What Is The Ruling On Marrying Outside Your Culture?

[@riyadhsaeed5776]

if people dont want thier children to marry people of other cultures, they shouldnt live in a multicultural society and expose them to the possibililty of them wanting or liking someone who is not from their cultural background. You cant forbid your children from human nature and what Allah has made permissible for them. Allah is the the one who brings two hearts together for the sake of marriage. If you reject or prevent purely on the basis of race/culture, and you over look the aspect of deen and character then your not following the sunnah because ahadith clearly emphasise deen and character over everything. Personal preferences should be respected but they are for an individual themselves, and not to be implement on others. Allah knows best

[@ammonogramming3356]

Subhana Allaah...this is very close to my situation. My husband and I have totally different cultures but I have embraced his culture to large degree and he also...but what binds our marriage after 30 years...is our love for Allaah and Islaam. That is what we have in common and it is the most important aspect to our marriage. Whether his family or mine accept me or him...they will have to .... if they love us....because in the end our decisions are based on Quraan and sunnah and the fee issues that are not covered by it...then we compromise with each other. So we eat his cultural food 1 day and then mine the next and we keep it moving. Deen is more important than culture...period! If you caught up in culture...you may also be nationalistic and that is not allowed in Islaam. We are 1 ummah...and we will never move forward as an ummah until we leave hisbiyah behind.

[@klaw1425]

May Almighty Allah bless your marriage aameen my dearest sister in Islam ☪️.

[@abdullahanselin8474]

"The authentic hadith is never outdated." - Mufti

[@hamzabhai4186]

The best thumbnail Mufti!

[@Eleidig007]

our prophet muhammad saw said no arab is above a non arab, no white is above a black, no black above a white. Why are muslims being racist about this its clear racism isnt okay....discrimination is wrong period, your faith, character, and conduct is what matters.

[@DrFahadRashidQazi]

May Allah increase you in your knowledge Mufti. Aameen!! A very beautiful & thought provoking speech on this matter.

[@xell5252]

AL HAMDULILLAH, well said Mufti, BARAKULLAH HU FEEK!!!

[@Shammer1]

Im making this tumb nail a wallpaper

[@munalovespalestine]

😂😂

[@nomad7060]

Very balanced view, if you watch this, then watch till the end. He goes over the pros and cons of both, and says that sometimes the father is right, so don't rush in removing him as a Wali. But sometimes the man is good, and compatible, and the father is racist or ignorant.

[@Lobo-y1o]

This was my issue, I wish I could have been judged fairly not just off my ethnicity, the woman I wanted to marry, her brothers and her father she was afraid of what they would do... she had 0 control and wasn't even allowed to voice her opinion and I of course could not interfere.

[@kosha204]

Some of us have no choice, but to marry outside our own culture/ethnicity and then we bump into all these racists among Muslims who forbid their children from marrying us, cause drama and forbid which is halal, this really must go! I've been turned down marriage twice just because I come from Europe and potential husbands couldn't convince their families to accept that, you can't help, but feel less of a human or even Muslim in situations like those, unfortunately.

[@ukhtukmarwa9328]

MashAllah brother mufti.....May Allah reward you abundantly...Very good advice

[@salahmuhsin1822]

يا شبخي مفتي والله إني أحبك في الله May allah bless you and protect

[@bnc4396]

this is absolutely beautiful..

[@Frankenshein]

Mashallah br great and informative take.

[@Name-jz4fb]

How can a Muslim genuinely get rid of racism and racist thoughts in his heart and mind?

[@TawheedFirst1]

................... First of all Allah has ability over all things so the one with racism in his heart should turn to Allah asking him to rectify his heart then when it comes to taking the means I have seen racism normally come from two angles, 1 is ignorance regarding the people that they hate because the one who is racist has not mixed with the group they hate and may also have been conditioned to hate them by only being told lies about them or by only mixing with very few people from them who then represented the group badly then my advice is first to be objective and not let a few people represent a group and second to meet practising people from the group that one hates with an open mind, be patient and sincere to Allah and the person will grow to love them in sha Allah. The second reason for racism is normally arrogance and nationalism which makes people think they are the best because of where they were born or the colour they were born into and this is a sickness that does not belong in Islam, Islam made every race and every nationality equal and what will raise our status is our relationship with Allah not our skin or country and it is important for the brother then to focus on the true purpose of our life which is to worship Allah and strive for jannat this is what will make us better than someone and the knowledge of that will come in the hereafter.

[@HassanTheTraveller]

Educate yourself about the religion begining with tawheed and make dua brother

[@dkmc6434]

Travel become more learnt with other cultures and societies...racism today is often a product of social conditioning,becoming a product of your environment and media programming..i hate a people ive only heard about but i never bothered to see for myself

[@mplsridah]

Muslims have first to be honest with themselves if they want to get rid of racism. Race mixing will not end racism. There's study after study that shows just that.

