My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Me To Take This New Job

[@elizabethmiracle9361]

Rachel is handling that so well. My initial reaction is “he’s a boyfriend, not husband!!” Who cares

[@OopThereItIs77777]

Jade would have gone there in an instant!

[@Excalibur2]

Exactly what someone who isn't marriage material would say.

[@naca1553]

Thank God he's not her husband!

[@edwo6648]

@@Excalibur2 Exactly and all women should have bachelorette parties in Vegas.

[@gigilamoore2656]

Even if he was a husband, the answer is no because the reason is wrong.

[@theresaakin2284]

He doesn't want you to better yourself to the tune of almost $10k a year. Move on.

[@dagobaker]

lets not pretend that a 99% male to 1% female work staff doesnt have a TON of challenges.. the dude is being honest and shes too young to understand

[@DiponDasgupta]

hes younger than her XD@@dagobaker

[@Excalibur2]

​@@dagobakerthat's exactly it. There's a reason it pays more as well. Probably health concerns, safety issues (many paints cause cancer if not careful), and an unpleasant work environment. The inevitability of her being hit on and being tempted to leave is just one more reason to not want her there. If I was him, I'd just be honest that we would probably end up breaking up in 6 months.

[@edwo6648]

@@DiponDasgupta He's younger, but knows better.

[@carlosmiro4932]

$13.50 versus $18.00, why is she even doubting? Get the $18.00 job and dump the boyfriend, “problem” solved.

[@JP-uy9kq]

No 19 year old boy needs to be in a serious relationship. He has not even learned to think with his big head yet.

[@Excalibur2]

Crazy talk, you should date to marry, that's been my plan and I got married to a girl I dated in college, probably around 18 or 19 at the time.

[@user-xp9ry8yh9z]

@@Excalibur2 Yes, date to marry when you are mentally mature. He doesn't seem mentally mature. He might be old enough, but he needs more maturity before considering marriage. I would say he needs to go a few years without dating so he can grow up.

[@Excalibur2]

@@user-xp9ry8yh9z I'd agree, people who aren't mature enough to date to marry probably shouldn't be dating.

[@resaboutb.9566]

Dating eight months, living in different communities, and he's already trying to dictate what she does in order to make HIM feel better. It sounds like the beginning of an unhealthy pattern. Caller, what do YOU want to do? Once you make that decision, do it and don't let anyone else deter you.

[@Excalibur2]

She needs to ask herself, does a girl who works in a place like that get to marry the kind of guy she wants?

[@sherryd3299]

Run from this guy. Neither you or he are old enough to make good decisions. He's already making it your responsibility to to keep him feeling secure. She'll probably get pregnant by him,

[@ketobarbelle8051]

I had a boyfriend who was totally unsupportive of me going back to school to get my MBA with work paying for 1/2 of the cost of the degree. Dumped the boyfriend, got the MBA, got moved into a new job at double the salary a year into my MBA program. Once he found out how much money I was making, he tried to get me back and I blocked him from contacting me - now 5 years after graduation I’m making triple what I made before. No woman should EVER let a man hold her back - if a man wants to hold you back, he’s toxic - RUN!

[@johnwilburn]

Yet, men are expected to let women keep them broke forever.

[@LM-ch8rh]

i'm so happy for you.

[@MrMds414]

So you chose money over having a husband and children. Got it.

[@kateluck1555]

@@MrMds414nope. She chose to dump a loser who didn’t deserve her. If she chooses to, she can find someone who isn’t so insecure and intimidated.

[@John3.36]

Now you eat expensive ice cream alone and watch hallmark movies.

[@NinaBobina4006]

The amount of amazing advice to this young girl is INCREDIBLE!!

[@cathyosullivan718]

You shouldn’t let a partner hold you back. Partners should be supportive. When I was in college, boyfriends would tell me not to go to class and hang out with them instead. I’m happy I didn’t end up with them.

[@jacquelinedelarosa7170]

But are you in debt now or did you get lucky and have college paid for?

