#1 Therapist: How To Control Your Emotions & Stand Up For Yourself When Triggered | Anita Phillips

[@LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@akushika6143]

Liza please where can I get the book

[@LeseiaMorton]

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[@JulieAnnStone]

Get the book toward the bottom of the show notes

[@Symphonyofpassion]

“go to that child” .. I am 36 .. And just this year decide to go back to that child and build a relationship with her .. parent her. Befriended her.. She is so deeply hurt and neglected .. it broke my heart 😢

[@Melia_Mer]

Sending her love and light. She will be okay! ❤

[@Symphonyofpassion]

@@Melia_Mer 🪷❣️

[@trishag.971]

Her feelings matter and your current feelings matter. Sending love, light and healing your way. Take things one day at a time

[@Symphonyofpassion]

@@trishag.971 ❤ thank you for the support, much needed and appreciated. 💌

[@danielagustinvil4731]

I'm doing the same here..started at 36 like you. You're awesome!

[@kimspencer7677]

I remembered I memorized scriptures and tried to slap a scripture on my emotions...ended up with a breakdown..Then I experienced the PERFECT LOVE OF GOD..And the Holy Spirit began to teach me how to express my feelings..Then the Spirit would respond as to what to do..whether talking to someone.. maybe I just need the Spirits comfort...the beauty about expressing to God first..he leads me to communicate with others or obey his word after I expressed feelings.. He has been my favorite counselor

[@gabriellestuart9786]

Amen...

[@myaalberto2959]

By far the best Therapist on your show!!! Wow Dr.Anita Philip uffff sooo deep soo many gems!! You have to bring her back ommmgg!!!!

[@divinebeginnings3741]

Yes! I second that ~ PLEASE bring her back for deeper dive 🙏🏼♥️

[@Habibi1125]

I agree

[@Poppya2024]

Wow, this is so beneficial for women. I'm only 47 mins through but have to say that I went and had a good cry. I left my marriage of 25yrs because I found out my husband was cheating. This was 2 yrs ago and it's still very painful. I resonate with what Dr Anita said about your heart...mine aches. Thanks again Lisa, your choice of guests is superb and I even learned my husband was a narcissistic through Dr Romani. It's like narcissists are given the same script. It turns out I'm not crazy afterall. Blessings to you all.

[@kgomotsokgb5829]

I also melted my frozen tears. I kept repeating to hear some sections again and again❤😢

[@Poppya2024]

@kgomotsokgb5829 me too. Today I'm going to follow the script and takes notes and stick them on my walls.

[@trishag.971]

Sending love, light and healing your way. I left a narcissistic husband recently and I currently co-parent two children with him. Remember your power and know that you are worth: protection, love, happiness, peace and abundance

[@divinebeginnings3741]

@@kgomotsokgb5829melted frozen tears. 🤯🤯🤯 I have ALWAYS been one who cries ~ happy sad ~ all of it. Where those emotions are felt and flow/wash out of me. A cleansing. 15 year relationship with someone who expresses himself through hurtful words, blame, & shame. About 10 years ago my tears ran out. Just no longer there. Yesterday I was sitting around & out of nowhere the faucet turned out. My heart felt warm and I just allowed it ~ giving space for years of built up tears to wash out of me. My frozen tears melted 🥹 Thank you for this ♥️

[@divinebeginnings3741]

You are stronger than you remember! She is still in there! You get to have such a full life now! A life that is handpicked by you! Your wants ~ Your desires ~ Your community ~ New Hobbies ~ New adventures ~ And a New Love for yourself that you have yet to ever give yourself ~ a worthiness that is filled with dignity honor and trust ~ a life full of new colors sounds smells feels ~ You were given such a blessing ~ taken out of a relationship that wasn’t caring and kind ~ and Life is calling you ~ that it is time for you to give yourself the love and kindness and care that you have deserved for so long now ~ and any relationship that isn’t giving you the love you deserve ,, it will be shifted out ~ and sooner than later, you will look around , looking at your life; and be fined with tears. Tears of gratitude and joy. Bc every single person in your life you KNOW loves you ever so dearly. They bring life into your life. Allow yourself to take a deep deep breath, telling yourself TODAY IS A NEW DAY! Life loves me! And I no longer give up on myself ♥️ I will love that little girl in me that needs me ♥️ She can trust me ♥️ She will know how important she is ♥️ I am here for myself ♥️ I am faithful to myself ♥️ I got this ♥️ Sending all the love to you! And may each day you are reminded of the New day that is there for You ♥️

