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@kimgordon36956 ай бұрын
#PROTECTYOURPEACE @TrentShelton #NYTBEST🎉
@RK-ls6ce5 ай бұрын
mad
@bernitapennick59302 ай бұрын
Thank you love it
@shereecain-jonesАй бұрын
@@kimgordon3695😊e😊😅😅😅eee
@scoobydoogrl185 ай бұрын
People who are single and alone have no idea the depth of loneliness you feel in a relationship with the wrong person.
@sammy_lynn5 ай бұрын
WE KNOW, we're still human and need connection, especially after covid isolation.
@scoobydoogrl185 ай бұрын
@@sammy_lynn never said connection is not needed. Just the type of connection is important.
@donnajeffreys82525 ай бұрын
Oh yes I do , when I was married I felt very lonely and rejected. When you are in a marriage or have a significant other who's not there both literally and emotionally it's terrible !!! Being single is much better ✌🏽
@carolinelala98185 ай бұрын
That's a horrible generalization of single people. It's like the married people who think single people are out having carefree sex just because that's what you're thinking about. You don't know all single people and can't speak for them. Maybe they're single because they were in a crappy relationship after relationship and know exactly what you're talking about. Enough with the victim mentality. A lot of people have suffered that and they do know but also some people expect that one person to fill everything in their life, that's what friendships are for, and psychologists, too many people dump on the other person expecting them to be everything, all the time and yes, some others are just not there. Don't get me wrong, I empathize with your situation. I know I have to look at myself in my situations and can't completely blame the other person. Wishing you peace, love, & happiness.
@scoobydoogrl185 ай бұрын
@@carolinelala9818 Thank you for your response.
@andreakelley78745 ай бұрын
I have been alone for 15 years, INTENTIONALLY (my idea). I would rather be alone, happy, and have self respect than be with someone who doesn’t treat me correctly. Happiness and fulfillment does not rely on being with someone.
@candacerich4 ай бұрын
Amen to that
@ffioncampbell-davies55133 ай бұрын
Omg me too!!! It takes so much bravery and courage to choose yourself over someone else
@temi41163 ай бұрын
For sure Andrea!
@angelwilson35006 ай бұрын
'Sometimes it takes being perfectly lonely to realize what being perfectly loved feels like" WOW! A very authentic statement!
@nadinetchaho26186 ай бұрын
The best quote I ever heard. True 👌
@loiswall56015 ай бұрын
Yes I know absolutely?☺️❤️
@suzyswartz90945 ай бұрын
Yessss!!
@user-cl6uj5bn2f5 ай бұрын
"Stop falling in love with the potential of someone and see them for who they really are" WOW🙌🎯💯
@user-yy9mt6kl3h5 ай бұрын
I personally think one should rather stay single rather than settling. But here is the thing... You might have "settled" and later realized, you made the best decision of your life. Nonetheless, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. There are no formulas to these things.. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..
@oglaskubuot5 ай бұрын
I love everything you said....there is a lot of sense in them and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@user-yy9mt6kl3h5 ай бұрын
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
@oglaskubuot5 ай бұрын
I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works for me too....Thanks a lot
@kristines11156 ай бұрын
I am a relationship coach and this is spot on…Most of the women I speak to feel incomplete without a partner. They settle and are typically miserable. Most people are terrified to be alone 😢
@NightMystique136 ай бұрын
I have been alone since 2015. I have had to heal a lot of trauma. Only recently I have started seeing someone, after therapy and EMDR. Boundaries are paramount to a successful relationship.
@fitzgn786 ай бұрын
Been single since 2015. I have a timeline… if we’re still in the same place in 6-12 months I gracefully bow out and continue to pray on it! I know my worth.
