My Brother Saved My Life When I Had Nothing, Now I'm Kicking Him Out. Family Thinks I'm Wrong AITA

[@digitalharmony26]

She’s spending $500 a month, he’s spending $150 every three months, people gotta get off their damn high horses telling OP to cut back on his spending too. Jesus.

[@thebeebz9511]

I think that's why mark said "spreadsheets." Numbers dont lie

[@bethanygee6939]

I mean I get what you're saying but it averages out to her spending $500 a month and him spending $50 a month? So she's literally spending 10 times as much as he is. Honestly? I think that he's okay.

[@digitalharmony26]

@@bethanygee6939 literally what I was saying lmao the comments were shaming OP for his spending when that isn’t the issue here.

[@bethanygee6939]

@@digitalharmony26 I see that now. My bad girl! ♥️

[@digitalharmony26]

@@bethanygee6939 nah you’re fine!

[@AndyyWithAY]

WTF is the office story!! You do not have any right to make your coworker an unpaid babysitter. He would never do this to a man. He is wrong and so is the job. This should have never happened. He's not gonna give OP part of his bonus, so why should she help him get money. He is taking advantage. Again this should have never happened. NTA!!

[@kimmieevans3598]

He didn't even ask her he just sent his kids to the female .He us an ass hat in so many boys club only Harvy Winestein .never asked

[@mariem8705]

S4- to all the angry coworkers, “I’m sorry, but last time I check my job title is….. NOT a babysitter and I didn’t see y’all volunteering.” Also go back to HR for the way he approached you and the other coworkers.

[@eliability]

Story 2: OP’s wife seems like a piece of work. She’s putting her *wants* when OP is already having trouble making money. They can’t afford it and she keeps spending on things that are _extremely_ unnecessary. $200 saving up for their son can be extremely beneficial to their son. OP’s wife doesn’t make money, which is fine, but considering she’s blowing it on (I’m assuming) multiple mobile games? That’s not a necessity and it doesnt get them anywhere. It’s also not okay to accuse OP of being abusive when he hasn’t done anything abusive. Maybe OP can go with a different kind of dye so he won’t have to spend so much money on it every month. Maybe go with black next time, it stays in longer and should work for a few months. “You don’t need to call her names to make a point.” While that’s true, the names he called her are also true. I think they forget that people say things that are mean and OP made it clear that they didn’t feel good about saying that. OP is kind of an AH to say that though. ESH I guess but the YTA really leans on OP’s wife. As Mark said, compromise, compromise, compromise.

[@magnificentlyflawed3177]

I thought OP was the asshole simply because he only seemed to attack things that benefit OP's wife. She has to sacrifice but no one else does ofcourse shes going to be on the defense and think its not fair. OP and his son keeps getting what they need and want but she has to give up so much. This is why YTA goes to OP for me. A better solution is to compromise or make a plan where everyone sacrifice and not just OP's wife.

[@nancyjay790]

At least the update indicated that OP and his wife have started to approach the finances as both wanting to make things work, rather than OP saying what his wife should give up, and her saying what he should give up.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@magnificentlyflawed3177 She’s the only one wasting a ton of money. The son is getting money put away for college, not a waste of money, and OP is spending money on things necessary for his job. He’s NTA at all. You’re as entitled as the wife if you think otherwise.

[@missmax2492]

She's spending 600 dollars every month bro. He's spending 150 every few months for something that helps them​@@magnificentlyflawed3177

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA she asked him several times to not send his kids and he continued to do so. Leaving without them and not even telling OP was a huge asshole move. The thing that makes him most of an asshole though is that he can't work with the kids around so he sends them to OP making it where SHE can't her work done. The entitlement, hypocrisy, and sexism on display I palpable.

