My Birth Mother Wanted Me to Find Her - Jenny Wallentine of Origins Shares Her Story

My Birth Mother Wanted Me to Find Her - Jenny Wallentine of Origins Shares Her Story
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Every adult adoptee, at least those from a closed adoption, dream about reuniting with their birth mom.
Origins Genealogy’s co-founder, Jenny Wallentine, was herself an adoptee from a closed adoption.
Like every adoptee, Jenny wondered whether her biological mother would want to meet her or not. Naturally, she was afraid of rejection, but forged ahead to locate her birth mom.
This is her story.
Chapters:
0:00 - Introduction
0:46 - Jenny's story
2:12 - Start of finding my birth mother
5:07 - Located my birth mother
6:27 - First phone call
8:20 - She had kept me a secret
8:58 - She didn't know whether I was a boy or girl
10:51 - Waiting for the second call
12:18 - The second phone call
16:21 - Meeting mom in person
17:12 - Realizations after meeting her
18:12 - Final words

[@winonabannon8556]

I think many women would keep their babies if people were more supportive and nice to her. I had a daughter out of wedlock in 1982. Several people said some horrible, hurtful things to me. I was fortunate to have the means to support her and there was no way that I was going to give her up. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have no regrets at all.

[@valerieclark5064]

A great story. My brother's SIL placed her baby for adoption in 1979. She knew she was not ready to be a mom. She did things to make it easier for her son to find her like keeping her maiden name, having their phone number in her name, etc. She sent birthday and holiday cards to her adoption agency to file away hoping he would look for her. After her son became a parent himself at 30 years old, he started the process of looking for his biological parents. Luckily, it was a lot easier for him to find his mom. When he contacted the adoption agency on a Friday afternoon, they provided I'm with his birth mom's name and city where she currently lived believing she would want him to contact her because of the cards (most lost in a fire), but would not give him her any other info until after the agency reached out to her. They left a message on Mom's answering machine, but she did not hear the message until after work and she had to wait until Monday to call back. She thought they wanted to talk to her about something related to her contact info. At 9 pm that night, he called her. He used the internet to find her phone number. He couldn't wait any longer. She hadn't told her kids yet (she was waiting until her youngest was 16). The girls took the news excitedly especially when they heard they were aunts! A week later, mom drove to meet her son, and 2 weeks later, the kids, husband, sister, and my brother met him and his family. Since then, it has been like they were never separated. His adopted mother kept a scrapbook for the bio mom and his mom had a photo album for him. Both mom's love and care for each other for what each did their their son.

[@billh.1126]

I was born in a Catholic Orphanage for Unwed Mothers ... that was in the mid 50s. I recently took a DNA Test ... have found out I have 13 brothers and sister out there and counting. 3 on my birth-mothers side (I talk regularly with them) and 10 on birth-fathers side (and as I said and counting) > talked with 2 of them. He had 10 kids with 8 women over a 35-year period. Have talked with birth mothers' brother and sister ... several cousins and one who knew my grandmother on birthfathers' side when she was a little girl.

[@jllannoo]

I was 54 when I found my birth mom. My parents had passed nearly 20 years prior. I found her through DNA. Sadly we met just before COVID, then 2021 she was killed in an automobile accident. We never got to really know each other, we met and then she visited my home just before Christmas. My half sister, 14 months younger, told me mom always had my birthday marked on her calendars and she about 12 years old before she was told I was put up for adoption at birth. She had been sent to a girl home to have me, but her sisters knew she had a girl. I love hearing other stories.

[@tracycarpenter4104]

Hello, your story is amazing ! My mom passed away 2 years ago with Covid , and I had been searching for my sister, who was given up in the late 50s, and I promised her I would find her, but keep running into brick walls ! Please help 😢

[@BarbaraatQueensAvenueTarot]

My daughter was adopted from China and I would be so thrilled, if by some miracle, she could find her bio family.

[@detectivethinker3637]

I am British Chinese and I would say this would be hard. However, the Chinese police would be willing to help.

[@lindaares9529]

My Brother I didn’t know I had found me after 64 years He was adopted to a military family and grew up in the US Me in Germany the best thing ever in my life the Day he came in my Life

[@RedfordBaron]

I Found my lovely mum after 54 years she had always wanted me back and was blown away when I found her we have a beautiful relationship now

[@davidbrennan5973]

Aw your adopted mom sounds like such an amazing person. I’m sure if she was here she’d be so proud of the person you’ve become

[@probuilder1415]

Met my birth mom after 29 years this summer. Now she is coming to spend Christmas with my family and I.

[@zuriemody4580]

I am sorry for your pain. It may help if you believe in Karma and past lives.

