How to Have More Success with Men, Dating, & Relationships

[@Lissaboo05]

I’m getting modern day Aurora (sleeping beauty) vibes from your look here! So cute!

[@raspberrysoda372]

Her dress kind of looks like the Briar Rose dress too!

[@vivekmanimaran408]

I'm bewitched by her 😭😊😊 goddamn cute and clever.

[@comandlikes]

omg but now you’ve said it !! she definitely is

[@kmay6365]

I have been with my husband 11 years, married for 6. I asked him when we were dating what is favorite part of his childhood was and he said it was that his mom stayed home and was always there for them. In these current times, I feel like some men will lie just to get you to let your guard down. But answers like my husband gave, can not be faked. Praying for all the women here looking for a husband. We are here supporting you!

[@Chydova]

Thank you so much! It is very refreshing in hearing such words rather of "singleness is a gift " stuff, it gets tiring. Please keep me in your prayers. For many years I have been waiting and praying for a good godly man. Now in my 30s getting a bit overwhelmed...its as if God doesn't care..

[@anyapi987]

Thank you!!!

[@jmcast3195]

@@Chydova my friend found her husband on Christian Mingle.

[@Chydova]

@@jmcast3195 I don't believe in online dating. Any other suggestions where to meet good available men?

[@_____1865]

@@Chydova This may not even be a good advice, but statistically how most people meet their life long partners is by mutual friends, and I found my love like this too. I was always *too* stuck up on my own world, focused just on my education, never wanting to hang out, thinking there was no one out there for me, etc.. and one day I just started to say YES to all my friend's invitations and be more positive and open to talk to strangers whenever the opportunity arrived. I started to just do more hobbies and go to places I don't get overwhelmed socially but still force to interact with the world (yet still by my friend's skirt wich made me secure); such as hiking, camping, paintballing, escape rooms (lol), anything related to animals and just any other fun activities to let me loosen up a little and just enjoy life. I've met several people like this and one day one of the guys that became good friends with my other friend, was with HIS friend (that is now my boyfriend), and it clicked to him we would get along so he presented us with second intentions as we were both introverts, commited, all that jazz. And to make things better we started to just hang out together with our friends first, doing all these fun activities with no anxiety wich bonded us even more so that one day we finally decided to get out of the skirt together :) So basically, I guess: avoid toxic places with hooking up culture if your intention is to meet someone who wants to settle down, and just go live a little with genuine people who also want to simply hang out without second intentions and within these interactions, someone may know someone that may know someone that may change your life haha. It's not the easy way, but it's the least risky imo. Too long and poor english so sorry!!!!!!

[@nmernst]

"Stop chasing men..." Yes, yes, and yes. Great stuff and have a great day!

[@paigec5017]

Yess that was my favorite point! I now tell my single friends that if my guy climbed a mountain to get 10 minutes of service to talk to me, brad could have texted you back. Please ladies think to yourself if you really want someone you have to drag to make you feel loved and gaurd yourself from men who make you feel like you are losing your dignity.

[@blue4u2054]

I am much older than you, not a christian, not looking to be traditional or feminine but I still really enjoy your videos. I love that you're not pushy with your religion or values but just generally accepting and living your own good life out there. I wish more of us were like you personality-wise.

[@MrsMidwest]

Happy you are here my friend!

[@jamesr.g.2320]

“Not a Christian” and “looking to be traditional” is an oxymoron in the West

[@blue4u2054]

@@jamesr.g.2320 I said that I was "not" looking to be traditional.

[@jamesr.g.2320]

@@blue4u2054 my statement still stands

[@blue4u2054]

@@jamesr.g.2320 No, it doesn't. Read this again - I am not a Christian ; I am not looking to be traditional.

[@redpilledgoomba228]

Ephesians 4:2: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

[@RedAndTheCompany567]

❤❤❤

[@iGhostr]

That a suprising comment from a MGTOE

[@SwanTheQueen]

But the scripture also says to stay away from those that doesn't serve our spiritual purpose. We can pray for some men but doesn't mean we have to be gentle and patient with all of them. Specially those who can't provide us and our children.

[@SwanTheQueen]

iGhost Only when it's convenient for them I think

[@redpilledgoomba228]

@@iGhostr Oh boy you got me! Im ruined! Im finished! Ill never work in this town again! 😄 I like some parts of MGTOW of course, but I am not a MGTOW. Being red pilled doesn't automatically make you a MGTOW ya know. Love is a real thing and a lasting marriage is achievable even today. Learn to live unselfishly and God will pair you with the right person as a reward.

[@Demi.d3mi]

Men like to feel like they have EARNED you. When you give them all the feminine things that a marriage includes, men dont feel like they did enough to earn it and they get bored. I found it helpful to not play hard to get, but the opposite. Be open and warm and inviting, guys really crave that because its so rare! But be sure to set your boundaries as you do so, let them know your boundaries.

[@krazyoldkatlady192]

squishy booty okay, but women who work can also be there for their children right?

