I struggled so much through 20 years of marriage. LDS teaching blinded me, I didn’t realize there were different options for me. When I told my bishop I was getting a divorce. He told me even if I was abused, I should not break the temple covenant…His words struck me. Right there, I knew not only I needed to end this marriage but also it was time to end LDS nonsense. I was 46 at that time. I had to build literally everything from ground zero. It’s been 8 years. My life has changed for much better. Right now, I am financially independent and I got the education that I always dreamed of. My three daughters also left the LDS church. I’m so happy for them that they are free to choose their own paths and live authentically.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@layahails96557 ай бұрын
The same thing happened to me .
@lisagrace64717 ай бұрын
You're so inspiring to me- thank you.
@barbararuiz26907 ай бұрын
That is inspiring. Thanks for sharing.
@nicolewade1607 ай бұрын
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽YAAASSSS good on you!!! Be proud of all you’ve accomplished!!! Not just for U but for ur BABIES!!!
@gigposium91897 ай бұрын
Please have a single moms episode! I was treated horribly as a young single mom in the early/mid 2000’s. I’ve got so many stories. I would love to hear from more single moms like me who have left the church.
@chandralaframboise9637 ай бұрын
I too had bad experiences as a single mom..I might have been able to gaslight myself about what I was experiencing except it was such a striking difference compared to my experience at church before my divorce (when I was Mormon-privileged). I agree, we need a panel of single moms and their Mormon experiences).
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
💯
@katduvall7 ай бұрын
As a single mom, you are shunned, gossiped about, Nobody's going to bring you meals. I stayed Semi-Active after my divorce that was 10 years ago. The stories my kids tell me now about how everyone talked about us and what we were accused of because we became the scapegoat of our particular neighborhood simply because I was a single mom.
@janeagreene28497 ай бұрын
THIS 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
@timmiestabrnak7 ай бұрын
This is a great idea!
@c.harris99897 ай бұрын
I am a single female, and I just sent the church my resignation letter 30 minutes ago and I'm PANICKING!! Tell me I did the right thing!!!!
@tracygrist95507 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@janepolewchak7317 ай бұрын
You did the right thing! I know. It will be OK.💗
@larias39076 ай бұрын
You’ll be ok. Now you have e the rest of your life ahead of you! Find joy.
@wyflyguy1146 ай бұрын
You actually be better than fine
@annw13956 ай бұрын
When I married my nonmember husband, I requested my name taken off the records. At first, I felt free. But over time, I missed the Church very much, despite going to a Catholic church. After about a dozen years, I returned to the LDS church, and have joyfully been a member for the last 28 years. I recommend you pray, talk with a trusted member, and listen to Conference talks. The Lord loves you.
@maryannwatkins71667 ай бұрын
Last night I told my husband I’m contacting Salt Lake, and having my name removed from the church rolls, officially.
@Cocoon687 ай бұрын
Its such a delicate balance. When your spouse is still in and your mentally and physically out. There’s a constant battle going on inside you that never ends
@suzyvivian75147 ай бұрын
I'm pretty sure there's more to it. But if that works, let us know
@MamallamaLinda7 ай бұрын
@Cocoon68 I agree. I went through that a few years ago. My entire family wouldn't listen to anything I had to say. I finally sent a letter to the church hq and my bishop. I got a letter back confirming my name removal. It was the most liberating day of my life.
@Cocoon687 ай бұрын
@@MamallamaLinda very difficult! I’m so glad my kids left years ago! Funny how now I’m so very grateful! At the time I was devastated! Oh the irony!
@celicalostandfound7 ай бұрын
@@Cocoon68 So well put. I left 3 years ago and my Wife is still TBM. I want to have my records removed, but my wife doesn't want me to, I have kept it to not hurt her more than this terrible experience has already done.
@rebeccasirrine9477 ай бұрын
When I was younger and still a member, I had a Relief Society president who was my same age. One day, we were talking and she said, "you know, in order to do this calling the way the church expects you to, you have to neglect your family."
@lisagrace64717 ай бұрын
Eeek.
@nicolewade1607 ай бұрын
So sooo sad & things have NOT changed 1 bit!!! I pray you’ve gotten out & are thriving!!! We should be thriving not just struggling to survive! You deserve sooo much ! Best of luck w all you do & try
@Alibee1237 ай бұрын
Ooft. This brought back memories. In my last ward I went to the reliefsociety concearned for a family struggling and was told that ‘the government helps with that.’ I then started to notice that there were certain families that got ‘support’ (attention).. and the ‘nobodies’.. that were the ones most struggling yet offering all they could to feel worthy of acceptance or importance. When I decided to move on from the church the reliefsociety president of the ward was one of my ‘visiting teachers’ I was struggling terribly with new born multiples as my husband worked away from home periods. I’d moved away from my support network for a temple marriage. I was assaulted by extended family when I asked them for support and told not to make them look bad. When I reached out to my visiting teachers one of them my reliefsociety president, she cold told me to read my scriptures more and left me with a handout of a lantern reminding me to hold up my light for all to see… It was a blow when I was already on rock bottom.
