Women Learn It Too Late! - Subtle Fears Keeping You From Being Remarkable & Confident -Trent Shelton

[@LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@kimgordon3695]

#PROTECTYOURPEACE @TrentShelton #NYTBEST🎉

[@RK-ls6ce]

mad

[@bernitapennick5930]

Thank you love it

[@shereecain-jones]

@@kimgordon3695😊e😊😅😅😅eee

[@scoobydoogrl18]

People who are single and alone have no idea the depth of loneliness you feel in a relationship with the wrong person.

[@sammy_lynn]

WE KNOW, we're still human and need connection, especially after covid isolation.

[@scoobydoogrl18]

@@sammy_lynn never said connection is not needed. Just the type of connection is important.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Oh yes I do , when I was married I felt very lonely and rejected. When you are in a marriage or have a significant other who's not there both literally and emotionally it's terrible !!! Being single is much better ✌🏽

[@carolinelala9818]

That's a horrible generalization of single people. It's like the married people who think single people are out having carefree sex just because that's what you're thinking about. You don't know all single people and can't speak for them. Maybe they're single because they were in a crappy relationship after relationship and know exactly what you're talking about. Enough with the victim mentality. A lot of people have suffered that and they do know but also some people expect that one person to fill everything in their life, that's what friendships are for, and psychologists, too many people dump on the other person expecting them to be everything, all the time and yes, some others are just not there. Don't get me wrong, I empathize with your situation. I know I have to look at myself in my situations and can't completely blame the other person. Wishing you peace, love, & happiness.

[@scoobydoogrl18]

@@carolinelala9818 Thank you for your response.

[@andreakelley7874]

I have been alone for 15 years, INTENTIONALLY (my idea). I would rather be alone, happy, and have self respect than be with someone who doesn’t treat me correctly. Happiness and fulfillment does not rely on being with someone.

[@candacerich]

Amen to that

[@ffioncampbell-davies5513]

Omg me too!!! It takes so much bravery and courage to choose yourself over someone else

[@temi4116]

For sure Andrea!

[@angelwilson3500]

'Sometimes it takes being perfectly lonely to realize what being perfectly loved feels like" WOW! A very authentic statement!

[@nadinetchaho2618]

The best quote I ever heard. True 👌

[@loiswall5601]

Yes I know absolutely?☺️❤️

[@suzyswartz9094]

Yessss!!

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

"Stop falling in love with the potential of someone and see them for who they really are" WOW🙌🎯💯

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

I personally think one should rather stay single rather than settling. But here is the thing... You might have "settled" and later realized, you made the best decision of your life. Nonetheless, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. There are no formulas to these things.. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

[@oglaskubuot]

I love everything you said....there is a lot of sense in them and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@oglaskubuot]

I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works for me too....Thanks a lot

[@kristines1115]

I am a relationship coach and this is spot on…Most of the women I speak to feel incomplete without a partner. They settle and are typically miserable. Most people are terrified to be alone 😢

[@NightMystique13]

I have been alone since 2015. I have had to heal a lot of trauma. Only recently I have started seeing someone, after therapy and EMDR. Boundaries are paramount to a successful relationship.

[@fitzgn78]

Been single since 2015. I have a timeline… if we’re still in the same place in 6-12 months I gracefully bow out and continue to pray on it! I know my worth.

[@kimgordon3695]

Especially the emotional gauge*

[@npkrn6764]

I'm glad you said "people" at the end of your comment. By middle age, I've honestly seen more men I've known (family, friends, colleagues) who were afraid to be alone. What I mean by that specifically is men coming out of a divorce and immediately wanting to find someone else to the point of acting like crazed, starving beings - not listening to people who try to tell them to slow down, take time to heal, etc... etc... This is my observation, and I'm just one person, but it's been enough for me to notice. As a single woman, I've tried to explain to them their desperation isn't attractive (except to those women who are ALSO desperate), and I've tried to direct them to videos like this and most just dismiss any of it. There is research to suggest that men - especially older men do not do well or thrive without a romantic partner. 🤷‍♀️

[@kristines1115]

@@npkrn6764 I totally understand what you are saying…I work with women and I’m passionate about the healing process for women who find themselves single after 50… I have a few male clients and I totally get what you are expressing!

[@buyop9441]

4:49 - “A known pain, in our brain is actually more safer than an unknown peace.” 🔥 🔥Preach it brother, preach it!

