Mr. Rogers talks to parents about their own experiences raising their children. Circa 1983.

Fred Rogers talks with parents in the 1980s about how they deal with their children while they are growing up. What is discussed here is just as relevant today as it was back then. Some things don't change no matter how much time passes.

[@bentheswitchsportsfan06]

When I first saw this almost a decade ago, I found this as a learning path to cure my behavior as a person who was used to being disciplined a lot as a child. I hated being disciplined as a kid, but watching this video back then taught me a lot about how important it was to have parents, and it made me respect my parents a lot more than I used to as a child. I thiParentsld see this as a learning lesson before disciplining their children. Plus, with this being 42 years old, it gives people who grew up in the 80s and parents who started becoming parents in the 80s that one case of nostalgia, and it gives them memories of how it was like to discipline their child years ago vs. how they discipline their child years now and years later.

[@shortyperella4660]

I really needed this. As a 90’s baby now raising her own kids, it was nice to know me rogers is still able to teach me. I need to get back to this type of lifestyle and living. Thank you for posting this. It really helped me in a time of need.

[@Steve-vk6dh]

It is tough being a parent, in any age or era. In a sense we are blessed to live in the time we live in now. But the one thing we don't have enough of is guidance. How do we navigate this life at age 3 or age 90? At every level its always tough. Mr. Rogers is a good resource for how to navigate life. As well as many authors from the biblical period. If you look around us today, many folks need guidance, but don't know where to look for it, and often its the guidance we don't want, but need.

[@scoogsy]

Don’t feel alone. I’m 40 with two young kids and it’s so great to hear these parents with their struggles. I’m struggling too sometimes. We can do this together.

[@aaronpisarski9237]

Well,I don't have children but discipline is needed daily. Treat them like they are special.thats just wonderful

[@scoogsy]

I’m 40 now with two young kids. Talk about “the more things change, the more things stay the same”. Me. Roger’s is way ahead of his time.

[@orriechristopher862]

Fred Rogers is one of my favorite teachers

[@curtisallred7250]

He was the best. He can't be replaced. Shame that stomach cancer got him. 😢 He died on 2/27/2003 at age 74.

[@patmaurer8541]

It's important to understand that "discipline" and "punishment" are not the same thing! Discipline means to teach to a standard of excellence; while punishment means to inflict pain on someone who displeases you. It is entirely possible to guide children into intelligent, responsible, compassionate adults without using punishment. In fact, punishment (including shaming) STUNTS that process. Because using power to control other people denies them the opportunity to develop intrinsic motivation.

[@priscillapowers1014]

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[@seanhendricks4705]

So I have to ask.... When you do something that causes you pain... Are you as inclined to do it again? Consequences right? And when the consequences are inadequate... Such as time out to think about the negative action that they enjoyed ... Psychopaths spend time recollecting the pain they cause others. I wonder if maybe they never had that swat on the behind, slap on the hands etc. or were they awarded with time to enjoy the rush of the "crime"... And think of ways to get away with it next time... If you hate your children you spare the rod . The staff being the large stick used to gently nudge in the right direct, and avoid pitfalls... The rod to smack the sheep around (which I have seen personally and was one of the most comical moments of my tour in Iraq, calmly recovering the sheep out of the razor wire, using soothing tones.. and then as soon it was free, neat that sheep like it owed it owed him money!) now.. am I suggesting you beat your children with a short rod like that? No of course not. But I bet that sheep will stay away from the razor wire now.. and a swat here and there gives a reminder later about that action again. Honestly easiest lessons my parents got through to me was a hand to the backside, or quick thump from my grandfather.. and things I did to hurt myself after being told what would happen?..."what did you learn?" Pain is an excellent teacher.

[@munimathbypeterfelton6251]

I agree that punishments have to be gauged carefully and issued appropriately versus inappropriately. However, as a former schoolteacher myself, I can tell you that non-punitive ways of disciplining children doesn’t always work. Asking children to think about things that they have done wrong or didn’t do at all but should have and how that affects them and their peers in the long run is basically obligating children to think like adults and their brains are simply not developed enough for that yet. It is healthy and essential for both children and adults to express themselves comfortably and openly at all times. But if there is some wrongdoing among one or more of the parties present in different situations, it must be pointed out; the wrongdoers must be pinpointed; and proper-but-appropriate punitive discipline is warranted. As long as the adult authority figure present explains why the punishment is issued, and that hopefully the punishment will never have to be repeated in the slightest provided the wrongdoer rights their own wrongs going forward, then the intended message will hopefully get across to the other party. Positive reinforcement is always welcome. But it’s perfectly alright for the person in charge to put their foot down when necessary.

[@LoyalmoonieProductions]

"Spare the rod, spoil the child..." is the worst excuse in the book to justify abuse...and this comes from an Autistic adult who was forced to call police on my own mom for spanking.

