moving to LA alone, starting over in my late 20s | LOFT DIARIES

[@Ileezy_]

“Anything can happen if it needed to” I love that

[@thelifewithnate]

Your 20s SHOULD be unconventional and full of experiences like this! Take it from someone like me, I just turned 28 and I have lived in three states but moving to a lot of different locations within Maine, California, and now the DC area. Moving to so many places lets you meet new people, experience new things, and develop new perspectives on life. You got this and I am so glad I found your channel!

[@manzell]

I moved to a new city where I didn't know anyone at age 23 (Portland OR); 27 (NYC), 34 (Oakland), 40 (St. Louis) before moving back to Seattle at age 41, which after 18 years away may as well have been new in terms of having a community/friends/etc. I find it super exciting!

[@kaylacruz13]

It feels less lonely when you see others starting over/starting something new. I can relate to you, you are not alone.

[@flynncampbell2446]

your ability to stay whimsy and curious despite the set backs is truly admirable, tammy! its so comforting to see you be so open and honest about struggling, but still allowing yourself to have fun. sad and silly, gentle and strong. you're gonna be ok!

[@nataliesoutlet]

Best of luck in this new chapter ✨🫶🏽💞

[@thevermilionsiren]

I escaped a very abusive relationship with a legit psychopath in my 20s and that feels like a whole other life now so regardless of what your going through TRUST ME you will make it ♡ You got this friend (insert giant virtual hug)

[@mynameislenox]

all these comments making me tear up seeing how hopeful people are after going through things in their lives 🩵 sending so much love to you Tammy & everyone here!!!

[@mynameislenox]

also i have a channel where i want to talk about things like this so it's truly inspiring to see 🥺

[@thelifewithnate]

Every is going through their own thing, however, you always have to see the silver lining in the clouds! Hope you are doing good as well!

[@mp7939]

I started over when I was 30. So definitely can relate! Moving in a different city got a new job! Best thing I could’ve done!❤

[@audriella2408]

I’m so scared to do it all alone

[@Clleonie]

Same, I move into rented apartment on Monday on my own (after living with my ex for 16 years😢) and had an interview for a new job today. I'm so scared. ​@@audriella2408

[@sydneytsay]

tammy, you truly inspire me in every way. you are so strong and resilient. i wish you all the best in this new venture and new chapter !!

[@TammyMai]

Thank you for your kind words! 🥺💐🫂

[@nihnaishizuka4806]

I'm so early! I wanna take this time to tell you that I'm really grateful to have found your channel before the end of 2023. Your videos are inspiring and have made me want to be better in 2024 :)

[@TammyMai]

Wow 🥺🤍 im so grateful for you! That really means so much

[@nihnaishizuka4806]

I'm excited to see what your journey looks like this year

[@pauln7029]

I am in my 30s and I have also moved like 5-7 times. I don't regret it at all because it is better to test your next 30 years rather than to see what you want in your 50s

[@thelifewithnate]

Bingo! I just made a comment on this about your 20s being unconventional in a sense where moving to new locations lets you meet new people and try to new things! I would rather my 20s be turbulent with moving around and trying to figure out what I want to do, than not do anything at all.

[@emmagracie9272]

Yes! Just in last 10 years, I’ve moved 5 times for new jobs and it’s prob the most pivotal reason why I’ve advanced so far in salary and savings. Being able to move every 2-3 years gave me so many opportunities in terms of work, exploring new cities, meeting new people and learning more about myself. I definitely have no regrets and would move again if the right opportunity came along.

[@orcast1046]

Until you find yourself without having accomplished anything nor being established because you were too incompetent to build a solid foundation that will hurt more so don't waste your 30s nor your 20s

[@snailstore5693]

I adore how the vibe was at the cooking class, everyone was smiling and sharing the moment together, so sweet!

