My Coming Out Experience

[@technodream]

The damage religon does is appalling.

[@rayrothermel4861]

Your mother abused you. She ought to be ashamed of herself. People that put religion over their own families are completely despicable. You are smart. Put your knowledge to work for you.

[@billscus]

+Bruce Wayne what are u laughing at ur parents are dead

[@waynelankenau3295]

Hey MoM Turn that Hollier than Now Cross UPSIDE DOWN AND RIDE IT God makes no mistakes Bible beater

[@CalvinBremer1]

I just want to let you guys know I still read all the comments. :) There's a lot of them, but I read every one and thank every single one of you for your kind words. It makes me so happy inside from your words of encouragement. And to anyone out there who is in contemplation of coming out, I hope all goes well for you the day that you do. Much love.

[@uxueperes8434]

Hi, good video, I´m from Argentina, I`m twenty eight, I´m a bisexualy. my english is bad, do you speak español? well good luck

[@connorsteele3486]

your so hot

[@averymartin321]

Aww Calvin your video touched my heart, you are strong, you know the ones who love you the most may need more time grow. So it's nothing wrong with you, I know how you feel I came out to my dad and he wasn't supportive at all. But you are loved, so don't feel bad. :)

[@Maltravers2011]

Tryst T Sorry you are such a troll

[@joshua69069]

Tryst T What do you mean by "chill out"? That you are joking, or that chilling out can make a guy less gay? I don't get it!

[@ethanc8821]

My mom keeps hinting at it. "Is there something you want to tell me?" "You know I'll always love you no matter what, right?" She told me the other day that she doesn't care if I brought home a man from the moon because as long as I'm happy, she'll be happy...and I STILL can't get the words to come out of my mouth.

[@intochill]

When you're ready and its the right time it will come out easily. One day hopefully in our life time I hope that its as easy as saying you're straight. Good Luck! :)

[@zackarydavidboos]

***** Ethan C i think that its a lot easier to tell a friend first (a girl) thats what i did. girls are usulay a lot more accepting

[@ethanc8821]

zack boos I actually have since come out to my sister! I'm just waiting for a decent time to tell my mom. Things have been a bit chaotic for the last few months, and when things calm down we'll tell her together. I feel so much better about telling her after telling my sister. I think it was just that first hurdle of admitting it to someone else for the first time. She was awesome. I swear she already knew and had a speech planned out for when I told her. haha... Any way I completely agree with you. I think a lot of it just has to do with the fact that girls understand how we could like penis, to put it bluntly. Just how I don't see the appeal to vagina or boobs, straight guys don't understand how or why we like guys. And I think guys are more accepting of lesbians because they do understand why they like women. In the words of Macklemore, "America the brave still fears what we don't know." It's just human nature to fear what we don't understand, unfortunately.

[@zackarydavidboos]

ya... its really hard to do it... i would have never done it if i hadn't seen this one youtuber a year ago... i think it was like exiledleopard1?

[@xCitadeI]

My mom does the same thing lol

[@rick92rr]

It's so depressing, I just hate religious fanatism T.T

[@DonAllenDe]

Came from a similar background. Graduated H.S. shortly before my 17th birthday and joined the Air Force when I turned 17. You will never get fundamentalists to accept you and you can forget that. Live your life the way that you are and remember that God, in his infinite wisdom, made you who you are and he did not make any mistakes. I am 76 now and had a 36 year relationship which only ended with his death of a heart attack when he was 59. You seem to be a bright, intelligent and handsome young man (from your video). Life is precious, live it to the fullest and if your relatives don't like it, tough! They are the ones missing out by not really knowing you.

[@LauderdaleJoeM]

Don D, though I had a better experience than Calvin, I also enlisted in the Air Force at 17 & graduated HS at 17. After Basic/Tech Training, I started f/t @ IL State University (since I was serving 6 yrs in Air Nat'l Guard + TDY active duty tours every summer semester: 1 in The Pentagon, 1 on Andrew's, 2 in Knoxville & a KC-135 air-refueling mission over Cuba to Grand Cayman for 4 days. Plus college tuition was free). I feel terrible 4 Calvin & others who have their ostrich head stuck in the ground & dont hear anything but their preachers biblical B.S. Hope u enjoyed USAF.

[@y2kpopHQ]

It's sad that some people think we actually choose who we like, they don't choose to be straight. We don't choose to be gay. We were born this way and I'm honestly so proud of you. Thank you so much for your story :) SO many people, like you said, will always be here for you. Me included. I love your videos and you seem like a awesome person.

[@greysonunlucky1876]

It disgusts me that parents are more loyal to a book that is thousands of years old than their own children. I can't believe they would call you those names and demean you like that because a book said it is wrong.

[@TheJoegowdy]

I lost my mom, 6 years ago. And even though I told her I was gay she died thinking I was going threw a Phase....My mother's nievity made me a lot happier, your mom sound's like she need's a good kick up the ass. It's 2013 not 1913.....but don't let anyone get you down....not even family....be the person you are....brave, sensitive, and adoreable....keep safe kiddo....

[@bobbond6365]

You still are the same person who you were before coming out . Just know that you have a lot of support standing in your corner .

[@christopherlounes4999]

hey calvin, you're a really brave dude, keep move on !! :D All people do not accept you as you are, they just don't deserve you and about your familly and church too Never forget that ''God is mercy and forgiveness! he loves all the children, you're a child of god'' Thks to share this moment of your life!! you're a sweet guy, full of love and compassion !! bye take care calvin!! PS: i'm sorry for the english, i'm french so not always easy to write with no errors!! :D

[@beachesboy1994]

Your English is just fine.