[@LiftingUpJesus]

“You will never be enough for a person who is not enough for you.” So true! Thank you two for having this conversation. The info you are giving is inspiring, freeing, and empowering.

[@jjohnson7297]

That is Soo True! Good Advice ❤

[@user-xn6yj3wg4j]

Ladies love yourself to not settle! No one can complete you!!!!!I

[@yariauger4125]

His advice is so spot on. The things you compromise on in the beginning of a relationship are the very things that become problems, frustrations and resentment later on.

[@lexiecoar8929]

TRUTH!!!

[@GorgDiamond]

I also believe low self worth/esteem plays a huge part in it. Been there, done it and will do better ✨ sprinkle sprinkle

[@ashaki555]

That part sprinkle sprinkle season

[@EverydayGworl]

✨✨

[@jjohnson7297]

Yess! It's low self-esteem for sure / self love 😢❤🙏

[@brittanyb5942]

I stayed in an extremely toxic 10 yr relationship because I was scared to leave. I didn’t think I would ever find better. Plus my family pushed me to stay with him. It took a lot of prayer and strength to finally leave. I’ve been single and abstinent for almost 4 yrs now. There are still times when I question if I the “the one” will ever come along but would rather be single than miserable!

[@MsEssance]

Good for you! ❤you chose yourself first. Pray 🙏🏽 ask God to give you the desires of your heart.

[@jilllandrum4849]

I've been in multiple toxic relationships unfortunately & 😢😭 Sadly 💔🤐🥺 that REALLY were illegal and I know for SURE are you soul sucking and I numb to My emotional 😭😢💔🥺🙏🤞 physical pains and scars and trauma unfortunately. OHH self-esteem and self-worth almost Left My Life completely 😢. I REALLY wish I had this guys 😭😢💔😢 book or rather My parents had his book 😢& that they'd taught me, shown Me ALL this stuff. It's just NOT worth it ladies, SERIOUSLY don't do it bc once you do uR forevermore changed for the worse and not just a little or once but every time someone goes there U just don't REALLY ever feel good/right unfortunately 😢😭💔🤐🥺😥🕊️✌️🙏🤞🙏🤞🙏🤞

[@candacerich]

Same only I'm practicing abstinence

[@StephaniRoberts]

I’ve been there. You dodged a bullet. 🙏🏼 Having children in this scenario can wreak havoc on your life, your children’s life, and it continues long after you leave. BRAVO for your clarity and courage to leave. Sending prayers for a fulfilling partner who cherishes and lovingly supports you in all ways. ❤❤❤

[@temi4116]

Brittany, THERE YOU GO!!!

[@LucyLou-qv3hp]

I was left by my partner for his affair. It was hard, but it made me grow and learn a lot about me. I have been on my own for over two years doing the deep work that needs to be done. I now know my worth and know when the time is right my person will come 😌

[@user-dw3tn2kb7e]

Amen!.. EXACTLY

[@carolkami.671]

Same here and loving it!!

[@YachicaK330]

Same here

[@jjohnson7297]

Yesss! AMEN

[@nyohnudehdennis9245]

Good for you doing the deep work. Cindy Trimm said, "You don't attract who you want. You attract who you are. Kudos to you doing the work. You will meet someone who has done the work on themselves also.

[@amohammed5]

I say stay single, learn yourself, don't settle, and create a healthy relationship with yourself. 😊

[@michellem775]

This really hit me. “If me choosing me and knowing my self-worth makes me cold-hearted, sign me up. “ I love Trent’s advice. Great interview. I need to listen to this often. Please have him back on your show.

[@martharosario1657]

"REGRET IS THE POISON TO THE SOUL"... This hit home 😢 Thank you, Lisa ❤

[@reestillbloom]

Sharinggg

[@infinitecurlie]

I'm not religious, but I've followed Trent Shelton on social media for years. He always gives great advice and I hope more heed his words (religious or not). He is wise beyond his years.

[@Sheisme120]

7:40 “If you settle in life, regret is coming for you at some point.” Some of us needed to hear that!

[@768Random]

Such a wise man

[@jjohnson7297]

Yess he is!.. I Love the wisdom and Knowledge.. you learn everyday

[@flamefox8989]

It's the heart that's behind wrong choices. Not the mind.