@hannahellis617724 күн бұрын
So true. That's the reason only my grandma, mom and sister are still in the church
@hanako44757 ай бұрын
As a teen convert and former member of my wards YW presidency, I'm so grateful for this panel, for Margi, and for the women in the church. The church is corrupt, but these women take this broken structure and STILL manage to create love and beauty within it! 💜
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
💯
@nancyjaynes28687 ай бұрын
😊
@shanejensen84847 ай бұрын
Corrupt?
@mindyssticktogether7 ай бұрын
@@shanejensen8484yes. When you use the money as a portfolio to hire money and don’t use it to help those in need, you are corrupt.
@maryellenchitwood46817 ай бұрын
@@shanejensen8484That's up to you to search out. The information is abundant.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
Well this was the best RS meeting I ever attended!
@madzabinga83827 ай бұрын
Well said!!
@dehende077 ай бұрын
Ditto😊
@chandralaframboise9637 ай бұрын
😄
@marionjohnson85967 ай бұрын
That was so sweet. It means a lot to me personally.
@pamelacampbell94596 ай бұрын
Amen!
@anniejones86807 ай бұрын
Shelly is my long-time friend, we met almost 30 years ago at church when our oldest kids were in nursery together. She has always been an awesome example to me, I was really impressed with her confidence and bravery sharing her stories and experiences in this panel today.
@jaynine7 ай бұрын
Shelley is an amazing and profound person, it is clear. Kudos to the others, as well.
@roxannemiller23787 ай бұрын
You're not given power, you're given chores, tasks and busy work.
@brendkillpack33577 ай бұрын
High demand cult.
@wesliepowell56987 ай бұрын
EXACTLY! BIZZZY WORK to keep us too dizzy to stop & think & question.
@kellybrandon11797 ай бұрын
Milking cows sounds funner
@Famr4evr7 ай бұрын
That is not true. Why is playing with nursery children “busywork”? Why is it a “chore” to serve the sisters in the ward? Serving the sisters in the ward is a blessing. It empowers both sides. It uplifts both sides.
@anandrew66417 ай бұрын
That's one way to view it, very negative though. You can inspire, teach, be a role model, etc.
@paro90597 ай бұрын
I love sisters telling their truth. I too was a RS president. I asked to be released after 2 years. I could not align myself with the submissive role I was expected to accept. It was the best decision for me. I was conflicted on so many levels. There were many wonderful experiences as well♥️
@IBNED7 ай бұрын
I think many would like to know what we're the conflicts...😊
@deannastocks63827 ай бұрын
Women run the church. I was in a relief society Presidency and my president made everything happen in our ward. Men flex their power but I always knew that she made things happen and she made things work because women get stuff done. We are all bad asses! Love this panel and I loved the bishop panel too. So much love and honesty. Thank you for being brave enough to share!
@debbiefodor70887 ай бұрын
My husband was High Priest Group Leader when I left the church. He used to come home from meetings so frustrated because he felt nothing was achieved. My opinion is that many of the male church leaders are impotent with regard to their callings. My father-in-law drove himself to church one Sunday after his driver’s licence had been cancelled due to him being legally blind. This was witnessed by church members who had known him for decades - former bishops and stake presidents. They knew that my father-in-law was not supposed to be driving. Guess what they did? They talked about what they should do and then did nothing. They should have called the police. A few weeks later, my proud and arrogant father-in-law, who was not going to let anyone tell him what he could and couldn’t do, was playing around in his car, driving up and down his driveway, mistakenly rammed backwards into his garage door and then overcorrected by putting his car into drive and slamming his foot down on the accelerator. He smashed through his heavy wooden gates, ripping them off their hinges, flew across the road and smashed into the front bedroom of the house opposite, where an elderly woman was sleeping. Amazingly no one was hurt. He lived on a road maybe 10 houses down from a school. Had this incident happened a little later in the morning, the street would have been full of teenagers walking to school and parents dropping their kids off. People would have been hurt and killed. It was a disastrous situation, but it need not have happened if the priesthood men who saw him that Sunday had performed their civic and moral duty and called the police. I reiterate - those priesthood holders were his former bishop, his home teacher, his neighbour. They had all had interactions with him and knew he was not doing well mentally or physically and that he had lost his driving licence. I feel nothing but contempt for those priesthood holders. If my father-in-law had killed anyone, they would have had blood on their hands.
@girlwalkswithgoats6 ай бұрын
No buildings. No books. No people. No prophet. Just me and God. 💜💜💜
@charlesmendeley98235 ай бұрын
People are great, if they support you and don't want to change you.