[@Demi.d3mi]

@@krazyoldkatlady192 in my experience and opinion, it depends on how much time you spend with your child. If they are spending all day in daycare, you lose the special bond and moments with them and very young children really do *need* that strong reliant relationship with the mother. It might seem to a lot of people that babies wont notice and it wont affect them as they grow up, but children remember everything and if they dont feel secure at a young age it can stay with them for a lifetime. Now school age kids can be a different story since they have a bit more independence, but if you arent there for them in the morning and evenings, you are too absent from their lives.

[@krazyoldkatlady192]

squishy booty Actually, that's not exactly true. Empirical research has found that it is the sensitivity of the parent, as well as other factors, that is most impactful on that bond. Furthermore, children in daycare can still very much bond with their parents. Children who are raised at home can also bond with their parents, but bonding in either setting isn't guaranteed because there are so many other factors that determine a child's healthful development. Psychology Today, a scholarly publication, published an article on this topic in 2017 titled, Non-Parental Daycare: What the Research Tells Us, that backs up my point. This article can be found on Google.

[@justsayin5048]

KrazyOldKatLady 19 I don’t need research to tell me that me and my siblings resent my mother for choosing her career over her children. It’s not always the case, but a lot of ambitious working mothers are so caught up in the mindset of being an individual outside of motherhood, that being a mother takes the backseat altogether. Daycare is fine, as long as the separation truly is limited to daycare. Even then, I can’t imagine any mother being sound of mind allowing their children in a stranger’s care for so many hours a day. Missing a lot of those small moments that make raising children. I was always closer to teachers and caretakers than I was to my mother.

[@martinbengtsson244]

Good response! :) You are on to it. Men want to be of use and for being useful they want respect. That is earned respect.

[@wwilii]

I was just in the shower wondering if I'll be forever single..

[@patriciagss2024]

Please. You can take care and love yourself. Being in a bad relationship is the same as nothing. Trust me. You can also take care of ypurself, her tips are good for it, and your home, your bedroom...whatever. Feel.you deserve a good guy because you're a special woman.

[@sofiaelizondo154]

you deserve the best

[@Pretty_clear]

Girl you had me walking around the grocery store on Sunday in my home making dress picking up food for my week. And all I could think about is how proud you would be of this transformation I’ve had. (Because of how proud I am of it) I love every video you make and try to apply what feels authentic within myself. You are truly a diamond in this KZbin world, Sharing your gold with all of us. And teaching us how to be diamonds too. I grew up in a domestic violence household where femininity was forced upon and was taught to be seen as degrading and weak. You have changed my outlook on such a deep sensitive subject for me personally. And I can’t be grateful enough for the gift of your existence. 👗👠

[@MrsMidwest]

This is a beautiful comment! Thank you for sharing and for encouraging me all at the same time. You are so right! I AM proud of you! Mostly for the new confidence and passion you've found for life. What a beautiful testimony! Keep sharing and inspiring others my love!

[@Pretty_clear]

Mrs Midwest 🦋❤️

[@swelnel1669]

@Pretty Clear I’m so glad that you pointed out how she has been a part of your healing. I didn’t have any real trauma associated with femininity but definitely had a bad attitude toward it (fear in some ways) and she totally changed my outlook on it. Now I go on and on about what a blessing it is that God made men and women so different!

[@rylee1100]

I’m 16 and have never been in a relationship before. I’m not really in a rush for a relationship because I know that god will bring me the right man on his time. In the mean time I’m working on my femininity, health, and faith :) love your videos!💕

[@Elizabethmarie1313]

Rylee Sauls I love your name/the spelling! One of my friends has that name 💋

[@rylee1100]

Elizabeth Pritchard awe thank you sm!😊💗

[@amarireed8820]

@@rylee1100 I was starting to think i was the only teen that wanted her channel😄 I'm 16 too and also everything else you said lol waiting on God and never been in a relationship. But I know that I'm still extremely young and when it comes His timing will be perfect. In the waiting I hope to grow closer to God and further define my identity in Him and work on my femininity as well. Just glad to know there are other young women with the same interests as myself.

[@rylee1100]

Amari Reed yes! One thing I love about this channel is finding other girls my age to relate to. Turns out there’s a lot more of us than I originally thought too! Most of the girls at my school are hard to relate to because they don’t believe the same things I do but its very encouraging meeting you 😊

[@Jenierf]

Congratulations!!! Don`t settle for less and wait util marriage to have intimacy. I´m 30 now and I wish I had know all that Im learning now about real femininity and the way of God. Sex outside marriage is devastatin for woman

[@crisphine]

I've made many mistakes in the past. I always tried to adapt myself to my partner, because I didn't appreciate myself and I thought "oh, by being who they want me to be, or doing/liking what they love, it will be the best relationship ever, THE one". It wasn't until I made a couple huge mistakes that I realized what I really wanted in my life: married young, with kids and rising my children in a traditional environment, AND that I deserved all that, I was worth it a loving husband who loved me for who I am. That's when I met my current boyfriend, hopefully fiancé in the near future. I'm 21 btw, and my partner is 28.

