My Boyfriend And Best Friend Asked My Permission To Date Each Other? r/Relationships

[@AndyyWithAY]

Sophie made a joke that you're in love with her fiance?? She thought that cute? Well I guess so. Jelly fish have more spine than OP so Sophie thought she could continue to get away with this. Sophie got what she deserved.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Some of the commenters pointed out that now that she hasn't stole him away from OP they likely will fall apart.

[@angeliccow]

I would have responded with like how you were in love with my boyfriend?

[@ginathecookie]

She's ruining the Sophie name 😒

[@princessmarthajandio]

@@ginathecookie I second that.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - This woman was never OP's friend and I hope in time she realizes and experiences what true friendship is. So glad she just washed her hands of this entire group of a-holes and got the hell outta Dodge! OP deserves so much better than that trash and I'm glad she took the leap to get out of there.

[@robertx8020]

She was a doormat for way too long ..but finally she showed her spine!

[@sumonelse1989]

Yeah, she sounds like a gas lighting, game playing manipulator. Definitely not a friend. Also, I'm a guy and I know she totally broke Girl code.

[@hilaryc3203]

@@robertx8020 It took long enough. She thinks it was to her credit, but no..full on doormat.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 1 I don't understand how people can have this little self-esteem or self preservation. If your "best friend" betrayed you like this, who needs enemies?? Get rid of these people

[@atinyevil1383]

It's not a self-esteem issue. If those are the kind of relationships you've had your entire life, you don't know that it's not normal. OP spent their life losing to Sophie, having Sophie take over, playing second to Sophie. OP thought that was just how it was and not that Sophie is a selfish person who takes everything and doesn't think about others. Why would they think it was bad if they've been conditioned to think it's normal?

[@drakedragon4572]

Right. Truly pathetic

[@brigidtheirish]

@@atinyevil1383 It's also a self-esteem issue. I had two "friends" growing up who only really interacted with me during class when I was trying to focus on the teacher, sat with me during lunch but didn't really talk to me, and disappeared during recess. They asked themselves over to my house for sleepovers a few times, when they brought some dating show board game (we were *12* ), "borrowed" money from me to buy candy, and then ground most of the candy into the carpet. I got sick of them pretty quick even though I had no other friends and every reason to believe this was normal behavior. I just figured it was better to have no friends than *these* friends.

[@mandylloyd]

@@atinyevil1383 it's still a self esteem issue, she may not be aware how ner relationship impact her self worth, self esteem & emotional health can be impacted by bad relationships.

[@gustavedore1073]

It is like in every toxic relationship, you are so used to person treating you badly that you bacome blind to it. From outside it is easy to say that just leave, but person in that toxic relationship is like frog in boiling water.

[@taz598]

Story 1 I'm betting that marriage won't last long......sounds like Sophie only wanted him to rub it in OP"S face ....with OP out of the picture she will move on to someone else's man because she will no longer get the feeling of superiority by being with him.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I hate weak-minded people like the OP. She has been ruled over by Sophie her entire life and allowed it to happen. She needed to take a stand at some point, but she never did. The last dinner where the OP walked out she ALMOST did, but it was more like her just coming off of her back from the floor to a kneeling position. For OP that is a massive move but it really doesn't matter much as Sophie along with the others will simply remember the OP as a spineless joke they could manipulate. She will only be missed as comic relief when they talk about wishing they had a "slave" to do this or that. One thing nobody mentions to the OP and she never figured it out either, her "friend" Sophie and the OP's boyfriend were cheating on the OP. At best, it was just an emotional affair, at worse, (probably the fact and the OP just doesn't want to admit it), they did get physical and probably quite often. The only reason it came to light was the fact Sophie wanted to rub it in the OP's face, which she did, and make sure the OP bowed down to her by granting her approval of their dating so they could take it public. The best thing for OP would be if she ended up on a deserted island for the rest of her life as she will always be someone's doormat. She will never grow a spine and someone will always be manipulating her. She is a natural-born victim. In fact, it wouldn't surprise me if she ended up searching for a manipulating kind of person as a replacement friend and also another one for a boyfriend. She is used to being treated like that so in her unbalanced brain, it is normal.

[@pippo17173]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Being spinless is unfortionly a sick mindset people are becoming now of days because *No drama* and *Don't hurt the feelings of others*. Its honestly a horrible sight on what the future will be.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

In the words of my crass great aunt, “B words like that are worth a dime a dozen.”