[@SoulBeauty1111]

28:22 YES!! As a Mother, when I started saying no to my children - it became easier to say it in other areas of my life. Now, the people-pleasing still shows up, but much less. I can identify it so much more now (thanks to therapy), and thus i’m able to course-correct.

[@jno3445]

Put your loyalty in yourself.

[@LiftingUpJesus]

I second that. Learning to love ourself empowers us to love others properly.

[@AlexiaHDIntuition]

“ cold hearted than broken hearted “ omgawd yaasss 🤩 I love this interview thank you Lisa 🙏

[@anuluonnonhelmi]

It does not always tell you the truth how somebody treats others. Narcissist can show gentleman's behavior toward others.

[@tashaturner9345]

Painfully true. The people or person closest to the covert narcissist are treated monstrously in private and often protect the perfect public image of that person.

[@sherrysunshinefreeman3434]

True

[@lashondamanuel4357]

I said the Same thing...Truth!

[@Luv_and_Rate]

I love Lisa's responses to every point in the discussion she have with people. She seems to gain so much from every single conversation that she has with others. Every conversation is intense and she takes so much from them. I absolutely love this! :-)

[@kimgordon3695]

Lisa You are such an excellent host! Mr. Shelton is wise beyond years. 2 of my favorite people in one session! (Made my DAY!)

[@kimgordon3695]

#LifeBoundaries #Commitment

[@michellegirau8136]

I settled, but i had hope that there was more potential. Early on, there was things where i wanted out. My grandma was about to put me and my 2 kids in a homeless shelter, and i had no support system at all. So i just went with it to see where it would go. 14 years later, we are still together.

[@Shugar_foot]

He blessed me with this. It hurts but I am good soul and I deserve better.

[@nadinetchaho2618]

It’s so good to still be alive to hear this; and to see faithful and true Man. Thank you Lord to open my heart to real hope with this Son of Man Glory

[@sarahs413]

Same thing with employment. I'm SO glad I bought "Protect Your Peace" and "Straight Up" -- What we accept will continue. Going out of the comfort zone (in my opinion) into the unknown, knowing what you are needing and wanting for your life is "growing pains." It's not easy by any means, but it leads to so many better doors aligning with our "Best Selves" doors opening. AMAZING.

[@sarahs413]

Oh, I wrote this right before #TrentShelton mentioned this. Woooooow, mind link! Goes for relationships and all other areas of life. I have a new rule of thumb that I won't buy a book that I can get at a library. THESE books from Trent ....... I BOUGHT them in order to go back to them whenever I want or need to! "Protect Your Peace" was a #1 best-seller on Amazon when it was still in pre-order mode. THAT made me see how AMAZING the info is after coming across him in another interview which led me to his KZbin videos. This is worth every penny of it. It's helped SO much and STILL is! I'm diving in DEEP so I'm still reading it! I love that it doesn't have any "fluff" but all "substance." And no, I'm not being nudged nor paid to leave this comment.

[@travelchannel304]

I m prefer Alone than Not-meant-for-me.

[@macm2373]

Same! I’ve never settled, I run from those red flags. 🚩

[@user-dw3tn2kb7e]

Right!

[@claralopez3321]

I’m only 18 minutes in this episode and oh boy!!!!! This is golden, such valuable Information all men and women should hear this!!!! Thank you for sharing this ✨🙌🏻

[@cayennesinivassinel6977]

Push people to love themselves first... 😊People who lack Self Love and those who forget that we "Reap what we sow" have to settle. It's a learning experience and as you mature, you learn that you you dont have to be stuck in it. Connection is ok.....but Connect with yourself first... I would rather be in a partnership than to be married. I love myself enough to Know I Am Enough. So many are married and "Fake it to make it". I won't waste my precious journey trying to live on man-made ideals of thinking I have to put up with anyone who is Not maturing spiritually. If you dont Know ThySelf you will think everything people say is for you. Listening to Inner Guidance is the key to Inner peace, love, joy & extreme happiness 😊....I definitely Give what I want to Receive. .....and that is very fulfilling. Life is simple. We make it too hard. Know ThySelf. My best life is to Know I Am Enough and I Am Never alone 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊

[@fumbling22]

“My good heart will keep me in situations that will break my heart.” - Trent Shelton. WOW, so much this. This vibes for me at a deep level. I stayed in romantic relationships too long…. Similar to how I also stay a jobs too long.