@sheliabryant399718 күн бұрын
@girlwalkswithgoats. 🌺🌺🐦🌺🌺🌺
@kirstieanderson93997 ай бұрын
There is something poetic and profound to me about the way the women are sharing a microphone. Ideally each woman would have her own. But when they are taking turns it's symbolic of women supporting women, listening and validating different experiences. As if to say, each voice matters and even though we live in a society that doesn't hand out enough microphones to our sex we will make it work to allow all of our voices to be heard.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
Love this!
@shadowmomma7 ай бұрын
This is really deep
@shanejensen84847 ай бұрын
such a woke perspective. I have these conversations with my mom, wife, daughters. All in different stages. None feel unheard or overwhelmed. my wife is our current RSP. She is busy doing all the things that these ladies describe. She has tons of support and help. She loves the women and has reactivated 3 ladies who are very happy.
@jacksonadams10317 ай бұрын
@@shanejensen8484 just because the women in your life feel that way, doesn't mean all women feel that way. If the church works for you and them, great. No one is asking you, or them, to leave. It isn't working for a lot of people anymore.
@shanejensen84847 ай бұрын
Disagree with you Jackson. When you make a statement that sounds like you are speaking for most people, then you need to be called out. The truth is closer to a small, but vocal/woke group that love to exaggerate everything. Can’t handle someone else telling them what to do. Sick of it.
@Cutie110837 ай бұрын
Lady in the white shirt is the first person I've heard say race was a factor in leaving the church. Bless you.
@freyast22137 ай бұрын
But she’s the only one who’s still in the church? Maybe she left & came back & I missed that part.
@Cutie110837 ай бұрын
@@freyast2213oh she’s brave
@hippychicken827 ай бұрын
I thought she was only one still in
@Cutie110837 ай бұрын
@@hippychicken82 I think she’s a pimo
@lotion_laura7 ай бұрын
She's the only one there still in the church.
@ambiancestudio69017 ай бұрын
Thank you for reminding me how lovely LDS women are. I’m in my angry phase of deconstruction and I needed to be reminded of this.
@marionjohnson85966 ай бұрын
It’s OK to be angry. We have to process all that anger, really feel it and be pissed for as long as it takes. We have to sit with the reality that we were intentionally deceived, we were groomed to stay small. Be mad!!! mindfulmatriarchcoaching
@LilaMuse-zv4vl28 күн бұрын
On a different topic , is there any podcasr like yours for other religionsThere are things in ny church I don't believe and I seem to be the only one. I am feeling so alone.
@aircastlearchitect7 ай бұрын
These women are incredibly inspiring. Thank you all for having the courage to come on today and share your stories.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
I love the conversation about the "pick me" girl and "being chosen". It's a passive and disempowered way to live life. 😭😭😭
@ATebbs17 ай бұрын
Agreed. This hit home for me too. As a member of the church my self worth is (and I’m trying to change it) based upon this idea of “being chosen”, especially if it’s seen as a substantial job or calling. My self-worth and identity are all messed up.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
Excited to hear from a long oppressed group!
@piphastings67347 ай бұрын
I agree. We need to here from more Mid-Singles, the long oppressed group in the church.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
💯
@user-bw3fl7fj9w7 ай бұрын
@piphastings673i joined in my early 30s, followed the counsel of RS leadership and here I am 30+ years later... and, feel yes we're lucky if they remember there's women who never married or had children!
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
💯
@ConnieRichard7 ай бұрын
I joined the live broadcast, but went back to the beginning. I want to say how much I enjoyed each of the women's introductions. I literally said out loud, "Wow. Such beautiful people." Thank you, ladies, for putting yourselves out there so selflessly to help other women.
@Brynn-tx3rb6 ай бұрын
"I have been worthy all along. There is nothing i can do that would make me unworthy in the eyes of a loving universe" ❤
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
WOW! This is the most uplifting and inspiring podcast I have seen! Thank you ladies for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us! Thank you Margi for choosing these amazing guests and thank you to Mormon Stories! You bless my life every week! ❤️❤️❤️
@debatosis7 ай бұрын
It’s soo totalllly obscene, that so much responsibility expected from one who has babies, and works and husbands in Med school, seriously women need to scream F No and take their power back from these patriarchal structures who are demanding your very life’s blood to prove one’s worth to an undeserving institution!!!!
@francoissaintonge30327 ай бұрын
Amen!❤
@Lovethisguy-kf1ku7 ай бұрын
F the patriarchy. Taylor swift is my prophet.
@jmsmafam7 ай бұрын
Marian's final three words: "released with love." Damn, that got me. 😭 Imagine if those of us who have left Mormonism were genuinely thanked for our service and released with love. The amount of suffering that could be avoided, on both ends of the spectrum.
@marionjohnson85966 ай бұрын
Right?! Can you even imagine what it would be like if the church taught Christ like love even for those who choose to leave the flock? If it was taught at conference that those who leave have their reasons which should be respected and they should be loved and supported in that difficult decision? Instead of demeaned and judged? Imagine the heartache and pain that would be prevented. Instead, it’s taught from the pulpit that those who leave are suspect: they’re lazy, lax, offended, deceived, and have nothing to offer anymore. How toxic. How UN Christ like. And how much trauma ensues because of those teachings.