[@HealthyObbsession]

👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼 All of this Yeah it 100% sucks that he lost his wife and that his kids lost their mom but that's not OP’s problem I especially didn't like him when he got in her face about how he can't get the bonuses and the amount of work he wants to get done because she did the responsible thing and went to HR after he ignored every time she told him to stop leaving ng his kids with her and then left the and left for lunch to be buddy-buddy with the manager and brown nose his way to a promotion While he leaves his kids with the one woman in his team because why not right? 🙄🙄 Ok but what about OP and her not being able to get the bonuses and her work done because you decided ‘she's a female person she must love kids right?’ 😡😡😡😡😡😡😤😤😤😤😠😠🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 This guy is a huge AH

[@robertx8020]

@@HealthyObbsession I agree but I want to point out that his manager is an AH too and I hate 'leaders' that judge you on social skills So according to the manager you can be the best worker in the world but if you don't want to share lunch with him? Oh now you are a HUGE AH and can forget your promotion? Well 'dear ' manager ..because you are such an AH i don't want to meet you after work :P

[@HealthyObbsession]

@@robertx8020 Oh absolutely given how it sounds like there's a disturbingly small amount of women vs men that the dad didn't even try and get one of his ‘good friends’ to watch his kids but left them with the one woman on his floor. Shows just how much of a ‘Boys club’ this workplace still is. How can OP even try and do what the dad did * I mean besides get her work done try and get to know the manager even if she wanted to brown-nose to get a promotion or bonuses. She would probably be looked down upon because ambition in men is normal and praiseworthy while ambition in women in the workplace she's a ball-busting bitch I hope OP doesn't face any more harassment because the dad not just from him but from the others who are shaming her for going to HR

[@robertx8020]

@@HealthyObbsession Unfortunatelly it's true what you say :( I would be so happy if you were wrong

[@natnuss98]

Wife in story nr. 2 is a piece of work. She's a stay at home mom but orders 400 quid of uber eats? Wtf. No. No. No. And 50 quid on games.... No just no. And suggesting to cut out on a college fund? No way.

[@Homewarfare]

Story 2: NTA, op's wife is sill there is a difference between unneeded spending on entertainment and things that help rake in more money (as someone with horrid teeth I can see why OP would whiten his for at least the chance of a boost in his sales) so if she feels she needs it then I'd recommend she gets like a part time job or casual job for some spending money or something.

[@FrancisR420]

I can understand feeling like you need some luxuries if you're going to be taking care of a kid all day and it being a bit unfair for the person who brings in the money to say all your expenses are the unnecessary ones. What does he eat? What does he watch If I'm not mistaken he mentions cleaning up after meals but I don't remember him mentioning cooking. I could see sperreng things like food deliveries that actually make her life easier but getting rid of mobile games that just feeds addictive personality traits, Games are literally just money down the toilet where is it least the food delivery cost is offset by the extra time she has and the food she would have had to buy anyway How much would she spend on making food for a month including her time, and bodily fluids considering that she was taking care of a baby. he could cut down on the coffee also an unnecessary thing that feeds addiction and he won't have to re whiten his teeth so often. Then again if he never does anything for personal entertainment or food that involves money as he implies by never mentioning anything maybe he's doing enough

[@chelseamadisetty350]

It sounds like if she stop Uber eats for a month, she could buy her a switch, and then she could play games that don’t use micro transactions

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 4- NTA. Sucks that the guy lost his wife, but he needs to figure out his own childcare and can’t constantly pawn it off on OP. I have 3 kids and it’s my job to arrange my childcare for them and I don’t pawn them off on people who don’t want them. I can count on my hand the number of times I had to suddenly leave my kids with someone who wasn’t totally prepared to take them and it was because I was being rushed to the nearest city in an ambulance.

[@kp2223]

Agreed, this is a classic gender swap reveal. If a woman who was a widow brought her kids to work and tried to make a man watch them, she would have been fired.

[@pansprayers]

@@kp2223 exactly. Not only that, it's a HUGE liability for both OP and the company.

[@olgalavado]

I agree with you but people go to work to DO their job PERIOD. The widower's manager is the biggest asshole because all that bullshit of "team players" and extra working hours meetings are just just controlling, brainwashing and absorbing people's time. The mentality of giving away time to the company and manager is nothing other than slavery. The widower has no support from the company at all. The company should make arrangements to make his workers better support and environment. It is not fair to the co-workers, it is the guy's fault to pick a female co-worker to take care of his children but his manager is the number one asshole.

[@floraposteschild4184]

From the title, I thought "kick out" meant he was living with you and in need, and you left him destitute. OP's just separating daughter and brother, and not inviting him to the house! And frankly, though OP made some mistakes and brother and his wife helped substantially, she did most of the work of making a positive life by herself.

[@BritInvLvr]

Story 2: OP's wife sounds spoiled AF. There were times where I was a stay at home mom. I cut back on EVERYTHING. Cooked at home, sewed Xmas gifts, even cleaned houses. My only entertainment was listening to the radio while I sewed. Eventually things change and finances will improve.