[@probuilder1415]

@@zuriemody4580 No I do not. But I do believe in Jesus. Me being adopted needed to happen.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

That is so amazing. I am so thrilled for you. Hope you had a wonderful time together. What a blessing. ~*Jenny*~

[@Carnicrazy]

Yours is a touching story. I wept along with you because I know a little of what you experienced. In 1966 I gave birth to a girl baby who was privately adopted by a childless couple. I thought & wondered about her every single day! Nearing what would be her 16th birthday, I visited a psychic who told me someone would be looking for me through a person named Barbara. I didn't know any Barbara's at the time but when I told my mother about it she said "wasn't the doctor who delivered the child named Barbara?" OMG! I immediately wrote a letter to Dr. Barbara F asking her to release my information to the girl I had given up in case she inquired. I also enclosed a letter to the girl. On a Wednesday evening, a couple of years later, my mother called me & said you'd better sit down. I IMMEDIATELY knew what transpired! Three days later, at my parent's house, I met my beautiful daughter! For the past 40 years now I have had the privilege of knowing & enjoying the friendship of my first girl child. ❤

[@brandilowe1916]

i originally got the information that i needed was thru Bastardnation. thru a court intermediary in Mich. i had lost my adoptive mom. i found by the time i found my birth family, my birth mom had passed. the first thing i learned was she named me. i walked around for a month saying my birth name over and over. i wasn't a dumpster baby, she loved me, i had a name. a name! The other things would come later. such my 9 brothers and sisters after me. i have met many of them. i was accepted and acknowledged. there were hardships in both sides of the family. no one gets adopted because everyone is having a great time. i feel blessed

[@mecaschwager764]

Thanks for your story. I am a birth mom. My son's adoption was open, and he always knew he was wanted and loved by me. Unfortunately he had a fatal accident when he was 26, and I was never able to reconnect with him. I did get a leter from him when he was 18 that I cherish to this day. He addressed it to "mom". I was so thankful he felt that way. I met many of his friends at his memorial, and he was a very special person. I feel blessed to have given birth to such an incredible, wonderful, memorable human!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Meca! That is so wonderful that you were able to get that letter. I am so sorry to hear of his accident and your loss. He sounds like a wonderful person. May God bless you always. ~*Jenny*~

[@conspiracynutsgfy661]

Both birth parents died before I ever started looking, but I have three sisters and a brother, all of whom are wonderful. One sister said my my bmom would have welcomed a reunion.

[@simshill295]

The beauty of finding the love ❤️ of two moms in a lifetime is a treasure to behold. So happy you received and gave joy to your birth mom. Sharing your story will help someone.

[@mdevorah6833]

You are so lucky sweetie! My state recently allowed us (adoptees) to get our original birth cert. That was neet to see. (No known father). So i pray she was not assaulted. With that said, being adopted from the catholic charities. i had the catholic charities as a liasson. They contacted my biologic moms brother, who relayed to her that i wrote. The response back was very sweet. She was glad i was okay. But did not want contact because it was the most traumatic thing in her life. I am okay with that. I was afraid of opening up a "closet of dead skeletons" or "opening a can of worms on her". I had a full birth name. Probably named by the nuns. Like you i never wanted to hurt either families. God created both families. The one could not conceive the other was put here to help that family out. It is all good. 🥰

[@maryannstypa7783]

Jenny, what a beautiful story! You all - your biological Mom, your parents who raised you- so much LOVE! The absolute Unselfish act your adoptive Mom did telling you - find your Mom- she didn’t want you to suffer being without a Mom. Great story - thank you,

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi MaryAnn! Thank you for your kind words. I was/am so fortunate to have been raised in such a loving home. My mom was always putting others first so it was no surprise she was thinking of me (even during her suffering). It's my pleasure to share what I have learned to help others. Hugs! ~*Jenny*~

[@alanmartin6268]

The word Love takes on a depth that I cannot even begin to comprehend.

[@kristinecrowley8321]

When you grow a baby inside of you, I imagine you will love that baby forever even if you have to give him/her up. I have 2 kids of my own and I cannot imagine the pain and the bravery it would take to place them for adoption. This story had me crying. I’m glad you and your mom found each other!

[@shawnapullin5178]

I am adopted and was able to find and meet my birth mother with lots of help from my Mom who raised me. Its been an amazing experience! My birth family are awesome and my birth mother did not want to give me up. She was very excited to know me. Thank you for making this video. I'll just say that i feel so fortunate to have two families to love.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

So happy for you, Shawna. I am so happy that you have two families to love. How considerate that your mom would help you look. From one adoptee to another, I totally get it. Thanks for sharing your story. ~*Jenny*~

[@Michelle-jz8vl]

I was 48 when I found my birth mother. She was so angry and upset. She accused me of trying to destroy her family. I said, huh?? I had no clue she’s been married to her husband of 56yrs and had grown children and grandchildren. I was so puzzled by her anger, I literally became emotionally numb. I asked her who my dad was, she said that was her pass life and he’s probably dead. SMH. I’m now 54 and have not one 1 family member. So freakin depressing..