[@littlesongbird1]

Yep. Or I had guys who pouted when I had to go to work (not playfully like I am going to miss you more like, why can't you blow off work and do nothing with me). I once asked a a now ex bf if he was ready to give me (put in the amount of my monthly expenses) each month and could he pay me 12times that up front so I know my bills were okay for the next year since he felt I shouldn't pay my bills. He was dumbfounded and said no he didn't have that kind of money. I told him that once he did we could talk about me quitting my job (we were living together and I was pay for most of the bills since he only worked part time) but until then I needed to go to work.

[@cathyosullivan718]

I went to an inexpensive college so I was able to pay without loans. That was the cheapest and what I could afford.

[@kbanghart]

​@@jacquelinedelarosa7170what does that have to do with the post?

[@kbanghart]

​@@littlesongbird1So glad you got out of that weird relationship

[@Jose-ht2lw]

Throwing the marriage word when they been dating for 8 months and are 19 and 20. Bruh.🙄

[@expectthabest951]

Unreal Aint it 🤦‍♂️

[@AlwaysSoldierOn]

Ofcourse you’d rather they not marry and keep fornicating well into their 30s

[@janelleg597]

Marry before you have trails of broken relationships and baggage

[@bettysmith4527]

They are going to get married and right away have 3 plus kids they cannot afford!

[@edhcb9359]

Yes, why can’t they just look to produce children out of wedlock like most of America! 😂

[@wzk6444]

He's a giant red flag. Run girl run!!!!!!

[@lorirogers9304]

Jealous guy will never stop being jealous. RUN don’t walk away from him.

[@sarahwollesen1990]

I really appreciate Rachel for giving advice in such a respectful and non-belittling but still helpful way

[@LearnAsYouGo.]

I remember the guy I was dating was sad I was leaving to go away for college. He asked me to stay home & be with him……I left & went to college & got a new bf. It’s life, especially at that age.

[@bettysmith4527]

RUN from this man child!!! He is controlling and it's only going to get worse!!! WAY TOO YOUNG to even think about marrying him, it won't be a good marriage for you!! PLEASE LEAVE HIM for your happiness and safety! I hope her parents are present, they need to get involved!

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Single mother experience.

[@bettysmith4527]

If you are referring to me, I have no children, so you are wrong! @@blackworldtraveler3711

[@rare2find0918]

Caller-Please move forward with the job. Neither of you are the possession of another and the only person you all can 'control' is yourself. You're not responsible for soothing insecurities/creating happiness for him and vice versa. Most people have been hurt in some way by another person.... it's no one's job to heal the hurt of another nor tip toe in life with them because they're afraid of making them 'angry' or 'rocking the boat'. This is a young caller, but this applies to anyone.

[@resaboutb.9566]

Well typed.

[@Erica-cf1xb]

Great message.

[@chrysiarose]

I never had a relationship because it's always detrimental to the woman's physical, mental and emotional health. Being single and living a man's life is a wonderful freedom - after serving in the Army, I live where I want, control the finances, have the house exactly the way I want it, earned my masters on a state war veteran scholarship, and started my retirement career. I used to work maintenance, and switched to healthcare for my senior years. And no cats - just a fish aquarium and my fin babies.

[@marianemashkalo4182]

You can have all that and a great relationship in addition. If you can't build relationships it's a weakness for either sex. We're supposed to be social creatures.

[@MB-uy5kh]

I am a female mechanical engineer working in automobile manufacturing floor. Yes, I get hit on often, but it means nothing. It’s like the guys are expected to do it. Never would jeopardize my solid family situation by cheating

[@Dit1160]

My ex objected to me ( nurse) having male patients. Seriously he wanted me to work at convent that was near where we lived. I was a new nurse and didn’t know much…but I did know that I would not learn nursing in that environment…( 8 retired nuns) …I didn’t do as he asked, we broke up and I have had a great career. Still do although part time now that I “retired”.

[@HeroC14]

She's going to meet a good guy at that factory and move on from him. He already played his hand about his concerns, and there's so much growth between the two of them that this is not their final destination for their relationship history.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Hypergamy always wins!