[@brandi5126]

S2: Uber eats is expensive af!!!! She would cut down on cost by just going to pick up her food herself.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

$50 of mobile games in a month!? That's like roughly my monthly insurance holy crap. I play gacha games but am f2p. I am considering doing game payments soon once things are stabler. But I also see people who do pool money into games who are responsible in their savings. They budget, make spreadsheets, and consider getting side incomes just so they can support their wants. Regardless, OP is not in the wrong for me at least. Also amen to that guy saying 'you can literally buy games for $10 and play for hours on it.'

[@yourmom2189]

I agree! Stardew Valley cost $5 and is so much fun!

[@crowdemon_archives]

Come on, man, even FFXIV is a cheaper option!

[@Bubby-2010]

So I’m blind and I have never seen Mark (obviously) but I totally have a massive crush on him! If you’re reading this, love your voice and could listen to you all day! 😉

[@ohno8398]

I know right, his voice is so soothing!

[@desireeloveros1055]

Very much so His avatar is a white guy with dark spiky hair and he has a tattoo sleeve on one of his arms. With a plate of waffles in his hands 🧇

[@Bubby-2010]

@@desireeloveros1055 Yummy ❤️ Thanks for the avatar description 🤗

[@AndyyWithAY]

I've never cared for British accents, but I love Mark's voice so much.

[@francesa_loca6920]

Story 4: OP is NTA and is right to complain to HR. It’s very frustrating to have to CYA (cover your ass) because of someone else’s selfishness.

[@MoPiRs2]

Mark, just so you know CYA means cover your ass. Basically its documenting or doing something to make sure youre not at fault or can be blamed.

[@puli_dreadhead]

Story 4: NTA. Why bring your kids if you’re just gonna dump them on someone else. He ruined it for everyone who might be in a similar situation. HR and office etiquette should always be in the back of your mind in this environment, bad information circulates easily.

[@Dira7411]

My thing is y didn’t he ask, y just dump them on a coworker like just because she is a female he automatically thought “she would be ok” that’s the real red flag smh

[@prcervi]

they really should've had a dedicated daycare for these kinds of things

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - $400 a month for food delivery? Fuck, I don't spend that much on groceries and a once-a-week treat of food delivery! Plus, when I do get delivery, I get several meals worth because that only increases the total, tax and tip by a few dollars (always under $30). And 4-5 streaming services? I don't have any. And especially if she just has it on a background noise instead of watching programs/movies all the way through, that is such a waste! Some of these people do not know what true belt-tightening is!

[@pansprayers]

No amount of past assistance justifies further abusing a family member, and he's abusing both OP an the child emotionally. The brother may have helped you back on your feet, but that doesn't mean he gets to run over your family.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Exactly Ops first loyalty is to their child’s safety and mental health. Uncle doesn’t get carte Blanche to abuse ops kids.

[@Yvonne-Bella]

What in the audacity that last one.

[@riceracm]

24:59 CYA stands for _cover your *ss_ Meaning make sure you have no liability in our litigious society today 😮‍💨

[@eliability]

Story 3: They sound nice together. I’m glad that OP stood up for his girlfriend, she sounds awesome and they sound like they’re gonna have a nice life together. OP sounds like a great s/o and he deserves a hug. The gap kinda made me eye it a bit but I’m really happy they seem healthier than the others I’ve seen on this sub. To the first person who said ESH: Friendly reminder that people have a hard time cutting off family. It’s not an easy thing to do at all. For all this person knows that was the final straw. OP is an AH for telling them about his girlfriend’s past, not for inviting them. To the YTA: Assuming the niece still lives with her family, what the hell is she gonna do if she didn’t go with her parents? OP was angry, and it doesn’t look like he has any hard feelings against her. It was in the heat of the moment, seriously reread and understand the situation. OP should apologize to his niece but holy shit the audacity for the YTA lol

[@25Erix]

I'm very weirded out by the gap. That's comparable to me (33) and my oldest brother (48). That's fifteen years.

[@locusxe1411]

@@25Erix I’m not personally. They both met as adults so I see nothing wrong or anything to be weirded out by

[@kp2223]

If neice brought a boyfriend chances are they can drive themselves. Also Op did mention that everyone in his family has said something negative about his girlfriend just not to her face. I don't necessarily believe the niece is so innocent ,she just might not have said the thing at Thanksgiving.