[@nesha50421]

Dr. Anita is a Christian ✝️✝️✝️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽that’s what makes her standout beautiful even more!!!!! Her light shines brighter ✨✨✨✨✨✨💫💫💫🌟🌟🌟she spoke at my church last year

[@petrajordanmusic]

This woman ROCKS! I did the work on myself some time ago when longing for commitment and I found out that I wasn't committed to my own values and therefore ended up in a messy relationship. Whatever you want from the other, turn it around and see if you're giving it to yourself first!

[@PlantedByFaith]

Back in 2010, My first marriage, on our way to the honey moon I had a bad feeling all the way to our destination! I knew I had made a mistake! I got SO sick!! I went to the dr and found out I had bronchitis and strep throat! Turns out he was living a double life. He Slept with my male best friend. We were divorced a year later! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I was so happy!! I was free!! My life has been blessed ever since! Listen to your body! It knows!

[@amani2477]

Wow I went through something similar. After I married my husband I felt a weird uneasiness immediately after all night,I couldn’t sleep, come to find out After abt a week he was living a whole double life and was deceiving me. Major heart break, I am sorry you endured that!

[@auroraleielsalama261]

"You can not hate yourself into being better." It struck me deep. Thank you Dr Anita, thank you, Lisa. ❤

[@mathembibhengu9751]

Love is about safety, we feel safe when we are loved

[@meetandinspire]

"When we lack love, faith, and hope, when we're consumed by sadness, anger, and fear, it becomes a vicious cycle. The emotions feed into each other, amplifying our feelings of despair and hopelessness. And breaking out of that cycle requires courage, resilience, and a willingness to confront our fears and take action, even when it's scary."

[@blessedqueen555]

Absolutely!!!!

[@michelledouglas-thierry3143]

Very true

[@unitrarenee1406]

Her revelation about “CON-FIDENCE” is most powerful!!! 🔥Dr. Anita’s interview was mind blowing. She is chock full of nuggets for “all things for emotional wellbeing”! Whew wee!!! 🙌 Great choice, Lisa, and you did awesome by allowing the vulnerability in yourself to add to this episode.

[@malemaline]

This healing journey never seems to end. I'm so tired.

[@masuhasu7990]

I understand ur pain dear...

[@kitihot]

I know how you feel but we feel better and better everytime we heal ❤️

[@MsChapman]

This! Praying for you love. Thank God He never leaves us and He is our strength.

[@malemaline]

@@MsChapman how do you know? Not being rude but I've prayed to God and I've heard people feel his presence. I haven't yet, have you?

[@MsChapman]

@@malemaline Great question. I have. But it took a lot of submitting and surrendering to make that connection. It’s absolutely life changing when you do. He wants that for you too. He is always there for us. We just have to make room to receive and recognize Him.

[@malemaline]

"Your emotions won't last forever but will wait forver."

[@courtneysampson3094]

That’s profound!!

[@Freya-lynn]

This struck me in so many ways..deeep!

[@thereel35studio97]

50?!!!! No way!!! 🤩🤩 you’re beautiful inside and out!! Thank you for this discussion. It validated my grief.

[@marvinasimswewinqueendom2543]

I’m usually apprehensive about watching interviews for two hours. But this was such an awesome interview it didn’t feel like two hours. Thank you Lisa for living your faith. Beautifully Empowering!🙏🏽💝

[@Freya-lynn]

Yes this was an awesome interview..Dr Anita spoke to me on so many levels..lots of aha moments

[@Sassysagg-m5o]

She is so right!!! I’m in my 50’s I’m experiencing all the past traumas in my 20’s, my narcissistic mother not nurturing me and emotionally neglecting me. It hurts so bad sometimes I can’t stop crying.😢

[@wisdomdantecourt8179]

When you realize what raised the narcissists in your life it helps a whole lot.