[@jasminele]

im coming over

[@ohanalimaofficial]

Tammy you have the sweetest energy, when I first followed your channel I instantly felt connected to you. To see you sad hurts but I know with friends and family around time (and cooking classes) heal all wounds❤ praying for you beautiful girl

[@westtgrace]

I feel you girl, take it easy. wishing you all the best on this new journey x

[@mercedezbravo9382]

You bring me so much comfort when I watch your videos, I wish the best on this new chapter you are starting and it’s amazing how you know what you need and how you handle your situation. I’m sorry to hear you are going through something and I’ll pray for your healing & growth. You are amazing, strong, and beautiful! 🫶🏽

[@candaceroo]

Hi Tammy, I don't know what it is you are going through but I know you will tell us when/if you are ready. I am sending you the best energy and hoping whatever it is you are dealing with - will have a light at the end of the tunnel. I've been following and watching your videos since you were only a several thousand subs. You've grown so much; mind body & soul. I wish nothing but the best for you!! Take care of yourself love x

[@astrougelic]

i am struggling w my peace at the moment and my life and i just found ur channel and already im so drawn to your energy. just found my new comfort vlogger. i hope you find your peace again and i am so excited to join you on this journey of finding peace in our 20s ^-^

[@amurtezaa]

Literally thought "I wonder what she's up to" and see this upload - sending all the good energy to help you through this time 🙏🏽

[@samm291]

SO EXCITED FOR THE NEW CHAPTER 🎉❤ you got this Tammy!!!

[@TammyMai]

Thank you!!

[@MrHitStick757]

just came across your channel a couple of days ago - the ways I can resonate with this, is honestly heavy yet comforting at the same time. trying to balance achieving our goals, being stable, accessible to family, having money, while dealing with what life throws at us & just being a human feels so incredibly exhausting. But! Every day is a new opportunity, & I’m hoping things are going better for everyone.

[@shimmerngspirit]

In my mid 20’s I moved across country twice within a few months, landing in Chicago. It was a hard transition but a good one ultimately. Gosh, I just can’t stop thinking about how hurt I was when I landed at O’Hare and how the next year was such a fulfilling journey.

[@chelle5413]

I currently have a job where I do multiple jobs - RBT, but also I’m the administrator/recruiter/trainer/networker/social media manager for the company I work for. I learned when I’m overwhelmed or just exhausted and I feel all over the place, I do a quick brain dump. I brain dump using singular words for full thoughts. For example, if my mind is racing about the fact I need to cook but also need to grocery shop but the fact I should plan my meals so I know what to buy and fall into a spiral…I simply write down “groceries” and all my thoughts surrounding that word just kind of fade away. THEN I can set my pomodoro timer and get into the work zone. My mom is a therapist and she suggested that and it’s been a godsend

[@Ba0ii1]

tammy, you give so much comfort to the one's watching and rooting for you. the universe has better things in store for you. whatever you're going through will make you even stronger and resilient!! hope you feel more at ease soon! ❤️‍🩹

[@elizamarie3667]

welcome back to LA 🤍 sunny California sure missed you and is welcoming you back with warm hugs! This move is exactly what you needed and the universe holds so much plans for us

[@senlova]

This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this. I am actually in my late 20s as well and am finally moving back to la after a few years in 2 months. I truly felt all of this to my core. All the blessing on your journey hunny.

[@richiemochi]

Many people in their 20's have moved many times. Myself included have lived in AZ, NY, TX and currently back in PA. Lets just say when we are young our hormones are raging and we need our Freedom, Self Discovery, Comfort, and Peace. If you had grown up with strict parents than you will most likely be rebellious and outspoken as you've grown older. Good luck and hope you find your inner peace and stability.

[@pandaskinx]

Welcome back to SoCal! Resonating with this, born n raised here. I moved back to OC after being gone for 11yrs. I was so not okay with moving back. It was an unfortunate situation, & I also made the decision to move in a couple of days. It was crazy, & a lot to process. Things are finally coming together, & for the first time in so long I feel good I'm back. I went to the beach to just sit the other day & took in the sunset. Idk, something just felt different. I felt at home again. I sorta remembered that I used to like living here. I've been avoiding LA, another story. But, I've been thinking about taking the train maybe, go shopping, visit some old spots. Just getting back out there ya know?! I honestly used to really like SoCal, I think I needed those years away, I'm a different person now. Like you said, more confident, etc. I actually want to go back to school even. I feel empowered this year. Thanks for sharing your journey! I've been following your channel for a few months now, I didn't know you were from the area, that's cool.