[@miqumiqu8673]

Chelsea, I adopt You as my Family, I will pray for you and think of you every day that I shall live. You will always be prayed for every day for the rest of my life. I will be mentioning You by name in every prayer I pray. Always with love, miqu

[@MichelleLuvn25]

That totally sucks and I am so sorry that you are going through this 😌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😍❤️❤️❤️

[@jacquelinemaxwell4022]

Oh my God, am sorry you are going through this. Trust God, he will take you through this

[@liontribeofjudah5616]

Chelsee, I'm so sorry for all you have been through in your life. Your birth mom was in shock and acted out in anger..I know that broke your heart again..I will pray for you and you will see the power of the Living God in your life..You are not alone.. For He alone formed you and created you..He knows your biological parents..He will set things right in your life..He alone will mend the broken pieces..if you will let Him heal you. I'm your same age..My name is Elizabeth, from Florida..May you be filled with the peace of Christ Jesus..and his love. May you also find some comfort that you are loved by God the Father..and you are very valuable to the Father and The Son, Jesus. You are very loved.. Look down at the palms of your hands..Look closely at your fingerprints child. No two prints are alike in all the world..Your fingerprints are exclusive to you alone and are His signature on you..Like an famous artist signs his masterpieces...Your Creator signed you. He would want me to tell you..you are very loved and Cherished. He knows you are hurting..terribly..He knows and grieves too.. Turn to Him..Trust Him. I know He is moving on your behalf even as I message you.. Psalm 27:10.. " when my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord WILL take me up." His WORD is true..He will take you up. Also, if you read this all the way through..Still call Jenny..maybe she could help you find your father. Don't give up on your mom or Father.. My God is God!!! Is anything to hard for him? He makes a way..when there is no way..He is the WAY MAKER, MIRACLE WORKER, PROMISE KEEPER..LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS.. Cry out to Him. He will take you as His own.. Much love and Prayers going up daily for you sis.

[@marietgagliardi]

Thats really sad. I'm sorry

[@salfromoregon4369]

Wow! What an awesome and loving testimony. I’m so happy for you. I am not adopted. My b mom died of cancer very early in my life. I was 4, she was just 29. I’m now 74 and still miss her and think about her a lot. So thank you for your story. It really touched me.

[@robynryan7473]

I'm not adopted so I cant speak on that but I can entirely speak on rejection of attempting to reach out to family that I wasnt allowed to know on my fathers side. It drove me into a deep depression. Just feeling like I wasnt welcomed into my family and was considered an "undesirable". Well fast forward to 2022 and I have met a few cousins through a line I was told nothing about and a seperate line I never knew at all. I am so grateful for my friend for helping me with ancestry dna and being able to locate my long lost family. The one cousin is in fact adopted but he is open to speaking to a biological cousin he never knew. I feel so blessed I truly do

[@user-dw9tp7wy1j]

I too found my bio on. From the time I made first contact with South Dakota Social Services and called my bio mom 3months later. I was readily accepted by mom and my six 1/2 siblings. My father was ceased when he was in his 30’s but had 3 daughters. I have met them and readily accepted by them. My father’s family was somewhat chaotic with my father and his wife and 2 sisters were alcoholic. My bio mom’s family both nuclear and her brother and his family all are very accepting. This all happed 2o years ago. I am an active member of their families and they are actively involved in my family. My mom is deceased and I miss her.

[@markvinnes5044]

A😅a😅

[@andreamallard5902]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with us. I am a bith mother of a adopted daughter. My daughter found me in March of 2020. We since have formed a wonderful friendship and relationship.

[@randomvintagefilm273]

Your mother must have been very special to you, I'm so sorry you lost her at such a young age. I can't imagine 😢 I think I was born pretty close to you. (October 1967) Society still shames unwed mothers but they don't usually have to leave town!

[@dylanappenfeldt2442]

I am desperately looking for my daughter placed for adoption in 1995 January 15 is her birthday and I am so very grateful you made this video! I am literally looking at the ancestry dna kit I ordered for my Mother’s Day gift to myself and I will mail it Monday but I have no hope that she is looking for me. I imagine she thinks I must have been a heartless person and I can’t tell you the river of tears I have cried. Thank You for your story and I saved your video and number. God please help me and again thank You!

[@suemount6042]

Dylanappenfeld do a 23 and me too as that’s popular too and will give you another avenue to go down. Don’t give up hope miracles do happen good luck with your search

[@suzybailey-koubti8342]

I am going to pray for you every night before I sleep! Never give up! I remember the day my aunt came home with a little beautiful baby girl in 1966. I was 10 and thought she was an angel. My sweet cousin was given to my aunt because her biological mom was very poor and had several other children she was trying to rear. My aunt always told my cousin who her birth mom was and she grew up knowing the circumstances. My cousin, was very cordial and loving toward her birth mom but didn’t want a relationship. My aunt and uncle were so loving and open and allowed my cousin to set her own path in life. We are a loving Christian family and biological family and adoptive family are so important to all of us. We have all been blessed. My cousin has two young adult children and sadly my aunt and uncle are both deceased now as is Mel’s biological mom. God bless you, mama! 🙏🏼

[@sunshinegal4294]

I’m happy you found your birth mom. I would not call your mom who raised you and loved you your adopted mom, but your mom and your birth or biological mom your birth mom. 💗

[@JenShea]

Thank you for sharing Jenny. I'm sorry you lost your Mom so early in your life. I received my non-identified info when I was about 32. I didn't get curious until I had my own daughter. There were plenty of shocking bits in there... and interesting. Years later Canada allowed Canadians to order their birth certificates. I finally knew her name... Unfortunately my bm didn't want to meet me... that rejection you spoke about. That was a shocking feeling for me. I wasn't expecting to feel that, and I did. I never felt rejected growing up. But, when it happened again, I realized for the first time... I'd been rejected twice. I found out my bf had died years before. It's always good to see happier stories.