[@mplsridah]

Mustafa Bilal why forced contact? Allah didn't tell us to force it. And I'm disappointed that this mufti didn't say it was mubah

[@violetanyc3007]

May Allah bless you respected brother , mashallah

[@AllahKnowsme07]

Very beneficial, Alhamdulillah.

[@end-game2030]

But the Sheikh cannot and won't disagree with the benefit's in marrying within your own culture or similar languages etc. There is nothing wrong with marrying out of your culture or creed but without shadow of a doubt the benefits in marrying within your own culture and language etc out ways the opposite action by far. The Shiehk covers all angles and explains all this very well.

[@sajid6027]

So the sahaba should only have married Arab's from mecca & medina?

[@end-game2030]

@@sajid6027 Biggest issue with practicing Muslims of today, they keep going back and comparing today to then. Tbh I could not even think to compare now to then. You would need to have so much data. Lauguages, cultures, stereotypes or other barriers between individuals which we have today. The topic has so many different view points, after all conversation, debates and arguments you look at the pros v cons and the truth within that gives you the best answer. It's all common sense at the end of the day imo.

[@sajid6027]

@@end-game2030 the sunnah is clear. This was a stupid question. When the first Muslim's arrived in China to do dawah imagine if they were this insular. How would Islam have prospered in China or indeed anywhere. Culture is man made. Deen is divine.

[@end-game2030]

@@sajid6027 Unfortunately we need to see things for what they are first and then let the divine show its power. If we seek divinity from the get go (which many do) we are unpleasantly suprised most of the times when things go wrong resulting in many falling further away from Islam. The advice then is "have faith" or it was "ghadder", really? God has given us brains, we should use them to the potential they were designed for and stop passing the buck on to others for answers. Especially to the moments in history when Islam and its iman was at its absolute peak. Your not wrong in what your saying but you remind of comparing fairy tale endings to real face value problems.

[@sajid6027]

@@end-game2030 I don't think you even know what you're writing.

[@Nur12551]

Clear speech ما شاء الله

[@defrocker0569]

I don't like to use the word "fair" denoting someone who is light skinned or white (caucasian) because subliminally it is looked as superior than a dark skinned person.

[@xell5252]

Ageed. I've always said this, "fair" implies good, so if it's you are not "fair skin (good color) it's implied that you are the opposite of "fair" (good) which is not "fair" (bad)

[@icelolly4277]

Are both of you two feeling alright?

[@afterlife1897]

Gotta make a problem out of everything

[@xell5252]

@@icelolly4277 LMAO, 🤣🤣🤣 AL HAMDULILLAH I'm feeling great, thanks for your concern. Truth of the matter is, this is exactl thing El Hajj Malik El Shabazz (Malcolm X) was talking about in his book, when you look up white in the dictionary it's only associated with good things like purity, look up black, it's only associated with bad things like darkness and evil. Its subliminal psychological conditioning and it's real. People try hard to disassociate themselves with being black because it's perceived as something negative, and isn't that what Mufti was talking about in the first place, the perception of something negative because of it's association to black skin. It starts with with subliminal conditioning, "fair skin" is white or white like, so naturally it's opposite is black, which subliminally implies unfair. Look at the word fair, its spelled f a I r, look that same spelling up in the dictionary and it means = just, equitable, without cheating, and the term "fair skin" uses the same spelling, sooooo🤷🏿‍♂️ Not trying to pick, trying to shed light. I'm an African American Muslim, AL HAMDULILLAH, I know that people automatically look at me with disdain because of my skin, then they find out I'm Muslim and become concerned about radicalism 🤨. Solely based off of those 2 things, nothing I've said, or done, just "he's a black Muslim" he must hate white people, he must be a terrorist, etc..

[@mplsridah]

The sheikh is from America, in America fair means balanced, smh, he must have spent a lot of time in India or with Indians.

[@عليريسؤينا]

Salam, if you have both the same aqeedah. I believe there is no ruling to marry outside your own culture.

[@ijackson2741]

Yes allah is our Protector

[@TolerantAcceptingModernCommuni]

United States might be advanced due to their accepting of qualified extraordinary people, but remember it is extraordinary people, they are still racist to the average person. And China doesnt take in foreigners like US, and it is advanced.

[@markward3981]

السلام عليكم ورحمه الله The sad thing is we hear people laughing, this means we , who do this are no different from non believers and the jahilliyyah people before Islam. This is a big problem around the world especially in high Muslim population areas. Zina is made easy and marriage difficult. I respect him for admitting some of the scholars said this and this institutionalized and justified. The funny thing is look at the prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam and the Sahaba did. Just think about it. May Allah reward the brother for this talk. May Allah help us, rectify and forgive us.