@cartergomez53905 ай бұрын
Released with love from a cult is a better way to say it. Organized religion is so destructive. I have been watching this podcast because it's so related to the roman catholic church but I don't know which one is scarier.
@brendaclement67537 ай бұрын
I’m only halfway through this video and finding it fascinating, these women are brave and so real. I left the church 40 years ago.
@MerilynRowan7 ай бұрын
There are NO words for how much I loved this episode. It has been 41 years since I was a 28 year old relief society president. I haven’t really thought about it in any detail in decades. I cannot believe how many thoughts, feelings and experiences this brought up. I was right back there. But in a good way. Because of the honesty of these women, I remembered the good things as well as the bad or hurtful. I realize that it was probably the beginning of my sense of compassion coming to the forefront of a lot of my thoughts. And so many of their experiences in the calling I related to so much. But the overall message to women of “stay in your lane and be quiet” really was what started there and built up in me over the years. Thank you beautiful women for being vulnerable and sharing your stories.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
Love the point about Mormon women always having to be so careful. It's 💯 true.
@lauriehester3577 ай бұрын
Asking someone who lost their child to tell you about them is everything. ❤️ My 24 year old son died almost 2 years ago and I never talk about him. No one ever asks about him. 😔
@kimberlythomas43737 ай бұрын
People have no clue who have never been through anything similar. It’s so important to have their memories carry on. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that.
@45Thesecret7 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry😢
@aushabock2886 ай бұрын
This is such a special and tender episode. It brought tears to my eyes to hear of their experiences. Truely such a spiritual and fulfilling episode, and a delight to have heard the words of such admirable women 💕 Thank you to everyone who took part!
@victoriaoliver99587 ай бұрын
57:00 in when you talked about women being chosen rather than doing the choosing...A light bulb went off in my head. I resonate so much as an exvangelical woman who was in leadership positions. I was wanted but never fully.
@jules58077 ай бұрын
What a fantastic , insightful panel . I’m as far removed from LDS as possible and live in the UK. However , the way these beautiful ladies articulated themes such as church patriarchy was relatable to ALL women in many ways. Bravo 👏 ❤
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
The LDS church has indeed failed most, if not all, Mormons.
@Lovethisguy-kf1ku7 ай бұрын
It turned me into the monster I am today.
@KristenConnelly-vk6ph7 ай бұрын
I have been unbelievably touched and moved by this discussion. I feel so grateful to these strong, beautiful women for bravely sharing their truth. And I am grateful for this forum that made this possible. Thank you. ❤
@Cocoon687 ай бұрын
Thank you Margi for your support and insights!
@paulajaneabel52057 ай бұрын
Margi was the perfect leader today. She instigated the conversation and then got out of the way. Kudos.
@meghanwebb88297 ай бұрын
I agree. Every time I hear Margi I’m so grateful for her voice, insight, questions, tenderness. I love her as a panel moderator.
@katebloomburg18967 ай бұрын
How can the church ask for this calling (RSP) when the individuals they’re asking this of are in the foundational/prime years of their greatest calling: motherhood itself. It’s such a cruel ask, not a direct one but ultimately the reality, that to serve as a RSP, automatically your own family has to be downgraded. Especially when the lesson plans being taught say that motherhood IS your life’s purpose and the “greatest calling” of all for women? The teachings versus reality theme of this panel was so insightful. This is truly my favorite interview of all the Mormon Stories I’ve seen this far!! I’m blown away with how respectful, this conversation was. I don’t think I could have been as constructive and objective as these panelists. I wish I had such incredible women in my life. I’ve got to get my hands on the communication book mentioned! Margy did an OUTSTANDING job leading this conversation, and John is a masterclass in finding the moments to encourage elaboration when things are spoken abstractly. So many great moderator moments in this! Dignity! That’s what Mormon Stories has provided. Great work on this interview in particular - thank you to all who created such an amazing dialogue!
@tracygrist95507 ай бұрын
Yes! Well said’
@chrislatham73287 ай бұрын
If the church were true, we wouldn’t have to beg for things to change.
@Lovethisguy-kf1ku7 ай бұрын
Yeah, a true church would just do what you tell them to do.
@strangeclouds77 ай бұрын
@@Lovethisguy-kf1kuL
@andreatimmers17207 ай бұрын
BINGO
@ElsieMOE1007 ай бұрын
I think Reform is possible.
@OrangePickleAudiobooks6 ай бұрын
@@Lovethisguy-kf1kuthere would be no need for change.
@Mp1627 ай бұрын
I actually despise going to RS, even after 40+ yrs, cause of all the sign ups to make and bring food to people and activities I don’t need to attend to occupy my time after working all day! I dropped all social media during Covid cause of all the DM being sent out and meal trains for all these families wanting you to send gift cards for families to eat at restaurants ( like Red Robin, Olive Garden, BJ’s, etc!) which the families could have paid for themselves. Been that RSP and burnt out now! Raised my blood pressure and gave me anxiety! Dr said I had to start saying no and to set boundaries! When I was released as RSP, blood pressure went back to normal and anxiety went away. Go figure!