[@catherineelainebaxter4609]

Dearest Jenny Thank you so much for sharing your precious story. It made me cry too, when you choked up. Just know that you are a beautiful soul inside and out. And you can thank all four of your parents for that gift to you (which I don't doubt you have). I am so happy that you found your mom and for never giving up. Sending richest blessings to you and your family. Elaine from South Africa

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Catherine. Greetings from the US. Thank you so much for your kind words. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a message. I was very lucky to have 4 wonderful parents. All the best to you! ~*Jenny*~

[@oceandreamer1958]

I’m happy for you finding your mom and having a wonderful relationship with she and your siblings. I love stories like yours! It’s wonderful that you want to help reunite others. Blessings and hugs to you!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Thank you, Debbie. I have been so fortunate. I want to help others experience what I have. It's so rewarding. All the best to you! ~*Jenny*~

[@overtimedemo4399]

Alot better than my bio hatcher, don't give false hope. Alot of closed adoptions are like that to protect yourself

[@kimleediaz6873]

My birth mother gave all 6 of up for adoption when I was 7 Im now 44. I pray she does not want to find us. I have my own son to raise and love. She chose drugs and alcohol over us. I have nothing to say to her. I'm happy for your story. God bless you.

[@happycamper4ever873]

Honestly, I came from that place. I was 14 when she relinquished the 6 of us. It was by far the best thing she ever did. I’m so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain at 7 years old. My life is dedicated to being the mom I wish we had. My youngest just turned 18. We ALL became loving and stable parents . . Bless you and your son. You can do this!

[@marietgagliardi]

I'm glad you are happy

[@dianewalker400]

I never gave up my kids did have a abortion not by choice I was young then but hate that part of my life anyway I felt compelled to write the part about your mom on addition I suffered well will forever suffer that addition as well I too left my young boys fir a year and considered signing my rights away at one point bc of my addition and not getting my act together I left bc I did love them that much to not put them thru that lifestyle anymore then I subjected them too for even a shirt time I have raised my youngest since he was 8 until now at 22 my oldest seen to much and I live with the heartache of my wrings I see the damage that I caused but I never stopped loving or wanting them ever I have extreme guilt my point is if you have any type of feelings of why did she choose drugs Alcohol over you please understand we don't mean to most of us we love you kids hard enough to let go bc we're not worthy of you at that time in our lives as much as I knew about parents in addiction and lived it never wanted to be that to my kids I ended up like my mother almost to a t and just know I never choose drugs they consumed me and I couldn't get past that beast then and even now I struggle in life from time to time although your doing well I hope I gave you a little comfort in understanding a mother who lived that and maybe if you did feel like I expressed I could help please know I don't condone this life nor do I make excuses for our actions it's wrong on all levels but I know it on both sides and it's definitely not what we really want it becomes a monster we don't usually know how to beat it takes our souls it's not who we really are inside it hurts so many involved I hope and wish you great things in life take care

[@annairwin8147]

I so understand what you are saying.

[@user-lv8zf7fi6k]

You seem to have a big loving heart! Must be genetics and lovely (adopted) parents. You got the best from both!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

How kind of you to say. Thank you. I was fortunate to have 4 parents who were all wonderful people. I feel very blessed. ~*Jenny*~

[@constancecombs2807]

Jenny, I enjoyed your message. I am a genetic genealogist and have helped reunite many birth families since January 2019. I have dome this work voluntarily and have found it so gratifying.

[@GOD_INCARNATE]

Thank you so much for sharing this with us, birth mothers who still are in prayer that they won't be loved by the children they placed so long ago.

[@patriciaarmstrong7009]

Omg crying happy tires for you I love your life story. Our family is blessed by adoption my oldest nephew and his wife are unable to have biological children but they have the most beautiful little girl that just turned 15 and when she’s ready we all will be there for her to help in her search. God bless you and your family.

[@latanzajohnson2355]

Thank you for your story. Nothing just happens.

[@christianinoz1]

Such a wonderful story

[@dalet9207]

Appreciate you sharing with us.

[@flautalee3090]

What an astonishing and generous post! Thank you.

[@marytesta3003]

I'm not adopted but your video is so moving. My friend was adopted and has had a wonderful relationship with her birth family over the years.

[@janetbloder]

Jenny… thank you for sharing… this brought tears to my eyes…

[@TrishaAdamsArt]

Beautiful heart-warming story. Thank you for sharing.