[@PaintingMeJosh]

Two things: 1) You posted this on the anniversary of my channel. I posted an anniversary video for it if anyone's interested. 2) This video really helped me. I'm not going into detail, because I'm not that ready yet. But, I told my best friend all the details today. Now just to keep the ball rolling.

[@twospirit333]

I just want to say it was a privilege to hear your story. Trust me in saying that your journey will resonate to anybody who is contemplating coming out. Even though the acceptance of family is important, nobody can take away your strength and courage if you don't get it. I can relate in that my father couldn't accept me. It has been a couple of decades and I am not sitting and waiting for that to happen. Life is way too short.

[@theviewfromhere5291]

Calvin, first I just want to hug you and tell you that you are loved very much. My 16 year old is gay and I love him very much, he didn't come out to me I actually outed him, he has 4 brothers all older and they all love him just as much as before, he has a boyfriend who we have all accepted as part of our family as his family is similar to yours where they think he can be fixed. Calvin the one thing I would really like to say to you is that there is a lot more love and support for you than you realise, I have just come across your channel and know that you're a special person and beautiful young man and an inspiration to others, I don't care whether you gay or straight you are just a beautiful person who deserves the best in life like everyone else.

[@LauderdaleJoeM]

what a great mom! mine "accepted" me initially per se, but over the last 15 yrs, it declined...they retired Chgo to Arizona, joined a new Catholic church & none of the family ever ask who I'm dating or if I'm in a relationship or a anything related to gay events. Living in Ft Lauderdale is plenty reason for them to make such cross-country, conversational inquires! Hope your son is still with his bf!

[@paulandrews298]

Your story is heartbreaking, I hope things are better with your family today. Acceptance was never an issue for me and I came out in the '70's. Much love and happiness. ❤️

[@SupraWes]

I am sorry that your family has treated you so poorly. Your story is powerful and one that needs to be heard. You will marry the man of your dreams someday, and I hope your family comes to their senses and fully supports you both.

[@SASEntertainment]

I also crushed on Jonathan Taylor Thomas (JTT) too back then as well and even met him my senior year! Enjoyed your story and know it's been awhile, but found it very similar to mine and wanted to reach out to you!

[@pizalula]

Dear Calvin, just watched your vid and it really got to me... I'm gay myself and what you've had to go through, esp. with your mom's reaction, makes me so angry and sad. I hear about these areas in the US where people's mindsets are still very much in the grip of religion in its most ignorant and bigoted form, where it's extremely difficult to be gay .It's horrific what this does to families like yours. Of course you're perfectly fine the way you are. You're a great guy and very brave. And I truly admire you for loving your mom in spite of it all and for understanding that deep down,under all the misconceptions, the fear and the hate she was fed all her life, she does love you too. I hope for you that she and your family will come around one day. Because really, it's their loss! But I'm glad that you're now focusing on the friends you're making in college, who support you and simply love you for who you are. I'm in college myself and life is much easier. And more fun.:) I wish you nothing but happiness and lots of love. You so deserve that. And a great wedding one day with the man of your dreams, surrounded by your 'logical' family (your friends) - and, who knows, maybe your biological one as well. Best wishes!

[@rc5chi539]

Calvin , you should be very proud of yourself ! the coming out process is not easy for the majority of us , yes , there are many great and envious stories we get to hear but we don't get to choose our families and how they react and treat us ? your opinion of who you are is more important than what anyone else thinks , including your parents . I hope you are in a better place with your parents ( although i'm guessing not by the sadness in your voice when you talk about them ?) Always remember to love yourself , when that happens it makes it easier for someone else to love you as well . Good luck in all you do . thanks for posting and your honesty .

[@anachreon01]

Be brave, sweetheart - there are those who throw names at us and they are the ones who need help and who are actually the ones who have been indoctrinated. Love yourself and keep growing as you've done. I came out in the 70s in South Australia and on national TV. There are some who haven't coped to this day - but they are the the ones who have not shared in all the joy and love and beauty that I found in the hearts of a great many more accepting and truly wonderful people. They are my true family and not those who, despite parenting me have lost the son they could have loved. Never fear - we all admire and love you. Thanks for your Video.

[@vipeboy2003]

I can understand where you are coming from. I grew up in a southern town in tn with under 1000 population , in a very religious family that goes to church every week and a father who is an elder . Not to mention a very Korean family who would have issues with me dating even a girl if she were not Korean . I have not come out to them although I suspect they have an idea but have not decided to confront it as they have many religious connections and would rather not "look bad " in their church. My brother does know and initially thought it was a phase but has since become very open minded and even tried to help by feeling out my parents by asking their views on homosexuality; we weren't surprised by their views . I completely agree with you on coming out when you feel safe. Having true friends is a wonderful thing and I have been blessed with many . Also, college is a wonderful place like you said and I have not met many if any, that have an issue with gay people. If they do, they usually don't start anything and you don't have to deal with them if you don't want too. Anyway , sorry for the long post if anyone reads this , I am still working on the courage to come out to my parents as I want to share my whole life with them. I have been with my better half for 2 years and have been warmly welcomed into his family and I wish he could experience the same with mine . Sadly, I doubt it will happen but I want to give my parents the chance. Merry Christmas (in all different forms) all you fabulous youtubers!

[@russmorgan7941]

You made me cry here. Not fair! I thought my coming out in an evangelical family was tough. Your story made mine look like a tea party. The sad part for me is that this happened to you in the 21st century. I came out in 1982. I know things get better, but these sad stories continue. I created my life 3,000 miles away from my family. They're accepting and all, but it's been an emotional roller coaster. I wish you all good things. No one deserves the treatment you received. You're a very strong man.

