Daniel Sloss - How To Stop Hating Your Love Life | Modern Wisdom Podcast 386

Daniel Sloss is a comedian, podcaster & now an author.
Everyone you hate is going to die. But so is everyone you love. And so are you. But before that happens, you need to live and breathe and make some friends and hopefully find a partner and start a family and have fun.
Expect to learn why boomers will probably get rekt on Tinder, what Daniel's thoughts are on his special Jigsaw now as a happily engaged man, how you should break up with someone, why Dave Chappelle's controversy should surprise no one, whether leaving a relationship because you want to sleep around is a good reason and much more...
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00:00 Intro
01:18 Dave Chappelle & Cancel Culture
13:02 How Daniel Became a Cause for Divorce
21:57 Is Being Single Better?
31:27 Reflecting on Jigsaw
42:57 How to Deal with Death
48:59 Daniel’s New America Tour
54:22 Lessons on Good Friendships
1:00:15 Repeating a Show 300 Times
1:07:40 Where to Find Daniel
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[@ChrisWillx]

I love having Daniel on the show, enjoy! Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:18 Dave Chappelle & Cancel Culture 13:02 How Daniel Became a Cause for Divorce 21:57 Is Being Single Better? 31:27 Reflecting on Jigsaw 42:57 How to Deal with Death 48:59 Daniel’s New America Tour 54:22 Lessons on Good Friendships 1:00:15 Repeating a Show 300 Times 1:07:40 Where to Find Daniel

[@philipcallado5693]

People can misconstrue “I’m in a relationship because this relationship is better than being single.” It’s one thing if you’re single and just sitting around being a miserable person, and you get in a relationship in hopes of making your sad life better, as opposed to being single and living your best life, and you meet a person who’s so amazing that somehow they enhance your already amazing existence. People need to maximize their singleness, to use that time to discover who they are and what makes them tick, and just live life to the full. A relationship needs to be more like icing on a cake, not the cake itself.

[@taraz6786]

Man Daniel is ridiculously well adjusted, emotionally mature & empathetic whilst in possession of the most wicked sense of humour. The man has it all.😮 👏

[@chrisclarkx]

The quality of a relationship is really on how your world collides with another person’s world. And even though it’s important to try your best in every relationship, sometimes you gotta realize when your efforts are producing diminishing returns for your world…getting trapped is real!

[@Staroy]

I listened to this in the gym and visualized a scottish, middle-aged and slightly overweight comedian like Jim Jefferies. Amazing that this young feller can speak so heavily from the depths of truth.

[@LlibertarianGalt]

"You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can't control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone." Marcus Aurelius

[@smnsmnsmnsmnsmn]

i cant believe how wise and insightful this has been. Daniel is a joy to listen to!

[@DemetriPanici]

*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." - Marcus Aurelius*

[@pranjalbhor5362]

It's so refreshing to watch two grown up, emotionally mature men discuss relationships.

[@payala4851]

I'm not a book-reviewing person in general but daniel's book gives a full belly laugh, a thousand times saying, "oo this is so relatable and thank you for saying this" . Besides, he gives a whole new perspective to so many things with his unabashed and at times unedited yet raw and real writing. This book should be a bestseller and should be recommended to every 20 something person.

[@patrik5123]

Daniel's book is one of the best I've listened to in such a long time.

[@helgapavelkova258]

Really enjoyed that! This is a prime example of why podcasts are great. When it works it fucking works! it is authentic and funny and interesting. Thanks guys!

[@Drewski288]

Not having an opinion on something you don't know anything about or have any personal experience with isn't cowardice, it's humility.

[@renatak5680]

Loved the podcast! Thank you both. Love to Daniel!

[@iwasglad122]

What a brilliant idea: Tomorrow I'm going to buy an expensive bottle of champagne, put the name of the person I hate most in the world on it and leave it, ready to be opened and enjoyed when said person finally kicks the bucket! Thank you Daniel!!!

[@bobwalshywalsh2307]

I really enjoyed that Chris. Im a low level boomer comic and I really loved finding out about one of the British legends of the art form and what and how he thinks. Excellent stuff.

[@Charlie-ye2er]

you are both great, really enjoyed it

[@Boopityscoopdoop]

Love this episode! And Daniel Sloss!!

[@Bei671]

Didn't know I would love hearing 2 accents at the same time British and Scottish. Love Daniel Sloss!

[@fb7876]

Best elaboration on Tinder I have ever heard!

[@samuelvilz]

How is this not blowing up? Awesome guy, love your dynamic.

[@milindapanha]

What headset is Mr Sloss using? His mic is a million miles from his mouth and his voice is crystal clear. I need it for my next Teams meeting!