[@renikapadmore2775]

I'm praying for you ma'am

[@Luvurselffirst]

Listening to this twice now! I wish more therapist were like Dr.Phillips

[@Tablefor1please]

Emotions... won't last forever, but waits forever😮 A pain denied is a pain multiplied

[@winnieowens1688]

I absolutely love Anita. I’ve been watching her for over 6 months now and I always learn nuggets from her spiritually and emotionally. She is so super gifted and anointed and I pray every blessing for her.. she is definitely walking in obedience and in her calling

[@jadeballer5951]

My favourite moment is "you do not need to feel your emotions, for your emotions to be there... but, you need to feel your emotions to deal with them". Thank you 🤩

[@granitchenoppenheimer2169]

Dr. Anita Phillips A M A Z I N G!!! So much wisdom, so eloquent and inspiring thank you for this interview 🙏🏻🩷

[@ladyshaw0698]

This is one of, if not thee greatest conversations I needed at this exact time in my life. I have been so emotionally overwhelmed, and I don't have people. I needed a way to assess and deal with my current emotional state. I needed all of these practical tips, and ways to check me and check in with me. I downloaded this video, and I am buying her book. Please let her know that she came as a rescue to a very emotional woman, who was floundering. Thank you, thank you, thank you. #Shalom 🙏🏾

[@lindasamuels1764]

Profound….be faithful to myself

[@JulieAnnStone]

“Prayer is a weapon and therapy is a strategy.” I LOVE THIS!!

[@servicioslinguisticos5502]

Oh my God... That analogy of going to the grocery store hungry stopped me in my tracks. Yes! Let's pay attention to our feelings and let them show us our needs, and let's cover our needs in a healthy way with healthy people! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@yoshungoddess]

This woman embodies what she does. She loves it. I appreciate her every word! Thanks Lisa for bringing her on. 🎉

[@marediththaele1076]

Everytime i ignored and suppressed what im feeling i have always paid a great price hence ive learnt how to listen and trust myself.

[@d-etoile5596]

Lisa, you are an absolute amazing interviewer. You have so much passion in anything you talk about🎉 I luv you sister♥️

[@closingthedivide1187]

Wow, this interview was absolutely AMAZING! I couldn't believe when I got to the end of the video that it was over! To add to that, the recap at the end was just brilliant! Please invite Dr. Anita back for a second interview. Phenomenal job to you both!🎉

[@cindylouwhoo91]

She is so gorgeous . What a great free therapy session ❤

[@happy2bhere706]

Just because I’m responding big doesn’t mean I’m responding wrong. Trust your emotions

[@Karolina-i6b]

4 minutes in and I'm crying. Such a powerful message and just simple truth with an action that we can take immediately no matter the situation we are in. ❤

[@awakeninganna]

She made me cry like 10 times never heard a better interview on your show Lisa she expresses herself so beautifully I feel so validated and empowered thank you both for all you bring to this world ❤❤❤❤

[@palesamotingoe5905]

This lady spelled out exactly what I’m going through. She’s brilliant, she’s the help I needed from someone like an older sister but I wouldn’t know how to articulate the problem

[@donyamonique]

I love these 2-hour podcasts! It gives me time to digest good information thoroughly! This one was amazing! Anita's energy and communication style were so soothing.

[@esthermubiana7651]

By far the best interview of this show. Please bring Dr Anita Philips back soon. I really needed to hear this

[@daschuhow]

The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker is another excellent book about trusting your emotions/body. 53:18

[@Ponyup67]

I took baby steps even though it hurt like Hell. I was able the tolerate the guilt and finally I was comfortable leaving what was hurting me.