[@SophiaGriz]

This made me so sad and angry and I just hope that one day our grand kids will look back at this like we look back at the racist times, and they won't even believe it. I just want to hug you and be your best friend and make sure you never feel alone or sad or anything. I'm sending all my love and compassion to anyone who had a tough time coming out or is gay or anything like that, remember that if you think no one loves you, I do and just please stay strong.

[@tombrooks5933]

calvin, what a tough story to tell, so thank you for sharing. terry and i have been together for 33 years and coming out in the 80's wasn't easy, but the quality of person you are inside is what helps people understand things a little bit better and you have discovered that. whether you feel like it or not, you are a stellar role model and i wish you the best of good fortune, long life, and happiness. hugs, brooks

[@anotherchris4]

Calvin your video provokes so much anger towards your mother! She sounds horrible and seems her goal is just to make you have a miserable life. I am so sorry your coming out was hell. I hope you cut off people who want to destroy you even if it is your mother or family as holding on to this and the past will only make you a broken person who will evolve to be jaded etc. LET IT GO! Let people go who are not good for you. You are at the best days of anyone's life being young so just get on with life and be happy! I really hope you keep being positive.

[@GarycorbCorbett]

I came out in around 1979, when I wrote a letter to the editor concerning two boys that were kicked out of Disneyland for dancing together. I simply said that two women could, and do, dance together and no one thinks anything about it, but two guys, its bad. Wow, I got so many people writing the paper, they came to me to insure I responded, so I did. My family was split, most against my stance, some for, but no one asking if I was gay. Then the Editor asked me to write a final rebuttal, and gave me copies off four letters, and I was supposed to "hit a home run" for gay rights, so I drew facts from the gay library in Hollywood, and wrote the rebuttal saying simply that, as an American I took personal offense to their attitudes, as would the following, and listed 100 famous Americans. I got offered a job by the paper, as they felt gay rights was the final civil rights issue. They got it part right. I didn't take the job, came out to everyone, but no one seemed to care anymore. I have written a book on aspects of gay life, older and younger relationships, and, at 67, know it gets much better as you get older. Persevere and you will excel. Now, if I can just manage to get videos uploaded to my channel, I can help others, like you are. Love you, and all you do. corbpi

[@ConnieHo123]

watching this video moved me in a way i can't really explain. i'm Bi and am fully out now, and i do consider myself relatively lucky because i had the support of close friends during my time of need. i am completely open about my sexuality at school and most people i've come across have been fine with it, those that mattered were fine with it. i do relate to you in the way that i grew up in a very religious household, my parents are quite narrow-minded people, unfortunately. me and my dad have never spoken a word about this topic to this day, and i honestly would prefer it that way. it was one of the most difficult things telling my mom, and although she definitely had a much better response in comparison to your mother, she didn't exactly take it well either. i honestly don't think she ever will... and it's hard thinking about that, things like this are hard to accept. which is why i admire you so much for still being able to love your mom even after all thats happened, because i know that i wouldn't be able to do the same... i know i've written so much but i'd be really grateful if you could post a response? thanks

[@CalvinBremer1]

I'm glad that most people you come across are fine with it. It's good to surround yourself with such support. My dad and I have never really spoken about the topic either. It's awkward grounds that'd lead to a talk that would just degrade me even more, so I never bring it up either. Just live life for what it is, keep a smile on your face, and when you find the one that you love and means the world to you, treasure them. Because they'll be yours and nothing your parents may say about having a same-sex spouse should lessen your love for your future spouse. Perhaps you'll be braver than me and introduce them to your family and they'll come around to the idea. I hope I can when the day comes. Much love. xoxo

[@bucrat1]

***** Hey Calvin, I think you know that I'm one of if not your biggest fan(s) and only wish the best for you. You might consider penning a coming out letter to your dad. This would allow you to take all the time you need and cover all the bases you want. When complete you can give it to him when you're ready or never, but it's available if you need it. Go watch Grant's coming out letter to his mom on his youtube channel Iwantacceptance and see what you think. On an unrelated subject, I was a bad boy!! I decided you needed more exposure, so I hyped your 12 gay of Christmas vid on other channels where I'm subscribed. If you get crap from youtube or youtubers you can truthfully say you new nothing and found out after the fact it was the doing of one of you physco subs.

[@mikewilson4377]

Calvin.... Great video. Thanks for sharing. Sorry your coming out didn't go so well. It broke my heart when you said the way your mom treated you. You seem like a great guy. Hope things are better in 2015. God dose love you. Don't let anyone tell you diffrently. Please keep staying positive. Lot more people accept you then don't. Stay positive my friend. God bless.

[@tedhax]

As the gay son of a fundamentalist minister, I personally understand what you've been through with your family. However, over 40 years ago I found a man to love & we're still together; except now he's my husband. While many in my family are still not totally accepting, we have our "family of the heart" which is made up of a diverse group of friends who love us in the same way as an ideal family would. In short, the fulfilling life I sought is the life I found. My husband and I wish you the same outcome. It's out there waiting for you and for others like you.

[@PYLeeoye]

Hi saw you on camcameras channel and your coming out story is closer to my own than many others on youtube. Thanks for sharing. Not every family is supporting and caring unfortunately . Growing up in a Evangelical Christian home with a certain set of beliefs makes it hard to reconcile the things you are taught and how things are in real life. I'm glad that you were able to find yourself and a support system with friends.

[@abckade123]

Hi Calvin. I just want to say that you are an incredible human being. I am so sorry that you had such a negative coming out experience but I'm a big believer that everything happens for a reason. This will, and probably has, made you a very strong person. You have given me and countless of other people inspiration to just accept who they are. Times are changing, and fast. I am privileged that I was able to see this at a time when I and so many other people need more people like you in the world. Stay strong Calvin. Love from England.