@kimgordon36956 ай бұрын
Especially the emotional gauge*
@npkrn67646 ай бұрын
I'm glad you said "people" at the end of your comment. By middle age, I've honestly seen more men I've known (family, friends, colleagues) who were afraid to be alone. What I mean by that specifically is men coming out of a divorce and immediately wanting to find someone else to the point of acting like crazed, starving beings - not listening to people who try to tell them to slow down, take time to heal, etc... etc... This is my observation, and I'm just one person, but it's been enough for me to notice. As a single woman, I've tried to explain to them their desperation isn't attractive (except to those women who are ALSO desperate), and I've tried to direct them to videos like this and most just dismiss any of it. There is research to suggest that men - especially older men do not do well or thrive without a romantic partner. 🤷♀️
@kristines11156 ай бұрын
@@npkrn6764 I totally understand what you are saying…I work with women and I’m passionate about the healing process for women who find themselves single after 50… I have a few male clients and I totally get what you are expressing!
@buyop94415 ай бұрын
4:49 - “A known pain, in our brain is actually more safer than an unknown peace.” 🔥 🔥Preach it brother, preach it!
@LiftingUpJesus5 ай бұрын
“You will never be enough for a person who is not enough for you.” So true! Thank you two for having this conversation. The info you are giving is inspiring, freeing, and empowering.
@jjohnson72974 ай бұрын
That is Soo True! Good Advice ❤
@user-xn6yj3wg4j3 ай бұрын
Ladies love yourself to not settle! No one can complete you!!!!!I
@yariauger41256 ай бұрын
His advice is so spot on. The things you compromise on in the beginning of a relationship are the very things that become problems, frustrations and resentment later on.
@lexiecoar89294 ай бұрын
TRUTH!!!
@GorgDiamond6 ай бұрын
I also believe low self worth/esteem plays a huge part in it. Been there, done it and will do better ✨ sprinkle sprinkle
@ashaki5555 ай бұрын
That part sprinkle sprinkle season
@EverydayGworl5 ай бұрын
✨✨
@jjohnson72974 ай бұрын
Yess! It's low self-esteem for sure / self love 😢❤🙏
@brittanyb59426 ай бұрын
I stayed in an extremely toxic 10 yr relationship because I was scared to leave. I didn’t think I would ever find better. Plus my family pushed me to stay with him. It took a lot of prayer and strength to finally leave. I’ve been single and abstinent for almost 4 yrs now. There are still times when I question if I the “the one” will ever come along but would rather be single than miserable!
@MsEssance5 ай бұрын
Good for you! ❤you chose yourself first. Pray 🙏🏽 ask God to give you the desires of your heart.
@jilllandrum48495 ай бұрын
I've been in multiple toxic relationships unfortunately & 😢😭 Sadly 💔🤐🥺 that REALLY were illegal and I know for SURE are you soul sucking and I numb to My emotional 😭😢💔🥺🙏🤞 physical pains and scars and trauma unfortunately. OHH self-esteem and self-worth almost Left My Life completely 😢. I REALLY wish I had this guys 😭😢💔😢 book or rather My parents had his book 😢& that they'd taught me, shown Me ALL this stuff. It's just NOT worth it ladies, SERIOUSLY don't do it bc once you do uR forevermore changed for the worse and not just a little or once but every time someone goes there U just don't REALLY ever feel good/right unfortunately 😢😭💔🤐🥺😥🕊️✌️🙏🤞🙏🤞🙏🤞
@candacerich4 ай бұрын
Same only I'm practicing abstinence
@StephaniRoberts3 ай бұрын
I’ve been there. You dodged a bullet. 🙏🏼 Having children in this scenario can wreak havoc on your life, your children’s life, and it continues long after you leave. BRAVO for your clarity and courage to leave. Sending prayers for a fulfilling partner who cherishes and lovingly supports you in all ways. ❤❤❤
@temi41163 ай бұрын
Brittany, THERE YOU GO!!!
@LucyLou-qv3hp6 ай бұрын
I was left by my partner for his affair. It was hard, but it made me grow and learn a lot about me. I have been on my own for over two years doing the deep work that needs to be done. I now know my worth and know when the time is right my person will come 😌
@user-dw3tn2kb7e5 ай бұрын
Amen!.. EXACTLY
@carolkami.6715 ай бұрын
Same here and loving it!!