[@Bara.Tiddies]

@@thomasjoseph5876 I don't particularly people like you that project their bullshit on others. Get some empathy and therapy because you clearly need it sweetheart 😘

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@Bara.Tiddies Point out ONE THING I said that was bullshit. Just one. Everything I said was the truth. She allowed that behavior from her "friend" for years. She is NOT a victim, she is an enabler of her friend's behavior. Now run along and watch your cartoons little girl, the adults are talking. You are Dismissed.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

Story 2: Can we take a second to appreciate that we FINALLY got a parent who won’t take crap from their significant other about their kids?! Rock star uncle too!

[@MizTameRumors]

'just those tiny things you used to ignore become unbearable' Uhh girl, those tiny things you listed are huge red flags. This isn't resentment for friend, this is seeing her true colours and being in denial about it.

[@carlrood4457]

The things you ignore are things like they snort when they laugh.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

Story 1: The ugly girl/pretty girl relationship mentality has OP in a chokehold. This reminds me so much of my younger self. The low self esteem and doormat behavior is textbook. The “pretty” girl latches onto the less attractive girl. They derive a good portion of their self worth from their appearance and they slowly get you to do the same. They take every opportunity to point out how they’re the pretty one while the other girl is not. Any hint of confidence or positive thought is immediately shut down by the pretty one. Eventually, all that poison being dripped in their ears takes its toll. The tittle of “The ugly friend” seems appropriate. You feel that all of your friends only put up with you because you’re friends with the pretty girl. You feel that you need to put up with their toxic behavior because who else would be friends with the ugly girl? But once you remove those people from your life and snap out of the mindset, the entire world brightens up. You were never ugly. She was just cruel.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1- they had to ask you before they took things further "out of respect?" They had an emotional affair

[@jakeand9020]

It was not "out of respect" it was pointedly done to hurt OP and smother what little self esteem she'd gotten by having a boyfriend.

[@Tammohawk1]

That uncle is a rock star the way he stepped up for OP the way he did at such a young age.

[@jackspring7709]

At last! Someone else who has mentioned the uncle in all this. I'm amazed that more people haven't commented on how the uncle took OP in even 'though he was so young himself.

[@robertx8020]

@@jackspring7709 The Uncle is a hero!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't see the Uncle or anyone on the OP's mother's side of the family as "rock stars" or "heroes". They hid OP's existence from the bio father for years. It would be different if the bio-father was a Douche but from what the OP says, he is the farthest thing from it. The OP's uncle and the rest of the family simply wanted to "horde her" and not allow the bio-father to have any time with her. Because of them, she missed out on growing up with her father and her father missed out on seeing his daughter grow up. If I were OP, I would go very low contact with the uncle and everyone from that side of the family for their deception. If I were the father, I would take the mother to court and ask that kidnapping charges be pressed against her. Depending on where they live, there was an actual crime committed here. I would even ask to see if the grandparents and "rock star uncle" couldn't be charged as accessories to kidnapping as well. As a Private Investigator, I have seen firsthand, too many times to count, the devastation caused to both a parent and a child when they aren't told about each other and thus, are forced to not have the ability to form a bond from a young age.

[@randomusername3873]

@@thomasjoseph5876 To be fair, as far as I understood the mother never revealed the name of the father until the moment this story describes. But yeah, I always find so weird how people just accept that a child existence Is hidden from their parent

[@crisrodriguez5693]

@@thomasjoseph5876 From what I understood, OP said that "they knew his father" meaning that they know him as a person, interact with him and stuff. But it doesn't say that they knew he was OP's dad.

[@tsunderemonarch4703]

Story 1: I know exactly what it feels like to have so much anger building and building toward someone who has wronged you for years- only to have it disappear and feel absolutely nothing for the person. I even wrote about it on the subreddit lol. Its fascinating and oh so freeing. I haven't spoken to her once since breaking it off even as she continued to harass me. I've never felt better.