[@CalvinBremer1]

#HappyNationalComingOutDay Remember, only do so when you're ready and feel safe. You're brave and I hope the best for you. I'm happy this video has helped some of you out there. :) Much love, Calvin.

[@TheRealDanTerry]

Just come across your video. I don't know how to word this but well done on telling your story because it has already, and will continue to, help so many people :)

[@marcdelacroixz]

Wow, it takes a lot to share this kind of story, Calvin. Thank you for your courage and advice. I can relate a lot since I'm in a similar situation but I hope things by now have improved with your family. Even if there's little progress, it's something. Thinking more about it,... more than normal, I think everyone of us is unique (with faults and virtues, nobody is perfect) so we should live our lives in the way that makes most sense to us, being true to ourselves and others. It's important though, like you say, to do it when it's safe.

[@kc3302]

Calvin, thanks for posting this video. Like you I'm not close to my family (not because of anything specific, it's just how it is). My friends are the number 1 most important thing in my life. Many people find that hard to believe but unfortunately all families aren't emotionally close.

[@SASEntertainment]

I had those same fears, had a BF, but could not say, raised Christian and had family try to change me. It's comforting to know I'm not alone and someone had a similar journey as I've struggle with!

[@lenovovo]

+Calvin Bremer Thanks for posting the video Calvin, it's a very good video, and you give very good advice ... Have a great day! :-)

[@shaylarson326]

I hope your family accepts who you are one day but you still have thousands of people/viewers who do accept you. And to everyone who thinks it's a choice? It's not. You cannot become "un gay" just like you cannot become gay if you aren't. And Calvin there is nothing wrong with you it's completely normal. You are normal and we love you

[@JeffMende]

you are a hero...you are a warrior....you are beautiful.....you are a honest man.....everyday is a new chance to be a better man.....I am 63...I am gay....came out in my 20s......I was a playboy....but today I am single.....and I am learning to be happy.....daily...jeff...thanks Calvin...

[@zXJulianXz]

Oh, you have had the worst experience, you're so strong despite it. People don't understand how difficult it is to go against everything you've ever been taught and everything you've ever known because you don't fit in with that ideology! I wish you all the best in the future, stick to your guns, you will make the world a better place I'm sure of it! :)

[@jeffj5129]

Your story is so inspirational but also so sad. Attitudes in the U.S. are much improved since I was young, but you remind us that not every teen today has an easy road to come out. All I could think while watching this is "Whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger." I'm now a subscriber and wish I could be your friend.

[@ddallaghan]

You will make a difference in someone's life. Stay strong and know that you are Loved.. Will💕

[@GageCruise]

Thanks for your video. I got outed when I was in California. I was very involved in a church growing up too. I came out to my family and feel I have been the past 2 years. I got locked out for 2 days and basically disowned because of their Mormon beliefs. The emotional abuse and lack of acceptance for my boyfriend has been really hard. Thanks for your video, it comforts me to know that you also had a rough time. I am not sure I want to visit for Christmas. I hurt so much inside. I feel that I may never be able to share my joy with them. Thanks for showing the world that it is Very Hard to come out and comes at Great Sacrifice. I love my boyfriend for supporting me. I hope there comes a time when our type of Love will be viewed as Love.

[@RepensGaudium]

You know what Calvin? I am very proud of you! I had a similar experience some time ago and my mom and i have a very good relationship even though we can not speak about my personal life! As for my father, we try to make baby steps for him to accept me. Stay strong, believe in yourself and enjoy giving and receiving love with the people you really want to! I send you all my love and support. G

[@PosthumousAddress]

Really sorry to hear about your experience :( I find it hard to understand how parents can do that to their own children. It's like hitting a puppy, and the little pup can't understand why it's being punished. Stay strong bro, it sounds like you're pretty robust and you will thrive no matter what

[@michaelmouse1]

Such a sad story. Sometimes you just need to ditch your family and build a whole new one. If a family can’t love and accepts you it’s time to walk away. Stay strong! 🌈🌟😀

[@tshepotshiamo6040]

Hey... I thought I was the only one who is having a hard time coming out. Funny enough my situation is exactly the same as yours, I decided to go a University very far away from home because I just could not deal with everyone at home. Thank you, it is good to know that I'm not the only one that doesnt have a coming out story that is all sunshine and rainbows. Mine got to a point where they were like they'd rather have me dead than have a gay son. And lets not mention the fact that I'm the only child. So I totally understand how you feel. Thank you for making me feel like its ok. Thank you.

[@themaushpit9791]

Omg I'm so sorry you had to deal with so much of other people's baggage in your coming out process. You handled that with such amazing strength! Much love to you!

[@neverlookback75]

*hug* wow, that was a lot to deal with. :/ I thought I had it tough coming from my Christian family, but what you had to go through was kinda insane. It really sucks when your family isn't supportive and having to keep an entire portion of your life away from them. I know what you mean about being jealous of some youtubers who are ridiculously attractive, well off, and have amazing, supportive families that could care less about them being gay... (I'm the same way about sharing with my family as well. I announced by engagement and got likes and comments from lots of friends and family, but none from my brother and I knew that I couldn't share it with my parents, even though I was ridiculously happy...and it really sucked...)

[@snowy487JC]

Hey Calvin, I'm really proud of you! And thanks for making this video, it really gave me a broader insight. I just wanted to say, I am Catholic but I do not believe that religion should interfere with our personal opinions and life style (as it should be accepting and flexible) - I hope one day, people will learn to accept the fact that we love who we love, no matter the gender because that shouldn't be an issue. Stay strong!