[@rodneygriffin7666]

Mr. Rogers' message is for people Old and New. I grew up with Mister Rogers when i was a child. I'm 58 years old now, and i still learn from him. How to manage my own anger, How to value discipline, How to value myself, How to treat other, How to live my life with kindness, How to hope when I feel there is no hope at all, How to use my imagination to creativity solve problems, How to use my gifts to be a better person, How to be a better person... Mr. Fred Rogers' message isnot solely for children, His message is for adults too, Who sometimes behave as children. ✌️♥️

[@peyote2thumbs]

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[@speedyretreat]

15:20, she was not ready for that. Imagine being able to get an outside perspective from Mr Rogers... So many of us could use that now

[@AdityaSaurabh]

I just learned that Fred Rogers wanted the messaging to be inclusive. He was working for Ministry and entire program was part of that role. Yet, he worked very hard to keep the values without keeping things specific to any single religion. All this hard work to keep his show inclusive for all the religions. Amazing!

[@JackDuskvideo]

Children are inherently curious and emotionally immature. They test the limits of what they can do and what is okay because its part of the process of learning. Its starts when their babies they wanna put everything in their mouth and they cry because crying is all they know. Discipline isnt about punishment its about structure. Adults learn to create and develop discipline for themselves and even thats a challenge. So its essential that kids have a helping hand to channel their ideas and energy into things that are safe, fair and kind without being stiffling and dont squash their creativity and curiosity. Its also important not to take a childs misbehavior or bad action personally or an opportunity for retribution because that devience is almost always from a lack of structure.

[@patmaurer8541]

It's also important that parents' rights and needs are also taken into account. Thankfully, there are skills that anyone can learn, to create a home where everyone has a voice and everyone's needs are met: Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.).

[@SkeletonBill]

I love this video, it's such a calm and respectful discussion. You can feel the reverence these people have for Fred, some of them probably grew up watching him themselves.

[@animathehallowed1380]

Born in ‘91. Watched the show and loved this man. Old school disciplined like this too. Used to be so so SO mad at my mother for it too back then. But as an adult now, I appreciate that it was done. Taught me to act right and be a good person. I see kids nowadays in society and the ones that are around my son and holy crap does it make me shake my head so so much on what the world is now.

[@Nuggets22798]

There was one time, where my mom and dad got angry, I have autism and A.D.H.D They got angry and upset because a school psychologist called me “ mildly retarded” After my 18th birthday is when I found this information out. I was angry and I had to go upstairs and went to my room and instantly remembered what Mister Rogers Said. “ the biggest thing about being grown up is forgiving the person who’s been mean to you especially if that person is yourself” I blamed my disability on myself for 18 years and still do and was mean to myself and my mom and dad became so hurt by this school workers comment. I met this school psychologist years later and I asked her if she remembered what she called me, in elementary school and her eyes opened up almost as if she was about to cry. I said to her, mam I want you to know, that although what you said was not right, I forgive you. She nearly cried. If mister Rogers saw this I think he’d be proud of me, no matter where he is, I hope that he saw me and smiled from heaven. God bless you mister Rogers and thank you for teaching me

[@thomasnicastro673]

I’m on the same spectrum as well. And your story was inspiring. My story of my elementary school years have been my personal hell. I never forgave most of my teachers, because, except for a couple of them who happened to have Autism community training, knew exactly how to do with me, while my other ones, have no training and treated me as a repudiated (which means as I read “refuse or to be associated to accept with”) to me. My teachers were nothing but punishing to me, which often led to an emotional abusive without hurting me, but hurting my life! I often attack my parents for no apparent reason because it kept me thinking from what my teachers and principals did to me. I don’t have A.D.H.D., but I am on the same spectrum as you. I felt guilty not knowing about Fred Rogers because I rejected him at a young age and it’s sometimes for the best, but at 19, when I saw “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood” with Tom Hanks and Matthew Rhys and the documentary of “Won’t You Be My Neighbor”, when it streamed on Netflix or something, his messages and his personality are what made me an instant fan of. I may not be good at keeping silent when something irritates me or makes me angry, but when I can, I will forever go back to the shows of early childhood education into learning and studying the psychology of a child and learning how to connect with them, without being strange looking or making funny faces at them. Fred Rogers was the greatest example for me to try and experiment the good paces of learning to move on and share a good quality, and even try to be a good neighbor to others, even though I never forgave the people who hurt me. I should anyway in spirit because in the Bible, Jesus says in Ephesians or in Colossians… I don’t know since most of the scriptures talk about forgiveness. He says that we must be kind to one another and tenderhearted as God forgave us! I believe in discipline as a good excuse for teaching each other away from the intolerance to do bad things, it also connects us closely with Christ our savior as well.