[@petrajordanmusic]

One more comment :) I disagree that emotions come before thoughts. For example when she says "my emotion is telling me I'm not safe", it's actually thinking first "I'm not safe" and my body responds with the emotion of fear. It's just that we might not always be AWARE of the underlying thought but it is there. And it's a logical fallacy to flip it around. For the rest, I'm in a 100% agreement that emotions are physical and that they are our absolutely crucial inner "GPS" signals when navigating this life. One way or another, it's important to listen to our feelings. I have just found that by questioning my thoughts and beliefs, and subsequently changing my perspective, I can change the way I feel about situations, people etc. So in my world, thoughts come first and they bring out emotions. That is the way I can tell whether what I'm thinking and believing is beneficial or detrimental to me.

[@tahorrawatson4019]

I had to pause this a few times... Therapy for me.. my heart.. I had to process a lot from watching this, so much revelation for my own life, And Food for my soul.. AAmazing.. Thank You God, for this.. I Feel Deliverance. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tlwilliams-boucher6866]

Dr Anita Phillips is absolute FIRE! Every time she opens her mouth she blesses my whole entire life🙌🏾

[@BlackPearlMona369]

Everyone should listen carefully to this episode. We ted to burry our emotions in this era😮 1:34:00 satisfaction & enjoyment in life

[@rosebuffalo7283]

One of the best podcasts I’ve ever seen and I’ve watched thousands! Thank you! ♥️

[@abundant_one]

One of the best interviews & 50?! Dr Anita looks absolutely amazing! 😍🙌🏽❤️✨

[@4d.4c.4b4]

I didn't finish my further studies until I was 32 and started my full time work at 33, so now in my early 40s but still not giving up on sharing my life partner when we finally find each other. LORD, give me the strength to keep holding on to that hope in you and your promises = Hebrews 10:23 💗❤ About expressing our anger, I can relate as a black woman I am very expressive of all emotions not just when I am upset. Help me that I continue to praise you LORD no matter what especially when I don't get what I thought was to be. Self-awareness my first line of defense against toxic words, actions, relationships, etc. AMEN 🙌

[@jlovelynne7096]

This is phenomenal! I appreciate you Lisa for bringing I the angry black woman topic because as a Black woman it’s so real for me! Dr. Anita Phillips is a true deliverer!!! Her words powerful and empowering! I love you both! ❤thank you for all you do.

[@CreativeDesignbyJessica]

That book is life changing! I have the audiobook, kindle and the hard back book because it was that good. I read 6 times so far💜If you can make sure you get the audiobook; her voice is so soothing it helps you get through the emotions that come out as you listen and read along. LIFE CHANGING! Thank you for this AMAZING! I enjoyed every word. I listened several times in my earbud while I'm at my desk at work. Be Blessed

[@cherwallace6026]

I am allowed to revel in the gratitude of what I am grateful for, and address the pain of areas of my life where I am dissatisfied. It’s not all or nothing!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sabinestephan9079]

OMG Lisa, Dr. Anita is soooo good 😮

[@sharonmorgan4898]

We need to cry to let our heart be light & not carry the burden .It will cause a heart attacks.

[@Heavenlyy_T]

This was such an Amazing and Powerful interview! I learned so much and wrote down key points from this interview! Dr Anita, You are a Phenomenal Women with so much wisdom to give! Thank you Lisa Bilyeu for this interview and topic! I Needed to Hear this message! ❤

[@lakisharobinson873]

Wow Dr. Anita is truly gifted...her perspectives are transformative....healing....spiritual confirmation

[@Jt-Jt]

Wow. I love this talk. Dr. Anita is amazing! ❤ I am a Psychology student and Dr. Anita has inspired me so so much. Thank you 🙏.