[@TrevorDaniel]

i feel this. you’ve got this! if you need friends 👋

[@chelle5413]

Glosshouse! I love her! I don’t know what happened, but you are so strong and the way you work through tough situations is very inspiring. I also love how transparent you are about your feelings and you don’t make it seem like everything is perfect all the time

[@Grace-iy8hr]

I love your videos so much. It always feels like a facetime call with friends. I wish you had a podcast so you could endlessly talk abt your life experiences and knowledge. You are seriously such a comforting soul ❤

[@sierrashavon6459]

Sending you so much love and peace with whatever happened and the things you're healing through. The way you were able to quickly pivot and continue living life to the best of your abilities and still be so vulnerable at the same time is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing this new chapter with us. Keep your head up, Queen! 💖

[@Alexis-y3u]

Thank you for helping me feel inspired and not alone. I am grateful for your channel

[@LavenderLushLuxury]

Your feelings are Justified girly💕🫂🤗

[@Seyeumi]

I feel like I'm in the exact same phase of life as you... it was so weird like the things you were talking about were exactly how i was feeling 😂 I just moved back home to LA after years away, and I'm in my mid twenties now and I'm grateful for all of the experiences I had, but I'm scared and excited for this new chapter. It was so nice to watch this vlog and think that someone else might be going through the same thing 🥹💜 hang in there girlie hope things keep looking up and get better for you real soon 💕

[@Maislifestyle]

Already in my mid 20s and still afraid to get out of my comfort zone and try new things but your videos have been so inspirational ❤ good luck

[@adelaidethomas538]

tammy i just wanna let you know i have cried so deeply watching your videos. i didn’t know if i could do it on my own & you’ve shown me i could do so much more.

[@oliveliketheolive]

I can't wait to see your new beginnings! I moved to Berlin after living abroad for two years and it's a completely new chapter for me as well. exciting and scary at the same time. We got this! :)

[@danialot3819]

I just ended a 9 yr relationship a few days ago and i feel like going through the same thing,i’m moving and learning everything again…but it feels good, we gotta take care of ourselves

[@jorlandomakeup3756]

LA traffic is so manageable compared to FL traffic. In LA it’s traffic for miles but it’s constant moving. FL is like congested, slow moving stopping and going traffic for 30 minutes for 2 miles and the other 30 miles takes 30 minutes 😂😂

[@bybnca]

you're gonna love LA, excited to see this new journey for you

[@chloeshih]

omg glossy is truly the GIRL'S GWORLLL!! love her and how she came into your life this way. congrats on the new move, tam!! excited for your new life in LA!! i just know it's gonna be an incredible chapter for you~

[@christinehorn9751]

I can't speak to what you're going through, but last year, just before the holidays, I found myself in a situation. I'm not sure if I fell off the wall, was pushed off, or if the wall fell on me but, I had to make some decisions and own up to serious accountability. It sucks; there's no other way to look at it. Whatever you're dealing with, everyone has their struggles. I hope this marks the beginning of an authentic and kind chapter in your life. -it did for me. Sending love and hugs from a complete stranger.

[@kylewilliams6184]

Congrats, Tam Mai!!! I think that it’s wonderful that you’ve found place in L.A. again. I’m in New York, so I’ll miss the opportunity to meet you one day, but that’s ok. I think you’re beautiful and with all of your talent, wit and sense of dedication, you’ll be just fine!! Good luck and have a great 2024 and beyond!! 😊

[@spelliesitspets]

I found your channel at the perfect moment 🤩 Had a terrible roommate situation which resulted in me losing my entire group of friends and having to move out in 3 days. The past few weeks have been so similar to what you’re going through, and I’m so glad I’m not alone in this ❤❤

[@angiepham1865]

your videos are so relaxing, it's like i'm talking to a friend

[@Luxedeb]

I relate so much!! I’m also starting over in my late 20’s and living alone with my dog 🐶

[@Monicaalynn]

Ugh, I weant to be your friend. You're energy is the type of energy I need in my life. You're so free spirited. I just started following you pretty recently and you're part of my motivation for wanting to push myself to make youtubing, fulltime. Please never stop making videos. Love you

[@n5ncy]

Know that you have been going through so much & look how far you’ve come. Im proud of you & happy i found you :)

[@mayatagwerker]

Letting go of self-destructive attachments...whew I felt that. Congrats on the new chapter and journey!