[@yenglaileong3236]

Very touching discovery. My tears are running for joy.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Thank you. I appreciate you watching the video and commenting. Searching for a birth parent can be difficult, but it can also be so rewarding. ~*Jenny*~

[@archeewaters]

bless you for not giving up. i wish you the best in your life

[@peterreece2340]

Jenny, I think that you are a wonderful, caring person and it is lovely that you found your Mom.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Peter! I so appreciate your kind words. I feel very fortunate to have found my mom and my dad. Look soon for the video that tells about my 32 year journey to find my amazing father. ~*Jenny*~

[@ML-un1qq]

Thank you so much ! I cried all the video and I'm so happy for you. 💞💞💞

[@donnaprice7931]

Bless you.💖

[@roselightcafe1754]

🌺 Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and touching story of your life… And finding your mom… I wept with you honey… God bless you… It’s all good. 🙏🏽 🌿🕊🍃🌸🍃🌺🍃🌼🍃👍🏽

[@paulferrari5262]

You,Jenny are an amazing person.

[@liontribeofjudah5616]

Beautiful and touching story of your life and your birth mother's life..

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. ~*Jenny*~

[@kingstonstreet3726]

Beautiful story and I cried

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi! Thank you so much. I hope my story about finding my birth parents can touch others and make a difference. *~Jenny*

[@sassytbc7923]

I am so glad that you had a good experience. You are so lucky. I wish I could meet at least one of my siblings.

[@JeannineWarriner-rr7ry]

Thank you for telling your story. I am surching for my birth parentd.

[@katepearson2730]

Aww Jenny! Your story broke my heart, im a 41 year old disabled lady and I have 3 biological children one is 18 years old on the 9th January, (my son) one turned 16 years old on the 6th August just gone (my other son) and my youngest just turned 15 on the 17th November just gone, (my daughter) I also fostered my eldest who just turned 24 on the 12th December just gone, he’s now married and got a great job and his own place, he was 13 when he came to live with us on the 4th of December and then he turned 14 about 8 days later, his biological mum was my 1st cousin she had him and 2 daughters when he came to live with us, she was drinking and on drugs at the time, I started talking to her again because we bumped into each other one day about 7-8 months before he came to live with us forever, at first he would stay a few nights then go back to hers, and then they’d argue and he would stay again, each time he went back I thought he wanted to go back, turns out he didn’t, he only went back each time because he thought we didn’t want him, that broke my heart when he told us that! Long story short she had a still birth a few months previously and she didn’t want to do anything for her kids, (not that she did much before that happened anyway) her house was always filthy and she barely bought any food, and then social services got involved and the only reason we got our son was because he wouldn’t go back, she got to keep the girls, and then met a guy online and got pregnant straight away, and then had another son, and one social worker was horrible, she admitted that the girls were dirty and had nits and wouldn’t check her food cupboards only ours when she came to ours, and then I got mad because she called my foster son a lier because he told her what went on at his biological mums house, I lost it and she threatened to take him away, then a few days later we got a different social worker and she was lovely, she was from a different area and was coming back from maternity leave, she definitely ruffled a few feathers and got them off our backs, she admitted that we should of gotten the two girls too, but that didn’t happen sadly, even now my son won’t talk to his biological mum, he calls me mum and my husband dad, he don’t even speak to his biological sisters, because when he met one of them one day she went back home and her mum gave her a hard time till she told her EVERYTHING they spoken about and he didn’t want her to know anything or his sister to get a hard time, so he walked away from it all, I’ve tried to convince him that one day in the future he may want to speak to his biological mum BUT he won’t do it, I’ve told him that I really don’t mind if he does, and that il always love him as if he was my own biological son, NOTHING will ever change that, anyway, sorry to ramble on, I am so HAPPY u got to know ur biological mum and have a relationship with her, and ur siblings too, I felt everything u were saying in this video, u can hear the pain and sadness in your voice and also the happiness too, my mum and my step mum are passed now and my dad too, it’s so sad when u lose them, I never appreciated my mum till she was gone and I regret that, but I know il see them all again one day, God bless to u and ur family too, and thank u for your beautiful video, u will help MANY people with this video I believe, XxxxxX Kate 🇬🇧 😊 XxxxxX

[@carolechenowith900]

Great story. Made me tear up. Well done!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Thank you, Carole. I didn't think I would get so emotional but some things just get to me. ~*Jenny*~

[@malcolmmounsey4876]

You are a wonderfull woman and a lovely story xx

[@applegreen563]

Jenny, how wonderful you are. You have such a beautiful heart ❤❤❤. Thank you so much for sharing your fantastic loving story.

[@sandemanmaart]

God bless you

[@daphne201239]

How much does it cost to use origins? I have dna tests at 4 different dna companies and still can't find my half sibling that i only recently found out about. The most frustrating part is i know who the bio mom is that my father had a baby with (he's deceased) but she won't tell me anything. All i want from her is an exact birthdate to help in my research. So frustrating. I'm trying to be sensitive to her feelings (& her secret from some of her family) but I don't feel it's fair to me. I'm trying not to be selfish - so i haven't pushed beyond 2 or 3 written letters and messenger messages (which went unread since we aren't fb friends) & one nice comment which just said "i left you a message" & then I got blocked. I guess she's so worried about her religious reputation (I'm assuming) that she's willing to go to the grave with this secret. Who knows if my sibling even knows he's/ she's adopted.😢 💔

[@elliesouza717]

What a beautiful story! I'm so glad things turned out so well. Knowing how loved you are is a wonderful thing. Two of my children are adopted, my son was removed by the state from his birth mother and my daughter was found in a box in China. My husband and I have always said we would support and help help them if they ever decided to want to know more about their birth parents. Both are happy, healthy adults. My daughter has no interest in searching. My son is curious to know if he has siblings, but because of the circumstances that caused him to be removed, he doesn't want to seek his birth mother. He has done a DNA test through ancestry and is waiting for results and will go from there. I'm sure your story will help many others who need to know more

[@thegatesofdawn...1386]

Beautiful story, I am happy that you shared it and happy for you. Did you ever find your birth father?