[@trainsandlocomotives]

That first sentence is why he should leave her. I’m sure she would have a problem if he got a job at a nightclub.

[@TonyCox1351]

@@trainsandlocomotivesshe should leave him, he sounds insecure. If you get those kinds of red flags in a relationship when you’re 20, just go, those relationships are meant to be fleeting

[@Jaycv-dq3rg]

Get over it wemen are dime a dozen men really don't care about women

[@asafry2873]

I dont see anything suggesting that

[@Catelynmeow]

When I saw the title, I thought it was something like "My bodyfriend doesn't want me to take a new job...because the new job is located 3000 miles away in a different country" or something like that, but nope! Take the new job and if your boyfriend throws a tantrum, tell him to get lost -- you'll be thanking yourself one day.

[@deana5277]

when i saw the title, i thought she was gonna say she wanted to be a stripper

[@kendrascorner]

Boyfriend of only 8 months, living 1.5 hours away, at ages 19 & 20... And thinks he can tell you not to take a perfectly respectable job making more money because HE is insecure that you might cheat on him?... Run.

[@diceportz7107]

So she and her bf live an hour and a half apart. Bless her! Honey, you are a good person. But you need to provide for you and not jump through hoops he sets up for you. Take the job, make the money and have a good life.

[@macpduff2119]

These are the kind of females who become abused wives 10 years later. Also, a 20 yr old woman dating a 19 year old boy is a huge difference in maturity at those ages. She needs to date a guy about 22-24 and he needs to finish high school. There is a reason most women date older guys at this age

[@blackbutterfly233ify]

you think a 24 year old is more mature and husband material? 😒😂

[@resaboutb.9566]

What she needs is to focus on her own needs, wants, plans for the future.

[@Excalibur2]

That's out of touch.

[@Rome1017Lights]

​@@blackbutterfly233ify more mature than the 19 year old? No question..

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

Dump him and take the job. 19 with a history of cheating partners??? His priorities are all messed up.

[@everybodyfitnessinjax]

Exactly. I can't believe this is even a phone call. She's so insecure. I hope she has someone close to her to help her see his toxic behavior.

[@emoney1231]

I don't think she needs to dump him immediately. But she does need to politely tell him to address his insecurities/control issues or she won't be able to continue the relationship.

[@juanitaleblanc2940]

Run girl,run fast….

[@TrazimDollare1982]

John is gonna be like Are you safe?

[@tonytoni1150]

“i’M sCaREd” 😂

[@kimberlydickson9266]

“I can’t BREATHE”

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Who hurt you?

[@joefunk76]

Is that fair? 😂

[@johnchristensen7096]

Also, “I drove by a McDonald’s with my daughter that was hiring at 20$ an hour”

[@kara2162]

You're not married. You do You.

[@resaboutb.9566]

In few words, "THIS!"

[@Chele-nm4qx]

I actually liked John in this call! No psych analysis digging for things that are not there!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@kimberlydickson9266]

“Are you safe?” “I can’t breathe.”

[@Jaycv-dq3rg]

Res flags you really think wemen leave successful men nope the leave before you go broke

[@luminous6969]

Maybe he reads the comments and saw all the comments about how he pulls the "are you safe" card too much and took the feedback, or maybe he just forgot, only time will tell.

[@kbanghart]

​@@luminous6969except he's just being a caring person

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@luminous6969Nope. Dr. John doesn’t read the comments for what he says is “the peace of his soul.” He only asks “are you safe?” In situations where it applies and this highlight is proof of that!

[@RPMcMurphy33]

You are NOT responsible for your partner’s happiness. End of story.

[@Jose-ht2lw]

Girl, improve your life and dump the chump with cheating trauma.

[@tkdevlop]

Trust broken twice already 😂

[@TheChitowngirl23]

You are not responsible for what happened in his previous relationships.

[@lyndalamb3221]

Their relationship is not serious enough for him to think it's appropriate for him to tell her how to live her life. She needs to dump him now.

[@Sevkingblade]

Boyfriend?? 🤨 Why is she concerned about what a boyfriend has to say about her decisions. That's not your husband lady lol

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Low self esteem. too many young women have it.