[@timothyhill2092]

Thank you so much for posting this. As you said there are so many videos on youtube about guys coming out and having an easy-going experience. It was so enlightening and inspiring to hear you talk about your personal experience. I know it's quite possibly futile but I hope your family can one day see you for who you are and accept you to some degree cause you deserve at the very least that. You're one courageous dude :)

[@user-jr2iu7ks3x]

Your video was moving and difficult to watch. I feel very bad about how you were treated when you came out. You are not an abomination. You are a God carrier and a gift from God. When I was your age, it was common for people to come out after they were established in careers, because it was too problematic to come out in high school. Thank you for sharing. You are very courageous. Virtual hug. :)

[@PriestmanCub]

I was brought up in a strict Catholic family and went to a strict Catholic school. At that school I was constantly reminded that "God made me in his likeness", therefore God must love all his Gay children. Any church or religion that does not accept Gay people is not following Gods wishes and therefore homophobic hypocrites. Dear Calvin, YOU be who YOU are. YOU are NOT a freak, a devil or Satans sporn. YOU are a very courageous young man. You are a very nice young man. Your parents will regret their attitude one day, if not in this life then certainly in the next. Love your friends for standing by you and enjoy your life. Hopefully, your parents will come around when they realise what they've lost in you. GOD BLESS, Stay safe and enjoy your life. XXXXX John.

[@paulhart1855]

Thank you for sharing this. When I was younger I too prayed everyday to be accepted and in turn straight. When I came out to my parents they had no idea, my dad wanted to bring to his priest friend to set me straight but I'm so thankful my mom stood up for me. Most of my cousins accept me fully but as a kid I was bullied and heard nasty stuff all the time so it took its toll on me. But I am finally at a point in my life that I am so proud and will whole heartedly kiss my boyfriend. The loneliness and shame I once felt will never plague me again. #pride4life

[@AdamE96]

Very moving indeed, I nearly shed a tear near the end. While I live the very open and diverse city of Liverpool in England, I'm still on the road to coming out to my friends. I've told my inner family but they're pretty neutral about it and have told me not to tell anyone, it's something that they choose not to talk about so I have to keep my thoughts to myself. Good luck for the future my friend and thanks for sharing this, you've helped a lot of people.

[@jesspessiepess]

I am so incredibly proud of you for being so unbelievably brave, being able to accept yourself the way you are even in the difficult situation that you have been in, and I am so sorry that your family and your mum in particular reacted the way she did. It is so courageous of you to make this video, and I absolutely admire you for believing in yourself, breaking away from your family, finding your own place, making your own path with your friends and the people that believe in you. You deserve to live life as the perfect and wonderful and unique person you are, without having to change yourself to please anyone else, and I dearly hope that you live and love happily, and have a loving prosperous life, and find love, and marry a man someday, despite your circumstances. The fact that you have had the strength to live through, film and upload this is truly so admirable of you and i honestly admire and love you so much for this. Thank you so much for sharing your story, as I know it has helped me, to know that you can do it, and I'm sure it will help many others also. I love you so much, and think you are incredible, and wonderful, and I hope you have an incredible life. Good luck with the rest of your journey

[@dutoitproductions]

from all the coming out videos ive watched this far this one is the nearest to how my story goes, i also grew up in a very Christian family i never had a boyfriend but also because my mom doesnt accept it really shes meh with it we dont talk about it. so i totally understand how you feel and this video brought back a few emotions thats heart touching.

[@Aldarandir]

I feel your pain Calvin. My family is very similar to yours when it comes to the subject of being gay. Comedy moment, I came out to my parents over a pork sandwich when my mother started yelling at me for stupid stuff and the subject came up. I was thrown out of the house, called and told so many things it hurts just thinking about it. Finally they told me I could come home if I "Prayed the Gay away" and I accepted. It was the worst feeling in my life having to stand there and tell them that I would "Change my ways". To this day they still believe that I prayed the gay away. My biggest regret is going back into the closet and if I could do it all over I probably would. No parent should make their child feel or go through what some of us have. A parents is supposed to love their child unconditionally, not make terms and agreements. Anyways, thank you for sharing! Don't take this the wrong way when I say I find it a relief to find someone who went through some of the same things I did when coming out. Many blessings to you and any boyfriend you are with!

[@JTheMusicDudeTV]

Literally crying right now. Thank you so much for doing this Calvin. I have struggled with this for years and it's hard because I recall myself as a Christian. I went to a church youth group for almost a year and I could tell I was being discriminated against. I feel like the preference might always be a struggle for me and that really, really scares me. But, seeing you being yourself and getting through it, gives me a little hope. Thank you for being yourself Calvin. You're such an inspiration.

[@viceroyzh]

Religion is such a strong force - it can give hope, it can destroy. If it is there for good or for bad very much depends on the people who handle this force. Your circumstances were not easy but I think you made the best out of it. Respect.

[@mehmetates98]

I came out to my mother and that was the biggest mistake of my life. The friends I had told that I was gay all supported me but she called me horrible things 'till this very day. My mother is the only bully in my life right now which breaks my heart because I needed her support the most. I'm now living with this but I don't know what to do. I feel shitty everyday and it's killing me inside.

[@KnightRaymund]

=( I'm so, so sorry. I will never understand a 'parent' who could do something like that. My dad wasn't happy about it but we just don't talk about it and we act normal. I'll have to confront him again eventually but anyway. It sucks, and your situation is even worse. Just make sure to lean on their friends for support. Hopefully she'll come around in time but unless she does, don't let her get to you. You may have to distance yourself from her if you can. Don't let it 'destroy you'.

[@Tum.-.]