@kellybrandon11797 ай бұрын
"It's not a sin to say no"
@lotion_laura7 ай бұрын
I got sick on my mission. When I came home, I was healed.
@carolekstrom56516 ай бұрын
W❤😅
@rebeccamikkelsen87557 ай бұрын
I loved listening to Marian. She and I are of the same generation. I felt like I failed my 6 children who left the church. Some of them are Queer. I was TBM before the pandemic with a full and sagging shelf. The pandemic was a blessing for me to stop being "church busy" and take the time to explore those shelf items.
@Cutie110837 ай бұрын
The church should pay people for their callings
@strangeclouds77 ай бұрын
They're going to have to pretty soon. They're not going to have anyone left to fill callings lol
@oddcheese63847 ай бұрын
As a working woman I could see that being a huge problem for the church if they did. Look at what happened in the Catholic Church in history when they instituted a paid clergy. Backstabbing, murder, and abuse.
@BlackJack-hp1jy7 ай бұрын
I think ppl would get crazier if they get paid and they are in their powers. what happened in our branch in Australia was when our branch started to have so many missionaries (12-14), which was obviously overwhelming for a tiny branch that had only 20 active members. We did a great job baptised so many members, so we had almost 100 members in records. That was why we received so many missionaries. Australian Brisbane Mission started to offer help by letting people holding activities in elder missionaries place, inviting ppl in other wards to be elder missionaries coming help our branch. Everything started to get out of control. Some members started to overstate their testimony, some members didn't want to get released from their big callings, missionaries making unrealistic goals. Just because they didn't have to do things themselves and they didn't need to use their tithing to cover expenses. Those nicer and responsible members couldn't confront those who exaggerate their faith.
@kennethd.94367 ай бұрын
Only fair, the Q15 are paid.
@andreatimmers17207 ай бұрын
Keep dreaming, you pay them
@sherrypveful7 ай бұрын
What remarkable women and hosts. I love each of you. Such a profound four hours spent together. Thank you. ✨💫🌟
@camilliatobler38107 ай бұрын
If the Relief Society in my Ward growing up had half the love and kindness you share here, I feel that my mother wouldn't have been so depressed and suicidal going to church. Everyone ostracized her because she had a horrible fear of public speaking and refused to do a talk in sacrament meeting, which was, to them, the same as flipping the bird in Jesus's face
@SunsetChaser3087 ай бұрын
Such a fantastic panel. Loved hearing all of their different points of view and how their experiences impacted them. Thank you ladies for your bravery in speaking up.
@juliejohnson83647 ай бұрын
I loved this episode I felt compassion for each woman. What beautiful women they are. Recently discovered the church is wrong I feel so happy and elevated since leaving. The church is so up themselves and better than anyone else it makes me sick to my stomach you don’t realise this until you step away. Great talk. Thank you x
@janeagreene28497 ай бұрын
THANK YOU for having these women here, speaking, sharing and affirming what SO many of us experienced and are experiencing in and out of the church. MORE OF THIS PLEASE! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@reneenolan31637 ай бұрын
My husband is so at odds with me about the church. There is no talking about all this. My fear is my reality will be, he will not choose me!
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
😭
@TheSaintelias7 ай бұрын
I am so sorry. As someone who also faced this. Take it slow. Good luck
@PeaceOnEarth-d8h7 ай бұрын
Think about whether YOU will choose him instead. 😊
@jacoblewis29617 ай бұрын
Then he's not worthy of you...
@susanhiggs68737 ай бұрын
I know how not being chosen feels. I spoke up to my father about how the "girls" in our family are never chosen to give a prayer. My father's response was more of a reaction. He just stared at me with his mouth open. Other things happened on a patriarchy level, and I left. My father died wishing we would visit him. Waiting till your dying is too little to late.
@celicalostandfound7 ай бұрын
My nephew just came home early from his mission. I think that stat is very realistic.
@Annette-b6v7 ай бұрын
I’ve heard the number is around 30%. When I grew up in the church during the 50s and 60s, it was almost unheard of. God bless your nephew 😊
@katduvall7 ай бұрын
I tried three separate times to come home for my mission and was pretty much held captive in a foreign country. I hope your nephew is okay and I hope he knows he did the right thing.
@jimcowens6 ай бұрын
I respect the one panelist who's still an observant LDS member for their willingness to participate in this episode. Hopefully their search for truth will continue.
@iamjustsaying17 ай бұрын
The 1st couple of hours seemed to be reminiscent of meetings with TBM LDS women leaders. They enjoyed serving in RS and loved the sisters. But, when John started up the rapid-fire questions in that last hour, that's when it got real, and the questions elicited the other side....the heartbreak, disillusionment, and loss. Well done, Margi and John, and the women who courageously spoke their truth.