[@stevemyopinion423]

Because your boyfriend should be someone you love. So there opinion should matter

[@alinatamashevich3354]

@@stevemyopinion423 An immature "boy', his opinion means zip....

[@Sevkingblade]

@@stevemyopinion423 A boyfriend or girlfriend is some you like not love. If you "love" them so much then just get married. Imagine missing an opportunity because some guy or girl who you may not be in a relationship with tomorrow is telling you they don't like it. When the next person is supportive of your decision

[@Emptytopfloor]

Boyfriends don’t get husband privileges

[@ScottG91]

Agree with everyone, RUN

[@Kwicdrawmcgraw]

How many times could you have been cheated on at 19?

[@marbs8615]

seriously, this is such high school drama

[@1981lashlarue]

According to her, twice. With the same guy.

[@dnah02]

Both cheated with the same guy lol that means he ain't packing the store shelves the right way.

[@captainkrunch6372]

I work in a factory and i treat the women as if they are my mom or sister, if you like your job dont get involved with coworkers.

[@Erica-cf1xb]

If you like your life don't get involved with coworkers. Most are planted there on purpose because people are lonely AF and looking to do fetty. Just because it's available.

[@Kurtdog63]

Extreme jealousy is common at such a young age, and some people think love is controlling someone else, or being controlled. Cheating can't occur if someone guards themselves and aren't looking at options for new relationships. Having said that, I understand his concern. We had a new factory come to town, and marriages where ending in the parking lots.

[@kbanghart]

Concerned? He's just an immature jealous guy.

[@Kurtdog63]

Two sides to every story. There may be some facts she is leaving out. @@kbanghart

[@Erica-cf1xb]

This hookup culture is hell sent. The addiction to just do it raw real bold is a death wish.

[@songsjj]

The hosts failed to address his concern. True she should take the job be he should bolt a the first sign of hanky panky. They are not addressing the other side of reality.

[@Excalibur2]

It's just a game of numbers. If she's around guys all day she can bond with, probably make better money than him, and are easily available and even easier to hide their infidelity from him, I don't believe her willpower will last forever.

[@BarelyNoticedADD]

Take the job, ditch the boyfriend.

[@patriciaalbertson5183]

Amen Dr. John, so right on! She needs to run, run, run!

[@MN-br5nb]

What’s ridiculous is these kids having adult relationships. You should not be tethered to each other until you’re older and are financially set and decisive about life. He can’t be controlling you at 19 - red flag!

[@positive_vibes_2427]

JOHN WAS SO ON-POINT HERE!!!

[@dmbgator86]

Why would anyone get married before 25?

[@boston312]

why would anyone get married nowadays period?

[@bigpicturethinking5620]

Or ever.

[@simoneaustin8076]

it happens

[@simoneaustin8076]

most young girls have gone through this including myself. she would of been divorced or he is probably physically abusive as well. especially nowadays guys are very insecure. you stopping your progress would never happen in a healthy relationship. she wouldn’t be working that job forever and will move up, he will get even worse. run LIKE HELL

[@izgil7541]

They're way too young and too fresh into their relationships to dictate to each other which jobs to take and which not. Considering their age, they'll definitely have other dating partners in life down the road. With that said, I think she should absolutely take the job and ignore his silliness. He's trying to projectile his inner issues onto her which is absurd. I hope she takes the new job.

[@wittenberg5]

His concerns are valid. Those blue collar men in factories and warehouses will hit on your woman ALL DAY LONG and that's facts 😆

[@gmarie3053]

As a woman who’s worked in male dominated spaces, he’s not wrong. But my man trusts me. No middle aged dude with a fat belly can tempt me 🤣🤣

[@kbanghart]

​@@gmarie3053exactly, I trust my wife, we've been married 30 years. She looks younger than she is and so actually don't mind if guys find her attractive

[@joechang8696]

if OP's bf had a high paying job able to support the both of them, allowing OP to work in a pleasant job if at all, giving up potential income, with written guarantees of post split support, he has no say. she should probably not be dating a younger man who wants to exert man privileges without man resources

[@celiagarcia2885]

You said it honestly and succinctly!