I live with just my mom, and she hates it too. I know how much it hurts your heart... It hurts me too

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Mimit, so sorry. Her job as mother is to love you no matter what though. You're still the same person she loved before, but now she has a more intimate awareness of who you are. Would she be willing to listen to how hard it was to come out and how much trust you had in her that has been betrayed somewhat. I hope it can get better. Even If she does not become more ok with it, it will still get better as you get older and more independent and know yourself better and build a supportive community of friends. Use online and real world groups. Maybe see if she would go with you to an LGBT-positive therapist (not a gay-hating/conversion therapy suggesting religious one? If so find one yourself.). Just some ideas... find out what exactly it is about you being gay that makes them unhappy. And if they can only come out with "the bible" then there are plenty of cases to make point that god loves everyone no matter what, and some anti-gay interpretations are down to modern religion and their choice about what to believe/follow - plenty of other crazy things in bible we don't do now. If worried about you having a family or being hurt by others cos of it then those can all be mitigated by friends and loved ones and her job to protect you while young enough. Surrogacy/adoption/... options if you even want a family when older.

[@blackstarriot]

Really inspiring. You went through, what appears, a really difficult "coming out". It could inspire so many people that have a very strong Religious Family and are fearful of telling their family. You are an amazing guy, be strong and even if it was difficult and there are times where it isn't easy for you (with the family situation), just remember you have your friends and subscribers here to support you!

[@joaopaulosalvador5992]

Hey, Calvin! Thanks for sharing your story! I'm 18 and I was raised in a really conservative catholic household and that is good because taught me a lot of good things but also really bad because I, eventually, will have to leave my family because they just won't accept me for who I am! I'm really not ready to leave them and I don't know if I'll ever be! I'm so tired of not being able to be myself with people and always afraid of people finding out all my secrets (there's not a second in my day that I don't feel stressed...)! I really don't know what to do... Thanks for your videos! Bye! Peace!

[@beachesboy1994]

I so hope things are better for you now.

[@thomasmartin5101]

thankyou for sharing this video Calvin, you are a very brave and honest young man! I have tears in my eyes for you.this can be a shitty world we live in but its such a better place with good men like you in it! I hope your family wake up and realise what they are missing by not embracing the whole you.i will subscribe now and follow your fun videos and wish you all the good things in life as after all you've had to endure you deserve it my friend!

[@luizpmelo]

I was really moved by your video and I feel so so sorry for your mom and your dad, because you seem such a great guy. It's too bad that they can see the person you are beyond your sexuality. I'm gay as well and I have a very supportive family and I cannot fully understand your pain, but I can feel the pain in your words. Well, I'm sending love from Brazil because you are who you are and they will understand onde day that they will have wasted a whole life hating one thing that means nothing. Have a great life, a great husband and be happy. Love. XX

[@ZincGlor]

Hi Calvin, thanks for sharing your story! The few I've seen all had happy endings, like their family just accepted straightaway. I have been contemplating coming out recently as a Bisexual, because I have decided to get baptised and I didn't want to have to hide anything. However, I CANNOT imagine what reaction my family will have, especially my dad who never believed the idea of being born gay and I didn't want him to use bisexuality to be his "evidence" that it's a passing phase for me or something. God bless and stay strong! Big thanks for this vid, really

[@LauderdaleJoeM]

You're too cute to suffer this common family drama. Maybe the Ghost of Christmas Past, Current & Future will visit them in their sleep & they'll see the wrong they're causing. or if you meet the sweetest of long term. I'm still trying to add a pic to my own account & organize crap I saved...I'm so far behind! btw I love fair skin U.K. boys w/lanky bodies, red or blonde hair & honesty like you. Good luck, you're their son!!

[@rrotley1]

G'day Calvin, this is a great video. Do not remove it. I think it is important for others considering coming out to be able to see that although their family may not react positively to their sexuality they can/will still have a happy life surrounded by others who truly accept them for who they are. You are a very brave and inspiring guy.

[@pvampire]

I don't know if you are aware how lucky you are to have been able to have accepted it at the age you did. I didn't, and it practically destroyed me. All the self hate and guilt and running and hiding become destructive. It could have been so much better if I had accepted it. Your awesome! You have nothing to be ashamed of and I hope your family sees that over time!

[@j_squared5ever543]

I have watched tons of coming out vids, but yours is the first I identify with the most. Your family sounds exactly like mine. We go to an Apostolic church 4 or more times a week. I can't wait to be able to afford to get out on my own. Thanks for sharing your experience. It helps knowing others out there have been through what is in my near future.

[@beachesboy1994]

JS I hope you are free now to be who you truly are.

[@spyguy1235]

this is a powerful story and i think your right most the stores we hear on here are all good but there are ones like yours that are not so good and i for one would like to say thank you for telling this you will help a lot of ppl . no matter what you are loved always remember that

[@ristin59]

Thank you for sharing your story. Similar story, except my dad was dead before I came out. My mom ran me out of the house in the same way. I lived in my car for a couple of weeks, until my BF and I found a place to live. Always be true to yourself, it hurts when the family turns against you, my mom finally came around and we became closer. Be strong!

[@aarontrevino1626]

OMG im on the same Noah boat it suucks!!! i have christlike parents that i love but i have created this wall that i cant open up to them without being mad(its gotten easier). they love me and i know it but they will NEVER except the fact that i like guys... i feel ur pain its hard but im much happier after i told them. we have those dark times but i can always see the light at the end of the tunnel. I still have a personal relationship with jesus its not as stong as I hope it could be but it'll get better. your trully AWESOME im a 22 yr old that lives in texas and i've got mad love for you man. stay BOLD

[@topher2seattle]

It is so amazing to me that this boy's story is not unlike the experience of young boys from the 60's and 70's...I thought we were more advanced than this in this day and age...he may as well have been born in 1950 with the experience he has had.