[@marianamartinez4106]

Masha’Allah he’s smart Masha’Allah

[@Bluewildangel]

Mashaallah , Alhamduillah !!

[@MHShah17]

I think the race and political aspects of compatibility will only be applicable if they affect on attraction and connection. As a canadian Pakistani in Toronto, I admit that the girls I found crushes on during school were Pakistani and a persian in my school, but also grew up in the GTA, I assume I'd pobably connect better with a muslim child of immigrants from different culture than a Pakistani who is immigrating straight from pakistan as an adult. Religion and personality are more important, as long as there is attraction and they can get along. If there's attraction and they work well together is more important than genes. In canada, there's more connection to people from othe cultures who have grown up in the GTA than to a pakistani who grew up in Pakistan, but a pakistani who grew up here has a few more things to connect over, but RELIGION and PERSONALITY are much bigger factors.

[@riverloud5670]

Yaa salaam!ياحبيبي عليك الملاحظة في بعض كلامك،والله أنا لاأعرفك لكن أحبك جدا لجهدك وحرصك في طلب العلم والدعوة"أنا من غرب أفريقياوأراكم والمسلمين جميعا واحد لا فضل بيننا إلاباالتقوى"إنتبح في ماتقول أصبحت داعي وتستمع إليك كثير من الناس.i hope you will read it and take a note,lets preach what islam preaches i.e peace and unity,and i still love you as a muslim brother.

[@msnur61]

Well said Allahuma barik

[@abdulmasud7435]

ASSALAMU ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAHi WABARAKATUHU mufti sahaab can ask you a question plz plz

[@safiyaaali7490]

Often times he is... Allaahu mustaan.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

I'm a Malaysian and I want to marry an American! Why should I marry a girl of my own nationality?

[@KhayriA100]

The benefits of marrying within your people outweigh the benefits of marrying outside. Most of our parents don't speak English and want in-laws that speak their language and grandchildren that they can relate to. In the case of family problems, it's million times easier to resolve with people who have same cultural background/values since we dony have islamic courts to resolve issues. In the future, relocation to a Muslim land will me much easier etc. It's not a simple race issue. I refused to marry a girl from my own people because she was born and raised in America and far different from us in culture, language, and values. She was technically our race but an American culturally and language wise. Wallahu A3lam

[@abunazirnouradin3888]

Asalaam aleikom jazaika Allahu gairan mufti...

[@MAR-ev6mt]

Bro why are you complaining about arabs You can also marry women of your own race

[@abode409]

I don't understand your last statement. If the father doesn't agree and the man is a good Muslim, perform the marriage and put your trust in Allah. If the father doesn't agree, there is no marriage. How is she going to get married without her Wali's permission?

[@abode409]

@Pen Griffey What's your proof of that statement?

[@abode409]

@Pen Griffey Also a father not agreeing to allow his daughter to marry a particular brother doesn't mean he's not acting upon the Sharia.

[@King-gx1jt]

Imam Nawawi in Minhaj at Taliban said: نَسَبٌ، فَالْعَجَمِيُّ لَيْسَ كُفْءَ عَرَبِيَّةٍ، وَلَا غَيْرُ قُرَشِيٍّ قُرَشِيَّةً، وَلَا غَيْرُ هَاشِمِيٍّ وَمُطَّلِبِيٍّ لَهُمَا، وَالْأَصَحُّ اعْتِبَارُ النَّسَبِ فِي الْعَجَمِ كَالْعَرَبِ In lineage, the 3ajami male is not good enough for an Arab woman, and a non-Qurayshi male is not good enough for a Qurayshi woman, neither a non-Hashimi or non-Mutalibi male for a Hashimi or Mutalibi female. Comparatively, lineage among non-Arabs is to be paid attention to just as it is with Arabs. As a shafi'i i'd rather follow my madhab and instead of self made mujtahids in 2020. Allahu a3lam, its safer to follow a madhab. Now more than ever, since salafi scholars can be very deceptives in sayig stuff according to their whims and desires. May allah protect us ammen

[@falsehoodrefuted]

Where did the Prophet Muhammed Sullallahu alayhi wassallam say this. Also where is Imam Nawawi Rahimahullah proof for saying such a statement. If it is his opinion tandori there is no proof! Then we will do as Imam Shafi'i himself said and throw it against the wall!

[@falsehoodrefuted]

Salafi are known to be deceptive and say things according to their whims and desires?! Are you dumb? Astaghfirullah

[@ia1399]

@Erd إذا كان هذا غيبة فهو محرم فعلينا ان نتقي الله في كلامنا

[@ezekielwootton3403]

I loved your message but strongly disagree with your conclusion. You have to respect the decision of your parents unless their reason is unjust (such as racism). If that is the case, you should go to your local imam for help to act as your parent. This is what I was taught. By the way, I am a Muslim revert from the United States. I'm not saying I know better than you. I am curious. Provide proof.