[@peppinger7911]

I'm at this weird place n my life bc I just moved back in with my parents and I'm one semester away from graduating uni + I'm already starting to look for a job for after uni and I'm also trying to figure out if, when and where I want to move but all of that it feels so intimidating since I'm still batteling with some mental health issues. This video gave me some comfort, so thank you for uploading this :) 💕

[@thelifewithnate]

You got this Pep! Moving back in with your parents is nothing to be ashamed of, especially with trying to find a job after college. That was me when I graduated in 2017 for a while and it was tough finding a job. It is intimidating as heck but you can survive it because you will make it out stronger! Cheers!

[@kindlycooking96]

Hi! Thank you for sharing this. I'm 28 and just moved back to SoCal after a ~traumatic~ experience while living on the east coast for the past 9 years, and it's made me have a lot of doubt and concern about what I'm doing w/ my life. I'm currently interviewing for a dream role in LA and looking at apartments out there should it all work out, and your video just provided so much comfort. I'm sorry about whatever transpired that made you have to leave- you clearly have a bright, kind soul and deserve nothing but good things- but if it's any consolation your journey is incredibly inspiring and validating for people like myself going through similar tumultuous eras. I'm scared to start over with few friends, no love life, etc, but you give me hope that'll it'll all work out, somehow. Thank you

[@mariellafayesantos2978]

absolutely rooting for you, sending all my love to you Tam

[@sarah.tamashiro]

Ever since I discovered your channel, I went to watch all your past videos and have been watching all the videos every time you post a new one - I just really love everything about you! Wishing nothing but the best in your new chapter❤

[@sasha_hardy]

thank you for posting this & sharing your experience, even through a hard time. I recently went through a breakup and had to move back to my home state, so this resonates with me. I hope you’re okay & just know your subscribers love/appreciate you! 🥰

[@robynhokulani]

I know change can be difficult sometimes but you are such a resilient soul Tammy! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I know it takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to put yourself out there! Please take the time to heal and process everything you need to! Also, please stay warm and safe with atmospheric river in full swing! ❤️

[@themacabrewolf9960]

For a car segment you can do Tami Talks? or Tams Topic? I'm so happy for you! You got this and thank you for taking the time to share❤ To a good start this NEW YEAR 🥂

[@ilovemayling]

oh tammy… a heartbreak is a different type of experience humans just cant comprehend. and yet you handle it so well and healthy. hope you will get through this soon. you have such a sweet angel soul and spirit.

[@Robinhartz]

Man what a lovely video feels like catching up w an old friend Funny to see others living my dream lol. I wanna flee down to la so bad just start over in a new city run around n have fun Hope you find what you’re looking for

[@jyc313]

I've started over in my mid 30's. Don't worry you got this.

[@archaicsushi]

I love your videos so much, I am always so much more productive after watching them. Best of luck in your new place - it’s so cool! Please could I request an updated skincare routine? I think we have the same skin type and I’d die to have skin like yours!

[@jenverine]

Hello Tammy, I’m also about to start a new chapter of my life, I guess that’s why KZbin recommended me your video! I fall in your vlogs immediately ❤ all the best for your new chapter of life :)

[@bngr_bngr]

I never felt like I ever wanted to leave LA. This is my place on earth forever.

[@didyousayEggFries]

10 seconds into the video! Subscribed!! You have an angelic voice♥

[@alexsheppe]

Good luck on your new chapter, hoping to move to L.A. myself soon too.