[@MrsMidwest]

Cristina Expósito this is so cool! We can always learn from our mistakes and go onto better things! Proud of you :)

[@Happytown7523]

Remember to always be yourself, and dont compromise on your core beliefs :)

[@crisphine]

@@Happytown7523 yes! That was the game changer for me :) And loving myself

[@meowmep1366]

Omg I was the same!!

[@quillahoffmore9173]

Cristina Expósito I’m in a similar boat! You got this girl 😘 I wish you and your man luck in life

[@hidansektas]

It boggles my mind how some men are like "just give me a chance" when im 100% we arent gonna work out. i dont wanna have a "fling" for a few months. currently waiting for a great guy to come back from the military :) Also i believe a woman can do all. My sister is a doctor and her husband is as well. She got married at 30 and had a child soon after and another one at 36. The kids are absolutely LOVELY, well behaved and even though she is a working mom she is so close to them. She even has time for friends, for her husband and everything. Hoping to be like her one day

[@Estiexo]

dang your sister is literally living my dream! I want to be a doctor one day and I hope to have a family like that!

[@martinbengtsson244]

No one can have it all/do all. There are always trade offs. Do not wish for someone elses life because you don't know what they are foresaking to have it.

[@user-qp6lj6gu7s]

@@adrijanapavlovic3441 Unless you bring your child to work you can not spend as much time with them when working away from home as you could if you stayed at home for example. Time is not limitless and I think that is what Martin Bengtsson is talking about. Playing games on your phone or computer instead of doing chores and then having a messy home is also a trade off, I'm not saying you shouldn't do it if you want to, but you have to realise you can't be in two places at once and do mutually exclusive things at the same time like sleeping or being awake. Personally I think having children is different from the everyday trade offs we do, because it means you chose to create life and therefore, in my opinion, have a moral obligation to make it as good for that new person as possible. This leads us to the question "what is best for the child?" and from what I've read and seen, kids do not do as good when put in daycare as they do when staying with a caregiver (usually mother or father).

[@hidansektas]

@@martinbengtsson244 she has it all. I know every part of her life because she is my sister of course. Of course some people are mentally weaker than others and cant handle it all but if you want it you can do it.

[@hidansektas]

@@adrijanapavlovic3441 yeeees happy for your aunt

[@lmmm1459]

Finally, someone who can teach me how to flirt the right healthy way

[@marieschrader9150]

I know!!!

[@mionrugheart2340]

And.... Get out of the house more. That's something I don't do. Zero social life and I expect to meet someone. How 😂

[@totoitutucoco]

Same here girl Men don't even know I exist. If I accidentally meet guys I'm never looking my best

[@mionrugheart2340]

@@totoitutucocoHaha... It's scary out there

[@agirlslife816]

Your a mirror of my life😂

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

This is an excellent comment. I just realized, where should we be hanging out to meet someone then? I’m not a party type, or bar type of gal.

[@mergerogue4291]

Waiting for em to break into our house 😔

[@SharonBoo0305]

yay! I loved how you touched on giving people more of a chance. I notice that a lot of ppl in our society are too stuck on instant gratification and if they don't feel "instant chemistry" immediately, they're quick to curb the other person. with that kind of vending machine mentality, you're destined to stay unhappily single forever. my longest-lasting relationships were with men I wasn't instantly attracted to either. we got to know each-other and our connection blossomed in an organic way. on the other hand, men who I was instantly attracted to proved to be the wrong match for me in he long-term because it was mostly based on hormones and lust.

[@Elizabethmarie1313]

Sharon Boo thank you for sharing this! I needed to hear this

[@tfkvng3187]

This is a true statement. I also find this concept very hilarious because, MOST TIMES the decent guys that females push away, end up being the ones the best for them & end up being the most successful.

[@SharonBoo0305]

@@tfkvng3187 same can be said for men as well. if a woman is too slow or quick to put out, or is shy/reserved but she checks a lot of other boxes, then men might discard her too. my initial comment was not meant to be gender-specific.

[@tfkvng3187]

@@SharonBoo0305 That's true! That why I always try to treat a young woman the best way I can. 😆😆😆😆😆 I think both sides should treat the other the same way they wanna be treated✊

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

The “sensors” can also be known as intuition. Women’s intuition is a feminine trait and a hidden superpower. It’s cut off from us but if we truly honed in on it, the possibilities are endless. We could learn to be pickier about our partners. Edit: whoops. My bad on the spelling.

[@iGhostr]

It's in men's feminine side too. Men just care about cultivating their masculine side which makes them less of a man paradoxically.