[@franziskani]

He is 19, they have been dating for 8 months, he has been cheated on a lot in the past - or so he says. Yeah, that must have been plenty of REAL serious relationships, when he was 16 or 17. - I assume he wasn't even cheated on, he just tries to clip her wings early on.

[@sblijheid]

He could've been thirteen.

[@jeffcrayton9596]

The men will definitely be all over her that's the truth she better be very strong

[@trainsandlocomotives]

Facts. I’d break up with her as soon as she starts. Would she let him work at a nightclub or strip club?

[@jeffcrayton9596]

@@trainsandlocomotives definitely not lol

[@RepentImmediately]

​@@trainsandlocomotivesnightlife is a different thing altogether.

[@trainsandlocomotives]

@@RepentImmediately How is it different?

[@mithicash1444]

I see a lot of people telling her to basically leave him because he is controlling her. I did not hear anything of this sort, the guy expressed his concerns with it, thats it! If it was a woman doinhlg it it would be called "creating boundaries", but when a guy expresses something like this its labeled as controlling. How about you give them the best advice possible, talk, communicate about it, and find out if this is something that can be worked through or not. If not, both go your separate ways. Good grief. People today really think that they will magically find that perfect relationship when in reality, all relationships take work, some more than others. If you are ready to split for something as minor as this good luck in anything serious down the road

[@Excalibur2]

I bet you that most of these people live miserable, single lives. People just see money and don't think one thought more. I wouldn't want my daughter working in that environment either.

[@shawnrampton2749]

Yeah most of the people on here yapping their opinion including John for his knee jerk comments...these people don't have a good grasp and handle on their own life. Every single one of them (again including John) has sh*t and insecurities in their own life - its amazing to me how all the sudden they just love to get off with a "leave em sister he's all red flags". It's quite immature. And it's quite a red flag itself. Poor guy of hers has an army of idiots on the internet clabbering about him when every single clabberer (again, including John) has their own insecure stupid sh*t in their life. My lord.

[@keith2o9]

Relationship aint gonna last

[@andiclemenza6476]

John is always on spot ❤

[@jessiee1055]

Hey at least he’s honest and open about it.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Yup. He does have a point though the way things are today. Everyone jumps on him but not considering her red flags.

[@jessiee1055]

@@blackworldtraveler3711 I don’t blame him. I doubt the two hosts of this video wouldn’t want their wife or husband working at a bar late night. I bet they wouldn’t consider that to be insecure

[@trainsandlocomotives]

@@jessiee1055right

[@kbanghart]

​@@jessiee1055If you have a secure relationship, it doesn't matter. But most guys, including in these comments are not secure.

[@nicholasselke5214]

@kbanghart I’ll say this. It doesn’t matter which side of the relationship you’re on. If you don’t trust your significant other, then you need to not be in a relationship with him/her

[@HecticGlenn]

We all felt that 'ohhhh' when we heard it was long distance

[@monicahanson9654]

So often it’s people who cheat who are this insecure because they project their own unfaithfulness and lack of morals onto their partners. I’d run - fast.

[@johnwilburn]

I get what's the "right answer" here, but that guy isn't wrong. She'll be gone after working there. She'll be gone anyway with resentment if she doesn't go.

[@resaboutb.9566]

*Perfect* way to sum it up. "Mic drop!"

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

I guess I'm too red pilled and eyes wide open. Would have let her go without telling her that.

[@johnwilburn]

@@resaboutb.9566 No way a 20 year old girl is gonna work in a barrel full of pickles for any amount of time and not get one of them. Sheeeeee gone!

[@hollyb6885]

I’d say, “Run, girl, run”, but he seems like a control freak who will shoot her if she defied him. Scary.

[@DSLightning21]

2:42 - Really Delony, that's your best "red flag" analogy with all your experience? 🚩🤷🏻‍♂️

[@susagom]

😂

[@Hectormatos22]

It was bad 😂 but at least her job is at a factory too

[@christinebutler7630]

This is a boyfriend, not a husband. You dont build a life around someone when theres no committment.