[@prcervi]

solid equation i've seen for these kind of age gaps is (eldest age÷2)+7= a not so squick age gap, and this passes at present day at least, a bit short at meeting, but both full adults with time to have lived as adults they're both happy with their arrangement so i can't complain about it, lady has her own things in life going for her so it's not like she's isolated either i'd say op needs to word the apology to his nieces and nephews, their parents and grandparents were being poorly mannered and unfortunately since the kids came with their parents they had to leave with their parents(curse of 'who's your ride home?')

[@huinismith]

Yeah, it weirded me out a little, but I didn't see a power imbalance in here, which is great.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@bobcatred]

CYA = Cover Your Ass. As in: do what you gotta do to make sure you don’t end up in trouble if the worst happens. In this case reporting dad to HR and not being made involuntary babysitter.

[@Russman67]

Story 4: OP was not hired in that office to provide child care. She also tried to talk to you The grieving father and get him to solve the problem. He chose to disregard her so she went to HR. Now he's facing consequences. Not the asshole.

[@Tyanna01]

Story 4: I said this on another video that had this story, but NTA. The fact that HR acted so quickly should be a good clue that this was very much not OK. PSA; HR isn't there to help you out, it's there to protect the interests of the company. The fact that HR moved so fast to get this stopped shows how bad this really is. They didn't talk to him, or his manager. He didn't get a warning. And investigation wasn't done. None of the things HR normally does do drag their feet were done in this case. It sounds like he was told the day it happened that his kids weren't welcome at the office any more. That's lightning fast. Which means they saw it for the liability it is. If those kids got hurt while not in his care the company would be liable for it b/c he was allowed to bring his kids to work. Anyone throwing shade at OP should be told if they really cared they would chip into his child care costs.

[@sweetr1832]

About the uncle. People realizing that they can just accept they don't have to personally understand or even approve of everything makes me so unreasonably happy. Add support and kindness on top of that and it's all we often need from most people. I've mostly befriended people who actually understand my queer gender and I'm lucky to have both original and found families. Hope their family grows even stronger and fonder with their differences!

[@thedestroyasystem]

Last comment on story 3- does anyone know if boyfriend is talking about OP’s niece, or OP’s girlfriend? Is he saying OP showed niece disrespect by kicking her out or that family showed disrespect to OP’s gf by insulting her?

[@ScooterBond1970]

I could be wrong (what else is new?🤣) but I gather that it was niece's boyfriend, saying OP was disrespectful to niece.

[@savageinkstudios2969]

Story 2: ive done full time stay at home care for three kids and ive worked full time jobs. Stay at home parenting im my experience is a lot easier and has more kick back time. Either the kids are so young they have naptime or they are old enough to be in school or summer camp for most of the day, and maintaining a house only takes a couple hours a day. Chances are OPs wife gets a lot more relaxation than op does, and the fact she is willing to cut into her kids college money for her own selfish gain shows what a crappy parent she is.

[@nottheone7269]

Yeah I found it to be interesting that nobody pointed out the fact that he said he takes care of the kid when he gets home from his job. So she has all that time to herself too After her husband get home from work he starts working again.When she said he doesn't know what it's like to take care of a child l.I'm not sure how he didn't get more mad at that.

[@savageinkstudios2969]

@@nottheone7269 hes probably used to her convoluted bullshit to the point where it feels normal.

[@fhuber7507]

4... NTA. Guy dumping his kids on someone else is the a$$hat. Not OP's job to babysit. That's going to hurt her performance on her actual job.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: she should cut back on streaming services. I doubt, even as a SAHM, she gets as much out of all the 4-5 streaming services to make all the money going towards them each month. As of now, me being unemployed, Netflix isn’t really worth the money as I barely watch it as is, and that is the only streaming service I have. She could cut back on two or three. She chooses the ones she likes the most. Or maybe, just maybe, don’t put so much damn money on in-app-purchases for mobile games? It would be worthless if your mobile device goes on the fritz and you can’t back up the data. If you can’t afford it, don’t do it. It’s a simple concept where you don’t need to take money away from your child’s college fund

[@maryalicefike4704]

commented yesterday about my premed finals i’m studying for and today’s test day! thank you to those who wished me luck and thank you mark for all the study fuel . did the math and i’ve listened to over 37 hours of your videos while studying this week alone!!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Didn't see your first comment, but I hope the exam went well. Let us know how it went when you find out

[@ScooterBond1970]

#1: That one comment was spot on, doing good deeds/bad deeds is not a zero sum game. Also, I despise when someone tries to hold over others' head that "I helped you". Brother doesn't seem to be doing that directly, but mother definitely is doing something by proxy. Screw that for a joke.