@YachicaK3304 ай бұрын
Same here
@jjohnson72974 ай бұрын
Yesss! AMEN
@nyohnudehdennis92452 ай бұрын
Good for you doing the deep work. Cindy Trimm said, "You don't attract who you want. You attract who you are. Kudos to you doing the work. You will meet someone who has done the work on themselves also.
@amohammed56 ай бұрын
I say stay single, learn yourself, don't settle, and create a healthy relationship with yourself. 😊
@michellem7753 ай бұрын
This really hit me. “If me choosing me and knowing my self-worth makes me cold-hearted, sign me up. “ I love Trent’s advice. Great interview. I need to listen to this often. Please have him back on your show.
@martharosario16576 ай бұрын
"REGRET IS THE POISON TO THE SOUL"... This hit home 😢 Thank you, Lisa ❤
@reestillbloom6 ай бұрын
Sharinggg
@infinitecurlie6 ай бұрын
I'm not religious, but I've followed Trent Shelton on social media for years. He always gives great advice and I hope more heed his words (religious or not). He is wise beyond his years.
@Sheisme1203 ай бұрын
7:40 “If you settle in life, regret is coming for you at some point.” Some of us needed to hear that!
@768Random6 ай бұрын
Such a wise man
@jjohnson72974 ай бұрын
Yess he is!.. I Love the wisdom and Knowledge.. you learn everyday
@flamefox89896 ай бұрын
It's the heart that's behind wrong choices. Not the mind.
@SoulBeauty11116 ай бұрын
28:22 YES!! As a Mother, when I started saying no to my children - it became easier to say it in other areas of my life. Now, the people-pleasing still shows up, but much less. I can identify it so much more now (thanks to therapy), and thus i’m able to course-correct.
@jno34456 ай бұрын
Put your loyalty in yourself.
@LiftingUpJesus5 ай бұрын
I second that. Learning to love ourself empowers us to love others properly.
@AlexiaHDIntuition6 ай бұрын
“ cold hearted than broken hearted “ omgawd yaasss 🤩 I love this interview thank you Lisa 🙏
@anuluonnonhelmi6 ай бұрын
It does not always tell you the truth how somebody treats others. Narcissist can show gentleman's behavior toward others.
@tashaturner93455 ай бұрын
Painfully true. The people or person closest to the covert narcissist are treated monstrously in private and often protect the perfect public image of that person.
@sherrysunshinefreeman34345 ай бұрын
True
@lashondamanuel43574 ай бұрын
I said the Same thing...Truth!
@Luv_and_Rate5 ай бұрын
I love Lisa's responses to every point in the discussion she have with people. She seems to gain so much from every single conversation that she has with others. Every conversation is intense and she takes so much from them. I absolutely love this! :-)
@kimgordon36956 ай бұрын
Lisa You are such an excellent host! Mr. Shelton is wise beyond years. 2 of my favorite people in one session! (Made my DAY!)
@kimgordon36956 ай бұрын
#LifeBoundaries #Commitment
@michellegirau81366 ай бұрын
I settled, but i had hope that there was more potential. Early on, there was things where i wanted out. My grandma was about to put me and my 2 kids in a homeless shelter, and i had no support system at all. So i just went with it to see where it would go. 14 years later, we are still together.
@Shugar_foot5 ай бұрын
He blessed me with this. It hurts but I am good soul and I deserve better.
@nadinetchaho26186 ай бұрын
It’s so good to still be alive to hear this; and to see faithful and true Man. Thank you Lord to open my heart to real hope with this Son of Man Glory
@sarahs4135 ай бұрын
Same thing with employment. I'm SO glad I bought "Protect Your Peace" and "Straight Up" -- What we accept will continue. Going out of the comfort zone (in my opinion) into the unknown, knowing what you are needing and wanting for your life is "growing pains." It's not easy by any means, but it leads to so many better doors aligning with our "Best Selves" doors opening. AMAZING.