[@69kai69]

I cannot even imagine how tough it was for you... I'm proud of you and of the fact that you still love your mum, I hope one day she realizes her mistake and what she's been missing out. I hove everything's going well :)

[@4everinamood]

Thank you Calvin for your authenticity in your story. I am 27 and your experience is eerily close to mine and the reason I don't feel comfortable being fully open and honest with my family. I've reconciled my faith and sexuality but my family is very religious and I'm scared of the possible rejection, the shame and guilt they'll force upon me and how different our relationships will be. I see it eat away at me and deteriorate my well-being not feeling like I can be fully open with everyone. Your story however helps me to realize I am not the only one with this experience and helps me to know when I am ready, whatever happens I'm not alone and I'll make it out in one piece no matter how bruised and battered.

[@willemp.m.9131]

Calvin, I saw your video and i want to let you know that i admire your courage and your strength. I was very impressed. Your parents are very religious, but i know that they really love you. They just don't find a way to show because they are imprisoned in the doctrine of their religion and afraid of the reaction of their community. They are probably even unhappier than you are and i also feel sorry for them. I know for sure that God created and loves all people. Hope for you, that one day your parents accept the fact that you're gay and that they will embrace and love you, their own flesh and blood. Try to live you live and enjoy it... good luck

[@crazyforvideosdx]

Wow, this just hit me hard. My family is the same way as yours and that's the reason I haven't come out. It's getting hard though, to feel trapped, to feel lonely. Here I am really late at night just trying to find some understanding so thank you. Your story truly gives me strength. It's so hard to even write this because I don't see an end to my problems but I know that one day I won't be able to hide anymore. I just hope my family is even a little more understanding.

[@beachesboy1994]

After five years from when you posted youyr comment, I really hope things have worked out for you.

[@ventureout001]

Calvin, I'm sorry your having a hard time with your family, I also had a difficult time with my family, it took a long time before my father would even look at me, but in time he and my mother came around they even welcome my boyfriend which almost knocked me over because I was sure they would of said no, later I found out my younger brother asked them to welcome him, so It wasn't as good as I hoped but It was better than nothing. So Calvin don't give up in time it my I hope get better. Love and peace to you.

[@nomotto3260]

Calvin, I was impressed by your story. Just joined you tube, as I want to post my life as a gay man. I experienced the wonderful and the horrors and hoping my story, may help some get through some tough times. Your a beautiful young man and coming from a Evangelical family, it must have been truly horrible, as you mentioned. As you stated you had terrible acne as a younger teen, your skin is flawless now. I hope you believe in monogamy and look forward to spending your life with your true love. My life entailed all and that is why I think it should be told in it's entirety. I wish you well and true happiness. Raymond

[@sidewaysonhighways]

I'm sorry it was hard coming out for you, Calvin. You do have my support. I have been leaning in the gay direction since grade school. I still had a thing for girls, so the process was very gradual. I think that there was something genuine I saw in guys that I didn't see in girls as I got older. I saw guys as more loyal and honest, so I felt more at ease in their company. I think that is how I eventually gravitated to them. I did not feel patronized by them, like I did girls.

[@UNICONMUSIC]

My heart goes out to you, just remember, love and respect is earned, if your family does not accept you, God will,He understands, after all, He Knows about pain and how to really love, I can see the hurt in your eyes, may real love be your victory over your family that obviously only want love in their christian community, and I am sure that there is more bad things around them as the love that lives in your heart.I am 53 years old, and listening to your story was as if I was telling my life's story,I've been through it, you will to.God Bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@destiny199825]

I don't know if you still read comments anymore but you are such a genuinely brave and strong human being, even though you have been threw alot you are still brave enough to tell nearly 100,000 people your story which is honestly amazing. I hope that your family will come around one day and you will be able to have a healthy relationship with them but until then dont sweat it if they won't except it they are missing out in having you in their lives. Stay strong Calvin:)

[@joshuapond6461]

I love that take the time to tell us some of your personal experiences, we all have hard things that we go through. My coming out experience sounds very similar. When I came out, my parents are very religious, so they had a hard long talk to me about it. They wanted me to change who I was and. Your schooling through high school sounds so awful and I'm so sorry for that. I've never had a first boyfriend. And how your best friend first reacted is basically how my whole family is. I have people that call me names at work, but most of them were really accepting. Thank you for sharing your experience! It really helps others come out too.

[@DentalTech1000]

I know that you recorded this a long time ago, but thank you. Thanks for helping others. I hope your life today is going well. Sending a hug your way!

[@flyboy172r]

It's very sad to see that this sort of stuff still happens. Glad you got through it!

[@Anchanthea]

This made me cry, I'm so glad that you've come so far, especially with a family like the one you have. Stay strong Calvin

[@danielculpepper9258]

Well I am an older guy and also straight... but my heart went to my throat listening to your coming out story! It is sad to listen all the things you've went through with your family and friends ...Especially your mom! I am not sure why your video came up in the list of suggestions - perhaps because I've been watching videos about religion but it is really sad that someone who believe in God can actually treat he's child like that. There are many things you've said that I can relate to! Relationships, disappointments,family acceptance, best friends that are just ...different and not quite understanding somehow - we have a lot in common even though you are younger then me. Well, I am sad now that I watched your video...but I hope and I feel that am a bit better person too ...and for that I thank you! Hope you find happiness and that one person in life that can mean everything for you!