[@huinismith]

Story 3: WHOA! Whoa...! What OP's mom said could have switched anyone's full berserker mode on. I... I just... Oh, my God... I can't say somebody going savage in that kind of situation is an asshole. Also: How can you stay and resume your dinner after witnessing such a mess? Even if only mom would have been kicked out, I couldn't. I would think about giving the hosts some space.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - why even invite this toxic group of fundies over to your house at all? OP had to know shit was going to go down - especially if his mum felt comfortable enough to say such an awful thing to GF. it was a bit over the top to throw everyone out - mum would have been fine to be escorted out and others were free to follow. at least now OP knows not to invite anyone but nieces and nephews over for any reason (but maybe not BF of niece who decided to weigh in on his own).

[@shopahauliquewithjacquelin7025]

CYA= cover your arse=protect yourself first

[@alexsmith319]

Story 2: I was playing Stardew Valley when the comment suggested Stardew Valley....... Reddit knows.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Only 20 seconds in but I was really hoping for an update on this story! Thank you for covering it! 😁 So happy with the positive update 🖤💜.

[@shawnesmith5364]

Yea that comment about Uber eats is truth, I wasted over$ 100-200, eating out for one time a day for a week. $5 meal end up costing 25 buy the end off it.

[@annahopper3727]

400 on Uber eats is more than my entire months grocery bills. Games on your phone don’t need to cost anything. And streaming services are costly but you don’t need them all.

[@bluepinkman4488]

This is one of the problems with redit, disapproval is not abuse unless actions are taken, I grew up with disapproval as a staple of my life but they still did everything to help me in life. You don't needs someone's approval. Approval is not basic human decency. Disapproval is not treating someone like shit. I kinda hate this view of the world

[@kellypatterson8506]

2nd story, not butthead, cut out Uber, 1 game, and 1 streaming service. I got Netflix, Amazon Prime, VUDU, HULU, KZbin Prime, KZbin TV 📺, play FFXI ONLINE and Yu-Gi-Oh Duel Links.

[@Joxman2k]

Brother being a jerk to daughter. .....Love has no requirements. It simply exists. It is easy. Relationships are tangled messy things that need constant attention. Love your daughter. Love your brother. Do not accept wrong behavior.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: *NTA* It doesn’t matter if OP owes his brother his life. He needs to put his daughter first, his brother being trans phobic and treating his daughter like shit is, there’s actually no excuse for it it’s disgusting inhumane and cruel to be openly transform back towards your niece especially when she used to look up to you. Op did right for by daughter, your child always come first especially before people who treat them like trash. Glad he came around to accepting his trans niece and apologized to her. STORY 2: *NTA* Some of those luxuries are definitely things that you don’t really need. Order food less frequently, honestly micro transactions for mobile games are a scam anyway so she doesn’t need to indulge in those so often, and she doesn’t need to play mobile games that she has to pay for. She can easily find other things to entertain herself and give her breaks from the kids. As for streaming services there are streaming services like Tubi that don’t require a subscription you just have to sit through a couple of ads which is literally no different than watching regular TV. A good compromise would be to not get rid of a streaming service 100%, but maybe trade a service that requires a subscription for a streaming service that just requires you to sit through a couple of ads. Wife honestly sounds spoiled and her claims of abuse seems like part of a tantrum. Honestly she spending close to $1000 a month for food being delivered to the house, several streaming services, and her mobile games. She’s literally hemorrhaging money. We all need her entertainment, but by branching out and trying different forms of entertainment that don’t require you to bleed so much money a month can do wonders for your savings. If she wants to take a break from making lunch every single day, just make a big pot of homemade chicken noodle soup, vegetable soup, or beef stew. A big enough batch can be served for a week for several days work of lunches, or weeks if you freeze it. If making a spreadsheet and showing how much money she’s pissing away every single month doesn’t make her change your mind, she’s just a spoiled brat.