[@nanayaa-ansah]

Sensors

[@SkurtavusGrodolfus]

I have those sensors too, but I mostly sense lack of integrity and dishonesty, especially in other men. I suppose it prevents letting predators into your "pack". You need to be able to trust your boys, you know. I'm generally far worse at sensing ill intentions in women

[@adriantomole1019]

Women don't need to be pickier, they are already too dismissive. They need to learn to be smarter about their decisions. And this has to do with thinking harder and considering more aspects, not just what the flawed intuition tells them right away.

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

Adrian Tomole too dismissive? How so? I see women settling all the time. Part of the problem is what Caitlin listed here. Not just not listening to their gut instincts, but also not really having those tough conversations above values, life goals, etc.

[@adrienne4063]

So, so important. It’s better to grow up to be an old, spindly, single spinster than be with the wrong man. It’s fine to want a partner, but only the right one and for the right reasons.

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

Adrienne 💯 💯 💯

[@marywebb9127]

True 👍🏿

[@JustineMfulama]

EXACTLY! I always remind myself, it's more important to find someone that wants to stay married than just get married.

[@KrystalGirl29]

Jenny Chung that sounds more like the red pill, but a lot of mgtow do seem to hate/dislike women

[@Mrs.Deanna_Ember]

​@@ScientificAnomalies876 from my understanding mgtow is just certain men fed up with the idea of being in a relationship in general, casual hook up or otherwise

[@zoied8248]

i struggle so much with relationships as a woman with autism spectrum disorder, i have been taken advantage of a lot because of my naïvety. i pray that the right man will come with time, i just need to heed your advice and be patient.🥰 thank you Mrs Midwest!

[@vivandefuncti8991]

This channel is so refreshing! While searching for a man I was constantly frustrated by people shaming me for searching for a relationship and pushing the 'you don't need a man' mentality. I absolutely love finding a place that validates and talks about more traditional feminine desires. And now that I'm in a relationship I can see the value of things even more. Keep up the great work!

[@Joyfulminimalist]

I would have to say as a woman-- know who you are, like who you are, and keep yourself occupied with the things you value. I feel like a strong man is gravitated towards a woman with solid self-esteem. If you're tired of yourself, loathe your own company and see a relationship as an escape or answer to your unhappiness, I hate to say it- then why would a long-time partner see a future with someone who's dependent on them for emotional stability. That's not healthy. That's a good indication to take a step back and really recognize the necessity to work on yourself first before you can ever attract the right person for you. Really get to know and love yourself and the rest will follow

[@rndmkt]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@schwester6523]

As brutal as it is, it is so true. Without being stabel on your own you cant have a stabel relationship. But it is truly a vicious cycle: how to value urself if ppl around u dont value u? Its like ppl find u attractive if you are standing on two legs, but how to stand up if they turn away from u for being on the floor?

[@maikehelder3785]

We love advice from a woman in a healthy relationship❤

[@biscottiog8273]

Please make a video about all the unwanted male attention that goes along with being feminine !!!!!!! Please all the scary men kind of keep me from being feminine choosing to dress more baggy and plain to keep attention away from me

[@scarletwillowwood489]

Biscotti Og I agree! I struggle to deal with unwanted male attention based solely on my looks (not to say that I’m super attractive, but when it does happen it makes me feel uncomfortable and I don’t know how to respond politely).

[@biscottiog8273]

Exactly why we need a video on men like this^^

[@ines3770]

@Bob Smith id love that ! I used to dress horribly to go unnoticed. It was glorious ! That kind of intention is useless really. These men rarely have good intentions

[@brendonsforehead4961]

ebebebeb wow that’s such a good reference to explain it lol

[@brendonsforehead4961]

ebebebeb and not to mention the girls who might feel threatened by you and will turn against you:(

[@hiscanvasofgrace3391]

Charm is deceitful and beauty fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised ~Proverbs 31❤️✝

[@aadyasrivastava371]

Who else is in a happy relationship since years or even married and yet is watching this video because it is Mrs. Midwest ♥️

[@sealskin5221]

Merry!! Been married 28 years next week! I still need to understand my femininity in a deeper way.

[@aadyasrivastava371]

@@sealskin5221 wishing you congratulations in advance on your anniversary! God bless you ♥️

[@marywebb9127]

Me! I just love any video she puts out! I wish I had known this in advance before I was in a toxic relationship and I got hurt. I learned a hard lesson but I have a wonderful husband now 👍🏼

[@laurenfox1899]

Bingo! Masculine men WANT to pursue you! If he is interested, you will know! They enjoy the chase and that is a good compliment.

[@tfkvng3187]

I wouldn't call it a "chase". If both parties are interested in each other, just say so. Yes you want the guy to AT LEAST make the first step, but when he does make that step, please reciprocate. Don't play games and make him chase you.

[@mspeck2944]

Ciaran L1998 when we talking about masculine men chasing feminine women, we aren’t telling feminine women to play “hard to get”, but they shouldn’t be “easy to get” either. must be the women you’re personally dealing with. not all.