@sarahs4135 ай бұрын
Oh, I wrote this right before #TrentShelton mentioned this. Woooooow, mind link! Goes for relationships and all other areas of life. I have a new rule of thumb that I won't buy a book that I can get at a library. THESE books from Trent ....... I BOUGHT them in order to go back to them whenever I want or need to! "Protect Your Peace" was a #1 best-seller on Amazon when it was still in pre-order mode. THAT made me see how AMAZING the info is after coming across him in another interview which led me to his KZbin videos. This is worth every penny of it. It's helped SO much and STILL is! I'm diving in DEEP so I'm still reading it! I love that it doesn't have any "fluff" but all "substance." And no, I'm not being nudged nor paid to leave this comment.
@travelchannel3046 ай бұрын
I m prefer Alone than Not-meant-for-me.
@macm23736 ай бұрын
Same! I’ve never settled, I run from those red flags. 🚩
@user-dw3tn2kb7e5 ай бұрын
Right!
@claralopez33214 ай бұрын
I’m only 18 minutes in this episode and oh boy!!!!! This is golden, such valuable Information all men and women should hear this!!!! Thank you for sharing this ✨🙌🏻
@cayennesinivassinel69773 ай бұрын
Push people to love themselves first... 😊People who lack Self Love and those who forget that we "Reap what we sow" have to settle. It's a learning experience and as you mature, you learn that you you dont have to be stuck in it. Connection is ok.....but Connect with yourself first... I would rather be in a partnership than to be married. I love myself enough to Know I Am Enough. So many are married and "Fake it to make it". I won't waste my precious journey trying to live on man-made ideals of thinking I have to put up with anyone who is Not maturing spiritually. If you dont Know ThySelf you will think everything people say is for you. Listening to Inner Guidance is the key to Inner peace, love, joy & extreme happiness 😊....I definitely Give what I want to Receive. .....and that is very fulfilling. Life is simple. We make it too hard. Know ThySelf. My best life is to Know I Am Enough and I Am Never alone 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊
@fumbling224 ай бұрын
“My good heart will keep me in situations that will break my heart.” - Trent Shelton. WOW, so much this. This vibes for me at a deep level. I stayed in romantic relationships too long…. Similar to how I also stay a jobs too long.
@jessicalong60115 ай бұрын
Man, this interview was everything! I’m in a toxic relationship that I have been thinking about leaving and it has been the hardest thing to do because I love this person and have known them for at least 20years, but this has given me strength to truly let go and move on. I do not want to die unhappy and live with regret if I stay. Thank you so much for this interview guys ❤❤❤
@LolaAileenVanslette5 ай бұрын
That's where I am now. I need to figure out how to leave. I've done it before, but that was when I was being physically abused. I had the police remove him. How do I do that when he isn't violent?
@MegaRose19586 ай бұрын
Trent you might be an introvert but you are sharing valuable insight.
@21cookiepm6 ай бұрын
I definitely needed this episode♥️♥️♥️
@jacquelinealexander98086 ай бұрын
Good morning he's a good person when it comes to talking about relationships I like him
@debmontana42336 ай бұрын
WHOA! That’s so true and so good I’ve been living with regret, and it’s nearly taking my life
@babiryewinnifred20794 ай бұрын
I have learned to live by myself and enjoying my own company; I find it is a gift. ❤
@sherrynelson3656 ай бұрын
Boundaries protects you and everyone else
@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj5 ай бұрын
He is a man of great honest part ,he teach us from his heart
@mariaclarksoprano75576 ай бұрын
Points being made here are profound. ❤
@Mandysews23 ай бұрын
This resonates with what I’ve gone through so much! I had to make these decisions as well and I’m in so much better of a place to help myself and others. Don’t feel like you have to be there as a life saver to people who suck your energy. They will continue to be who they are and if that’s not who you want to be you need to move on. Thank you for this episode! I love it
@annengei28146 ай бұрын
Epic episode.....just what I needed.Love from KENYA 🇰🇪
@GraceAuko6 ай бұрын
Me to 🥰
@lilstkngal6 ай бұрын
He said "dont let your temptation settle". Get into that uncomfortable talk.