@yeshalloween7 ай бұрын
The fact that these and all the insightful, powerful, thoughtful, compassionate, intelligent women have been kept from reaching their full potential within the church is proof that it’s not lead by God. What a loss to the church that we we’ve never been fully allowed the ability to perform to the level we’re capable of.
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
💯
@isabel_hendrix7 ай бұрын
3:15:21 “Brother Joseph is not looking so good.” Loll this made me chuckle 😂😂🙏 Loved this discussion SO MUCH! Amazing voices.
@thoughtsbeforesleep6 ай бұрын
"we have ongoing revelation, because you guys keep finding stuff out" - this is such a brilliant quote, I'm definitely stealing this!
@marionjohnson85966 ай бұрын
You’re welcome 😂
@azlizzie7 ай бұрын
The breathy femininity of the voices always gets me. I'm used to loud, rambunctious women. I feel so bad that some of the loudness and excitement is bred out of these women to be calm and quiet and complacent.
@ATebbs16 ай бұрын
Agreed. I had a hard time listening to the women speak in general conference because of their breathy “sweet” voices. I never felt like I was like them, but that is what everyone wanted the women to be like and I just couldn’t.
@erinrobinson64367 ай бұрын
Oh, my gosh, I have been dying for this panel. I was never in a leadership calling so had no idea of the inner workings or politics. Amazing peek behind the curtain. Thank you all.
@Cocoon687 ай бұрын
Love the thoughts of these beautiful women on here! I’ve been truly inspired by their vulnerability and truth. The one who spoke about the Mormon glasses described my exact feelings! The world was opened up to my view and expanded it so much!
@paulajaneabel52057 ай бұрын
This is the best I've seen Margi: leading. Insightful. Evoking great conversations.
@PARebecca7 ай бұрын
What a great panel and discussion, deconstructing the myths of Mormonism. Pulling back the curtain can be quite revealing...
@susanwilliams707 ай бұрын
When you finally let go of certainty, you feel not only free but trust/faith in life & living! Love each of you sharing your stories!
@Propro4547 ай бұрын
As a former RS President, I loved this episode. Thanks
@CathySerra7 ай бұрын
I left the church during Covid. My husband went through a terrible time with our Bishop. Later he was diagnosed with Front to Lobal dementia. His behavior was the problem. We all suffered because of the Bishop and his lack of compassion.
@brindmusicnerd6 ай бұрын
So sorry to hear that 😢
@Lovethisguy-kf1ku6 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear about your husband’s Frontal lobe dementia. It’s such a challenging thing to endure.
@OneMore-bq9kb7 ай бұрын
I love these panels. It's like the exit interviews the Church should be doing, but won't for whateve reason. I can't wait for the RM panel.
@reeganslessie6 ай бұрын
Thank you. This was extreme healing for me. I appreciate the work you are doing and want you all to know how grateful I am for this conversation.
@KBtx237 ай бұрын
I don't know if anyone has thought of this, but the bravery of Mormon women coming forward probably has given women in other denominations a lot to think about. It has me. The current thought that came to me is that it's probably a good thing my father wasn't into religion like my mother was. Having one super religious parent screwed up me & my siblings enough. I'm 70.
@jaynine7 ай бұрын
Excellent comment. They speak for all women in highly patriarchal cultures.
@robbinnelson20967 ай бұрын
We are useful until we weren’t. We looked the part until we didn’t. Once I came into the knowledge of where the control of the church came into my life and they knew I knew I was no longer treated the same.
@kimberlythomas43737 ай бұрын
ALL of these women are some of the coolest! speaking as an active member of the church, I wish they were my friends. It’d make attending so much more enjoyable.
@CalypsoMom7 ай бұрын
Losing time with Husband. Sat alone 12 years as he served callings in stake and ward. Not to mention the many week nights and most weekends I was solo Mom because of same callings that took him away. 😢
@Mp1627 ай бұрын
Same! Totally agree with you! Marriage and family suffers!
@bodytrainer1crane7307 ай бұрын
😭
@PeaceOnEarth-d8h7 ай бұрын
Most Mormon kids don’t have either parent around. It’s awesome your kids had their Mom there for them. 💖
@ATebbs16 ай бұрын
I feel this! Our marriage suffered greatly!!
@PeaceOnEarth-d8h6 ай бұрын
@@ATebbs1 Marriage is God’s most sacred union. Anything that destroys it is evil.
@bargeiger507 ай бұрын
I can relate to what they said about talking about people. I left the church 5 years ago, and I know what I left people were talking about me. And to top that if they saw me in public they avoided me like the plague.
@tinamarie97726 ай бұрын
My husband mentioned the same situation happened to him after we stopped attending. Our branch president looked right at him and nothing. Mind you, he had called my husband to lead the young men and we were a very very small branch so he couldn't claim not to know my husband.