[@Aroaceenby]

I long for the day i feel nothing for my abusive father

[@sylviajones6745]

​@@Aroaceenby, so sorry that you are hurting so much. I hope you have a wonderful, life ❤️. Hope your dad loses his two front teeth.❤

[@astronautviolet153]

1 Story : Cut off toxic relationship and friends too she sounds selfish and entitled and not a real friend.

[@animelytical8354]

Story 2 is crazy. She's the reason she can't move in with OP's father. The audacity of her to suggest OP has a grudge. The father must just not want to be alone. Because he knows she ain't ish. Edit: Jheeze. The girlfriend was secretly doing all this? I feel bad for bio-dad. His bio-dad was already unwilling to move in with the woman based on knowing nothing of the things she was doing that made you feel the way he thought you felt about her. I'm suddenly a lot more impressed. Decent bloke.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I get so miffed when people say someone isn't a part of the family because someone doesnt look like someone else. It's asinine. Most people aren't clones of someone else. OP takes after his mom's side. It's not uncommon to predominantly have features from one side of the family. I'm glad the dad finally sorted himself out and got rid of Ana. She was all around terrible.

[@JDKT002]

The real irony is it was coming from someone who literally wasn't part of the family, wasn't married to OP's dad, and didn't even live with him.

[@jackspring7709]

Story 2: Nobody else seems to have mentioned this - but hats off and major kudos to OP's uncle for taking OP in even 'though the uncle was only 22 years old. Then adopting him like a son. Some people really are remarkable.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't see it that way. The uncle and the grandparents should be charged with accessory to kidnapping for the deception of not telling the father about the fact he has a daughter. It would be different if the bio-father was a Douche but from what the OP says, he is the farthest thing from it. The OP's uncle and the rest of the family simply wanted to "horde her" and not allow the bio-father to have any time with her. Because of them, she missed out on growing up with her father and her father missed out on seeing his daughter grow up. If I were OP, I would go very low contact with the uncle and everyone from that side of the family for their deception. If I were the father, I would take the mother to court and ask that kidnapping charges be pressed against her. Depending on where they live, there was an actual crime committed here. I would even ask to see if the grandparents and "rock star uncle" couldn't be charged as accessories to kidnapping as well. As a Private Investigator, I have seen firsthand, too many times to count, the devastation caused to both a parent and a child when they aren't told about each other and thus, are forced to not have the ability to form a bond from a young age. It's just as bad when one parent takes off with a child or children and hides from the other parent out of spite or revenge.

[@peteranon8455]

@@thomasjoseph5876 You did catch that part where OP's mom told OP and the uncle the name of the father on their last visit, right?

[@jaimedritt4622]

@@thomasjoseph5876 I don't think we were reading the same story. It was only in recent years, when the uncle asked to adopt OP, that the mother revealed who OP's actual father was. I hope you pay better attention to details when you're actually investigating!

[@happymama2793]

It seems pretty clear she wants her at the wedding so she feels like her friend backs her decision. I feel it's all in an effort to drop her guilt.

[@MegaMegafran]

She doesnt want her at the wedding to ease her conscience, she wants her there as some twisted power play to show superiority. This chick found a mousy friend she could step on to make herself feel superior in school, stole said girls bf and now has her at the bridal party as if to say “See everyone how wonderfull I am!, I stole this loser’s bf and she still showed up to give her support to me, I can do anything because I’m the most perfect girl ever!” The only way to keep your sanity with people like this is to not play their game at all

[@Wolfiechrm]

@@MegaMegafran makes me wonder if Sophie said something to the bf to get him to break up as it just seems sus like he never loved op and wanted a reason to drop her

[@jakeand9020]

I kind of got the impression he dated her to get close to Sophie in the first place.

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

If my BF and BFF asked my permission I'd say, "Sure! Aaaand you're both cut off forever, you traitors!" OP needs to grow a spine and think of herself for once!

[@middaydraws3379]

She did. She cut them off and moved states

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@middaydraws3379 AFTER 3 years of being the submissive "friend" to Sophie and the boyfriend. Keep in mind, the OP's boyfriend and her "friend" Sophie were cheating on the OP. At best, it was just an emotional affair, but more than likely, it was physical and had been for quite some time. They only told the OP so they could go "public" with their new relationship and to show the OP that she had been a "Cuck" for a year. The OP is a natural-born victim and doormat and always will be one. Sadly, she will seek out new friends and boyfriends that are manipulators that treat her like crap because to her, that is "normal".

[@Raggmopp-xl7yf]

@@middaydraws3379 Yeah - I wrote that before the end of the story. And I liked her idea of ghosting them without saying anything. Too bad she went to that last luncheon and spilled the beans.