[@danerichards4582]

Guys these days know not to chase women because our lives depend on it

[@schwester6523]

I never understood this "playing hard to get" thing. I always thought: i am not playing it, i am indeed hard to get. I am not being mean, it is just hard to get my trust. I am not going to flow in to ur arms just because u said im beautiful. Like idk who u are or what ur intentions are. I am not going to expose my voulnarabel side to u if i dont know u are trustable.

[@ayeha5496]

Outfit is sooo cute!

[@claudbot9836]

I know you've said you're no expert, but my dear, if KZbin for some crazy reason no longer works out for you, highly consider becoming a life/relationship coach. You've got this. It's too natural. You are a gem!

[@Sisi-ep3wn]

I'm definitely not at a point where I'm overwhelmed by male attention but since I started my feminine journey I noticed that I do get a lot more often approached by men. I believe it isn't just because I radiate more feminine engery but also because I'm much more confident than before. And I don't mean exterior "I don't need a men. I'm a powerful women. Bam, bam, bam" kind of confidence but that much more low-key and interoir confidence you gain when you are actually content with yourself and your life and the path you choose.

[@MissAllaCinderella]

Agree SO much about giving a guy (or anyone!) a chance to win you over! My best friend and I knew each other 8 YEARS before I realized I was in love with him! Sometimes, for whatever reason, your mind just doesn’t go there at first. The perfect person was RIGHT THERE and I didn’t know it!

[@bethwilliams6703]

I’m recently married and this just confirms I made the right choice! Thank you for your videos!

[@mariaa109]

I feel like I'm not very attractive to men and I feel like that has to do with my lack of feminine energy. It has taken a toll on my confidence and made me think of "chasing" men and "one night stands" even though I know I am not like that. Watching this video makes me feel better for not forcing myself to chase men :) Thank you!

[@Pinkpanda811]

I especially love the accountability aspect of this video. That's a major key that many people overlook.

[@מיכאלמרטיןבנדיקטוס]

Caitlin's point at 5:10 is really good - she met a really matching man because she met him during an activity that was very meaningful to her - going to Jerusalem on a pilgrimage. This means her pool automatically aligned around her core values.

[@lejanlian831]

Thanks for your advice, you really are a role model! I started exploring my feminity when I found your videos and blog and have felt so much happier and fulfilled ever since 💕

[@MrsMidwest]

Lejan Lian yay this is really good news. Wishing you all the best as you continue to grow! 😍 xo

[@eugeniebryan538]

You’re right about the sensors thing. You literally get a gut feeling when something about how men pursue you doesn’t feel safe/right

[@Goat.Cheese]

Yes! It's so important to get the big stuff out of the way before you are engaged or married to someone! Talk about your expectations for money, lifestyle, sex, children, and where you want to live.

[@polina7906]

I have never been able to understand women, who fall in love with rude and aggressive men and then suffer during their relationship. I have never found such type of men attractive. Why do I have to prove something to myself when I just can enjoy the relationship and be happy? But I haven't thought about different types of trauma, which influence on people's choice. After watching your video the puzzle is completed. Thank you so much for the informative video. I love your channel!

[@sofiabravo1994]

Daddy issues

[@izzyb6504]

The intuition bunny 🐰 always knows !!

[@tfkvng3187]

The bunny knows all🤣🤣🤣

[@maddipage1347]

I like how you say you don’t have to be seductive. I fell into that after believing a book and it not only felt weird it definitely put me in ugly situations

[@alanikeiser]

Best advice ever! I have been single for 10 years and I see how I have enabled the wrong guys.

[@jennjenn4354]

Oh my goodness this was so timely. Just broke up with a man, we weren't right for each other, but he was the first truly masculine guy I ever dated and I was starting to feel discouraged that I'd never find one again or even where to start lol. Thank you thank you!

[@IsabellaRN]

No men are interested in me. That is the hard truth. I have tried to put my self out there. I don’t know what to do anymore. It is really affecting my self confidence.

[@pinkpanther7369]

Come now sweetheart. It's just means its not yet the season for a relationship in your life. Somehow I feel you are being protected from heartbreak.Use this time to improve your skills and serve others. In the right season you wont be able to get men away from you...

[@IsabellaRN]

@@pinkpanther7369 I am 27 years Old and I have never had a real boyfriend. It is not just a season of singleness. I have learned a great deal over the years and have many interests. It doesn’t change things.

[@onechildsband]

The idea that no men are interested in you is pretty much a statistical impossibility. I know it gets really frustrating at times but you just gotta keep going out and being yourself. :) Doesn't mean you have to actively look for a relationship but just keep living life and meeting people. 27 is by no means too old.

[@IsabellaRN]

@NightWolf well, then I am the first. I have rejected one guy I wasn’t interested in because he had asked all the girls out at church at some point. Not all women have multiple guys interested in them. Often that is only the women who are talking about it. The quiet ones are often the ones with one or none.