@PattyAdams-s7o7 ай бұрын
I was the Relief Society president in my ward. I texted my bishop when I decided that I was done with the church. This was my text to him. "I told you when I came for tithing settlement that I believed in the gospel of Jesus Christ. I love the members in our ward and some of them have very tender hearts so I would prefer to not rock their boat. My husband and I are just trying to continue to love and serve others. So please don't take this wrong Bishop, but I think that it would be best if you didn't send anyone to minister to us. Brother blank and I have a conflict of interest with me being the manager of the complex he lives in. I would prefer that we wouldn't be a topic in ward counsel either. Let my husband and I be your friends no matter what. We would prefer you came to us if you want to talk, even if we all don't agree on things about the church. I have been praying for all of us. I just don't want the rest of the ward to shun us or feel uncomfortable around us. We already have certain family members doing the same. They haven't shown us Christ like love at all. I am not the type of person to follow someone/something blindly. But I have for the last 51 years of membership. I am making the changes that I feel morally and ethically I need to. We will continue to support our family and friends in their choices without being pushy. Thanks" I knew how ward counsel works and I didn't want to be their topic of concern or gossip. I also had my heart open to the world too after I left.
@bargeiger507 ай бұрын
Good for you, I wish you much happiness and freedom to live your life the way you choose.
@SamieLeigh17 күн бұрын
Fantastic. So real. So touching. Kudos to these women. I served in 4 RS presidencies twice as President. They hit the nail on the head with what I experienced. I believe there is still a Creator who consecrates all our pain for our good. And who blesses and strengthens us in our efforts to love one another. That was clearly testified of here. They don’t regret loving those they served. Even in this broken and often unhealthy structure. Powerful panel. Thank you.
@missy123586 ай бұрын
These women are so very sincere. They speak with kindness and humility. It’s heartbreaking to think of anyone dismissing their lived experiences ❤
@beckyburnett86417 ай бұрын
Excellent episode. Thank you. These women seem so genuine and caring. It is a shame how they were treated.
@jessmegirl7 ай бұрын
This is so beautiful! Best relief society meeting I’ve ever been to!
@shawnasutherland81607 ай бұрын
Such brave, amazing and strong women. Thank you all for sharing your truth. ❤️❤️
@UpwardChanging7 ай бұрын
More than anything else, I believe the love for others that these ladies describe is what we should aim to feel and then act upon in life. Love for ourselves and others. That doesn’t mean we should allow others to abuse that love. Love’s energy and high vibrational. Hate and despair are low vibrational. Rather than focus on each task I have to complete to be a member of a religion, I focus on LOVE. I consider myself being spiritual, not religious.
@paulajaneabel52057 ай бұрын
I try to be both spiritual and religious. (Nevermo). I love ❤️ the focus on love and mutual support in these stories. What a church should be; albeit with the load shared more broadly. And minus the patriarchy of course😂!
@SatansRoerhat7 ай бұрын
So much fun with all of these awesome women taking up space! 🎉 I expected this panel to be powerful, but I'm still blown away.
@susanwilliams707 ай бұрын
Watched the whole discussion. Loved hearing these ladies speak their truths!
@melissar29437 ай бұрын
When I had my son he went into the NICU. The relief society brought us meals for 3 days and we didn't eat them because I was with him in the hospital. Then I was literally told "That's all you get." When we needed the meals was when we brought him home. Its true that usually the relief society is about charity but all too often it feels like women just checking off boxes.
@melissar29433 ай бұрын
@@phoenixrising5338 That is HORRIFIC! I'm so sorry
@oddcheese63847 ай бұрын
For them to at any point in the future say, “You’re equal now!” First, they have to admit that we haven’t been equal in the past.
@charlesmendeley98235 ай бұрын
If you want to study this, take a look at the new apostolic church. They introduced female priesthood in 2023 I think. There is an official video in which their prophet (=chief apostle) explains their doctrinal change. It's amazing.
@JessicaBrown-cf2bm7 ай бұрын
I was called as primary president at 34 weeks pregnant with my third and a husband who worked nights. Had baby at 35 weeks, back at church next Sunday to be called and set apart with 5lb baby home with my mom. Just get it done.
@brendkillpack33577 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you are in a better situation now. I was a RS PRESIDENT when I read the CES Letter and the gospel topics essays that are on the LDS church site. I sent my temple recommend to Church headquarters and asked for my membership to be removed. Best thing I ever did. I am in a better place now.
@Mp1627 ай бұрын
You should have taken 3 months off of church callings!
@shirleybleazard80497 ай бұрын
I did learn to say no, I am 67 so it took a while. I am a current member.
@shirleybleazard80497 ай бұрын
Law school takes a very focused person and you just have to do that. There’s no other choice if you want to graduate that is what Law school is. You were terribly over stressed, it may not have been the best time to call you. Do you look back on it and wonder how you did it? You were probably raising your kids by yourself if your husband was in law school and working. It sounds like you did an awesome job. But what a difficult position to be in.