[@kend1634]

Jenny, Thank you for sharing your story! I'm very happy that you and your mother were reconnected!!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Thank you so much, Ken. Knowing my birth mom and having a relationship with her was so beneficial to both of us. ~*Jenny*~

[@kaybonette]

Thank you for sharing your story. It made me cry. I had hoped your mom would have told you who your dad is. Did you consider dna?

[@karenshiels6566]

I know your Pain, my Mom died of cancer 4 years ago. 5 days after she was told she had it. We didn't even have time to get over the shock of the C word. Was no real surprise though most of her siblings went that way , her mother and paternal grandmother as well.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Karen, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. The loss is incredibly painful. My mom was young when we learned she cancer. I thought for sure she would beat it. Unfortunately, she died two months later at the age of 44. I"m thinking of you and hope your memories with her bring you peace. Much love, ~*Jenny*~

[@saraschneider6781]

This video just came into my feed so I'm brand new to your story. Did you ever find your dad?

[@rahimahassan4502]

such a sweet story!! and its amazing how everyone's story is different so unique. i was taken to be raised at my dad's when i was 3mnths old, parents had divorced bio mom was 6months pregnant with me, i grew up thinking the new wife my dad had married was my mother, i am african she is white american, until i was 10 i find out she wasnt my bio mom and the bio mom was around i used to see her growing up. the family knew i didnt, she had an older daughter from my dad, a yr older than me, my only full blood sibling, i have about 23 siblings, most from my dad, but I grew up thinking she was my half sis until then, but i dont have relationship with both moms, i have my own kids now, so much has happened in between that changed everything, we don't even talk, and honestly to me its ok, i chose not to talk to them,, it was so confusing to me at 10 and no one till today really talked to me about it, like as if they brushed it off,

[@tuborice4571]

I found her we met up 3 times when I was 32 in 2006. Got an email saying don't get in touch again. Oh well

[@peterhoffman8525]

Thank you for this encouragement! I am happy it turned out so well for you.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Peter! Thank you. Glad the video was beneficial for you. Are you searching for birth parents? ~*Jenny*~

[@peterhoffman8525]

@@originsgenealogy7107 I am way out of my league trying to find birth family. Mine was a foreign adoption (from Europe) and records are 'sealed'. Adoptive family is very small. I am now a 'senior citizen' and mostly interested at this point in learning more about my wife's family.

[@zeldarobinson3382]

I'm happy you found and had a great relationship with your mom and other siblings , you never mentioned looking for your biological father why would you not look for him to complete the connection. I think it's sad so many adoption records are sealed ,they never should have been ,why would anyone want to hide that information.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Zelda! Actually, I did spend 32 long years searching for my darling dad. I'm working on another video about that. Here's a small bit of info I can share. I met my birth father for the first time on my 50th bday. We have a wonderful relationship. ~*Jenny*~

[@loriwishman1866]

What took her so long to call back? Was it to tell other family members?

[@christianagooding4036]

Jenny ♡ I love your story...so many similarities. I've met my biolical sisters on my Mom's side...not yet met the brothers x 3...She never told anyone about me, till she was dieing. One, of my siblings on my dad's side, I've met, but the others, either don't care or we just haven't gotten in touch. Be blessed

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Christiana! This makes my heart so happy. It never gets old to me to hear of others finding their family members. In fact, it brings back all the feelings I experienced. Best wishes to you! ~*Jenny*~

[@larrykemp942]

To all children if you were adopted through a closed adoption you need to find your biological family!! This happened to me and I was unable to find my best ethic parents until after both of them had passed away. My father died not knowing that he had a child, which really crushes me. However the other part is the medical side. Both sides have heart problems and on my fathers side there is also diabetes. In regard to the heart problems I found my mother in 1983 and learned she died from a massive heart attack. So prior to finding my father I was having chest pain and went to the doctor. I had heart surgery in 2016 and later learned the doctor had told my wife that had I not had the surgery I would have died in 3 weeks or less. So to all adoptees find your birth parents if possible. They may be good people who just didn’t have a choice but they did give you a chance and didn’t choose abortion as an alternative!! Good luck to all!