[@viktoriyarts]

Oh wow, Macaulay Culkin looks healthy, good for him!

[@oraclesql]

59:50 Chris necks a can of Fanta like Stone Cold Steve Austin

[@65Superhawk]

But it seems as if it is not just "people don't like your work and leave" but "I'm leaving and I am going to stand outside and yell 'don't go inside and you're awful if you do'."

[@easyadventurer]

Agreed! Depends on the type of relationship, but a text is perfectly fine. If you're not that close anymore, you're both aloof, fuck it.

[@rjflores438]

I like the honesty from daniel sloss regarding Peter Kay, even though I grew up not far away from the town Peter Kay grew up in, I would much rather go to a Dave Chapelle show at the MEN arena or Bolton Town Hall than Peter Kay.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I think recent politics, particularly in the U.S., has brought out the absolute worst in people. And I lost so-called friends and family over it, because these people were so unashamed and completely unapologetic about showing their worst sides. They felt entitled to be abusive. And that's not politics, that's a personality disorder. And it's well that it has been exposed. Those same people subjected me to that arrogant, opinionated bullying before politics was that contentious, but it was too close to home and personal for me to be objective about. But when I saw them behaving so badly, ranting and raving, and speaking so disrespectfully about strangers, I knew I was better off in life without them. They were not good people, politics was just an excuse to show it.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

i hear you. i couldn't be happier to lose so many "friends" when the alternative would be continuing to deal with their hypocritical, double-thinking, fight-picking, flakey, envious, rude, self-absorbed nonsense. i went wayyy too long making excuses for them. but the current climate just laid their s h i t bare. good riddance to bad rubbish. more time to write and study.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 Well said!

[@lemonblue6282]

This is the first time I've ever heard anyone intelligently speak on the issue of artists v. pissed off patrons. Back when the Dixie Chicks were cancelled before it was a mainstream thing, the only people I talked to (sounding just like you guys on the topic,) looked at me like I was absolutely bonkers. It was either "free speech" or "patriotism" and I was like NOooo - it's exactly what Sloss said - patrons gravitate toward someone they assume is like them - get far enough out of that fantasized comfort zone and they're going to leave. Who wants to spend money or invite someone into their attention/life that makes them feel bad or angry? No one. Being pissed about it affecting the bottom line is a sign of shortsightedness. People just have to walk the line of what matters to them now - and let the chips fall. Either way it'll be a compromise (financial/integrity, social/integrity, career/integrity...) It's not right or wrong it's just real.

[@fortniteguy]

Exactly like I have debated the style of cod and how people saying its like fight for your life every match in lobby in new ones wen it’s all ways been that way ik more then most people about cod

[@lastofthefamous2542]

Frankie Boyle !!! Nothing but a Jerry Sadowitz tribute act

[@lemonblue6282]

I've never heard anyone talk about laughing as a choice; that's why American's laugh no matter what or where - it's regarded as an involuntary reaction to stimuli. It's easy to seem confident when what your doing is the only thing you can do.

[@Daycros]

What lovelife?

[@BadMotivator66]

‘Awkward guys ruined it’ I feel seen 😂

[@seanp8220]

It depends how much you know to judge how qualified an opinion is anyway.

[@simonclarent3742]

Ahhh a gigachad and relationships

[@quantumimmortality551]

How can I hate something that doesn't exist for me😆

[@Harkescreative]

That guy looks nothing like his voice implies. I expected a grizzled, bearded guy with red hair and maybe an eyepatch. Fucking floored.

[@marccas10]

There won't be another Dave Chappelle special. Well, not on Netflix anyway.

[@SuperSquark]

The Queen is Dead and I'm going Dancing !!!

[@chrispetersen6660]

Just listening to audio, I thought his voice sounds like it’s coming out of Gerard Butlers body, wtf lol

[@timjones2610]

Am I the only person that thought the topic of this podcast had very little to do with what they talked about?

[@punkfacexo6066]

what love life?

[@lenkacfk7155]

HA, you should listen to German dialogue in English/ American TV series - all the representation we ever get is concentration camp wardens! Edit: I've been following his relationship principle for decades - I called it the Couch-Test: If I'd rather spend an evening on my couch reading a book than going out with him -> single life wins. Which is why I'm still a comparatively happy single. ☺️

[@burtbiggum499]

Cant hate what you dont have lmao

[@paulducharme60oo]

The #1 reason you don't like your love life, is that you don't even love yourself, so how can you love anyone else?

[@noleenole8254]

he hates religion but you can see its grace in his world view. He probably just hates what religion has become in this age and hasn't taken the time to realize hes judging the failures of people not the teachings.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

or maybe religion is a crutch for a weak mind.