[@platinum_noelle]

"You need to play nice with me" "No, I match energy with the people who interact with me, and guess what? Yours is toxic. You want me to play nice? You first. You started this, not me." ETA: I'm so happy that OP was able to deal with it, and that his uncle and dad were willing to not only listen, but also take corrective actions. It makes me happy to hear good endings like this 🥰

[@catpatrick3838]

Wasn't there a Reddit post that had "I hope you step on a lego" in an update? That has become one of my favorite ways to curse someone. 😂 Though salt instead of sugar in a cake might become my second favorite... 🤔

[@TarisLuna]

Story 2 NTA The girlfriend has no business in telling op they have no place in that family when everyone wants op there, but she. The only only one not having a place in that family it's that toxic woman.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 Ana needs to sort herself out. She's to blame here. She wants OP to pretend to play nice. But, she doesn't want to better herself, she just wants OP to be a doormat so she gets what she wants

[@brigidtheirish]

1: I've heard this elsewhere and as before, I don't think OP understands what "ghosting" is. "Ghosting" means not talking to them or acknowledging their existence. It is *not* going to dinner with them. And what happened to blocking them on everything? Jeez. I get the distinct impression that the friendship was always abusive, with OP as the victim. I also wonder about OP's parents given how surprised her mom was at OP establishing boundaries. Just seems like this girl's whole life has been people taking advantage of her. 2: If OP's dad knows how his girlfriend treats OP, why is he still dating her? Sure seems like he has a type, and that type is *toxic waste.* Update: *Oh.* The dad didn't know. Jeez. People need to learn to communicate. Though I get OP is dealing with a lot of damage from his mom. Why did OP's family let that horrible excuse for a human being anywhere *near* OP in the first place?

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Yeah, that really frustrates me too. OP really needs to think before she does things. Why on earth did she think going to the dinner was a good idea.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: It's literally because she's selfish. That's why she does everything that you listed. She thinks she's the Main Characterᵗᵐ and therefore deserves all the attention, all the friends, and whatever boyfriend she wants. You didn't even want to be her friend but she gave you no choice, and then took your boyfriend without any hesitation or thought about how you would feel because she "loves him" but guess what, so did you yet despite being your "friend", that didn't stop her because she's entitled and thinks the world owes her everything simply for existing. Edit: "If I say no it'll make her unhappy" that's so sad :( it's a shame she didn't give you that same consideration when taking and marrying your boyfriend Edit 2: "How could you think I would do that to you" Because you literally did. That's exactly what happened.

[@emperorwai]

Sophie is a using narcassis. Everything has to be about her and people taking care of her. And the OP was absolutely her doormat and I would know, given I am a reformed doormat. I had my own 'Sophie'. I was her bigger and less attractive friend (in retrospect, I was just a pudgy, awkward girl with low self esteem) and she was the 'short, cute and intellectual' one. She would actively pursue mutual friends partners and date them after the break ups (legit, for about 7-8 years, she and our other friend had the same dating history). When I started college, I met a guy and I adored him instantly. And he was obviously interested in me. Then he met her. I LET HER HAVE HIM. I thought I didn't deserve him. I deeply regret having them meet. She literally ruined his life and his relationship with his family. I toughed it out while they began dating because she was my friend, despite it actually hurting me. I knew she wasn't my friend the day she said 'hey, Guy, let's go into Emily's house make out on her couch again!' In the most cheery, mocking voice she could muster. That shitty ass statement broke the spell she had on me. And she knew it after I didn't give her something of mine she wanted, as I rarely ever said no to her. To those who may read this and might have their own 'Sophie', or in my case Bianca, I hope you understand that your'friend' is not more important than you. They are not worthy of more love or your money or deserve your partner(or possible partner) more. They are a shit friend who only cares for themselves. And yes. Bianca is her real name. Go f**k yourself, you self absorbed c**t.

[@thebigmystery7841]

Here here. I feel all of this. My awful friend decided to ditch my own birthday/graduation party (same month) to go to another friends house and posted pictures of them making cupcakes. Oh, and the party was AT HER OWN HOUSE. WITH HER FAMILY (family friends) Then later was so confused why I didnt contact her anymore when I moved away for college. Just completely ghosted her after a bit. Good riddance.

[@sylviajones6745]

Good for you! I am so very proud of you 👏💕

[@sylviajones6745]

Both of you girls.❤🎉

[@ItsYaBoiV]

Cut that "friend" and the ex out of your life and never look back.