[@jwebby85]

He’s a boyfriend. Not your husband. He doesn’t get a say.

[@noreenn6976]

I bet they live together

[@RepentImmediately]

​@@noreenn6976they live in different cities

[@krystalsmith849]

@@noreenn6976 They do not live together. He lives an hour away from her.

[@Tashas_Travels]

Girl, what? He's not even your husband and might never be. Don't let someone else tell you what to do when it comes to your life. I mean wtf*. Also he is 19, come on.

[@mikeshaw4610]

My opinion ,as a guy, is other that giving some input he does not get to say if you can or can not take any job unless you are at least engaged.

[@jimmymcgill6778]

I don't know why men can't think that women can be friends with other men?

[@SuperiorBeen]

At my work we have only one woman and trust me she got railed by multiple guys. She has 2 kids also and divorced her husband in her 40ies

[@alinatamashevich3354]

@Jimmy, WOW just WOW, your are so ignorant. How have you lived past 16 is a mystery

[@jimmymcgill6778]

@@SuperiorBeen That is not all women.

[@Fishouta]

Because he is still a child.

[@RepentImmediately]

​@@SuperiorBeendid she cheat on her husband or was she single when she was getting laid?

[@rafamarquezin0486]

Warehouse jobs are notorious for cheaters guarantee he knows that and she’s just gonna meet a real man and leave him

[@Erica-cf1xb]

ALL JOBS. It's part of the NDA that you must have a work relationship or else your career will be in jeopardy. It's trifling as hell and hella criminal

[@TheTbabylati]

The advice to this would be to tell this girl to follow her mind forget the boyfriend. Focus on yourself

[@chuckiedavidson719]

Nah she needs to get rid of him. If he can’t take her working around men he isn’t mature enough to be a boyfriend let alone a husband. She needs to take the job and put him the rear view mirror. I wish some punk would tell my daughter not to take a job to stroke his ego.

[@josiahsmith66]

Having worked a few different warehouse/plant jobs, I get where he's coming from. A lot of those guys at those jobs are high school peak creeps. But, he has to trust her. Dudes are gonna hit on your wife. Trust her to not reciprocate.

[@random-nz7dy]

I'm really concerned about this young lady. She's potentially willing to let her life be controlled to the tune of having a $13 an hour job by this guy, who she's barely been with and lives a ways away. While I get that LDRs can confer more concerns of cheating potential, He has no right whatsoever to be telling her what to do with her life. Gtfoh, You've barely been dating her. What gives you the right to tell her what to do? But then on top of that she talks about marriage...yeesh. I just worry that this is a sweet young lady who has not had a positive male role model, And I really would hate for her to select a bad partner, wind up pregnant or whatever at 21, then the relationship implodes And she has to learn a very hard lesson a really hard way. Please, if she happens to be reading this comment, please hear the level of concern from people in this comment section. These comments are probably largely coming from people who have seen young people in this situation encounter disaster. Heed the warnings.

[@matthewwilliams9200]

Go to the job, insecurities is a bad sign he needs to fix or leave him.

[@willelliott5052]

If someone will cheat on you, given the opportunity, you cannot possibly prevent all opportunities, so don't try todo so and make both of your miserable.

[@neisci]

Kyle and Maggie are the prototype of uninvolved parents. Parents need to be better this is too much. Kyle you are in danger girl take the money and runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.

[@noreenn6976]

Take the job Kiley!

[@arfriedman4577]

This guy is bad news. Hes only going to get worse if he doesnt change his ways.

[@DonaldRedeemed]

7:41 good grief....an hour and a half isn't that far....we drive an hour and 15 for Wal-Mart and groceries. My wife and I did meet online 23 hours apart. And neither moved till wedding day. We each took two trips under a week to see each other and the other persons family before we were married. We had five dates before we were married. But lots of open and honest conversations via email and phone.