[@noleenole8254]

@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 🤣

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

@@noleenole8254 🤣🤣🤣

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

@@SmoothInvestigator " Ideas which provide high value to many people are the ideas that survive. " not always. there are these things called runaway fear and lying and brainwashing. and sweetie, if you need religion to feel awe or a sense of the sublime, you are the one who is impoverished. lol

[@cheesecakedoublepeanutbutt6511]

Interesting how South Koreans describes Americans, considering that without America, South Korea won't exist.

[@andrewhosfeld]

“Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who would want to live in an institution”; “Bachelors know more about women than married men; if they didn't they'd be married too.” -HL Mencken (Mencken made many more similar statements and still got married but just once)

[@maam-yj8ph]

"Marriage is a duel to the death which no man of honour should decline." G.K. Chesterton

[@edenbreckhouse]

What love life? Well I suppose I could have one if I didn't mind a woman who was fat, unfit, on medication for depression AND an insufferable feminist. Sadly, finding a woman who is none of those things is as likely as winning the lottery.

[@upendasana7857]

Lol wonder why you're single and its BOT for any if the reasons you've given.Take a good long look in the mirror and you might find the answer isn't out there !!😅 wow talk about self deluded

[@Justin-hg4ef]

The dating pool is awful these days. Unfit, unhappy blue haired feminists clog the scene.

[@juliancoulden1753]

Just go gay

[@noleenole8254]

I agree…why have a kid some women who is gonna try to turn trans and send it to a school where they learn to hate you.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

@@noleenole8254 then home-school your kids, hon! always be with them... good fathers choose to be at home instead of sending their kids to be raised by strangers.

[@noleenole8254]

@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 how will I ever recover from this

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

@@noleenole8254 the first step is to stop obsessing about yourself.. and start being a good father for your daughter. yw.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

You're entitled to your opinion, but you are not entitled to an audience. Audiences are privileges that deserve respect. An audience is the granting of the favor of someone's attention. A hundred and fifty years ago the first thing a public speaker did was thank the audience for the 'gift' of their attention. Now people expect that you not only pay attention enough to guess what's in their pants or under their skirt, but grant respect for their 'feelings' about what's in their pants or under their skirt. I can't even express how great an intrusion that is into the sovereignty of other people's attention. You have to woo other people's attention, you can't demand it. And there are no valid shortcuts. I personally was raised to believe that as a society we ignore other people's genitals. They were and continue to be very private. We don't judge people based on their genitals and we don't take a personal interest in them either, unless by intimate mutual consent (according to the law). And we certainly did not want to be involved in a stranger's feelings about their own genitals. Keep the trench coat buttoned! My personal standard is you better put a ring on my finger before I have to hear about your feelings about your genitals. Yep, that's how little I care or should be expected to care. Everything else is between you and your doctor and your mental health practitioner. Anyway, we really need to go back and re-assess as a society the level of attention that we can reasonably expect from other people.

[@MrShnazer]

Or you could just walk out or look at what ever blows your hair back.

[@lifeofmars5689]

I appreciate the sentiment about comedy and freedom of walking away from something you don't approve. Probably works as a principle but randomly stirring the shit without giving a context only fuels hatred against trans folks. It's just pure bullying.

[@seanp8220]

I can't stand people any more. Too many avenues of division, too much parroting brainwashed slogans... it's single all the way

[@bltntprf2801]

Some really great stuff here throughout but particularly the first 15mins jumped out at me “You don’t need to have an opinion on everything” seems like a pertinent thing to discuss. If you don’t know anything about trans people, and don’t care to learn anything, that’s totally fine- but you could also just leave them alone and stop exploiting a manufactured controversy over their right to exist for likes, views and clicks. Cancel baiting is so so tedious and I’m glad Daniel changes the subject twice to steer away from it. Shitting on trans people is the dominant mainstream media position in the UK at the moment. Even the BBC have been pushed into adopting a gender critical position. The ultimate establishment institution. There’s nothing radical, controversial or edgy about it. I know this will be an unpopular post and no one’s looking to have their kind changed on this topic, so I’ll spare us all the effort of copying the clear and definitive statistics on this. They are widely and freely available to anyone who cares to look for them. But dear God just stop shoehorning such a tiny percentage of the population into so many conversations - it’s obvious you’re never going to platform anyone who doesn’t agree with your position, or who knows anything about the lived experience of trans people. The obsession is honestly getting a bit creepy. Anyway loved the rest of the conversation and immediately bought Daniel’s book, can’t wait to read it. He’s a very interesting and entertaining guest every time

[@cryptoskywalker1714]

😅😅😅😅