[@Kuwmt.ambitiousmeca]

new subbie, in my mid 20s going through the same thing, looking to move to vegas in the next few months. I have been alone for awhile all my family back in my hometown chi, and i have found so many excuses to wait til the perfect time to just make a move on my goals and launching a business, and im very glad i came across this video because it feels good knowing im not a lone. Also, if you can take a chance on your self (not even knowing that you would be in LA within two weeks). That's awesome!! amazing & dope asf. Its definitely encouraging me to make the move 5x more.

[@jasmine283]

It’s amazing that you moved back to LA. I love it out here in California. I finally moved here in 2020. One of the most beautiful states in America to me. Much blessings on the move back 🤍🙏🏽

[@SirKoko1218]

New subscriber here ✨ Been loving your content and I wish this new part of your life is full of growth, opportunities, and joy. A quote I love to tell myself whenever a big change happens in my life is, “What a wonderful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven’t happened yet.” Also, love that I saw Asia Jackson in your vlog 😍

[@gastronomee_]

Fellow 20s creator here - reflecting on a lot of the same points you raised. Cheers to you ❤

[@tahnpark1267]

This may not be what you imagined but so happy you are looking forward to being in LA! Hope I get to meet you! Your lofts give me inspiration 🎉

[@aignefrench3472]

though i didn’t have to move to a different state. a few weeks ago i had 48 hours to move into a new apartment. i couldn’t believe i pulled it off. at that point i knew if i really want something done, it can be done

[@poppycalliope]

Your friends are so supportive and beautiful Tam, I'm sure there will be next to you during this new chapter. Always know that we're here next to you as well, as your internet friends! I'm sure this new beginning is both challenging and exciting. Always remember that when "one door closes" another one will open, very soon! Much love to you Tam ❤

[@Noizedas]

i moved across the country to portland when i was 28 , didnt know anyone here. 7years later i was able to buy a house here , im 42 now, havent looked back , keep moving forward all we can do

[@regandenny10]

i’m moving tomorrow and this blog helped me a lot

[@TerryNortonAustin]

Tammi…sending good wishes for your life back in LA. You’re so brilliant, unique and authentic. Shine your bright light wherever you go. Loves 💛💛✨✨

[@johndoeee888]

Youll do fine! Stay open minded and stay positive. Pick your friends carefully out there.

[@raihana.onfilm]

I wish you nothing but the best in this new chapter 🧡

[@FromTheHipp]

i'm also moving back soon and i cant wait. i miss LA like crazy.

[@continentalgin]

All best wishes to you, Tam! We'll miss you in Expo!

[@jayanamii]

this may be a bit personal, so i apologize if it comes off that way, but im really curious on how youre able to finance your amazing adventures. i would love a video on that topic and your budgeting process and such if youre comfortable with it because your life is really inspiring and seems so lovely.

[@shachede6828]

Ohh my God why can I relate to you so much! 😭😭😭

[@annetteyadon878]

Whatever the reason prayers are going up for you and that this move will be just the thing that you need and to make you happy and figure out whatever it is you need to figure out and did great in your life. I really enjoy your channel and I hope you get through whatever happened happened and that everything will be OK and work out for you❤

[@Nwabi1801]

All the best Tammy! You are so relatable!! Also seeing Christine Le in this vlog was so lovely! You are definitely in good hands! ❤

[@TheSmiley84]

All feelings you're feeling can co exist at the same time, be gentle with yourself. Whatever you're going through, your feelings are valid. You matter and everything will be ok. Eventually. Just be patient with yourself and show yourself grace throughout. Take one day at a time. Please eat well, on time. Stay hydrated. Be gentle, change can be a form of grief too. So just know, it's ok to not be ok. Sending you love & light through this stage, it will pass. Be kind to yourself

[@hilaryespena]

you are so so inspiring 🫶🏽

[@enidreasworld]

wishing you the best and brighter days in your new chapter!! seeing how solid and supportive your friends are was honestly goals~

[@KiarA-LA]

Tammy! I freaking love your videos! You are so cute and smart! I wish we could meet to become friends because i feel like we would get along so well. I am in my twenties just turned 26 and I have moved around a bunch. As wild as it felt, leaving the place you grow up is never a bad decision. LA is going to be like a fresh start for you especially now with your platforms!!! Congratulations on your move to LA! I hope that you heal and everything gets better from what happened. This is going to be an amazing year and I am so excited to continue watching your videos! Xoxo