[@irvinsanta]

Dang John went in! And he is ✅️

[@blackspiderman1887]

If her boyfriend made enough to support them both while she stay home, then maybe..........maybe he can bring up the argument. But since hes only 19, i doubt hes bringing in that kind of money. This doesn't have anything to do with his insecurities. He simply has lack of trust in HER! Its not some inward Insecurity he has because if his girl was on the unattractive side or overweight then he wouldnt give a crap. Also whatever her current job is, its at a location he can monitor her. While im assuming the other job will make it more difficult for him to do that. Also we dont know if she cheated on him before or maybe got caught chatting with other guys to make him feel this way. Theres alot more to the story.

[@sarsattacks]

They've only been dating for eight months and they don't even live close to each others. There's a good chance this won't work out.

[@J0hnny0]

19? Tell him to kick rocks!

[@rubytuesday4552]

The lessons in this one

[@desireesalas5820]

Huge red flag. HUGE.

[@janhatcher6991]

leave him! You deserve better! If he's gonna be like this right now, imagine what he's gonna be like in the marriage.

[@josephbanks9897]

What does her boyfriend work? If he can visit on the weekend and stay for 4 days, probably no where . She seems naive and not very mature either.

[@shannonrose4916]

RUN GIRL!!!

[@sblijheid]

Take the job. If the boyfriend nags, drop him. Plenty of men on earth. He's just a little boy anyway.

[@mluterancik]

It's not a job being a stripper. Why would he care? That's 10k more a year. You need to find a man and not a little boy. I get his only 19

[@robertneville2022]

I was cheated on and it ended in divorce I dated a couple of times and found I have major trust problems as a result I no longer date nor will I in the future

[@boston312]

Now if this was a male caller complaining about how his girlfriend or wife doesnt want him to take the job, Dr Jon would have advised the man how to reassure the wife and make the wife feel more comfortable in him taking the job. Its amazing how this man always gives different advice depending on the gender of the caller.

[@dnah02]

She needs to tale the job and not worry about getting married she is way too young.

[@julieraymond4963]

RUN.

[@firegirljen]

Kylie, you need to dump this person immediatelyz. He’s controlling and jealous, and it will only get worse. controlling people start by controlling your financial situation, they want to make you dependent on them, then he’ll start telling you who you can, and can’t speak to, then he’ll start to isolate you from your family, get out of there now learn your lesson.

[@corianne2099]

The boyfriend needs to learn his place, but the thing is I also think this new job opportunity might sound too good to be true especially with the wage they offered compared to what she is currently doing

[@dnah02]

Hey he thinks she will end up with a work husband lol

[@menjay2837]

Wtf are they doing for work to spend 4 days a week together?

[@rleonekc07]

Caller please read this comment. I know it seems like this guy is the one but you are so young. He might be. You need to be an independent person. If he's really the one he will stick around and support you no matter what. If he doesn't, stop.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

Working mostly with men could be factored into this because she is very young and may not be prepared for it?

[@gene_takavic57]

They are 20 and 19. They should both be learning about themselves and establishing some kind of career/steady job. Why kids want to rush into relationships and marriage is beyond me.

[@dealerofgame]

If he thinks she going to cheat when she gets a new job.... dump him😂😂

[@accountfrozens]

I want to know more about the guy both the bf's ex's cheated with

[@lindawilson4625]

Take the new job and ditch the boyfriend. Too many red flags to count.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Really no big deal. I’m red pilled and have been in a situation like that but my focus was more on school and career than marriage and single mothers. Busy with other interests,hobbies,and activities. I also had a passport since 18. Knew there was more to life out in the world. As long as he’s not trapped with marriage contract,kids,and other baggage he should not be that concerned. He shouldn’t force a woman to do anything. Learn to let go. Probably missed a bullet anyway. I know I have. She can and will do whatever she wants. Life goes on.

[@user-xp9ry8yh9z]

Hmmm... They are both young (mentally) so I would say this relationship will be a train wreck. They need to grow up and do some living before considering marriage. Also, he isn't her husband nor her fiancé, so he has no say in her job choice.

[@EsiriE]

Boyfriends/girlfriends don’t get to have an opinion on what job or career you choose. You’re not married lol We need to stop giving that title soo much weight to