[@brendahere]

I don't know why you went to dinner with those people, but I would hope I would have replied, "Actually I've had a number of dates and relationships over the years, but I didn't want to share them with you, because we are not THAT close. I also thought you being you, you would most likely put my dates down or try to flirt with them. You've been just that kind of friend. As far as going to your wedding, I don't want to put up with your ME drama anymore and wont be going. I've got an exciting job offer that I've been dreaming and working towards for over a year. I just came here to tell you all goodbye. Now, I really have to leave. I have a few more boxes to pack."

[@chelseylacombe3909]

“Oh, I’m in a relationship but considering how my last one went I’ve decided not to tell you about it.” But seriously, what an awful ex and friend.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Prior to the update, I was thinking, “she should just move and ghost them.” Too bad she went to that dinner; could’ve left them really scratching their heads as to where she went. Lmao

[@lunahix4815]

Story 1: Sophie just wanted foil to make herself look better via comparison. She chose OP as her friend; for a specific reason, after all. Story 2 makes me wonder, why did OP's mom act like that?

[@impishrebel5969]

"I didn't like her at first." A true point home that first impressions are generally usually the most accurate.

[@MrsGump]

"I hope ur asshole grows tatesbuds" 🤣🤣 That's one of the best I've heard in a while & will be my new monthly quote!! I still love the classic " I hope you stand on a Lego"

[@gcarr1089]

Story 1 -OP sounded so cool when she just casually said "I'm not going" then just up and left. Bet friend had the breakup of her ( bf) husband with OP in the speech. Glad she is moving on but she needs therapy to learn to stand up for herself.

[@boutux]

I wish I could have been at the table when OP finally let's Sophie know how she really feels.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It sounded pretty weak but considering the OP is a natural-born victim and doormat, it is a definite upgrade for herself. The sad part is, she will probably seek out the same kind of manipulators for a replacement friend and boyfriend after she gets settled into her new place. She is used to being treated like that and is also probably a very submissive personality. Without treatment or the "right" kind of friends/boyfriend, she will be easy pickings for the next Sophie and they may actually treat her worse.

[@boutux]

@@thomasjoseph5876 she should still feel proud for standing up for herself finally. Maybe this moment will be the impetus for permanent change. #evertheoptimist.

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

My favourite petty comment is “may the fleas from a 1000 camels infest your underwear”. 😂

[@sylviajones6745]

That's a great saying ☺️😊

[@trueword-1]

Story 2. OP's bio dad, seems to have a type! 😊 If so, hopefully he recognises it and chooses his new partners more carefully, not only for OP but for himself. His uncle is amazing, especially taking on an 8yr old when he was only 22yrs old, himself. Also I agree that OP had & has a smooth way of travelling through issues in his life. This might be in part due to the love etc. provided by his uncle.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@LL-fp5sc]

Thanks needed this and back at ya 🙂🙏

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@LL-fp5sc 💜💜🤗🤗

[@lovinavargas-carriedo2698]

Hope you're taking care of yourself too 💜💜

[@hibiscusrose6074]

1st story she should have just told every 9ne how shitty her friend and ex had been to her.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I've heard this one. No dis to op but I couldn't stay friends with someone like that.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: you know the best friend only wants to use OP as a person to pay everything for her and the other bridal parties if she already expects her to buy her things on a random day of hanging out

[@TheRealVenna]

My favorite petty 'curse' is, "I hope your children are born naked!" Only one that ALWAYS comes true! 😁

[@Hazbin-hotel-babe]

That's silly hehe.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/evening/night! Peace, hugs and love to you all!

[@bitterrenegade]

Story 1: My favourite "curse" to give to people is "I hope every animal you want to pet doesn't like you. uwu Watching before work! Today I'm bringing lightsabers to the tutoring center and having a duel with another tutor :D

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 2: My question is, why is OP's dad still dating that toxic woman who he knows doesn't like his son?

[@itsjustmaddisen]

He cares about having sex more than his son.

[@MONKEYDZETS]

He has a type😂

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@MONKEYDZETS Lol that he does.

[@jillimi]

Not anymore.

[@ajwinberg]

Last Story: it is ridiculous when children of unnwed mother are treated so bad by some people. It isn't the child's fault. I am a child of an unwed mother and was treated poorly by a lot of people, including family members. I am glad that O.P. did have his uncle most of his life and I am glad his uncle adopted him. It is hard growing up without a dad.

[@susankaempfer8427]

2:50 She wants you to be the bridesmaid so you can pay and work.