[@damien678]

tfw you're both trans and someone that believes in fulfilling life debts (which I currently feel towards someone that wouldn't want me going "i owe you my life" but nah nah, that's just how it's gotta be in my eyes) but yeah he's NTA, kid always comes first, even before your own honour and the like

[@whiskey287]

His son*

[@fallenkiwi6499]

No one has to accept Trans people if they don't want to. Stop calling people transphobic just because they don't agree with it.

[@xylopylo]

This month marks a year of knowing about your channel! Here's to the first of (hopefully) many years of entertainment and stories!!!

[@carolroberts4614]

Almost the same for me! I found Mark in January!

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Nope. Nope. Nope! I have a transgender 14 year old son. I will be damned if anyone is gonna come into my house, and his house and put him down, or speak to him poorly, or make him feel bad for being who he is. I don't care if it's the Pope, the president of the United States, or the king of England . No one is coming to my house and disrespecting my child, I don't care what they've done for me in the past

[@eliability]

Hey Waffle Gang! Glad to be here early again 🥰 Drawing myself and Dip as christmasy dudes! Hope everyone else is doing well

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Pog

[@veezopolis]

The biggest red flag anyone can do is use the word abusive when being told no. That's a heavy word that shouldn't be thrown around like that

[@romonaelrod7870]

Woo hoo, Friday waffles 🧇. Hiya Mark and Poppy and all of you lovely cheeky so and so's.

[@lewischase]

Good afternoon Mark Good afternoon everyone

[@KatieB33]

Story1 NTA it will always be your child first. Your brother is not being supportive towards your daughter.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 4: : "His manager is known for taking it personally if people do not attend outside office activities such as lunches or dinners or weekend potlucks etc (he labels such people as "poor team players")." I am so jealous right now. Who in their right mind wouldn't want to be on that team, led by a captain so great that he would shit all over a single father and recent widower for only showing up to games, but quietly bowing out of photo ops for something as trivial as his children? /s Maybe it should've been OP's co-worker having a word with HR about his manager's warped perception of boundaries? Maybe then he never would've been guilted into stepping out for lunch. Or maybe the rot goes all the way to the top at OP's company, and his concerns would've fallen on deaf ears.

[@Joxman2k]

Widower Dumping kid off. She is not the asshole and neither is he. He is trying to do the best he can, but he cant expect a co-worker to just take care of his kids. She has every right to refuse. It is not in her job description. I wonder if the company could set up a daycare of sorts for their workers. Aside from that he needs to pay someone to take care of his kids, or work from home.

[@darthlukeskywalker]

For story 4 all op should say when someone brings it up is you whatch his kids then

[@ChefBoiRLiik]

Mark Mark Mark Mark ‼️‼️‼️

[@faeb.9618]

my brother and i had to stay at the office with one of our parents on quite a few occasions just so we wouldn't be left alone, and y'know what we did? we quietly sat there either doing homework or playing on something. you can find ways to keep the kids entertained in your own office and not bother anyone

[@pamcauble3755]

I noticed Mark doesn't know CYA. It stands for Cover Your Ass. In case anyone didn't know

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story8 2: Doesn't anyone read a book any more?

[@rilo7891]

1) NTA. Go NC with that bigot. 2) OP is an AH for being a doormat, and being with that woman. 3) ESH. For not going NC with the family a long time ago. And for talking about your GF behind her back, to your family.

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful Friday

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you broken I will. Hope you are having a wonderful Friday

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks and you too💜💜🤗🤗

[@kp2223]

Story 3: seeing that Op has clarified that everyone in the family has said something negative about his girlfriend in the past ,yet his nieces boyfriend wants to complain about how disrespected the niece specifically is in the thread .even though Op made it obvious that niece definitely said something negative about the girlfriend just not to her face.

[@KyrieChii]

Yeah, I say everyone in OP's family can go shove it. (Including niece's boyfriend). I kind of think OP should've known better than to subject his girlfriend to those people, knowing what he did about their opinions & complete lack of respect. I sort of blame him too for even letting this whole interaction happen. I don't blame him for tossing everyone out.