[@tfkvng3187]

Just focus on yourself & Grow closer to God(if you're a Christian). Guys probably notice you, but it might not be your season to date. I too am going through a similar situation. I'm 27, and it SEEMS like nobody is interested in me. But, I'm also not really looking for a relationship either😬😬😬

[@michellequiroz5899]

I agree. Having someone with similar morals, beliefs, and values is super important! It just ties everything together. I also tend to come up with a topic every time we see each other (of course, also having fun as well!) but trying to get to know him in his deeper thoughts.

[@reneechung21]

Your words are gold Mrs Caitlin! This would have been so helpful 4 years ago when I was trying to figure out relationships and dating when I met my partner. Although I was only 18 and didn't have many experiences with men, I learnt a lot from my reading and novel writing about the type of relationships I wanted. I wasn't after anything light or immature and I was just lucky to meet my boyfriend who aligned with my values and goals, supported me even as friends for the first few months before we decided to take things to the next step. I think it's also super important not to rush things in the first few months in that "honeymoon phase" because chemically our hormones and emotions are all over the place. While everything may be heightened and intense, just enjoy it and keep getting to know your partner a bit more, especially if they are a bit older or have a different cultural background than yourself. Thankyou for your videos as always! xoxo Renée

[@yuliyaseviaryn2114]

Your hair and make up is a heavenly dream💕💕😍 You are like no other lady on KZbin✨✨✨✨✨✨

[@MariaChristinaBari]

Awww, those bangs are adorable on you! LOVE your videos & you! 💖

[@ctrain149]

The #1 reason behind these sensors being broken is having a poor father

[@jmcast3195]

@@ayanna9939 yes that is why it is so very important for us women to choose our sexual/life partner VERY carefully. The feminist lie of "you should be able to sleep around without consequences" has damaged so many children and families.

[@maddieb.4282]

Scentitar Fragrance why would watching movies be more influential on a woman’s life than the behavior of one of her parents, one of the two people who is supposed to unconditionally support and love her? Frankly I think my father had a way bigger influence on me than Cinderella or whatever, and my father is an amazing man.

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

like financially??

[@schwester6523]

@@guinevererodriguez3807 No. In personslity.

[@guinevererodriguez3807]

Susie H oh ok. 😊

[@shanaeb4814]

I like what you said about not chasing the guy! Even some christian dating advice givers are getting on the bandwagon of women imitating and leading the relationship. Thanks for sharing this video!

[@michelletackett9489]

I am glad you are getting less hate on your videos. You don't deserve it. I like your videos myself. That is me though. I agree, comparability is very important. My mother and father were married until my dad died from brain cancer. They had similar values, beliefs and goals.

[@carriecarebear]

I am feminine but not looking for a traditional life like being a homemaker. Always wanted a full time job and kids like my mom and grandmas. But I respect you so much for standing up for what you want in your life. My choice is what I want and that doesn't mean that someone else wants the same things. What I like about our time is that every woman can choose what she wants and I respect every choice. You are right: a woman should first think about what kind of life she wants to lead and then should look for a man with the same wish. And I really like your videos because they are so calm, happy and I like that you are "feminine like me"and not like so many feminist women nowadays. I am a lawyer, so my work life can get really stressful but your voice and videos are always a great way to relax. Keep going!

[@ashley__c]

feminine qualities - generosity, humility, sweet kidness, compassion ♥...

[@markfennell1167]

These are very much masculine traits also. Indeed the authentic man is naturally loving compassionate kind

[@andreagrace1369]

I know a lot of people say they might love you, but I really do you changed my life..

[@comandlikes]

who else is happily married but love to hear her input on things ?

[@lukaluei]

I recently just got out of an unhappy and unhealthy relationship and the best advice I have is always focus on yourself and stop looking for love. Spend time with your friends, attend more events in your town, take a yoga class. It's amazing how wonderful your life will be if you take care of yourself and stop chasing men in a attempt to find someone.

[@mistyschoephoerster347]

Good advice! So many of my single friends focus so much on a potential partners outward appearance when their hearts are so beautiful. Give some people time to show how beautiful they are on the inside! 👍👍

[@mercedeswilliams6457]

I just wanted to let you know how much you mean to me and have helped me so much with my walk to becoming more comfortable with my feminity! You are like an older sister and my role model. I really do aspire to become like you.💕💕💕

[@fembot521]

I left my tree up and changed the decorations to a winter theme with plain unfinished wooden snowflakes! We love it and the twinkling lights.

[@thiswouldbeanna]

I felt like you took a bit of risk and people would easily misunderstand what you meant by saying that it's you who allows bad people (cheaters/liars, etc) into your life, because of the signals you send out there, but I have personally experienced exactly that with both friendships & relationships. It really is on point all that you mentioned on this topic.

[@alexaw.4093]

May I just say that I am EXTREMELY grateful for these videos. Please, never stop ❤️ You are helping soooo many young women (I’m 18 and have no guidance towards the lifestyle that I desire most!) You’re like my big sister that I never had. Thank you so much. MashAllah for your kids in advance ❤️😂❤️

[@eirikmagnuslarssen4242]

I have no idea why KZbin recommended this video to us, but I'd say she raises a few good pointers.