[@crazypyp5871]

I personally feel like the Reddit comments are being really harsh on OP. Like to the point of insulting her kinda levels thereby lowering her self esteem more. Someone with low self esteem won’t take being called a doormat or stuff well. They won’t be like “You’re right I am, I’ll go change that.” They will instead think “You’re right I am a doormat and spineless and pathetic and so many other shit things to describe myself thanks for validating that point” and slip deeper into the low self esteem. It isn’t easy to let go or cut ties of people whom at one point you did care for. That’s why getting out of toxic relationships is so hard. It’s healthy to leave them yes, but people in those relationships don’t see it that way. They see it as them being alone.

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: Sometimes, ghosting is best. Good for OP, finding her spine. Story #2: I'll bet Dad doesn't want his girlfriend to move in, anyway. He's chosen his daughter. Go with his wishes. Update: Yikes. And she's racist, too. Glad he broke up with her.

[@brittaniharold1880]

Story 2 op is male

[@Hexington3]

That's not your best friend, that's an enemy keeping u close and using OP

[@darlieoneeleven]

So many people on here just need to listen to some variety in music. An old song has a line in it. " Got along without you before I got you I can get along without you now."

[@justaperson4656]

I had a friend I met under the same circumstances as op. We met in school, we'd both moved, etc. I didn't realise until years later, but this "friend" had been isolating me from other people. They were physically abusive, etc. I know that was tough on me, and I know it'll be rough on op too. I wish them the best.

[@andreachristenson7069]

“May your tea always be either too hot to drink or too cool to taste right.”

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Hello Waffles! Hope you've had an amazing day! Today's been great! Had a nice day! Got new War Hammer models for my D&D campaign! They're so cool. Going to be painting them soon.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Nice, and thanks hope you did too 🤗🤗💜💜

[@elizabethrossi7604]

1: We NEED another update on this one! What happened at the wedding???!!! What horrible things happened???!!!

[@tias2705]

When Sophie made that "joke" OP should have said she wasn't desperate and pathetic to make a move on someone in a relationship and what kind of cruel irredeemable piece of shit would do something unforgivable like that to someone they claim to care about.

[@Tada_no_Senshi]

11:49 learning about emotionally unavailable women the hard way 12:25 what about she being nicer to him... 17:14 it's like master class on what to expect from people that are emotionally unavailable... 18:26 well the following describes being vulnerable and practicing emotional availability.

[@Ospyro3em]

Sophie was never a friend, OP never even wanted to be her friend until Sophie wore her down. It's always been one-sided

[@GallowayJesse]

I hope next time Sophie does laundry a red garment gets mixed in with her whites and they all turn pink lmao

[@missm.e9914]

wow the gall of that GF in story 2 "you need to be nicer to me because your dad knows we don't get on" like errrr, no witch you got that the wrong way around, YOU need to be nicer to OP if you want things to improve, my god, so self absorbed.

[@DarkCape64]

To quote the wonderful movie of wreck it Ralph: "just because I'm a bad guy, does not make me a BAD guy. I am bad and that is good".

[@shebakoby]

Story 2: OPs biodad definitely has a *type*, unfortunately that "type" is narcissistic witch.

[@dragon0blood]

Story 1: I think somewhere in the comments it was brought up that Sophie, when first meeting OP, barged into the friendship she already had. Sophie took over the friends desk in school or something. Sophie was never there to be her friend from the start, was always there to get what she wanted.

[@samurailevi49]

That isn’t your best friend. That’s a horrible human being. You don’t date your friends dates.

[@bilbybloom]

my favourite insult is "I hope your next shites a hedgehog" XD

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 dad has a type clearly. He keeps getting with these toxic insufferable women.

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

Story 1. Shoulda beat their a$$, a back hand for the bestie and front hand for the exie 🙃 But legit tell people what happened and drop contact with the two completely.

[@lalipopz90]

I’m knocking EVERYTHING over.

[@aconvowithcrissee222]

Omg OP needs THERAPY shes clearly very insecure and very much a doormat omg she has no experience w real friends like this is CRAZY it reminds me of when I was in middle school and would talk to people who were mean to me bc I simply wanted companionship. Poor girl omfg

[@wildridegaming]

Story 1: Sounds like those ones where its "Ha ha I stole your boyfriend" then years later "Ima steal your husband too"

[@havenvidad369]

Somehow it smells like the guy only got on with OP just to secretly court Sophie.