@Trilandra-Truth4 ай бұрын
No is a complete sentence .., love it! So if no, changes the relationship, then it’s not a relationship. If saying yes to you, is saying no to me then I am pleasing you and not myself and eventually you become a people pleaser and lose yourself! I’ve declared I don’t want to let myself down because if I lose myself who will I become a fake Naaah I AM TRUTH 💕💕
@MsBrooklyn623 ай бұрын
I have always been better when I am alone rather than to be in a less than relationship.
@stilldmp78914 ай бұрын
"In our minds A known pain is safer than an unknown peace" 🤯 HELP THE PEOPLE TRENT!!!!!! That was me. Thank God for restoration
@jessicaJs91306 ай бұрын
This is my favorite conversation on her show. Thank you for bringing him
@rociorobles38354 ай бұрын
😮”the history keeps people in misery 😮, “ completely understand this
@sarahs4135 ай бұрын
#TrentShelton words things in a way that actually speak to me in the best way. I don't feel like I'm being pushed too hard in the videos and books -- It's unlocking an immense sense of empowerment within, and with no apologies. To me, this has made a GREAT impact on helping me get out of a VERY toxic situation. I was out of that situation the day after I got the book, and less than a week after I discovered him through another interview. EXACTLY the boost I needed!
@user-xn6yj3wg4j2 ай бұрын
We need more strong women who their worth. ❤
@ricardajames57696 ай бұрын
Love yourself first ❤
@LuhRen5 ай бұрын
Just watching two recent interviews with this man and i believe its confirmation from God that im on the right track with how im thinking and how im moving. Ive always compromised my non negotiables in friendships and relationships because im an PPP lol. Been questioning if im moving in the right direction and eveything this man is saying is how im now thinking and growing after being in therapy and ending relationships that didn't serve me. Not conproming who i am or what i want any longer. My no to someone else is a yes to me. ❤
@vivianwebber20015 ай бұрын
Thank you for this...in my alone time I discovered that I rather be single then be in a relationship without purpose ❤❤❤❤❤
@brittanystalnaker4305 ай бұрын
I love this interview!! So much perspective & realism! I could listen to him all day everyday about life, mindset living etc !!
@gc21376 ай бұрын
Really liked this conversation and the addiction perspective of Eros love. The chemical/soul tie connection can especially happen when what you've exoeriened (the positive experiences) are what you have never experienced before. Very similar to addiction because you're looking for that relational 'high', ignoring/denying how truly crappy the negative experiences are.
@_aileenmaria6 ай бұрын
Gold!💫
@TruthbetoldtarotorcaleАй бұрын
You saved my life I listen to you for many years and I need to start listening to you again and get off these other stupid social sites I'm ready to get healthy to get there and I will not be put in another compromising situation by family or friends 💯
@SheIsNaimah6 ай бұрын
Great reminders on this one! 👏🏼👏🏼
@paulettehargrove27784 ай бұрын
giving and what you accept are in your control
@Cat-sx6ep6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this I am grateful!
@michellekalski88235 ай бұрын
I appreciate his integrity.
@shawnaw97506 ай бұрын
This conversation is spot on. I've been there, and it's not worth it. 👍
@SheilaMackey-v8t5 ай бұрын
Principles, never except less, give what you received, know ur worthy,
@user-vt4ko7cu8nАй бұрын
This hits true. Was very hard to leave with 4 kids. It took 5 years. It is difficult but I am SO happy to finally be out of a relationship I did not want to be with.
@WildAntics136 ай бұрын
Lisa your always spot on your question! You’re the best❤
@GorgDiamond6 ай бұрын
This was a great podcast ❤
@loiswall56015 ай бұрын
Awww I’m sorry Lisa! I get you! I hope you feel better! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
@GloriaChurchWellness9 сағат бұрын
❤ so true AGH! I hear you I never thought t'd ever be alone . Now by choice, for 5yrs I love life with peace of mind, not settling.