[@zerobolt9506]

Umm I think that was a troll in the comments

[@kp2223]

@@zerobolt9506 didnt check the feed just listened to the story, probably a troll. Howevet OP did say that everyone in his family has said something negative abiut the gf

[@zerobolt9506]

@@kp2223 didn't he say that the kids didn't thoght 🤔

[@Mistfall254]

@@zerobolt9506 Maybe not to their faces, but who is to say they did not say anything behind closed doors, like at the family home.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - Good outcome at least. I don't pretend to even have a clue about all the different choices kids can now make, but do choose to respect how they wish to be identified and addressed; as long as the other person is a kind and respectful human being, I can certainly be the same without understanding every detail of their lives and identities. Here's hoping the uncle keeps this idea and just moves forward.

[@floraposteschild4184]

This! You don't have to "understand" everything about someone to love them and make them part of your family. I don't understand half the straights in my life,, and I'm straight myself.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@incineroar9933]

Very mild esh at the Thanksgiving guy. His mom was absolutely abhorrent, but he didn't have to kick out the family members who have not said negative things about the wife. He could have just kicked out mom and told anyone who felt the same to shut up and leave too.

[@Jo-razz]

Both can Compromise, each can give up one thing, he can still get teeth whiting, but dye your hair at home, or reverse. She can give up the Uber eat, that is alot, & lunch is not dinner, lunch is easy. I think both are happy. Just to keep the peace ✌ I could be wrong;)

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1 update: I would still not allow him alone time with daughter till op sees first hand hes respecting her in all accepts. Proper pronouns, not dead naming, and most importantly apologizing and correcting himself if/when he slip up.

[@k8mcawesome]

Hello friends! I DO love a Reddit story, Mark ❤️

[@HonorWillow]

Story 2: ESH, mobile games are able to be played for free. That doesn't mean don't spend any (the odd purchase now and then) but the amount she's spending on them is crazy and she'd be better off spending that amount on computer or console games. But I also think OP is undermining her job of looking after the kid. The streaming services is also weirdly crazy to me. Do you really need that many different streaming sites? Also I'd suggest ordering from somewhere else other than Ubereats because they are the worst in my opinion. Just eat, Deliveroo or just ordering straight from restaurants. It was just so draining hearing them jab at each other telling each other to not spend any money on themselves basically. That's not fair and honestly the wife wasn't so out there saying that's financial abuse because if he really expected her to not spend anything on herself at all on any entertainment and wait for him to come home? Yeah that is financial abuse

[@iStarlit]

hey Mark for the last story "work significantly impacted that you need to CYA for" I'm pretty sure CYA stands for Cover Your Ass

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 3: OP's family -We can disrupt your lives and that's fine. We're allowed to disrespect you. But how dare you disrespect us by disrupting our dinner in your house?- Good gawd the audacity of these people.

[@FlamesofJagger]

🎶🎵 Am I the buuuuuttthhhoooolllleeee 🎵🎶 Hey hey Mark. Hope you and Poppy are well. Stay chill 😎 and waffle 🧇 on always. Have a great day today. Much love 💘 ❤️ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘 Waffle 🧇 Gang! Hope you are well. Stay awesome and enjoy your day today. Waffle 🧇 Gaaannnnggggg forever!!!

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good afternoon! I am ready for the fluffiest cake recipe I can find for the holidays lol

[@Swnsasy]

Why is it people think that because someone does something amazing for you that means you're a door mat for the rest of your life?

[@itjustmemanning8441]

I that the father over stepped his bounds by not letting op know he was going to lunch. And he shouldn't have sent the kids without taking too her first.

[@gamefreak2383]

I'm not sure why forcing her trans daughter to get along with her abusive uncle is a plus he's still clearly doesn't understand and just caves into family pressure I don't think that's gonna end well at all, it's sad she wasn't willing to protect her daughter in the end.

[@jessiealexander3515]

If my coworker insisted I look after his kids during work hours, I would insist he pay me for both childcare and lost wages since I wouldn’t feel comfortable focusing on my own job when looking after someone else’s young kids. Hopefully that would be enough to get him to leave me alone

[@savageinkstudios2969]

Story 4: NTA NTA NTA who the fuck is that entitled that you just leave your kids with a practical stranger without their permission??? What makes his work more important than hers??? I would have put a lock on my office door after the first time it happened.