@shirleybleazard80497 ай бұрын
@@Mp162should have not went from one President to another President. Perhaps this space branch or ward was very small.
@wendigibbs19667 ай бұрын
I would so love to see one of these panels around the Young Women's program. It was being called to teach in YW as Laurel Advisor that finally broke me. I couldn't teach those amazing young women the toxic lessons of the church and still look at myself in the mirror. PS the bare shoulders in this video make me ridiculously happy!
@sherryg18387 ай бұрын
I really enjoyed this, hearing the women’s experiences and stories. I was raised in the Church of Christ, and could somewhat relate, it brought back some memories. It also had a patriarchal leadership with men in charge. I’ve seen and experienced male leaders not talking privately to women heading a ministry, but blind siding them in a public meeting. I think many men don’t handle confrontations well, and make things worse by avoidance. Things are out of balance without women contributing to leadership roles.
@julieprince55387 ай бұрын
What Beautiful Women ❤ Thank you All for having the courage to share your story and Truth!
@rebeccarichardssteed69777 ай бұрын
Thank you for this amazing panel. You are all courageous for stepping forward, sharing your experiences, and bravery.
@Captain_Vornskr7 ай бұрын
Another excellent episode. Thanks John and Margi and the panel. Love you all.
@tarabates70886 ай бұрын
Thanks for giving a voice to these women! Looking forward to your future panels.
@madzabinga83827 ай бұрын
This filled my heart with so much peace and love! Thank you for being wise women that know how to use your voices to empower other women.
@emptynesters25207 ай бұрын
Thank you John & Margie for not only doing this important work, but also bringing it to light so everyone can hear the truth! These episodes are SO important and we appreciate you guys more than you know!
@JoanneWhitlock7 ай бұрын
How wonderful to have a super long form panel discussion, these women are fab! I wish all panel discussions were as long and as free flowing allowing all on the panel to speak
@nancyleejorgenson95237 ай бұрын
Wow what a great group of women!
@PeggyHarperLee7 ай бұрын
Beautiful women whose stories need to be heard and believed because they are representative of so many of us
@beckyburnett86417 ай бұрын
Margi you did an amazing job hosting the panel! Kudos!
@mdawgwhite6 ай бұрын
All these women were amazing and I found this a very enlightening episode. So much to process. Great job! Cant say enough of how amazing they were. Their honesty and truthfulness was beautiful.
@aadams84197 ай бұрын
I’ve been looking forward to this episode, it completely lived up to my expectations! Thanks Margi, John, and panelists.
@maysagrassi54937 ай бұрын
I thought I was the only crazy non-Mormon (born and raised catholic, but not active anymore) that was obsessed with the Mormon church. I just don’t get it how people believe that their prophet was a guy that found some golden plates in NY (?) I think all of this is just fascinating. I love your podcast! Love from Brazil ❤🇧🇷
@Wren4027 ай бұрын
I love these panels. These women are so brave, wise, and relatable. I watched the bishops panel too. Both were great! Thank you! Keep up the great work.
@LaurenFindlay-xp4bd7 ай бұрын
“Playing the role of a mature woman” as a newlywed child - wow that resonates.
@SamanthaCliftArt7 ай бұрын
I’m a never Moron, brought up CoE Christian, but this channel is so fascinating and I’m seeing some similarities. These women are amazing and I’m relating so much! Thank you ❤
@jillhughes90097 ай бұрын
I think a huge point to be made is that no one should accept that kind of heavy responsibility type calling if it's not right for them at the time
@elliek53507 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your stories and being so open.
@knan757 ай бұрын
Truly appreciated the knowledge & wisdom of these women. So REAL.
@BunnyWatson-k1w7 ай бұрын
There is another concern and possible topic that comes up in meetings at the stake and ward level. Church attendance is a problem. Many strong members of the past no longer come to church yet remain in good standing on the rolls. Many even have temple recommends. Some wards have 700 members on the rolls, yet barely get 100 people on a Sunday. So where are the rest? I suspect this could be a topic for a panel of members of the church who just no longer attend for various reasons.
@cyasmiles46137 ай бұрын
I remember that member numbers helped to get bigger chapels. I'm sure that sacrament numbers were one, but overall membership numbers play a part too. Inactive members are still numbers reported as church membership. How those numbers play out in the church besides bragging rights, I don't know.
@debbiefodor70887 ай бұрын
I was never a relief society president, but my mother was when I was in my teens. I was the oldest child and when she had to go out and help sisters in need, I was left to care for my younger siblings and hold the fort at home. I hated the secrecy in the church. Mum sometimes had to drop everything and go out to help someone and we didn’t know where she was going, what she was doing or when she would be back. I know that sisters needed her help and as RS president mum had accepted the responsibility to help sisters in need, but she was only able to fulfil those responsibilities because I was there to do what needed to be done at home. My father was often either at work or busy with his church responsibilities. As one commenter said, a RS president could really only fulfill all her responsibilities by neglecting her own family. So true.