[@timbothy25]

I don't know if I could have went through all of the shit that you went through with your family. You have a great amount of strength

[@codycody7541]

You are exactly perfect the way you are. Some people are so set in their beliefs and values that they don't see what's in front of them. You are a caring, kind, modest mam, and your parents should look past your homosexuality and into your eyes, the windows to your soul. My coming out experience was a very safe one. My mother is so loving... Just take those bonds that you have with your friends and hold them near. My friends have gotten me through some rough times. ~

[@pvampire]

I was just watching your video again, it's been a month since I watched it the first time. It's just so heart wrenching to hear your story about how your own family treats you. I don't know why supposed "Christians" are always the most judgemental of everyone. I know Jesus loves you and accepts you as you are and sees you as perfect and complete. That's the nature of God and forgiveness...salvation...ect. Don't ever change one bit. Your awesome and very inspirational to me and others. Your story gives me strength. Love is the key and that's what makes you strong and amazing. Even after being treated like you have been you still love your mom and family and that's just incredible. That's true Christianity and spirituality.!!!

[@canaanhomela7081]

I've got a feeling that's going to happen to me as well when I come out. But at least you have accepting friends❤

[@LincNebr1]

Hi Calvin, Nice job giving your story. I'm sure that it has helped many people and will help more as time goes on. Many people are caught up in situations like you were and feel hopeless. Not only do they not always fully understand why they are gay but then to have judgmental "friends/family" members turn on them is so disheartening. Adding the component of trying to follow the Lord add's to the pressure. Anywho... thank you for working through it, and even being able to understand those that should have shown love to you. That says a lot about your character. You call your video "mopey and blah," I thought it was very heartfelt. "Some" people watching will know firsthand what you went through and will draw strength from it. Thanks.

[@JustinAzzarello]

LOVED this and its very inspirational!! It DOES get better!

[@nickyjames8550]

I just watched you video and it made me cry , im 40 year old and was brough up to belive that being gay was dirty , I even got married and have a nine year old son who I love very much , but deep down inside I always knew I was gay , you dont become gay your born gay and despite everything I have tried to do im still gay , I wanted to thankyou for making this video , you have a great famly with lots of love and support , well done for doing what you believed was the right thing to do , I wish you all the happyness in the world everyone deserves that no matter st8 gay or what ever you are , thi gs have got better in the 10years . We can only hope it gets better . Xx

[@nadhir0369]

my heart goes out to you, i can relate to everything you just said. just be strong and know that even if our parents can't accept us, we can choose to accept them and their limitations.

[@magrudergrinder23]

It took my mom 8 years to fully be okay with my sexuality. She would tell me I was too young to have sex, that I should pray it away, that it was a phase, that I should just get a girlfriend and it'll change me, force me to go to church more, but all it did was make me do was respect her less and less. One day she was saying negative things about my sexuality and I snapped on her. It reached the climax when I came home from a christian convention that she had sent me to. One of the seminars was about homosexuality. The preacher said gays were going to hell and they were worthless. The moment I got home, I told her I didn't believe in god anymore because any deity who tells me my love is an abomination or lesser or perverse or what have you, is not a god I want to follow. She was pissed but a couple months later, she realized I was much happier when she stopped forcing me to go to church, and then gave me my space. Fast forward to the present; we still may not agree on a lot of things, but she's finally okay and accepting. It took a long time, but family can come around. There may be a long bumpy road, but it can get better. Calvin, I really hope your family comes around. Thanks for sharing.

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Many other YT-ers have said that friends and family can take a while - noting that you've probably had a while thinking about it and working it out and deciding when and how and whether to come out; if & when you do, this might be the first they knew of it, and it can take a while for them to process and build into their understanding of you. Doesn't mean it always will fix itself, but its good to give people time to see if they become easier with it if they're not initially embracing of the news (and if they see you be much happier and less stressed now you're out and growing in new ways, that may sway their view too).

[@NonstopDan]

Awww stay strong! You're amazing!

[@intochill]

Hello Calvin, It breaks my heart to hear the pain in your voice talking about this. Our experiences have a lot in common. I think our pain in the end was for a reason. It has made us more loving and caring about others because we know what its like to get trampled by people. You are such a strong and beautiful man. I can only hope that one day I will meet someone with a heart as pure as yours. All the best from Canada. If you ever wanna visit I have a large stylish condo and a guest room whenever you want it. Get out, see the world! xoxoxo

[@juliocandradeja]

I'm scared of coming out because I know that when I do, my parents and most of family will react the same way as yours. I'm sorry for you, but I'm also glad that you're doing good now! And you are actually the first one that I see that doesn't have a good coming out experience, and I thank you for sharing that story.

[@RandallHall314]

Hey Calvin, I am sorry your family treated you poorly. I can semi-relate. I came out a month before you did and like you, my mom treated me kind of poorly. I just admore you being strong and mighty throughout this whole situation. I'm really glad that I came upon this as it has shown me that I am not alone.

[@James-zz8cb]

Thanks for sharing your story. I love your line "throwing bible verses at me left and right" Enjoy the great life that is right for you.

[@LeondreWilsono0o]

This made me realize how lucky I am to have people and family who accept and love me for who I am. I'm sorry what happened to you and I hope and pray that your family may open their eyes and hearts and you may find happiness.

[@Aoina376]

Aww you're a beautiful person. No one deserves that kind of treatment from their family or anyone else. Best of luck for the future.

[@jackdaniels9238]

This is so touching, I'm sorry your coming out wasn't the best. But congrats on having the guts and courage to do it. I am gay also and just came out to one of my best friends who is a girl and I was crying so much because she accepted it right away and said she still loved me for who I am. It wasn't easy but I did it. It was my first time coming out to someone.

[@beachesboy1994]

I really hope things have worked out for you.