[@jessicalong6011]

Man, this interview was everything! I’m in a toxic relationship that I have been thinking about leaving and it has been the hardest thing to do because I love this person and have known them for at least 20years, but this has given me strength to truly let go and move on. I do not want to die unhappy and live with regret if I stay. Thank you so much for this interview guys ❤❤❤

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

That's where I am now. I need to figure out how to leave. I've done it before, but that was when I was being physically abused. I had the police remove him. How do I do that when he isn't violent?

[@MegaRose1958]

Trent you might be an introvert but you are sharing valuable insight.

[@21cookiepm]

I definitely needed this episode♥️♥️♥️

[@jacquelinealexander9808]

Good morning he's a good person when it comes to talking about relationships I like him

[@debmontana4233]

WHOA! That’s so true and so good I’ve been living with regret, and it’s nearly taking my life

[@babiryewinnifred2079]

I have learned to live by myself and enjoying my own company; I find it is a gift. ❤

[@sherrynelson365]

Boundaries protects you and everyone else

[@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj]

He is a man of great honest part ,he teach us from his heart

[@mariaclarksoprano7557]

Points being made here are profound. ❤

[@Mandysews2]

This resonates with what I’ve gone through so much! I had to make these decisions as well and I’m in so much better of a place to help myself and others. Don’t feel like you have to be there as a life saver to people who suck your energy. They will continue to be who they are and if that’s not who you want to be you need to move on. Thank you for this episode! I love it

[@annengei2814]

Epic episode.....just what I needed.Love from KENYA 🇰🇪

[@GraceAuko]

Me to 🥰

[@lilstkngal]

He said "dont let your temptation settle". Get into that uncomfortable talk.

[@Trilandra-Truth]

No is a complete sentence .., love it! So if no, changes the relationship, then it’s not a relationship. If saying yes to you, is saying no to me then I am pleasing you and not myself and eventually you become a people pleaser and lose yourself! I’ve declared I don’t want to let myself down because if I lose myself who will I become a fake Naaah I AM TRUTH 💕💕

[@MsBrooklyn62]

I have always been better when I am alone rather than to be in a less than relationship.

[@stilldmp7891]

"In our minds A known pain is safer than an unknown peace" 🤯 HELP THE PEOPLE TRENT!!!!!! That was me. Thank God for restoration

[@jessicaJs9130]

This is my favorite conversation on her show. Thank you for bringing him

[@rociorobles3835]

😮”the history keeps people in misery 😮, “ completely understand this

[@sarahs413]

#TrentShelton words things in a way that actually speak to me in the best way. I don't feel like I'm being pushed too hard in the videos and books -- It's unlocking an immense sense of empowerment within, and with no apologies. To me, this has made a GREAT impact on helping me get out of a VERY toxic situation. I was out of that situation the day after I got the book, and less than a week after I discovered him through another interview. EXACTLY the boost I needed!

[@user-xn6yj3wg4j]

We need more strong women who their worth. ❤

[@ricardajames5769]

Love yourself first ❤

[@LuhRen]

Just watching two recent interviews with this man and i believe its confirmation from God that im on the right track with how im thinking and how im moving. Ive always compromised my non negotiables in friendships and relationships because im an PPP lol. Been questioning if im moving in the right direction and eveything this man is saying is how im now thinking and growing after being in therapy and ending relationships that didn't serve me. Not conproming who i am or what i want any longer. My no to someone else is a yes to me. ❤

[@vivianwebber2001]

Thank you for this...in my alone time I discovered that I rather be single then be in a relationship without purpose ❤❤❤❤❤

[@brittanystalnaker430]

I love this interview!! So much perspective & realism! I could listen to him all day everyday about life, mindset living etc !!

[@gc2137]

Really liked this conversation and the addiction perspective of Eros love. The chemical/soul tie connection can especially happen when what you've exoeriened (the positive experiences) are what you have never experienced before. Very similar to addiction because you're looking for that relational 'high', ignoring/denying how truly crappy the negative experiences are.

[@_aileenmaria]

Gold!💫

[@Truthbetoldtarotorcale]

You saved my life I listen to you for many years and I need to start listening to you again and get off these other stupid social sites I'm ready to get healthy to get there and I will not be put in another compromising situation by family or friends 💯

[@SheIsNaimah]

Great reminders on this one! 👏🏼👏🏼

[@paulettehargrove2778]

giving and what you accept are in your control

[@Cat-sx6ep]

Thank you for this I am grateful!