[@nasircooper9260]

Madhabi bashing never gets old huh sheikh ?

[@mplsridah]

Ikr, smh especially coming from a mufti, it's sad

[@UltimateFreekickerzdok]

In what minute did he do that? So sad if he did that.

[@asiyahad-deenislam5289]

He’s spoken upon what is true.

[@العقيلي-ف7و]

@@mplsridah It’s called banter, it’s done between madhabs. We shouldn’t be sensitive. May Allaah bless you brother.

[@arabiclive007]

LOL

[@leilamohamed7410]

Asc My opinion don’t mix I have experience. No one will accept you from both sides And the kids will not know who are ? If you love your parents listen to them your kids will listen to ya. Love ❤️ to all Muslims.

[@mplsridah]

THank you for your honestly, sis. Muslims are not being honest to themselves. They're pushing the race mixing agenda because they're not being true to themselves. smh

[@kamariaabdullah3350]

Perhaps you are not strong enough to handle such situations. As long as you are accepted by Allah, that is all that matters.

[@Eleidig007]

Dont be racist jeez

[@maramra393]

@@mplsridahracism is against Islam, theres no race mixing agenda. If the best match for you is from a different background then the only thing that matters is their imam. If everything is good and you know there won't be problems within your families the how can the colour of their skin be the only issue that stops you from being with a good person

[@seekerofknowledge9193]

@@Eleidig007 are you Muslim?

[@JihadMurinzi]

You really are mufti i have benefited

[@afterlife1897]

I wouldn't do it

[@nothing-bo1oq]

It depends on the situation. If the families are okay with it that alone removes a huge source of friction, and if it's common or socially acceptable where you are then it's not a big deal. Also depends on the specific ethnicities and cultures being mixed, or how far apart the skin tones are. All sorts of factors affect how it goes. It might not be worth putting all that strain on for some people but for some it might be fine.

[@mplsridah]

I wouldn't do it either and Islam doesn't oblige one to do it

[@mplsridah]

mahdi sabri to mix races. Are you stalking me? You've replied to me 4 times now, are you ok? I'm a male, just so u know.

[@truthoverfalsehood__8757]

I will marry 4 wifes and 4 wifes out of my etjnicity on purpose and Im already mixed.

[@Musafeer360]

So the problem here is the mixing male/female that brings issues in the future. Not the race. To remove your father as a wali you need to go to a Muslim Court. Maybe in Saudi Arabia. But elsewhere there's no such thing. If she tries to remove her father as a wali she will lose her whole family.. So there's a balance. The issue here is not the race but the mixing male/female (outside the Muslim lands or on the Muslim lands that follow the dunya) and the so-called LOVE defined by the western world. It hurts the Muslim world and the rest of the world in general. In the name of LOVE we allow same-sex love, interracial love, interfaith love etc. I agree with Mufti on many points. But we couldn't push people into fitna with their families by ignoring their fiqh Schools. Even if the hadith is weak. There's more behind the scenes brother....Anyway. It's complicated because even if the guy can provide food on the table for both how families from both sides will deal with the differences. I don't think that mixing will make you richer or better than any other countries. This is stupid to say that Mufti. Sorry for the harsh words. But sometimes a weak hadith for some is strong for others.... And ALLAH Azzawajal knows the best.

[@magnificenttruthseekingque403]

From my personal opinion don’t do it. It’s too complicated to marry outside tribe. I rather stay single #IHATEMARRIGE

[@onlyallahisworthyofworship5599]

Are you a muslim?

[@xell5252]

What you said is not of the Sunnah, my wives are of different ethnic and cultural backgrounds, and we get along great, I'm an African American, one of my wives is Asian, one is Berber, their families love me, and I them, and we are one family, AL HAMDULILLAH ALA QULI HAL, WA LA'HOWLAH LA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH AL ATHEEM, AMEEN!!!

[@abdixsimplix2582]

@@onlyallahisworthyofworship5599 Not getting married is not kufr akhi, but marriage is HIGHLY recommended.

[@TawheedFirst1]

Abdu Balul I am not saying it's kufr but the orignal poster said something very strange "#IHATEMARRIAGE" marriage is one of the sunnah of our prophet (peace be upon him), it is very strange for a muslim to hate the sunnah of our prophet (peace be upon him), and it's stranger for a muslim to advertise their hatered for the sunnah of our prophet (peace be upon him).

[@xell5252]

@@TawheedFirst1 Agreed, Ahki ! In addition, we are taught that marriage is HALF of our Deen, half of what's expected of us is completed simply by having a good Halaal marriage, soooo, what practicing Muslim or Muslimah would express a HATRED for marriage???

[@Queen-ds9cc]

Do u know any surah who speaks about this?