[@morganalexis6147]

...even spaced where emotion is embraced and accepted. Even welcomed as well. Thank you!!

[@nicole.wacuka]

Loved this! 😊 You're videos are always a treat, thank you! 💕💕

[@allengrantham6693]

At 3:25 "You don't want to marry someone and dash their hope of ever becoming a father." That is a very, very good point. Realizing my wife would not be a good mother is when I fell out of love with her. We ended up divorced. When I think of her, it is like remembering two different women, the one I dated before the wedding, and the one to whom I was married. She said herself that getting married was like flipping a switch. The points you make at 3:55 and 8:00 and 8:50 about looking at yourself are important. Be honest above all aboutwho you are, your goals in life, and what you want from a relationship.

[@treearoha]

Thankyou for making this video. I’ve always had a hard time with dating for multiple reasons, the biggest one being I have settled in the past for men who weren’t a good match for me. Thankyou for reminding me I’m worthy of finding someone who is right for me.

[@Ang_Nicole]

After being hurt so bad a few years ago, I’m being extremely careful about who I bring into my life. But I can’t lie, I want to be married so bad...I have to remind myself not to chase and just relax, while being patient for a good man❣️

[@pizzathehutt2654]

The fact that you want to get married just for the sake of getting married means you're putting the cart before the horse. You should simply want to bring good people into your life, and if you meet one that you connect with well enough that it leads to the point of marriage, then bonus. That's your slice of advice from the pizza. Thanks for dining at our establishment.

[@katherinewitt6362]

Definitely give the guy a second chance to win you! It was not love at first sight for me and my husband but he was so right for me as I found out more.

[@harbingersev-oh-wohne]

I love that she always puts a clip of her thesis in the first 10 seconds before the video 💙💖

[@mb-sx2tg]

《Stop chasing men, let them chase you.》 You said everything🙏🏽

[@BasketFullOfRainbows]

I would love to see a look book or what I wear in a week video from you, love your style x

[@maestro7058]

Great video, women are extremely intuitive and could use it not only to help themselves, but also their men.

[@rosescent94]

Great video! We do the toxic and unhealthy things because deep inside we have this sense of feeling flawed and incomplete, always adapting ourselves. I don't mean to say we should not try to improve ourselves but also to accept truly that we are worthy of love and of being treated kindly. And yes, being "receptive" is very important, create space, do not try to overgive, overdo.

[@heather3037]

I would really appreciate a video about dating and love for younger people (I’m 18 and would love to be more open to finding a partner, but marriage is far away for me). Thank you! x

[@JustineMfulama]

LOVE THESE TIPS. Confidence is so important and really makes a difference. Great tips!!!

[@daveshore8671]

There is hope. You’re making awesome content. I hope many many women see you as a role model. I just wanted to say thank you for putting this out there 👍

[@areenyousifsamad2060]

Absolutely love your content❤️keep it up 👌🏻

[@MaynightMemory]

You are, again, so spot-on with your advice! I love how you said that it might sound very "rudimentary" - I have realized that people tend to overcomplicate relationships. The best advice you can give is also the simplest. Stick to the most simple basic principles (no guys who disrespect you or overstep your boundaries, no cheaters, no time wasters, no commitment phobes etc.) but stick to them 100%. I once heard someone refer to this as the 5+5=10 rule. 5+5 is always 10 and not sometimes 11, there are no exceptions. It's the same with relationships - stick to these basic principles always, with everyone and in every situation and you will automatically weed out the men that are not good for you and attract the ones that are.

[@vb-km1xe]

the good sense I've never had, thank you for your precious advice and caring! Oh, and you're so cute and lovely, greetings and a big hug from Italy sweetheart 😭❤️

[@monicanava8]

I love you Mrs. Midwest !! You have great advice!

[@samarlarbi9619]

I'm gnna like even before watching cuz i know you alwaaays make me happy ❤love you 💕

[@MrsMidwest]

Samar miyy ahhh this comment made me happy!! Sending you love! 🥰😍

[@Chydova]

So happy to see the Christmas tree still up! I celebrated Christmas yesterday, Ukrainian Christmas!! Second day of Christmas today! Our New years eve is January 13th. So Merry Christmas to all celebrating! Its so sad when people take there decorations down early January. So thank you for keeping up the tree!!

[@milenacantrak8940]

Me too! We celebrate it on the same day in Serbia 🌹

[@Chydova]

@@milenacantrak8940 Yes! There is a large Serbian church where I live in Canada. There are always so many people! We also celebrate Easter on the same day :)

[@milenacantrak8940]

@@Chydova I'm glad to read this!

[@jmissesblac2006]

It will be difficult for me to be more feminine. I had a guy tell me I'm intimidating. I think it comes from growing up in a single parent home and having to be very independent and extremely hard working.

[@kellijasper5912]

When you are called intimidating you need to ask yourself this question; Are you intimidating or are you intimidating them? That is two different things. Sometimes men call women they can't manipulate "intimidating."