[@elliesouza717]

It's each person's choice as to whether or not they even want to find their bio family

[@beckysmith2850]

My story has a happy reunion also

[@marypennington6519]

Looking for my birth daughter gave her up in March 1970 born Feb 13 1970. An she had a white blanket she went with Minneapolis Minnesota

[@ENGABU1]

Yeap "given up" is a horrible phrase. My fear of secondary rejection meant I've never sought it out. But found last year of siblings...and tomorrow I hope to finally meet my birth mother for the very first time in my memory of 56 years. I know from my siblings that this will not be a long term "relationship" as that is just the way she is. And I am perfectly fine with that. I just want to say "thank you"

[@gilburtvanhorn4974]

Hi that was so cool that you had a good experience with your birth mother I met both my biological parents and it was ok for awhile but then things didn't really work out anymore so I cut both of my biological parents out of my life because they are very strange people but anyway I did not have a good experience and from my experience I don't recommend people meeting their birth parents because it can be really disappointing my birth mother died last year and I felt like a big burden was weighing me down and I really have no feelings about my bio mom dying I have watched videos on people meeting their biological parents and almost every one of the videos I see come out great and I'm happy for the bio parents and their biological child and I think to myself I wish my meeting my bio parents was different

[@genevievegordon2432]

Beautiful story. My daughter-in-law is adopted and has no interest to find her mom. We have some heated conversations about the subject. If I had been adopted I definitely would want to find me mom! So glad your story had a happy ending.

[@FourSeasons04]

She's not you! At the end of the day, you need to learn to respect her decision whether you agree or not.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

HI Genevieve! I think everyone is different and each adoptee has to decide for themselves. I was raised with two brothers who were also adopted. Picture this.. I had dark hair, my older brother had red hair, and my younger brother was very blonde. However, we all did have blue eyes. The irony in that is both our adopted parents had very dark brown eyes. It never mattered to me or my brothers that we all look so different. It made me very curious as to what my birth parents looked like. My brothers have not found their birth parents. I don't get it, but I do respect their decision. They have been over the moon supportive to me in my decision. They spent many times with my birth mom. It was a wonderful time. ~*Jenny*~

[@xh4r744]

is there an email for you directly? I've a complicated story

[@carolinasevillino5500]

I have a very beautiful story about looking for my birth father. Those feelings of rejections . Those twists and turns of finding the perfect but wrong person. The emotional investment and attachment to the entire clan you never had. The finding the one that could have gotten away but chosen to stay. And all those emotional yoyo

[@originsgenealogy7107]

It sounds like you understand all the emotions, Carolina. It is a roller coaster of ups and downs. I hope all is well with you. ~*Jenny*~

[@teresajamison8060]

❤

[@bonniehall3428]

WOW, that is amazing! You do not look your age, not even close. Where your adoptive parents church goers?

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Bonnie! Thanks for the uplifting comment. I am now 53 years old. I still love life and hope to grow old gracefully, but never lose the passion to continue to learn and love. As for my parents that adopted me.... yes, they were very faithful church goers. I am so thankful for their examples. I am so lucky to have had them. ~*Jenny*~

[@scarletwalker7682]

wow that was just wow !!i took your number down im really wanting talk to you i just started looking and im really ! lost in where too even look ? i know that i wanted too wait for a while wasnt even sure i wanted too know .. but now im 48 years and i feel i need too im not sure where too start my mom and dad ! only told me her name is donna and they both past away im stuck and not sure where too start may i call you i loved your story and made me cry !! cause i have this feeling i need too no matter what the out come !! is

[@sandra101705]

my dad had a kid never knew about and my. aunt his sis had a son. she gave up cuz again he was born in the late 60s 70s times and parents was brutal back then they would send the girls off if they was pregnant to keep it a secret.. imagine was everything to ppl bk then and that's so sad.. we were found by BOTH of them this past year and i look so much like my half sis it's crazy

[@sandra101705]

i ment in the 50s

[@jasonbrown4317]

I myself could never knowingly give up a child of my own it's not in my nature. Truthfully I'd rather die than give up my child no way on God's green earth would I ever knowingly or willingly give up my child I don't care what struggles I went through I don't care how much I went without as long as my baby was taken care of first I'm keeping my baby cut and dry bottom line

[@elliesouza717]

I think the idea isn't how much you go through or without, but how much will they go through or without that allows many birth mothers to give their babies up. It often has little to do with money and far more to do with their mental and emotional situation, if they are in an abusive situation where they feel they can't keep their baby safe, things like that. It's about putting their needs ahead of your own. I can't imagine how devastating it must be for many of these parents go through in making that decision. But as a mom with both bio and adopted children, I'm glad there are people who do put their children first

[@jmk1962]

Society was very different back in the 50's, 60's and even 70's to how it is today and a lot of unmarried birth mother's had no choice. To have a child out of wedlock was a huge deal back then, they called the poor innocent babies illegitimate. It took a lot of courage for these birth mothers to think about what was best for their babies, to want them to have two parents and a loving home etc. These days there is far more choice and a lot of babies are taken into care because their birth parents can't keep themselves or their babies safe,it's a very different situation these days.

[@muhammadabdullah3908]

sorry for ask this but how ur birth mom introduce u to her family

[@nancyisabellesicilia8217]

Good question!

