!”

[@dianewiegel7136]

Beautiful talk ~ we are all connected. Maybe older people could open their hearts to younger people and uplift them to uplift themselves.

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

Thank you for your kindness & honesty.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@ashleywhispers4331]

I don’t accept that its human nature to steal from a car in a hospital parking garage- from a person who is either really sick, or visiting a dying family member. I dont care how much of a junkie you are, you make choices, and some make excuses backed up by society. It’s driving me nuts just a little.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly!!

[@DS-nv8bi]

dr, Gabor talks of his own addictions he does not separate one addiction from another, drugs, gambling, food, work childhood trauma is not to blame society

[@ariesostia126]

Saw this doc in another documentary,glad to see him again. Good work as always

[@OccupationalThpy]

I love Dr Mate’s interviews. He’s so insightful and gentle. Major Mr Rogers vibes.

[@lynnesunshine]

So wise. Bruce Lipton is also brilliant in this view. This was the problem with isolation for COVID. 💕

[@RB-jq6gh]

What people don't want to confront is actually the cure.

[@AssendedWuan-kd7fy]

& what is that?

[@edlofts247]

The truth and talking about the problem. Addressing their own story and the trauma that happened to them.

[@call_in_sick]

Prevention is surly better than cure?

[@quanty30]

@@AssendedWuan-kd7fy Revolution

[@TransSisterRadio1488]

you can't cure stupid or unique. in fact, maybe the point is that nothing needs a cure.

[@Camilliamahal]

Insane to say we must go back 😂we have to stay present and conscious for change

[@Ko-ms7zi]

I could listen to this man forever!

[@annalisavajda252]

Well I think it a very codependent society too I'm glad I lived so many years independently I'm not afraid to just refuse to share time or energy with abusive sorts of which seem to be increasing as they have enablers which I refuse to be. Sure they will still lie about you if you avoid them but there is nothing you can do about people that are not even interested in the facts or truth of things. I think much of it is immaturity also if they behave like gossipy 10 th graders but they will also demand you dumb down to their level they are not willing to evolve themselves. They demand constant conflict and drama so people live in fight or flight mode and you can't really adapt to that long term it's just exhausting physically emotionally spiritually.

[@VeganSemihCyprus33]

The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 💖💖💖

[@65sheilakay]

I've grown weary of psychobabbling booksellers. What I would I say to my 30 year old self? Don't follow society, trends come and go, and most are horrendous. Be happy with how I look, where I came from. Somebody out there has it much worse, so stop the pity party. Work hard while I'm young, be grateful for what I've got, and choose better people to make memories with. God made me perfect how I am. It's not that complicated. We just make it that way. It's a little late for me now, spent 50 years doing the opposite of what I just wrote.

[@theresewalters1696]

So, you are 30 but spent 50 years doing something else? Doesn't add up unless I misunderstood.

[@65sheilakay]

@@theresewalters1696 I'm almost 60

[@backwardthoughts1022]

not a single mention of the requirement to know thyself. a wasted useless life, even if you had lived with the very minor corrections it took you so long to see

[@kwyatt261]

​@@theresewalters1696 it's literally spelled out for you in the comment you are confused about

[@p-acormier5215]

@backward thoughts you are the most useless of us all

[@PureExistence1]

What this man says should be the starting point of all rational thought. Its very basic but hes praised as saying amazing things when the whole problem is how we as human society have been dumbed down by cultures and systems so much, it makes his subject matter appear to be so high when really it isnt.