@Kashmir-lt4cx4 ай бұрын
@59:20-1:01:12 sooo true about the part where you both were laughing, and the part where I gotta set strict boundaries! Thank you! ❤😊
@Futurenurseronika5 ай бұрын
I loved this whole conversation! it makes soooo much sense!! and So real!!!
@gertrudemensah26076 ай бұрын
This guy is so real. We shouldn’t allow pressure from society and impatience to guard us to our search for true love and a marriage partner. Patience is always key to making good decisions. I rather have nothing than be with the wrong person forever.
@user-cl6uj5bn2f5 ай бұрын
I LOVE this man🙏❤️ He is what a true man is. I agree 💯, I would rather be alone than settle🎯
@MegaRose19586 ай бұрын
This is a very good video!!! I have already shared this video with close to ten people, young and old.😊😊
@antoniasarris16196 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this today. Thank you Lisa & Trent🙏
@spectacularrichbeautybrilli2 күн бұрын
@1:05:09 . This resonates strongly with me. I need to tell this to a friend: “You’re addicted to your sad story.” Please miss me with your sorrows and complaints if you’re just going to remain in toxicity. Take action with the good advice given to you or STOP complaining about your “bad” circumstances… suck it up and drive on. “No victims, No Excuses” ~Condoleezza Rice
@Sheisme1203 ай бұрын
10:11 “Facts over feelings.” Trent just dropped another mic!🎤 Date with your brain not your heart.
@Asilkalp885 ай бұрын
Perfect guest a golden hearted man 😊
@yasminibro46325 ай бұрын
Everything they talked about hits home for me 💯🙌🏾
@heyli76 ай бұрын
This was an amazing episode. Def woke me up to a-lot of things that I have to check myself in .
@michelledouglas-thierry31433 ай бұрын
You are so right, on every point
@suzieh13535 ай бұрын
Wow some of this was sore to hear but 100% what I needed to hear. Am glad I found this podcast, it has woken my mind up now. Stop accepting less ❤
@suzieh13535 ай бұрын
Only half way through this podcast with my 1st comment
@helennorris30673 ай бұрын
Thank you Lisa and Trent. I just made the best Decision Of My Life based on watching half of this. 😅😅 I feel amazing Thank you for making us ladies your kids..You and Tom. We are utterly grateful to you for putting us in front Thank you Trent for finding all this love you are sharing with us women. You're changing our lives. ❤❤❤ This is Straight from God.
@EdytaSantos5 ай бұрын
I am loving that interview!!! Wow! What a greeat human being he is. I love YOU Lisa!!!
@MarilynHoward-hf6kl4 ай бұрын
Hello Thank You 😊❤ Real Talk !!!!!!!! Am taking Notes
@RoyceHills2 ай бұрын
Your advice helps me minimize risks and increase profits.
@azrielcoming19896 ай бұрын
Lisa knows her stuff
@Kashmir-lt4cx4 ай бұрын
@1:43 i feel like it mostly comes from bitterness, resentment denial of one's actual worth and the others worth! An overexaggeration, insecurity which causes arrogance.
@SheRahMusic6 ай бұрын
I love this !!!!!!
@sayusayme77294 ай бұрын
Thank you, spot on. 💖
@beautifulmslady57165 ай бұрын
I absolutely love this video! Lisa your content is top tier. Needed to hear this. ❤
@con-can5716 ай бұрын
This man is brilliant. I'm so glad you had him on. I learn so much from your channel. Could you please have Richard Grannon and/or Tom Macdonald on?
@MrsH2026 ай бұрын
He is 💯 right!🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@MegaRose19586 ай бұрын
I have never sent a video to so many people!! This video is awesome!!! OMG!! What is the name of your book??
@sussynchogu24962 ай бұрын
"Unclear communication leads to unfair expectations."
@snorris745 ай бұрын
All this information is so True because it is happening to me right now by my husband in name only
@temi41163 ай бұрын
Good insight there Lisa... We dont want to gaslight ourself!