[@gyoumans2901]

Wow I am only halfway through and I already love this. I need to buy her book! Thank you for sharing ❤

[@avaceleste]

I love this woman…! So many powerful, tangible tips and analogies. Thank you Lisa🫶

[@Missmopeace]

This resonated with me. During COVID, I was in a great place of healing, and after the world opened back up, that feeling of connection was loud in my head. I connected to a relationship that was definitely based on wanting that human connection again, as if I missed out on something. The signs were definitely there, yet I held on to that connection. My entire world was spinning out of control. The woman who had spent two years starting her healing I ldidn’t recognize in that relationship. God needed my attention, and after experiencing nine deaths in my family, a 9-pound fibroid tumor, losing my house, and losing my job, I finally got the courage to walk away from the relationship. I ran back to my first love, which was God. Now, things are working out for my good. I later discovered why this relationship brought so much turmoil and pain. The person I thought was everything to me at that time was living an entire lie about their life. I had to feel it to heal it. Just in case someone needed clarity on why they felt like having a relationship is the only connection, know this: Community, family, and friends can give you the connection you need. I’m a witness.

[@HappyCat1111]

Confidence is faithfulness to yourself..wow! We need to be okay with being by ourselves before even considering entering a relationship. Learn to be okay with you 💖. Great podcast!

[@maramariajarvis3425]

What a wonderful guest you brought to us, I wish I could hug her for a minute or 2 , I am so grateful for her encouragements, giving me so much confidence. Empowering 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤

[@andrewc.2952]

I'm going to have to listen to this again, there's so much here to uncover and process. 🙌

[@PrimpraphaSawaengkaew]

LADY YOU MAKE ME CRY AND CRY 🙏😭😭😭

[@valentinestumpf2588]

Thank you so much 💞 51 yrs old and starting to live life for me for the first time 🌟💞💯

[@justdelightful8338]

Oh my goodness this literally has me crying !! She seems like a very good therapist so may the Most High Bless her and her family!

[@misskalinka]

What an amazing and insightful woman, I loved this interview with Dr Phillips and got so much out of it (and oh my gosh, her skin, she is so beautiful).

[@Genxmom]

I really appreciate you both for talking about issues and questions that we have but are afraid to ask. White women are taught that we cannot be angry. We are called crazy and we are living in fear.

[@dorothywest2053]

Talk about people who have no friends and family support. How to thrive single with no support?

[@rosalyleap]

Connect with God, he’s always with you

[@estherinyang4779]

Sorry about that. Hugs. People are all over the internet. You can connect with similar communities. Cheers.

[@fifitavesela]

She said that you must looking for them

[@henrikelanschuetzer4261]

You come alone, you will go alone + in-between you will share a dream. 💤

[@jp5419]

Agree connect w God, but you must create your community. Volunteer. Join a class. You have to meet new people and create connections.

[@JulieAnnStone]

“I have such a deep satisfaction right here, that it gets rid of the FOMO” Fear of Missing Out - this statement helps me so much!!! I was letting shame guide my feelings, and now I will keep this in my mind to remind me that where I am is just the right place!! ❤

[@simonembatha7707]

Didn't realize I needed this until I clicked on the video ❤️✨. Thank you Ladies

[@saty4772]

I am so glad she mentioned about faith and pray This is so important to millions of people and yes in therapy sometimes you feel you can’t express your faith in therapy because of stigma and also the therapist who may not have a belief and challenging our belief then it’s not a safe place .

[@fondahill5717]

This is so good!!! Thank you Lisa for having her on your show! Peace and blessings to all of you.

[@Ponyup67]

The fidelity knowledge brought me to tears.

[@danniellenelson9446]

Oh girl! Your guests have such powerful messages for us all. Thank you for this. One day sister, we're gonna be sitting in those comfy chairs and talking about how to Stop Abusing Yourself with Your Past, my 12 week course book about being human. Forgiving yourself Self care to the 9s through accountability and habit shifting Daily micro-rituals for greater peace Satiating vs slaying those pesky gremlins! How gratitude is attached to our belief systems... And more. Oh my word, I cannot say enough positive things about what you're doing here. One day I look forward to adding to this powerful conversation. See you then!

[@ezraesther620]

It's ok to be angry😟.....sigh...I feel so relieved

[@gamerchristina1079]

I am filled with gratitude 🙏 thank you. Thank you! Please know that, I am thankful.