[@iloveicecream127]

@@kellijasper5912 so true. Weak men are like that.

[@realdiculous1]

Don't listen to people telling you all is always fine with you, no one is perfect. If you do feel he might be correct and its something you want to work on, ask God for help. You can always try to emulate women around you that have the virtues you wish you had.

[@kellijasper5912]

@@realdiculous1 it was never said or implied that the original poster was perfect. Whenever you received criticism you need to consider the source. There are some males who will be critical in an attempt to control. That is why I suggested she ask the questions. "Is she intimidating?" or "Is she intimidating him?? If it is the former then she needs to work on that. If it is the latter then it is HIS problem.

[@Chydova]

Any tips in meeting men? I don't believe in online dating, I've sampled it, I didn't like it.

[@maddipage1347]

Chydova I’ve never had a good experience with it. And am completely done ✅

[@tfkvng3187]

Church? School? Some type of community gathering or etc.

[@jackiew2203]

Do you have any male family members? They may be able to introduce you to some of their male friends... also, I am a female who volunteers at horse rescues, ranches, etc... if you volunteer at these places like farms and ranches there are almost exclusively men working at these places and many of them are traditional Christians... just be careful because some of them are big into drinking fighting etc... but most of them are pretty decent in my experience... also rodeos I’ve had guys at rodeos talk to me...

[@jackiew2203]

I had a really tough time dating for awhile... I have felt like I will never find anybody, I have felt like no men were ever interested in me... I spent many nights crying myself to sleep over it until 2-3am it was affecting my health, my school, and my work. I will pray for you...

[@Red0660]

Meetup groups with outdoor activity like hiking.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’m looking forward to watching, you’ve always got the best advice!! I hope you have a lovely week! 🥰💜

[@MrsMidwest]

Admir Barucija thank you so much!! Looking forward to more advice popping up in the comment section as well! 😍🥳🌸💓

[@admirbarucija2018]

Mrs Midwest you’re welcome!! I’m looking forward to it also, there’s often lots of good insight in the comments! 🌸💓🥳😍

[@vcp365]

I love how your Christmas tree is still up! 😍 ✝️ ❤️

[@sheikhbaroojrouf8159]

Learnt A lot and still learning. You are like the mother I never had. Thank you and keep sharing!!

[@nataliasanz4450]

Happy New Year you beautiful rock star! Thank you for providing such a profound content and for walking your talk! Integrity and congruency at its best. Muchas gracias!!😘

[@TreeofLife_111]

I don’t want a career at all:. Yet I’m still in school… I honestly would rather focus on losing some weight, gaining more skills for in the home and find a good husband.

[@CC-yf2ll]

I’m so glad you uploaded this on my birthday what a treat ☺️!

[@gaby5546]

YES I NEEDED THIS VIDEO! I WAS WAITING FOR IT! THANK YOU

[@rocheamonteroyo]

Watching from the Philippines, I sm a traditional catholic woman, I love it

[@chrisfrederic2514]

Always amazing content thank you so much! I love hearing your perspective on these issues!

[@elizabethanne8729]

12:27 I don’t know about anyone else but I struggle with being polite to strange men. I have no problem smiling and complimenting women I don’t know but I find that making eye contact with men and smiling at them invites unwanted attention. I am married so obviously this doesn’t happen when I am with my husband. We also didn’t exchange rings so I’m often not wearing one on my ring finger. So I’m sure that is also a factor. But I really don’t like walking around with resting b face. I want to be pleasant but socially things have gotten so out of whack that smiling and being polite are now seen as flirting. 😫

[@mikeeggleston1769]

In addition to wearing dresses and skirts (dressing feminine) to appear more feminine, also become a healthy BMI.

[@nii_yuhh]

You looked SOO cute with your sensors onnn!!♥️

[@raesunshine3575]

K your channel has exploded sense last year, I'm sooo proud of you😄😄😄

[@alanyaewright323]

another beautiful video from Mrs. Midwest!!💕thank you for creating content that embraces femininity and a traditional lifestyle. i’ve recently found your videos and i’m loving them. i’m on the younger side of viewers, so i don’t have a lot of experience in the dating realm. but now i have some tips and wisdom to help w that in the future. thanks again❤️

[@BerryandtheBeast]

I really wish you had a podcast! You have the most encouraging videos!

[@leahveal5470]

This is wonderfully, wise advice thank you!

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

I think you have to mention that is not ok to look for another boyfriend with you just broke up with someone. Its so useful for self development to take a time to re discover your single self and analyze what when wrong is so necessary to not commit the same mistakes again and to avoid being dependent of a men to feel complete

[@victoriareynolds7185]

Your video has made my day - have a great week xx

[@evelinabalinskaite8584]

Love your content, style and everything about you. Your videos are very interesting to watch. 💜 💚 💛

[@MrsMidwest]

Evelina Balinskaitė thank you so much!! You are so sweet 🥰🥰🥰