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Muhammed! That's a great question and one people have often asked. As far as telling my grandfather and my siblings, she just called them and told them the story. They were so loving and understanding. As far as extended family, I met them all at once. My grandfather was turning 85 and the plan was to have a large party for him. All of my mom's aunts and uncles, cousins and so on would attend. I was there with my family and before the party my mom asked everyone to gather in the room. I'm sure they thought she was going to say something about my grandpa. Instead, she explained her story and how she had placed a baby for adoption many years before. I was standing behind her so nobody could see me. When she told the family that I had found her, many in my family were crying, even the men. She then explained how I was going to be at the party. Many asked her how they would be able to recognize me. Mom explained it wasn't hard to pick me out at all. She stepped aside so everyone could see me. Because I look so much like my mom, my family made comments that were fun to hear. Things like... "I would have thought you were Peggy." "The resemblance is remarkable." And then of course it was followed by huge hugs and introductions to my new-found family. I was able to dance with my grandpa for his 85th birthday. It is a memory I will always treasure. Thanks for asking :) ~*Jenny*~

[@carolg.6838]

That's wonderful you met everyone at your grandpa's birthday gathering. Tears if love from your relatives.

[@vickielewis7366]

Do you help birth mothers also?

[@cocosurgerow]

What is the tea on birth dad? What’s the story of birth parents relationship?

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi! I am working on another video about my birth father. It took me 32 years to find him, but we are best friends now. To say I was blessed is an understatement. ~*Jenny*~

[@louisetringham5830]

It should not be a closed adoption to many kids are so hurt by this

[@elliesouza717]

Many closed adoptions are necessary to protect children

[@fusunakol1226]

الحمدلله على نعمة الاسلام

[@marypennington6519]

Requested Catholic Family would raise her haven't given up she Asa half sister an had a half brother passed from Cancer

[@BetsyEnstrom]

Did you do the search for your father? An equal partner in this equation.

[@aditiyakusumayanti6901]

Siapa yang barusan bilang kamu mati.......di iklan Vidio ini......?.anda sudah biasa membunuh orang.....??.ngancam..kesiapa...kuning buruk sama hitam........!!

[@basraabdulle3526]

only in America where families don't grow up together where I come from you are stuck with what you got no matter what you will never have another family you either die or live you

[@elliesouza717]

How horrible! Thank God things aren't like that here. Most families in America do grow up together and for most of us family means everything. But there are situations where children are given up for adoption because parents cannot care for them. Two of my children are adopted, both from horrific situations...my son from here, my daughter from China (I guess it isn't just America). If they had not been pulled from that it's unlikely either would be alive. Instead of staying in those situations they are part of a family that loves them and always will. What kind of evil society would demand stay in those situations, being abused and possibly killed instead of going to a family that would love and care for them? That's barbaric

[@lindaraereneau484]

"Kind of shamed"---no, totally shamed! Totally rejected. A bad woman, going to hell.

[@aditiyakusumayanti6901]

Ini bukan saya.....wajah saya tidak seperti ini...........

[@yeshiworkgashu3192]

Ugly cry❤

[@sofiewhite1984]

Ffs, stop using the belittling term "Birth mother", a Mother us a Mother and to call an adopter or abductor a mother or father, is not the truth. It's impossible, of course for this to be the truth.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

Hi Sofie! Birth mother is a common term for one who places a child for adoption. I do not use it as a term to belittle anyone. I must say I disagree that a person who adopts a child can't be a mother. My mother who adopted me did everything she could for me. To me, it didn't matter that she did not give birth to me. She was there when I needed a parent, she legally accepted responsibility for me and my brothers ,and did all the things a woman does who gives birth to a child and raises that child. I feel that not recognizing them as parents is hurtful, inconsiderate, and disrespectful. It's OK to disagree with each other, but I wanted to share my thoughts on this with you. I love both my moms and dads. I am grateful for each of their roles in my life. They are all wonderful people. In my opinion, I have 4 parents and feel very blessed. ~*Jenny*~

[@marietgagliardi]

You are nuts

[@jeannebaker6905]

I am happy to be a birth mother and would never want qnyone to see it as a belittling term. My daughter has a mother who raised her....doing a wonderful job that i could not do. I am so grateful for her. I have met my birth daughter. I am so proud of the woman she is. I had always dreamed of meeting her one day and tried to be easy to be found. My heart bursts with joy when I think of her and I can't stop smiling.. I had been told my baby was a boy... how surprised I was when I received a call from a woman...I then understood why I had not been able to visual a little boy growing up...in my imagination a girl always came to mind and I needed to try to change the vision. I remembered all the birthdays, reliving the loss. Still I did not regret giving my child an opportunity to have a life I could not give. Adoption was the most loving thing I could give. I was assured the baby was with a family that wanted a child very much. I am so thankful to her family for welcoming her and loving her so much. That was 1971. She found me in 2018 via a genetic test. I had spoken of her to my husband and sister's throughout the years..everyone was happy for the reunification and welcomes her to our family. Still I don't want to intrude upon her family but welcome any contact. We live fairly far from each other but I hope to visit again as travel becomes easier.

[@originsgenealogy7107]

@@jeannebaker6905 How wonderful. So happy for all of you. I know how much it meant to my birth mom and from the many women I have talked to, most feel the same. Thank you for sharing your touching story. This is why I love helping others experience the joy I have. All the best to you. ~*Jenny*~

[@penelopelloyd5123]

Gene-A- logy not ology ..

[@elliesouza717]

Typo. Don't be obnoxious