[@sheachai]

My gosh Lisa thank you for introducing Anita !! I did not know her!! Finally someone who speaks my language! Amazing!! Thank you! 🙏🏻

[@Dreamygirl826]

Wow!!! She’s amazing ❤️ so much wisdom and knowledge

[@GenellJohnson-hi4dr]

Right,I pray and take a light jog.

[@pameladjackson9088]

My God , this conversation is so what I have been experiencing. Thank you , Dr. Anita and Lisa🎉❤❤❤

[@shanellbowden4423]

This conversation was helpful and insightful to me! Thank you

[@HopeFaith-d1c]

Dr Anita is so brilliant God, she explains everything with such a simplicity and clarity, i love her so much😍😍, she s a gift of God to the world🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@Aconsejandodesdeloaprendido]

And expressing anger shouldn’t be violent!

[@valiizajames925]

I so thank GOD for Dr. Anita, she has helped me so much in my ❤!

[@c.kisaakye6771]

I really appreciate this. A conversation I want to watch over and over. Thank you, Lisa and Dr. Anita ❤❤

[@Naiaworship]

Ooh, Dr. Anita just spoke to what was on my mind. I don't feel like I can heal yet because my heart is not ready. And my heart is not ready because there is still abuse and trauma going on. So maybe I just need to be present in the moment, note when my heart beats fast and shallow, when my stomach is tied up in knots, when I feel anxious and unsafe and they're telling me it's for 'no reason'. And believe it, and keep working towards health and safety. God help me.

[@Melia_Mer]

On point! 👌 Thank you for this insightful and therapeutic conversation!

[@itssimple114]

I was molested when I was 9 by another 9 year old girl. My mom let me go on a sleep over. As an adult looking back, I wonder who did those things to her that she did to me all night long basically like 2 adults having sexual relations. When I left her house I was changed, and I didn’t know it or realize it until I entered my 30’s. I didn’t know what that feeling was that she gave me so I began to seek it which made me appear impulsive, promiscuous and mean for most of my early life. I made bad decisions due to poor judgement and impulsivity. I am still healing but I am also doing better identifying myself and my needs .

[@ChillingBlank]

Jesus can heal you too. That's very devastating and unfortunate that that happened to you. ❤

[@amykessler2492]

OMG, I could not describe my feelings as well. This happened to me and I have been walking around some of my life unattached. Thank you for saying this. 😢😢 God Bless you

[@JinnellHuff]

Phenomenal!!! The information on this episode is EXTREMELY life changing for the best!!! Thank you! Thank you! ❤

[@hopejoy4119]

Wow such a great moment!!! Dr Anita is an angel sent by God on the earth...her voice her smile, the light all over her spirit. « Satisfaction is a life style not a destination » deep!!!

[@juliaamundsen4560]

❤❤❤Thank you for the wonderful interview! I loved hearing both of you speak. Very healing and helpful!!

[@nesha50421]

Dr. Anita is amazing in all of her videos!!!! She spoke at my church one time & I became a fan ever since ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@danaaganovic5045]

Thanks Lisa and Anita for this video. You girls are wonderful.

[@mamaille1229]

My goodness this was an amazing interview! First time I've listened at normal speed to make sure I digest every piece of information. I'm sharing this with everyone!

[@rettogo7]

This is another incredible conversation. Thank you

[@saracummins1]

Lisa, your interviews have helped me so many times on so many subjects, thank youuuuuuuuu! You're doing God's work! 🤍

[@jossyj1]

Thank you, Ms. Anita! This was a word and I heard it ALL and I’m grateful for you and your gift💝

[@dulcemaria22120]

Love what she said about the cultural norms and expression of emotions and anger

[@barbarahall5514]

“The toe the foot or the entire leg…” love it ❤. It can go from trauma severe betrayal and loss; narcissist sister and difficult relationship w/mother…. All at once. It’s been 5 years and I’m still hurting; now I know why…thk u Dr. Anita; thk u love ❤️ and Lisa.

[@k.v.6885]

This is so good for everyone that’s experienced trauma.

[@STLlove]

I love everything Dr. Anita!! She is AWESOME! #STLlove

[@TheIncubatorofPurpose]

Dr. Anita Philips is amazing.