[@michellekalski8823]

I appreciate his integrity.

[@shawnaw9750]

This conversation is spot on. I've been there, and it's not worth it. 👍

[@SheilaMackey-v8t]

Principles, never except less, give what you received, know ur worthy,

[@user-vt4ko7cu8n]

This hits true. Was very hard to leave with 4 kids. It took 5 years. It is difficult but I am SO happy to finally be out of a relationship I did not want to be with.

[@WildAntics13]

Lisa your always spot on your question! You’re the best❤

[@GorgDiamond]

This was a great podcast ❤

[@loiswall5601]

Awww I’m sorry Lisa! I get you! I hope you feel better! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@GloriaChurchWellness]

❤ so true AGH! I hear you I never thought t'd ever be alone . Now by choice, for 5yrs I love life with peace of mind, not settling.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@59:20-1:01:12 sooo true about the part where you both were laughing, and the part where I gotta set strict boundaries! Thank you! ❤😊

[@Futurenurseronika]

I loved this whole conversation! it makes soooo much sense!! and So real!!!

[@gertrudemensah2607]

This guy is so real. We shouldn’t allow pressure from society and impatience to guard us to our search for true love and a marriage partner. Patience is always key to making good decisions. I rather have nothing than be with the wrong person forever.

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

I LOVE this man🙏❤️ He is what a true man is. I agree 💯, I would rather be alone than settle🎯

[@MegaRose1958]

This is a very good video!!! I have already shared this video with close to ten people, young and old.😊😊

[@antoniasarris1619]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you Lisa & Trent🙏

[@spectacularrichbeautybrilli]

@1:05:09 . This resonates strongly with me. I need to tell this to a friend: “You’re addicted to your sad story.” Please miss me with your sorrows and complaints if you’re just going to remain in toxicity. Take action with the good advice given to you or STOP complaining about your “bad” circumstances… suck it up and drive on. “No victims, No Excuses” ~Condoleezza Rice

[@Sheisme120]

10:11 “Facts over feelings.” Trent just dropped another mic!🎤 Date with your brain not your heart.

[@Asilkalp88]

Perfect guest a golden hearted man 😊

[@yasminibro4632]

Everything they talked about hits home for me 💯🙌🏾

[@heyli7]

This was an amazing episode. Def woke me up to a-lot of things that I have to check myself in .

[@michelledouglas-thierry3143]

You are so right, on every point

[@suzieh1353]

Wow some of this was sore to hear but 100% what I needed to hear. Am glad I found this podcast, it has woken my mind up now. Stop accepting less ❤

[@suzieh1353]

Only half way through this podcast with my 1st comment

[@helennorris3067]

Thank you Lisa and Trent. I just made the best Decision Of My Life based on watching half of this. 😅😅 I feel amazing Thank you for making us ladies your kids..You and Tom. We are utterly grateful to you for putting us in front Thank you Trent for finding all this love you are sharing with us women. You're changing our lives. ❤❤❤ This is Straight from God.

[@EdytaSantos]

I am loving that interview!!! Wow! What a greeat human being he is. I love YOU Lisa!!!

[@MarilynHoward-hf6kl]

Hello Thank You 😊❤ Real Talk !!!!!!!! Am taking Notes

[@RoyceHills]

Your advice helps me minimize risks and increase profits.

[@azrielcoming1989]

Lisa knows her stuff

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@1:43 i feel like it mostly comes from bitterness, resentment denial of one's actual worth and the others worth! An overexaggeration, insecurity which causes arrogance.

[@SheRahMusic]

I love this !!!!!!

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you, spot on. 💖

[@beautifulmslady5716]

I absolutely love this video! Lisa your content is top tier. Needed to hear this. ❤

[@con-can571]

This man is brilliant. I'm so glad you had him on. I learn so much from your channel. Could you please have Richard Grannon and/or Tom Macdonald on?

[@MrsH202]

He is 💯 right!🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@MegaRose1958]

I have never sent a video to so many people!! This video is awesome!!! OMG!! What is the name of your book??

[@sussynchogu2496]

"Unclear communication leads to unfair expectations."

[@snorris74]

All this information is so True because it is happening to me right now by my husband in name only

[@temi4116]

Good insight there Lisa... We dont want to gaslight ourself!