[@superOMGgirl123]

For story number two; I think what the husband should do in this situation writet out the budget of how much is spent every month on what and then show it to his wife and explain where a lot of that money is going and where they could cut back maybe she just feels like there is a power imbalance in the relationship of some sort and she right now feels like she is just being told what to do without enough context if I'm giving her the benefit of doubt.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Babysitting story I get the kids all jacked up on sugary products then send them back

[@moimeself1088]

CYA = Cover Your Arse Howzit, Mark! Have a great weekend 🙋🏾‍♀️🇿🇦

[@ssm090]

First story, I can foresee something like this happening with my kids and brother in law. We only have 1 son and he’s only 1. my brother in law loves to help with whatever he can but he is extremely homophobic, transphobic, racist and all that stuff and I’m worried that he’ll pull some shit like this at some point in the future. I vowed not to get any help from him whatsoever, if I can help it so he never has that hanging over our heads if my son ever comes out or anything like that (faaaar in the future of course)

[@Monarch2424]

Just raise your son right, and everything will be fine

[@princesssunshine874]

i would be so pissed if I had a stay at home partner and they were spending around $400 on take out. My mum was a stay at home parent.. The entire reason was to save money. Cooking from scratch, child care, house cleaning.. My mum had 5 children and never ordered take out.

[@prcervi]

if your workplace says your kids can come, your workplace better damn well have a dedicated daycare a "dedicated daycare" op was not, also fuck that boss calling everyone who doesn't jump at joining him for lunch a poor team player (a boss problem and a coworker problem, one of these is easier to fix)

[@craftyink70]

Evening WF, sewing a sock monkey tonight Mark. Hope alls well. ML ❤️

[@NottyAries]

No one goes to work to watch kids unless you're a teacher or work in a daycare center. NTA

[@mariakobets7557]

CYA is cover your ass. I.e. protect yourself!

[@fate_clotho9596]

I hope all the Cheeky So-And-So's out there have a wonderful weekend! 💜 You too, @Mark Narrations !😂💜 Much love, all!

[@michaeldowson6988]

I gave up on TV when I was a teen, and kept myself entertained and educated on free books borrowed from the library, and cheap outdoor activities. Workmate with kids story: since he is using you to gain time to schmooze for better pay while robbing you of commissions over babysitting, demand a big cut of his paycheque.

[@kristinecollier8113]

When yoy said...compromise, compromise, compromise, I was thinking...chest compression, chest compression, chest compression. LOL I watch Dr. Mike here on KZbin and he says that almost every upload

[@jjgandthatsenough]

Story 3: everyone at that table heard op’s mother say that stuff and nobody defended THEIR HOST. If this were me, Everybody gets kicked out, without shoes, purses and jackets. Have a SHIT WALK HOME❤️

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Was not expecting the last post, like... whoa! OP is still not the AH in my opinion, regardless to what niece's boyfriend is saying.

[@anonymousbrooks8194]

Story 1 NTA. Just because you decide to do someone a kindness doesn't mean it automatically gives you the right to belittle and just be all right cruel to the children.

[@zashgekido5616]

I dont disagree in the slightest with the NTAs for the first story, but I do find the notion that good deeds don't outweigh bad.. Interesting, mostly from a hypothetical scenario

[@redconvoy]

The last one, the father is very unprofessional and everyone in the office needs to get real. That is not OP's responsibility and she could sue them for that.

[@Mostly_Ranting]

1st story Niece and SIL are the best. Good people call their loved ones out on their bullshit.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: NTA - The first time kids were sent to my office, I would send them back. The second time, I would escort them to HR and go back to my job. I think it's clear as day why it's you who keeps getting delegated childcare duties. NOT okay. Full stop.

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Love the festive opening 🌠

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! How are you doing today? I hope all is well and I wish you a great day!! Been watching alot of VR videos, which include VRChat and Beatsaber, now I really can't wait til' I get a vr headset XD

[@orcatheartist9928]

Nta for the story 1. Yes defend your child from your brother!

[@Tammohawk1]

4. NTA OP's co-worker was taking advantage of her, no other words for it. He also didn't respect her work. Funny that he did that with OP who is a woman, not one of the men. And who is it complaining? Men.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Uber eats is not a scam you’re just paying for convenience. I don’t know why that stuck out with me😂 But also, I don’t fault him for calling her selfish after she said he was abusive. I think she’s definitely in the wrong. I do have to wonder if she’s not feeling fulfilled and maybe be depressed perhaps that’s why she’s not seeing the rationale behind it or she just selfish.