[@hushedhands6321]

On the one hand I find this very open, beautifully honest and gives me a sense of camaraderie. But on the other hand, I wish there had been more specific discussion around HOW these parents disciplined their children. The manner in which it happens, generally speaking, is very important. this all feels a little abstract

[@patmaurer8541]

Dr. Thomas Gordon is a family psychologist who developed a set of tools called "Parent Effectiveness Training" (P.E.T.). It teaches a very specific set of skills that enable parents to guide, influence, and teach--without punishments of any kind! Generations of highly successful, peaceful and happy people have been raised in this way. And there are decades of scientific research explaining why.

[@TheGirlWhoFeltTooMuch-Yayaa]

He does have a parenting book that is wonderful. I pull it out regularly to assist me with things I am struggling with as a parent. And there are many other books he wrote that I have found invaluable as well. I believe he did several of these talks also.

[@iannidd]

Too bad there's not millions of likes for this video.

[@tiajensen3569]

Mr Rogers was ahead of his time and I wish every parent saw this video it shows different perspectives and shows that parenting and being a child is hard. And it always is. No matter the times. Most people try to do their best, as a parent or child. And he made it so normal. He tried to give everyone a platform. He didn’t judge but he did question. We need a million more of him today but I’m glad i grew up with him. And glad so many others did as well. You do your best. Your kids do their best. But let people question and push you to do better. If we all had this kind of checks and balance system or a “village” (which we just don’t have ) parents and kids would be better off. But everyone gets upset parent are just people you can’t expect them to be perfect . I love how Katie didn’t even remember that her mother got so mad maybe the parent thought that but that’s not how the child remembered it. Everyone has feelings. No one is perfect. We are all trying our best. No adult nichole is perfect he did his best to show that there are so many different ways to approach parenting and that doesn’t make you ad or good. The way the child reacts isn’t bad or good. It’s just life. Can we please bring Mr Roger’s back 😭😭😭😭

[@tiajensen3569]

Yeah typos I don’t even remember what I said wrong but the gist of it is there 😅

[@tiajensen3569]

Yeah typos I don’t even remember what I said wrong but the gist of it is there 😅 But then you also see how all these different children of different abilities and different social backgrounds respond to his questions and he is so open and understanding. Parenting is not one size fits all. You need to just understand your child and let them understand you and the world. My novel is I’m sure not helpful to others but it helps to process and he let those parents process their problems without judgment None of us are alone. There is always someone going through something at least similar. And Mr Rogers is here to show that. Who’s gonna be the next Mr Rogers? The world needs it….

[@kingbopit9318]

It’s such a good feeling

[@donjones4885]

😊 I know he's in heaven and he still talking to the kids in heaven

[@TheGirlWhoFeltTooMuch-Yayaa]

Oh I think he's sending some of those kids he's been talking to right on down to us to help us all.

[@anonymousdonor]

My children probably wished that I would say, "Because I said so." For them, the punishment was having to hear a long, drawn-out explanation about why their behavior is unacceptable riddled with multiple anecdotes. 😂

[@tedtheodoropoulos3658]

They need to rebroadcast this

[@patmaurer8541]

"They just seem to be born with the ability to exert their own will!" Well, YES! Because they're individuals, with their own needs, thoughts, feelings, and opinions. I can't imagine why this surprises people. ;-)

[@Angie-GoneSoon]

I remember watching him. He had a way of making you feel like he was talking to you, and no one else. I wish I really could have talked to him. I have a few things I would have liked to talk about, and ask him. When he said my parents loved me and wanted the best for me, I wanted to know why my father had to beat me. Why didn't he stop with one or two smacks? Why did he hit me so hard and so long my legs bled? Why would he just smack me upside the head when i was too loud? Why didn't my mother try to stop him? So many questions. Now I'm 54, soon to be 55 in September. These are questions I'll never have an answer for.

[@alexangleton4082]

What a good video. He said one word. Honesty. I want my girls to be honest to their mother. I want them to be honest to me. We all have feelings. Sometimes they are good, sometimes bad, but always with love. Fred Rogers was a Saint

[@zachminder8084]

I miss him 🤧❤️

[@kristinlambert8811]

The neighborhood of make-believe in Mr. Rogers' neighborhood has had four child puppets and in order from oldest to youngest is tad frog, Ana platypus, prince Tuesday and Carrie Ann Templeton Jones

[@ramonaward6213]

Can they add more Mr Roger's neighbors episodes

[@mirandavinci4146]

Positive discipline is better than negative discipline. You don't ever spank your kid's. Don't discipline your kids the way your parents did. You got to do what you think is best

[@yellowjacket588]

Mr. Rogers isn’t really correcting anything here he does a lot of listening.

[@OCEAN-c2g]

I indian we got slapped ,beaten by stick , shoes,pulled by hair ,punched, kicked. But its not called physical abuse .its just daily routine.😅😅

[@alistairgeorge5082]

India is a sad place.

[@meowyest_ion]

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