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Heello! Yet another greetings from me tonight :) I hope all is well and I wish you a great night!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Thanks and you too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

The last story do not listen to the stepmother up mother it will be a living Heck. Stay strong you do not need to put yourself around toxic People. And your father already understands this this is why hes told her no no it has to be a safe place for my daughter

[@srkh8966]

Story 1: Crap happens in relationships, but OP does not have to celebrate it, or participate. And when Sophie made that “joke” in front of everyone, OP did the correct thing

[@rainman8861]

I mean I want to feel bad for OP, I really do, but calling her a doormat is an insult to doormats.

[@colleencook382]

My favorite Petty phrase- May your bare feet find all the Legos in the dark on your way to the bathroom.

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and i'm currently monching down crackers with white cottage cheese(i think that's the name of the white counterpart to the stronger tasting blue cheese) and fig jam a weird sounding combo but absolutely delish

[@carolroberts4614]

Sorry, but ugh!

[@Josku2411]

@@carolroberts4614 Pfft valid enough it does sound disgusting in practice but it's a neat like salty,salty and a lil bit of sweet combo

[@Josku2411]

@Trisha Murray Oh yeah in my head for some reason i imagine muching as like casual snacking like muching away at popcorn ya know absentmindedly grabbing some and popping them in your mouth during a movie and monching as like the snack of my choosing is some fresh garbage and i am a hungry raccoon..way more aggresive and focusedXD

[@carolroberts4614]

I'll take your word for it! Enjoy!

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

Doormats and people pleaser are so damn tiring because they'd rather throw everyone else, including themselves, under or in front of the bus if there's just a tiny chance left that someone they absolutely cannot stand thinks of them as the greatest person in the world. It's a screwed-up kind of vanity if you think about it. Not specifically this story but there are so many others (and we all probably know someone like this) who say they have such low self-esteem and just want to be nice and helpful. And then, they take those who are nice and kind to them for granted and drop them and everything else when the person they don't get along with dangles an "if you put me first, I might not think as bad of you as I usually do" in front of their nose. People, please stop trying to impress those you don't even like just because they also don't like you. Also, an important lesson: Friendships aren't live-long contracts. And always saying "Yes, your highness, whatever you say, your highness!" no matter what the friend says or does is not a sign of a good, healthy friendship. Good friends can handle a no or when told that something they say or do is not okay. If they always demand 100% loyalty, then they don't want a friend, they want an enabler. If people grow in different ways, it's okay and natural for friendships to change or fizzle out. Life is too short to pretend to be someone you aren't anymore or never wanted to be just to please someone who has changed into a person you'd never befriend in the first place.

[@viktoriak4332]

Frankly im proud that the OP in tye first story got the last work with sofie and i hope she takes some time for herself after everything settles down.

[@whitneybennett4857]

I'm finding it kind of hard at this point to feel compassion or sympathy for OP. Maybe people would stop walking all over you if you'd stop presenting yourself to them as a doormat. SO F***ING WHAT IF YOU LASH OUT AND THAT MAKES THEM SEE YOU AS A TOTAL WITCH?! The two people in your life you gave everything for are betraying you in the worst possible way! Then again, I think I would agree to be the main bridesmaid. Because let's just say, it would give me the chance to plan something very interesting for the objection bit.

[@brittaniharold1880]

Story 2, I'm glad you stuck to your word about not playing nice to your father's girlfriend.I wish you would've said something sooner because your bio dad is a good man.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Story 1: OP- learn to say „ NO“!

[@dancing0nthe3dge]

Story 1: the out-of-body experience you had, that was you being traumatized. As someone diagnosed with complex ptsd, trust me I know, you also have low self-esteem probably due to your childhood, get yourself into therapy.

[@krazycats564]

I love OPs reply to the comment about gun point!

[@DarkAngel65989]

The first story, just both me not because of OP fault, but from everyone else of course the ex-bestfriend and ex-boyfriend, but everyone else, for making the ex-bestfriend up/ruining the mood. I know OP didn't tell them what happen, but some of them have to know how the ex and ex-bestfriend got together. Either they told a twist story or never told anyone. But I am glad OP is moving and is gonna live her best life.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

Story 1: Asking for OP's permission doesn't make it better at all. "Can I date your best friend?" is a question where the answer doesn't even matter, the relationship is obviously over. What, she says no, and is going to stay with a guy who confessed to being in love with someone else? I get that OP was stunned and numb, but staying in contact with either of these people was insane.