[@LavenderLushLuxury]

Sending you love for your next chapter in life love you 😎🤎💛🖤 The food looks amazing sis

[@terena_world]

ahhh love this new chapter for you :'). as always love the vibes your videos bring and your energy is so radiant

[@Simplystarra]

I completely feel your feelings because a similar situation happened to me back in May 2023 and it was involving family members and we had a perfect home a perfect situation and due to greed… a family member decided to sell the house and this caused me to immediately evacuate from my home and find a place within a week and it was very heartbreaking. It caused rift in my family personally, and I’m still having to deal with the feelings of betrayal, hurt and anxiety… hang in there. I know that we’re hanging on with you.

[@TheGetawaygirl007]

Welcome home! And welcome to your new beautiful safe haven. Can't wait to see how you make it your new home. May love and God keep you strong in your healing. Friends are the best, spend time with them, they will help you on this path. Much love from fellow LA native. ❤

[@toshioikene8200]

Awesome journey. Enjoy life as much as you can. Hooray! Have a good one.

[@tonymathieu7449]

Absolutely LOVED this vlog

[@ZeroSkullee]

good luck in your new chapter. LA welcomes you

[@natalieest]

All my favorite content girlies in one video ♡

[@octoberstorm3333]

I’m 27 and moved states on a whim. Didn’t get my first car til 26. Just still figuring out things, best of luck! We got this

[@yingcihuang4411]

it sounds like you're going through your Saturn Return! i had a similar experience and moved back home after almost a decade of being away. things eventually ironed out and im on a different and more rewarding career path now (a teacher). give it time and be open to change. best of luck girlie! ♡

[@g.y.p.s.y.]

Good luck in LA, Personally I would not recommend moving there but, I am sure you will enjoy the best that city has to offer.

[@ChanoWilliams]

I'm 39 and recently got an apartment in Phoenix, AZ. I lived in Phoenix for a very short bit when I was 19, after moving away from Anchorage, AK. I decided to move back to Anchorage because I knew I was running away and felt like I should tackle my issues head-on. 10 years later I wound up traveling a bunch, visited all 50 states, and moved to New York and New Jersey for a bit. Eventually I found myself in New England in 2019, then the pandemic happened. I've learned a lot about myself over the years. I've made tons of friends everywhere I've been. I have no regrets with any of my decisions. Phoenix feels like it'll be a nice place to call home. I'll still travel as I've always done, but I'll have a bit more stability as well. You'll do well in LA, utilizing all of your gained knowledge to create new memories and overcome new challenges. Thanks for sharing your experiences! Edit: A bit more details on my most current situation so that I can show how much I relate to your recently hectic life of moving: I really wanted to move closer to Boston as that's where I found myself spending more time, but it's so much more expensive as you get closer to Boston. Doing so on a single person income is nearly impossible unless you max six figures. Also my job circumstance was shifting. On top of that, a buddy of mine was losing his place that he'd been at for 15 years. So instead of trying to move closer to Boston and/or finding a new job/new place on the East Coast (I looked into NY/NJ again, but also too expensive), I decided that maybe it was time to move back west. So at the end of December I gave my buddy my apartment and I moved into a temporary basement apartment at the house of a family I'm friends with. I signed the lease on my apartment in north Phoenix in mid-January and drove a car full of some of my stuff down there last week. I ordered some furniture and got a new queen mattress. I just got back up to New England yesterday morning and I'm gonna drive back down to Phoenix with the rest of my belongings in a week. I have a job interview this afternoon, so we'll see how that goes! Definitely stressful the past couple of months! But, as you said, anything is possible, especially when you're determined. My mom (elderly) and sister (special needs) still live in Alaska and we think Phoenix will be a good fit for us. The apartment is a temporary situation while I get situated. My mom's originally from northern California, so we're close enough to visit family, but far enough to not be too caught up in the drama. lol