[@refinery9co.139]

"Out of respect" means not trying to date your best friends boyfriend. This is another example of the OP not having a backbone and lack of self esteem. She should have told the "best friend" that NO its not ok and throw the BF out and move on..without them in their lives.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "Stop holding grudges and be nice to me for your dad's sake" She's the one being a bitch though??? She's actively treating Op like shit then acting like Op is the problem by demanding they be nice as if she isn't the sole cause of the current issue.

[@4myzelf]

Best petty comment I read/heard: I hope both sides of your pillow feel warm whenever you try to sleep

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Oh OP ☹️. That "out of body experience" you describe in the comment replies is called disassociating, and it's a self preservation response to something distressing. OP please get therapy for your self esteem. You are worth SO much more than the trash you're hanging around with. They have treated you absolutely terribly and don't deserve your time. If they can do this to you, then they can do other things too. What's to stop them from bullying you out of things later on in life. What if you buy a nice new car and they want to swap cars, leaving you with their crappy old one and they have the nice new one? Will you say no then, or let them walk over you? This is just an example from the top of my head, but typically, people like this will just take advantage and won't feel remorseful. I've been the pushover who is scared to rock the boat. It never ends well for us pushovers, not until we stop being pushed over. Please get therapy. 🖤💜 xx

[@angeloliver7613]

Story 1: As weird and inappropriate it is, at least they asked OP beforehand and didn't cheat for 4 years behind her back.

[@squidward6187]

1. Yikes. I used to have really low self-esteem too. I let people treat me horribly. If I fought back and defended myself, I'm the bad guy. All you can do is block them. Sophie was definitely using her as a punching bag. I literally think the reason she married this guy was to torture OP. She admitted it. She was clearly enjoying the thought of OP being madly in love with this guy. Without OP the marriage will fall apart. Trust me. I know bullies. We can turn the tables on them by just not playing their stupid games.

[@michamocha]

S1: "I'm your best friend, I wouldn't do that to you" Except she did. Had the dude been an ex, this would've been a whole new ball game but the fact that he was actively dating Op but was talking to her "friend". This is pretty much cheating, isn't it? Sophie was never really a friend to Op and I'm glad Op finally stop lying to herself and cut Sophie off. S2: It's crazy how some relatives are telling Op to try to get along with her when _she_ is the one who has a problem with Op, not the other way around.

[@umbrasunbro2142]

The pure AUDACITY! So they basically (technically) dated behind your back and then when they decided they wanted to go steady “asked for permission” for the Ex-BF to dump you and then date your “best friend”. [btw, the best friend already sounds like a life long people user-and-abuser. But then they think asking you to be the Maid of Honor to their wedding? That’s such an F’ed up situation! Glad OP found the courage to do what’s best for herself and got away from those two. I guarantee they were laughing at her behind her back before hand m anyways. Smh. How can people be such d-bags????

[@christinasutton9698]

Story 1: op should have said yes then moved and then when they panic text them that they forgot they moved

[@sweett2924]

I'm on time?! How did that happen? I'm never on time. I was even born late. Much love to you Mark! 🥰❤ Hope you and yours are doing well! ( including the floofy members of your family)

[@theunknownone5663]

Story one: op should rent a truck and hit both of them. Probably been cheating on op for a long time.

[@tsynadum-ay4792]

Story 1: Be petty at the wedding, hire the hottest and handsomest man as your plus 1. Tell them the story on how they blindsided you 3yrs ago then leave.

[@SCOOBYGD]

.... OP needs some serious therapy and to rebuild herself.

[@brittaniharold1880]

Story 1,do you really have less than zero confidence in yourself that you still talk to your "best friend" after she was hooking up with your boyfriend behind your back? I'm going to tell you something that no one tells you because they don't want to hurt you: It's your fault that you're so miserable with no confidence or self worth.You let guys hit it and quit it because you want attention.You let your "best friend" have your man and you still have her in your life. This will change when you drop her, focus on yourself,and stop hooking up.

[@juletneptune6264]

OP why would you set yourself on fire to keep others warm. OP it seems like you don't have any self-esteem, it's about time you put your self first ,love yourself enough to realize who are your friends.

[@Luve2020]

I just started listening and I already want to say: f that bestie and your ex. Bye

[@lindalehr1551]

Thanks!

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Linda thank you so much!! 😀

[@lindalehr1551]

@@MarkNarrations you are so welcome. I enjoy your narration and "waffles" very much.😁

[@krazycats564]

OPs dad needs therapy to find out why his type is toxic